Not Losing You: a two minute PSA micro-movie supporting trans youth

[@RobinZK67]

Aw! I was not ready!!!! This is how we don’t lose our people. This is how we grow our community. Humans can be terrible. We don’t have to be monsters.

[@quantumblurrr]

Are we just going to ignore how terrible both actors are lol

[@RobinZK67]

@@quantumblurrr yes. I don’t think they expect to win any Emmys or Oscars for their performance. But it gets the job done.

[@PleaseDontEatAnimals]

Yes, to more kindness and compassion towards others, whether they are of our same gender or not, whether they are of our same race or not, whether they are of our same species or not.

[@bujdosogyula3429]

@@quantumblurrr No they aren't, Holley.

[@PhoenixHinds]

Wow. Way to entirely miss the point. 😂😂😂😂​@@quantumblurrr

[@Celtic_Cheesepuffs]

He doesn't 100% know how things work, but he cares. That's what's important.

[@CassidiVine]

And really, who does? Showing support isn't all about knowing how things work or how to fix them, it's the means that matter and not necessarily the end.

[@caffeinedelusions]

‘How things work’ can be figured out… but only if they have the will to learn, and that doesn’t come without care. Learning how these things work can be part of the journey for anyone that loves someone that transitions, and it means that the transition will change them a little too. It means it’s a shared process, and that’s beautiful.

[@WilcrezTheWanderer]

I really wish more people did. I've seen so many of my friends lose their entire families over this.

[@DarthTofu2]

I love normalizing the uncertainty and the struggle. It’s tough as all get out to be trans, and it needs support! It’s *also* a tough transition for a parent who didn’t realize that this was how their child’s truth worked and is overwhelmed trying to figure out how to do the right thing. Both can be true, and it isn’t useful to try to play “who-has-it-worse-and-whose-feelings-are-somehow-invalid,” despite the latter being far too common in certain circles. People are gonna screw up; they’re human, and they don’t know what they don’t know. Having the grace to accept them for who they are and where they are and to try to help them to grow with you, as you take that journey together is beautiful, and it deserves to be encouraged.

[@eugh64]

That's cute and all, but I think they both belong six feet under. Sorry, not sorry.

[@justaguy.literallyjustaguy]

My grandpa was born in rural Missouri around 1930; he talked country, he acted country, and when I was going through my transition and apologized to him for making things so confusing in regards to my identity, he looked at me with a big smile and without missing a beat, he said "Whoever you wanna be, whatever you wanna be, whoever you wanna love, whatever you wanna love like, you'll always be my grandkid, and I'll always love you no matter what" Everyone needs and DESERVES that kind of support. Parents and folks who say "Well I was raised differently" or "I'm old fashioned" or people who try to excuse family members' bigoted opinions with the same statements, I can speak from personal experience when I say that doesn't mean JACK. It doesn't matter how they were raised, what matters is how they raise and support YOU

[@stickinug]

when people say "it's how I was raised" or "they were born in a different time," I try to remind those people that plenty of other folks their age don't act bigoted, and they were raised in the same exact time period. Sending love to all my trans siblings 💕

[@TheIantoJones]

My Grandma said almost the same thing, verbatim. I wasn’t yet fourteen (CAH). In the EIGHTIES. OP, I can’t thank you enough for this. Every note is pitch-perfect!

[@Echo81Rumple83]

"I was raised differently" and "I'm old fashioned" is codeword for: "I don't want to adapt." Whether it's because they were already struggling early in life and are bitter about it, or they legit don't care, is all I can think of as to why they're being this stubborn to change.

[@kimberlyakin8908]

@@Echo81Rumple83 Yes it is. Because in My time. Women were treated so Bad they Made Joke Movies about it. If my Grandpa said that then My reply is OH when women couldn't vote Own anything and were still getting abused with Next to No Punishment. Hmmm. F off Grandpa

[@animeluchia5405]

… this reminds me of my own story with my trans best friend, and soon to be my “mate of honor” in my wedding (to remove gender entirely, my wedding party are going to be called my “brides mates”) I have known my best friend since I was 18 mo. He had to be a few months younger as his birthday is after mind, but sufficed to say, we were both just around 1 year old when we both met in preschool. And we have remained friends ever since, even when I moved schools due to mental health issues I was dealing with in 4th grade, and when he moved from our home state in 5th grade. We’ve been thick as thieves ever since, and he has been my greatest friend- he was one of few people that remained my friend after my many extreme autistic outbursts in elementary school. I always knew he would be the head of my wedding party, and none of that changed when he came out to me and his family and my family after high school. I just quickly changed the gender of the wedding party, and since I struggle with having female friends anyway, this would give me an excuse to allow guys in my wedding party as well. Anyway, all that aside, it’s safe to say he’s my oldest and dearest friend. And when he came out to me and my family, I immediately went into trans ally mode and began using his proper pronouns (at the time he/him, now he/they). I struggled of course, I’d known him around 20 years by that point as a girl. But he was my friend, and in fact I had been recommended some trans related videos on KZbin around the same time so I was well versed already on the importance of proper pronouns and how essential they are. With that in mind, in my rush to ensure he was gendered right, I ended up just switching everyone’s gender in my head. It wasn’t on purpose, it was just I wasn’t used to using he/him pronouns for him, so I just kind of… ended up using incorrect pronouns for everyone because his pronouns were the opposite of what I had previously used. Eventually this tapered off and I could use he/him without misgendering everyone else mentioned in a sentence. But at the time I had begun ensuring his pronouns were correct when I talked about him, his parents were saying that they were do used to seeing him as a girl, that they’d known him as a girl for so long, that it’d be hard for them to change their ways. This is where my friendship with this person comes into play. Remember, I’ve known him since we were both around a year old, meaning that I had only known him *1 year less* than his parents, and I *still* was properly gendering him. I had done amazingly according to him, and with that in mind, his parents didn’t really have an argument against that. Mind you, I have also known him long before my memories began to properly form, as a girl, so that makes it even harder for me to shift to viewing him as a guy, as it’s so ingrained into how I know him and what I’ve seen him as my whole life, even the life that is lost to time. And even if you take into account his parents knowing his sex before he was born, that’s still something that takes place pretty late into the pregnancy, meaning, at most, they’d known him as a girl maybe a little more than a year more than me, but surely not 2 years. So sufficed to say, we’ve all known him about the same amount of time, and I was still really good about his pronouns. And I think that’s really something I can be proud of. I was better about his pronouns, and quicker on the uptake of shifting them than his parents. He’s my best friend, so to know I was an example against his parents about changing genders when it came to him, really means a lot to me. I love him to the moon and back and look forward to having him in my wedding party early next year.

[@jaggerspinster]

I came out to my mother yesterday. Due to recent developments, I might be an uncle. She was just… relaxed. She told me to find someone clothes I wanted to wear, to try what I want, and let her know if I want to cut my hair. I’m safe. I’m happy. I’m not going anywhere. I love you, Mum.

[@jaggerspinster]

*Might I add I said “oh uncle Eli’s gonna teach the bugger French” instead of “Aunty (first name)”

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

I'm glad to see that there are parents out there who will support their trans kids

[@FedoraDog13]

The way things should be.

[@justine8387]

As a mum, I am so glad. I am so angry at people in my generation who should no better. Love your children, love then for them, not who you imagined then to be when they were born. Just love them.

[@TheeAntiChris]

@@jaggerspinster congratulations on coming out! I’m so glad you have a compassionate mom who loves you unconditionally! Many of my daughter’s friends are trans with conservative parents, and I try to be their surrogate supporter! There’s nothing more important than knowing you’re supported. 🫶🏼🏳️‍⚧️

[@AwfulWeather5684]

The fact that some parents would rather disown their child, than try to understand and love them regardless, is just disgusting..

[@Redfield123]

@@AwfulWeather5684 Sounds completely normal and justified.

[@Lorentz_Driver]

@@Redfield123 Bait used to be believable

[@Redfield123]

@@Lorentz_Driver Isn't bait. I would totally disown my child if they became trans. Or I'd send them to some camp that can unbrainwash them.

[@Redfield123]

@@Lorentz_Driver What bait lol?

[@coffeezombie6813]

@@Redfield123 Well, there's obviously nothing normal or justified about choosing to disown rather than understand and accept your kids, so obviously, to say that there is is nothing more than a troll attempting to get a rise out of someone. Trolls used to put effort into this, they used to be imaginative, creative, and often funny about it. They didn't just blatantly lie and expect people to bite. They used to take pride in their bait. You barely even tried. You really can't blame us for being disappointed, your predecessors gave us some pretty high standards and you failed so miserably to live up to them. Try again after you've had a bit more practice, k?

[@MxTheLight]

I came out as trans to my 92 yr old great grandma. She said "if God said that's who you are, who am I to stop you." I'm glad she's in my corner still

[@DoctorXander]

Based great grandma

[@ainikki7006]

Just like my grandpa (87). A good person is a good person no matter their age.

[@thelordofchaos-2009]

Based on

[@MeesDeppe_Official]

Great to hear your grandma is so supportive. Idk how to phrase this as english isnt my first language but it’s refreshing to see that religious people can fit new views in their religion too! The people who claim gay=sin etc. just use their religion to justify their personal hatred and they’re always the loudest.

[@rochellestarr9538]

So is God and she knew that.

[@aneutralopinion1712]

Lost a kid at my school she was buried under her dead name. She jumped in front of a train. I didn't know her well but it still hurts all us queer kids at school.

[@Pigeon998]

Oof. I'm really sorry to hear that.

[@ohnothepossum]

Oh no, may she rest in peace :/ Maybe somebody could make a plaque with her chosen name on it and attach it over her deadname on her grave

[@1crowwoman]

I wish you wouldn`t call yourself queer. Just leave that out, you`re all kids, the rest doesn't matter ❤

[@Samantha517]

I’m so sorry for your loss 😢

[@Yanqinx]

Families a dick

[@magsisdumb478]

"I don't know the kind of support you need, but let's get some" is such a good sentiment. You don't have to understand right away to support someone

[@bluebellegreen2804]

Exactly. Saying I don't know how to support you let's figure it out is already being supportive.

