"It's Not Fair That I AM Fat" RANT

[@tigerlily2519]

She mentioned ice cream which reminded me that I have ice cream in the freezer and now I'm eating ice cream. I think I misunderstood the point of this video

[@jessummerart]

Wow 😂

[@lizardstew]

You gotta eat something special while watching KZbin 😂

[@limlimainoue1131]

Same. The irony isn’t lost on me that I can get hungry by the mere mention of food... in a video about dieting and overeating. Like one time there was a video going on and on about how pasta were over-rated and unhealthy, but all i wanted to do listening to it was making myself a giant bowl of pasta. Horrifying. My brain has a problem with his own brain at this point.

[@DayLee10]

Instructions unclear. Gained five pounds.

[@josephinelindquist8796]

This woman has so many excuses and gets mad when people don't tell her what she wants to here. She needs to go to counseling because there is some underlining issues that is affecting her weight loss journey. She was actually jealous that her husband had more tacos than her. She says she doesn't hate her body but she does.

[@wideride8320]

Once upon a time, I didn't know why I was so fat. Then I started tracking calories and solved that mystery real quick.

[@MsGlitterBombz]

Same 👏

[@lubnan08]

Same!

[@shaylevene6754]

When I started tracking it was a game changer. Didn’t realize how much or how little some things were in calories

[@alexamandes8872]

She said she has counted calories constantly

[@VGobaira]

And I'm not trying to be snippy or anything, but we have to be honest about what we're eating and how much. when we're not honest with ourselves, and trust me, I know about lying to myself. I've been doing it for years, not with food, but with other things, nothing will change, unless we are honest with ourselves. a lot of people don't count alcohol and we all know as Americans that Americans love to drink and are not honest about how much they drink

[@Taywanee]

So many people are in complete denial about how many calories they’re consuming in a day or over estimating how many calories they burn during exercise.

[@nisha405]

One of my friends said she was eating less than 800cal/day. I asked if she was weighing her food. She said,'Hell no! That's too anal!" I didn't say anything after that. But yeah. The miscalculation can get extreme

[@Nopee906]

No. No. No. I was tracking my calories on Cronometer for a year. Logged every bit of exercise. For a year. I lost 15 pounds. In a year. It just happens. I'm happy it's not what you struggle with.

[@pistachioonut6683]

Very much so. It also seems like she's projecting, SHE thinks soda and fast food are the only causes of being overweight. But how much butter and oil does she cook with? What does a portion of rice/potatoes/pasta look like to her? Is she snacking of foods like nut that are healthy but also incredibly calorie dense. She's able to go on a diet and lose 30lb, so likely she's over restricting, doing too much too fast and then slipping into old habits

[@existentialgamer9206]

I must agree. Not to be mean but she’s significantly overweight. something is maintaining it. f she were just a bit overweight I could see feeling like you’re trying and confused. There is SOMETHING missing here because the body and scale doesn’t lie but people do (Dr. Now)

[@matthewtfields8566]

Delulu is not the solulu…

[@Moose92411]

No one ever got fat from one donut, nor did they get lean from one salad. Good, sustainable habits need to be formed and maintained.

[@Lolacopacobanabella]

Yes I agree it has to be a whole life style change to work.

[@Furball891]

It's a common false idea that if you don't eat junk food and go to gym many times a week then your calories in/calories out can't explain your weight. But the truth is that it's extremely easy to overeat on normal food. It's the portion sizes. Someone very close to me is very obese, but doesn't really eat junk food. But their portions are huge. Like a casserole dish that would last me 2 days is one meal for them. But it's not only their portions; I'm short, and people regularly comment that my portions are too small. But if I ate bigger portions, I would get bigger. It surprises people how easily calories add up and how little a very short person needs. And the gym is for muscles. No matter how many times a week you excercise, weight loss happens in the kitchen.

[@LunalPotato]

As a petite girl I feel the pain of watching men eat loads and then having to eat as much as "children" I'm just short! But I would always love to see these people on secret eaters

[@cloudthief8918]

Real. But also, a lot of those men who seem to eat loads work out or lift weights, so they have to eat more anyway. This much applies regardless of sex. I just wish I had the energy to work out lol

[@fifififi3407]

Yess, not only am I 150 cm but also my parents were strict and "traditional" and so they didn't like me going out or doing anything beside school, so I was always at home studying or reading books and I was eating much, and that caused me to gain weight as a child and started a toxic dieting cycle as a teenager. I'm still trying to heal my relationship with food and workout daily, and it's just so triggering to see my brother - who was skinny all his life - eat more than double the amount of that I eat and still remaining thin despite being on his computer 24/7.

[@js__]

Yeah I feel that. That's why I started to eat more vegetables etc. It's more volume for lesser calories, because I don't wanna starve myself😅

[@discordantduck1808]

I mean yeah men have higher metabolic requirements but it's not that much, a few hundred calories at max. It's not like men can fit in an extra McDonald's per day without consequence lol

[@LunalPotato]

@@discordantduck1808 I mean... If you go to a tdee calculator and only change the gender, not height or weight you already get extra 200kcal, then on top of that men are taller (and weigh more) so if you increase either of those you literally do get an extra mcdouble or so (390kcal). Not to mention weekly it is extra 1300 ish calories so if you pig out on one day you won't notice whereas women can't do that (that's two more bigmacs men can eat per week!)

[@eldressemo]

Another important thing for people to do is move around throughout the day. Exercise doesn’t burn as much as people think

[@BrittanyLeavitt]

Yeah just walking more each day will do more for you than working out for 45 minutes 3 times a week. The goal when you need to lose a lot of weight and coming from a sedentary background is increasing your BMR... And you can do that just by getting up and walking more

[@alanbudde8560]

Ive seen some people work out too and really while walking is good for your body in terms of weight loss you gotta do a lot of high intensity exercise to actually burn many calories.

[@eldressemo]

@@alanbudde8560 yes both moving and exercising are important but some people only work out and think that’s enough

[@Dawna-gp1zk]

All cardio helps maintain a healthy weight.

[@Premium_jack]

@@alanbudde8560yes and I wish we were more upfront about it. I just feel like people don’t want to move if they don’t “get” something from it, like weight loss :/ like no! It’s just about health!

[@maryg9218]

People lie to themselves because admitting the truth that it was always THEM who was in their OWN way is too painful to stomach. I lost 90 lbs by counting calories because I finally stopped lying to myself. Is it painful? Yes. But good god you WILL survive it.

[@juliawho]

fr i thought it was so unfair that my friend was “naturally skinny” and then i found out that she’s biking for 3 hours straight every day around the city. I started walking a couple of blocks from uni and thought that i was doing such a great job before realizing that it was barely 6k steps and is kinda average for people🤷‍♀️ in conclusion if you’re not used to daily physical activity it can feel like you’re doing more than you are actually doing. That understanding truly changed something for me. That and being a bit more honest with myself

[@pistachioonut6683]

I was the opposite, I always knew it was me. I ate too much cand and fast food. I just woke up one day and was done with holding myself back and cur it out. I'm down 22lb, 51lb to go

[@KettleBlacktheBat]

That's nice. I counted calories and worked out and my weight never budged. I just became angrier and got headaches every other day. The pounds only dropped when I stopped being so strict about it.

[@laketac]

Amen!💯

[@mikemcmike6427]

@@KettleBlacktheBatyou suspended the laws of thermodynamics? Even IF you have some disease or health issue that affects weight gain. It just means you have to be that much more diligent and possibly in a bigger deficit than someone else to lose weight. Is it fair? Noo that sucks. But that’s just facts and reality:

[@strix_aliana]

This is a video of her giving up. Plateaus happen. That doesn’t mean you STOP. I plateaued and couldn’t get out of it for TWO YEARS!!!! I learned that I had to switch things up and even still nothing happened. So I switched things up again. Nothing. Again. Nothing. I finally found the specific way my body needed to break my plateau (stop over-eating protein and instead eat only the amount I need for MY goals. I went from eating 100+ grams a day to averaging around 60g a day) and I’m finally losing again! And still getting stronger and more toned too!! DO NOT GIVE UP. If I can survive a two year plateau, you can do it!!

[@robintisabird1566]

The same thing happened to me too! You focus so much on hitting protein, the calories skyrocket!

[@ambersoul1]

No she needs to find the right doctor. Unfortunately for women its a crap shoot.

[@julianlaresch6266]

I've been on a plateau now for what feels like over a year. I tried decreasing my deficit in case my body was starving. Didn't work. Now I'm increasing my deficit. It's so frustrating I'm on the verge of developing an ED because I cannot lose the weight. One day at a time.

[@robintisabird1566]

@@julianlaresch6266 I totally understand that! have you tried building more muscle?

