How We Do Child Training

Well trained and well behaved children are such a delight to be around! Children are so much more secure when they know what is expected of them in each given situation. Some of these tips we are going to share about our little “baby bootcamp” that we do here, we have gleaned from our parents and modified it for our own family. I am the oldest of 11 and Elisha is one of ten children. We both had great experiences growing up and us and our siblings are all continuing to have children that are a delight and joy to be around.
We want to practice, rehearse and train as much as we can for different environments and situations that we might find ourselves in. We are not parenting experts! Our oldest is six. We have learned some practical things though that have really helped us navigate the toddler years that we want to share today. These have helped us tie heart strings with our children and also train them in the way they should go.
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Timestamps:
00:00- 1:41 - Intro
1:41-4:02 - Slow Down & Get Practical
4:02-6:07 - Training Happy Obedience
6:07-8:39 - The Obedience Game
8:39-9:35 - Drill Stressful Situations
9:35-11:42 - Practice Social Engagements
11:42-15:04 - Conversational Expectations
15:04-17:23 - Having Pleasant Experiences
17:23-19:11 - Environmental Awareness
19:11- 20:10 - When & Where to Practice
20:10-21:37 - New Environments Come Up
21:37-22:18 - Blog Post
22:18-23:44 - Homeschool Course Discount

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I've said it once, I'll say it again! You two played a huge role in leading me back to Christ. As a mom of 3 young kids, the timely posting of your videos/podcasts has been huge for us. THANK YOU

[@alittleheavenonearth]

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[@Ksu11123]

How amazing!

[@nowthatimamother]

Wow! Thank you so much for this comment! Praise the Lord!

[@Creative2xmom]

I taught my kids to put their hand on me for attention when they were in preschool. It's amazing how much peace it brings to our family. Today, even as teenagers, they still come put their hand on me to interrupt if I'm in the middle of a conversation. So respectful!

[@nynkeandreae7008]

I'm 25 and I still do this with my mom! It's a great Montessori technique!

[@paulagaziero8055]

How did you teach them to do that?

[@nynkeandreae7008]

@@paulagaziero8055 Just tell them, that if they want your attention, they can ask for it by putting their hand on your arm or leg. Don't give them attention if they start whining for it (but you can say something like 'if someone wants my attention they need to put their hand on me' without looking at them). Respond quickly in the beginning, so they know that is what works and what you want. Then explain to them, at a quiet moment, that it might take a little time for you to respond when you are busy. Then gradually increase your response time. A good time to practice is when you are talking to someone.

[@fagundeswmv]

​@@nynkeandreae7008thank you! I super need to do this!

[@lithopheliax61x5]

i heard a great tip, which is, if you want to finish the sentence or something, to place your hand back 9n their hand, so the kid knows that you noticed them and will give them your attention the moment you have finished😊

[@nattamused9074]

Probably the most important component of a properly functioning family is the dynamic between mom and dad.

[@NatalieH-vj9sc]

We did a fun, lighthearted obedience game today and it lasted literally 1 minute before my sweet, but strong-willed two year old collapsed in a meltdown/tantrum 😅 we’ll keep trying…and praying!

[@Homestead.Healing]

This is so good! I'm 40 with 3 kids 3-8 years old, it's so scary when I yell to them very firmly to stop when running towards a street and they don't! Why aren't parents taught these things? Thank you so much for this fun and easy way to train them! Great video!! More like this please!!

[@savedbygrace6108]

Your videos are helping me feel that I will have access to the tools I’ll need to be the kind of mom I’d like to be. I’m in my mid-30’s and have felt unprepared and overwhelmed to be a mom. THANK YOU!❤️🙌🏼

[@elsamartin8165]

Thank you SO SO SO much for this. So many of us poor parents really have good intentions and set out to be the best parent but we were never properly "trained" ourselves. I can say this is so for myself. I have been feeling so overwhelmed with my 4 and 2 year old because the whining has begun, not listening, acting out. This is all new! Now I know they really just need trained:) It will begin today!

[@yessicarmomlife]

Same here!!! And it will start today too!

[@staceyrogers6125]

I have definitely found that preparing my boys before something happens really helps them manage the situation well. My two year old would throw tantrums when I put him down when he was wanting to be held, but sometimes I need to use both hands for dinner. So now I tell him what I need to do, tell him I'm going to put him down for it, and then I'll pick him up again when I'm done. I say all of this while holding him. Then I can feel him letting himself out of my arms after he knows what to expect. Game changer! So many meltdowns and whining avoided with preparation. Loved this video!!

