Storytime: Like Doja Cat, I Too Have Been Exposed By My "Peers" in The Search For Love

[@hellostephco84]

A few things you might wonder while listening to this storytime/viewing this video: 1.) What is the source of the occasional shuffling in the background? (My 7 Month Old puppy who was supposed to be asleep) 2.) Is this really the best I can do when it comes to interior decorating? (Yes...for now lol) 3.) Why didn't I address any issues with race as it pertains to women of color and interracial dating in my assessment of this event? (It wasn't the angle I wanted to take for this video... but I do want to go into that further in another video) Thanks for watching :)

[@becauseofirina6049]

Aww congrats on the puppy!

[@anhserc3534]

Will you please please PLEASE do a story time about your parents and more about how you grew up?

[@SimsGirl4Ever]

Actually no, I wasn’t wondering about any of that stuff. 😂

[@DosesOfZia]

I love your style of storytelling. I’m always deeply vested in the story. 💐

[@Fabulous2Me]

We need puppy videos 😍

[@hideorgochic]

WHY would that teacher read your letter aloud ?! The adults in this story are monstrous!!!

[@notsurex]

racism

[@aquaopa1]

Yes!!! That pissed me off!! What a horrible woman!

[@thepinupvanlifer9298]

Teachers did stuff like that. Or they would force you to read it outloud

[@aprilsmith5660]

The language teacher was the only one who displayed a modicum of decency.

[@christinel1631]

That teacher was and is a loser in her adult life, so she tries to feel better by humiliating a child.

[@AlphabetSoup123]

Doja was right that Joseph Quinn isn't readily available online since he said that his socials are run by a friend in a Vulture interview. So, theoretically, her method may have worked. But, she'd have been better off reaching him through social media to get his actual friend and not his Hollywood friend to introduce them. Doja acts like someone who's been socialized by the internet and who hasn't touched grass in a loooooong time. Her belief that a child would adequately deliver her message and not deviate from her nonsensical script to poke fun at her was weird. But, it also proves why the moms of the cast have always been so protective of the cast since Stranger Things inception. Fans love of the show deviate from the reality that the core cast were mostly children doing the start of the fandom. People like Doja have this expectation that Noah and the cast are more mature than they are when they are in fact young adults still in an awkward phase of life and just trying to figure everything out.

[@XQN-R]

That being all true she could got her manager or assistant to get his details. However the tea on Twitter is that dude Joseph is gay so she never had a chance in heaven 🤣.

[@aidasa3791]

While what DOJA did was a little weird that WEIRD ass rude duck of a kid was simply very dumb to do that’s he just proved to Hollywood that HE CANNOT BE TRUSTED!

[@A.Shawnee]

I legitimately think Doja forgets that she's famous sometimes. The way she moves is how maybe a manager of a Best Buy would (no shade). Like she knows she has a position but forgets she's nationally recognizable.

[@KO.42]

Not a Best Buy manger 😭

[@j.7021]

a best buy manager LMFAOOOOOO 💀💀💀🤭

[@damnib4722]

A manager of a Best Buy

[@dinkyboss]

I don’t think she forgets at all. I think she believes she can behave the way she does because her fans cape for her so heavy. In the Lori Harvey situation, the South American situation and now this she comes across as thoughtless and self absorbed. Imagine doing what she did and then claiming HE’S the snake and socially unaware. It’s baffling.

[@TheLily97232]

I think she does not have friends to talk to. When you have friends you vent to THEM. Not strangers/fans/stans on the internet.....

[@annaangelina1]

"Young people are ruthless and do anything for a laugh." I've had this experience with older guys too. Sometimes people are idiots.

[@teascobie6557]

they shouldnt even be messaging each other. What does a 26 year old woman have to say to a 17 year old child and vise versa?

[@dasanii2467]

hes a child. theres people in the cast that are older that she could've easily reached out to

[@pynkbymbo]

I am screaming at not only you signing it as "the black girl who sings at recess" but you beat his ass afterwards lmaooooooo.

[@thepinupvanlifer9298]

It was the fact that she spanked him that sent me..I wouldn't be shocked if he developed a fetish from that. He's prolly paying black dommes to beat him

[@carrington2949]

@@thepinupvanlifer9298 🤣🤣🤣

[@KassieKane]

That took me tf out! But I was cheering for the ass whooping 😂😂😂

[@Speaking841]

My theory is that Doja knew his IG, but didn't want to directly shoot her shot. So she reached out to someone in his circle (why a teenage boy, idk), in the hopes that they'd relay her interest to him. If he were into it, she'd get the green light or he'd even come to her. As a woman that seldom ever makes the first move, this seems plausible.

[@automatic5]

im sorry. this is so highshool lmfao.

[@tinyyuki]

Plus, and I’m not directly taking up for doja (she’s weird) but people forget that Noah was IN the same show as Eddie. The stranger things crew are quite close so maybe she thought Noah shouting her out to Eddie would be better than PR folk 🤷🏽‍♀️ and then there’s the question of does he date interracially etc. These are little things Noah perhaps could have found out for her.

[@breannajoseph2018]

@@tinyyuki they never shared a scene tho

[@kaatyblue]

as a woman who never ever makes the first move, that was my instant thought lol

[@ebear2097]

@@kaatyblue Doja usually likes to make the first moves.