[@julianlaresch6266]

@robintisabird1566 I have a lot of lower body muscle from carrying the weight of my body around but I haven't had energy to focus on my upper body strength. I'm also dealing with a chronic pain condition that doesn't help. I recently had a change to my meds that is helping a lot so I think I'll have more energy to work on that.

[@booskie4316]

I have a feeling that she lost weight by controlling her calories, but then never updated her tdee as she lost weight. The more weight you lose, the lower your calorie intake needs to be. Let's say she was 250 and exercised twice a week--she'd need something like 2750 calories to maintain her weight and 2250 to lose at a rate of 1lb/week. Then after losing 30lbs if she did no other changes, her new tdee would be 2550, so her new calorie goal would be 2050. I suggest people adjust their tdee after every 10lbs of weight change for best results. This applies to both gaining and losing weight.

[@Useernaamee]

She said for that day she was at 1500 and usually is below that. I think she's too low for too long.

[@Taywanee]

@@Useernaameethat’s not a thing. Theres no truth to eating too little and not being able to lose weight.

[@Useernaamee]

@@Taywanee you have never Plateaued and it shows.

[@booskie4316]

@@Useernaamee If she was eating the survival minimum of 1300 calories/day and working out as often as she claimed, she'd be on track to lose about 2-3lbs a week. That's faster loss than I'd recommend because it usually leads to binge eating when people crack. If she isn't losing weight then there's either a lie about what she's eating (a lot of people diet during the week and go off the rails on weekends), or she's making large errors in her calorie calculations. The only people who gain weight on 1500/kcal/day are constipated.

[@Schadenfreudeeee]

@@Taywaneeyeah but at that point what amount of calories is low enough. Starving yourself isn’t healthy either.

[@katesicle]

It seems like what she wants is for someone to say “I see, it’s just impossible for you to lose weight! Don’t bother trying anymore then.”

[@Drea_A]

Yep. I swear some people WANT to be the one weight related medical mystery

[@MsGlitterBombz]

Yea it's so annoying. It's disappointing to see someone give up on themselves more than anything

[@aleishab961]

People have asked me for health advice because I'm a coach, and as soon as they pull the "it's literally impossible for me to lose weight" I stop them and say "you don't defy the laws of thermodynamics...." I've been through it and KNOW how hard it can be but people would rather make themselves feel better by making uo their own rules and living in denial. The only people I've been able to help are the ones that admit they are doing something wrong (even if they don't know exactly what or how)

[@alanbudde8560]

absolutely, we've all been there but end of the day the only person youre hurting is yourself

[@callieco_]

Yes exactly. I work out several days per week (nothing crazy, but I have to offset my sedentary job), and staying around 1,575cal per day is a challenge sometimes. Food now is designed to BE GOOD. And to be addictive! But none of it is worth being so miserable and feeling like a failure constantly. Moderation and long term consistency are key.

[@sammypayne07]

I had a friend who was like this. She was logging everything and not "falling off the wagon". She caused burnout with the amount she was work outs she was doing and how few calories she was eating. It transpired that she had PCOS undiagnosed for a decade. Now she has the treatment for PCOS she's now losing the weight! Xx

[@paularoney9068]

Literally exactly what I was thinking to be honest with you! This is my life and I'm now getting some answers!

[@BronzedBeast]

Was her workouts really that intense cause I hate to break it too you I don't believe she was working out more than any trained athlete to even feel burned out. What actually happened is she did a big exercise and she didn't like the pain and over ate cause her body wasn't used to it. Thanks to her PCOS meds she isn't feeling the same hunger she was before and solved her overconsumption issue.

[@sammypayne07]

Yeah, they were. She would originally start to lose weight, and then her body would stop. She would then up the exercise to more and drop the kcals. Thankfully, she moved doctors and noticed what was going on. Apparently, it's a very common side effect of PCOS.

[@gretchengegenheimer5965]

Before I had my weight loss surgery, I felt just like her. Then, even though I thought I was being accurate with my measuring and weighing my food, after my surgery I realized how much food I was actually eating. It blew my mind. I was throwing away so much food and had to really adjust how much I was cooking. When in the midst of it, it doesn’t seem possible that I could be wrong. But my perception of what I was eating was so off!

[@User36-o1w]

I think she probably has a similar issue to that especially if she grew up that way her everyday food might be more than what her body need + she seem to compare herself to her husband which isn’t something she ought to do. Sometimes also some foods don’t work for some ppl. It triggers them to be v hungry. I don’t have insulin resistance yet I get insanely hungry from sugar and artificial sugar even more. A person’s body is so weird

[@alanbudde8560]

Thats fascinating so were you unaware of the calories in the food you were measuring or did you know you were eating a higher baseline? I've never weighed food strictly but for years I read lables religiously and was pretty good at eyeballing portion sizes to the extent now I can kinda guesstimate calories ina lot of stuff, though sauces or very high fat or sugar stuff is still hard to guess but i assume its a lot if it looks like its calorically dense.

[@gretchengegenheimer5965]

@@alanbudde8560i was aware of calories. I was like her. Always tracking, WW, etc. I can’t really explain why because I felt like I would weigh and measure, but my perception about my portions was just way off.

[@BronzedBeast]

​@@gretchengegenheimer5965 that's the confusing part. If you were weighing then you'd know you were overeating. Your app tells you how many calories you consumed. I use Cronometer. If I ate let's say 1lb of pork, it's gonna tell me that's 900 calories and I need to be mindful of that for the day.

[@UncleMikeDrop]

Secret Eaters wants to know her location.

[@gints2766]

Genuinely having someone else follow her around and track her calories for a few days would help so not a bad idea

[@UncleMikeDrop]

@@gints2766 Yep.

[@mikemcmike6427]

@@UncleMikeDropthat show taught me people including myself lie to ourselves as a defence mechanism to transfer blame away from ourselves. I’d weigh out food but find myself grabbing an extra mouthful or two of say chicken and thinking “well it doesn’t count” cause it wasn’t in my measuring cup.

[@boosqueezy2418]

i was gonna say that lol

[@UncleMikeDrop]

@boosqueezy2418 Yep. She is saying many of the things they say. She may even believe it. Also, exercise does not burn nearly as many calories as most people think. A typical 1 mile run for example, could burn as little as 100 calories. Comparatively, a regular glazed donut typically contains 150-to-300 calories.

[@Schadenfreudeeee]

I felt like this lady. Even had an eating disorder like her. I thought I couldn’t lose weight without starving. I thought my weight was unfair until I weighed all my food and counted all my calories and lost 53 pounds. I worked my way up from 5,000 steps a day to 10,000-14,000. When I don’t calorie count my weight stays the same or I gain. It’s very hard work and you have to be strict on yourself. It’s not about appearing healthy to others but actually putting in the work because in the end you’re just cheating yourself.

[@citylemon7832]

💯💯👋🏻

[@Premium_jack]

It’s definitely portion sizes she’s underestimating. I’m glad to hear you figured it out!

[@notimportant123]

FWIW I find that after a few years of calorie counting, you'll naturally regulate enough so you don't have to. I hope this happens for you too!

[@DiMagnolia]

I’m glad she mentioned blood tests she’s gotten done but there still may be more to look into. I was feeling the same way until I got diagnosed with PCOS with severe insulin resistance. Ever since being properly medicated for it and slowly but surely making sustainable lifestyle choices, I have been steadily losing weight and feeling better.

[@shanise2583]

Yup I was this lady and no I was really strict, weighing things out etc BUT I was diabetic and didn’t know it -once medicated I got to see the fruits of my labor!

[@southernbelladonna78]

At 12:45 she says she had 1500 calories, but it's still really bright out according to her video. Looks like 3 p.m. Maybe she is like a lot of us who diet and we keep within our calorie budget all day and then double it at dinner, lol! Just saying. That used to happen to me. I would do awesome all day and then "accidentally" eat 4 pieces of pizza right before bed.

[@unlimitedbug]

To be entirely fair, I live somewhere where it looks that way nearly until 7. I was guilty of the doubling dinner thing you mentioned, but I just don't think there's really any evidence to make an assumption that specific about this lady.

[@stuffroom979]

Yeah nighttime snacks are my worst problem

[@southernbelladonna78]

@@unlimitedbug except that she swears she doesn't eat and is still obese. 🧐 🤔

[@astridm9]

I think deep down she knows she is not consistent enough with her food intake because of mental hurdles. It’s hard to learn how to be consistent. Deluding oneself about food intake is seriously common and kind of easy to do. Being consistent and harshly honest about it is hard at first, but then when you see results you will understand why you didn’t for so long.