[@myisolatedtracks]

My son suffered from terrible depression and debilitating migraines from the age of 9. I knew he was keeping in a secret and it was eating him alive. So instead of driving to school one day when he was 16, I sat him down on the couch and told him that we weren't going to school until he told me what was going on. We sat there for two hours. "Dad, come on, let's go" "No." Silence. Starting to speak and then stopping. More silence. And he finally told me. And that is where the pronouns here turn from he to she. I have a trans daughter. That day that she came out to me was one of the happiest of my life. Her migraines are gone. Her depression is mostly gone. I love my new daughter. I love all trans daughters. I paid $3K in attorney's fees for a name and gender change (it's complicated in my state) and it was worth it just to see the smile on her face when she got her new birth certificate in the mail. She is gorgeous and I love her. I long for a day when she is fully accepted in the eyes of the law and in the eyes of society. I hope any legislation passed makes her life easier. But if it goes the other way ... well, anyone who comes after her has to go through me first.

[@StrandedOnDuna]

BASED af

[@aaronjafri9004]

That "Holly" at the end BROKE me. This is so sweet and it was such a nice thing to see today, it's been minutes and I'm still on the verge of tears

[@jdncat]

I know! I know it's a happy story but it broke me too because my Dad never knew that I was trans. I crave so deeply this moment, but I'll never get to have it. So it hits even harder. On top of being unsure if he would of been accepting of me. I hope everyone gets to experience what was in this video. I felt that hug in my soul.

[@EpziWasHere]

Yup yup same, hard same... I'm cryin'

[@zacharynguyen7286]

Hope everyone doing good and staying safe. If you need to talk to someone or need help, there are people who care. Sending support and hearts. ❤️❤️❤️

[@faenene]

Same here :’o

[@cielvt]

I am literally bawling on my way to work.

[@thecam6450]

I am a straight, cisgender, kind of masculine dude and this made me shed a tear. Trans rights are human rights

[@danieltenebrion9413]

I'm a straight cis male too and I'm with you on this. There is nothing wrong with being who you are and expressing who you are unless you are being mean and rude about it. Just simply existing and matching your appearance with your identity is not doing that.

[@Terraria-Addict]

YES, thank you. They need all the love and support they can get.

[@MichaelDeHaven]

Right there with you guys. Except it wasn't just *a* tear. My father and I ended up distant for too long. Fortunately that was fixed before he passed. We should value, support, and love our children. Family should be a safe harbor in this tough world.

[@WaterBottle-2309]

I love you

[@zacharynguyen7286]

Hope everyone doing good and staying safe. If you need to talk to someone or need help, there are people who care. Sending support and hearts. ❤️❤️❤️

[@lllm299news]

That dad is the real Alpha. Ruled by his own heart and not the expectations of other men.

[@bearflipstable8365]

Absolutely. Self proclaimed “alphas” that talk about being number 1 and being the best and shit like that have no idea. No clue on what a real alpha is. A real alpha protects and cares about others and accepts people for who they are. They’re adaptable and can change when they need to so they can help others. They put others first. Real alphas are secure with themselves and don’t need others to tell them they’re less of a man because of this or that. They can indulge things that are considered feminine without worrying about it affecting their sexuality or gender. And they don’t care if another individual has a different sexuality to them or doesn’t identify with their birth sex. Insecure cowards need to constantly tell other people how much of a man they are and they do that by bringing others down and trying to force their own opinions on the rest of us and demand we all live like them.

[@SilkieSqueaks]

The manliest thing you can do as a father is protect and support your kids.

[@jaynederp5236]

@@SilkieSqueaks Exactly! This needs to be said far more than it is!

[@MilkshakeGuruTTV]

@@SilkieSqueaks Fellas is it woke to be a good father?

[@MarleyGompel]

@@MilkshakeGuruTTVSad thing is, a lot of people will still say you can't be a good father if you make sure your child is happy

[@NjHourquebie]

I took in a kid who grew up in an abusive home. This kid started calling me Dad. Then this kid came to me and said, "My pronouns are she/her," and I just hugged her. I am the proud dad of a trans daughter. This video had me in tears because I know my daughter would never have gotten this kind of acceptance from her biological father, and I don't know why. It isn't hard to say, "You be the you that you were meant to be, and I love you just the same."

[@monicadaniels784]

Awe, just wonderful, Dad!

[@livliveart]

🥺😭❤❤❤❤❤

[@Cha4k]

You're right, It isnt hard. Its much harder to speak the truth.

[@stickinug]

I can understand what parents mean when they say their kid transitioning feels like they lost their kid, but that feeling is nothing compared to the feeling of actually losing your kid. The kid that got 1st place with Dad is still there, she's just growing into her own.

[@YoYoBobbyJoe]

This is a wonderful comment.

[@reallylittlewhy]

My fear, too, was loosing that baby, toddler, sassy kid that I loved and had watched grow up. But when I really thought hard about it, I realised that the only thing that was changing from my perspective was the labels. And it wasn't the labels that I loved and cared for, it was the person behind those labels. And now that person is more comfortable in themselves, and that is really what I wanted for them anyways.

[@henkkahenrik4183]

Yeah. Its like when a caterpillar morphs into a butterfly, it doesn't mean that the caterpillar dies or disappears. It just means they grew up.

[@E3AloeLi]

I’m trans male and my adopted dad is amazing to me. I’m scared that if I come out he’ll abandoned me. I have issues over that due to being adopted. He’s joked before about “replacing”. Me and I’m so scared it won’t be a joke anymore, he’s getting old and stuck in his ways and I’m scared one day it will be too late and he can no longer love me.

[@WillKemp]

@@E3AloeLi 💚💚💚

[@HanaDacat-j4e]

As a trans girl who has felt like nobody cares about me I feel like more people need to see this

[@skullotonin]

i care!! i dont even know you personally, but i do know that you are deserving of love and care and you MATTER. please stay with us, you have so much time left to truly grow into who you are. we will all make it out of this mess eventually, we love you!!

[@aceofspades8474]

I’m wishing you the best. Know that there are people who do love you for who you are. If there really aren’t people around you who cherish you, then you just haven’t met them yet, but they are out there and will be overjoyed when they finally get to meet you. You have a community that has your back, people fighting to give you a better future. I know it’s rough right now, and in all honesty it’ll probably be a while before it feels much better, but there’s a bright future ahead, just hold onto hope and you’ll make it there. I’m rooting for you.

[@-herobrinesdaughter1.1]

I do, you are loved and worth it. You can do it, and you are strong and willed enough to face whatever challenge is bothering you and coming out even stronger than before❤

[@gnocchidokey]

I care =)

[@Not31337]

We are out here, and we are standing up for you. You are not alone!

[@Thund3r.syst3m]

In the past, my paents were very transphobic. They wouldn't hear me whenever I said about liking 'girly' stuff. And so I stopped trying to tell them about this. I'm a teenager now, and after a long process of coming out, having tough conversations, family therapy, arguments, they support me. They let me wear the clothes I feel comfortable in. They call me their daughter now, they call me by my preferred name. I am so privileged to have parents who turned around and changed, and my heart goes out to all that don't have the same privilege I do. If they won't accept you, just know that at least I will :) You're valid and loved 🏳️‍⚧️🤍

[@princessthyemis]

I'm so glad they came around!!!!

[@BriannaHuffman-hf1kl]

This has been my experience as well. My parents (especially my dad who is very Conservative) were very Transphobic and were awful when I was first coming out (at 22 and again at 29) Now after some very rocky years I can confidently say at 34 that my parents support me and love me as their daughter which is crucial as I begin taking the more serious and concrete steps towards my transition. To all Trans people: You are loved and it DOES eventually get better. Please hold on. Your life matters. Trans Lives Matter. Trans Joy Matters. Keep living and keep shining.

[@zacharynguyen7286]

Hope everyone doing good and staying safe. If you need to talk to someone or need help, there are people who care. Sending support and hearts. ❤️❤️❤️

[@spacenoodle8207]

How big is the probability of things working out this way? I'm kind of in a similar situation right now: I showed my mom a non-binary person and said "I want to be like them", but she got upset and was sad and worried for me. So I just never brought it up again. She is the most important person for me, I don't want her to be sad, but if I tell her, she'll think something's wrong with me. She thinks this is an illness, either of mind or of body, but still this means something is wrong with me. And no one but me can try to convince her otherwise, because we live in a country where being trans is illegal, and basically no one knows what non-binary people even are. I can live like this. I can keep it a secret, and use my chosen name and they/them pronouns only on the internet. It is a bit tiring, getting deadnamed every day, but I'll be fine. I won't be fine if my existence makes her sad tho. So I want to ask, do you think it's worth it to try to explain things to her?

[@Mitch-nx2ic]

Pull Ur head in Ur a bloke. take off the damn female clothes, put away the Instagram, and get a job. U whiMpy pr1k.

[@jackred2362]

Parents fear how the world will treat their children if they are different. But the problem isn't your child, the problem is the world.

[@flamingscar5263]

More people need to hear this When I came out to my grandma, she didn't blame me, but still feared my safety and started going down the list of who in the family would be most and least supportive, who I was safe ro be me around At least on my dad's side (divorced parents) I feel loved and safe, not so much on my moms side, once I start my transition (which something keeps me from doing so, idk what mental block is in my brain, probably ADHD/Autism/depression) I fully expect to cut contact with that side of my family, it hurts, but being in the wrong body hurts more

[@golgiroth]

@@AlaskanHuzky making bigotry illegal would not work. You can't just control hate. You have to learn to live with it while fighting against it. Hate will never go away, but we can always push it back and make being hateful harder, we need people to just be more empathetic and understanding. We need to have discussions, not silence people.

[@golgiroth]

@@AlaskanHuzky being a bigot who is most likely just an uneducated person who needs the proper information to make better judgments, and being a murderer, are 2 completely different things that come with there own separate reasons for happening. You're delusional if you think they're remotely similar, I'm saying that, and I fully support the LGBTQ+ community. It's just facts, man. People understand murder is bad if you aren't actually insane or don't care about the consequences. People who are bigoted towards trans people often see no issues with their way of perceiving the trans community and their ideals. That's why we need to have a discussion instead of silencing others. If we can understand why they think that way, we can more easily find a way to convince them they're wrong. We do NOT need to just throw more people in jail. That's enough of a problem as is.

