I Moved…Again! (Moving Vlog & ChitChat “The Search For Permanence”)

[@Dadiddy97]

"It is not impermanence that makes us suffer. What makes us suffer is wanting things to be permanent when they are not." Thich Nhat Hanh

[@hellostephco84]

WHEWWWWWW!!! A word!!! 👏🏾👏🏾

[@lovenadia5155]

@@hellostephco84 can we get a internship story time ?

[@tamaram6924]

😬🥴🙃

[@NotThatDeep]

First I lived in Las Vegas, which was a horrible place to try and find a husband and it was also always hot af. So I moved to the Mid West (OMAHA) at age 26. Found my ex, who was white and racist, but not racist (if you know what I mean). It was also humid af there. Hated it for my hair lol So I moved to Colorado at age 29 for another change of weather and type of men. This is where I met my now husband at 32. Absolutely love it here, and the weather is fantastic. My family told me during each move that I need to stop running from things every time I had a break up or didn’t like the weather. But I don’t feel like I was running, I was searching for better, and I found it.

[@latoyiamackey4642]

He was one of them Midwestern White guys huh. 😂 Colorado is amazing. I go back to visit quite often

[@user-gx1cd5fo2w]

My family literally said the same, and i was questioning myself until i read this.. i was and am looking for better... And that should be fine. 😂🤷🏼‍♀️ Im happy you found your spot.

[@missminti]

People who give you grief about moving around are stagnant in their own lives.

[@sb1206]

It’s better than staying somewhere you don’t love. And you found what you love.

[@GreekYogurtGranola]

Family can give you the worst advice sometimes. They aren’t you, and therefore don’t know your best interest. You clearly do know your best interest, which is why things are in your favor now

[@Boahemaa]

This is why I'm here. It feels lonely when it seems everyone in your year group is grounded and you're yet to settle. I know better now. Everyone has their struggle but it can feel like its just you at times.

[@atruthseeker79]

I think it's very rare to find people who can "get you" at such a deep level. Such people are very special like you said.

[@enifromtheville3399]

Packing tip: for hung cloths leave on the hangers and put a heavy duty trash bag over them, poking a hole for the hanger, and then tie at bottom. No packing required ✨

[@cpwwjd69]

That's what I did do. I hate moving

[@danibkash5396]

Gets me through every move!

[@larabraver]

Yep, have done this for a 2 or 3 moves 👍🏽

[@mercyrn35]

Yes! Invaluable tip!

[@lanakane4888]

“Maybe this is not my assignment, and that’s why my request don’t work here” changed my life ma’am.

[@hellostephco84]

So...if you saw the first version of this video, I VERY CLEARLY showed the address where I get my mail. A wonderful patron reached out to me and told me I had done that and even provided a time stamp. So I tried to add a "blur" in the youtube editor and ended up blurring my face and the screen for like two minutes lol. I can't get rid of it now (the youtube editor is booboo doo doo garbage) but...the sensitive information s is hidden! So from about 50:46-51:14 my face, my eyes, my shoulder all have a huge blur on them. Live and learn! And thank you again to the wonderful person who originally informed me of this mistake! Also, I had to make it private so I could try and fix the issue...and all my comments went away 😭😭😭😭 And I actually loved this comment section!!! There's a first time for everything lol. Anyway...thanks for watching!

[@cowaybo]

Understandable, Steph! Your honesty and the pivot you are experiencing is something I can completely relate to. I had to pull out my journal to write down “your requests are not going to change your assignment.” Wow!

[@aprilgomez1343]

Me sitting on my couch with my coffee listening as if you are in my living room and you’re catching me up on life lol

[@shontasweetieable]

Lol I do this too… I usually listen in the morning with my coffee..glad I’m not alone

[@amaliasafaryan4256]

i know i wish my friends were this talkative! lol They must talk about rachet stupid stuff but steph actually talks about important stuff

[@MsScott-xr4ry]

Haha me too! Is this bad??? Do we need help lol? I'm completely satisfied with this level of interaction.

[@sw01237]

Same! I would love to have friends like this

[@whatsonhermindblog123]

A mood!

[@jessepersaud6276]

Major girl crush on you. You are so wise and I love how you are speaking to us!!! You are SO relatable, I love how you dish out the real. Side note- you’re really pretty and smart!

[@talent_can5770]

Seconded! She is amazing ❤️

[@themostbeautifulisraw4561]

Completely agree

[@armamia.1701]

Can I fourth that?