[@jessummerart]

Motivation and consistency is very hard to keep up. I know that’s my problem..that’s why my weight goes up and down. And when I lose a good amount.. I get comfortable and I have to start all over again.

[@ambersoul1]

Yeah no you are not in her postion

[@astridm9]

@@ambersoul1 huh? Genuinely what do you mean

[@astridm9]

@@jessummerart yes lol I used to get comfortable at this very specific weight *every time* and plateau and then gain some back. That number had a mental chokehold on me

[@ambersoul1]

@@astridm9 I have been in her postion and very recently. You track everything you cut calories to the point you are so hungry that you feel like you want to throw up and how much weight do you loose? nothing. You exercise to build muscle and cardio fitness it does not help. You talk to your doctor and you are told "we will monitor you" which is doctor speak for you are female and you are on your own. You are getting 'well meaning advice' from every where . nothing fits and everyone tells you it is your fault. All you reall want is someone to tell you what you need to do to loose the weight and keep it off and No. One. Can. Help. All the while everyone side eyes you thinking you are not telling the truth. Every comment here is shaming her and not validating her story. I have been in her shoes. I am in her shoes. You get to the point you just wish you could stop eating completely and quit working so you could run a marathon every day because that is probably what you would need to do to loose weight and keep it off.

[@southernbelladonna78]

Denial is a sad state of mind. Ive been in denial, not about eating but about other things I was doing. Once it clicks, you feel instant humiliation about how dumb and clueless you were about your actions, but it's better than being in denial.

[@boosqueezy2418]

i agree that she is in denial

[@beanspuppets3180]

Kiana Docherty does a lot of those videos where overweight people say that they cannot lose weight and are eating nothing and what they are actually eating. The hidden calories are everywhere and they all always misunderstand how much food they actually eat. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt so bad though, especially with the period problems. :(

[@sapphirek5244]

The thing is, even if it is just hidden calories, she’s missing them very genuinely. It’s one thing to choose to be fully in denial and making it others’ problem, but she’s trying and understands that being big isn’t serving her. Almost everyone is blind to something and we can’t just see what we don’t see, we need help to get there. I think her frustration is the fact that she wants that help and hasn’t gotten the right help yet.

[@Delegans]

I used to feel like this! I would track and measure but the weight stayed. I have pcos and endometriosis I would compare my intake to other people I was so annoyed and frustrated but the truth was that I would I have a “ bad day” that would cancel everything I was doing. I am now in a healthy bmi 200lbs down, I moved into a mostly whole food diet. I am now sugar free, gluten free and don’t eat anything with more than 7 ingredients that I know what they are. I love that you tell people they are capable of accomplishing their goals ♥️ we certainly are

[@Loveless100]

Really grateful for everyone’s comments about their own stories getting over their plateaus. Working through one right now, and while I feel defeated, I’m trying to find what works for me. Sending lots of love to my fellow plateau peeps. ❤

[@lilyhendrickson255]

You're stilll sick :( I'm sorry John. I had a nasty sickness a few weeks ago. I hope you recover well. Also, I just want to thank you for providing motivation for me in a form of entertainment to keep me focused while listening. even while sick. thank you.

[@Alina-kj2zw]

So is she saying she only eats like 1500 calories a day and staying that weight? NOT PHYSICALLY POSSIBLE

[@boosqueezy2418]

exactly

[@absw6129]

I wish my car worked like that. Imagine not using up gasoline regardless of how much you drive

[@phantombigballs8165]

She's on the 4500 calorie "1500" diet

[@Critical_Stinking]

She missed a zero

[@kerisallee3038]

Yup. The math in not mathing.

[@tutumomo5167]

I feel for her. She needs a hug. She’s also at times exposing that she has some areas of opportunity

[@Sunshine-zk1st]

You are such a comfort person to me. Thank you

[@kaybezzy3]

I recently lost 40 pounds and after 30 I noticed that my calories changed drastically in lose it. My body is also now used to the exercises I’ve been doing so I’m having to change it up to get back to losing. I don’t think some people realize you have to constantly switch things up and regularly check your TDEE to make sure you’re still in a deficit.

[@MsGlitterBombz]

Agreed! I was at a plateau for a couple of months and got frustrated so I just adjusted what I was doing and what do ya know, lost another 10lbs. So this lady saying oh I did stuff and it worked ...but then she stopped? Yea that's the problem right there like-

[@kaybezzy3]

@@MsGlitterBombz right! I get frustrated with people when they say they just can’t lose weight. There’s clearly something you’re doing that’s keeping you from losing even just 1 pound. One of the biggest things is probably the food they’re not logging. I used to have small little treats snuck in here and there and thought “oh it’s just 1 cookie it won’t kill me” but if you do that a couple times a day you’re having a meals worth of cookies by the end of it. I feel for her because I can tell how frustrated she is but let’s get real.

[@whitepeach214]

Yup, I started off at 1700 for my deficit and now had to cut back to 1450 in order to even lose a pound a week. The thinner you are the less you need to consume and it can be frustrating, my weight loss has definitely slowed down since the beginning

[@Hazyisasigmagirl]

Yep I’m going through this rn losing 100lbs. The first 40 came off in 4 months. Once that 40 came off it completely stopped. I have to be very perfect w my 1550 calories and I’m only losing 1lb a week now. 1lb is better than not losing! But I could’ve easily given up and said oh this doesn’t work, but I’d just stay fat and complainy like this woman.

[@lorencarpenter8374]

10:56 I know what you’re taking about. Instead of severally cutting calories all day long, I found out that it’s easier to fast for majority of the time and eat a regular meal when it is time to eat. That way I’m not snacking all day and feeling like I’m starving the whole time. I get to eat a full meal, feel satisfied, at least once a day.

[@ozsheila55]

I prefer a few small meals every day. My stomach has shrunk so I don't like overeating now.

[@lorencarpenter8374]

@@ozsheila55 I’m not saying over eat. I’m saying that I get to eat a full meal. I get to feel satisfied and that I’ve had enough. A lot of the time I don’t even finish it because I am used to fasting and my stomach has shrunk. You’ve found what works for you! That’s what he was talking about :) if you do something that’s too restrictive in your mind’s eye, then it’s not sustainable long term. You’ll cave at some point

[@BronzedBeast]

I couldn't do that. I have high hunger hormones so if I ate small meals I would feel like I ate nothing at all. So what I do is eat 1 every 24 hours. Just one huge meal that's roughly 1500cals. That strategy has saved me and the only time I actually feel starving now is when I'm at work lol

[@apatheticpanda182]

I like to do that too. Eating my calories in bulk for me Is much easier because small meals would just keep me unsatisfied

[@definit1on119]

I’ve lost 90lb by tracking what I eat. It’s very hard and takes allot of work. You may be in a deficit for a few months and in a few weeks completely mess that up. It has to be consistent over time. Consistency is 👑

[@Margatatials]

My Dad was recently put on the lung transplant weight list, in order to be eligible he had to loose 20kg, when he tells his overweight friends how he did it they baulk or say "i couldn't do that" its incredible what you can do when your life is on the line.

[@Faerydae7979]

thats BS that WLS is an easy way out, you STILL have to WORK OUT and Watch your CALORIES, its hard work and id do it AGAIN!! 180 lbs down NO REGRETS

[@sasharobloxwolfpackfanclub9364]

I think it’s even harder actually because of going through surgery and having to heal from that I was to afraid of surgery so I just ate white fish and spinach 3 times a day until I reached my goal weight of 175 was 306 at the start of

[@Faerydae7979]

@@sasharobloxwolfpackfanclub9364 CONGRATZ!! i know how hard it is , i was nervous about wls but my dr was great and all of the staff made me feel safe,it was the best thing i ever did for myself

[@valerieodonnell6764]

I haven’t gone through WLS but it’s a pet peeve of mine when people think it’s a short cut, “cheat”, or easy way. It shows their ignorance about how it works. It’s not magic. It’s helpful. You still have to eat fewer calories than you burn. Good job on the 180 lbs. Don’t let anybody make you feel you didn’t earn it.

[@erlandaislund4594]

I watched a lot of documentarys about obesety and weightloss surgerys. And i'm still baffeld how many people think it is a magic fix and after the surgery you can "just eat what you want".

[@allmyducksinarow]

It’s a horrific surgical procedure and the aftercare is even worse. I feel for anyone that has to do it. I would truly rather diet and exercise, easier and less painful. Anyone that says it’s an easy way out likely has never struggled with their weight.