[@cosmicbeauty5682]

Doja cat dropped the ball with this one like she could've reached out to dude herself or had her team do it. I'm not putting my trust in a teenager in regards to this type of information. I mean he even told her if I'm not mistaken to go ahead and talk to him herself. That was pretty immature to think this young man wouldn't have found humor in this as if she of ALL ppl isn't coming off desperate to him. He was wrong for sharing, but on the other hand, what made her think he was trustworthy? "Well they're friends" why are you friends with a kid 😂 Hopefully she learned a lesson. You want something done, you gotta do it yourself

[@changes649]

I even question that they were friends. How many friends do you have that you do not know their age? I think they were acquaintances and she wanted to use him which backfired on her.

[@cosmicbeauty5682]

@@changes649 RIGHT like after listening a bit more to Stephco that Doja didn't know his age, it's like they weren't really friends. They were acquaintances like you said and yes it definitely backfired.

[@AlphabetSoup123]

@@changes649 Feels like a double standard. Remember when Drake was "friends" with Millie Bobby Brown, and the internet labeled him a predator? I find it hard to believe there's anything Doja could possibly talk to a 17 year old about at that height of her fame?

[@magnoliasquad1665]

@@AlphabetSoup123 but she and noah aren't friends. she didn't even know his age and she said herself in the live that if they were friends she wouldn't have cared as much. she just sorta knew him and figured he could set her up with him. which was dumb on her part but definitely not predatory. whereas drake was texting with millie brown and previously was "friends" with hailey bieber when she was a minor and coincidentally started dating her when she was legal

[@Jessica.Shawnte]

@@magnoliasquad1665 I agree people are making it seem like she was trying getting Noah😭plus even if they weren’t friends they still had previous conversations if you look at the screenshots

[@callmemunashe]

I absolutely love your dating content Steph and I hate that the internet's reaction has made you less willing to share your wonderful stories. If you do ever decide to share again, know that you have a community of people who do have compassion for your experiences and are hear to listen with curiosity and interest. You're an amazing storyteller, I love your content so much.

[@progressbaby1]

It's soo sad because i loved them too, this was well said and speaks for many of us 🤍🤍

[@MwanaWevhu]

@@progressbaby1 Me too!!

[@Anonymous-zv3nm]

Me too!♥️

[@tropicanasantana5750]

ALL OF THIS!!!! We love you Steph😍😍😍💅🏾

[@angelicatheperfumeprincess]

MEEE TOOO

[@joyh.729]

It shocks and saddens me that your teachers were even more insensitive and socially inept than your peers. You were basically bullied by adults (teachers) who were in your life to protect, instruct and model what it means to be a compassionate and caring human being. They failed you. But you carry it all in stride. Although obviously painful, I love how funny & entertaining your story times are. Thank you for your courage in sharing some very difficult moments of your past. Recently discovering your channel has it been a real treat.❤️

[@starrarielle]

Yes, I had a teacher in FIRST GRADE who was a bully and used public shame tactics for discipline. I cried about it in my adulthood so it definitely left some scars. I love the full circle moment Steph had with her student, more teachers like that 💕

[@KingBluetooth66]

Teachers were scumbags back then. They can't do that type of stuff today because they will get sued. But back in the 90s lawsuits were less common

[@ImehSmith]

💯💯👍👍💯💯

[@deViianceTV]

I’ll never forget when someone I called a friend in high school exposed me to my crush, and then started dating my crush a week later 💀 In part that has somewhat scarred my dating life lol.

[@JulianSteve]

That’s messed up. Sorry to hear that💯

[@senoracheapee1864]

Of course it scarred you! How would it not? Friendship trauma deserves more conversations and analysis

[@carlettewilliams7564]

Gurl omg🤣 I didn't mean to laugh but I feel you

[@idi.h5460]

Same lmaoo

[@nowwhat1434]

Lmao this happened to me too

[@naturalelation1631]

"How do you get two people to like each other at the same time?" When I tell you I cackled out loud, when you said this lol

[@elenal1906]

I still wanna know the answer lol

[@Sesi_angel_india1000]

saaamee!! 😂😂😂😂

[@cmgvillager]

It’s sad because I do feel slightly bad for her but it’s how she responded where I kinda lost my sympathy.

[@spacebars9677]

yeah also i just didn’t understand why she reached out to noah. he was the youngest casts member and he had no scenes with joseph quin. also joseph’s instagram is literally his first and last name. i just don’t understand her logic.

[@JulianSteve]

Same here. As much as I like Doja Cat’s music and personality (kind of lol), her behavior has been too much. She keeps getting herself into controversies🙃…

[@JulianSteve]

@@spacebars9677 Same. I agree with you💯

[@Randomlycreatedbyme]

She is so socially unaware and immature, the narcissism and victim mentality of this adult woman is astonishing. She did this before with youtuber Lorry Hill, who does informative videos on celebrity plastic surgeries. Doja clearly has had many procedures, but she insisted that Lorry was body shaming her; in reality the youtuber simply pointed out to young impressionable girls why they shouldn’t compare themselves to celebrities who have had work done. Keep in mind Lorry has had surgery herself and did not shame Doja for her enhancements or criticize her appearance. Yet the singer decided to go on a live rant making nasty comments about Lorry’s looks and sent her fans to attack her. This is typical of narcissists, they have very low self esteem, therefore, whenever someone makes remarks that vary form the persona they so desperately try to portrait in public, they feel victimized and justified in viciously attacking the other person. To call a 17 year old young man a “sneak” and “wack”, when you are a celebrity with millions of followers is beyond irresponsible, I hope the kid recognizes Doja’s disparaging remarks for what they are, the rattles of an immature and insecure lady and doesn’t let her affect his self confidence.

