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[@nothingspecialshroom5240]

In the first story, he's definitely not wrong but it was a natural response to a situation she found terrifying. She went too far with it but people are hardwired to react differently in situations like that so i can somewhat understand the way she reacts but i agree that she needs to learn to handle stressful situations better.

[@markcollins2666]

@I am me • 25y agoThat doesn't mean you have to tolerate that in a life partner. If... You can keep your head, when all around you are losing theirs, and blaming it on you...Then you will be a man, my son!" Rudyard Kipling. And I contend that the same goes for women, constituting over 50% of world population. And I also contend that emotions will trump intellectual thought, time and time again. We in the military impose artificial stress situations on trainees and candidates, but you just can't pull that shit on normal, gentle civilians.

[@loosilu]

She won't. They aren't compatible.

[@grobanite4ever85]

I left a guy due to this reason. I would not be able to count on him to protect me in dangerous situations.

[@Justyouraveragechaosenjoyer]

The big problem is if you have a parent screaming bloody murder and that they're gonna die in a stressful situation, that'll send any kids you have into hysterics, and hysterical children are incredibly tough to deal with in dangerous circumstances. Staying calm is a survival skill. If you can't figure out how to stay calm and look for a solution, you aren't gonna make it far. And again: think of the children in that situation.

[@thejoel1012]

The fact that OP in story 4 tried taking the high road, but Vicky decided to antagonise him even after he chose to go in her favor. OP chose to go the wedding, and they proceeded to make OP regret it.

[@groggyowl6871]

Yeah, op respected their choice even tho Vicky was being petty and the friend a pushover. I wouldn't have even gone if my SO wasn't invited. Glad Vicky showed her true colors during that phone call so the op could make the right decision. And op's "friend" is in for one hell of a marriage if he sticks it out.

[@ricebeansrockroll882]

Second story: the bride is your customer, not her family, I'd just ignore any feedback that's not from her or the groom. Opinions are like bums, everyone has one. Last one: def NTA. They can have their wedding, they can have their rules, people are allowed to decline if they don't like it. Simple as.

[@Ang3lBr3adBask3t]

Even though I've read most of these stories, here are my opinions: Story 1: NTA, she was just screaming and blaming him while he and the others were trying to get to safety. I wouldn't even want to trust someone who'd just scream at a situation like that either. Could he have worded it differently? Yes, but it was going to be said one way or another. Also, nobody once tried to console her, or at least tell her to be quiet? Not even once? Story 2: NTA, The fact that the only people bitching about the proposal being ruined are the family of the bride and NOT the bride HERSELF tells me everything I need to know. The poor woman was probably pressured by her family into letting her brother propose at her wedding. Hope she and her husband have a grand time. W to the OP for the quick reflex. Story 3: eh, I'm kinda a mix on this one. So I'll just say NSH??? Story 4: N.T.A. Bitch, who tf are you? My mother?💀 OP needs better friends. If my fiancee began trashing both of my friend's relationship and then tells them that they might break up in the future, as “you never know what tomorrow brings”, I'd tell her right then and there that she'd better not expect a wedding tomorrow until she fixes that bitchy attitude.

[@xyreniaofcthrayn1195]

@I am me • 25y ago wrong mother nature does in fact customize her wrath towards all things in the universe she's just indiscriminate as to whom it effects

[@goofyrat2938]

Why is this reply section built like a game’s deeply hidden lore?

[@marthaandrews441]

The story about the almost proposal at the wedding. I think your right and the bride probably went along with the plan. If she was not happy with him she would not have paid him double and a generous tip.

[@deadsetondreams1988]

Some people pay and still tip even if they don't like the service provided because they don't like confrontation. Just because she paid and tipped does not say if she agreed or not with it. Some people also don't mind if others propose at their weddings either.

[@y2kchristy]

@@deadsetondreams1988 true but in this case she paid DOUBLE and tipped which wasnt required, that alone is very telling

[@marlyneadams7419]

So, people can just socialise during work hours, then expect their co workers to help them finish their work on time. Nope. I've been on the receiving side of that too many times. NTA.