[@epowell4211]

I was obese, had a wreck that disabled me so I had to use aids (wheelchair/walker/etc) to get around, and the looks of disgust I got from people at the grocery - one of the few chores I could do for my family - nearly had me in tears on more than one occasion. The fact that, multiple times, some self righteous witch felt the need to say something about the contents of my grocery cart - always an item requested by my husband - made me really want to never go in a store again. If delivery or pick up had been an option then, I never would have. I tend to be an optimist, give benefit of the doubt to everyone until proven otherwise, and when she said how long she had been dieting and exercising, my first thought was, "omg, have you seen a doctor? something must be wrong with you!" but that thought was immediately replaced with "she's lying somewhere - to herself when she accounting for her intake, or here." When I started tracking with an easy to use app, I started noticing all the times I would instinctually go for food and the only thing stopping me was I was too lazy to record it. A little taste of something here and there - no, that one bite won't undermine your efforts, but the fact you take a dozen bites a day will. Recently had an eye opener when I realized that not all of my sugar free drink mixes/supplements were 0 calorie - one actually has 50 calories! Again, one little 5 calorie water flavoring isn't going to derail you, but drinking 5 or more a day, with that sweetness and acidity actually making you feel more hunger, is contradictory to being accountable for your intake. It sucks that it takes no effort at all to get obese - it's quick and easy like sliding down a mountain easy, but losing an excessive amount of weight is so freaking hard with so little positive feedback along the way. IDC about all those ads saying "lose 10lbs and it's like 20lbs off your knees" or whatever it says, chances are (if you're extremely obese) you won't feel a difference until you lose 50 or more lbs, and no one may notice a difference until you lose even more than that. I remember going to church, so proud of receiving my 75lb loss charm at WW, even though no one there had noticed I was even trying to lose weight. All that pride went into the trash when I overheard them asking a normal size woman if she'd lost weight and she beamed and said, "Yes! 8lbs!" Ma'am, I could lose 8lbs in boob sweat in a day. That is so not fair. I lost about 100lbs before people started noticing I'd lost weight, but once I'd lost 140, they started noticing if I lost more than 5 lbs. Where was all that encouragement when I thought it would never happen? I'm 30 months into my weight loss/ fitness journey, have at least another 40lbs to go, and I know, because of my relationship with food, I will have to follow my eating plan for the rest of my life. Alcoholics don't get to stop avoiding alcohol, addicts don't get to stop avoiding drugs, and I don't get to stop exercising control over my food choices. I am so glad I started out my journey with the promise to not make changes I couldn't live with - if I couldn't see myself doing it for the next 20 years, it wasn't an option. I didn't set a goal to lose X lbs, either. My goal was to get stronger and build muscle mass - something that can actually show as weight gain. I figured if I did that, it would increase my metabolism and endurance, and weight loss would naturally follow or at least be easier to achieve. I committed to 3 days a week, 1 hour of exercise (walking and strength training), and in over 2.5 years, I've only missed a handful of days. Most weeks, I exercise 4 or 5 days, and I'm always at the gym 2hours or more, but knowing that 3 x 1 is all I *have* to do, makes it so much easier. As for diet, no foods are forbidden, but mindlessly eating is. I do have a calorie target, fat and carb budget that I try not to exceed, but focus more on reaching my protein, fiber, and food diversity goals (getting foods from every food group). Seeing my food as fuel by looking at the macros, changed my relationship with it. Knowing that, while I may enjoy the convenience of grabbing a burger at Sonic on my way home from the gym, it barely makes a dent in my protein goals, I will have to eat a ton of veg when I get home to even start to feel full, and I can't have any fats at all for the rest of the day - how can I get my protein in then? - makes me drive on by. Anyone who thinks weight loss surgery is "the easy way out" has no clue. The super restrictive, liquid only for a long time, diet is so restrictive that it could be considered a war crime. The amount of time they will have to spend thinking about food - about getting in their water and their nutrition - daily for months or years after is insane. The amount of restriction they will have to live with to keep the surgery from failing requires the dedication of an athlete. Add to all this, it's MAJOR EFFING SURGERY, on your freaking digestive system!! It will take a year just to recover from that alone! I've had surgeries on other parts of my body and hated recovery so much that, despite all the loose skin I have now and will have at the end of my weight loss journey, I can't see myself having it surgically removed - just can't see it being worth the recovery process at my age (55).

[@smugandsmarmy]

Because she said she’s had uterine problems, I’m going to say this: the medical establishment is still woefully behind the times on anything having to do with abnormal female reproductive issues. I don’t know how many women I know who were told that they were fine and nothing was wrong only to either give up and get sicker than sh*t OR to finally find a doctor who looks just a millimeter deeper and finds an actual issue that is actively going on. I hope she finds a better medical team bc there very well may be something going on. Editing to add: I’m not at all disagreeing with anything John is saying here. Just talking about a suspicion I have about this particular case.

[@martipotato431]

I'll say another thing as well, as someone that suspects I might have PCOS (two of my sisters have it): I feel unreasonably hungry sometimes. Not because I haven't eaten enough, but because it's getting near my period and my head screams at me to eat anything and everything. It's really quite easy to snack a bunch and think "I'm not eating that much." A lot of times you aren't eating huge quantities either, but if it's the wrong food then you're quickly way over. This is especially true if you are short. Plus, healthy doesn't always = low calorie. Think about nuts for example, they're healthy, but not low calorie. I think most people are lying to themselves, though they probably do also have issues that make it harder. I'm not saying that to be mean to anyone, I just wish people would believe in themselves and their power to change things.

[@BronzedBeast]

​@@martipotato431I feel you. I have increased hunger hormone so I'm always starving. It hurts a lot. I was obese by quite a bit because I intuitively ate. Now I track all my calories as a reminder that I'm not starving. I ate my maintenance. I deal with the issue with coke zero or water. It somewhat helps me think I'm not hungry

[@dreamerlotus]

Firstly, John I hope you get well soon. Get plenty of rest! Secondly, this woman's frustration is something that so many feel. I hope that her airing this online has made her feel a bit better. It is so easy to feel like a failure when your whole adult life is trying and not succeeding over and over. We don't know enough information to offer proper advice (what work outs is she doing, what her calories in and out are) but she could probably benefit from introducing an activity she doesn't resent into life. Like walking/hiking/hockey/rugby etc.

[@ChronicallyAmused]

That's good advice. My mom always used to say that you should do something you enjoy and that you will keep doing it.

[@BronzedBeast]

Here's some advice the amount she's eat, she needs to cut it in half. Her body looks like she's eating 4k+ a day. True that may not be the case. Maybe she eats 2k one day and 6k another day. Doesn't matter. All that matters is she is overeating well over double what she needs if not triple

[@Rmc-123]

I did the same as her for YEARS!! I tried everything and would lose some, but gain more and I would gain it fast! I finally found a Dr who cared to look deeper into my health rather than telling me I am fat and to lose weight. Finally a Dr found out I have autoimmune disease/thyroid problems and thyroid cancer. After fixing all that and going on meds to regulate my hormones I started getting energy back and started losing some. Then my Dr suggested bariactric surgery. She said with thyroid issues it's an uphill battle and to get to a healthy weight she suggested I take drastic action. I'm one year post gastric bypass and 111 pounds down! I feel so much better!! It wasn't hard for me because I was already eating healthy! I eat the same portion I did prior to surgery. I finally realized I wasn't crazy. My body needed the extra help. I'm down to 138 pounds but do want to maintain at 140.

[@trackydoo]

I have been battling my weight since I was 10 years old. I am 36. My problem is, deep down I don't want to give up my junk food binges. That's why I'll do so good for a while. I'll lose some weight, but then I keep going back to the food. It's like getting high. I want to be healthy. I want to lose weight. But I developed an extreme attachment to food to deal with my trauma starting at the age of 4. That's something that feels impossible to fight against. But unlike this woman (who I feel for and I understand her pain) I know exactly why I'm still fat. Because at the end of the day I haven't given myself another way to deal with my issues, so I keep going back to the over eating. I guarantee she frequently gets frustrated and goes back to the food.

[@catladydimitrescu]

I appreciate commentary like this so much. Where many responses are mean spirited, unhelpful, and even hateful, this channel shows empathy and understanding while still rooting for you to change and grow.

[@megc3001]

Im 55 and its taken me 4 years to lose 40 lbs. I work out 6 to 7 days a week, weight training and cardio. I emphasize protien in my diet. My doctor blames menopause. The thought of having to keep this up to stay at the weight im stuck with is truly disheartening.