[@wolf2966]

@@AlaskanHuzky but people still murder i agree their shouldn't be bigotry but if you start limiting speech there the that leaves a gap to more speech being banned and that could lead to lgbt speech being banned i hate to say it but this would back fire in the end the best thing we can realistically do is just grow tougher skin and brush off the hate the best we can

[@mayonnaise9993]

@@AlaskanHuzkyYou cant equate being a bigot to murder lol, what? Being a bigot by itself does not hurt anyone, murder by definition does. We can outlaw the hurtful actions those bigots take, like hate speech or discrimination, but outlawing bigotry itself? What are you, 5 years old?

[@rikk319]

As a proud straight cis dad of an awesome adult trans and gay son, let me say to other parents: Just love your kids, dammit, without reservation. You mean so much to them, so return the favor.

[@johnsampson2544]

That is me. When my kid was in HS, they were going through so much mental trauma. First it was a pronoun thing, but going away to college and meeting others they realized they weren't a woman. He is now transitioned and is so much happier and grounded. He knows and is who he is supposed to be. If he'd wanted to be green with a tail I'd be good with that, too, because he is happy and for me that is all that matters.

[@juuuulie7544]

This comment brought me to tears I wish both of you an amazing da​@@johnsampson2544

[@rochellestarr9538]

I fought with every fiber of my being to save my 6 year old.I lost him to something I could not fight against.I cant imagine losing a child over something you can.

[@Redfield123]

@@rikk319 Nah.

[@AnastasiaBeaverhousn]

Damn your sperm is TRASH!!!

[@Cherno35]

I had a trans friend with an unsupportive father. When her father found out she disappeared off of discord and I haven’t heard from her in months. I hope she is okay, but I know she was already struggling with mental health. If anyone out there is struggling with mental health, please get help.

[@Xnoob545]

Years ago by now, around 2018/2019 to 2022 or so, I knew this person on discord. At first as male, then she transitioned to female/came out as trans. Which was fine Then we noticed her acting strangely, talking about weird concepts such as attempting to ascend and weird spiritual stuff. It turns out that her parents were not supportive and that caused a severe decline in her mental health. And at some point, she disappeared. For two years I thought she committed and was dead But finally we saw her this year in a server, for like 2 messages Turns out she was homeless That's an extremely tough situation to be in I hope her life turns around at some point

[@theojf1985]

Depending on details, if anyone finds themselves in a situation where you are worried about someone, please look into whether it is possible to arrange a "wellness check" for the person. I only learned about wellness checks very recently, when someone I care about was having mental health problems. During a wellness check, a trained social worker finds and checks on the person who might be in distress. To figure out whether and how to arrange a wellness check, one possibility is to talk to your doctor (if you trust your doctor, and if you are in the same town as the other person), because they should know what the options are and whether it will likely be helpful or not.

[@Cherno35]

@@Xnoob545 this is what transphobia does. it ruins lives and families. you either accept your child for who they are or you lose them forever.

[@Void.Critt3r]

@@theojf1985 Wellness checks often lead to us being gunned down as they bring police. Even if they call a crisis line often they send police. Please don't send police, they love to murder us. My trans friends and I consider wellness checks swatting lite and many of my friends have been swatted before by KF ( a hate group). We really take this seriously. I am FTM.

[@Pigeon998]

@@Cherno35 That is the most REAL thing I've ever heard in my entire life.

[@theuntamedleo]

This is beautiful. I may not be a teen anymore, but I am a 32-year-old trans man whose 80-year-old retired pastor father is learning to come to terms with and be accepting of my identity. This is the kind of support so many young trans kids need, and presented in such an honest way. Lovely.

[@Countryboi12]

so what you are telling me is, you and a woman with a mans part, and your dad isnt a real man of God. A wolf in Sheeps clothing.

[@nufailanoon]

I just wanted to say that Im pro transition and Im from somalia and I grew up in the middle east. Never think that acceptance and open-mindedness wont reach anywhere. It is slowly spreading! ❤ despite my culture, my background, my childhood and my old religion, I would still support the trans community and if I ever had a trans child. It is not a big deal, we make it a big dela

[@IMJwhoRU]

Thank you for sharing! It’s encouraging to know that the love is spreading! ❤

[@ohnothepossum]

[@bujdosogyula3429]

Thanks for the support, I am also from an anti-LGBT country and I sincerely think that the bigots are losing ground. This banning spree and aggressive campaign is only a panic reaction from them as they are scared.

[@TheCloudhopper]

We can change the world and make it a better place. One heart, one mind at a time. Thank youf for being part of this better world.

[@IllumInator-sv3tl]

@@bujdosogyula3429that’s what I think too! It’s their last ditch efforts that they are putting their all into because they realized the younger generations don’t buy into their bigotry and excuses anymore. They are realizing we are waiting for them to loose power to make a positive change and are panicking

[@daemon9737]

Ouch, this one hit home. As a 55 year old grandpa and recovering mormon republican, I absolutely treasure the fact that a personal relationship with someone I did not want lose, changed my mind and helped me think clearly for the first time. It's about the people and the love, that rules everything!!

[@relaunchinglife]

Wow- that's a lot of big changes to go through over 50! Plz be so proud of yourself, many people would never even consider changing because of how uncomfortable it is. They would rather be sad, angry & alone than have uncomfortable conversations that can open hearts & unite Love.

[@pelican7235]

I’m an overwhelmed transgender teenager; thank you for this.

[@CrankyPantss]

❤️❤️

[@CalmingWinds]

Life gets better, try not to take anything too serious and find the joy in life. Nobody else's opinion matters, live your life.

[@EmTeeFinley]

I’m also a trans teen, just recently out to my parents. I wish you the best, be yourself regardless.

[@MayMochi345]

As a trans teen (I turned 18 in June so I don't know if I count anymore), you all got this and we as a community will always support the REAL you, not some dumb legal bs.

[@syndillucian]

❤❤❤❤❤🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@giggles7179]

I've been a drag artist and trans activist for the last 30 years, working specifically with LGBTQ teens and have seen the suicide rate skyrocket. I live in Wisconsin, which can feel desolate. Growing up in a tiny town, I felt there was nobody like me within a thousand miles. Years later after having established myself as a drag queen, I realized I could use my penchant for drawing people's attention as a way for other kids in the area to know they're not alone. I've also been very fortunate to have the respect of people working in the media and have appeared on television several times to speak about the issues I'm passionate about. Wisconsin can also be surprisingly progressive, making us a battleground state. It's a bit of a tug-of-war between the conservative that occupy our vast farmland and the liberal-minded that populate our cities. There has not been a commercial break neither on TV nor KZbin the last two months when the first ad isn't anti-trans. This enrages me. I've also watched Donald Trump descend in his gaudy plane to mock transfolk at his rallies and get enormous ovations for it. Never before have I seen a presidential campaign that so blatantly puts so many American minorities at great risk and I can't even imagine how difficult it is for those struggling with self-acceptance when hate and ignorance are coming at them from every direction. I can only hope there's a light at the end of this tunnel, because I dread the consequences if there's not. Please, if you're still undecided, allow your empathy to guide your vote this year. 💙💙

[@CricketsBay]

I cannot express how disgusting I find Trump, JD Vance, and MAGA. Their words and behavior should disgust everyone. This is America in 2024, but it feels like Germany in 1938. We all have to stand up to the GOP dirtbags. Together, we can make the future better. Also, thank you for your work on behalf of transgender youth. 🖤🩷🤍🩶🤎💜💙🩵💚💛🧡❤️🖤🩷🤍🩶🤎💜💙🩵💚💛🧡❤️🖤🩷🤍🩶🤎💜💙🩵💚💛🧡❤️

[@hokorikera]

As a trans woman living in Wisconsin, thanks, I just wish things weren't so grim and I wish people would stop hating us for just wanting to live our lives.

[@kendrazga4128]

❤.. after 5 long years of no contact with my parents due to their inability to accept my transition, last Christmas (2023) my mother invited me for a chat. We sat down and had this exact conversation. 🥹🥹🥹 Thank you for sharing this. 🙏 At the end , our memories will be more valuable than the neighbors opinion. 💕

[@AngryGayGrandpa]

Wow. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Much love!! AGG

[@kendrazga4128]

@@AngryGayGrandpa ❤️

[@emilytrott]

That is a wonderful story and I'm so happy for you. ❤

[@omnombrains]

I haven't talked to my parents in nearly 2 years because, among other reasons, they're anti-trans and spew tons of hateful rhetoric. My dad still texts me every so often, but I've never replied. My mom has never reached out. I don't know what to do.

[@nufailanoon]

@@omnombrains what about teaching them about empathy?? Tell them about how you feel, firstly. Then provide them with scientific evidences that support transition. Inform them about the effects of gender dysphoria, and "just" ignoring it doesn't solve it. "just" accepting your biological sex and living in accordance to that just adds more coal to fire. If they are super religious and trust their god no matter what, this won't work. But if they arent, you can reach their heart and make them feel your suffering. At the end, ensure them that their "reputation" will still be clean. They can accept you without publicly announcing that and telling people they're are pro trans.

[@violetjensen3783]

my friend took her life after her parents failed to support her. her name was Gwendolyn and she’s buried under the wrong name. i miss her and i loved her so much EDIT: holy crap, that's so many replies. Everyone is being so kind in the comments. Unfortunately her grave is very very far away from me now so I cannot do much. my girlfriend is trans and i'm doing everything in my power to keep her safe now. i know they're in danger.

[@starspangledkiwi7224]

Oh hun...I'm so sorry...

[@Kathyoftheglade]

oh no. im so sorry it came to that.

[@firetube8288]

SPRAY PAINT THE PROPER NAME ON THE GRAVESTONE (maybe dont, that is illegal, would be metal as fuck though)

[@MilkshakeGuruTTV]

@@firetube8288 Some laws are meant to be broken.

[@ME-kd1ko]

Whoever he is, he's buried under the name his parents gave him, which is by definition the right name.

[@MephitisUK]

As the father of a transmale, I don't understand it all but my love for them supercedes anything.