[@sailorenthusiast]

The last story is absolutely ridiculous. A couple doesn’t need a ring to be valid, and the others shouldn’t shame the OP for politely declining to go to the wedding as a result of the bizarre rule. Clearly, none of OP’s friends understand that you don’t need to prove your commitment with an overpriced ring and legal docs.

[@heikedixon4968]

If her daughters recital was so important for his coworker, she would've worked more efficiently, probably skipping her break.

[@richardcao8195]

1. NTA. She is being ridiculous. I know a rainstorm can be dangerous, but she's being like "we're all gonna die" and is not helping. At all. 2. NTA. It's inappropriate to propose at someone's wedding, especially when the attention wouldn't be shared. 3. NTA. It's OP's break time for herself to heal, only to be told to make this a sacrifice, so the coworker can go to her daughter's recital. 4. NTA. OP chooses his relationship with Mary over the wedding, well, to risk getting the drama started. Brad and Vicky really invalidated that relationship, so they're AHs.

[@afollowerofchrist5789]

Second story. It's not "NTA", it's ETA (everyone's the AH). I do agree with you that it's inappropriate to propose at someone's wedding, but it STILL isn't for the DJ to decide that. The main reason is because it's based on an assumption, not something that's definitive. You have all kinds of people in the world, so you can't assume something just because "most" agree with it (including me, by the way). So yes, while it did end up for the best in the end (thankfully), it's still an AH move. Third story: "YTA". It's true that it's her time. Is it their time? Yes, definitely! They are most definitely in their right there. But the way that OP dealt with, are they the AH? Ohhhooohohoo, most definitely. Ethical Morality doesn't equal to technical legality. One can be in the right legally, but still be an AH. This is one such case. If she needs help in the future, no one will help her. In short, they are 100% correct, but at the same time 100% the AH.

[@nikiniki4015]

"Anyone can break up, but anyone can also divorce too!" - Kyutie, 2023

[@samgnz3n530]

Story 3- NTA as they are paid to work and handle their time management, and as OP said that there are co-workers that use the relaxed rules at their work to socialize instead of being efficient so why does OP needed to do more for a Mom that couldn't do her job correctly when her child had a recital she probably knew weeks/days in advance then asks the ONE person in the office that has a pattern of never going out of their way to carry others slack, it the basic power dynamics of when kids in school had group projects and sometimes it's hella unequal of the teacher pet student to be doing 80%-100% work while paired with the slackers do 20% to nil and still get credit. She's not a bad person for not helping something she isn't responsible for or has control over. i hate moral kidnapping and guilt tripping of what is polite to do it just plainly weaponizes kindness way too much. (imo OP has probably had it happen way to many times to herself in the past so she hardline the boundary)

[@nancyomalley6286]

Not all co-workers will have your back-They'll just keep expecting more favors from you when they get entitled enough to think so. OP was protecting herself from this possible behavior

[@betsysanders4524]

My Uncle’s best friend was in a relationship for 20 years. They were engaged for most of them. The finally decided to get married at the 20 year mark. Their marriage only lasted for 2 or 3 years. They couldn’t handle the actual final signed commitment of marriage. The only thing that really changed was the paperwork but for them mentally…everything changed & they couldn’t handle it. So they got divorced & ended it. It was crazy.

[@skyetan86]

Wedding DJ Story: I think I heard this one from another perspective on Charlotte Dobre's channel. Not the bride, but a relative or guest. DJ was a legend that night. Hero no cape.

[@nemo227]

When you have someone who freaks out in the face of danger it doesn't help to openly blame them. It's important to reassure them and attempt to teach them over a period of time.

[@chloeeng6811]

Yeah great advice

[@atomickane710]

1st: I understand that people react differently in scary/stressful situations, some might yell out, others might freeze up. I do think she was overdramatic and didn't seem to like hearing it. However, I wouldn't just say to someone that they would be unreliable because of it, I would instead want them to better adjust over time. 2nd: Not sure, I have seen weddings where a proposal was planned, because the bride and/or groom agreed. It's not fully said here so I can't be 100%.

