Obsessive Boyfriends Are SO Romantic!

[@DanteYewToob]

"Ya know.. it's funny. When you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags... just look like flags." Wanda - Bojack Horseman.

[@N3rdZon3]

I love you for that Bojack Quote!

[@minggong4767]

she sounds like Phoebe from friends

[@scarletteyre5086]

I love that show!

[@RainbowQuartz2.0]

I love Bojack horseman.

[@stimcc9890]

I use that quote a lot because it really applies to me

[@evantywelwyn6443]

I think the saddest part is that there are women and men who actually believe this is romantic or sexy.

[@NIHIL_EGO]

Blame that on female-targeting medias like romcom.

[@trev1213]

EvantyWelwyn 420 likes

[@bmax99]

I mean, as long as both parties consent to such behavior and neither is harming or belittling the other, then it's fine.

[@gucciprincess619]

bmax99 It’s still kinda controlling if it’s obsessive

[@nadohawk]

Nihil Ego Dude. Romantic comedies paint these guys as the evil fiancé that the protagonist always ends up leaving

[@vjapple3083]

The real horror is that some people are actually like this

[@fredfour0]

VJ CatGirl the real romance*

[@Julian-wd8ym]

@@fredfour0 haha xD

[@stevenshar1233]

I have a friend whose in this type of relationship and it's bad when it happens to someone you know. But hay, it's free will.

[@ramrot666]

yep. And worse.

[@scammecrusher]

Yup

[@foibsdoesthings]

He threatened to kill me so he can keep the body for himself *SO R OM A NT I C*

[@princessmia66]

Phoebus Idratato That is *SO* romantic!!!! If only my guy said stuff like that!

[@theocean1973]

Oh my gawww, so romantaaahhhccc!

[@JadedOne420]

*i hope i become flowers*

[@moornnisig]

my boyfriend’s killed my entire family just to have me to himself, so cute!!!!!!!!!

[@yamiryuu]

OMG!!! That's sooo passionate !!!

[@hmkhgx8068]

Did he also kill you so no one else could have you.

[@WaltzingWhales4]

My boyfriend murdered my neighbor’s dog cause it growled at me, I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!!!

[@sunflowerriap656]

Actually that's a real case happend in my area when i was in 7th grade. A man broke into his ex house and killed all her family members, yah, including her too (6 people, her parents, cousins, even a 14 years old kid), the only person survive is her little sister (2yrs old at that time)... So when i read your comment, it made my skin crawl

[@jakeryan4680]

your comments funnier then then the actual video, now granted thats not saying much since the video was shite, but congrats anyway

[@CoryMck]

_3 women eating salads while laughing in a soft white-lit room._ *When did CollegeHumor start making Stock photos?*

[@Willaminaaa1]

Is not the first video... Whatch "Birth Control Methods Keep Getting Weirder "

[@CoryMck]

@@Willaminaaa1 In that one, it seemed like it was part of the joke, in this one, it seems accidental. Unless, they just spent the prop budget on fake salad and they're trying to justify the costs. Sorta like what they did with the Voltron videos. Actually, this video is just like the Birth Control video.

[@HelgaCavoli]

Not 3 white women. Not Stock photos material.

[@MrSmitheroons]

@Helgali women laughing with salads transcends race.

[@CoryMck]

@@HelgaCavoli I just googled "Salad Stock Photo" and both the 2nd & 3rd pictures had different Asian people. If anything, it's not that diverse stock photos don't exist, it's that people only -cast- use the white ones. (and they're all of light-skinned people, so there's that).

[@Starmadien2019]

I love the continuing joke of women eating salads and laughing

[@MadDunhill]

the best part is they are never actually eating the salads

[@owenwilliams8734]

This needs just one more like to make it to 420

[@vietanhtran6431]

@@MadDunhill omg yes hahha

[@berrymarbka4469]

Salads 🤷

[@JadedOne420]

OH _this was about salads_ *i always miss the point...*

[@CanadianPrepper]

But what would Katie's "you guys are always flirting with me" character have to say about this?

[@aleztfu]

She'd obviously interpret the gaslighting, the stalking and the psychological abuse as meaning the guy's totally into her. As we know, negging works on her a big time. 🤣

[@15thCrypt]

She would tell them shes still off the market and despite saying they arent interested her ex will come in and beat them up

[@OrlandoBustamante15]

And her husband

[@benvoliothefirst]

...and then she'd poop her pants.

[@notpablo8369]

Booooooooooooois

[@perfectway76]

This obviously is satire, but it was almost too scary and disturbing at times!

[@micahguillemette3344]

They say there is a very thin line between humor and horror. This video might have crossed it a few times...

[@Suchwerewolf]

This stuff happens all the time. That’s just one example of numerous friends who I’ve seen and heard giving in to their boyfriends abusive demands like sharing all passwords, tracking every move, dressing how the boyfriend wants etc

[@pureicefire]

Insane boyfriend: *holds up fake rooster* WHO IS THIS?!?

[@nieznajomy4398]

I have realized this right now. xD

[@aightinteresting2729]

-blind girlfriend: oh he’s my sugar daddy

[@OneRichMofo]

@@nieznajomy4398 realized what?

[@somkeshav4143]

OneRichMofo realized he held a fake rooster

[@revolver265]

I choked on my soda the moment I saw that, it was so good.

[@mediocreandworse59]

This rope that he ties me up with so I won't go anywhere at night is just a symbol of his commitment

[@0stuff220]

bondage.

[@15thCrypt]

The love marks they leave are a reminder that youll always be there for each other Or at least that youll always be stuck in that bed at night

[@mikes333]

Wow, ropes are a sign that he really trusts you. Otherwise he'd use chains.

[@Ben-rz9cf]

Thats actually pretty hot

[@sinnamonroll2780]

Are these the girls that think Joker and Harley are relationship goals?