[@So-what692]

Yes! 😍she is one of my best friends who doesn’t know me yet 😊

[@teacherof20]

@@So-what692 me too!

[@chasitymoment8721]

The beginning about moving was really eye opening. As the child of a single mother we moved a lot and I kind of resented my mom because I don’t have childhood friends but now I realize we moved because things didn’t work out and she was just trying to find a place to put down roots.

[@larabraver]

I’m a single mother and I put a lot of effort into making and maintaining friendships for my child even after we moved out of the country. Our family lived far away so I know that feeling of being rootless. He’s had close friends for 5 years now. Video and phone calls help. God bless you for having grace for your mom. Best wishes to you.

[@_mindhuman]

I understand you completely! I have a very similar story. Also majored in film and entertainment, had a horrible internship that killed my dream to work in the film industry, went into teaching, hard time finding love(have never had a boyfriend, only gone out on two dates). I only stayed closed to two college friends which I love to death, but unfortunately live in another city. I get you sis.....I get you.

[@_mindhuman]

You are such a beautiful person inside out! I don't understand this world. You are too good for this freaking world.

[@TITLEWA]

I’m in my late 20s. I’ve moved so much & had so many cool experiences. I transferred colleges 4 (maybe even 5) times, dated lots of men, worked jobs that are extremely different from each other and seem to switch friend groups every 2 years or so (just growing apart mostly due to location). But I’ve actually never considered it as a negative thing. I’ve always felt like it was so cool and brave to move a ton, try everything and never settle. It makes for great memories and fun conversations. I’ve said this before on another one of your videos, but I think you’ve already lived SUCH a full life with so much more to go. I just love your life. I love listening to every story you tell about it. I truly can’t get enough. You really inspire me to live.

[@suchaclassylady]

I had the same experiences right out of college. Once I was rotting behind the desk of a dead-end job and overheard a nurse who was married to a doctor call one of their dentist friends to get her mediocre, screw-up son a prestigious internship. Just like 💥 that 💥 his party-boy, DUI, C-Average GPA was forgiven and he was well on his way to the good life. I knew right then what being experience rich and network poor meant.

[@ampa4989]

But most people don't have that privilege. Most of us grew up middle class (or lower middle class as I did) and we just have to work hard or make do or (sometimes) fail. Privileged people are very few. The guy's father worked REALLY hard to get into med school. We strive to be successful so our children will have that privilege. Your parents and my parents couldn't do that, though they did other things to make sure we had food on the table, money for school supplies and a roof over our head. Some children have far less and even negligent or abusive parents. It is your job and my job to try hard to get into med school or some other career so we can be solid middle class or upper middle class so our children can take golf lessons or go skiing or have that incredible internship or know friends who'll become captains of industry or afford an expensive college or have an inheritance. We are all dealt some challenges in life. We have to try our best without resenting others who got to the punchline first.

[@suchaclassylady]

@@ampa4989 I should hope you don’t resent those who have more access to certain resources. I agree there is no reward in being a jealous tether. You just have to hold your own and make your way, just as I have. Good luck.

[@marie-francoiset9402]

@@ampa4989 or maybe prestigious internships shouldn't go to those who are choosing to f*uckup and go to those that earn and deserve it. nepotism breeds resentment and incompetency.

[@ampa4989]

@@marie-francoiset9402 Usually, it's meritocratic. After all, companies and institutions want to attract talent. And this one sounds like just a gig with a dentist. But if not, again, that's the reason we work hard -- so our children will have a good life. It's like our mothers used to say. We have to be twice as good (as the rich or the connected or whatever). Life's not fair.

[@JessicaLanear]

Stephco we’re in the same boat. I’ve moved from Alabama, Georgia, Alabama, Georgia, Florida, Alabama trying to get a desired salary, career…. Each time I was slapped with the Great recession, workplace stress and anxiety, workplace bullying, covid, family deaths and low pay…. I’m currently working for a marketing agency but the pay is low and I’m looking to move for work Again.

[@falconeddie4109]

Were you a teacher by chance? I’m in Alabama too (Birmingham), looking for career that’s not teaching, but pays a living wage. Cheers 🥂

[@fsal4682]

I’m not a quarter thru your video but I can’t believe someone has had the same turbulent experience I had since graduating university in 2010. I have had short stints at everyone job I have had, even one abroad teaching. The ups and downs have become a way of life for me, but I cringe and a sense of shame is evoked when I’m asked about what I’m upto and the look of “again?” or “what happened with the last job?” on people’s face. It’s hard to justify being in your mid thirties and always embarking on something new every few years because things obviously didn’t work out at the last place. Anyways, I’ll continue watching but thanks for voicing a concern some of us have experienced and the emotions that go along with it 😊

[@MsDreamzUK]

So true. I have lost count with how many jobs and the number of times I’ve moved. Good to find other people with turbulent lives in their mid 30s too. It’s been a good learning curve for finding out what I do like & finding my strengths. I’ve come to a place where I value my journey & I’m happy with my efforts.