[@emman218]

The last story- I’d say “you’re right, who knows what tomorrow will bring? Y’all will probably be divorced this time next year” and see how they like it then 🤠

[@stuffedninja1337]

The Bride and Brother, I’m willing to bet the family’s given him a pass on similar “MEEEEEE” behaviour in the past. Maybe I’m jaded after hearing so many stories like this, but it sounds like he might be the golden child, even if it’s in a subconscious or subtle way. (Why else would you even THINK to do that at your sibling’s wedding???)

[@Amberlily9207]

The last story… I’ve never even heard of any rule of the sort.. I mean I know people who took a person they have only been dating a month to a wedding… also he was going to go until she started shaming their relationship. She’s either jealous of her or never liked her and is pretending for other friendships sake

[@nataliawashington872]

Why does he HAVE to propose at his sister’s wedding, you should NEVER propose at another person’s wedding EVER! Even if they give you permission-the attention is suppose to be on the Bride and Groom. If the brother wants to propose to his girlfriend then he can got to a fancy restaurant or a beautiful lit up garden or smth and do it there-not at someone else’s wedding

[@blissful_productions_16]

Story 3: I respect that they're putting up boundaries and as an introvert, I also 100% get saying you have plans that others don't consider plans. However, I try to be kind and generous when I can, and since the main guy didn't seem like he's overworking himself, I think he could have helped. It makes me wonder whether or not he's generally a kind person? But like I said at the beginning, I respect his boundaries

[@deadsetondreams1988]

Agreed, it wouldn't have hurt him to make 1 exception so she didn't miss her kid's recital. And just let her know that it was a one-time thing or say if you needed assistance to try to ask me earlier next time so we can both get out on time, please. The way he wrote it was as if he said, "I won't ever help no matter the circumstances, and I'm going to make up an excuse so if she bugs me about it again I'll have an excuse to tell her." As if he was trying to stick it to her. If he said I had a stressful day and I just needed to go home to decompress then that would have been more understandable than how he was wording things. If someone had to leave early because a family member got hurt he probably would say no the way he spoke about working after 5 pm.

[@ezura4760]

I don’t agree personally. His private time is his business, he doesn’t owe her anything. Maybe his workload is stressful and he needs the unwind time to keep himself sane? Just because he’s single doesn’t make his needs any less important than hers. If he was her husband and they worked at the same place then yes he has the responsibility. If she was a work friend then he could also consider it but they are strangers that happen to work at the same company, why should he have to shoulder her problems with her? Has she ever volunteered to help him with his problems? I doubt she’d ever have the time! I don’t like this whole sense of entitlement because she’s got parental responsibilities as well as work. Since you made the choice of having kids as well as hold down a full time job, then you need to expect to have to sacrifice a few things. Thats just life I’m afraid.

[@candiecandie]

In the first story, her behavior seemed to be justifiable at first, because of something like trauma but then she starts blaming him which just makes absolutely no sense, and I personally don't think that somebody that's terrified would be insulting other people like that, especially their s/o, even if their natural reaction is to get violent when faced with something scary. Definitely a red flag.

[@23Animegod]

Guys, I will say this again don't propose at someone's wedding, especially not your sibling's wedding.

[@lillywolf4687]

I would love to see a video of the failed proposal from the 2# story. It sounds hilarious. 😆 Have someone pulling out a ring during a romantic slow song only for the music to quickly switch to a totally different song. 🤣

[@snowwhitehair485]

In the mid-70's I was transferred to a brand-new purpose-built, highly secure bank building in which cash was 'processed' in bulk. Everything cash-related was done under dual control and a lot of the staff had an ex-military background as this was more conducive for high-security. With everything being new there were of course teething problems. The building had a large emergency generator which was supposed to trip in if the mains power was cut. The first time we had a power-cut the generator failed to operate because it later turned out that it had not been fully commissioned. In the reduced lighting one of my female colleagues immediately had a total head-fit and was freaking out about how we were under attack, the generator had been sabotaged and we were all going to die! I realised she was the kind of person who would put other colleagues in danger if a real bank raid ever happened, in order to save herself. She was a very obvious security risk yet no-one ever reported this panic incident to management.