[@grayinu9951]

Oh goodness if you think Joker and Harley is bad look up Sangwoo and Yoonbum now that is some messed up relationship goals, oof poor Bummie.

[@SM-dt3xo]

@@grayinu9951 sang who? Whose bum?

[@laurelblack8965]

@@SM-dt3xo It's this fucked up comic about two guys, one of which is a serial killer, the other is a victim of this serial killer who ends up getting Stolkhom Syndromed. Romantic? Debatable. But it's really good.

[@muchiemon]

Laurel Black Wait are you talking about Killing Stalking? (If so I actually plan on reading it soon)

[@laurelblack8965]

@@muchiemon Yeah. It's really fucked up, but it's nice. :)

[@Ben-rz9cf]

"No he thinks i'm stupid and doesn't want me embarrassing him." "You are!!!" "I know!!!" Ahahaha so true

[@basaksungur9068]

I think it's also about how these women have very low self-esteem and self respect. The other one calls herself stupid multiple times also.

[@Greenkitten45]

*Friend:* "We have a total Joker x Harley dynamic, it's so great!" *Me: R U N B I T C H R U N*

[@fahmidad.3616]

dashi run run run

[@JadedOne420]

xD xD xD xD xD me: *ded*

[@chickennuggets1990]

Yeah, because it's always better to have a Batman-Joker dynamic.

[@zera3947]

Is that a fucking scary movie 1 reference?

[@markwhitney3746]

GreenCookieWolf or a Harley-Poison Ivy dynamic

[@karinag9398]

My ex tried to convince my friend that I was pregnant so she could trick me into going to his house. Unfortunately for him said friend knew I I don’t want kids. He tried to pull the “we’re pregnant pls take me back” when *I’m* the one with the uterus.

[@quasarulas3968]

the funny part is it's literally just a bowl of lettuce

[@TaeThei]

Im confused with your story

[@thobiem]

That guy was an idiot. Did he seriously think that you wouldn't be able to figure out whats going on with your own body? I am so confused right now

[@aForkfulOfGold]

@Notre Aira Could you please not generalize about half of the world's population? Please be better than that. Thank you.

[@jogennotsuki]

@@aForkfulOfGold It's not generalization if it correctly describes something that has been and continues to be true essentially everywhere around the world and all throughout history. Your hashtag-NotAllMen just comes across as shallow virtue signaling.

[@donobaner6743]

Aww that’s just adorable I’m so happy for you guys . My boyfriend won’t let me out of the house! I’m so proud of him

[@ltz888]

Is your boyfriend R Kelly by any chance?

[@invalidname.pleasetryagain122]

OH MY GOD if your boyfriend is R Kelly I would die of excitementtt!!

[@Xxsorafan]

Relationship goals

[@laurao.391]

Your boyfriend sounds soooo romantic, you're lucky to have him!

[@nealastrickland3064]

Aw, that's so cute!

[@annaahatlilly266]

This video reminds me of the comment section on wattpad

[@josch5305]

**gets war flashbacks**

[@vincent-ls9lz]

who doesn't love impressionable teenage girls valuing and wishing for toxic relationships

[@AnjuSingh-dm4eq]

That romance section is freaking toxic.

[@angelinprasad5295]

its more like the genre of romance on wattpad

[@its_Vampyre]

@@vincent-ls9lz Don't forget about about the people who overshare there trauma to a bunch of strangers and for the most part it's just fake sob story

[@faith9312]

And they said male yanderes wouldn’t make it

[@twotrees510]

Wtf is that?

[@someonesour]

Hat in Grand Canyon it’s an anime trope look it up

[@TheUKisThere]

@@twotrees510 Crazy and aggressively in love people in anime. To the point of potentially killing someone and always threatening people around their beloved. Go watch a few Kubz Scouts Yandere Simulator videos to get the gist. The genre has become pretty popular with memes and what not in the last few years.

[@systemoverrider4270]

Viva the male yanderes, damn

[@tychowozniaki9269]

@@twotrees510 Yan is short for yanyan which is japanese for crazy and dere is short for deredere which means lovely/love/sweet. It's basically a person who is so obsessed with his love that he (more commonly she) goes crazy whenever she thinks that her loved one is threatened or somebody might try to steal him/her partner.

[@keylischmitz]

This was too real.... for me I wasn’t laughing, I just saw a lot of accuracy. After a while of being manipulated, it’s too easy to be completely blind to seeing this kind of behavior as unacceptable . It becomes normal... it becomes the definition of love. 2 years out of that relationship I’m still healing from a lot of trauma, but I’m finally getting my life back together. If you’re in this kind of relationship I URGE you to get out. Please, there’s way too many people in this world for you to be suffering over 1 person. It’s not love, it’s abuse.

[@RollerFoxx]

It made me extremely uncomfortable. I wish they would've made a disclaimer in the outro. I know that really isn't their style because it's comedy but other similar channels have done it with this kind of sketch.

[@caitlynclark7882]

Keyli Schmitz I am so proud of you for getting out! So proud! You are doing so great! It took so much more courage than most people will ever be able to understand for you to recognize what was going on and to get out. Woman to woman, I am so proud of you. I will be praying for you. Keep going, you’re doing great.

[@sschwarzer96]

Ikr, I've been in a relationship with a guy for 4 years until I realized that checking ang going trough someones phone and personal belongings and always wanting to know where I am and who I am with isn't normal lol. Like he even suspected my gay best friend just playing gay and not allowing me to sleep over at his house for this reason. I'm really happy now that I've changed and would never let myself be surpressed this way again.

[@nonaide]

@@RollerFoxx what do you mean by disclaimer?

[@user-fq1ig3uy3q]

WOOSSH!

[@jadeshelton3181]

Is no one going to talk about them eating ONLY lettuce!??!? No dressing, no veggies, no chicken!! The audacity lmao 😂

[@KonniWynn]

That's... very healthy. I mean. Lettuce is a vegetable

[@_eko_ill.1779]

@@KonniWynn Vegetables are a social construct.