[@Jessica.Shawnte]

@@spacebars9677 y’all have to look at the screenshots they already had conversations she probably felt comfortable to ask him y’all keep saying oh he’s the youngest cast member all she did was ask for another grown man’s instagram account not a big deal

[@AJ-gd1ww]

See, this is why I like Stephanie's storytimes. While everyone else is trying to be so perfect and polished, Stephanie gives me stories that remind me of my own past when I thought I was just going to die. But I didn't. I survived. My little adolescent love life when I thought I was doing something just to look back and think what was I thinking.

[@ToriOfTheNile]

What sends me is that doja could have easily gone on live like she clearly enjoys doing, and had just said, “did y’all watch stranger things? What did y’all think, I don’t have many thought other than the fact that Eddie was hot, somebody set me up on a date with him” that actually would have easily gotten to him, why, because she’s Doja Cat. Like ma’am 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@monimuppet6132]

I love this story. I hate adults, I swear. I'm 41 and I still don't like them. For all the ways they can recount how their parents messed them up, there's still very little actual introspection on how they can be different. The way you spoke about your experience reads to me that you don't view yourself now as separate from that 10 year old. Too many adults do and we get pos' that read children's letters in class and don't recognize the slow-to-adulthood types like Doja. Not excusing Doja's nonsense but you're right, adults need guidance to become adults and there are many examples that Doja's life has been lacking that. All these adults online, that have so much psychoanalysis for where their parents went wrong, you'd think they'd have even a twinge of awareness of what kind of adult that can breed and that they're probably no better. But whatever. I am always delighted that you have the ability to look at yourself, at all your years as a whole, and use that to see more in a situation than just the 'tea'. Love you.

[@burpie3258]

I agree 100%!!!

[@CatEyeGem]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 in total agreement

[@lydiadeetz8267]

Scene: A wintery day in early February 1997. Small suburb outside of Kansas City. A tall/pudgy/awkward black girl decides to divulge her true feelings for 'Keith' the grungy, Edward Furlong looking white kid in her English class. She loved English class as she wanted to be a writer one day and decided to write a love letter to 'Keith' that would transcend the deepest emotions of her heart. Valentine's Day was almost upon them and she would let synchronicity have its way this time. Surely 'Keith' would have no choice but to reveal his exactly mirrored feelings for this overlooked swan in her solitude. She decided to run a test just to make sure that the coast was clear to reveal her heart in a letter. So she told someone fairly close to her that she was in fact in love with 'Keith' and could no longer hold it all to herself. As she left for the day, that classmate returned to her side to ask dubiously if she in fact said that 'Keith' had the body of a Greek god?? Yes she replied wistfully and stoically as she fastened her Tommy Hilfigure pull over and prepared to brave the crisp Kansas air. "Well" said the classmate, "he said that you have the body of a beached whale". (I'm making progress in group therapy for my E.D.) 😎

[@nancykerrigan]

Wow. All I can say is wow. (Edit) For the writing and experience. Hope you are doing better.

[@relatv216]

Wow I’m so sorry that happened to you, people don’t realize how their words can have a tremendous affect on others’ well into their adulthood. I’m a very forgetful person and I sometimes think it was a gift given to me by God so I wouldn’t have to relive some of the mean things that had been said about me growing up. I know I was bullied but couldn’t tell you a single story/event or name I was called. I know it happened but things are so foggy

[@marie-francoiset9402]

don't let one persons completely irrelevant opinion impact you in any sort of way. Then, now or ever. The most important thoughts about you are your own. Don't let anyone have that sort of power over you or your life. Hope that all is working out well for you now.

[@burpie3258]

That's terrible :-( And this writing is captivating!

[@luvburden5743]

O hell nawl.

[@Boahemaa]

She clearly doesn't have any close friends. That Lori Hill debacle did not get through the friend opinion poll. She's chronically online she needs to get out the house and socialise. Attend some courses in uni if necessary.

[@AlphabetSoup123]

She reminds me of the average social media stars who gain popularity online and start thinking that their celebrity transfers to real life.

[@Got2BOshun]

Agreed

[@ayanomar1408]

what happened with Lori Hill? 😟

[@Jessica-xn4bk]

She needs some time off, and that’s not sarcasm, I think she has said as much herself recently.

[@carrington2949]

The irony of that situation is that had she not snapped , I would have said maybe, but maybe not to the question of whether Doja had plastic surgery. Doja is mixed race with half of her ancestry as black. With us, our looks can change drastically with lifestyle changes- so much so that people will accuse one of having a procedure, even if we didn't. My sister lost weight and her skin tone got a few shades lighter. People accused her of bleaching. Her face changed as well. She lowered her salt and sugar content- that is all, nothing else. When Doja went on the rampage - I just assumed she DID have a procedure done.

