Observations on INTJs (INTP)

[@Skimmerlit]

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[@breakingthehabit]

All i heard is that we are cute

[@Skimmerlit]

INTJs are some of the cutest people, yes.

[@breakingthehabit]

@@Skimmerlit most intelligent, sexy, funny too Modest also

[@Skimmerlit]

The most modest.

[@breakingthehabit]

@@Skimmerlit haha, that was a joke Make more intj videos,its fun to listen

[@Skimmerlit]

That was my attempt at appreciating your joke. I’m thankful we could fumble this together. Once I have more info, definitely. I don’t like making videos unless I know enough and feel like I’m coming from a good place. I don’t want my negativity to be too negative.

[@MrSMITCHERS]

I have never in my life felt so roasted, depressed and unbelievably well analyzed by a single video! I am in comeplete shock.

[@gunsbulletsheroin]

It sounds like most of the INTJs you met were pretty immature or unhealthy (most are, but to be fair, so are most other people). If you ever meet a healthy one I think you'll really like them

[@Jan-wp9fn]

I am an INTJ and I'm guilty of most (if not all) of the things you mentioned in the video, but don't give up on us just yet. We CAN change for the better, especially when we realize that improving on these shortcomings we have is crucial to reach our long term goal (which usually is "becoming the best possible version of ourselves", but every intj has its own idea of "best" of course). In fact this blunt "trash talk" of INTJs has been very helpful to me and I'm sure that every INTJ with a modicum of self-awareness would greatly appreciate it if you could make a comprehensive video of all their shortcomings and how they could improve on them.

[@Intuitioncalling]

Being an intj I've always appreciated analytical barebone type of constructive criticism, that's why I'm not only liking this video but you have got anothe sub in me as well

[@jesssss12]

Same here, I don’t think anyone has ever dared say this shit to me before. Leave it to an intp to bring it up.

[@julierook1988]

My only objection with the video is I don't think I'm invincible.

[@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit]

Absolutely agree

[@_Thunderball_]

INTJ here. Main things you need to know about dealing with INTJs: 1) We percieve other people and most things through our own identity (Fi), so we treat others as we would like to be treated outselves. It doesnt always come out good because there's a lot of social interaction aspects we simply dont notice and/or dont care that are important to other people. 2) If you think your grasp of social interactions is bad and there's no way this INTJ didnt get my hint try much worse. For this reason a lot of INTJ try to act as direct as possible (to avoid any confusion, because they cant pick up any nuance in the interaction) and because of point n1 they expect anyone they interact with to act the same way. INTJs usually dont care that you might be uncomfortable because they arent, why would you be? 3) Some ways to get an INTJ to like you would be common interests (best way for NTs), being a good teamplayer (depending on an INTJ you might have to get bossed hard) or being able to deal with the dorkiness without being emotionally intrusive.

[@SpecimenKE]

Thank you! we're not trying to be malicious when we're just impersonal because I seriously have no idea that I offended someone by stating certain things, because if I were in the other person's shoes, I wouldn't be offended, one thing we try very hard not to be is being a hypocrite, like you said, we treat people the way we would want to be treated and I'm not really worried about people not liking me, because if you don't like me for something that isn't personal to you, then I don't think I'd like you either. If anyone told me to my face that what I said was offensive, I'd be grateful that they did instead of going to gossip about it...

[@ita-vero]

This whole video literally says "I've never managed to get close to an INTJ before."

[@LittleMew133]

ISTJ and INTJ are underrated. They are very devoted, and just want to make your life better.

[@LaMach420]

Nothing like an INTPs ability to pick things apart and spit them back out. Great vid.

[@shakour4084]

We aren't blind. We do it on purpose.Objective is above all, even us.

[@grazynawolska8160]

1. Yes we are cute lol 2. Yes we want to express "our" feeling for you, not serve you on your love terms if that makes sense. I think your Fi blindess comes in here is why you dont understand this expression. 3. Yes we are very loyal and trustworthy. We will keep your secrets even if the relationship went bad. 4. INTJs can get a read on your mindscape... similar to infj but they read more like your emotions we read more like your mental structures. Not many know this because infjs act on their emo-reading and we do not act on it because we don't want to manipulate your feelings like an Fe user does (for better or worse). 5. Annoying you on every level is because we trigger your demon functions that you're not comfortable with yet.... a big part of getting older is accepting your limitations and that the functions you don't use serve a purpose. 6. The not talking about it part... not sure what you mean other than that sometimes we see Ni leading a way in the future... but we can't really give you the full Ti logic you seek. How do we know?? We just know the most likely thing to happen. We don't know precisely but we Ni map the general area things are going to go and act accordingly. You want the Ti facts to back up the Ni and we haven't the Ti goods. Your Intp discomfort with Ni (being Ni blind) will really upset you because you can't trust it like we do. 7. I'm sorry INTJs pushed themselves on you and made you uncomfortable sexually. 8. Skill perfectionism... we hate learning new skills the older we get... its a hurdle. We do put personal twist because of Fi needing expression. I do art and it took me a lot to find a balance between what I like and what the public likes. 9. Insecurity about appearance comes from Se being low. We might talk about the steps because of Te needing to talk about action. Infj won't because infjs don't do Te like at all. Also both are crap about taking care of their health (Se) but intjs will eventually try to get healthy or get a cure for their ailment...infj will do the opposite and just limp from now on until forever and not fix it or try to fix it. Especially if their health issue is fixable (as some things arent).

[@LittleMew133]

What do you mean by reading mindscape / mental space? Like how the person perceive something or go about problem solving? I think INTJs are generally not the best at picking up emotions instaneously like INFJs.