[@KonniWynn]

@@_eko_ill.1779 They're a culinary construct, if you will, yes

[@MidnightSonnet]

@@KonniWynn It's healthy, but certainly not balanced. You need a variety of veggies and protein.

[@RainbowQuartz2.0]

I love lettuce. It's not that unusual.

[@IjeomaThePlantMama]

This was too real, unfortunately. Don't forget him creating multiple social media accounts to harass you after you block his other ones. And him contacting everyone you know when you no longer want to have contact with him. Ugh😞

[@deviousdefiler2312]

Harass is a strong word...

[@mariadc2512]

@@harrietjonesformerprimemin2545 " not all men " we get it

[@mariadc2512]

The saddest part it's that the majority of women I know had been through something like this

[@StarDust-th6fm]

María Crash they’re just making a point.

[@deviousdefiler2312]

@@mariadc2512 things happen. Anxiety leads to desperation and depression. Not all men are like that but ive seen it happen.

[@MsDragontooth]

I mean if your boyfriend doesn't abuse you emotionally is he really your boyfriend?

[@sempergumby2341]

And you know it's time for marriage when she spices things up with physical abuse too. 😍

[@espicorn9850]

Odium I know!! 😍😍when he has a scheduled date to when he will kill you😍😍 like, wow he’s so devoted!

[@MsDragontooth]

@@sempergumby2341 couple goals am I right

[@caitiscraft]

Justin Clubb ugh LOVE when my man beats me! So romantic😩😍

[@Xxsorafan]

Mines only does it because I deserve it

[@shadow14805]

I once talked to a guy and he said being obsessive was romantic or was how to be a good boyfriend etc I tried to explain to him how that’s defiantly not what you should do, then he replied, and I quote “don’t tell me how to love” I lost a bit of my sanity that day

[@ArturGlass.C]

That definitely sounds like the behavior and words from someone who's really healthy and in a happy and fulfilling long lasting stable relationship.

[@WaltzingWhales4]

Is he a werewolf or vampire????

[@Bestname_Ever]

Emma Walter no, i think he is from a swamp, his green skin is sooooo charming!

[@treylorence5381]

I'd be like, "We can't be together." 😂

[@portablethunderstorm2478]

You guys left out the part where he dictates what you wear so men don't stare at you

[@lynisalive]

That was mentioned. The didn't say "so men don't stare at you" but I heard one mention the boyfriend telling her what to wear

[@ZuperPhresh]

@@lynisalive twas indeed brought up

[@aminaa5824]

0:31 “he’s always telling me what to wear”

[@007xoxo]

If someone is reading this rn & you need help. National Domestic Violence Hotline can help victims, survivors of domestic violence. Call 1- 800-799-7233.

[@aminaht5694]

I see girls posting stuff like this on Facebook all of the time (like it’s cute )

[@fenix3188]

"you don't have a boyfriend, I mean... What could be sadder?" I felt attacked

[@RainbowRandolf]

Their situations are far sadder than being alone.

[@Turbonilla]

maybe you didn't understand the real issue the joke is about, if you still think the problem is not having a boyfriend...

[@fenix3188]

Nah chill, the phrase hit me but it was in a jokingly way

[@personam8074]

Those aren't even salads, just bowls of lettuce

[@treylorence5381]

😂

[@mdegauss]

i didnt even pay attention the lettuce just took me out of the skit

[@chickenkurry6451]

Isn’t that what salads are?

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

r/whoosh

[@mywillyfelloff1617]

you talking shit on my salad ? Yeah i just grab grass in a bowl and get it? so what ?!

[@zangarootoo]

the only unrealistic part of this is that they’re all eating salads

[@shawndiaz7528]

They're hardly salads, they're just bowls of lettuce

[@gogomarioloshi]

Their boyfriends probably told them to eat the salads.

[@CoryMck]

They're 3 women eating salads while laughing in a soft white lit room. Are you saying every stock photo of salad is a lie?

[@joshriles84]

Truth

[@DaComebakKid]

I agree. You don't win friends with salad.

[@AndromedaKai]

My friend has a husband like that. She always takes pictures with me to send to him. That is so hot! Also, he recently took out a loan and didn't mention it to her until collectors found her phone number and called asking for their money back. What a man! Seriously, this is so messed up.

[@Darklustmoonchild]

Lowkey my friend has a hubby like this too. Lowkey though

[@BassicallyKiyash]

@@Darklustmoonchild its been 2 years, did they get out of it

[@daisybell9888]

My ex called me a liar and a cheater because I was hanging out with a male friend I’ve had since sophomore year of high school. Then when I broke up with him he threatened to commit suicide. Yeah that definitely sealed the deal that we were breaking up.

[@MeepMeep88]

You think that's bad, this happened in real life. A friend was about to break up with her bf and the bf took her to a graveyard where her dead mom was buried and said "Do you think SHE would want us to break up?" Of course she cried.. She told me and I didn't really know what to say, so I just said.. "Well.. that's fucking weird.. He's kind of a weird fella isn't he.."

[@issecret1]

That is the silliest entreaty ever. I honestly think I would’ve laughed hysterically. And then been murdered, I guess

[@umersalman1]

Aww thats so romantic!

[@MISAO_SAO]

Hahahahaha! There's not much you can say to someone who is being manipulated by someone they love. If you're not honest then you feel like you're enabling and putting your friend in danger and if you are honest you lose a friend. All you can do is highlight the contradictions and red flags, like you did.

[@MeepMeep88]

@@MISAO_SAO LOL exactly, damned if you do, damned if you don't. Same with if you're in a relationship too. Girl tells you a guy was hitting on her or some random shit. You have two options 1. Act jealous and you're now labeled too overprotective/suffocating/paranoid/controlling etc" 2. Act like mehh 🤷‍♂️, you're now labeled as someone who doesn't care or love enough or some random shit.