[@BronzedBeast]

Your doc is full of crap. Your weight is based on how many calories you intake vs burn. The menopause could be making you hungrier and having small period of over eating or all this exercise is making you over eat and counteract all the calories you just burned. It doesn't matter. I noticed you said high protein but you didn't mention low calorie. That needs to be apart of your diet

[@standdownrobots_ihaveoldglory]

I’m thin due to illness but sometimes forget & think I’m thin. Started tracking my steps. Omg 10k is wayyyyy more than I thought. Working out 4 days a week is just baseline fitness that most of us need to work toward, but likely won’t move weight loss along

[@Natalie.D]

Weight loss happens in the kitchen. Even on anti-obesity meds and after weight loss surgery. I yo-yoed for years on diets in the overweight and obese ranges. My last straw and wake up call was having a heart attack. I finally got referred to a preventative cardiologist who prescribed me a glp1. With wegovy and diet and exercise, I lost 70 lbs and moved from obese to a normal bmi. Even more important, I reduced my average blood pressure and therefore reduced the dosage of my blood pressure meds and cholesterol meds. I was on the road to getting a sleep study, and getting diagnosed with sleep apnea. I now no longer need to wear a cpap 8 hours a day strapped to my face. I was on the road to diabetes, and now have a healthy a1c not even close to diabetes. It’s really not about just the pros and cons of the drug or surgery, it’s thinking about what happens with me if I remain obese and do nothing (or do what I’ve always done - yo-yo dieting). That was a risk I could no longer afford. I’ve been successfully maintaining my weight for 6+ months with the help of wegovy.

[@Emmuzka]

There should be a tv show where all the obese people who say that they can't help it (and who are accused for lying), would check in in a medical center for a month and eat only monitored. NOT Secret eaters, because it's premise is that everyone lies, but a show that would investigate just how little or sensibly person can eat and STILL not lose weight, of how much their weight loss can differ with excately the same parameters.

[@strategicsage7694]

This is something that really has been studied extensively. Not on a TV show, but under far better and more controlled circumstances. Short version is: the overwhelming majority of people who think they are counting their calories accurately, aren't and are underestimating what they eat and/or not tracking everything, and also that there is some metabolic variance between people but not a great deal and people who think they have super-low metabolism, don't actually unless there's some extreme and rare medical condition going on. You can predict by someone's weight with a very high degree of accuracy a reasonable range of calories for them to eat and consistently lose weight.

[@amyhale5109]

It’s really hard when you generally eat well to lose weight i totally feel her pain. I eat mostly home cooked vegan meals and i just have to accept that i can’t eat to fullness because i will gain weight. I have to just be a little hungry all the time and it’s mentally so hard

[@ZijnShayatanica]

​@@amyhale5109 This is where I'm at, after turning 30 & starting Testosterone. ESPECIALLY after starting T because it makes me feel so much hungrier than I did before. I'm still trying to tackle the plateau I hit last year, where I finally stopped gaining, but damn is it hard. 🫤

[@member925]

I feel for her. I really really do. I have struggled with my weight my entire life and been on every diet under the sun since I was 11. And yet now, at 40 years old I'm the heaviest I've ever been. And I think, how? That math ain't mathin. But I also recognize and have come to accept that I have a food addiction. And the American food industry is doing everything in its power to make sure I fail. Insulin resistance is REAL. Sugar addiction is REAL. It has never been so easy in the history of the world to be fat. Thankfully there are options now for those of us that have struggled, ie GLP-1 meds and such...but first you have to come to terms with Jesus and admit to yourself that you have a problem. And you didn't get fat eating in a calorie deficit and working out 4 days a week.

[@mmanda515]

Yep, yep & same. Never realized just how much things in the grocery store have changed. Things are NOT made the same as when we were kids, etc. ONLY when I cut out ultra processed things did I nearly immediately start feeling the differences. Talk about a savings at the grocery store too. When not buying all the crap, chemicals, seed oils & hidden sugars INTENDED to keep us addicted to, sick, BUYING MORE... shopping is easy & after the first week of literal withdrawals, everything changes. I've been doing any meats, seafood, bacon, butter, eggs, quality salt & a cup of coffee in the mornings + water. Life.. changing in every way & labs, never better... no meds anymore either. Win, win, win. Even the dr. is blown away. :)

[@blubaughmr]

Low calorie density low glycemic index foods are the key. It takes a few weeks to months to transition successfully.

[@alanbudde8560]

Absolutely all that. You nailed it.

[@ozsheila55]

Overly processed foods are the problem. The closer you can get to fresh food the better.

[@BronzedBeast]

You really don't need Ozempic. If you wanna take it go for it. It's a cop out though cause unfortunately you can't control yourself. You need an exterior medication to curb your hunger. I'm glad you understand why you're big but I also want you to understand you can lose weight without ozempic. It's just a bit harder.

[@Irishczech]

There are hidden calories/eating happening

[@Cara.s_Life_Is_Pink]

I bet she forgot to include oil she uses to cook, or is having little bits here and there that she's not recording (like they do on secret eaters)

[@moony-_-.]

I agree 10 years ,4 days a week of exercise, AND calorie counting but you’re still not seeing any change the problem is looking at her in the mirror

[@reccyre]

​@Cara.s_Life_Is_Pink yeah like there's a difference between ghee and seed oils. Pancakes made with butter is different to pancakes made with cooking oil.

[@jessummerart]

I totally feel her pain. It is frustrating, but I know that after I lose I get comfortable or I’m just tired of the same diet or I just want to eat what I want and I gain again. It’s really something that has to be consistent and for us we just can’t get comfortable.. we have to keep an eye out on how much we are taking in constantly especially if we’re not moving as much.

[@LeeBee00]

Well said! Can totally relate to this.

[@jessummerart]

@@LeeBee00 😊

[@vegascharles]

I was 300 pounds 5 years ago, discovered fasting and lost 160 pound in 16 months. When i was heavy i truly had no idea how much i was eating throughout the day. Fasting rewired my brain and i realized back when i was fat i was eating when i was bored, sad, or as a distraction. The reality is...a person like her needs 1800 calories to maintain herself. If she is very active, 2500 calories. She has to be eating 4000 calories a day by eating 3 or 4 meals, snacking, high calorie drinks. It adds up fast. If she was truly only eatibg 1521 calories and being moderately active on her farm she would be losing weight

[@AuralayKristine]

Oof this is so me--I do great for a few days, then I just completely fall off (usually on the weekend) and I'm POSITIVE I'm more than eating back any deficit I built up during the week. I have been gaining steadily for the last 10 months, and right now the only good thing I can say is I've slowed it down. But I'm trying to learn to cook so I can volume eat and be less hungry all the time.

[@Meggaaaaa]

Good luck! Volume eating is the best and has helped me lose. If you can learn to make actually yummy salads with protein +add some crunchy potatoes… game changer! And sweet smoothies (banana or raspberry + cocoa powder and yoghurt) that really helps with sweet cravings 😋

[@GOLTEB]

Ive worked in a bariatric clinic and worked with super morbidly obese patients, most claim they have some sort of condition but if we place them in a controlled environment they will lose weight immediately almost instantly. Sometimes they underestimate their calorie consumption, it's literally impossible not to lose weight, sure some are faster than others but you will lose weight

[@unseenmolee]

7:43 im dealing with this exact train of thought, its utterly soul crushing to feel like everything is working against you. im not overweight but i do struggle w disordered eating, mostly stemming from intense health issues. everyday is a new battle i have to fight, i get thru it because ik this isnt all my life will be, but its so hard to have hope sometimes, fuck... it is oddly comforting to hear other ppl struggling w similar things, not that i have any ill will, but just because ik im not alone. im not being punished by some divine being, im just struggling to deal w my depression and health issues... as awful as it is i can push thru the pain to see a better day

[@ozsheila55]

I struggled with my weight & yoyo diets for years. Until I got happier in myself & forgot the scales it all just fell off.

[@schneewitschen101]

As a recovering binge purge anorexic, IMO one taco is not nearly enough. I had to get it good and through my head if I eat properly now, I won’t be as susceptible to binging later.

[@MusikGirl23]

Good luck with your recovery! I’m 5+ years in now, and although temptations to relapse exist, it does get easier.

[@theirmanager5204]

Took me a very long time to learn the same. Congratulations on your ongoing recovery. Many happy years of success to you.

[@allmyducksinarow]

Same here! One taco is ridiculous. Same with most serving sizes!

[@BronzedBeast]

A serving size is just based on a set amount of grams. Like a serving size of any chip related snack is always 28g or 1 ounce. It's meaningless. Just eat what you want while being mindful of your limit.