[@beccal4718]

Probbaly my favorite video to date. This can literally make or break a home life & our interactions with our kids. Please bring more content like this!!!

[@savedbygrace6108]

Yes, Yes and YES!!!🎯

[@dramaqueen9298]

We are pregnant with our first and your parenting resources are such a blessing to me! I’m so grateful for your youtube, podcast, and instagram. I grew up in a very different family culture and this is helping me establish what our family culture will be now!

[@veronicapalmer910]

So many of us were not parented, and we are trying to end that cycle and become present parents. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I am a better mother for it. PS. My kids are also so much more secure, with nearly no meltdowns. I have three young boys.

[@daisyfryberger7746]

Wow! So refreshing seeing young parents training your kids in the right way! It keeps everyone safe, teaches obedience, respect and it's a great bonding experience. Love what you are doing. God bless. ❤❤❤

[@ashleybrodie1460]

Please keep these style videos coming!!! So insightful for parents!!!

[@bethburleson6684]

more like this! I NEED THIS. my husband and I both had absent parents and are really struggling with our 5 and 2 year old's obedience and training and we both really enjoyed this episode.

[@MrsCan]

I have a 5, 4 and 3 year old and a newborn . 2 weeks old. And my 3 year old has started acting up since I had my baby. So this definitely came at a right time. Praise God!

[@hannahcook]

Wonderful parenting advice! It's so easy to focus on discipline rather than training. We've implemented a few of these games in the past but needed to be reminded of them again. Would love more practical videos like this one!

[@christinetaylor3712]

Simple yet profound. Thank you for passing down the wisdom you learned from your parents and also from your own experience. This is gold!

[@ashleyirizarry-diaz6415]

I loved every minute of this video thank you for spelling it out so clearly on how to actually practice and train our kids. PLEASE MAKE MORE VIDEOS EXACTLY LIKE THIS! Changing the world one family at a time!

[@michaelaneudorf2662]

Love this! My babies almost a year and I know what I want the next couple years to look like but I couldn't see a path to get there. So appreciate you passing on yours and your parents wisdom ❤

[@janeandrews4850]

I took my granddaughters to a market and I told them look but do not touch unless going to buy. It was so lovely to have them follow this and the stall owners were so amazed at how they were behaved.

[@HealthyHomeMama]

Love love love these tips!!!! Such great advice and so needed!! You guys are awesome!!!❤️

[@Gabriella734]

Yay, I've been wanting to video from you two as well!!

[@Ksu11123]

You guys are such a blessing! Thank you for your videos!

[@amandakoppana4509]

I love this so much! Obedience games are so fun and helpful.

[@Dana-mb1hd]

I am SO excited to watch this today! God bless you guys ❤I love this channel ❤

[@brianbentler1458]

Epic!!! Yes! This is what all families need! Thank you!!!

[@faithfarmsgms]

Thank you so much for this video! We appreciate y’all SO much!

[@melist3931]

I love how practical this is! More like this please!!

[@caitlinthomas6951]

This was so helpful and practical! Would you please do a similar video on bedtime routines with kids? We have struggled with this lately. How have you handled room sharing, getting olders to not wake up the toddler who goes to bed earlier, kids not being able to fall asleep quickly so they get antsy, kids who come out from their rooms a lot, when a kid is scared etc?

[@savedbygrace6108]

Not a mom but thought this might help.. there is a lamp/clock sold for kids where the green light turns on at the hour they are allowed to leave their room. “Hatch” plays music (ocean waves, birds singing, etc.) at the time you program it to😊

[@rachelmunoz]

I am so grateful for y’all!!! Thank you for sharing these amazing exercises and activities for our families! My daughter is under one year old, and I am excited to do these things with her as she grows!

[@jen0zot]

Thank you so much for this! Liked before even watching! I just know this will be pure gold! Nothing better than practical advice with examples! May God continue blessing your family !

[@lexilindsey5742]

Loved these practical tips and fun game ideas for training the kiddos!! Thank you! Looking forward to your blog post.

[@dianewilson2330]

Thank you for these practical suggestions for actually training our kids. I loved your podcast on the problems with Gentle Parenting. This was a great follow‐up!

[@khunt84]

Love this tips! Definitely useful!