[@sadeatthewhip1846]

You’re spot-on. In high school 20 years ago I was a “punk” chick and the guy I saw as my counterpart and absolute future was into “preppies”, to my absolute angst. I wrote an essay in my journal called “Punk Guys Have No Principles” HAHAHA geez

[@rhyuh]

😂😂

[@blaqgurl]

😆

[@sjor3569]

Saaaame I was a metal chick and all the metal guys were into the blond popular “prep” looking girls. I was flabbergasted.

[@mzmistyb]

😂😂 I was called a prep in high school. I haven't heard that shit in forever.

[@nancykerrigan]

@@sjor3569 though I'm not a preppie nor punk my theory as an armchair psychologist is that they want the opposite of their familiar surroundings or that they want the Madonna (Mary not singer) not the "whore "; someone resembling purity that they can "corrupt" later.

[@strudelh]

Ik this video isnt solely about Doja, but I get why she was upset, and I dont blame her at all for crushing on Eddie/the actor lol 👀 but the way the she handled it was so... yikes, towards a 17 year old at that. Tbh the way she handles a lot of things rubs me the wrong way.

[@sofiaguerrero0969]

Yeah I would be upset, but her first error was assuming he would behave as if he were her age. Yeah he’s famous and an actor but he’s still a kid. He doesn’t think through things and I’m pretty sure him posting their interaction wasn’t ill-intentioned

[@suoutubez19]

@@sofiaguerrero0969 I don’t care if she’s upset because she’s weird for talking about her crush to a teenager

[@strudelh]

@@suoutubez19 this ^ like why go to him out of all people?? 😭

[@sofiaguerrero0969]

@@suoutubez19 exactly. I guess she must really have liked him to go to extreme lengths like this lol

[@beewest5704]

She spent too much time on Omegle. She could have done alot of things differently but mostly she should have taken the L & even joked about it & it would have been done a dusted & forgotten.

[@Viable7]

Don’t compare yourself to Doja Cat. You’re better than that and unlike her you’re not afraid to approach men. You would never send a child to set you up on a date.

[@dorisn.6640]

i remember the first time heard/learned about "going out" with a boy. I was 13. Of course i got this infos from my female classmates friends. My mind was blown learning something so new. Few weeks later my bench mate ( we sat 2 at a desk in school), told me one of her male friends in the other class was interested in me. lol. I didn't know what to think abt it (neither did he). However I accepted and he was so happy. All we did was talk once in a while during lunch break, he will buy me snacks and tickets to our school live music shows, etc. We never held hands or anything. We were both so shy. Then one day i just decided to break up with him. He was so heartbroken! I hope he's doing well in life wherever he is.

[@burpie3258]

That's so wholesome 🥺

[@witchingbrew3]

I felt you. I'm a brown girl. As a teen, I wanted so badly for the rocker and emo/punk guys to notice me and I tried for a while to see how it would go with them. I ended up leaving the local rock scene because it was bad on my self esteem. Chasing things I shouldn't have that aren't good for me. So this convo and the nuisance about chasing something is something I didn't know I needed...

[@vimanaarchitects2151]

Why nobody tells about woman should never approach man? I am seriously, it never ends up well,no matter of age,race and culture. Men see it as something creepy,plus if them don't approach YOU on the first hand,it's simply because they do NOT like you and you are lucky if man is mannered enough to not mock on you or degrade you,but if not you are in a hot water. No matter how old is this man. I've learned it hard way,been blamed and accused for things I've never done just because I made those first moves. Never ever!

[@raisaa1537]

@@vimanaarchitects2151 the internet is full of men and women telling women to make the first move.

[@idi.h5460]

@@raisaa1537 that’s bs the internet is full of idiots lmaoo women should never approach men ever

[@incognito3599]

@@raisaa1537 dont listen to those people...They not being honest with you🤗☺NEVER chase after a man or make the first move, i learnt the hard way mulitple times..Just wait and take your time♥️The right guy always comes when you never looking and doing your own thing in life...TRUST

[@vimanaarchitects2151]

@@raisaa1537 Well,the real life is a lot different compared to internet. You should not listen to words but actions. And actions says different. You are in a more feeble position when you approach as a woman,because society considers that as "desperate" behavior(even if you are perfectly sane and do it a nice mannered way) whilst it's fine to "hunt" for men.Go by Nature,not by new agenda of approaching as woman. Nature says the opposite what Media does.

[@sfregion7653]

Her mistake: messaging a 17 YEAR OLD BOY, like, at all. Leave that child alone and find another adult to play match maker, if it's that serious. smh

[@iam4ndphysicians438]

" the black girl that sings at recess" got me

[@didyallseethat499]

So wait…you’re telling me Doja reached out to a child and he turned around and did some childish 💩 😯 I’m shocked 🙄

[@vimanaarchitects2151]

Age does matter. Why women can not comprehend it?! lol

[@ImehSmith]

💯💯👍👍

[@katybee3891]

He isn’t 9, he’s 17. I wouldn’t have done that as a 17yo. It’s shitty, just because someone is younger it doesn’t mean that they can do anything to others.

[@didyallseethat499]

@@katybee3891 I wouldn’t have done it either, however it doesn’t dismiss the fact that there are a lot of teenagers and people in their early 20s that are immature and or socially awkward, they are still learning. Especially when you’re dealing with a child that grew up on set and was probably wasn’t socialized like most of us.

[@EC-yw5hg]

@thehappyhuman And at 26 you’re old enough to know not to DM a teenager you aren’t familiar with.