[@NIHIL_EGO]

That's basically manipulation and emotional abuse.

[@i8dacookies890]

r/niceguys

[@kevinbeltran8118]

John Remmers r/lost redditos

[@ArturGlass.C]

I'm not sure. Nice guy would be more like "Haaan I do all these things and I'm super nice and sweet just like this dude but when I do it people say I'm creepy. Pfff just because I'm not as attractive as this guy. It's so unfair."

[@a.8142]

Stop using subreddits outside of Reddit please. Thank you.

[@fredfeuerstein8654]

@@a.8142 r/mildlyinfuriating

[@SuperAwesomeMovies]

Isn't r/niceguys where everyone from r/incel went after it was banned? Also, how bad is it that r/incel was so creepy they got banned from reddit? I didn't know that was possible.

[@Shalkar]

The real reason he got dumped and he's going through her stuff: He's trying to find her cocaine again.

[@jamesfry8983]

yep leave my stash alone that right there is instant break up materiel

[@khnm_qstcano4754]

you guys are upsetting the cocaine!

[@jeromealday614]

He's trying to find it and threw it away. Because he wants Katie to be a better person who he knows she was before all the cocaine and anxiety took over her head.

[@Shalkar]

@@jeromealday614 Gay Seal: Gaaaaaaaayyyyyyy!

[@lanigirognithemos]

Ok so Jess finally got an outro. Now she just needs to work her way up so she can also get that sweet green screen background instead of that cubicle one.

[@TenisJr]

Oh, but I bet they all are changing the outros because of Dropout

[@caleidozkopie8344]

I have a friend who's husband is just like this...maybe I should show her this video then she gets it..

[@Lemons19902010]

Unfortunately she won't get it until age decides that she wants to leave the relationship. I kept making excuses for my abuser and didn't want to leave for fear of "breaking up the family" or living out the "single Black mom" stereotype. I finally realized that my mental health and safety was more important.

[@meghajain1712]

She won't

[@Berlynic]

She won't. If she was able or capable of getting it, she would have left already

[@Turbonilla]

I'm amazed of how many people even in this tread didn't get it...

[@aliciazombie8699]

I've been in relationships like this, you're aware that it's harmful but you love them so much you stay. It takes time to realize just how fucked up it was tho. Typically after you leave.

[@avocado2755]

My boyfriend locked me in the house so no one else would have me, so romantic❤️

[@2_572]

Avocado I had a friend that threatened to kill himself for her to psychologically torture her to know it was her doing fucking romantic!:)

[@loretaruisenor988]

Very close to the tangled plot

[@lego4virgo]

So, THIS is what happens when r/niceguys DO get the girl!

[@Loronus]

dafuq are you talking bout. did this guy jc look like a nice guy?

[@ltz888]

@@Loronus @bigvirgotube is talking about Nice Guys™! ;)

[@Luaporleafcutterant]

@@Loronus if you have reddit, go on the subreddit r/niceguys, and you will see.

[@gargamellenoir8460]

@@Loronus Just google /r/niceguys to see what it's about. Hint : People who say they're nice guys to everyone rarely are.

[@ArturGlass.C]

Yeah and this is exactly why they usually don't.

[@aquamarine3139]

This video is like watching Twilight... How *ROMANTIC!!!!*

[@summahthevegan3796]

Aqua Marine I always thought that was an abusive relationship just as 50 Shades is too

[@a.c.n.9421]

HA!!! SOOOOO true!

[@kuriakosejim8696]

This video was borderline creepy and disturbing,and.............. *I LOVE IT, SO ROMANTIC* .

[@stanamilanovich3956]

This is the most apt comment and gets all the creepy applause.

[@anonomus8709]

Not sure whether to laugh or cry when I watch this one. I’ve seen soooo many people (not just girls... guys can be abused, too) think like this. It’s really frightening.

[@danielcastro5653]

This is how i imagine the meeting of 3 fifty shades of grey fan girls, who fetchize Crhistian Grey's character as the "dream man"

[@surladanse5621]

For real 🙄🤧let's not forget massimo from 365 days 😉

[@danielcastro5653]

@@surladanse5621 Yeah, they must be into this movientoo

[@knightenchanter7908]

Twilight fangirls.

[@sanjaynikam6983]

"It's like I am watching all the twilight movies" 😆

[@koffz-nl2118]

AT ONCE!!!

[@NathanielKorb]

👁️ *I like watching you sleep* 👁️

[@kixxenwalla167]

@@NathanielKorb I was just thinking of the space it would take to have those words in between one's eyes and laughed.

[@NathanielKorb]

@@kixxenwalla167 Teresa Giuduce, probably

[@mb-176]

I love how it's not even wrong

[@honeybee4558]

The scary part is this isn't even that much of an exaggeration...

[@BenDover-ij7yp]

It's the plot of the 50 shades. A man stalking the woman he loves. It's only romantic because he is rich.

[@honeybee4558]

@@BenDover-ij7yp I feel like you missed the point of the video. No one has ever implied that abusive behavior is okay just bc he's rich. It's deeper than that.

[@BenDover-ij7yp]

@@honeybee4558 Millions of women purchasing the book and watching the movie sent that very messege. If the main character of that movie was a plumber and done all those things, it would have been horror movie, hated by women.

[@honeybee4558]

@@BenDover-ij7yp Okay, but I've also read a lot of similar books where the love interest is not rich at all and his abusive behavior is still romanticized. 50 Shades Of Grey is only one example and I'm pretty sure Christian Grey being attractive had a lot more to do with women loving it than him being rich. I've seen women do this in real life with men who are even much poorer than them. Men who didn't even have jobs. The guy in this video going through the girl's desk doesn't even seem to be rich at all. This video has a lot more to do with how women seem to be conditioned to find abusive and controlling behavior romantic. I don't know why you want to believe that women are so obsessed with money (when we could easily make it ourselves), but that's just not the case here. I'm not gonna get into an argument though. That's all I had to say.