[@AMMA83]

I had a similar experience after graduating in 2005 and then again in 2009 from my masters. My work experience only stabilised in my mid 30s but it was very difficult - I also wish I knew about ad agencies and roles like corporate communications and copywriting. I think it's also easier for people if they have a partner. I have a friend in her early 30s who has had a lot of issues with work over the past several years, but her partner she lives with has a stable well-paid job and that's enabled her to always take the time off she needs to find the next job or leave somewhere she didn't like instead of sticking it out to pay the rent.

[@fsal4682]

@@AMMA83 Thanks so much. I couldn’t agree more. I even thought many times if having a partner would make a difference. Glad to hear your prospective and will keep pushing forward 😊

[@briasantana3268]

An hour!!! She is spoiling us 🥹🥹🥹 we missed you steph!!

[@nomathamsanqajezile6985]

I hate that this platform has not been kind to you, but I hope, from the balls of toes that you know that you are a much needed space on this platform. You speak for me and many, many other women that relate to your life journey. You are amazing and finding you on here was the best thing to happen to me online. You give me so much hope, make me feel less alone in my experience and valid in those experiences.

[@VenusianLissette]

damn, I relate so heavily to the bouncing around with jobs and in life. Hearing “you just don’t wanna work”, like no, I just wanna do something that is actually fulfilling that doesn’t cripple me emotionally. Lol omg you are literally so funny and entertaining, tysm!

[@suigeneris5193]

A whole hour!! I’m so excited!! 🥺🥺♥️♥️♥️

[@Aritul]

That is the same thing I said.

[@cubanadelrey]

Philadelphia. NYC. Seattle. Olympia. Oakland. LA. Back to Oakland. Now Atlanta…. starting over has never been a mistake for me.

[@xActingxBabyx94]

I felt so much of what you discussed. I'm currently in a version of what you experienced post-college -- I'm an attorney and hating every second of it. I couldn't find a job in the specialization I wanted for over a year so I just took what I could get, and I've never been more consistently miserable in my life. Depression on 1000. I've long since realized that it's not what I'm "meant" to do in life (which was only confirmed when I recently saw that my moon and my midheaven are opposite on my birth chart LOL) so I'm now trying to figure out what that is, perhaps embracing the idea that no one is "meant" for anything and it's just about figuring out what you have access to that is most compatible with your lifestyle despite not being perfect. And also being single, with friends scattered all across the country, and a family that can't be relied upon... a lot of hard life shit happening right now. Hope it all makes sense eventually because... this ain't it lmao

[@SapphicSis]

i feel it. i just graduated college and there is no love or community where i live so i decided to not wait for the money. I have friends all over but they’re all taken and my family is yk. family with their own lives. it’s all about finding what’s meant for us and it’s gonna take us longer. we’re going to figure it out tho

[@sarahturtle3270]

When I tell you I see you and hear you. I also feel like what people are meant to do is different for everyone. Some people were set up to succeed at what they without really thinking about while others still can’t find anything. I believe what is meant for you will be, just keep trying to find the answers and don’t give up on wanting your joy and peace

[@TheSTALLIONESS]

I work for a big tech company in Florida and we have attorneys in our legal dept. They make sure our business is following the cybersecurity guidelines for the U.S. and they read over out contracts with our clients and vendors. There was a black girl who was our general counsel I believe and she left to become a VP of another tech company. Maybe try and get into a legal dept of a tech company. Great pay, benefits, fun environment. You can do your law thing but still be in a relaxed environment.

[@larabraver]

That was me - those last 10 lines you wrote. I just hung in there with “patience and prayer”. Took tennis lessons, played tennis with friends, took swim lessons, organized old photos, dated sometimes, worked hard to pay off school loans, found joy and laughed as much as I could and just hoped life would one day improve. Sending hugs and prayers to you.

[@marie-francoiset9402]

what are you saying that the moon opposing your midheaven means?

[@karagarcia9326]

Had a hard time getting a decent paying job after college. Took me going back into a different field to actually find success. I love your realness. Like a KZbin friend 🥰

[@taybee4653]

I definitely relate when you to talk about your career journey. I left teaching in 2021 and I am still trying to figure out my next steps.