[@MusicalInquisit]

@@LittleMew133INTJs have Te parent, their secondary function. If the primary function is where people excel (INTJs have Ni hero, so they excel at planning), the secondary function is where they focus the hero function. Te is all about communication of thoughts, whether theirs or others. A Te user will collect data points. This is where INTJs excel. Thanks to their Te parent, they have a sense of duty with how they collect “data,” and those includes the idea of others. With such behaviors, it makes them better able to determine how to responsibly complete tasks but not small social cues. Social cues require a degree of emotional intelligence that INTJs don’t have. In a similar way, an INFJ can determine how one feels at any given moment and can even vibe check you. This is again due to their parent function, this time Fe parent.

[@reenel3718]

It was not a messy video. Also, the analysis fits for the three INTJs I know best, even though they have their own ways yet same to achieve certain things. We happen to be attracted to one another, have the “fun” we can get then always end up splitting up. It never truly works and it’s fine (any kind of relationship) because actually, there’s more fun in observing them than in experiencing their presence. + they’re too judgmental. They seem to dearly appreciate Ne though, yet they won’t ever really trust it. In my experience, (my?) Ti seems to piss them off when it gets too heavy. Or it’s probably me getting annoyed by Ni then smashing it with Ti then it’s a pissed dudes party. Hope this made sense. Thanks for the video.

[@theotherphil]

Interesting viewpoint. I'm an INTJ-A, I've made statements in front of people that create a little, and sometimes a lot of, controversy and it's not that I lack awareness of this, I just don't care...and on some level, actually like that freedom. I will speak the truth when everybody else just wants to skirt around it. Yes, this may not be received well, but again, I'm not that bothered. I'm not responsible for other people's emotional reaction to what is essentially truth or statements of fact. This however, is how I like to receive information....don't skirt around an issue, tell it to me bluntly and we can work it out together. I've never gave up information that could be used to personally hurt me. I am extremely private in this regard. I certainly don't hate on people, either individually or in groups...their successes or failures don't stop me from being successful. Everybody is different and I love to hear those perspectives. I've never expressed the opinion that I am invincible or even thought it. I absolutely learn from past mistakes as accountability and responsibility are incredibly important to me. One thing I do actually really dislike is small talk and stupid people. There's lot's of generalisations in this video that don't relate to all INTJ's, but I appreciate your perspective on those that you have met (and accurately typed).

[@Vialleynie]

I have exactly the same opinion about this video. ~INTJ

[@BF-non]

INTJ man here, never I have done the "I won't talk about this" thing you mention, not even close.

[@SpecimenKE]

Literally have no idea what he's talking about...we don't really have sensitive topics. Personally, I can talk about anything...not with anyone though...so maybe I'd just be disinterested in talking about that specific topic with a certain person because of various reasons, usually because I don't like them very much...and even if we're forced to...I don't think INTJs would go ham, the way we would normally about things we're interested in....like for example, I really like soccer and if we're having a conversation about it with someone and then I realize they have no idea what they're talking about, I won't spend any energy trying to correct them, or go into extreme detail and nerd out, I'll just look for ways to slowly end the conversation... usually by just keeping quiet...it normally works...maybe that's what he was talking about...who knows

[@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit]

@@SpecimenKE I think it refers to the fact that we don't like to talk about personal things about ourselves, which most people do, to lower barriers, to talk about their daily joys and sorrows, to share intimacies and to form bonds with people. We don't do that, that's why we're hard for most people to approach, we only do it with people we trust and we'll still be reluctant to share everything. This is usually taken badly by the people around you, as you build a relationship with them but put up a lot of barriers, it's a confusing signal and most will feel aggrieved by this behavior. Then the other thing happens that he mentions in the video, and that he says that it bothers him a lot about the intjs, at some point in our lives we become aware of this that people demand of us, but it is very strange and difficult for us. That's when what he says bothers him happens, we lower a barrier, we open up, but immediately we feel weird and we put up barriers again and we try to make the conversation revolve around each other's intimacies and we're so disgustingly bad at capturing the intimacies of the other. social subtleties that we continue to advance without realizing it when we make people uncomfortable. It's happened to me many times and I don't realize it until it's too late.

[@Pink7omy]

INTJ here. The thing we are BEST at doing is keeping secrets. Also we only sympathize with those who aren’t stupid. We hate stupid people. Don’t waste our time arguing. 😆

[@zerotwoo9554]

*Seems like the intjs you met weren't really much healthy or there was significant communication gap. But hear me out. *I do agree with the obsession and loyalty part. Kinda on point for me. But not with invincible-overestimation part,only unhealthy intj can think that way. as we have Ti at 6th position, we are always judging our own Te. *If I don't seem to care, I really don't. *Plus everyone is flawed and imperfect. you keep on pointing out Si and Fe issues only. It's the same as your Se and Fi issues. * every animal is horny, but you as intp probably got to see that part of us because of your laid back intpness which makes us comfortable. * I love mbti * there's a saying "we tend to talk less about things we deeply care about". The more we care, the less we talk about it. Inferior Se sucks and it takes much effort to take care of the sensory world. But I get the logic behind pretty privilege/halo effect/first impression. People treat you differently depending on your outer shell. I only see Te benefits on beauty. Plus I see benefits for good health/ healthy lifestyle. Yeah I'd probably like to talk about my Te, Se efforts to look good. For me that's rarely coming from insecurity cz I'm pretty comfortable in my own skin and wouldn't care or think about it if it wasn't really necessary to live like a decent human. But even if I didn't look good I'd brag? Never, that's straight up delusional. Even if I say I'm insecure about ___, I probably am not insecure enough to bring this up in an early convo of less than 2y of relationship. I don't know if intps really can grasp our Fi part. * I read tons of people talking about their own intp-intj relationship on reddit & quora as I was interested in one intp. Either they're happily married for 15-20 years or hates each other or likes/find each other cute from distance. I've read multiple times how it was hard in the beginning and needed a lot of communication as intp and intj have totally opposite functions. They tend to reach the same conclusions but through completely different process and they realized it later in life how it works. And it takes time to know someone as complex as intp/intj/human in general. *I read about intp-intj dynamics on socionics compatibility, it's called quasi-identical, they live in reality of complete misunderstanding of the opposites thought process.