[@BenDover-ij7yp]

@@honeybee4558 I don't think it's about money. It's more about the social status money gives you and the lifestyle it gives you.

[@devmathur1410]

let us just hope no one takes this as actual love and relationship advice.

[@anonomus8709]

I don’t mean to be harsh, but if anyone takes a skit from a company called “College Humor” as gospel truth... I think they may be beyond help.

[@Dandrews96]

I was literally in deep thought about this a few hours ago lol. I do think it’s crazy how media will romanticize tf outta these crazy abusive relationships but then bash ppl when they fall for it in real life relationships

[@desireeloveros1055]

Apparently it's only abuse when he hits you.

[@AD-eg9cw]

@@desireeloveros1055 It is. Unless you are paralyzed and cannot walk away.

[@2_572]

Yeah according to the Development Institution Coalition of Knowledge Science, psychological pseudo guilt torture is totally alright as well:)

[@samflory]

I mean it a major problem with Romcoms. Modern ones are bad enough, but the ones in the 80s wow. I mean I thought 16 candles was stupid when I 1st saw it, but OMG it's horrible.

[@ramyap6410]

WHY DIDN'T SHE PICK UP DADINA'S CALL?? OMG ITS SO DISTURBING 😭

[@wirehanga3966]

Ramya P OMG

[@sarinakarim2513]

LOOOOL dadina

[@i--b5268]

Just freaking amazing, even if it's kinda scary how this topic is made so glorified to say the least. I'm looking at you twilight and fifty shades of emotional manipulation.

[@azeezahgoodwin918]

I mean, even Beauty and the Beast! The brainwashing started v young for us millenials

[@redoverdrivetheunstoppable4637]

*taking notes* - dungeon - ankle chain - stone walls - small, way too high window - bowl of salad

[@hello_world2767]

the b in bdsm stands for “bowl of salad”

[@sevenedge7963]

the way these ladies describe their boyfriend is almost exactly how my stepdad is. My mum thankfully broke up with him but it is terrifying to be in this situation. I hope this video helps others to realise that theyre also being EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATED AND ABUSED before it got as bad as it did for my mum. Thank u for making this video

[@notyourdestiny3547]

"You don't have a boyfriend, what could be sadder?" *lesbians have joined the chat*

[@stephaniegreen826]

My friend once dated someone who made her take pictures of me to prove she was with me and not someone else. Im glad she quickly saw how nuts that was. Ladies please dont date a guy whos like that.

[@KatyPlusOne]

All the red flags for an abusive relationship. Women's Aid helped me escape one. X

[@magellanicraincloud]

Glad to hear you escaped.

[@kn1ght-788]

Not trying to be like, a jerk about it. but when my boyfriend tried to slap me, I kicked him in the nuts and pulled out the ol' pocket knife... Really lucky I'm insanely abrasive.

[@patrickwilliams781]

Thats the joke.

[@KatyPlusOne]

@@kn1ght-788 I'm five foot, he was a heavily built six foot four. I'm disabled too, so my best defence was to give him no idea I was going to leave and acting like he was normal and like I had no idea I was being manipulated and gas lighted and subtly threatened with physical violence.

[@Noah-lo9vb]

I’m really glad you escaped. I’m so glad that you were able to defeat your difficult circumstances. I also love how you seem empowered and like you know how what happened wasn’t your fault at all. (Because it wasn’t)

[@britann9539]

A good video during this time of discussion after Netflix's 'You' 🤣

[@benji_kay]

how is it compared to the book? (no spoilers)

[@mariabuckow7215]

Yasss

[@cottonkandi3]

I never understood how EVERYONE in the show is somehow a shitty person! Like... WHO DAFUQ AM I ROOTING FOR!!!

[@natvasch6399]

@@cottonkandi3 Right? You kinda hate everyone...But still, rooting for the creepy stalker is a no-no. he's in the wrong, no matter how unlikable the other characters are.

[@mdtexeira]

@@cottonkandi3 Most people in TV shows are terrible people. The entire cast of friends were terrible people. Same with HIMYM. Turns out, people are by and large terrible, full of cognitive biases, prone to tribalistic behaviors which inevitably cause suffering of 'other people', and incredibly self-centered. This largely arises from the fact that we're all suffering terribly, as the experience of being sentient in a universe which you only gradually begin to realize does not care about your existence at all is productive of huge amounts of anxiety, coupled with the fact that other terrible people are constantly trying to use you for their own advantage, even in small and seemingly benign ways. What is amazing in TV show writing is that they manage to get you to empathize with terrible people, and even like them. To be fair, we usually end of favoring the characters who are terrible in the same ways that we personally are, sometimes even failing to see how the qualities those people are presenting, like duplicity, avarice, inconsiderateness, are even terrible qualities, because that would involve honestly looking at ourselves and realizing that we are also, largely terrible.

[@JustinY.]

Anime in a nutshell

[@mongo1052]

hey

[@kooll2401]

Hi it's umm...you

[@Septembersend34]

Lol! Hey Justin!

[@landfall3293]

Not wrong

[@songohan3321]

Must disagree out of principle.

[@notoriginalsbyaqibmalik6343]

My boyfriend put me in his basement dungeon and got me married to him in my sleep and has a clone of me in case I run away. HE'S SOOO CUTE.

[@goldogwolly]

Is this…the plot of Phantom of the Opera????

[@purplechu]

My boyfriend loves me so much that he broken my phone so that i cant call 911 and locks me up in a dark room with rats! SO CUTE

[@hyrunnisa997]

When I wake up with 100 missed calls from him and 50 voicemails of him demanding to get back together. That's true love.

[@minioli01]

That’s one of the best domestic violence add I’ve ever seen and it’s not even supposed to be.