[@jukeboxxx11]

Feel better, John! I know it’s hard to take even a little time off with KZbin and the algorithm grind, but I hope you know your subscribers want you to take care of yourself even if it means we have to wait longer for a video! 😊

[@hydra70]

If you consistently eat at a calorie deficit over time, there are only two possible outcomes: 1) Reduction in body mass 2) Immediate death Any other outcome violates the first law of thermodynamics. No violation of the first law has ever been observed. People don't just drop dead from a calorie deficit unless they are already severely underweight, so if you are overweight, the outcome of a consistent deficit over time will be a reduction in body mass. There is no other possibility. This doesn't mean very much in practice, but it's important to keep it in mind to keep yourself grounded. The hard truth is that if you aren't losing weight, then you aren't in a deficit. Once you internalize that, you can finally take the steps needed to actually be in a deficit and finally lose the weight. In practice, I've found these are the most common reasons people aren't in a deficit when they think they are: 1) Overestimating calorie burn from exercise. This is a big one. Some people *dramatically* overestimate. The calorie burn that it shows on the treadmill is total nonsense. Your exercise probably burns way less than you think it does. In my opinion, it's best not to factor in exercise at all when you are calculating your budget. 2) Not updating your budget as you lose weight. The less you weigh, the lower your basal metabolic rate will be, and the more efficient your movement will be, which makes point 1 even worse. You need to periodically reevaluate your budget as your weight decreases 3) Not counting snacks or cheat meals or cheat days. I've found it shockingly easy to eat 5000+ calories on a cheat day, which basically wipes out the progress of the rest of the week. Or you might ignore that one snack cause it was only like 100 calories, except it was actually 200, and you actually had a 200 calorie snack 5 times today. 4) Not counting condiments, sauces, dressings, toppings, etc. When I switched to a higher protein diet as I started to lift weights, I hit a plateau for a month before realizing that I was pouring 500 calories of oil into the pan whenever I would cook chicken. Those "little things" add up fast.

[@Lau3464l]

I feel for her. I’ve definitely been there. I was only able to start losing weight when I upped my daily calories to around 2300 calories from 1200. And that’s because at 1200, I was miserable, stressed, sleeping poorly, and ultimately binging regularly because I couldn’t control myself once I “let loose.” 2300 seemed like so much but then I realized it was actually an amount that satiated me and I stopped having intense cravings, stopped binging, slept better, and had energy to move more throughout the day. It was still more calories than my “healthy weight” permits but it was a great deficit compared to what my weekly averages ended up being.

[@discordantduck1808]

key to note that this works when you are honest with tracking your calories and you stick to it, if you go rewarding yourself with "cheat days" and lie about what 2300 actually means you'll just run into the same problems. this is why it worked for you and didn't for her.

[@allmyducksinarow]

Absolutely. Idk where this 1200 nonsense came from but it’s dangerous and ineffective for almost everyone.

[@BronzedBeast]

Don't say you were eating 1200 when you say you're binging. Cause right there you just admitted to eating way more than 1200

[@BronzedBeast]

​@@allmyducksinarowbecause people are so clueless. It truly is incredible. They think a diet is something they do for a bit and go back to normal. Not realizing a diet is a life style change and it needs to be something you love. If you don't love your style you won't keep it

[@meganracoon]

Gosh, watching this was like watching my past self. I was in her same boat and I was quite literally pulling my hair out. My weight was holding me back from starting a family, from getting proper medical treatment. No one should have to go to 5 different doctors before they are taken seriously and get a diagnosis instead of just being repeatedly told to lose weight. I did decide to get weight loss surgery because I was approaching the very real possibility of having my ovaries removed (not related to my weight, but we wanted to start a family and my weight was holding me back from my fertility in that regard.) It was the best thing I ever did for myself, even though in the end other medical issues prevented me from being able to start a family. Having the surgery was also eye opening for me in the way I realized how much I told my self unintentional lies and did exactly what you describe. Which is have days I ate 1000, maybe 800 calories and then had two or three days of binge eating and drinking a month where I would eat and drink all those calories I skipped out on over the week. My activity, mobility and energy had only ever allowed me to move just enough but never enough to make a difference in my weight UNTIL I started losing the weight. Before being approved for surgery I had to go to therapy for binge eating, and see a nutritionist for a year. That changed my life more then the surgery, but the surgery allowed me to lose the weight quickly enough to give me a fighting chance for my goals. I hope she cand find the same kind of peace and balance in life I have.

[@BronzedBeast]

If you're running through 5 different doctors and they all say the same thing what were you expecting? You ended up NEEDING to lose weight anyways. Weight loss was the most practical and obvious solution to implement and AFTER the weight-loss those same 5 doctors would of been still looking into you. For any and all reasons. To act dumb like weight wasn't one of the issues is incredible. I know I'm being harsh but seriously what do you want to be told? It's like trying to write an argumentative essay and when you have to cite sources that support your argument you have to sift through the hundreds that's debunking your argument for the one article that supports yours. God this is as silly as flat earthers. Listen I hope you're doing okay though and I'm glad the 6th doctor realized you were crazy and would of left of they said weight so they looked for the second other solution and manipulated you into losing weight

[@emilyosler6664]

This woman seems genuine in her story and frustration...she's not necessarily making excuses but obviously there must be something wrong she's doing or there might be an underlying condition that hasn't been detected?

[@tayaprince5316]

This sounds insensitive, but if throwing up after eating makes you lose weight, that means that you would lose weight by not overeating as well. Obviously, an ED is not the solution to weight problems. But eating less would be. (Edited for spelling)

[@ajqueen31]

She said she was at 1500kcal that day so far, and I bet she has another meal to go. There's also factoring in, you can eat a LOT of healthy foods, and "diet" foods, and still be in a caloric surplus if portion control isn't accounted for.

[@JohnNathanShopper]

Please don’t take this the wrong way, but sometimes the raspy voice is serendipitously awesome! Obese to “I am Batman.”

[@emyywolf]

I learned that if you want to eat more. Exercise more. You don’t have the calorie expenditure to eat so much. You’re not an athlete

[@visnjica30]

She is not a medical mystery. So, she's lying to herself about calorie intake. Simple.

[@boosqueezy2418]

bingo

[@MyWitsEnd190]

My best friend was like this girl. No matter what she did, she kept slowly gaining and couldn't get it off. Her active life put mome to shame. At first, they thought she had a thyroid problem. Then, they found she had a severe case of PCOS. She went to a nutritionist who specializes in PCOS based nutrition. It's been 1 year, and I swear she works twice as hard as the average person, but she's down 75lbs ❤ She's more active with her kids, and she understands this is for life and she will always have to adjust. I encourage every woman who is doing everything right and not losing to get your thyroid and reproductive organs checked.

[@blairsanne]

I’m not a doctor but I would think that having an ED for years in high school might have impacted her body in some ways. I have seen a lot of advice never to eat under your TDEE because it impacts your metabolism long term, though again I’m not very educated on this. I just wonder if that could be a factor.

[@powderandpaint14]

Yes also EDs are always a sign of deeper emotional issues so looking at what lead to her developing an ED in the first place would probably be important for her.

[@lindanj9830]

I would agree, my background is clinical nutrition (years and years ago). I saw patients who had dieted their entire life look like this woman, they go on crash diets and break down their muscles as well as tricking their body into starvation mode, we need muscles to burn calories. And with an ED the hormones are affected too. You can eat everything in moderation really, if foods are forbidden they become a focus, so the problem is both physical and psycological.

[@Gna_d54]

That's strange advice though because if you genuinely need to lose weight, especially as a girl with conditions that make it harder to move the scale, then you have to eat under your TDEE. The problem isn't people eating under their maintenance but people being on a deficit and then binging every few days, effectively wiping out their deficit. People who are actually monitored always lose weight on a calorie deficit.

[@lindanj9830]

@@Gna_d54 I would probably start with adding weightlifting to my exercise routine to build muscles, adjust my food intake to make sure I got good proteins, essential fat and complex carbs. Then with established exercise routines I would cut a moderate number of calories from my daily food intake - this is not a diet but for life, so no elimination of good fats, or complex carbs, and then the hard part - stick with the routines. Even if you decide on gastric bypass or ozempic you still need to have the right lifestyle to start.

[@BronzedBeast]

​@@lindanj9830you're a liar lol! Sorry to say this but this woman hasn't dieted before. Starving yourself one day and bingeing the next isn't a diet. Also the fact you mentioned starvation mode speaks volumes. That doesn't exist. Your body doesn't hold onto fat and break down muscle. That defeats the purpose of fat. Here's how your body works. First you use up your glycogen reserves. This is any sugars in the body. Next you start to burn body fat. Doesn't matter how fast. Now true your muscles may shrink because there's no calories going to maintain them, if you resistance train and eat enough protein despite still being in a huge deficit, you will retain your muscle. Just not build any. After your body gets to 3%bf that's when your body stops the fat reserve and starts catabolizing your muscles. Now there is a cause where if you stop eating completely after a few days you'll enter ketosis and if you're still not eating you will slow down and won't burn as much calories. You're not producing any fat. You're burning it still. It's just now you're too sleepy to burn the regular amount

[@Chelseabee55]

I feel every bit of her pain. It feels like showing up at work every day and not getting paid.