[@alliekingsley7919]

If you want to try to understand it better, don't think 'what would it be like if I wanted to be a girl'. Think about how it'd feel if you saw yourself exactly as you are now, a man, a father, a son, maybe a brother and uncle. Now imagine that *everyone* else treated you like a woman. That you had to wear dresses and make up or society treated you like something was wrong with you. And there was a treatment that could help, but bigots want to make it illegal. I'm a trans woman. My gender identity has always been female. My teens were terrifying. I was forced to change in the boy's locker room, heard the way boys and men talked about the girls and women in their lives, and dealt with queerphobia growing up because I was so very feminine. Nobody understood. Even though I *KNEW* I was a girl, and had to constantly be reminded that I was "really a boy" it never stuck... I just stopped bothering with insisting because nobody LISTENED, or worse, they DID listen and they abused me for it. Thank you for loving your kid. It should be the minimum, but with the society we're in...

[@luciencreates3289]

I wish my father was more like you. Thank you for accepting your child. It means more than you can ever know

[@alliekingsley7919]

@@luciencreates3289 I'm sorry your father isn't as accepting as he should be. You deserve to be seen and loved for who you are, not what society insisted you were.

[@eli3568]

Your love is the first and most important step.

[@hai-xxx]

We need more fathers like you in the world. You don't need to understand completely to love your child for the way they are.

[@springtronic.]

this, THIS here is why i’ve kept going. knowing there’s people who are willing to listen when we call out for help is the reason im still here. so I can listen too. thank you for this. -garrett

[@amberweik5384]

So many of us are her if you need support! Send a friend request even.

[@charlesterry2480]

@@springtronic. I don’t get it.

[@tacobell2009]

​@@charlesterry2480 who cares? Go touch grass.

[@fereian]

@@charlesterry2480 What don't you get?

[@charlesterry2480]

@@fereian the reason why this is the reason why… he keeps going?

[@CryptocurrencyInsider]

MAGA cultists need to understand that no one is forcing your girl to become a boy. This is about letting people express themselves. It’s freedom of speech. ❤

[@RevShifty]

It's freedom of existence. No one owes any damned body an explanation for their existence, full stop.

[@standard6502]

Democrat cultists need to understand disagreeing isn't hate, but then the Hollywood kicks in 😂

[@Lia-Katt]

Their against youth medical transitions. You have freedom to do whatever you want, which is the awesome part about living here. But it's perfectly reasonable to not want children to get permeant changes to their body they may regret later on. Gender and body dysmorphia is completely normal in teens, and more often than not passes over time.

[@DerekSansone]

I ask w/sincerity & hope you're big enough to answer a question w/o attacking (cuz I don't respond well to that). Is it Freedom of Speech or just how some people are born? What I mean is, my understanding is nobody choses to be Gay (at least according to Pete Buttigieg). It's how they are / how they're born. How is Trans different? Why wld a male (who knows he is & is secure w/it) decide to not be? The person in the video seems to hv some real "issues." Doesn't seem to be doing "this" just to piss people off or get attention. If there's an honest lack of understanding (& someone asking questions trying to understand) discussion shld be encouraged. I'm Not a MAGA cultist.

[@reality1701]

⁠@@DerekSansone being Gay or Lesbian means you love someone who is the same gender as you. Being Transgender/Trans/Queer/Nonbinary/etc means that you have the brain of one gender, but your external body and internal reproductive organs don’t match. It’s extremely stressful and you need to change your body to match your brain in order to live. Children who are toddlers and have never been exposed to any information about the LGBTQ+ community know that they’re Trans. I certainly knew that I definitely wasn’t a girl, but I wasn’t really a boy either when I was like THREE. I had no idea why, nor did I even have words to describe it. I didn’t know what Nonbinary was the word for how I feel until I was in my mid twenties. Given the amount of hurdles that medical treatment takes and the amount of violence and discrimination that Trans people face, why would anyone want to be Trans? That in and of itself should be the answer for whether it’s a choice. It’s definitely something that a person is born with.

[@HezrouDhiaga]

I'm a trans man and we need more parents like this. It's genuinely hard to go through a world that's intentionally hurting people like us for no reason other than to promote violence and hate only to go home (or have no home to go to) because your parents feel the same as those abusers. I don't understand the hatred and lies being spread in politics about me and our people...but it is wrong. It confuses me that nobody is asking us how things work or what we do, but believe a crusty old cheeto who has no idea any of it.

[@thea_therian]

I used to wonder about this so so much, and I feel like I finally reached an answer at some point (don’t remember exactly when) unlike being gay or lesbian, they actually have to make changes in their life by using preferred names and pronouns, because of dysphoria trans folk experience a very real pain when being misgendered whereas if I walked around with a girlfriend, no matter how much they hate it and what slurs they call me, it wouldn’t really have any effect on me, people who are LGBT don’t necessarily need to come out to avoid dysphoria, in summary it’s a power move- people don’t like being told what to do and when we actually ask them to go out of their way to use their pronouns and preferred names (the horror, I know) they put their foot down like petulant little children and make it out like being trans is especially heinous, even worse than being gay or any other sexuality when the reality is they never liked any of us from the very beginning ….I may not know you but if we ever met on the street I would use whatever pronouns you asked me to and whatever name you wanted me to call you, I hope you feel handsome when you look in the mirror and that the image in the mirror reflects the vision you have of yourself in your mind, we all deserve to feel beautiful

[@thea_therian]

sorry for the absolute book of a comment I just wrote, just something that’s been on my mind for awhile and I took the chance to dump it on some unsuspecting guy 😅

[@Frommerman]

It's pretty simple. They have a narrow, rigid understanding of the way the world works, and we falsify that understanding just by existing. So they want to pretend we don't exist, and do everything in their unfortunately considerable power to enforce that. But unlike with older types of segregation, this one is doomed at the ground level. Because no amount of shutting us out will prevent queer kids from being born to conservative parents. No matter how high they build their walls, no matter how harshly they punish our words or how promptly they banish our thoughts, we will always be in their communities. And so, some of them will always be forced to reckon with their hate. They can't win. It's just a question of how many of us are lost before they lose.

[@ChaseTroy]

I absolutely agree with you. I'm a young person, as my grandpa would say. I'm trans male and have dealt with the dysphoria of that since I walked into Target for the first time. Go to the girls section "hey this skirt looks pretty! Oh this dress is on sale isn't it nice." And I didn't know what it was when I looked in that fitting room mirror and felt...off. As I matured and grew older, I realized that that "off" feeling was more of a "wrong" feeling. I didn't know what the word "transgender" meant. I just knew that the boy (now girl I'm just using that in a "younger me" sense) in my 1st grade class who wore dresses was super cool. I later knew her as the girl who wore dresses but would have an old name called whenever there was a substitute teacher in our class. And we would talk and she would say, "I'm just being me. I don't feel right in my body so I'm doing what I can to feel right" and I resonated with that so much. I knew exactly how she felt. I'll be in high school soon, and the school I plan on applying to is very LGBTQIA+ friendly. I got my name changed within the school district, so any medical or legal documents have my birth name on them, doctors offices have my name down as my legal name. But th3yve put in their system 'hey, this person is chase, not blah blah blah legal name' And I've been doing what I can to help others like me. Kentucky passed their anti-trans bill in March 2023, took effect that June (so damn ironic that it took effect the first day of pride month. I still plan on burning down our capital building 😊). So when T.R.A.S.H. people (transphobic, racist, ableist, sexist, homophobic) make decisions like that to 'protect the children', when they remove the library books about organizations like The Trevor Project or other LGBT help lines and hot lines to 'protect the kids' well congrats, Mr senator, you've just driven up your state's suicide rate 25% aren't you proud??!! I don't understand why old white cis straight men get to make these decisions, ones that have piles of evidence upon evidence that doing this is harmful to trans kids and trying to get rid of a group of people isn't going to shelter your precious little angel from reality. Your kids shouldn't benefit from other kids KILLING THEMSELVES. Sorry for writing so much but I am just quite passionate about this considering I've been in and out of mental hospitals and psych wards for suicidality. So I 100% agree with you when you say that crusty old cheetos shouldn't have any say in who we get to be.

[@flamingscar5263]

They believe him because he pretends to be like them, despite him being a self centered rich asshole But that last word, asshole, they relate to greatly

[@Your_L0cal-Editor]

As a trans masc teenager you have me absolutely sobbing sir😭 Thank you so much for making this

[@therian_cat_named_fin]

Fr bro ❤ (from a fellow transmasc teen)

[@ConfusedPengu1n]

fr, I truly hope i get this kind of support if i come out (from an enby transmasc teen) keep fighting

[@sunshinem.7741]

Men cry too! Barely 30 sec in and it already got me

[@lanskandal1181]

My ex fled her abusive home at 15, spent years struggling, and is now buried under the wrong name. I'm not even in the US. Things have to change.

[@tylociraptor8131]

This is all we need as trans people. We just want our families to love us. You don't need to understand every single bit, just... love us.

[@IMJwhoRU]

Yes, your families should love you unconditionally. However, don’t forget that you also get to build your own family-of-choice; perhaps not related by blood but joined together by love.

[@Redfield123]

@@tylociraptor8131 No lol.

[@ivorythecalico]

From a 15 year old trans girl scared out of her mind with all that's going on right now, thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart. Things like this are what give me a ray of hope in everything and keep me able to stay alive for another day. Please never stop fighting for our rights!! /lh

[@turtlesarefantastic9620]

Im wishing you well, sister. I've been there before.

[@MusicWisp]

I wish you all the love and support in the world sister. Love your appalchian non-binary sibling Willow

[@jazihughey8161]

Always every day find one thing no matter how small to keep you fighting to stay alive! Even if it’s just promising yourself a slice of cake the following day! Because even in the dark of night a light can spark and brighten the world!

[@normanicole4714]

40 year old transwoman here. It is scary times but we will persevere. Keep heart.

[@radaro.9682]

You are loved. ✊

[@maxq96]

Trans and queer people have a right to exist. We make the world a better place by being in it. I know that I'm not alone. I'm happy that I'm here.