[@allisonkrueger8330]

Why didn’t you report it?

[@snowwhitehair485]

@@allisonkrueger8330 Basically because of the 'us-and-them' bad attitude that was created between the two particularly high-handed managers and the rest of the ordinary staff from the day the place opened. I was soon firmly on the side of 'us' and am sure the rest of the staff felt the same. You really needed to work for a UK bank in the 1970's to appreciate how exalted above the workers bank management could be. They had to be addressed as 'Sir' and even had their own separate toilet!😝

[@allisonkrueger8330]

@@snowwhitehair485 that’s so toxic

[@thankyoujieun]

the fact that the other women didn’t even care or calm her down is so weird to me like are y’all even friends

[@riel4553]

Sometimes people are really scared. Sometimes it's just melodrama and the friends can probably tell the difference. I'd like to hear more but I suppose OP was too busy to notice: Did the other women do nothing to calm her down, or did they try at first and she swatted them away? Because I've seen that reaction. I don't think OP is wrong; you can't go thru life being unaware and then when things go bad be like "AaaaAAAAh!!!!!"

[@thankyoujieun]

@@riel4553 i didn’t say op is wrong, i agree with op, it’s just weird to me that nobody said or did anything about her screaming like crazy

[@empresswb641]

I think he could have said it nicer. But still the point is, if the recital is important the mom should have made sure her work was done. Instead of relying on getting work help from others.

[@ManiiDee]

That person has prioritized great boundaries with their place of work. However, I do feel that sometimes you can “bend” the rules.

[@esther8181]

i wouldn’t be screaming but i’d definitely be crying in a corner

[@Nikita-wj1ls]

The fact that ppl are mad about someone choosing their partner over a wedding day is crazy. ofc you have the right to prioritize whats more important to you

[@Hope-fv3kf]

First story...imagine how she 'screaming' will not be what anyone needs once children are added to the mix.

[@breannesmith8580]

In the first story I bet you it's the way the guy said it that truly upset her especially when he said that she was embarrassing him. Girls a lot of the time take that to heart especially women like her who seem to be very emotional (no shade to her because I'm emotional myself). If he wants her to be more calm in situations there is a way to calmly say that to her so she wouldn't get so offended and upset.

[@SarahHalina]

The last story has me fuming. I've known people who are in completely committed relationships who have never once entertained the idea of marriage. They are all but married in a legal sense. Sometimes it's a case of having been married previously and not wanting to risk going through a divorce again. Sometimes it's the trauma of their parents/other relatives getting a divorce and them not wanting to potentially go through all of that. Sometimes it's the fact that they think weddings are a waste of money and they don't need a piece of paper to validate their relationship. A lot of these people are raising children. Some have grandchildren. Some even have great-grandchildren. These are people that vary in generations clearly. It's not just young people. My grandparents had so many friends who never actually ever got married for various reasons but are still living happily together or have unfortunately lost their partner but they stayed together until the end. Not being married doesn't mean people aren't committed to each other. And vice versa. I know plenty of people (my parents included) who got married and then got divorced. Some after less than a year of marriage. Some after 50+ years of marriage. I knew someone whose grandparents decided that their 50th wedding anniversary party was the perfect opportunity to tell their friends and family that they were getting a divorce because they just couldn't deal with each other anymore but also wanted to say they made it to 50 years of marriage. Point is, there are no real guarantees in life. Just because you're happily married/engaged to someone doesn't mean it will work out in the end. Sure it might, but a ring is far from a guarantee. And you may never get engaged or married, but still live a happy fulfilling life with each other or you may break up. Life is going to do what it does. Mary is also Brad's friend (and has been for a while) so regardless of her relationship with OP, she should have been invited. OP wasn't fond of the rules and voiced that when he confirmed he would attend the wedding. Vicky decided that she was going to try and diminish OP and Mary's relationship. I'm glad OP decided to pass on the wedding. I would too. I honestly probably wouldn't have even entertained the idea of going in the first place. The only way I would have is if the bride and groom didn't know my partner at all or even very well and they were having a small wedding. Then I can understand. But if my partner is friends with one or both of them and they are my partner, then you better not exclude my partner simply because we aren't married or engaged.