[@minioli01]

Zandeus maybe you should look up domestic violence it’s more than simply physical violence. Stalking behaviors are also forms of domestic violence.

[@dakotaparker8333]

Um, actually, it's domestic abuse because abuse is physical and emotional, whereas violence is -physically- inflicting harm on another person. :)

[@callmeyourdai5y518]

@@dakotaparker8333 violent language is also domestic violence.

[@josephreis2915]

“It’s like watching all of the twilight movies at once, SO romantic!!” I am DEAD😂

[@KailebM]

sponsored by the Netflix show YOU

[@yaaaaasfire9621]

Can we appreciate that in the description there's a help line for domestic abuse

[@HappySlayer81]

It would be funnier if all of it wasn't real. There are zero exaggerations and that just makes the skit very uncomfortable to watch.

[@vabashrestha2806]

Maybe only the guy dressing up part might be exxagerated, but other than that I have to agree a 1000% with you. I've seen almost the exact conversation happen manyy times when my friends talk about their relationships

[@AvitalShtap]

@@vabashrestha2806 Dang really? I thought it was exaggerated. If your friends actually talk like this you should express concern about them possibly being emotionally abused...just sayin'... :O

[@vabashrestha2806]

@@AvitalShtap I've tried multiple times, I've seen them being manipulated, verbally and emotionally abused, blackmailed and they still think it's TRUE LOVE or that doing that is romantic. For example, One of my friend's bf asked for all her social media passwords and phone password and she gave it to him even when I told her Multiple times not to do so, well she didn't listen to me, guess what happened? They broke up and he started blackmailing her, only THEN finally girl comes crawling to me asking for help. This is just an example, but this has happened to multiple people I know and ofcourse I show concern and try to make them understand but they think that it won't happen to them, and, he's not like other guys or that becoming overjealous and possessive/obsessive is sooo hot.

[@Ben-rz9cf]

@@vabashrestha2806 Its just that stupid women often confuse love with a BDSM fetish and completely misunderstanding an integral part of their sexuality seeps into their personal life in toxic ways

[@sleepysera]

@@AvitalShtap Sadly, no. It's like a defense mechanism. They love the person, so they don't want to see the bad side of him, so they go through all sorts of mental gymnastics why clearly abusive behaviour is just gestures of love, because otherwise they'd have to confront the notion that their lover is an abuser. The worst case was a close friend I had known for many years since we were little children. Once they got together, he decided any and all places they went to, forbade her to speak to other men yet cheated on her in front of her, which she interpreted as "He just wants to test my love for him", broke her phones so she couldn't contact anyone without him knowing ("He just has anger problems, it has nothing to do with controlling me"), forbade her to meet with her family and talked her into thinking of her own mom and sister as sluts that are gonna tempt her, constantly beat her, threw stuff at her or threw her down the stairs ("But he apologizes to me after, crying and asking me to take him back, so obviously he loves me and knows it is wrong" only for him to beat her again the next day), of course she was not allowed to have a computer, he kept the money from her work (and often showed up there to make sure she wasn't getting too close to any coworkers or clients which was waved away with "Aw so cute he can't bear being away from me for a few hours even!") and he brought and took her back in his car whenever she wanted to meet with us, her female friends, she wasn't allowed to come by herself. Despite saying how cute and romantic and totally not obsessive and controlling and abusive his behaviour was, she was in tears and clearly distressed everytime she came to visit. We decided that can't go on and eventually she agreed. She saw a counselor (but didn't want police involved), tried to break up with her boyfriend, he beat her half to death but then proposed afterwards because "he couldn't live without her" and she was so touched that she said yes. As a result of our meddling, from then on she wasn't allowed to meet us anymore either, who "had tried to come between our love", so we lost all contact to her. From someone I know who hangs with the group that her now-husband belongs to from time to time, I know that they have two children now and she is the good little homemaker while he is out partying with other girls, be she isn't leaving him. I don't think that's how you treat someone you love, but any creepy, controlling behaviour down to outright abuse can be excused away if you are desperate enough to believe in the person that you don't WANT to face reality. This video was really hard to watch because there was always this fraction of a second after one of the girls presented a controlling fact about their boyfriend before the others ensured her that was SOOO romantic and lovely, a second of "I don't feel good about this but as long as everyone ensures me this is how a loving relationship is supposed to be, I'll keep convincing myself that it's fine. It's fine, right?"

[@jamesj1881]

Some days you need to just laugh at reality.

[@poweroffriendship2.0]

_Obsessive Boyfriends are so ROMANTIC..._ Me: *FBI OPEN UP!!!*

[@jose2226]

Wut

[@sidneywilliams8731]

The scary thing is... I've talked to my friends in these kinds of relationships and this is so similar to the real thing 😅

[@RiiFT]

Update your Twitter links guys, Jess is finally a cast member! Congratulations Jessica! You are such an important part of CollegeHumor, I’m glad you finally have the respect you deserve.

[@vabashrestha2806]

The writers might've as well just copy and pasted some wattpad stories

[@JustYourAverageGirl2002]

I think what's scarier about that is alot of those types of Wattpad stories are written by 13 year old girls.

[@olivejuice1424]

Damn..this hit a little close to home and it made me feel so icky

[@dylanlee4793]

And not a single piece of lettuce was eaten !!!

[@tankgirl9324]

It was romaine lettuce. They used the surplus as props.

[@whatspoppin11326]

This is basically every Wattpad author

[@surladanse5621]

Bruh💀 you're not wrong

[@horrorvictim]

Women laughing while eating a salad, what a throwback

[@butterhat1938]

"The key difference between romance and stalking is success" Watch every chick flick ever and tell me I'm wrong.

[@butterhat1938]

@Glenna Smith to be fair, my opening pickup line for the woman that is now my fiance was, "I'm sorry but I dont have a freezer to hide your body in." We get married in the fall this year and we want to have 2 kids.... And her mom gave us her old freezer last month.