[@beckystreet9576]

I'm happy that you're here, too ❤

[@mycommentmyopinion]

Not a LGBTQ person myself, but I agree. Diversity is always something that societies need 👍

[@Shrooblord]

+

[@treetopjones737]

@@mycommentmyopinion Diversity is a fact of human beings existence.

[@jvandekamp6986]

My kid came out as trans at the end of high school. I had kept every artwork, funny writing, bad schoolwork since kindergarten. I made a book of it all to gift at graduation. But after coming out, it all had her dead name on it, so I asked her if she wanted to burn it instead. Very cathartic for her, and I’m eternally grateful to still have her in my life. ❤ you, Violet, forever.

[@VerySourTaste]

My parents were immediately supportive of me being a trans guy despite not knowing much about gender dysphoria and transitioning at first. I’m so so grateful and lucky to have understanding parents My parents are Christian, and one day in the car, my dad said “you know, if you were born a boy, I don’t think we would have had [name of my little brother]” (context; I’m the middle child. Siblings from oldest to youngest are: brother, sister, me, sister, brother). He explained that the reason they had my little brother was because they wanted to try to get another boy, and that if I was born a boy, they probably wouldn’t have had him. I’m not religious, but I genuinely wanted to cry (in a good way) when he found a way to relate his religion to my circumstance. “Maybe that’s why god sent you here as a girl at first instead of your actual gender” (something like that)

[@thelostremainunfound]

That is actually very heart warming. You had to come the way you were so that your other two siblings were born in the end. I think being able to contextualize trans people within people's already held views can make things a lot easier on people and I am glad he was able to make that connection.

[@usernameisusernam]

⁠@@thelostremainunfound I lowkey love it when people make us fit with their views and dont just pretend that we don’t exist if their views don’t mention us. I remember this woman who believed that trans people lived as the opposite sex in their past life, and that their gender transferred over to their current one, even if their sex didn’t.

[@AJst6tz]

I like how humble this is, how it says so much in just 2 minutes. It doesn't have to make a big song and dance to be heard. Its a simple interaction between father and child. Whether your child is trans or cis, straight or gay, or somewhere in between that spectrum, it doesnt matter. They are your child, your family, the same as they were before they discovered themselves and grew up. Losing a son for a daughter does not mean you've lost a child. Not accepting your daughter for who they are, does. "Your children are not your children They are the sons and daughter's of lifes longing for itself They come through you but not from you And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you You may give them your love but not your thoughts For they have their own thoughts You may house their bodies but not their souls For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday You are the bows from which your children are sent forth The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite And He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far Let your bending in the archers hand be for gladness For even as he loves the arrow that flies So he loves also the bow that is stable." That poem was written in 1923, and it still applies today.

[@strangejune]

this is a very nice poem, thank you for sharing ❤️

[@AJst6tz]

@@strangejune My pleasure ❤️ I hope you had a pleasant day

[@Pigeon998]

What's the poems name?

[@AJst6tz]

@@Pigeon998 On Children by Kahlil Gibran

[@DexiMexii]

I wish more parents thought like this. Losing the support from your family hurts in more ways than one. Thank you for taking the time to produce this. ❤

[@mermershangout4808]

I COMPLETELY agree with this. Parents should SUPPORT their children NO MATTER WHAT, as long as they're not endangering themselves or others. I am sending so much SUPPORT to transgender people.

[@aatnevergettingout]

For real.

[@madpoetsociety2917]

@@mermershangout4808 I agree wholeheartdly. The only trouble lies with the second half of your statement. Unfortunately, there are too many parents that think they are allowing a kid to endanger themselves simply by letting them be who they are. They'll say it's because they don't want their kid to go to hell; they'll say it's because it's "God"'s plan for their kid to suffer, they'll say it's because thier kid is secretly being manipulated by some "secret, liberal, woke agenda being projected into their brains using Jewish space lasers controlled by Hillary or illegal immigrants or the reptilian, godless, Marxist elites" Whatever dogma they choose to call it, adults will always claim that what's best for the "health" and "safety" of their kid is to project their own bigoted neuroses or abusive tendencies onto the kid by trying to control their child's thoughts and feelings. It's a whole other level of fucked up but you would be surprised at how many "parents" try to gaslight their own children this way; by telling them that the truth inside them is not the "real" truth and that they are not what they know they are. Sadly, until it becomes easier to take kids out of homes like that, all we have is the support of people like yourself.... so Thank you. I mean that.

[@AnthonyELombardi]

​@mermershangout4808 Nope, if your child comes out as trans you failed as a parent

[@zacharynguyen7286]

Hope everyone doing good and staying safe. If you need to talk to someone or need help, there are people who care. Sending support and hearts. ❤️❤️❤️

[@spaceboy3966]

I’m hoping some day this will happen for me. I’d forgive the four years of intolerance in a heartbeat just to hear my parents say “I love you, Mason.”

[@AngryGayGrandpa]

My hope is the same for you. Much love! AGG

[@spaceboy3966]

@@AngryGayGrandpa thank you so much 🥹

[@operasinger8507]

I hope it happens, Mason. But no matter what, you are living your truth, and I hope your days are brighter.

[@beazlebean]

I promise this will happen for you, even if it's not your bio-parents who say it. The thing is, gender's not the only thing our society gets wrong when it insists that people are and always will be a certain way, just because of how they were born. The same goes for family. Trust the same part of you that found your truest self to find your truest family. There are so many of us out here just waiting to love you with our whole hearts--so many people who can see what a gift it would be to be loved by you.

[@MrUsbarryl]

I'm not your dad, but I love you, Mason

[@lisarenee3505]

This video shattered me. I cried for a good 10 minutes. I didn't come out as a teen but when I did at 29, my conservative evangelical father called me "filth" and "abomination", said I had allowed a demon/Satan to possess me, and told me that he wanted nothing to do with me. 10 years of silence between my parents & I. Even when I sustained a disabling spinal cord injury 2 years after transitioning I didn't feel safe reaching out to them, had to get through it practically alone. So I cried in lament because I wished that had been my experience, and I cried in joy because I know that more and more trans people, both kids and adults, _are_ having this experience when coming out to parents 🥰

[@LoganFiksman-uw9vz]

You are unbelievably strong Lisa. Even if your father rejects you, we accept you.

[@Ceibhfhionn]

I am so so sorry.

[@woegarden]

you have a place in this community, in this world, lisa. family is who you love, not who made you. may your mind be at ease and your pain be quelled to silence.

[@gracemacpherson8607]

We love you. I know that doesn’t mean as much coming from a stranger, but you have every right to exist as who you are and you’re beautiful 🥺♥️

[@OneCatShortOfCrazy]

Aaaah relligion... why do people always use it as an excuse to be really shitty? I'm sorry you had to go trough all of that!

[@01vatke]

My mother rejected my 25 years old trans daughter and lost the rest of us in the process. I will not abandon my own child. Never. The sad part is my mother doesn't even acknowledge that she is the one to initiate the estrangement even after multiple letter explaining it to her. My heart goes out to anyone who is has been abandoned. You deserve better. You can achieve better. There are people who will love you, and you can learn to love your family of choice in ways you never were.

[@beckystreet9576]

One of the things that I learned after my child came out to me as trans a few years ago (following 2 suicide attempts) is that they don't need you to understand them. They just need you to respect that they identify the way that they do. It doesn't matter if their gender identity makes sense to you. Just love your child and use the right pronouns & name

[@GaryVR]

3 times the charm

[@roughtradez6584]

@@GaryVR Your a disgusting POS, Human is too nice a word for something like you. What did this person or their child do to you in order to deserve such disgusting words. You are a low life wishing the death of ANY child or Adult simply because of your own ignorance and lack of empathy.

[@luiginumbers6268]

@@GaryVRyou’ve got the dark, now you just need to find the humor

[@GaryVR]

@@luiginumbers6268 maybe it’s too advanced for you

[@PixelatedFox-xo8ys]

​​@@GaryVRnothing funny about people dying. With the amount of times I've seen it, I should've found some kind of punchline. There just isn't one. People like you push these people to that point. You are part of the problem. You probably have blood on your hands and you don't know it yet. These people could be living happy lives or making breakthroughs but you'd rather see them die. Often when one has the ability to hide behind a screen, you really can get a good idea of who they truly are.

[@qynoi42]

"This is me not losing you" drove me to sudden unexpected tears. This is how lives are saved and improved.

[@missnaomi613]

I'm feeling hormonal (no pun intended, I'm just a 52 year old mama!) And this made me cry. For anyone who needs to hear it in these terms, it's far better to (take the opportunity to learn and grow as a person and) accept your trans kid/friend/sibling/whatever, than to have an extra grave to visit. It's birthday season for my family. My kids are turning 21, 24, and 27. Two of them are trans. I love and accept them all in equal measure. It's not hard to do. Blessed day/night to all. 🙏❤🏳‍⚧🏳‍🌈

[@AngryGayGrandpa]

Thanks so much for your beautiful comment! We need more mamas like you in the world. Much love!! AGG

[@missnaomi613]

@@AngryGayGrandpa thanks. (We really need to raise the bar, though!)

[@AlienaLives]

@@missnaomi613 When people are being hateful, I like to ask them when it became ok to hate their children and what they’re gonna do when no one visits them anymore. I don’t expect it to change their mind right that minute, but I feel like those are questions that would haunt me at three in the morning and make me rethink some choices.

[@queenchoyo6016]

Our 21 year old is trans. We love them so much, but are so scared of all the hate in the world towards the trans community.

[@starspangledkiwi7224]

​@@queenchoyo6016it might be comforting to know that trans support is growing more than it ever has. The hatred may be louder but that's the sound of a desperate hateful people realizing they are becoming irrelevant.

[@Britneygurl]

46yo trans woman. Ok I watched the video. I didn't react to it right away. I reflected on it for a minute or two. Then I started crying. I watched it 3 times and couldn't stop crying. Then I started to read the comments and have been crying for a solid 10 minutes. I had to stop reading, it was just too much. The show of support from everyone is just amazing. The first thing I did when I came out as trans last fall was attend a counter protest against the 1 Million March For Children. They were targeting trans youth in particular, trying to push for bathroom laws, book bans and gender affirming care bans. I have to stand up for these kids. I had no one when I needed it as a kid. This girl has her fully supportive dad. That makes such a profound difference to her life. Love your kids no matter how they identify or who they love. Support Trans Kids!