[@deadsetondreams1988]

I knew a couple that have been together for well over 30+ years and are still going strong to this very day. Not engaged, not married, they live together and have several children together.

[@ruthlewis6678]

First story: In an old movie the hero would have knocked her out to shut her up.

[@ChanelCoco-pk7mp]

That worker who chose to have a picnic instead of helping out their coworker will get their karma. One day they will need help desperately and will be left high and dry. What goes around comes around

[@soshimizu]

I love your mic drop ending!

[@SJHredkingdom]

1) NTA 2) NTA 3) A-hole and NTA (good luck finding someone that'll cover for you; still, downtime is important as well) 4) NTA

[@JUMALATION1]

We were together for 12 years (since age 16) before getting married. The last story is a bit crazy.

[@vanillabeans4205]

3rd story NTA. Dude should've hit the coworker with the "I gotta put me first" clip from Empire

[@kpoparmyorbit]

source for your profile picture?

[@fatus6557]

For the last story, why did the ring thing only apply to women??? OP didn’t have a ring either so it sounds like an underlying issue

[@ellasummers9671]

These stories are interesting because the one in the wrong isn't as clean cut as some of the other stories we've heard. 1st Story: The girl who freaks out in crisis all the time i have a lot of empathy for. Because i don't know why she does that or why she can't handle much. I can personally get overwhelmed very quickly in stressful situations because of my autism. But the dude has very valid points and is right to voice his opinions because at some point you have to learn other ways to cope in crisis that don't involve not only freaking out but actually being a nuisance to those capable of fixing the situation. 2nd Story: While i agree you shouldn't propose at other people's wedding, especially not without permission from the bride and groom. So i understand why the dj did what he did. At some point you need to learn the time and place to get involved and meddle with other people's personal business. He was there on a paid gig. That means you are there for one reason only, to work what you are paid for. He needed to show a bit of professionalism at his work place and stay out of it. 3rd Story: yeh the person is a bit of an asshole and a little selfish for not even occasionally helping another person who's desperately needs it. But they are completely in their rights to do so and therefore didn't do anything wrong. 4th Story: The dude literally did everything right in that situation. Every step he took was the correct choice to avoid being any sort of asshole. He tried reasoning with the couple to get Mary invited. He still was willing to come to the wedding, put their differences aside, and also asked Mary if she was ok with it. Showed that he respected their rules. It wasn't until Vicky started hurling unnecessary and unwarranted insults him and Mary that he even started to pick sides with the ones who didn't cross the line. He's a person who's willing to respect and listen and compromise with the other person without losing his own morals or values in the process.

[@nataliawashington872]

I think the bride was pressured by her family to let her brother propose at her wedding that’s why she paid him double-she didn’t want it to happen

[@ellasummers9671]

@@nataliawashington872 I still just think people at jobs should maintain that professionalism. And only if they are specifically requested to intervene, or if someone is in immediate danger physically or mentally should they then step in to meddle.

[@butterflyplayzgamez8431]

For #3 I think that even if you don’t have to stay - sometimes you can just do a favour to be nice. And even if you don’t/ there’s no need to insult your coworker ‘my picnic is more important than your daughter’s recital’ - even if they think that’s true!

[@vandanakumari7763]

Been watching u for four years and will watch forever ♾️ Love you...

[@js8303]

Yayyy I love am I wrong stories❤❤

[@ezura4760]

There’s nothing I found more annoying than people over reacting and being drama queens in tense situations. If I was her fiancé I’d seriously rethink the relationship, after all a marriage is a partnership and if one half is going to be so unreliable through serious events then he’ll have to shoulder all the responsibilities as well as worrying over her. For instance if they had kids and suddenly the car broke down on the rural roads or if there was a fire in the house etc. It’d be a nightmare taking care of her as well as all the kids and her freaking out would definitely make the kids more terrified!