[@cosmicbeauty5682]

Story time: I told a friend that I had a crush on this particular guy at my school (She and I went to different high schools) and my friend was like "I know him! Ughhhh you like *insert name here* ? Why???". And I told her how I always had a crush on him for years and he and I were finally in the same high school. Now this is where it gets tricky. This guy that I also went to high school with approached me trying to talk. He was short like much shorter than me, chubby and not my type. Come to find out my friend told him I liked him, but.... He and the guy I actually liked had the same name chile... 😂😂😂 The guy was indeed upset that I rejected him, but I was confused like why are you all of the sudden trying to spit game, until one of his friends said "man come on *insert name here*" that's when I realized my friend did this and thought I meant the guy she knew. Not the guy I actually had a huge crush on lol

[@potatoesomega]

Can't stop laughing 😭😭🤣🤣

[@noirefit5954]

Bruhhhhhhhh this is so funny though!!!!

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Damn... that's messed up.

[@tsuyayaka1]

Sorry but this story was so entertaining. 😩Sorry for laughing Stephanie. 😭😂… Especially the part when you said you kicked his ass and he still asked you if you liked him. 😂

[@marie-francoiset9402]

In terms of Doja she seems a bit immature for her age. Yes she's done alot of work in the career area (I appreciate her artistry) but she apparently hasn't done as much work on her actual inner self. Most ppl do that by default by finishing high school and possibly college (not that college is for everyone but it gives ppl time to mature). I heard she dropped out of high school and went straight to working as an artist. It's not always wise to skip developmental phases. It can come back and bite in later years. Like not having enough sense to not involve a 17yr old boy in your romantic life as a 26yr old grown woman. It's just not cool. Learning everything the hard way in the public eye is rough.

[@heycris5833]

Well said

[@eeveep8188]

As a fellow 26 year old, (27 in a few days) I can’t understand why Doja would move in this way at all. I almost wish I could just put my hand on her shoulder before she posts and softly say “Nah, sis. Ain’t worth it”

[@bmartin4549]

The color of this top complements you so well and the hair. Love it!

[@Aritul]

17:57 That teacher was incredibly unprofessional!

[@mothamary945]

I used to be such a big fan of Doja but honestly after that incident with Lori I started appreciating only her music and not so much Doja as a person. She needs a managing team and needs to stop responding to everything on social media, just like Beyoncé. Period.

[@CallHerTJ]

I agree! That rant about Lori told me SOOOO much about her personality.

[@MoniqueD305]

What did she say about Lori?

[@nancykerrigan]

@@MoniqueD305 Lori did a video on her theorizing what work she may have done. Doja did a livid rant about it on IG calling her al type of names which resulted in Lori taking down the video.

[@mimiscoo1173]

@@nancykerrigan LMFAOOOO but why did I holler at this 😭😭 Lori Harvey?

[@nancykerrigan]

@@mimiscoo1173 girllllll 😆 🤣 😂 (Edit) You know she don't talk. 😆 No. Lorry Hill. She has a channel that's about plastic surgery and celebrities. kzbin.info

[@incognito3599]

Im not surprised your teacher did that...im from South africa and ive had many teachers humiliate me in front of the peers..its because they are pathetic and trying to gain popularity amongst younger children for creepy reasons...I had many of these experiences,One when a teacher showed my maths marks to a class,and i was struggling with maths,Even though i got A's for all my other subjects and the boys in that class spread horrible rumours to the entire school...that i got 1% for maths...

[@theblankpanther]

Dimitri - yes. Also she was definitely trying to get the tea on Joseph’s relationship status before sliding into his dms (his @ is literally his name, so she was being coy and it backfired big time). But it was tres weird to go to a 17 year old who had 0 scenes with that man for the information. She should have definitely gone to a girlfriend to do the intel. Her situation is so not comparable to an embarrassing middle school crush story bc she’s a grown ass woman being weird with a teenager.

[@lindal3841]

I'm just imagining 5th grade Steph being flabbergasted by the concept of 'going out'🤣you look great girl. That make-up is smooth af

[@Mic-Mak]

You are a brave, fantastic storyteller! Seriously, you should write a book!

[@i.l.746]

For real, a lot of people peaked in high school... Some of the people who we idolised in teenage hood... It is shocking to see them now

[@cristinarivera5707]

While I don’t agree with the way Doja handled this, It’s not surprising what Noah did. A lot of Men (especially the young ones) get off on humiliating women. Furthermore, as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that many people as children have been humiliated by adults. Your story is oddly common. A lot of adults carry a lot of bitterness and resentment and they take it out on those most vulnerable. That and they’re jealous of their youth and life possibilities. It’s so sad.

[@cristinarivera5707]

@Alysia Williams I haven’t been on a date in over three years. I either end up on an unpleasant first date or it leads to a relationship where I experience emotional trauma and humiliation. A lot of people tell me to get back out there but I just don’t see how that’s going to happen. I do not trust straight men like that and they don’t like performing emotional labor so it isn’t going to work.