[@treetopjones737]

The bigotry of the red states trying to drag society backwards, SMH. The entire West coast is not like that. #HarrisWalzForThePeople

[@lookilookibuthearingtooi]

This was wonderful. I liked the snarky "It's a skirt, Dad!" That made it so realistic because the kid couldn't probably know what's about to happen next and is still dealing with anger because of being hurt prior but expressing it in this childlike way. While dealing with this immense burden of being transgender in this current world. Let's protect the children because it would be great to have them around as adults, too and all of us living in a more diverse, happy and healthy society.

[@rescuegirl]

🏳️‍🌈 I am a cisgender female who is happily married to a transgender woman. My family does not approve of the fact that I’m a lesbian, nor do they approve of my marriage. This video is beautiful and I wish that everyone could have such supportive parents. 🏳️‍⚧️

[@PhantomPinetree]

I'm non-binary and got told by my grandmother that I'm being misogynistic for choosing not to identify as a woman. My mom refuses to argue or correct her or any of my other family members when they misgender me and has even expressed discomfort at the idea of me getting top surgery. My Dad on the other hand? He supports me 100%, isn't afraid to correct anyone. I'm so thankful to have him in my life. I can see him in this video. Thank you so much for making this.

[@unsoundfoxly]

If you can help it before getting top surgery consider doing a lot of chest exercises as that usually will shrink down the chest size of anyone. Top surgery will remove all the feeling unless you can afford a really good dr/ surgeon. But who knows maybe in the future all we will have to do is step into a machine

[@drunkenhobo5039]

Hopefully you grow out of it before you do anything permanent.

[@unsoundfoxly]

@@drunkenhobo5039 my only concern is them going to get it done from someone that more cares about the money then the actual recovery of the patients in their care.

[@drunkenhobo5039]

@@unsoundfoxly If they cared about anything other than money, they wouldn't be cosmetic surgeons. I really don't like how normalised it's become. Wrapping it in the rainbow flag was their greatest marketing stunt.

[@unsoundfoxly]

@@drunkenhobo5039 my grandfather and Cousin were/are plastic surgeon not for the money but because they both served in some of the wars we had and they were dedicated to helping people disfigured by war look some semblance of themselves again. I would say it’s not always about the money if it’s a family owned but if it’s a corporate owned then yeah it’s pretty bad.

[@jannap.2811]

One of the most impactful things anyone has said to me came from my grandmother around nine years ago (she is now 88). She said, "I don't understand, but I love you unconditionally; help me understand." I strive to follow in her footsteps, but if I could live my life with half her love and grace, it would be an accomplishment worth my while.

[@RightfulArchon186]

A nation begins to fail when it denies fundamental rights to its citizens. No one should ever have their rights taken away-especially not transgender individuals, who deserve the same dignity, respect, and protection as everyone else.

[@ImClaire97]

As a newly “out of closet” transgender teenager this made me cry. A lot of people hate on me online, but I’m still standing! 😊

[@hpgdovin]

Please also know that you are loved, respected and seen. It's incredibly brave to stand up for yourself. Your true self. I wish you all the best.❤

[@ImClaire97]

@@hpgdovinTHANK YOU! ❤

[@Harveystar-hv5ex]

Haters are gonna hate regardless. Online trolls seriously aren't worth your time. You are loved ❤

[@ImClaire97]

@@Harveystar-hv5ex Thank you for the wonderful message, have a great day or night! ❤️

[@becominghercules9902]

You keep standing kiddo and I will keep standing for you too

[@arabhero10]

God sent him a daughter. She just got put in the wrong packaging is all. She’s still the same kid she always was. She’s still that same kid he promised to love and protect until his dying day.

[@exilestudios9546]

See this is the kind of thing that happens when you don’t pay extra for christianity prime

[@m.t.443]

​@exilestudios9546 😂😂 Prices went up, sometimes packaging gets messed up, there's a lot of souls to ship out!!! I'm using this to explain it now- "It's like paying for prime shipping as a Christian but still getting the wrong package. Maybe God doesn't make mistakes but his workers can" lol

[@rochellestarr9538]

A SKIRT,cant change someones heart.

[@m.t.443]

@rochellestarr9538 ??? The heart is...neither male nor female. It's an organ....you can take a heart from a man and if it matches it can be transplanted into a woman to save her. So...argument nullified lol

[@rochellestarr9538]

@@m.t.443 The heart is love,in a skirt or in a suit.The heart is not just an organ.It is what makes us human,or in some cases,the lack of makes us something else. As you attempt to lecture a woman who lost her grandpa to a hate crime Her 6 year old to cancer And her best friend to Aids About the HEART..... Really?

[@TheFusselmonster]

Married man here. I cryed. I hope I'll be able to support my children on their ways the way they'll need it. Greetings from germany Good luck everyone

[@Gredddfe]

It took me 2 years before I started calling my daughter by her new name. It was a long journey but I'm happy with where we are now. My biggest regret was that she was facing transphobia from the age of 13, and for years she was facing it alone and without my support.

[@beckystreet9576]

Better late than never. I'm glad that she made it through those tough times to get this point where she does have your support

[@leandrahonegger3914]

I'm sure she appreciates your support that you give her now. You are not alone, my father needed time to accept me. Wish you and your daughter all the best!

[@thelostremainunfound]

I hope you know that it truly is better late than never. Most of us just want to have our family, even if they hurt us in the beginning, so long as they do better now that is all that matters. Just remember that, if you already haven't reached it, one day your years of support will vastly outnumber those you did not.

[@willadeefriesland5107]

Watching, I was hoping for that "... I love my daughter." moment. Hearing that "Holly", meant even more. I'm almost 62. My father is 95. I came out just a few years ago and he has loved and supported me as his daughter too...

[@ericthompson3982]

My 17 year old came out to me as trans early this year. I told her I was proud of her courage telling me. I knew it was hard. That kid is everything to me. She hasn't changed. She's the person she always was, who I love and cherish with my whole heart. Because I'm her father.

[@GaryVR]

Sorry for your loss

[@ericthompson3982]

@GaryVR What loss? My kiddo is around and kicking, just as smart and funny as she ever was. I still have a lot to share with her, and she's happy about that. She discovered who she was, is all. Better now than later. We're fine.

[@BubblegumKoi]

@@ericthompson3982nah that person with the black n white pfp is just an ass. Glad you and your child are on good terms!

[@drdestrukt1367]

@@GaryVR hopefully one day you will realise that you are the problem.

[@SophieRoseLive]

@@GaryVR i can hear the snorting and wheezing from here. get out of your mom's basement

[@carleeberk4219]

I’m sobbing. Hearing a parent say “I’m sorry. I was wrong. I don’t understand but I care” is EVERYTHING

[@DN-fs2kb]

Today, my province announced more restrictions for trans youth on medical transitioning and pronoun use in classrooms. This puts students who are not out to their family at a very high risk for abuse. Along with those wanting to medically transition a much longer wait time than expected. Its scary. It almost feels like they want us eradicated completely. Even though im not from America, i fear for the trans community. We cant afford to lose any more lives. Im a 17yo ftm. When i was 15 i attempted to take my life, i thought maybe in the next life i would be a real man. My gender dysphoria was a large factor for my mental state. I do not want anyone else to have to come to that decision. A year later I came out, my mom was confused, and my dad refused to acknowledge it. He has only brought it up once though, telling me that i will always go back to being a girl no matter what happens. I wish my dad was more like the dad in the film, he saw his child struggling and supported her through it, even if it’s something he doesn’t understand both my parents know that i go by a different name and pronouns at school, but they refuse to use them at home- even with friends around. I live a double life right now, but it’s better than no life at all. Everyday im grateful my friends and teachers treat me like a normal guy at school, It really makes such a difference. It can really make my day when a teacher calls me by my name. However, you can only go so far without parental support. If i need a haircut or new clothes i need permission from my parents to do so. This can be bad for kids in unsupportive households because being perceived as something you aren’t takes a toll on your mental health. Especially when you KNOW who you are, and people won’t let you be yourself. .

[@NameOfRain]

You are a real man. I hope one day you can escape all the hate and be your best self.

[@DN-fs2kb]

@@NameOfRain thank you so much

[@icasticasticast]

last paragraph means so much, you've written well. thanks dude, wish you the best

[@CricketsBay]

If you get the receipt for any clothes your parents buy you, can you return them to the store and exchange them for the clothes you want? It can be a way to get around the control your parents might have over what you can wear.

[@DN-fs2kb]

@@icasticasticast thank you i appreciate it :)

[@jayde5776]

All of these comments got me crying. As a trans woman who was disowned by her family it’s so nice seeing all these people being supportive in here. Also, this video touched my heart. Wish my dad did that. Partner called me pretty and he laughed.

[@jakthebomb]

I wish my Dad would accept me. I have been out for 10 years and he still deadnames me.

[@AngryGayGrandpa]

Hang in there and be strong; there are people who love you and a community waiting for you. Much love!! AGG

[@beckystreet9576]

I'm sorry that he still won't use your name. Hopefully you've been able to surround yourself with people who use your correct name

[@GaryVR]

Huge father W

[@kylereese4822]

@@AngryGayGrandpa How bad the hate is, starting with Liddy Bacroff, a trans woman, was killed in the Mauthausen concentration camp in 1943, 2023 - Brianna Ghey was murdered in a premeditated attack by Scarlett Jenkinson and Eddie Ratcliffe. After being lured into Culcheth Linear Park UK by Jenkinson, Ghey was stabbed 28 times. Jenkinson and Ratcliffe, both aged 15 at the time, https : // en . wikipedia . org/wiki/List_of_people_killed_for_being_transgender

[@kylereese4822]

​@@AngryGayGrandpa Seriously laws need to be changed and be future proofed so they can not be removed from law.... because the killers are getting younger on that list the youngest is 12 years old.....

[@TheDude8008]

It's so tiresome seeing plenty of posts in fb about trans people and their parents, and the pages & comments just mock them and say the same iteration of "he lost his son", "the father looks dead inside". It's refreshing seeing something truly human for once.