[@Credo8]

Such great advice! Loved this. Currently pregnant with baby #9 and I found this very helpful. I’m the fifth oldest of 14 and my parents did a great job raising us in a positive environment but I haven’t been able to glean as much from them in raising my own kids because we live so far apart (we’re in Missouri and they are in western Canada). My husband only has a sister so he was raised very differently, ha! I truly appreciated this video and I’m going to get my hubby to listen to it. You guys are spot on! Keep the vids coming 😊

[@LaRosaDelMusgo]

This is essential! Thank you so much!

[@paulaa6373]

When I was a pre-k teacher I remember we had a “buckling up” game and understanding traffic rules. They loved it so much that some of them even came to me (3 year olds!) telling on their parents when they went over a red light for example. They learn so quickly.

[@melstayton3171]

Thank you so much My husband and I have been talking about this lately and it’s hard to teach something you have never seen your parents accomplish!

[@anu7135]

I haven’t even watched the full video yet. But I want more content like this. Thank you so much for sharing the wisdom.

[@lrd97a]

Elisha’s looking into the camera and seeing himself and smiling/preening is hilarious!

[@jolinv2214]

Thank you so much! It’s an amazing and really useful! God bless you!❤

[@brandymeidl7126]

Absolutely love this video! I don't have kids but if I did, I would absolutely practice them. You're right: practice first. We've all been on situations when you go 😳 and blank. ❤️❤️ 😊

[@thankfulthriftiness]

This reminds me so much of how my parents raised us and it makes me so happy! I have a 10 month old and I am so thankful for your podcast because I remember some of the things, but your practical advice is such a blessing!

[@user-ij1rr4hc2q]

This video is certainly an answer to prayer! Thank you and God bless.

[@brittanyyoder1319]

Thank you both for this video! I love the practical tips. It’s exactly what my husband and I are needing with our 3 year old right now. God bless!

[@tawneeappleby2786]

Needed this today. It was a long day with our kiddos just acting out a ton.

[@carolinewynne506]

This was full of so much amazing practical advice! Thank you so much🎉

[@ramirezsulema87]

This was very insightful, more please!

[@katherinemolloy9481]

Thank you so much for this!

[@brittanyjude647]

Need allllllll the content like this. Praise God for both of you! Thank you for sharing this. Need as much as you can give ❤️ God is answering my recent parenting prayers through you guys

[@rachelpitz8695]

Such practical advice!

[@kalynnforeman706]

Thank you for making this video, practical and SO helpful. You are changing families 🙏🙏

[@samanthacantwell3914]

I have 6 kids and you guys have given me some great ideas! I started off well but have kind of slacked with the younger kids so thankyou for reminding me, these are great ideas!

[@m_nicolay]

Saving this to watch later! This is the video I’ve been wanting from you guys! Y’all have been SUCH an influence in our lives. Thank you!

[@alittleheavenonearth]

God is ❤he should Always be our centre in the family circle ❤

[@Lmr6789s]

Wow thank you so much for this I can't wait to start implicating some of these with my kids! Maybe everything lol !! Plus it's also bonding time, having fun and giving them positive attention while child training so it's a win win!

[@veenahblaisdell]

Super inspiring content! thank you

[@emilygracephotographer]

I’ve watched this video so many times! I love it!

[@hanmo564]

Sooo thankful for y’all & for the parents who raised y’all! Thankful to God, the relationship he had in helping both sets of parents raise the both of y’all. To God be the glory! Y’all are a huge blessing!

[@ashleyirizarry-diaz6415]

Iv been waiting for a video like this, when I saw your caption I was like okay let’s go get my notepad out and listen up lol excited to learn something from you folks!

[@richellesellers8878]

Great video with applicable tips!

[@anagarcia1767]

Such a great vid! Thanks!

[@dianachubenko1484]

This is soo good! Can’t wait to start “playing” these games with my kiddos! 😊

[@gillianmarshall5710]

THANK YOU SO HELPFUL

[@annjoseph1507]

This is the kind of video I have waited so long from you. Thank you and please make more of these. Please make videos on how to pray together as a family and how to engage them in family prayer.

[@patg3232]

Love this so much! ❤

[@minaaRenee]

Thank you so much for this. Growing up I was never taught or shown positive reinforcement. It was always so negative and I don’t want that for my kids & sometimes I just don’t know the right way to go about the situations.

[@christyclark876]

Great ideas! I’d love more just like them, especially for toddlers.

[@marianeufeld1627]

Thank you for sharing God bless your whole family💕🙏👪

[@nicolekee1]

I'm a mom of 15...You two are a pleasure to watch. I still have 11 kids living at home...large families are so much fun!