[@claudiaschmidt3708]

Yes Noah did know damn well that he was humiliating doja when he posted it on Tik Tok. He was getting off on humiliating her but he is excused because he is a child? He is 17 and not retarded. He is so infantilized and treated like an actual retard here and not a white rich superstar and that bothers me so much. I mean when I was 15 a 14 yo tried to Ra pe me, should we infantilize that? I think there is a big difference between being young naive unaware and not knowing better and just being straight out cruel, the latter behavior should never be infantilized no matter how young you are

[@claudiaschmidt3708]

Can you please explain to me why are you saying that a lot of men get off on humiliating women but it's worse when they're young. Can you explain to me how you came to that conclusion or why are you saying that. I think it's so interesting you are saying this because my worst experiences with men where when I was still a minor, and if I'm on the street honestly I'm way more afraid of a teenage boy than of a 30 yo grown man. And I think it's so dangerous to put all those minor girls in school with those boys. Idk if the humiliation and harrasment gets reduced when you turn 25 either because you can't fuck that easily with women anymore because they will fight back and see trough your BS or because men learned to control themselves better as they get older. But it's also sth I noticed, that younger men are actually worse than older men and younger women are more vulnerable than older women but at the same time young men are so infantilized and treated like retards when they know exactly when they are hurting someone. I would really love if you explain yourself, bc it's the first time I hear someone noticing the same pattern

[@teneacadogan3337]

Stephanie I'm literally praying that you'll bring back the story times. You are so relatable!!!

[@randomsarcasm2022]

This was excellent storytelling. This needs to go into your autobiography.

[@Olivetree00]

A-GREED!

[@lynninfinite]

My opinion: Doja shouldn’t have DMd that kid in the first place. But I think she was trying to set up a sneaky link because supposedly she has a bf already lol. The kid will learn to not expose DMs like that. The kid is forgiven, he’s 17. I knew nothing at 17.

[@butterflycorpse8704]

My take - Doja will never be happy until she heals whatever inner demons or issues she has within herself. Most people won't notice but a grown woman beefing with a gay teenager over a man because she decided to dm him high as a kite is not stable.

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

Tbh I think it’s a little unfair for people to be like “she’s attacking him” when she addressed it off handedly during a live. It wasn’t some deranged rant about how horrible he was. So I feel like we’re being a little unfair dramatizing what her response actually was

[@paintitblack9712]

Stephanie I respect the heck out of you. The honesty about that letter and how you signed it " Stephanie the girl that sings at recess". You are the best❤️ P.s: not a fan of doja even before this but I appreciate your take

[@drakedrones]

Steph, you are my spirit animal, my soul sister. All the struggles, vulnerabilities, recalibrations of expectations, disappointments and acceptance of circumstances beyond one’s control, the struggles : every single thing resonates with me a 100%. You literally speak on my behalf. I love your transparency and honesty. You speak my reality, and that’s why I love you sister. You have no idea that I see a friend in you. In a heartbeat, I would invite you over and make you homemade meals and dinner.

[@bryannagray6653]

To be honest, Doja Cat got a boyfriend for what I remember. And she was acting very thirsty. She hit up a child to talk about a grown man. Not OK. However, he should’ve known better since they are celebrities and that wasn’t OK either. At the end of the day though, she need to chill. This is why you don’t go to the homie to try to get with the person that you like. Go straight to the person. That’s why in her video she was upset and said “this is how people messes up relationships.” She too old for this.

[@darknlovelyslg]

1. Your stories are always good. You should develop and narrate a sitcom based upon your life. I'll definitely watch! 2. Saw your comments. Get a wall mural as your background. Tack it up to with painters tape. I realized that the peel-n-stick adhesive may be when it's time to move out my rental.

[@sweetdoc1472]

Everytime I hear Americans talk about their middle-school and high-school experiences makes me so happy to have grown up in the Caribbean. School was not that complicated dang.

[@thatskimayoung]

I'm literally laughing out loud. You're too funny! Don't stop sharing the story times. You're better than me, I can barely remember what I ate yesterday.

[@AlphabetSoup123]

Yo! I need to know wtf they were teaching teachers back in the day because I swear their empathy levels were in the pits of hell. Ain't NO ways reading personal letters out loud can be legal or ethical! F*ck that teacher and all the ones like her! This hurt my entire heart because those are the wombs that never heal for a child. I remember I got SA'd on campus and the male vice principle came to our class and asked me in front of the ENTIRE class and a female teacher what should be done to the boy and I'm all of nine. That event and the one you shared with the letter remind me of how adults rarely know what their doing when it comes to kids and protecting the total well-being of a child. I saw a meme that said "be the protector" you needed as a kid and it rattled me because I truly had to learn that NO ONE knows what their doing in this life. So, you have to be your own protector.

[@ashes2beauti]

You are so funny… enjoyed your story time. It can be such a jarring reality check when you reach that age & realize the love stories we saw on TV doesn’t exist for most.

[@Olivetree00]

I am DYING listening to this story time. I can not. 😭😭😭💀💀💀 Such a good storyteller.

[@nora4642]

I still don’t understand why she didn’t DM him directly????

[@amiasmr6008]

This hair looks soooooo good on you. You look so pretty

[@shannilove2801]

I said the same thing

[@aprilsmith5660]

Pausing the video to tell you that I understand hunni lmao… After the reveal of who Vecna was before the Upside Down, I was sooooo fascinated that I rewatched Season 4. That night, Vecna got me in my sleep (& I hardly ever have nightmares). Chile, I was SHOOK. 🥴😱

[@kyliCatherine1]

Omg! And he is terrifying. You had a nightmare about him???