[@love_sick_fool3343]

my parents are far right conservatives and when i came out as a lesbian they were fine with it. i was so relived that they weren't mad at me it made me feel confident. so i told them i was non-binary. they were not happy. they got mad. they told me it was a phase and that it was disrespectful to them. i'm not allowed to go by my preferred name at school and if friends come over they have to use my dead name. i'm really happy for all the people who are safe and accepted. progress for one is progress for all.

[@notreallya_gamer653]

Unrelated, sorry if this is offensive. but when you grow up, you think it’s gonna feel good to get the last laugh when they realize it isn’t a phase?

[@alliekingsley7919]

I'm sorry. I hope you're able to get out from under their thumb and live your life the way YOU want, soon. You deserve to be happy and referred to by the name and pronouns you like.

[@RexytheRexy]

I'm so sorry. I wish every single one of us had the support of loving parents, and can only hope that we find loving families of the heart when our birth families fail us.

[@M00N_IVY]

I'm so so sorry! You are so valid and I hope you can find people who respect you for all that you are! My parents know I'm a lesbian as well and "support" me but it's more like they just say they do and then the next minute make a random comment about why I can't just force myself to like men and want kids??? Most of the time it's treated as a quiet thing about me which means they probably are just saying they support me to not look like bad parents. Only difference between my parents is that they aren't necessarily conservative but they sure do seem like it at times. If they can't handle me being a lesbian then they definitely can't handle me being nonbinary I don't think. Long story short you aren't alone in your pain and I'm trying to tell myself that the only way for us to find people who actually DO respect and love us for who we are is to keep living and keep trying! I hope you are taking care of yourself and staying safe with all of the stuff going on! This was a really long comment so I apologize! 💕💕🌈🌈

[@Motiz7]

Trans right are human rights. Never hate.

[@Luckdragon2000]

The number of transgender kids and adults in the country is less than 0.002% of the population, and my service to this nation included protecting the rights of that small percentage to be who they know they are. I'm a strait white 42yo male, and I've had to overcome my own biases that were cultivated in my younger years. It was only about 15 years ago that I finally saw the light of reason and realized my insecurities and saw my bigotry, and I've been fighting to make amends for the hate that once poisoned my heart. I can only hope that others find the will to overcome their bigotry, and to stop supporting the bigots who attack those who only want to live in peace and love in the body they know is who they are. Peace and long life. 🖖

[@NapalmIguana]

Thank you for your service sir, and I am so glad to hear that you could overcome your own bigotry. Truly, thank you.

[@ruarrow2843]

Trans man veteran here: thank you. We can all grow, if we have the courage.

[@monicadaniels784]

You have gained more from your attitude of acceptance and love than you would ever gain from the old attitudes. Congratulations and thank you! You are truly a good guy!

[@Redfield123]

@@Luckdragon2000 Grows lower every day. 🙏🏻

[@spud13x13]

Live long. And prosper, my friend. Straight, white, 59 YO male thanking you for your beautiful and thoughtful comment. Lost one of my best friends 35 years ago. He was murdered because the wrong person felt threatened by his sexual identity. The world lost a very bright light that day. But what you've said about your journey gives me so much hope that one day, people like my friend won't have to live in fear, or die, because of the biological hand they were dealt.

[@vinnygothika7510]

Brought tears to my eyes, that's how you be a parent, that's how you support, even if you may not understand something. 🏳️‍⚧️

[@aatnevergettingout]

I wish my family would accept me like this. The film was beautiful and I look forward to seeing more 💙 Angry gay grandpa always slays!

[@AlienaLives]

This is my first video from this channel. Will all of them make me cry at nine in the morning because I am ok with that but a warning would be appreciated.

[@aatnevergettingout]

@@AlienaLives I can confirm yes they’ll make you cry at 2am. 🤓☝️

[@zacharynguyen7286]

Hope everyone doing good and staying safe. If you need to talk to someone or need help, there are people who care. Sending support and hearts. ❤️❤️❤️

[@aatnevergettingout]

@@zacharynguyen7286 Thanks so much! 😊💙

[@AlienaLives]

@@aatnevergettingout Sounds like I was right to subscribe, then. I think I’ll like it here.

[@Isitthough69420]

As a trans teen in the U.S. right now, I think this showed up in my recommended for a reason. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart

[@elliebonne5649]

2 minutes and I am totally in tears 😭 Both my parents died before I came out. Wish so much that my mom knew and that she would have accepted me. Thanks for a nice watch ❤️

[@rebeccawitmer2415]

I'm sorry for your loss. You can still write or talk to them; it may be helpful in processing your feelings and beliefs. Wishing you peace in your heart around this.

[@lisakassandra4222]

Went like that for me, too. I feel you.

[@ob2kenobi388]

Thank you.

[@ob2kenobi388]

@gabrielwong9063 Don't worry, I registered at Pride last year! 😊

[@AshDeGirl]

YOU I SEE YOU EVERYWHERE WHY

[@ob2kenobi388]

@@AshDeGirl I get that a lot lol. I'm in a lot of comment sections!

[@Ratsian]

@@AshDeGirlBrisket pfp based

[@archyneverpicked]

@@ob2kenobi388 Republicans are purging voter rolls and are targeting trans folks. You might want to double check just in case xx

[@outercat]

to any trans person who may see this: even if you don’t have this at home, please know your community loves you. know that you are valuable as your authentic self. you are loved and seen and heard, and so many of us will never stop fighting for you to exist in joy ❤ please never give up. please do not let the hate in this world outshine your beautiful light. love you lots, from a fellow queer.

[@M00N_IVY]

I really appreciate this. It's hard when in your real life you don't get opportunities to feel that connection with community. I won't give up and as long as we are here there are chances for more progress and acceptance in the world AND we can encourage other trans people to keep going!🌈🌈💕💕

[@Tzensa]

That one made me tear up. My son goes to school out of state and he hasn’t come home for a visit in two years. Not because he can’t but because they’re afraid for me. He knows that being a trans parent openly supporting my trans son isn’t safe in Texas. Instead he’s stuck on the other side of the country while I burn every day of leave I can get my hands on to visit when ever I can. We’re both afraid of loosing each other just to different things. Every day I’m proud of him beyond words for the strength and dignity he shows in his conviction even when I wish he’d just come down on a long weekend. And every day I feel rage that he even has cause to think that way.

[@johne.5250]

This is so beautiful and touching. I am from semi-rural Maine, and when I first came out about 7 years ago now, one of the first ever people to try and support me even though he didn't understand it at all was my 90 year old, conservative, WW2 vet grandfather. He started referring to me by an abbreviated combination of my deadname and my current name, which, while not my preference, was more than most other family members were really doing at the time. He didn't quite get it, but he chose to try anything instead of alienating himself. He passed before I could start HRT and change my name, but I still cherish the way he tried to take those first steps with me, however slightly he could. Thank you so much for making and sharing this little PSA. It is so important for scared trans kids-- and conflicted parents-- from these sorts of communities to know that there is hope for things to work out for everyone involved. We don't need to lose any more innocent children.

[@mixedbagmixesmusic1967]

Ugly sobbed to this. This was beautiful. It's clear he doesn't understand, but he's ready to support her and cares about her anyway.

[@HollowSun]

As a trans girl named Holly who's had a difficult family situation, I was. Not. Ready. For. This 💀

[@CoyPowers]

I'm just an internet stranger, but I hope your situation's better now. Good luck with all of it, Holly.

[@JSBuehler]

I am also an internet stranger, and I want to tell you how much I love you, Holly. Be strong, be well.

[@dudeman3606]

I'm a 19 year old transfem in a conservative household, in the process of getting hormones now but there are some complications. I watched this video a couple weeks ago and just found it again. This is the first time I've been able to cry in 2 years, there's just so much going on, so much stress, so many things to do sooner rather than later and I'm just terrified. I know I won't be disowned at the very least, but the emotional distress and difficulty when I do come out is not something I'm ready for. Thank you, and best of luck to everyone going through this as well. -Ember

[@thea_therian]

The moment he sat down I cried because even though I know it’s a supportive video it triggered my fight or flight response, trans or not even when it comes to smaller matters parents don’t usually have this kind of positive outlook, let alone when it comes to bigger matters like coming out, parents would rather watch their kids die than “lose” this culture war, but this video showed such a bright future in it: the sky didn’t collapse, the daughter didn’t go on to sneak into bathrooms to “spy” on girls, she was just…..happy, relieved she doesn’t have to live in a world where she fights for the right to exist, one where she can feel happy and safe living under her parents’ roof

[@HomebrewHorsepower]

I'm a member of a group of masculine, adventure seeking automotive enthusiast tough guys. The secret is that our real mission is to spread joy, acceptance, and social and environmental responsibility everywhere we go. This weekend we supported a pride parade in Ashland, Oregon, and cleaned up hundreds of pounds of trash from public land in southern Oregon and northern California. We believe it's important for everyone, especially the social majority (mostly straight cis white males in our case) to actively stand up for queer rights, women's rights, and minority rights, as well as environmental responsibility. The only way to move forward is for those who are least marginalized to stand up for those who are most maginalized. Remember that we love you and countless people are fighting every day to make the world a better place for you.

[@mudkippity]

Thank you so much for this. 🤝

[@HomebrewHorsepower]

@mudkippity I see you Kip. ❤️

[@CassidiVine]

That was short, sweet, poignant and powerful. 50 year old trans woman, myself- started medically a bit over a year ago. I'll never regret the transition, but I will regret only a) not having done so sooner, and b) the time spent with mental breakdowns and passive suicidal ideation simply because I didn't know it was available to me. To all those trans sisters and brothers, to all those allies out there- you are loved not for what you are, or your labels, but who you are and what you mean to others. Wishing you strength to continue to be yourselves, and strength to uplift those around you.

[@brogis2]

congrats on beginning!! and thank you for commenting- it always brings a bit of hope to my heart knowing life won’t end… that one can grow older and be queer. thank you

[@STOPTHECLOWNS581]

My niece came out as trans to my brother and his wife and They disowned her and kicked her out??? I nearly got into a punch on with my brother over it. I managed to get in contact with her and I found out she is staying with a friend. I told her that she still has family that cares even though its only me. Its crazy because my brother use to be so chill layed back when it came to people. I know he has gone down a rabbit hole of maga/conspiracies and has become religious with islam and all that crap these past few years but I never knew he got this bad that he would just do that to his own kid.