[@o.m9514]

The fire guy in the story has zero respect for the grown woman, and looks down on her for what other people think. That's disgusting, he treats her like a child he is lecturing. People react differently to situations, in ways that may not please you, it is not her job or requirement to please you, the way he talks of her is disgusting and condescending, like she is his child and not a while other human being.

[@gazoontight]

First story: the poster should think very carefully about his future with this woman. Very, very carefully. Second story: the family should have told the DJ ahead of time. Proposing marriage at someone else’s wedding is always a bad thing to do. Just think if she had said no in front of all those people. Third story: poster is not obligated to help coworkers. The woman who wanted to attend her daughter’s recital should have planned ahead. Fourth story: Vicky might be an odd one, but it is her wedding.

[@nancyomalley6286]

And OP understood that. He was willing to go without Mary, until Vicky lashed out at him for 'not being engaged yet'. Now, OP just said sayonara to the couple

[@gazoontight]

@@nancyomalley6286 You're right about that. It was none of Vicky's business, but she made it hers.

[@hayleesosa6530]

Yayy I love your videos, been watching for 5 year now!!🥰

[@sage.e3e971]

My mum and dad were together 13 years and never got married

[@julieharris4700]

In the 4th story, if both OP and Mary were friends with the groom why would Mary be excluded? OP and Mary are a couple, together they have decided not to get engaged, why would OP not be excluded, surely they have equal responsibility for their situation, doesn't Vicky's rule apply to them both not just one of the couple?

[@pickachu45]

1st story : I think op is right too, she only cared about herself and the way she blamed op says it all. I do agree everyone thinks about themselves when in danger but I think if she had stayed calm and thought rationally she can actually save herself during danger. 2nd story: I do feel op is wrong because you are a dj at someone's wedding and you don't know what they have decided, so him thinking about his own opinion was wrong. I do agree they should have told him but maybe it was supposed to be something among themselves. Proposing on someone's wedding is wrong only when it has not been discussed with the people before hand.

[@gayladybugnotmlb1743]

I don’t think it was discussed beforehand or the pressured her into it, because if it was discussed the would have told him and if the bride was ungrateful then why did she give him a large tip?

[@ChanelCoco-pk7mp]

Lol I bet Vicky will be getting divorced soon 😂 I think a relationship that has been together and there’s no contracts or obligations holding them together is stronger in some ways, since it proves that they are genuinely in love with one another and aren’t just together for a piece of paper or children Etc

[@rosalupercio9172]

The first one: bf: stop freaking out it’s embarrassing. Gf: I thought I was going to die: me: OF RAIN?!!

[@degraham9198]

No. This was pretending to do the right thing, while actually being jealous. That's what I think, but you. Do you. Feel free.

[@sageduff4747]

#3. Yes, they were an asshole, but they had the right to say no. I just wouldn’t expect any of their coworkers to ever help them if needed.

[@MeemahSN]

What was needed though? It’s not like they were leaving them in the dust when their car broke down or something.

[@amateurflor13]

why propose at someone else's wedding edit: vicky is awful. icky vicky. terrible. i wonder if she and the guy will last.

[@sonibaker3567]

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[@laurafranich4807]

You have wonderful content and I always enjoy it

[@CoolGuy7159]

Wonder what there thoughts would be been with my gf for 15 happy years I gave her a promise ring saying I’ll always be with you ❤❤ stay safe everyone 🥺

[@WittyRoseKoi]

I love your videos kyutie

[@arcticxabyss]

i think vicky is VERY jealous of op and his gf's relationship. 😐

[@nitishsinha2843]

This video is amazing!How are you doing Ellen?

[@AlliesCreations]

Exited for the vid!

[@shadowboxer1]

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[@AlliesCreations]

@@shadowboxer1 thanks!