[@ItsNicola]

Community is a difficult one, personally I found love ‘easier’ to find. I’m in Ireland at the moment and love my job and partner but I wouldn’t say that I necessarily have a community here

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

I love this so MUCH!!!. SO nice to have "not having arrived" at a certain age normalized. Im thinking abt going back to school to make more money. Im.30 and Im searching for permanence as well.

[@docd2026]

"Maybe this is not my assignment and that's why my requests don't matter here!" SIS, often we translate being shoved into the corner as an indictment on our ability, character or talent when perhaps...just maybe..it's the complete opposite! We have abilities that supercede the opportunity we are asking for and ppl simply don't know what to do with us. MAAM THAT ONE SECTION OF THIS VIDEO WAS AN ENTIRE SERMON!!!

[@shachede6828]

Sheesh I moved and moved to get the salary and work life I desired. I also moved this month and started a new job. I am an engineer I have finally got to where I desire. I plan to stay here for Atleast 2-4 years. For me 2 years is a long time lol. I’m 28. Where I am now is beyond my wildest dreams so I’m here to stay hopefully 😅😅

[@lorat4362]

Steph, continue to tell your not so unique story. Your life as a whole is uniquely yours but each experience that you went through resonates with so many. It gives so many others a voice. Yes hard work plays a part, but so does luck. Some of us are lucky to be in the right place at the right time to get their foot in the door, meet the right person, etc. I got into teaching because there were no jobs in my field when I graduated. The economy hadn't recovered from September 11. I know you don't enjoy moving, but I do. If I could, I'd explore a new city every few years. Nothing wrong with that. But I respect that others don't feel that way. Either way, people shouldn't feel ashamed of how far they've come as long as they tried. I stopped caring what everyone thinks a long time ago. I'm glad you're letting go of what doesn't serve you and letting Peace and in...and we all look like that at home 🙂

[@Remarkablebrittany]

Omg! This video made me feel so much better about my adult life. I just turned 32 and currently live in Houston. Lately I feel the lack of community. Sometimes it feels good just to know you’re not the only one. ☺️💕

[@carbon_lifeforme]

23 year old here! and i have no clue where i wanna live, so this is cathartic lol

[@anissa2361]

Lol, same. I'm 23 as well and I know I wanna move somewhere else buy I'm not sure where

[@litbunni8007]

Words cannot express how happy I was when I saw you posted a video. And it is even an hour long! 😍😍😍 We love you, Stephanie! ❤️❤️❤️

[@afuaowusu7232]

Love love love these linger styled talking videos and blogs. You are a blessing to the KZbin community. Thank you for being a content creator!

[@pyt223]

Another great video! Your ability to be vulnerable is so empowering. I totally identify with simply wanting to create and comfortably exist. I was way too afraid to really forge my own path ( wanted to pursue fashion journalism while living in a tiny country town. Talk about needing to know someone to get your foot in the door!). I also briefly taught preschool and spent my 20s essentially trying what was available around me. From one "weirdo" to another, I grew up very sheltered but was recently afforded the opportunity to work remotely and travel with a partner around the country. I've never had the chance to really spread my wings when it comes to building or finding my own community. I've always had a best friend (we met in daycare and are friends to this day) and I had a similar college experience of finding people who got me. Being away from friends/family has definitely highlighted my social deficits but hearing your story of trying to find satisfaction and coming to a place of acceptance has made me feel less alone during my own journey.

[@GiveHerFlowers]

Love this

[@danapalmer7582]

Guuurrrlll....you is me, me is you! Sending you love and unicorn sprinkles from NJ! I'm a married BWM age 43 and my spouse is a 50 yr old WM...I say this to let you know you are seen and it does get better when you least expect it.

[@natural4lifemiss]

Hope!Thanks!

[@INTERESTEDINFORMEDINSPIRED]

fifteen minutes in and I can totally relate...have been between four states since 2008 (Virginia for an internship, Pennsylvania, Chicago for graduate school and Florida where I worked for Disney for the last 8 years) and I have zero regrets...I'm well travelled if nothing else...and also who says one has to commit to living in one place forever?...I don't think I could...I'll be a snowbird (live in Florida in the winter and back up here in PA for the summer...that's my ideal living situation) Edit: no you’re not boring for wanting to live where there are a lot of trees. I could go for that right now lol

[@AshleyMorgan]

I really completely understand this. I have lived many countries and cities because I prefer to be flexible and maneuver through opportunities. I purchased a home last year and I have been toiling with selling and moving again because I am just feeling the urge. I am ready for new scenery, new opportunities, new faces, new spaces.