[@curtiswong7515]

I'm an INTJ, and obviously I'm not going to be able to persuade you on any of your opinions, but my experience has been much different than what you surmised in a few key ways: 1. This notion that we don't learn from our past mistakes. On the contrary, this is something that I have always prided myself on. Not only do I immediately learn from my mistakes, but I will learn from other people's mistakes. I will also learn from a mistake in a separate category if the concept can be applied. 2. The idea of INTJ's essentially being these completely clueless FE robots who just talk about ideology all day. Again, this isn't AT ALL what I'm actually like. TE users are very much, "Let's talk for the sake of getting things done and move on with our lives." It's usually the TI users who seem to like endless debates and discussing ideology with no end goal. On the note about FE, I have always been very alert as to what other people are thinking or how they might be feeling. I have a pretty good pulse on the social situation and social dynamics, and often find myself thinking about how oblivious other people are. It seems like INFJ's are the others who have this strange 6'th sense like ability to understand the room, but they do it in a more feeling way while we seem to do it in an analytical way. 3. Lastly, I would say 99% of the people who get to know me better will tend to like me more than when they didn't know me as much. It's not usually, "Oh, I've found out more about him, and now I know about his bottomless dark hole lying dormant in the recesses of his mind." On the parts I agree with? Yes, we are cocky and arrogant. Yes, we do have a very strict moral code on the few principles we attach to and if it's broken we can become vengeful ( for me it's usually the golden rule. If you don't treat me the way you would like to be treated then I will make it a point to treat you the way you treated me so that you understand logically what it would be like if everyone acted the way you do) Yes we are very loyal and like loyalty as well, etc.

[@creeperkingdom3190]

as a ti user yes we want to debate but what I find in myself as a ti user is we don't so much have an ideology. Atleast not a complex one that is full of nuances. yes, despite the fact that we think alot about everything the ideology the ti users especially high ti users tend to have are very simplistic and all incompasing like nothing matters, or the government us terribly or other black and white thought paradigms. The reason for this (in my opinion) 8a that ti focuses on true or false we like to have a black and white understanding of things (similar to fi but we justify does beliefs with reasons while fi kinda just believes what it believes ) we like to argue to make does black and white distinctions

[@cartridgex]

That’s!!!

[@milmil5350]

YES ✨👏 ty! I legit started to feel really sad after watching the video, despite wanting to improve myself on the few that I relate to (the cutesy behavior & possible portrayal of insecurity). You reminded me that I'm not as unlikeable as the person in the video makes me out to be. As much as I appreciate the criticism, the disdain in his tone is "uncomfortable" to say the least. Still subscribed though. He made it quite clear he doesn't like us and those feelings certainly came through -- even as he tried to mention positive traits in the video. Hopefully he doesn't carry as much ?"disgust"? in the other videos. 😅 I'm not willing to sit through that if that's the case. The information is valuable, but how you convey it matters if you actually want people to listen to you. Also, I've seen many INTJ s, other than myself, in the mbti community, so it's news to me that there's a trend of them that's hating on it. I imagine this is not personality type-specific. There's probably a bit of every type that likes vs dislikes it.

[@julierook1988]

I love mbti also. Otherwise, I wouldn't listen to a mbti video.

[@julierook1988]

Also, I learn from my mistakes. Remember, he says he only knows/has known five of us.

[@enriquehdz523]

My absolute and default way to describe an INTJ from now on will be "If there is something that can be f**k up, and INTJ will fuck it up" It made me laugh so hard.

[@intj5w4rloei87]

At least the Intj tried aside from popular opinion and failed what did the other types do in mbti land

[@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit]

lol

[@seabeejg]

That thing about others observing Fe blind in INTJs is that I am aware of most of those things others THINK I don't see or know. I just own it, but the other person often thinks that I'm trying to be slick or something when I'm just being open and direct.

[@C.M.M.23]

"INTJs are one of the only Fi types I really do trust, even when things are going bad." Thank God and you.

[@sylviaowega3839]

My INTJ partner is constantly underestimating everyone, including myself whom is an INTP. He things he’s smarter and more invincible than everyone else, and believe me -it does her very annoying. He also loves to talk about himself, but here little about me. My INTJ is also very affectionate

[@BeyondPersonality]

INTJs underestimating others is in most cases not true. -INTJ

[@sylviaowega3839]

@@BeyondPersonality Your hypothesis is indeed correct when it come to confident and healthy INTJ’s.

[@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit]

🥲 I don't underestimate anyone. I don't think I know xD but I always hear this complaint

[@INTJRECLUSE]

Some of your points were interesting as i could relate to them when i was a Immature teenage punk, but overall it is a very poor description of me as a INTJ now. I never intentionally push people's limits. If it happens, its because they never communicated that whatever it is bothered them.

[@kruggmichaels8958]

Exactly. INTJ usually clearly communicates what makes them uncomfortable, as stated in the video, and expects others to do the same. As an INTJ myself I've noticed over the years that people will not advertise their boundaries, and somehow expect you to read their minds on the matter. Like you said kinda. Then when you unintentionally step on the little emotional snare they set on their border, they get upset and cut you out of their life. It's very unfair.