[@BrightAngelJoana]

Your a good uncle 🤍 keep being like that

[@dasleepyfox9299]

I'm in tears. My mother married a douche who broke a $2000+ smart TV because he tried signing up for Hulu and nonbinary was one of the gender options. My mother and brother have accepted me, but we can't use my real name. They don't want to risk it and have to fill a grave because he overheard. The Holly at the end... What I would do to have one of them hug me and call me by my chosen name. Just once before I move out next Spring. Thank you for this video, it feels like a little bit of support in a household where I can't get any.

[@CoyPowers]

Jesus, I really hope your family can get away from that guy. Stay safe, I'm sorry that your situation is so dark right now. I'm glad you have your brother and mother, though.

[@GaryVR]

That “douche” is based af 🗿

[@cloakedcarp]

@@GaryVR child troll begone

[@lyndasiegel5063]

Jim I was moved to tears watching this. You capture the love between this parent and child so exquisitely. Thank you for the care you are sending to all the transgender youth out there. Let's hope no more lives are lost!

[@AngryGayGrandpa]

Thank you, Lynda!!

[@mermershangout4808]

Thank YOU for helping. It's so scary in TIMES like these when the world can seem against innocent people. I hope YOU'RE doing well!

[@supermangarritano6636]

As an older Trans guy, this made me cry. This is so sweet. Always love your kid.

[@libbylong9059]

I love my trans granddaughter just as much if not more than when she was born a baby boy. She's beautiful inside and out and we as a family all support her. Thank you for sharing this because the world needs to remember love and humanity and forget bias and bigotry.

[@DeusExMachinae01]

Real Men Protect Trans Girls ❤

[@livliveart]

As a scared trans girl stuck in Texas... thank you. 😭❤

[@CricketsBay]

@luvliveart There are organizations in Minnesota and state funding for trans youth who want to move there. If you're over 18, I recommend contacting a 501(c) called Together, Inc. in either Minneapolis or St. Paul. Ask them about resources for housing, jobs, and transportation from Texas to Minnesota. If you're 17 or younger, there is imfo. on the Minnesota Department of Human Services website about services for transgender youth, but do not say anything that would make them contact Texas Child Protective Services unless you are in actual life-threatening danger mentally, physically, or emotionally. If you can find work and housing in Minnesota, there's an Emancipated Minor law which can give teenagers the same rights and legal status as an adult.

[@matthewswenson1832]

​@@livliveartplease stay safe

[@carlydanyel5813]

You don't have to understand it, just be supportive, it's crucial to survival. With the political climate surrounding transgender folks, Thank you for posting this. We are not monsters.

[@GaryVR]

No

[@Musicbased39]

​@@GaryVR me when I don't have an argument

[@fionasabre]

​@@GaryVR get a life bigot

[@DJRJAU]

Pure Dad energy right there when he calls her by her name, "Holly".

[@magiv4205]

I have a little brother who just came out to our dad and it went "better than expected" according to my bro. This video made me shed a tear. Our dad may have made some mistakes raising us, and he is still a little confused, but I'll be damned if he doesn't love us all to death. He's trying his best, every day. Love you, dad, and love you, lil bro❤

[@boreal3255]

how's your bro doin rn

[@helenafarkas4534]

I'm not trans. but my mom went off the deep end and we don't talk anymore. I know so many in the comments here are talking about those they know who have taken their own lives and they are right to do so. it's not only a tragedy, it's a travesty that the world is so unwelcoming to them that they feel that things would be better if they weren't in it. what I'm about to say is in no way meant to cheapen that loss. what I see in this is a dad who refuses to lose his child, not just to death, but also to estrangement. I lost my mom. I miss her deeply even though she's still alive. not every loss is because of death.

[@swordbird]

I’m a non-binary trans youth with unsupportive parents. This is all extremely isolating and it’s a terrifying time to be alive. I have almost taken my own life on multiple occasions, and while I am doing somewhat better now, the politics surrounding my identities are extremely challenging. Every year trans youth like me, trans people, and especially trans people of color die either by their own hands or by the hands of others and it’s treated like some sort of wedge issue.

[@DN-fs2kb]

Im sorry this happened to you. I hope you can get out of your unsupportive household soon.

[@AngryGayGrandpa]

Hang in there! The future needs you. Be strong and much love! AGG

[@GeorgiaTalksTrans]

You are loved, you are worthy, you are valid. ❤

[@beckystreet9576]

I'm so sorry to hear how difficult life is for you just because of how you identify. I'm the proud mom of a non-binary trans youth and I'm happy to be your adopted mom who supports you fully, even if only virtually. You might not be able to see it because of how you're treated, but there are lots of us parents out there in the world that have love for you just as you are. Hang in there ❤

[@CoyPowers]

Hang in there, there's plenty of people who care. I'm a cis guy in my 40s, but my girlfriend is trans. It's been scary lately, for sure. It will get better though. There's a lot of people out here who will and do respect you for who you are, they just may be a bit harder to see right now.

[@Carrion-0409]

Its really sad to me that some parents would rather have a dead kid than a trans kid. As an ally of the lgbt I'm wishing everyone in the group the absolute best life can offer because you deserve it and you are loved ! 🖤🏳️‍🌈🇺🇸

[@thelostremainunfound]

I came out when I was 12yo in 2014. It was a time when trans people hadn't quite become common knowledge yet. It was hard for my parents as they lacked resources and the first two years of being out were incredibly difficult. I got to go on HRT when I was 14 and it genuinely saved my life. I would not have survived high school and made it to adulthood. Watching something that made the person I am now able to exist ripped away from the youth in an even more vulnerable position than I was do to the political shitstorm, it is devastating. The day my state banned gender affirming care for trans youth, I stared at the wall and cried. I couldn't begin to fathom how terrible it was going to be but I knew it was going to be horrible. Even as a trans adult I have found myself suffering from more depression than I did prior to anti-trans laws being passed. I go to a blue state to get my care and protect my medical records and I am so disheartened but being reminded that no matter what, people are fighting for us who could pretend it was never happening and live their lives unaffected, that gives me hope.

[@deevnn]

If I could give this a thousand thumbs up I would...we need more compassion, communication, empathy and kindness. VOTE BLUE

[@cichlisuite666]

this is so unrealistic no girl has ever had fashion sense that good immediately after coming out LMAO

[@Musicbased39]

REALLL 😔

[@dr_popcorn]

ive seen it. some people really put time into how they wanna dress before they come out. my sister-in-law is proof of that.

[@Starlight-Warrior]

Just a like on this video can’t convey how much I love it. I’m not trans, but dang, the world needs more people like the dad in this video. Trans rights are human rights.

[@jimmysaints]

Hey, if anyone needs this, I'm a straight white male and I fully support trans rights. I just wanted anyone who needs to hear that people who aren't trans, support you

[@dontasklongstory]

Me and my older sister are both trans. We are about to send this to our parents in the hopes that they finally understand that if they don't support us even a bit then they will lose us, not through death, but through loss of contact. And it sucks bc we do love our parents and step parents even though they have never been supportive and even through the shit they have put us through.

[@Gouda992]

Damn, two in one family, me and my cousin are trans but I’ve never heard of 2 siblings

[@veryfruityolive]

@@Gouda992my only sibling and i are both queer and trans :) it happens

[@beckystreet9576]

I hope that your parents will come around and realize that they aren't owed a relationship with you and your sister just because they birthed you. Hang in there. There are a lot of parents out there like myself that will happily take the role of loving you if it turns out that your parents won't accept you

[@GaryVR]

@@Gouda992Make you wonder if it’s a trend

[@Gouda992]

@@GaryVR I did in fact, I thought it was a trend that would pass, but I’ve opened my mind since and realized that things in life aren’t as simple as we might like to think. No one has any right to judge others for their personal choices

[@Novas_Nook]

My dad does and says some pretty awful things to me. He’s told me to kill myself, he’s called me words I didn’t even know existed and are hearing of for the first time, he hits me, etc. But what hurts the most is hearing him say, “You’re name is Gwenyth. Not Daniel. You are a girl and will always be one no matter what you do or how hard you try. You’ll always be my little girl and you’ll always be Gwenyth to me. Nobody will ever like you. Especially not as a boy. Just some fucked up girl.” Thankfully he doesn’t try to send me anywhere to “fix” me or use religion as an excuse. (He grew up in a religious household but hated it, so he didn’t force anything on us religion-wise. Also he’s an atheist.) I know he cares about me but it’s very conflicted with the way he acts. - A scared thirteen year old trans boy.

[@andreacook7431]

Hang in there. See about preparing to live on your own as soon as possible.

[@AngryGayGrandpa]

Hang in there and stay strong. Remember: the future needs you. Seek support where you can. Here's wishing you much love!! AGG

[@maxq96]

You are not alone, Daniel. Things may not get better for some time, but they will eventually. I'm nonbinary, and I'm 28 now. My dad treated me in a similar way when I was your age. It took me a long time to find happiness, but I have been now for the last few years. I live with my partner and our two cats. I have friends and coworkers who don't just accept me for who I am, they are glad that I am in their life. Nobody decides who you are except you. It does get better. Just remember that. ❤ And also, there are places to reach out for support, like the Trevor Project and Trans Lifeline. You aren't alone, and you are accepted for who you are.

[@Novas_Nook]

@@maxq96 Thank you, it almost seems unreal or dreamlike to ever get to that point. But I keep going every day just for the slight chance that the future will be like that. I used to be very optimistic and now I’m more of a pessimist, but I still hold on to that sliver of hope. ❤️

[@DN-fs2kb]

I know it’s not easy now but It gets better. Please be patient. No one that young should have to deal with this.

[@Doodlebugthegoldenhamster]

From the way that man looks, I’m going to assume that he’s a conservative Christian. And that makes his love and support for his daughter all the more remarkable and precious. Nothing gets in the way of genuine love.

[@ZirayaAlex]

This is such an important message. I have LGBTQIA+ people in my family, in my friend group, in my community. Humans need to support one another. Love wins.