[@marquistf1996]

Lmao

[@aprilsmith5660]

@@kyliCatherine1 lol I did 🥴😬

[@karenferrara]

How does that work , someone likes you at the same time you like them? Yeah never happened to me either even though I got married and stayed that way for 30 years ( approximately 18 years too long ) That happened because I decided well he likes me, so I like him because that must be how this works. For the record that doesn't go as well as you might think.

[@125loopy]

Doja is such a weird person. After she was video chatting with random internet incels, I just divested lol. Beefing with a 17 year old child is on brand at this point 🙃 Also, didn't she have a bf recently?

[@user-pk4sj8fs4x]

Yep, he isn’t her “peer,” he’s a minor and Doja was out of line for contacting him in the first place, and speaking negatively of him after he exposed her inappropriate communications.

[@Pinkjeepkiki]

Lmao so true

[@strudelh]

Oh yeah I forgot she was in a relationship, what is she doing?? Unless it's an open one. 😭

[@kidawesomeness123]

The thing is, they werent even incels, they were just white guys 🤷‍♀️

[@SapphicKnits]

I'm conflicted because I really like some of her music but her antics are always just,,, a lot. And it always involves one or multiple white men. Weird indeed

[@patricebright4182]

It's weird that she was talking with a 17 year old and she didn't reach out to the guy she actually wanted to talk with. What I'm asking myself is was she really after the 17 year old but it didn't work out the way she wanted? She is an adult working in the entertainment business, she is not some naive person.

[@cherrypitbliss]

Ugh I hope not. I have so much of her music in my catalog and it seems like she is always doing something or other embarrassing and that would be a creepy bridge WAY too far.

[@CatEyeGem]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 not a totally accurate assessment

[@heyhellohi_]

Doja is a very grown woman who reached out to a 17 year old KID to help her with a hookup. Not only is it WEIRD but, a bit predatory because I’m sure she expected this KID to do all he could to bridge the communication for GRAND OL DOJA CAT. I’m sure the KID shared the messages because he thought she was a WEIRDO (and is) and that it was funny (and is) because why didn’t she just message the man (and find his social media via a google search) on her own versus utilizing a KID to do it??? It’s weird and if Doja was a man she’d be getting REALLY DRAGGED.

[@heyhellohi_]

And the fact that she got SO MAD shows her intentions were not pure and she knew exactly how to TRY to leverage her power here

[@monicaaparecidaoliveira8063]

Your hair looks beautiful and the story was as good as always. Thank you.

[@NM-yv7mr]

Just wanted to say, thank-you for sharing your life stories with me. You're a star 🌟

[@SonOfDenis]

I’m so proud that you were able to mature from your past experiences and instead of reacting childishly like your teacher did, you extended your student saving grace. School is cruel. Definitely comes with ups as well as downs but it’s good they had a teacher like you.

[@lele103189]

I love your storylines!!! So nostalgic and entertaining!!!!

[@princessm8977]

If I could go back and tell my younger self anything, the hottest dudes in college and high school tend to peak then LOL. Don't date for potential character-wise, but looks wise?? Yes. You don't really know if a man is attractive till he's like 28. You'll be surprised LOL!

[@betc293]

Dang!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@megsley]

true!!! guys I thought were so hot in hs and college (10+ years ago) did not age well 😬

[@excuseme9458]

This is so true lol!

[@DeLaSoul246]

Holy crap your teachers were the WORST. Who does that to little kids??? Smh

[@changes649]

Jealous adults who realize they will never live their dream.

[@TechnicolorZebra]

White teachers in the southern suburbs who want to shame suburban kids from “miscegenation”.

[@sarahmonique5321]

That teacher was evil af 😭

[@Mimi-el8zv]

I think doja cat tries too hard to be “relatable quirky and weird”. She needs to have social media training cos she lacks a lot.

[@c45177]

I think that's who she is

[@changes649]

I also did not understand why she did not play it off in public. I would have played it off in public and ripped him a new one in private. Apparently she has no friends which is sad. Cause to be honest, she thought he was her friend.

[@c45177]

He would of posted that too

[@andiyazi_sana]

You're pretty as always 💜 Funny enough I was loitering around your page and you posted... I'm crying tears of joy 😭😭😭

[@JulianSteve]

Aside from the video topic, congratulations Steph on hitting 70K subs. YESSSSSSS🙌🏾‼️

[@adjoaidun7771]

I think this story time is the beginning a very soulful Nuanced romcom, write it! I laughed, got Nostalgic and heard myself! Thanks!

[@oprincesslivie02]

I was writing a letter to a long distance best friend in 6th grade and my teacher walked up on me and threatened to read my letter aloud. This still sticks with me because WHY? Not quite the same experience as yours but I definitely get it. Teachers can be bullies to!

[@Chirp331]

I can’t believe the teacher did that!!!Unacceptable.

[@JLTl4197]

Doja is NOT an R&B artist she is a rap POP artist

[@sofiaguerrero0969]

Poor Joseph. He’s probably like wtf is even happening lmao Tbh I think doja knew damn well about his Instagram. Like you said, we’re investigators by nature. We could be part of the FBI. But I think she wanted a fast and quicker access to the guy rather than slide into his DMs like I’m pretty sure many other famous women already have. So the quickest way to get his attention was through Noah. She handled the entire thing horribly.