[@LittleMew133]

@@kruggmichaels8958 Dealing with INTJ helps me learn that they really don't get offended about much, which is fantastic for communication of course.

[@sylviaowega3839]

The one really interesting thing about the one INTJ I am very close to. Although he is constantly talking about being so independent and efficient, he is far more clingier than I am and somewhat less independent. At least that is from the point of view from myself ad an INTP. He’ll also say things like “I don’t care”, bud yet he always does! Lol

[@oedipesgames4950]

Intj are like that when they love you otherwise INTJ are discret.

[@sylviaowega3839]

@@oedipesgames4950 Makes sense.

[@ilovetochillyay9223]

Dudeeee. This was the dopest video I’ve seen, No background, rainy bgm with slightly robotic narration with possibly dark undertones. Anyhow good observation. I’ve subbed. Also I agree with most of the things you said, I’d like to add, while INTJ’s especially young and immature ones may come off as narcissistic or even stubborn/selfish, most likely they’re not. When they’re young, they rely heavily on Fi child and they do all these behaviors to protect themselves. Mind you, until they mature or cross 20-25 years maybe even 30, that’s when their Te function fully matures as it’s also a pessimistic function. After they’ve developed Te, they rely more on logic and less on Fi (doesn’t mean they’re cold or don’t have emotions). It means they tend to become more tolerant of other peoples flaws and quirks as they age and become more impersonal. The problem is until they develop Te, they’re relying heavily on Fi. Fe blindspot doesn’t help either, so they’re genuinely unaware when they’ve said something or done something to hurt you, if you have an INTJ you care about or as your friend, the best way you can help them is to provide feedback, seriously. They’re not irrational, so if they do something hurtful unintentionally, instead of getting pissed, let them know “hey you did this, I didn’t like it......blah blah”. If they care about you, most likely they will try to change themselves for you. I also wanna tell you, if you get an INTJ to trust you, they’d be the most loyal person you’d have ever met. That’s if they let you in their inner circle that is, that’s a big IF. Good luck getting in there but once you’re in. You’re IN!!!

[@joshpatrick8809]

Good luck getting out, too! 😆

[@sylviaowega3839]

This video regarding INTJ’s is amazingly accurate. I have had very similar experiences with the INTJ’s I have met, including the one I am married to. -INTP

[@creeperkingdom3190]

I think the reason you don't like them breaching boundaries as a fellow intp is I think that as intps we don't really care about our boundaries(we don't have many in the first place) and are pretty forgiving especially compared to other types on breaches of those rules. the problem is hypocrisy. As an intp their is nothing I hate more than people seting rules or standards for me or taking about principles that they have and not following through with those principles. I don't know if this is the same for most intp but I tend to not get angry easily or at least not hold on to anger for very long even for things that most people would take very seriously. however the easiest way to make me go nuclear is when someone those something to me or says something to constantly and when I do it to them they get upset along with general hypocrisy.

[@sylviaowega3839]

Same here. I also find that as an INTP, I am much slower to anger and far more laid back than INTJ’s

[@samtula5946]

I talked to one intj who preached about honesty for hours but wasn’t honest himself as I later found out 5 months down the line. I asked about it many times and he kept lying. This particular one was not trustworthy AT ALL.

[@creeperkingdom3190]

@@samtula5946 fi types have a hard time being logically consistent while Se types have a hard time sticking to principles especially during hard times mix those two function together and that's how you get this find of behavior.

[@sylviaowega3839]

@@samtula5946 It seems you have an unhealthy INTJ here, unfortunately.

[@giomar89]

You’re totally spot on. Which can be annoying because, when it comes to socializing, I’m happy to go with whichever rule or dynamic you set. The only thing that truly pisses me off is when you don’t abide by your own rules. Incidentally, being internally incoherent is one of the main human traits (yes, I include myself into that)

[@jesssss12]

Your describing a young intj. If you really look closely at us you’ll realize we’re a pretty good group. We’re honest (to a fault), perfectionistic, successful at at least one point in our lives, smart, trust worthy, visionary, ideological, and honestly we might look direct or annoying but we are pretty good to people bc we know what’s best for them.

[@whoisray1680]

As an INTJ, I think you did an amazing job in this video. You clearly chose your words cleverly and wisely which made me self-reflect several times during the video. Looking forward to watching more of your videos!

[@KuroNeko-gp8kh]

finally someone roasted INTJ hard lmao, sorry for your traumatized from this type. hope u get well

[@jesssss12]

I only meet 1 intp, ever. Smartest person I have ever meet, but also annoying, always correcting me on stupid things. Regardless, he was probably right since he used to care more about school. I like INTPS.

[@mmmhmm6865]

I’m glad that this vid isn’t like most other basic videos about intj, I can appreciate the originality, but your observations have morphed into claims even though your sample size is so small. As an intj myself, I disagree with several claims you’ve made and agree with others -We aren’t as incompetent as you say, in fact our ample planning usually prevents incompetence, even socially -Intj’s are known to be romantically aloof so spouting about their sexual interests isn’t likely -Intj’s do love and hate intensely, so good on that one, and they are really loyal to those they deemed worthy of their loyalty -Intj can be arrogant if we’re not mature, but they wouldn’t mention their ideology, or groups of people they hate all the time. That’s implying we even speak that much. Most Intj’s are often rare to hate a particular group given our hyper individualized nature. -You were right about intj when impersonal walls are down are much more talkative and expressive, and will often fail to realize something is offensive. That’s because we don’t find them offensive because we assume feelings are off the table when engaging in rational discourse -We do indeed hate being generalized, we also dislike when people fail to adhere to our strict mental rubrics of how to handle situations rationally, and genuinely don’t understand why someone doesn’t just fix their problems instead of crying or something I usually wouldn’t make a comment like this, I enjoyed the video but I couldnt help but notice a sort of annoyance you have to the entire intj personality. As if people adhere strictly to these 16 boxes, how can you say that these are foundational attributes of personality but then say all intj do one thing, and all of them don’t do something else, especially with a sample size of 5. I think you just need to meet better people who don’t think they’re “invisible”