[@missminti]

Gypsy blood, just like me!

[@Piqued5]

super relatable. You're on the money about how we all didn't have the same experience during the 08 recession. Some of us are still going thru the consequences and others left unscathed. It's not one event that derails you, but a series since careers and opportunities are often escalatory.

[@heyhellohi_]

I’m 30 and I’ve moved every 1-2 years across Illinois since I’ve moved out of my parents home in my early 20s. I like to go when I want something “better” and as I (any my pockets) grow, I want my space to as well. I’ll stop moving when I feel like I’ve moved in a place I can stay long term. I don’t have a partner or kids keeping me in one place, though I don’t desire to really move outta state. But, if I do I can.

[@anhserc3534]

Words cannot express how much I LOVED the chit chat!!! You’re not weird at all but I guess it’s because “I speak Stephanie” 🖤🖤🖤

[@cutecurlypuffs112]

I relate so much to graduating and not being able to find work smh. I graduated in Jan 2020 with a bachelor's degree in Communications/Media and haven't found anything yet. I get ghosted alot, even when I'm aggressive (not in a bad way) but yea 2 1/2 years down and [redacted] to go. Wish me luck 🙏🏾😂 love this video 💕

[@user-br1mq1ue9b]

Get a Master's/MBA in any field. With any Bachelor's degree you can get a Master's even in Business Analytics/Cybersecurity . Try find scholarships or an affordable school. I have a degree in Arts and applying for Master's in I.T related course. Guaranteed employment, good pay, good benefits. Wish me luck and good luck to you too

[@user-br1mq1ue9b]

Or a 2-year nursing certificate. Just change your field of study and doors will open

[@cutecurlypuffs112]

@@user-br1mq1ue9b I've been working in a hospital for 4 years so I'm working but the medical field isn't for me. Production and screenwriting is what I really want to do. But I know a lot of people advocate for nursing(in my life as well) and I understand it's just not for me.

[@suncoco6495]

@@cutecurlypuffs112 ​ just some thoughts: have you tried nonprofit work? Like being the communication person for a nonprofit org. They’re usually looking for someone like that. You can also find a nonprofit org that focuses on your interests and fully transition into production & screenwriting.

[@allthingsglam8545]

You have a gift for story telling. People love you because you are so relatable. Keep up the great work!

[@ebunnies]

a vlog ? on my day off ? blessed !! thank you so much for sharing, i’m soul thankful my mom is around to cook for me when i need it 🥹🫶🏽

[@TangoMango-g4z]

Whenever I see a Stephco video I get soooo excited and it's a one hour video? Omg let me get a hot cup of tea..I'm about to have the best one hour of my day. This is like the gift that keeps giving. I love you Steph!!!!!!

[@GiveHerFlowers]

Man…I can relate to this topic so much. Life is tough. My journey has been crazy. People think I’m making up stories when I share my experiences throughout my career. I have been scolded for “job hopping” and always moving. But it all helped me finally figure out my life purpose at 38 years old. Your advice is on point. Do what works for you. Yes!!!!

[@MadisonPettway_]

Love what you said about being grateful to not be on the other side of whatever you’re experiencing. You are such a beautiful speaker.

[@kawaiibydesign5470]

This whole video you are PREACHING. I've moved a lot throughout my adulthood and I'm really trying to find "HOME" it makes me feel better that other people trying to "Adult" feel the same ❤️

[@dnh31tlg10too]

Steph, for what you release to us on your channel, I get you. You have the language and courage to show me what I couldn’t express in my early adulthood. Now I’ve just turned 50 and I’m now comfortable in my skin and my lot in life. You’re getting there.

[@TM-cm1ef]

The timing of your videos is always on key. I swear we’re living the same life. Moved to Miami from a small town and then the pandemic happened and I decided to move back home. But mentally I’ve been struggling with letting Miami go. I miss the fast life and the action. But here at home I can actually afford to buy a house, my family is there for me and it’s a better quality of life. I want to live in a big city but I’m so torn.

[@calideeslife3224]

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR NATURAL HAIR!!! You look so cute while you rock it!!!

[@ManUntdForever]

Even if you don’t update often on KZbin anymore, I’d prefer these longer chats/reflections than multiple 10-20 mins clips. I love hearing your thoughts.