[@OmahaTonyG]

My wife is one of these people who thinks that she can’t lose weight naturally. She would work out three times a week, but a slow 20 minute walk on the treadmill isn’t gonna burn any calories. She would diet. Her diet consisted of her going extreme for four days and then binging on the fifth. She claimed to be able to count calories. She never looked at the nutrition information on the food, and she never measured or weighed her food. She ate out at fast food and restaurants for 75% plus of her meals. This is the way that the majority of these people diet. They have no clue about nutrition or fitness and then they wonder why it doesn’t work.

[@blablaklabautermann7578]

You seem frustrated about that

[@J-GL34S0N]

​@@blablaklabautermann7578 he's stating facts. You seem triggered

[@mikiturner]

@@blablaklabautermann7578 That's a weird reply. His comment is totally accurate.

[@blablaklabautermann7578]

@@J-GL34S0N no not triggered by any means. Just interested. Interested why someone would write online in such detail about their wife's flaws. I thought that he might be frustrated about the situation (which would be understandable).

[@blablaklabautermann7578]

@@mikiturner was just my initial thought. Might be weird, that's okay ^^ But nome of us can say if his comment is accurate as we do not know him or his wife. But it also doesn't matter.

[@JS-mg1mk]

When you tell people like this the obvious truth (youre not accurately tracking your calories, lady), they act like you didnt listen to anything they said. "Didnt you hear me?! I AM tracking my calories!" "Um, no youre not. Not accurately because if you were you would have lost weight." The answer is so obvious but you cant say it without sounding like an inconsiderate jerk.

[@helenelittmann8875]

My understanding is that having metabolic issues with pre diabetes can make weight loss more complicated, unless you really go low carb? I'd also add that when you are heavier you are inevitably moving more slowly than a trim fit person. So burning less calories from your walk or just your day

[@BronzedBeast]

When you're having metabolic issues it's still a cause of eat less. If you're skinny at 1600 calories a day then eat that. Don't eat more or less. Then move more. You will force your body to burn those calories

[@rrooster8218]

I clicked on this video so fast because I (DonMom) wrote comments under both of her tiktok rants that I think closely line up with your views. I wish her escape from the crazy pressure. She talks a lot about how everyone has a "Hollywood" idea of her being fat: assuming she stuffs herself with junk etc. Then I saw a video of her trying to prove she is trying by showing how she chokes down protein coffee with chia and flax seed (instead of junk or sodas). Chokes down is a clue there. So I wrote on her second rant that this is a "Hollywood" idea of weightloss. She doesn't have to "choke down" anything she doesn't like especially if she fell for lists of "superfoods". It hurts me she is making herself so crazy instead of being consistent and NICE to herself. I feel for her. I've been there and ugh.

[@sandrastevens411]

I don’t think that bariatric surgery is the easy way out. You still have to be careful with what you eat and lead a healthy lifestyle

[@snowwhitecupcakes272]

I have been an individual who at 5’7 and 230lbs could only consume 1390 calories or else I would gain. I have no thyroid, had metabolic disease. It wasn’t fair and it sucked. Despite knowing and being frustrated that other people could eat six tacos and I could eat just one, it was still my responsibility to do something. Life isn’t fair. Some of us can really only consume a small amount of calories. I was also tracking and weighing everything. I do believe a small amount of people really are tracking and not losing…so I did what I needed to lose weight. I had gastric bypass surgery. Was it fair? Nope! But it was my responsibility to do what I needed to be healthy.

[@ms.diva0079]

Going through perimenopause and discovering estrogen dominance was affecting so much of my life; I had to work with a nutritionist; a GYN and my regular doctor to regulate my hormones and eat in a way that reduced cortisol. There were certain foods that I had to eliminate Because they were causing inflammation in my body. Not all calories affect the female body in the same way when I changed over to eliminating certain vegetables and all grains, but still eating in the same caloric way. A lot of inflammation left my body and a lot of water weight and we slowly introduced foodthat I could tolerate, but it took a while for my body to regulate itself so that no matter what the caloric source; I would not have inflammation in my body which contributed to my hormonal imbalance

[@KiKi-tf8rv]

This is SO important. People do not realize how much hormones affect your weight regardless of the calories. Finding the right food and/or hormonal treatment can take a very long trial and error process.

[@TaraLonergan]

I feel for this woman, she seems genuine and I can relate to trying many things and not being able to keep weight off. I'm on a "restricted" diet now but it feels like freedom to me. I enjoy my food and I don't have to count calories anymore and I'm seeing results. Finally dropping below my stubborn plateau and continuing past it for the first time in my adult life without fasting for long amounts of time. Some people gain weight easily. And our food isn't engineered for optimum health.

[@m3redgt]

I see the frustration.. but at the end of the day it's simple physics Matter doesn't just materialize from thin air that's just not how thermodynamics work.. the calories to create the weight has to come from SOMEWHERE she 100% just isn't aware that she in fact is taking in too many cals even if you only take in 100cals too many per day.. after about a month.. you gained 2lbs.. that's 25lbs per year.. just by a single little chocolate above your maintenance per day

[@YarbroK]

This. All of this. I am working out so I have been studying fat/carb/protein ratio and weighing my food. I figured out that was consuming too little to see the results. So I increased it by 150 calories each day and it worked.

[@boosqueezy2418]

correct

[@suchi4free]

I just realized a few days ago I gained 10lb from my usual weight. I'm not overweight, but it is not my target weight. The thing is, having lost 45lbs as a teen and kept them off the last 13 years of my life, I know how and why I gained; i was eating too much and not exercising. Thinking is something out of my control would be so frightening, that I find confort in working towards going back to my regular weight. Wish me luck.

[@electra424]

Honestly I really feel for this girl. It seems like she really is doing A LOT of work to try to lose weight.

[@JustcallmeDebbieB]

I get this frustration. Nothing has worked for me as well as fasting and I really don't like fasting.

[@powderandpaint14]

How about intermittent fasting?

[@sasharobloxwolfpackfanclub9364]

Everything works you just have to pick the one that you can do long enough to get what you want from it

[@AlienZizi]

​@@sasharobloxwolfpackfanclub9364 not "long enough", forever.

[@reccyre]

Look into what's your "dosha". Google or KZbin it. It helped me. I used to do intermittent fasting and it worked to a certain extent but it was not ideal for my body type. I switched what I was doing and I'm seeing results now.

[@johannas.l.brushane2518]

With people as such I suspect they eat things that often is seen as healthy but can be problematic. I often see in women's mags of juices and such which is plenty of sugar that many see as healthy. But maybe she need to figure out her "why" with a therapist to be able to commit to something reasonable that will take some time? Does they have some conditions that need to have special attention to the foods (if she need anti-inflammatory food, and that could be certain vegetables depending on condition).

[@RazzleRiot13]

I don't know.. I feel like there's more going on with insulin resistance and metabolism, especially with women than most people realize. I had been able to get extremely strict and diet and lose small amounts of weight, but if I briefly fell off my diet, I would quickly balloon back up and gain substantially more. Even being super morbidly obese I would have to severely restrict calories in order to lose any weight, I was constantly starving. I was just set up to fail. My doctor ended up putting me on metformin (not diabetic or pre diabetic) and for once I was able to lose weight and restrict calories in a healthy amount. And even if I fell off my diet for a couple weeks, I didn't gain much, if any weight back. I was able to sustain weight loss for the first time in my life. It took me a year to lose 50 pounds but it was a huge accomplishment because I had never been able to keep weight off ever. I am now on semaglutide and have lost another 55 pounds. So 105 pounds total. I have fought my weight my entire life, I am 37 years old and for once I don't feel like I am in a battle. I am able to make much healthier choices and am starting to become much more mobile. I really believe some people are doing the right things but their bodies are fighting against them losing the weight

[@christalcavanaugh]

I would LOVE a tv show where “infinifats” who can’t lose weight and eat basically nothing are trapped in a house where they can only eat what is given to them. They’ll get a weighed out portion of meat and grains and dairy and whatnot and then when they are still hungry they can have as much fruit and vegetables as they want. It would be so fun to see if they magically lose weight like that 😂

[@alijane6675]

Infinifats? You. Are. The. Problem.

[@boosqueezy2418]

@@alijane6675FA coined that term, actually. so don’t blame us

[@AbianahTheGemini]

Some people do have slower metabolisms. Some people are on meds that cause metabolic syndrome and weight gain. That’s just a fact.