[@mmmhmm6865]

Oh yea and we are perfectionists, and we are judgmental as well

[@GeekNewz]

One of your points was inacurate because at least i as an intj, i go into human interaction expecting the other side to either hate from the start or hate me by the end, so i don't care the result

[@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit]

Unfortunately that's what I always hope for

[@AFoxForThought]

In my experience, as a INTP who was in a relationship with an INTJ, my underdeveloped Ne and my Se Trickster tend to piss him off sometimes. I was called stupid. I tried leaving him early on in that relationship but he cried because he didn't want to be alone. One of few reasons that ended our relationship was we tend to misread each other, we don't bother or express our thinking in times when it could've saved our future but again we both needed some growth at the time.

[@iridium3rk]

Im an INTJ married to INTP. We did go into conflicts sometimes but its mainly about the way to reach our common goals. We are married since 10 years and learned how to go through our differences.

[@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit]

Both intp and intj are bad at expressing what we need, beyond that would work pretty well

[@sainturya]

didn’t relate to some of the stuff that you talked about but i can’t wait for more intj vids

[@jayce0015]

Well, even INTP can misunderstood us. LOL. 🤣

[@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit]

@@jayce0015 direct and clear conversation, I think he's been honest and I'm satisfied with that

[@ThisEvilBunny]

I was dying halfway through this lmao. I actually enjoy being roasted. It's fun. Even if I generally only agree with half, I will say the whole "lets not talk about this subject even though I brought the subject up thing" is all about hating to repeat ourselves. There are certain topics that people rehash constantly and to do the same over again... even once, feels like tortuous death to us. Unless... we think you have an interesting take on the subject. In that case the novelty alone is worth discussing.

[@krona2894]

Hell is other people

[@BeyondPersonality]

INTJs dont all over estimate themsleves. Most dont. Types that do a lot are EXFPs. Ive literally met ESFPs who say they believe they are better and smarter than everyone else. -INTJ

[@margewatson1910]

I do think all of these pertains most to INTJs that are Enneagram Type 3s. I'm a Type 8 INTJ and although I do can relate to most of these, I do not get a couple of it, especially the insecure part of your observation.

[@Majestodpj33]

for what i hear you meet mostly unhealthy intj and this analisys come from an unhealty intp why ? Analyzing something from a personal space when intps thrive on un-personal analysis and this make intp great. and there are many people who try to be intjs they learn how they "behave" and they show off to people

[@thomaswagner883]

Very interesting, it's clear that you're not just repeating the usual internet stereotypes as everyone else does, you are actually observing. When you talked about Fe-blindness in conversation it reminded me of an argument I (intj) had with my isfp brother, about my Halloween costume. I'll go as a white-clad serial killer who only targets minorities, ripping their white teeth and eyeballs out. Why is it ok to go as regular killer but not as this one? Also my starting idea was just that I wanted to dress all white, the backstory came later. Guess I'll make a few enemies hahaha don't care I know I'm not racist. Love you Skimmerlit!

[@Skimmerlit]

imgur.com/a/BmQoSWc Edit: Please be careful.

[@thomaswagner883]

@@Skimmerlit hahaha thanks but no worry; I'm not american, things are less extreme here. Also "My heart and actions are utterly unclouded"

[@INTJRECLUSE]

Your brother is ISFP? how do you 2 get along overall? My former best friend was ISFP but simply lacked some key element of any meaningful friendship. Namely loyalty and he loved to mislead (aka lying) because he was afraid to make commitments for fear he would then need to keep them!

[@BeyondSustainableLiving]

😱 WTH?! 😆 We do NOT “fuck up” everything! And I LOVE the MBTI. If an INTJ doesn’t appreciate the MBTI, it’s because they haven’t taken the time to dive into its complexity. Okay this analysis was pretty fascinating! Not totally correct but I give an A for effort and will subscribe to listen to other analyses. You got a few things right…we are loyal and trustworthy AF and we LOVE to love you. I’m so incredibly loving. One of my best friends (of 36 years) just called BS on what you said about us being jerks. Years ago, I read the 5 Love Languages and studied the MBTI in part so I could love people they way THEY want/need to be loved. I do have to hold myself back though so it’s not overwhelming for them. It can be intense. This is true. 🥰🥰🥰 So, 56-yo female INTJ here. I’ve been studying MBTI and the Jungian cognitive functions for 20 years and I know at least 8 INTJs and have never met an INTJ who fits your description with regard to the breaking of other’s boundaries or saying not to bring up topics. That’s completely unfamiliar to me. I literally don’t think I’ve EVER said a topic is off-limits. That’s opposite of our parent Te which loves to teach and help people grow in a very patient objective way. That includes ourselves. We are constantly optimizing ourselves and growing to become better human beings. If I have a boundary, I will enforce it and I am very respectful of others’ boundaries, assuming they’ve been communicated. We do suck at mind-reading and don’t expect anyone to read our minds either which is why we are explicit in communicating our needs/boundaries and expect you to do the same, or at least let us know if we cross one. Young INTJs are clumsy with this but we do learn to be smoother in these conversations as we age. Same with your experience of us as hating groups/enemies and talking about them. I personally don’t hate anyone. I’m extremely passionate about sustainability and environmental spirituality but don’t feel anyone is my enemy. Sure, there are groups who don’t respect the environment and I’m going to call them out when they’re doing something wrong but there is no hate. I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt and find ways to come together and build on our common goals. You may be unfortunate enough to know some unhealthy or young/immature INTJs. I do agree that in the (distant) past I’ve felt intellectually superior to most people but that was just in my youth. All types can be foolish when young. And yes, I DO still think I can accomplish whatever I set my mind to…eventually, but God it takes forever when your goals are as big as ours. I believe ANYONE CAN. And I wish everyone would because the world needs the gifts of each and every person to be realized! Each of us is here for a reason. It’s each of our duties to try to reach our potential for the sake of the collective good as well as our own fulfillment. The world needs you! Regarding making enemies and not knowing it, that could be true. I don’t know. But I honestly don’t care because I’m a deeply compassionate and good person trying to make the world a better place for everyone and if you’re not with me, I don’t have time to worry about that. I keep moving forward and plenty of people DO join me so we will get it done. ❤