[@princ3ssshay88]

Steph your life literally mirrors mine!!! I had a horrible case of GERD! & I had little sympathy at a job I didn’t even like!! My boss was so mean to me ! I had to take time off & it was just horrible!! & before that I was going from Job to job because I couldn’t find anything with my bachelors degree! And my parents said the same thing.. that I didn’t wana work but I just couldn’t get my dream job!! Now Finally I got my dream job!! God is good!!! Never give up🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💕💕💕💕💕p.s & I also moved a lot recently too! In 2 yrs I moved 4 times LOL!! & moving during covid wasn’t easy!! But I’m also in my dream location living downtown 🙏🏽💕

[@missminti]

I’d rather be on the move every couple years. People who stay over 5 years in one place get tunnel vision and become jaded. Humans are naturally nomadic.

[@jasminejazziej8787]

From a fellow weirdo I HEAR YOU!!!! And I LOVE SILENCE!!! JUST WANT A HOUSE ON A FEW ACRES OF LAND! And Facts just be glad if people show up to your Birthday Dinner 😂

[@conversationswithadrianne]

Whew! The first 6 minutes and I feel like you're THE only person I've EVER met who understand my exact experience! And I'm probably 10-20 years older than you. Thank you for your videos.

[@ThrivingNotDying]

You are doing great sweetie! I didn't know your undergrad history. Thank you for sharing. We have similar stories but I left the country to teach overseas after getting a degree in a completely different field. Moving is stressful and hard, give yourself grace that you managed to do all of that. Rest and take it easy in your new space.

[@samij6071]

I just love you so much. No other creator holds a candle to you in my book (ok except Lexual & Shanspeare but they do a VERY different thing). You're about to get another Patreon subscriber next month (I just gotta buy this house real quick FIRST, lol).

[@whatsonhermindblog123]

Love shanspear too!!

[@lilianam1553]

I'm 18 min in, but I have to stop and say this. The first video of yours I watched was the "I thought I met my future husband..." and in that video I remember you saying that at one point you were afraid you'd become happy and people would stop watching your videos and at the time I didn't get, but watching this one I understand were you're coming from. People relate to you because of your sad stories, but I do have to say that I admire your perspective on life because despite your struggles you tell your story with grace!! PS: I'm studying to work at a daycare and all this comments about it have been scaring me! kkk But anyway I wish you all the best! Let's get back to watching the video.

[@ashleyoh9613]

I can't believe people just say the worst things to people they're supposed to be friends and family with. I always give my people the benefit of the doubt.

[@latashabynum9961]

Thank you!!! As someone who has had moments of transition in my past, due to life literally lifing. The judgement we receive is so unjust and irritating. God bless I love your channel and the honesty you share 💜

[@eristotle2380]

i knew you were a journalist! i'm an ex-journalist myself, and a pisces. i had to leave running from all those print lies. i switched into technical writing waaay back before you could get a degree in it. not the most exciting, but my ends definitely wrap around quite well...

[@am-harris7458]

The journey is within! I have traveled the world and lived in 3 different states--only to realize this!🌞💗🌼

[@AuthorYCorrea]

Stephanie, I totally understand what you are saying on ALL of your points "on a cellular level"! And I am some years older than you. But I say THAT to say THIS ... I have struggled with all of these things (in my own way) my entire adult life as well. From not making the money I would have liked to make, to not feeling community, to the love thing, to the health issues. For so many years I have felt like no one gets it. So, thank you for sharing your thoughts! 💓💓

[@relaxitslife]

I’ve been in my apartment now for 3 years and I am sooo ready to move! Lol … congrats!

[@carmkizzle]

Awww, Steph in the blog looking like someone’s adorable lil sister who has been outside playing all day☺️

[@nowwhat1434]

“I’ve never lived anywhere where I had money, community and partnership.” Preach!

[@nolabelz]

Stephanie, I so get you, especially on the subject of finding really wonderful adult friends and being deemed weird. You are my kind of people. Best of luck in your search for permanence.

[@eshadiva6600]

I'm sorry the stories I hear about LA and how is treats certain women I legit never want to go there lol. Enjoy your new space sis.

[@sarahturtle3270]

Steph: I did invest in a couple wigs…”invest”, they were all like $50 When I tell y’all I cackled and howled 😂😂😂😂😂 I don’t wear wigs but stephs personality is just so me! The sarcasm but reality that people really paying $1200+ for a wig! But hey If you got it get it!