[@butterhat1938]

@Glenna Smith 😶

[@celestialsalamander]

romantic comedies are like pornos in that they often depict things that would be unacceptable in real life.

[@lamarfinesse8753]

A man never loved me enough to hit me yet. No passion in my relationships.

[@nbucwa6621]

Sad that I've heard women unironically say this

[@lionspride4821]

"YOU BETTER NOT BE LYING TO ME, WHO ARE THESE SLUTS!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!?" 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@waterlily2583]

It was so funny how fast he replied!

[@junthemaledicted]

I felt it so much when she hit herself call herself stupid, I was like ooh. I was that person and it sucked

[@jimmiechimmy9031]

This is exactly what happens in all kdramas where the boyfriends go through your things and get jealous over meeting other men for any reason

[@BobLogical]

My favorite kind of salad is plain mixed greens in a giant Pyrex bowl.

[@Blindinglights25]

I know. Who needs flavour anyway?

[@fullmetaljoker666]

Can we get one on obsessive girlfriends? Cuz honestly I feel like we kinda sweep the domestic abuse of men under the table in this country. Dont get me wrong domestic abuse in general is a horrible thing but honestly we really dont have any kind of support for men in a domestic abuse situation. I've actually had girlfriends in the past do very similar things in the past to me and even had one cut me with a knife. When I tried calling the domestic abuse hotline they tried counciling me on not abusing her. I got no help from them and had to completely change my number and delete social media for a while. I mean if we really are at a age of equality can we not see that men suffer from this horrible thing as well and help each other out?

[@ashleysmith1276]

Shit yeah, it happens to guys too. No doubt. Sorry you had those things happen to you, and I am even sorrier to hear you had so little support when you needed it. People can be assholes regardless of of gender. It seems to be linked to things like insecurity (theirs, not yours), paranoia and delusions. If people have been cheated on in the past I guess I u nderstand where those feelings and actions come from, but that is no goddamn excuse for abusing another person. I hope you are in a healthier relationship now, or at least free from abuse.

[@thisisnotmyrealname7852]

lol, I can only laugh at guys who can't control a women...

[@sleep3417]

@@thisisnotmyrealname7852 I can only hope you girlfriend beats herself up and falsely accuses you of abuse to get you locked up and lose your job with nothing but words. Well, if you could ever get one. Pfft.

[@bilinmeyennumara2173]

Collegehumor had one of those I think. But not about obsessive, but psychotic girlfriends

[@MrGksarathy]

They already got to that YEARS ago.

[@PhantomShark4]

Oof, this hit home too hard.

[@ellasmith1822]

I'm with you, sis. Hope you're doing ok. 😢💙

[@pcarebear1]

Amen! Middle school up to now (31)...I stayed away from actively dating on purpose b/c all my friends and fam attract these guys like flies to a lightbulb. Hope you are doing amazing now

[@IjeomaThePlantMama]

Girl, same. Stay strong 💕

[@PhantomShark4]

The love on this thread is incredible

[@iPsychopathx3]

Hey. I don't know you but I hope you're doing okay. Don't lose hope.

[@Ak-sm2qu]

This didn't pass the bechdel test

[@dylans.1741]

Failed with a Z minus

[@kingk.o.l.d6859]

"Love keeps you on edge and makes you need anxiety meds" I have never had it broken down that so easy for me to understand

[@alliecardinal1768]

I really hope everyone knows this is satire. If your SO actually treats you like this, it’s abuse

[@Xxsorafan]

Allie C no it’s not.

[@alliecardinal1768]

Bethany Monges it 100% is

[@Getellavated]

I was gonna say no one took this literally and than I read the top reply... :/

[@Xxsorafan]

Allie C no it’s not. Sometimes you need it to be a a better person

[@sleepysera]

@@Xxsorafan If you NEED your boyfriend to control your entire social life, stalk you wherever you go, and constantly make sure you aren't cheating on him, because otherwise you actually would, then something is seriously going wrong in the relationship in general, from your side. If you can't be "a better person" who doesn't cheat on their S.O. unless they physically stop you from doing so, then why are you in a relationship with them at all?

[@ghostguy312]

I love how always when they're eating salads, they're not actually eating salads

[@HengHuiMei]

the level of sarcasm is too damn high and i love it

[@gaygaygay312]

I’m so happy jess is showing up more often!!! I love her

[@bazooka-sharks-parker]

I just LOVE the giant salad bowls , like those crazy stock photos of women laughing while eating salad , just love it

[@Alchemeri]

Why do girls eating salad and laughing are so Common in shows?

[@slime_bird]

woman laughing alone with salad

[@koffz-nl2118]

Because theyre actually eating cannabis salads and it lightens up the vibe. Middle aged white women LOVE this, along with wine.

[@maisykate8499]

@Talsong Kingslayer that's the joke

[@supernova582]

Because you know how women are really light eaters lol

[@cocolime6496]

@Talsong Kingslayer hey, you know what's a really stupid stereotype? that salads are bland and gross 😤

[@eptile]

My friend's wife is like this.. she literally tried to give away his dog in craigslist while he was at work. (he was in army training) All because she didn't like how much attention he gave the dog and how the dog cuddled him (normal dog stuff). I hope to god he found someone to watch his dog before he went on leave, she will probably do the same again, or kill it so she doesn't have to take care of it.

[@centaursapocalypse7259]

I hope they never have kids. She's going to abuse the shit out of them if she can't handle a dog being affectionate.

[@vabashrestha2806]

@@centaursapocalypse7259 I totally understand what you mean, but does your friend see her doing things like that as "romantic"?