[@SpecimenKE]

I think Te is what enables us to connect ideologies with whatever the conversation is about, and you probably don't see it or don't want to see it because you're more detail oriented as an INTP... The "guarded topics" thing is false because information that you think is personal might not be, because they would never do that because I think most INTJs are very aware of what they're saying because by the time we say something, we already know that this in no way can be used against us as a personal attack...I guarantee you DO NOT know what will hurt an INTJ because we're really secretive about sensitive stuff and don't really trust anyone because we think anyone is potentially manipulative, kinda like us 😂...so no, while INTJs do tend to talk a lot about specific topics, we won't say anything that can be used against us unless they're very reckless which an INTJ usually is far from...regardless of maturity level. One thing I do agree with is that we feel insecure if we're proven incredibly wrong, we don't tend to get into arguments unless we fully understand what we're talking about, especially me, because I'm really really scared about looking stupid, so I'd rather say I have no idea about something I know a tiny bit about. And I'd like to think healthy INTJs will relent to logic and objective data if presented to them, because I think we argue in order for you to see our perspective rather than just for the sake of being right...

[@mmh2120]

Thank you so much. I really feel the pain of intjs weakness you state, i just realize it after watch (or hear?) your video. You make me learn a lot. I downloaded your video. Thank you so much once more!

[@malakashraf2801]

Watch cs joseph , he's one of the only people out there who actually know what they are talking about , but he's harsh .

[@intj5w4rloei87]

Dude as intj aside from popular opinion, you will always think you are wrong even when you are right cause it's all simply interpretations are no empirical facts with socialization it's simply who can hook the other into a belief system, so I get you think you are wrong and stuff but you are not ur brain is simply building on the idea you are to take the ideas n his observation into a vault for future or alternative extraction on an interaction or experience or for experimenting, he's not wrong you are not right he's not right you are not wrong you think you are so that you can probably stuff that info in a mental scenario or reflect on it

[@intj5w4rloei87]

@@malakashraf2801 he gets me on resonance but for he just sells on what he wants from intjs rather than what is or what can be most of the time, why should we go out when we don't want,why don't entps quit interacting equally?why not why shouldn't entps simply stop arguing,i mean aren't we following our natural cognition

[@velkewemaster]

My girlfriend is an INTJ and the description fits quite nicely, exept for a copule of things - INTP

[@adriantomole1019]

You've made my day. lol

[@LarfleezeOrangestein]

Please do not come meet us.

[@QuantumRealms01]

Very helpful and accurate. Would you be making another INTJ video soon? I would really love to hear more of your thoughts and observations on them 😊

[@louie4939]

I am INTJ, common words I hear from people I interact with and make friends with. They said I am cool and chill and do not worry about things. "Yah because I didn't worry about other problems, and because I can see the possibilities that's why I live in a stress less lifestyle ." Hahaha

[@AndreKochDre]

Yup seems all true except for not liking MBTI; I think it's brilliant coz it helps me understand others.

[@Maya_Ruinz]

Lmao, good luck ever meeting an INTJ, we don’t play nice with others and can only be found in their own cave.

[@jacob_massengale]

It's scary how true this is to INTJs in literature, and the one in my life. He dropped me. Probably because I opened up about a faith/exhistental crisis and he decided I was weak/evil/problematic.

[@seabeejg]

Maybe just overwhelming??

[@C.M.M.23]

"They're going to be vocal about that group of people that they don't like." So anyway- here's a group of people you are not allowed to criticize...

[@Raphael0654]

20:51 I immediately thought of Batman, and his batmobile, and bat-xyz tools. 😂

[@jeanhavoc8438]

About making the meeting an intj video was it cancelled or you didn't get enough info cause that seemed like an interesting topic also love your content

[@coolbreez]

Your earlier observations are one-sided and from your perspective only, so they seem very much detached from underlying understanding of NTJ brain functions. Like any other person, manifestations of cognitive functions are involuntary, not thought out or intentional as you sound.

[@SpecimenKE]

He's also very sweeping in his generalization

[@tgs5725]

1. We are not "more extroverted" we will just appear that way if we deem a conversation to have a net positive outcome to us. 2. We arent blind to the fact we upset people with our ideological opinions. We dont care. We believe any idea contrary of ours is factually incorrect so we will purposely make opposition uncomfortable so they are forced to think about their wrong point of view. Most people are idiots and "believe" in things theyve never actually thought about. We dont like that. So we try to challenge their beliefs to force them to think.

[@piyush4left]

what do you mean ... by INTP are on Snake scale

[@Subtleflashbang]

Lol can’t tell which side you are from this comment. Nice job.

[@courtneygraham1905]

Cracked me up, "I don't trust INTPs" I am an INTP.

[@kellysturm7193]

This was incredible. I verified so much.