[@gretawilliams4045]

I love this !!! such great ideas i will definitely implement them !!

[@knf868]

Great info! Definitely will start training my boys😃

[@susanagiesbrecht1320]

That's amazing how you guys teach them, reminded me of that's the same it's supposed to be in the spiritual, first at home, then to public.

[@ginnydavenport3303]

This was great! So encouraging. My son is extremely hyper and this could be very helpful for all of us.

[@Araley]

Love this!!

[@dianamarcelab1087]

This is such a wonderful advice for parents. Thank you so much! We have 3 littles 5 and under and sometimes we don’t want to go to places bc we don’t know how they’ll act 😂. This for sure is so helpful. We will be implementing this kind of teaching in our home. Thanks again!

[@ammyreyes1910]

oh Katie and your hair looks beautiful!!! 😍

[@alyssastorey3844]

Thank you for making this video!

[@abigailjones2293]

HOW HAVE WE NOT THOUGHT OF THIS!! Please do more like this. Like examples? I shared this with my husband and we both were blown away. Each scenario you talked about (coffee, in and out of car, grocery store) are areas of high stress- and practicing expectations is a great way!

[@elliechewny6924]

Lovely, thanks!

[@TheEMC99]

This SO resonated with me! This advice is wonderful and often intuitive but we sometimes get tired and neglect these critical duties. Thank you both so much. Please make me practical videos like this. They are absolute diamonds!!! 💎 💎 💎 ❤❤❤

[@katieyungen1647]

THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR THIS!!!!

[@tarastone4417]

I love these ideas!

[@abdiganiali1664]

Can't thank you enough for these tips.

[@mistyblueknight]

Thank you so much for this video!!

[@mycupofcocoa1125]

Great idea pre practicing ❤

[@the_best_videos_here]

Wow, I needed this information.

[@deborahlangton2759]

I was just lamenting over my younger children’s behavior and not knowing how to deal with it. I sit down, open youtube and see your video! Thanks yall

[@wewin1776]

I believe God guided me to your channel. It will help me with my parenting and my teaching to a full classroom of 8 year olds as well! Thank you thank you thank you! Keep up the great work and God bless your family.

[@TypingGirl]

I’m 46 and pregnant with my first and probably my only child. I’ve been wondering how I’m going to parent with all the options out there. I’m so glad I stumbled onto your video here and can’t wait to watch more of your content. This seems very reasonable and doable. Looking forward to learning more and sharing these videos with my husband. Thank you!!

[@thegasparinis3620]

What an amazing way of teaching kids! Never thought about training them, but it makes so much sense 👏🏼

[@alittleheavenonearth]

100❤

[@SC-pf6uz]

My dog is really obedient now after following your training tips. ❤

[@Lydia2792]

These are amazing tips! I am definitely going to implement these in our home because we are struggle with all of these

[@jenncapizzo]

This is so helpful! Thank you!

[@claudiasnowdon628]

This is super helpful! Thank you! If you have a child on the autistic spectrum, he/she will feel supported a lot when knowing what is expected of him/her in certain situations and how to react. Just keep in mind that they should never be expected to look in peoples eyes. So, that would be the exception.

[@stephj4940]

Amazing advice!❤️

[@crazyleaf257]

Love this! Omigosh as a kid I had no idea what my parents expected I wanted to be a good kid and I was to a degree as well as I could without proper guidance from them they were very reactionary. I wouldn't say I'm so much acted out but I didn't do well in school even though I wanted to I didn't have guidance in my schooling and my parents didn't know how to give me tools to learn in my own way

[@aleengaggo3831]

This is really great… Never thought of these ideas… thank you for this 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@andreabazil1185]

Wow! You guys are just so full of knowledge. Thank you for this video, I will be implementing this right away. I love listening to you guys.

[@rachelgarland1881]

You guys are my absolute favorite! Totally unrelated to this video, but Katie, I would LOVE to see more content about how you live such a productive life in your home. You mentioned in past videos that friends will ask you to meet up for a park play date and you’re like, “How do people have time for this?!” And I just want to live such a full, productive life at HOME. Currently I find myself just so bored and I have three very young kids (and just found out I’m pregnant with our fourth). How could I bored?! I would just love to watch and learn from your content about what you do all day to stay busy. Thanks!

[@LysHeaster]

Very very helpful thank you for your wise years ahead of me as a young mom of 2 boys ❤