[@eptile]

@@vabashrestha2806 no, but he normalised it, he married her when she was pregnant with someone else's kid.. But he has daddy issues himself, so I think he liked her at first and figured he'd be a good dad to her kid. And now he is attached to the kid I think he is scared to leave her because she'd take "his" daughter. I don't know if they have any kids together now, since she cut me out of his life. which is retarded because I am with someone else, and have been in a commited relationship for 5 years. Sucks to, I tried to be friends with her.. But she is to obsessive and controlling. I can't deal with that.

[@eptile]

@@vabashrestha2806 I miss him as a friend since we have known each other for 10 years.. But it was his decision. And I'm not his keeper. Last time I talked to him he was super drunk. And I think it's only gotten worse.. she hates him, But his wife won't leave.. she gets a free place to live and support because of his job.

[@vabashrestha2806]

@@eptile Wow that's harsh, I've seen this happen too and by the end is it all, the person losses all the ones that are close to them. I'm sorry this happened to your friend, but at the end of the day they are in control of their own actions.

[@zacharypappalardo3789]

It's funny but it's also really sad

[@Allison-qz5yr]

I once had a co worker tell me “I don’t have friends anymore because my boyfriend is so protective, you’ll understand when you get a boyfriend,” a grown woman. Luckily they broke up.

[@luxyoshi9876]

its sad that i lived through this convincing myself that it was okay because it was out of love , im just glad i grew out of it and realized through the people that really cared about me what a healthy relationship isnt

[@lucariomew365]

Too many of my friends are in relationships like this and it makes me so sad and uncomfortable. They even show up at work "to say hi."

[@TetraSky]

Women(and men), who are ok with that kind of relationship... have a couple screws loose up there.

[@cocolime6496]

part of me feels sorry for them because they've been taught that this is acceptable and they must have low self-worth, another part has no patience for that lack of perspective and desperation to not be alone.

[@johnnyblank4085]

@Sarah Ricci This. Right here. Could not have been more well said.

[@valesth4903]

@Sarah Ricci Doesn't have to be romance either. I've met few people always being abusive, controlling and demeaning "because they love me" "for my own good" because they " know what's best for me". If you hear these phrases for more than two things in a year- run.

[@cocolime6496]

@Sarah Ricci it's true. we shouldn't be so harsh towards people who get trapped in abusive relationships. but on a wider, more general sense, this toxic behaviour gets constantly perpetuated by society - by media, but also by our families and friends, sadly. and those who have the benefit of being outside of these kinds of relationships, despite seeing the real life consequences of them and having explained to them that this behaviour isn't healthy, will bend over backwards defending it and insist that it's the height of romance because they refuse to pull their heads out their asses.

[@therhythmictale5574]

*J.D. has entered the chat*

[@andrewtokkkki]

yES I'VE FINALLY FOUND IT MORE MUSICAL TRASHIESS

[@cottonkandi3]

oUR LOVE IS GOD I. WAS. MEANT. TO BE YOURSSSS WE WERE MEANT TO BE ONEEEE I CANT TAKE IT ALONENEE FINISHHHH WHAT WEVE BEGUNNNNN

[@addiebrooke2536]

VERONICA!!!... open the, open the door please. Veronica open the door

[@Getellavated]

Oh no these are ich Lüge bullets, it’ll just uh.. do you know German? No ok good... it’ll just... uh... knock em out? Yeah he’ll just pass out or something (quietly) probably whatever don’t worry bout it babe

[@gemre1883]

Katie probably gonna find a new bf becuz everyone is flirting with her

[@Beautywithdog]

I had been in this kind of relationship....I hate myself for this now ..I still feel embarrassed by it.

[@songbanana8]

No there is no need to hate yourself or be embarrassed! You are not responsible for others mistreating you. Abuse isn’t something that happens only to dumb or naive people, and you’re not stupid or broken for having experienced abuse. I hope you are in a better place now and can love yourself like you deserve to be loved ❤️

[@samlynx2016]

I'm so glad you're safe now!

[@mrsridders]

After almost 3 years I still get occasional emails about working things out. Even when it was entirely my fault for not understanding that he was controlling and manipulative because he is in love, he's says he's willing to forgive me. It feels like a fairy tale and he's the prince charming fighting for our love.

[@ArturGlass.C]

You know how romantic a guy truly is when he keeps harassing you saying "it's okay I forgive you". So beautiful.

[@mrsridders]

@@ArturGlass.C I know, I'm so lucky. Please don't be jealous

[@esbeelavallee2568]

Are you sarcastic or you really believe what you are saying?

[@mrsridders]

I was running with the tone of the video. To calify: No, it's ridiculous and annoying that I still have to deal with a person who doesn't understand after saying a thousand times NO or after getting my complete indifference. It's not romantic, it's borderline sick and it sucks living expecting for it not to get worse than that.

[@wanderlustwarrior]

Happy first outro, *Jess* ! Way to *GO* ! Funny stuff! Also, I love the salads in your videos. Just don't tell your boyfriend about me talking to you! I don't want to *GET* in the way, I want to *HELP* your true love!

[@harsh7501]

haha secret message *GET* *HELP*

[@AngryKittens]

I literally have married friends like this. They thought it was cute when they were still dating. Now they're chained to the house and we never see them ever. P.S. Oh. And they're _male._

[@Eridanus_Nebula]

christ, that's disturbing ://

[@ejhc9628]

They must be into bondage, thats so.. Romantic ❤

[@Murokoshi]

I actually game with a guy that has a fiance like this. He has to sneak around and play games when she's at work because if she's home she legit throws a tantrum if he's giving anyone else but her attention.

[@IjeomaThePlantMama]

Emotional abuse can be done to both men and women. Nobody is saying otherwise. This video just happened to address boyfriends

[@peterbell3199]

Yep, one of my best friend can never hang out with us if there are any women joining us. His wife is majorly insecure and controlling about shit like that.

[@muniapolis287]

This hits differently after you know what's going around for 'You' these days.

[@welp3974]

"It's like I'm watching all of the Twilight movies at once" Awsome😂