[@piyush4left]

I dont think ..that INTJ are one of the most trustworthy types .. I can trust ENTP,ESTP even ESTJ but never INTJ.. They seem to have larger percentage of Narcissistic traits than any other types .. Narcissism + Intelligence + Goal Oriented Planning makes a dangerous person

[@samtula5946]

Yes exaclty! Infp here who talked to one intj for months who lied to me the whole time and played with my feelings even after knowing I had feelings. Was hypocritical about his moral code and when I didn’t follow it once and apologized and said I wouldn’t lie ever again. Yet he lied many times on major things that I found out later. Gaslighted me that he didn’t lie when he just admitted 2 seconds ago about some fact I found out.. smh. Not trustworthy at all in my experience. Also, very arrogant and judgemental. However that was just one intj.. so I can’t speak about a majority of them.

[@LittleMew133]

​@@samtula5946Then that means they didnt put you into the "personal" category. Their care is extremely discriminatory. They can run strangers over with a car, or use people as disposable chess pieces if they dont care.

[@LittleMew133]

Omg, that's true. INTJ's works have the INTJ smell, even though the observers don't know the creator.

[@Violet_Odorata]

I have experienced that

[@friendlyanomaly6109]

How to we find them? Other than indoors?

[@TEAMHYBRID007]

INTJ 5W6 I have never met a ENTP that I have liked they are too manipulative INTP's are smart but not too exciting. Just an opinion but we do what we say and say what we do.

[@joshuasinclair4463]

Been looking for a small quiet diamond in the rough since Ejarendee bailed. Thank you for this. Your insight is unique.

[@onemoretime734]

An INTJ girl just broke up with me(INTP). Will never see her again. Changed my life forever...

[@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit]

For the worse? 😢

[@onemoretime734]

@@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit yes. I’m traumatized.

[@onemoretime734]

@@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit we actually got back together shortly after I wrote this, lasted another year and a half and I broke up with her in the end. Couldn’t handle the cold and aloof behaviour anymore. Zero love in that relationship.

[@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit]

@@onemoretime734 Oh! I'm really sorry. I think there are bad people of all personalities. As an intj we have a lot of emotional shortcomings, but we never mean to hurt people. When I say I'm sorry, it's because the same thing happened to me for an intp. I hope you're doing well, I'm sure you'll find someone who values you.

[@Die-Flugel-der-Freiheit]

@@onemoretime734 I'm so sorry to hear that, we're so clumsy and blind to emotions. I changed a lot for that intp, I became much more emotionally expressive. When we love a person we will strive to change, those who don't change do so because they don't love you. But it wasn't worth anything I gave to that intp because it hurt me a lot, it hurt me deeply. You're sure to find someone who values you.

[@andromorph-ts6xt]

thank you for the pointers on how to get along with people better (genuinely)

[@Samuel88853]

This seems to describe an extreme unhealthy version. Having no social graces or filter is just an immature person. As teenagers this would be true but these are skills tham any personality can develop and practice. people that dont tend to have other psycological issues that is causing that.

[@jennahudson3420]

I’m not sure if my bf is an INTJ or ISTJ. He has a very hard time with empathy and he only knows how he feels. I’ve been tested as (INTJ, ENTP, even INTP to name a few) I suspect I’m an INFJ… seems to fit the best.

[@crazygalz2147]

As intj it was a nice clip because the worst part of intj is here. So people may not suprise when the bad things come out and after that will be my positive point. Anyway I agree in my Fi and I always push someone boundary because when I ask them to set, they always said I'm ok so I let them set a limit because I care bear it and I don't care that much. lol

[@crazygalz2147]

I mean Fe blind.

[@jungianbreakdown1990]

When you lay down those observations make sure you don’t give the impression that INTJs have in common with other types for example ISFP unless you’ll spread misinformation. Unlike your other videos, I feel like many points on this one don’t hold true for all INTJs and most likely to be stereotypical.

[@johansmuts420]

really hating on us pungent INTJs there, buddy, lol

[@Skimmerlit]

It comes from a loving place. I held off on an INTJ video until I was sure I liked them.

[@Mistful_0]

Hope you will make another video about INTJs in a more positive note in the future

[@lajosracz8113]

Thanx. As an INTJ i enjoyed this video.

[@godKiller.369]

M-m 25 minutes of INTP whinorizing 😘 it always warms my black mastermind heart 🖤

[@JessicaKocjancic]

Wow, this guy has really been butt hurt by some people he thinks are intjs. Poor guy.

[@intj5w4rloei87]