[@nikkib.6005]

What she said about having an invisible illness is so true! I really enjoy all of her conversations. Thank you, Steph! 🤩😊💯

[@phylliewilly]

This is so honest, as usual. Thank you for continuing to be kind enough to discuss your raw emotions and feelings. I can definitely relate to the themes behind relocation. I wish you all the best in your new space! xxx

[@Aritul]

I appreciate your uploading videos. I really enjoy watching them.

[@realpristine]

Congratulations on the move! Moving is soo stressful 😵‍💫

[@itsisa1319]

Glad you’re back!! I just moved and the worst part of it was the bathroom and kitchen. 😭 So much stuff. Your new space looks great ♥️

[@shaundawatts5191]

Liked the video before I viewed it. I plan to move AGAIN too 😆😆 I am contemplating buying a home after this move but we’ll see😊😊

[@YPM498]

I really resonate with this video because I feel like I have changed addresses so many times the past 5 years. I lived with my mom, then my dad, then I moved out for two years and during the pandemic I moved back to my dad’s again 🤣. I really want to be fully independent now that I am turning 24 but I am a recent graduate with student loan debt. I finally got a job after being unemployed for so long but I still don’t make enough money to live on my own. Definitely not in this Economy and inflation lol.

[@classycommonsense1059]

Excellent analysis Steph. You speak for many, make as many changes as you need to as often as you need to ♥️

[@habeshasister11]

Haven’t even began to watch but an hour video ???? I’m excited 🥰

[@girlybaker1241]

I saw your most recent video about July and how defeated you felt about content creating so I’ve been catching up on your vids and I just wanna say keep going!!! The way you articulate your emotions and your ability to self reflect is so amazing to listen to, and I totally feel you about the difficulty of finding people who you feel understood by (I’ve also struggled with this during + after college). So thank you for talking through you triumphs and setbacks, I know you’ve at least helped me work through a lot of my feelings about friendships/relationships/coming into adulthood. My favorite KZbinr, you deserve the best☺️💖

[@prettyonetwo]

I’m a UNT grad and was surprised to hear you went to school in Denton. Take care and keep up the great work!

[@Babyluv_]

I feel the same way. I graduated undergrad and wanted to work in Hospital Admin but couldn’t find a job to save my life. The sucky part was that I had experience working as a medical receptionist. So, I thought finding a job would be easy. But in my city, the SPANISH-speakers really lucked out in that field! Even if they didn’t have any experience, they would a job because of their ability to speak Spanish! I also became teacher, unfortunately. I’m STILL a teacher, unfortunately. I’m switching over to become a School Psychologist next year. My compensation is decent. I make low six-figures but my city is expensive and so is gas. I don’t have a partner either. I’ve lived in this city my whole life and don’t feel like I belong here. I hate the 4 seasons. I’m trying to move to San Diego next year. Every time I’m there, I feel like I belong there. Hopefully, I am right.

[@jaylove1931]

Good luck ms. lady!!

[@illigirl768]

low 6 six figures with a teaching job? that's surprising to me...many schools need psychologists so I'm sure you will do well in your endeavors.

[@Babyluv_]

@@illigirl768 yea, my city and school district is one of the few in the country where most or many teachers earn 6-figures. I’m excited to transition into a role as a School Psychologist. Thank you! ☺️

[@jaida9468]

And did you make a career change this year?

[@Babyluv_]

@@jaida9468 not yet. I graduate next month! ☺ But I will begin working as a School Psych this upcoming school year. Finally almost done with teaching; just 2 months left!! 🎉

[@kayg2633]

OMG..you're a born storyteller. I can see your stories in short 30 minute animated videos, with you as the narrator and I mean real animated characters, not those stick figures.💯

[@bleeploughly6311]

You’re my favorite KZbinr! Keep doing you ☺️☺️

[@Bless.Mandyy]

More hour long vlogs please! I love your content 💕

[@Sunflowersweetflo]

We definitely need more vlogs. I literally went through the same thing in the last couple weeks. And I moved an hr away from old place

[@leftykeys6944]

I love listening to you "babble", Stephco! I'm an old white gal, about a generation & a half your senior, yet I can really relate to your experiences, anecdotes and stuff you talk about. You are just so intelligent and self-aware! You're someone I would love to have a drink or a toke with, and hang out with. I hope you find everything you're after in life, because you so deserve it.

[@tamaram6924]

I am extremely appreciate to have found you! Literally my life at this moment. I am not alone yay 🥳 Love what you said about ppl think we wanna keep moving around… not at all. Thank you for this

[@brookstravelstheworld2328]

Sweetie... sounds like you should consider becoming a digital nomad and expating the US. I've lived in Guatemala (the men in Guatemala LOVE our curves) and now in Colombia (baby girl!!!!!!)