[@flatripley]

Woman need to stop comparing themselves to men when it comes to eating. Yes I could be enraged that my husband switched to sugar free Red Bull and diet colas and lost 20lbs but we are completely different!!!! For one, he’s 8 inches taller than me.I decided instead to be happy for him for making a change for the better. In turn he encourages me when I get frustrated and I prefer this over comparison.

[@heatherbeal9307]

I think a lot of this is because of pre-made/packaged foods, especially those with a lot of additives and preservatives. I started making as much as a could at home and if I did use a pre-made item, I looked at the ingredients to make sure it didn’t have any of that extra stuff. Once I really nailed that down, the weight just started coming off naturally(down 35lbs in 7 months). The food-noise went away and I could easily focus on eating when I felt hungry and giving into some cravings on occasion. Also, don’t eat the low fat/low calorie/sugar free options because they are the worst offenders. Eat the real thing and you’ll feel more satisfied with less.

[@Bethihearyoucalling]

She’s not being honest. Nor does she have an understanding or respect or true desire for a healthy lifestyle.

[@Tali-De]

Just wanted to state how grateful I am for your videos, though I did want to mention that your health comes first and I hope you're not pushing yourself too hard for us subscribers and viewers! To the point, I agree with you on all of your points, as per usual. I do, however want to state that my way of losing weight is indeed eat less (junk food, food with addicting properties) and move (the way I like) more. What has worked for me, as a slightly overweight woman to move to normal range was mindfulness, a short period of time with 16:8 intermittent fasting to get a certain sense of a routine around food and being forgiving towards myself by allowing myself to occasionally socially eat at special events or meetups. It's okay to not always be perfect, a diet is not a magic bullet or pill. It's about changing a certain part of your lifestyle and perceviering while being forgiving and mindful towards yourself.

[@SC0891]

Wow, so she's a miracle. Imagine if people in poor regions of the world had her "genetics". Then they could never eat, and never starve. Basically, what I heard is that she can lose weight, but if she doesn't quickly get the results she wants, then she starts eating again and gains the weight back. She seems very frustrating.

[@roszainclaassen9746]

John just want to thank you for this video! it gave me a light bulb moment, I've been on my weight loss journey for 8 months lost 11kgs (24.25pounds) slow and steady because i want it to work this time. I've been so frustrated for the last month cause my weight hadn't budged and I was sticking to my calories, I stepped back and looked at my monthly calorie deficit and it was half compared to the month before, needless to say it was a "duh no wonder" moment.

[@theblkrabbit3473]

The thing is she is clearly strong already. She carries that weight 24/7. She needs to just feed the muscles she already has and add more fiber. Higher calories in lean protein and eat the veg first. So much potential there! If she’s already working out daily with weights and cardio……. I know she is almost there

[@tessmoffett5512]

Yeah, when she was mentioning fat free cheese and such, I was thinking… ‘But that’s protein you’re missing out on! It’s SO much easier for me to focus on getting adequate protein than on cutting out this and that. With adequate protein, you’re not even HUNGRY enough for all that other stuff.

[@benh6452]

Yes. I believe they're just eating insatiating foods not enough protein

[@Corey_Augraph]

Just my own experience, but when I felt like I was doing everything and couldn’t lose weight, I got rid of all snacks, ready made, frozen foods, and turned into an “ingredient house” I couldn’t believe how much I had been grazing throughout the day and I lost ten pounds without even thinking about it. I really think a lot of us don’t realize how much we eat.

[@Irishczech]

Ultra processed 'fat free cheese' is often oil. Quality of ingredients matters

[@reccyre]

A lot of people are getting scammed thinking plant based fats are healthy. They see the word plant and think it's better than dairy.

[@katyushasokol7435]

obviously there’s no way to know what her exact situation is, but maybe talking to a dietician or a therapist would help her get to the root of her weight issues.

[@marlyd]

I relate to her frustration, I remember that. But she's missing something she's doing wrong. And I get how awful that is. Not knowing what you're doing wrong.

[@vencato161289]

She knows. The history of exercise and bla bla bla she told is a lie.

[@hitfasthithard]

She doesnt think the people making those suggestions are evil either. Shes not frustrated with them, she frustrated with her lack of weight loss despite making so many sacrifices. And honestly, those medical professionals need to ask better questions. Were at a point in science we KNOW coffee creamer is not making people 300 pounds.

[@Miss_Wonderful1]

I'm far from an expert on metabolism and other issues that can contribute to weight gain, but I find it strange that a consistent daily intake of 1,500 calories doesn't lead to weight loss. Once my therapist told me the obvious, which was not obvious for me: when the mind in a good place, even the hardest challenges are way less hard to face and overcome. If I were this girl, I would focus on my mind and emotions first. Hope you get better soon!

[@powderandpaint14]

I definitely think there is something to this. Some people hold on to weight as a kind of protection because of things that happen to them as children etc. Therapy can be really helpful for working through these things.

[@MusikGirl23]

Well, I’m very very short at 4’8. 1500 is too much for many days unless I’m walking like 15,000+ steps! 12-1300 is more appropriate for me, obviously less if I wanted to lose weight.

[@alijane6675]

I’m 5 ft tall. I maintain on 1200 a day. Anymore, I gain. There is no one cure fits all with weight loss.

[@Miss_Wonderful1]

@@alijane6675 I'm 5.3 and I eat low calory dishes too. I go astray once in a while, it goes unnoticed. If I stray every week, I gain weight.

[@boosqueezy2418]

@@MusikGirl23i’m 5’4” and active and i stick to 1000-1200 calories a day. did she mention her height?

[@scfeng6883]

I think her personal trainers forgot to tell her about metabolic adaptation? Weight loss isn’t linear, it plateaus regularly as your body adapts to the lower caloric intake and greater output, and you have to change your routine to suit your new metabolic characteristics. It doesn’t sound like she’s aware of this. The suggestion that people cut out certain foods is bc it’s an easier way of reducing calories, not because those foods are inherently bad. I would recommend that she keep a food diary and diligently write down everything she eats in a day. Sometimes we are in denial about how much we ate until we see it itemized.

[@ihzzi]

Would you ever want to do a video on overweight women with PCOS? I struggle with PCOS and weight loss and many people never understand just how hard it is to lose weight having PCOS

[@Taywanee]

I’d recommend Michelle McDaniels she has PCOS and has successfully lost weight and kept it off. At the end of the day it still comes down to calories in vs calories out

[@ihzzi]

@@Taywanee Yes, reducing calories can help but your weight loss would be very slow (I am talking maybe 2lbs a month) if your hormones are messed up, you have high levels in inflammation and high insulin. I only lost weight after taking GLP-1 because it lowered my insulin levels and helped the insane sugar cravings you get from PCOS. But I appreciate the suggestion, I will look into them!

[@ezzylopez7286]

​@@ihzziMichelle McDaniel is great and she offers coaching

[@reccyre]

PCOS has less to do with calories in vs calories out and more to do with HORMONES. You have to figure out what foods and lifestyle change will balance your hormones. I am speaking from experience.

[@rosecoloredgirl5349]

I guarantee she’s eating much more than she thinks she is. Everyone I’ve met in person like this is not closely tracking or weighing their food. They’re eyeballing things and end up eating 500 calories worth of cooking oils throughout the day.

[@boosqueezy2418]

yep. she is very very overweight. she eating too much

[@worthmorethanmyjourney]

She didn't say she doesn't binge and she didn't say she doesn't emotional eat. That could be her problem right there.

[@pitcherday]

I really felt for her. I’ve been there. I hope she finds a way. That TikTok of the young woman talking about how if you think about food more than god, you worship your diet, was garbage. She doesn’t even believe in god, it was just a random shaming rant. I hope zero more people took it to heart.

[@onlooker4564]

How handsome you are again, John. Am loving the hair...

[@Hazyisasigmagirl]

Yeah, he’s hot haha

[@stuffroom979]

I appreciate this video and you sharing your experience. I'm obese for the first time in my life and frustrated by the lack of change in my weight despite my dieting and exercise. Maybe my metabolism just isn't what it used to be now that I'm pushing 30 because i used to be able to lose weight without even trying! Thanks for the inspiration to stay motivated and keep at it.

[@huhnoodles6478]

u look great dude! even tho ur sick😢

[@katryd9295]

What you said about losing a bunch of weight initially and not seeing results for a certain amount of time is soooo true. I’ve been on a weight loss journey since April and have lost 30 lbs. It’s been slow and imperfect and I’ve definitely had plateaus, but it’s helped me to tell myself to keep going with tracking calories, walking every day, hiking every weekend, etc. because if I don’t see results I’ll quit and that hasn’t been the case. Because I also know I’m doing something different than what I did to gain weight since COVID and that makes a difference too.