Dude I am an intj and frankly I just like being alone, i like learning shit for the sake of designing, i think engineering n ingenuity is the way to go and technology is the mark of human evolution, Now on the setting taboo topics it's usually foresight to the other parties possible intentions and eliminating topics I am not going to be attentive on nor care to participate so that's me being thoughtful, again love is subjective so you come to my hood you play by my rules, i don't entertain gradual self entitlement and modeling especially when I can tell the other person lacks a clear image of me , now on the cum demon i am not going to lie i love sex I think but it's not something I would take as my first nor second take first we geek out then fuck but for the most part geekin out is just so epic and I am good, one the craft you are right but i think its subconscious again bro I don't think you have met all or any intjs really are you sure you aren't mistyping some istjs n istps could be noone is perfect especially ti users no thinker is a genius we have our natural biases intps have confirmation bias intjs illusionary bias equally destructive, I am an intj but I am either very dreamy or detached (impersonal)to really really care i tend to be forced to caring cause of the responsibility of my choices I decided to date you and to take so I suck it and deal with it, choices have consequences after all , now I consider myself to be a absurdist nihilist and I don't think I am a good person I think good n bad are subjective and simply validating n justifying self interest so I am not good and frankly I don't see the sense in it if evolution is caused by adaption to a hostile environment if necessity is the mother of innovation if war is the handmaid of progress if the universe is inherently disorder and entropy increase why should I be concerned with being good and closed minded to other things take for example mbti we use it to social on people the same thing our ancestors did only with extra steps what sets us apart? what breaks the loop ? where do we crack a new frontier? while we are busy talking about this Intj Homo sapiens or Intp homo sapiens sapiens what do we really do, Dario nardi discovered neuroscience tendencies between types that's an added layer , that's practical and world changing if you build apps n augment his scheme to some shit take a generalism approach but we spend days talking about people and who's good n bad what everything else holds insouciance to our crap the universe doesn't care and I love the idea it doesn't ,it's humbling cause why we erect social status on who sucks our dick better or what seems right we might be the next ones to go after the dinosaurs and nothing will remain to tell of our tales ,so I am an impersonal intj who would rather stay in the darkest woods that deal with people because people use people and what they like n feel to support their laziness , complacency, incompetence which is retrogressive, even tech is going the philosophy of pleasing idiots, I think Intjs who think highly of themselves actually are you said it yourself we come through in the end and not Many types do , we get shit done , we protect our packs ,we love truly that's why it's weird cause love us subjective and emotions are messy people don't like intjs simply cause we do things our way and not the communal way which is retrogressive and people are either afraid of shaking the pot or being responsible for what happens next so we do it for you Nikola Tesla introduced ac current , Issac newton gave us a step towards classic physics, Elon musk is pushing for interplanetary settlement what are you doing? Anyway it's all meaningless even what i am setting to achieve it's all meaningless you have ungrateful humans, greedy humans, entropy to deal with, cause no design holds to the mechanics of the universe

[@denismoon3344]

INTJ here hmmm... your like of Ni and your strong Ne are evident ...

[@lauracru]

? Why INTJ brings X up just to say 'this is a boundary'. A thought, referring to your 'si doesn't pay attention' video and paraphrasing...'si user doesn't know to pay attention until alerted' INTJ intuited this to be true of SI user archetype concluding to set the boundary early on to avoid the conflict foreseen in a newly valued relationship. Low FE and socially blind.

[@pepecorotopo]

You are so smart

[@Gadget_2161]

I haven’t met enough INTPs. I’m INTP but I feel like I’m an over mature one

[@Ohmi777]

Do you relate with the INTP part?

[@Skimmerlit]

Yeah. I'm working not to create problems for others the way I have/have seen other INTPs.

[@179bluesky]

Sorry for your bad experiences. Seems like those INTJs dislike you. Sorry to let you know this, but you seems to meet the unhealthy ones or are you sure they are INTJs? Not importers? As an INTJ, I have already noticed all my uncommon traits and correct them since I was young, as our type just love self-improvement. Please look for healthy real INTJs next time and make video about them. It was really fun. Thank you. 😂

[@sylviaowega3839]

I’m an INTP, whom sometimes gets mistaken for INTJ’s

[@xiaotaoayaya8409]

Wow. Compliments? Thanks.

[@lootbaglu]

how do you know so many INTJs? i dont think ive met another one in real life.

[@Skimmerlit]

No type is too rare. Learn their tells and develop a system for typing/finding them.

[@daresh5064]

idk i think im pretty fine as a friend

[@RenoReborn]

The reason we don't care about revealing our politics is because we don't consider these views to be crucial to who we are as people and don't feel the need to keep them guarded closely. Overpopulation needs a solution or else life on earth is actually fucked and Ghenghis Khan provided us a pretty effective solution. Draw whatever politics you want out of that (I dunno, probably Enviro-Fascism), nothing I have said is wrong and I literally could not care about your judgement of me as a person because I know I'm more than that 1 position.... I also want to ban private citizens from owning cars and demolish most of the roads MUWHAHAHAHAHAH (Be glad I have no interest in running for office, I'd make the WEFs great reset look like a fucking joke)

[@pobodysnerfect2635]

Oh wow. My little meow meows Not sure if I'm using the term right but I exclusively *simp* for Fe-doms and Fe-blinds. What mental illness is that exactly cuz I got it bad Something about tert Fi makes me go apeshit 😳 Extreme ideologies: right now I'm not close with any INTJs but I used to come across them a lot because of the internet circles I was floating through at the time and I found it really endearing how they just couldn't shut up about x or y group/opposing ideology/etc. Honestly I find it kind of hot as long as I sympathize with their ideology and they're not completely insane Mean culpa. Will put a cap on my thirst now. ✌️🤪

[@denvercolorado811]

I'm an INTJ

[@fantasy2yaa]

Intjs could talk about stuff that they initially had said not to talk about when they think that u are someone that they can a convo about controversial topic, have enuf energy on occasion or deem u worth the debate..

[@sankalpbhardwaj1944]

Never been close to one... But I love those cuties alot... All of'em!! -INTP

[@hae-jin5551]

Listening to your video reminded me of a KZbinr "TechLead"--I would bet he's a strong INTJ, and whether deliberate or not, he comes across as extremely arrogant. Brilliant but his unchecked arrogance appears to have been his downfall. Fired from prestigious jobs, and perhaps the most damning evidence of all, divorced by his wife, although that appears to have given him tons of fodder for content on his channel ;-).

[@shadowxx8867]

105

[@christianmoulart]

Dude you’re so far from the reality of what we are (Intj)that you should erase this video 😏

[@sheenatiller3502]

The beginning of this video was like dry sex aka awful! 7:35 min in and it seems likes it’s getting better but I’m so burnt out on the beginning and I’m over it…. Is that fucking thunder in the background. Wow!