[@Nessajess7]

Tell us( well me) more 👂🏿👂🏿👂🏿😹😹😹

[@brookstravelstheworld2328]

@@Nessajess7 kzbin.info/www/bejne/kGOreZJtgbh7haM There are so many KZbinrs who are female, black and living abroad...here's just one

[@brookstravelstheworld2328]

@@Nessajess7 ...kzbin.info/www/bejne/mmaupYpnhat2kM0. This is one of my favorites, her videos inspired me to take the leap and in DO NOT regret it

[@LaToyaPlansLife]

It's definitely a blessing to find people that actually get you. Great video!! Congratulations on your move. 😊😉

[@RodniThorpeTK]

I felt this, like you say "on a cellular level". First off you're right in that we do have to appreciate our blessings. Humans by nature take for granted things we find to be common or the norm. I'm on the same journey for all three. May we find that permanence, our tribe and our true ❤.

[@nancyobi3437]

ILOVEEEEEEE THIS Thank you for speaking the truth so that those in the back can hear it!

[@nawal10]

Yea I remember working in a daycare as well and never returning after a week. It wasn't what I wanted. But I did want to be a teacher. Then I was discouraged from doing it full time by other retried teachers 😩. They're like tutor SATs and stuff so now I do that as a part time along with working at a tutoring center. Hoenstly I don't wanna teach full time either. I enjoy writing novels and published 1 so far. But I've been stuck in a writers block loop for a while now! I feel that I'm not doing much but the $ from tutoring is ok. I feel that friends and fam are waiting on me to get that license and teach full time or go back to school for my masters but I don't want any of that! I don't think I'd make it through 😩.

[@hellostephco84]

Congrats!!! (On publishing…it’s hard to finish a book let alone publish one. One of my goals. Good job!)

[@nawal10]

@@hellostephco84 thank u Steph 💛🙌🏽🤓

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

If you have a passion for teaching, do it. I teach and I love what I do. I honestly love my fellow teachers and my students. As someone who deeply crave connection and pure, open love, working with children is the best. I work in elementary, so that’s very different from working with the older kiddos, but it’s the best. I feel less lonely and worthless. They can be little jerks, but adults are also jerks, too, but at least the kids have a chance of changing and will apologize when encouraged.

[@aliciagarcia467]

Girl.. I peeped the Target shower curtain. I have it too. Also, I long to be such a free spirit, with no fear. A beautiful thing, don't forget that 💙

[@sarahturtle3270]

I identify with the procrastinating and not even for moving but with life in general. I get anxiety about things and sometimes that will cause me to push them back until I have no choice but to do it. I know doing this is not helpful for me but I realize that people do go through this and it’s not even about not wanting to do the work but the anxiety and stress that come with it.

[@jaida9468]

Same as me😅

[@leftykeys6944]

Hey I had that temporomandibular joint problem too! My jaw got so out of alignment, teeth that don't generally even touch were grinding against each other! It was awful. But that was a number of years ago, and my body seems to have resolved the problem on its own.

[@jialopet6849]

The daily harvest story is wild because I ordered from them before mostly smoothies and soups. I had seen that tiktok and I was like gasping

[@cvzdez]

I had my parents after college I am lucky I also lived in Tri-state close to NY More access Also networking helps alot. Then I got married worked in shipping imports for 6yrs. I am personable but I did get pigeon holed. At that time I did not learned to move up or move out. Then I got pregnant became a stay at home mom. Went to nursing school failed because I was in my 2nd yr pregnant again. Got certified in some health things went back to work after being a stay at home for 6yrs. Moved up from 13 and hour to 22 at the hospital ( trying to get back nursing school) only to have the epidemic ask for a separation/ divorce. School closed had to home school my youngest was in her first year of school. I was still living in the same house with my ex for 3 yrs. Now trying to go back to work we finally live in different places. Life has ups and downs.

[@roche8395]

Your soo beautiful ❤️❤️I really hope you find genuine love you deserve and never settle for less . I really can’t wait to see at that stage in your life and I hope you take us along your journeys in the future 😍😍

[@gbefa939]

The new space looks wonderful! Congratulations on the move, and thanks as always for sharing your journey with us.

[@dedapfiekak8610]

You look soooo young without make-up. I like everything you post.

[@Lynn.B.]

So insightful. I identify with so many of the experiences you articulated. Bravo. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