Nonviolent Communication With Teenagers (NVC Demo)

[@CupofEmpathy]

What other demo’s would you like to see?

[@DeliciaMoraleda]

How to remain present and interested when children are telling you stories that make no sense! I have two boys are speaking all this new talk (Sigma, skibidy toilet, alpha, gyatt etc) and as a former teacher, I have no time or patience for poor grammar or speech. I find myself tuning out when I really want to be in connection with them but I notice that I want the conversation to be on my terms - so when I'm asking them about their day at school (I've started getting creative and asking for a 30 second reel of their day or the headlines of their day), or how band practice was - they don't respond to that and instead tell me some silly (yes, I know that's a judgement) story about what their friends are saying and I don't understand 90% of the words coming out of their mouths.

[@CupofEmpathy]

@@DeliciaMoraleda If you literally cannot understand what they are saying, I would say making a request around that would be helpful..and maybe before that, to be compassionate with yourself about the judgments of the way they speak, so that those judgments dont shine through when you make the request to your boys. So it really is clear to them that you just want to connect and understand them. they might still use some words that annoy you, and for that you can try to just be present with that feeling (maybe take a deep breath when they use those). Hope that helps a bit!

[@ehrenflynnlcsw]

Connecting with a quiet teen who has withdrawn from the parent and doesn't communicate about what's going on in their life.

[@ehrenflynnlcsw]

Maybe a situation where the parent is feeling a lot of anxiety and anger.

[@anneverhulst315]

I love how the dog is so empathically listening to the teenager in the first part 😂❤

[@CupofEmpathy]

I know right?? and the second part he's relaxed because All Is Well with his owner

[@DeliciaMoraleda]

Love this video and still love the way you teach and demonstrate NVC in both a relatable and practical way. I teach a module on NVC in my parent coaching and i have two children of my own, so your videos are a nice refresher for me professionally and personally. Thank you for putting your work out in a way that truly helps.

[@LanguageofLifeCoaching]

I loved the moment when you said, "let me think about what it is (what's happening) for me." Giving her insight into your thought process and demonstrating self connection in this way was really refreshing to see. It levels the playing field and allows the daughter to join you in the process of exploring feelings and needs and seeing the way you make decisions. I can't wait to try this!

[@CupofEmpathy]

yay! thanks! let me know how it goes!

[@otiliamartins7310]

Very good and sincere. Thank you so much. Would like to get more about teens 🎉

[@caracrisler3011]

Well done - both ways! I can relate to each one. And sometimes it takes us a lot longer to find a way that meets all needs!

[@CupofEmpathy]

yes..this was def for the sake of the video to not make it too long..

[@RóżaMoj]

this is brilliant! demo is much more helpful than a lectue

[@thomas_m3092]

Thank you for this very instructive video. Personally I learn more from such conrete examples than from explanations. Please make more videos like this. Greetings from the UK.

[@CupofEmpathy]

Thanks, will do!

[@rozka4484]

I LOVE IT! My mum was totally like you in version 1!

[@CupofEmpathy]

💔Im sorry..

[@thomas_m3092]

Same with my parents. Some parents want to show just "who is boss"

[@satkinson1989]

I wish my parents had been like the NVC version... Thanks for another lovely video

[@IronX77]

Keep these up, they're great!

[@relationshape9590]

More like this!! Also the dog😍😍😍

[@betterthanblonde8317]

Doggo is really listening! What a sweetie.

[@CupofEmpathy]

I know right!!?

[@sbley]

I wonder how the conversation would have evolved if mom had eventually persisted on the 10pm curfew (because there is no Anna or anything else to fulfil her need for safety).

[@relationshape9590]

Then she would have guided the daughter through her disappointment instead of leaving her alone in her feelings

[@juliasch6267]

​@@relationshape9590 gibt es dazu auch ein Video?

[@CupofEmpathy]

not yet, but ill keep it in mind!

[@thomas_m3092]

There might be other solutions as well: some kids sharing a taxi or parents connect and create some kind of pickup service.

[@RoseMojsiewicz]