[@xActingxBabyx94]

My thoughts exactly lol being chronically online is practically part of Doja's brand at this point, she knew exactly where to find Joesph. She was just tryna FastPass it through Noah and it went horribly left lol

[@Luenysgo]

Jesus, my heart goes to 10 year old Steph! Tf was wrong with the teachers?! Also lol that letter must’ve been something for him to still have it. Most kids would throw things like that away. But ooof I died when he asked if you still liked him after you beat him up! She just beat you up, why ask dumb questions?

[@AnomalyBelleza]

You're looking so radiant and brown! Love it!

[@niqueprimus]

Loved this! Made me think back to my childhood. Glad to know I’m not the only one with the awkward experiences growing up (and if I’m honest, now lol)

[@Peinaj]

I has very similiar experience with a vile teacher, the bullying she inflicted upon me was cruel. Bless you for turning the tides with your students.

[@Gabster1990]

My friend has a brother and would claim how hot his brother was and would get 'all' the women. I met him one day, he looks super normal now. He wasn't a bad guy. He was very social, liberal minded and easy to get along with. He's been with the same woman for many years, also normal looking. The point is, a lot of these 'hot' people do peak in high school but when it comes to life afterwards, the decent people don't care about the past and do the best they can atm.

[@Nuffsaid22]

I'm cringing and laughing so hard right now😂 your story touches some old scars

[@vimanaarchitects2151]

Why nobody tells about woman should never approach man? I am seriously, it never ends up well,no matter of age,race and culture. Men see it as something creepy,plus if them don't approach YOU on the first hand,it's simply because they do NOT like you and you are lucky if man is mannered enough to not mock on you or degrade you,but if not you are in a hot water. No matter how old is this man. I've learned it hard way,been blamed and accused for things I've never done just because I made those first moves. Never ever!

[@sweetpeaj1952]

From experience, men will not usually turn down a woman making the first move. However, that doesn't mean you're what they're looking for. He'll use you for whatever in the meantime (usually sx), while still looking for his type. Not only that, someone like Doja shouldn't be acting so thirsty. It just comes off as desperate.

[@vimanaarchitects2151]

@@sweetpeaj1952 And it's again proves my theory you should not approach man.They will use you if not reject. Not only from my experience but my observations of other women you can be only APPROACHABLE but not approach yourself. How? Just by looking better,this is the only thing men care when they START.The physics. Focuse on yourself,put all the attention and energy on YOURSELF and improving yourself,be selfish at it's maximum in positive way. You will see how tables will turn. Doja is definitely into White men,whilst them are not really.She had to act and look(by clothing and style not the race) certain way to attract them if she wants them this bad. She is too "urban".You should fit the application to get the job you want. Bad comparing but it works. You should know what prefers your target. p.s. I agree she is desperate.

[@Jenny010132]

I’d still be single if I took this advice. I approached my husband first.

[@vimanaarchitects2151]

​@@Jenny010132 ​ Seems like you don't look good enough to be approached then. I do nothing and men come to me themselves.Why? Because I do nothing.

[@victoria-qq4jr]

Girl I just want to tell you how extremely GORGEOUS you look with Dread Locs.❤️❤️❤️

[@Agnes-nr7do]

I love your channel and I love how open and authentic you are although I know you get crucified on a daily for this. Just letting you know we your loyal subscribers appreciate you for it. U are such a pure soul! even a blind man can see it❤️👑

[@cameliacatalina3150]

You are super hilarious and nice to listen at telling stories

[@candyDander]

You're brave to share these stories, and you tell them so well! I cringe when I think about my letter writing days. Never really worked out too well. Geez, that teacher was a heartless jerk, really any that side eyed you for having a crush and writing a letter.

[@daniis.444]

Love your videos Steph! And definitely appreciate your vulnerability always! 🤍😭

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Now I'm curious to know what was written that had those teachers shook😄

[@naturalelation1631]

Meeee ToOoOO... I thought I was the only one who wanted to know lol

[@iesha_irl]

I LOVE when u share ur stories...its honest and raw and very much appreciated ❤️ I can relate

[@ummmok1670]

I love this hair on you

[@sj5218]

Lmfaaaooooo I’m at work and I had to hold in that laugh at 15:55 “Stephanie, the black girl who sings at recess” 😂😂😂 I love you soooo much!!! ❤ I needed that laugh so bad, and why would you beat that boy up ?!!!

[@lisayoung7786]

Great take on this situation. I also wanted to mention you look beautiful in this video

[@taneshabland8686]

Oh cool a story time! Aha your stories are always so emotionally charged aha

[@tatisloveoth]

Lol "loose lips sink ships, Juliana!" that's what my southern white friend used to tell me, you really gotta move in silent to avoid public embarrassment of this type.

[@erikaenchante]

Steph, you are so genuinely gorge! Always love to hear your opinion on topical subjects, would love to see more! 🙌

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

I’m literally just rewatching all your videos.

[@Kari_Michele]

Straight tears 😭 Quite entertaining story! 😅

[@DontTakeItLiteral]

Not you beat his ass 😩🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭 Im weakkkk

[@i_love_rescue_animals]

I know this is an old post - but I love listening to your personal stories (but man, the trauma! 😢 ) and I had to post that I can't even BELIEVE that teacher read your letter to the class!! What on earth?!!! That would traumatize me for life. It sounds like you have a good attitude toward it now - you are a stronger woman than me! All the best to you. Love your videos - and I'm an old lady! ❤