[@samriddhichaturvedi9509]

I don’t think I have ever been this early ever before😮

[@rebekanieten]

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[@YourLocalToolShed]

Ehh for story 3 I do feel like they’re the a-hole

[@deadsetondreams1988]

Story 1 he was NOT wrong, she made things so much worse by hysterically screaming and crying instead of actively helping make the situation better. That is something that literally needs therapy to help if she's that terrified. Being scared is one thing but actively making an already bad situation worse is another. She needs to learn how to process her emotions better. Story 2 The DJ was in the wrong. The bride and groom probably specified that he took ALL requests because they knew he was going to propose to that song...Not everyone gets offended by others proposing at their own wedding, and the DJ had no right to decide what others could and could not do at someone else's wedding. Clearly, a lot of family and friends knew it was going to happen. Certain people don't want the attention all on them like myself and I would love people to steal the spotlight from me, I would rather have someone propose so everyone talks about it. It could have also been a family tradition that you just ruined. The only reason she paid you and added more is because some people feel bad not paying and tipping, and even if the service they receive is bad or not what they wanted they still tip. I fall into that category of people because I don't like confrontation and I know people rely on tips (in the US mostly). I had a horrible tattoo artist who literally argued with me and I still tipped him knowing I would absolutely never go back. But some people get aggressive if you don't tip, and I don't ever want to risk that happening. Story 3 The OP is a bit of a jerk for that one. I get that people want to leave on time from a job but you couldn't take literally 1 day to help her so she didn't miss her kids recital. Just make it clear that this is absolutely a 1 time thing and if she tries to ask the same thing again. Remind her you said it was a one-time deal or if she needs assistance that she can ask for your help earlier so that you can still leave on time. He already said he normally finishes at 3 so he could have helped for 2 hours before 5 pm just let them know to ask earlier next time. When you work, you are supposed to be a part of a team including assisting others when they are struggling. I used to work at a hotel and we weren't allowed to leave until everyone in our department was done. That meant when you finished you went to whoever was going the slowest and assisted. You could not leave until EVERYONE was done and I appreciated that because it made everyone work together and appreciate one another. You showed that you couldn't care less about anyone other than yourself if you couldn't be bothered to helped even once. Story 4 He literally is about to propose to Mary and they didn't invite her, Vicky is definitely the jerk in that scenario. Shaming them for how long they've been together without getting married yet, even though they were supposedly friends. She's a rude, dingbat.

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[@AlliesCreations]

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[@shadowboxer1]

Here's your silver medal! ====> 🥈

[@litomario]

on the 1st story the person had every right to tell the fiancee that he couldn't rely on her to help in life or death situations because of her behavior she shouldn't be mad at him for that the 2nd story i agree with the DJ that it isn't appropriate to propose at someone else's wedding and that they were right for changing the song and i agree with that if the bride knew that it was gonna happen she should have mentioned it to the dj on the 3rd story it makes sense that the co worker was upset work is important to pay the bills and family is equally as important and a picnic isn't really important i believe the person who brought up the story is the ass for that reason the 4th story the person is not the ass because the fact that the person was seeing mary longer than the other has and when it comes to who is invited the no ring for relationships shouldn't be an excuse for not inviting a friend's lover if you known them offline for a really long time

[@volcanicrose7158]

I have to disagree with you on the 3rd story. Picnics are great for your mental health, and it is obvious that the OP values their time and energy. The coworker is in the wrong because she didn't prioritize her daughter's recital, and get her work done on time so she could make it. Poor planning on the coworker's part doesn't make an emergency on OP. Everyone knew OP never takes on other's work. Doesn't matter what they do with their time, OP didn't want to do it. I understand this. I am, or was, the opposite of OP. I was the person you go to when you need someone to cover your shift. Even though I loved being relied on, it did take its toll on my mental and physical health. It also made it to where I couldn't have time planned for myself incase someone needed me. And the worst part is, no one was there to help me when I needed it. If I needed someone to cover my shift, there was no one that I could turn to, no one was willing to take on that extra work. So in end, what is even the point of doing it? OP is NTA.

[@litomario]

@@volcanicrose7158 i saw some comments on this video saying that it's for mental health but i don't really believe it because if it really was for mental health op probably would have mentioned it and the thing about the co worker if the job doesn't require you to be on your phone at all it is possible to talk with co workers while you work and considering that op didn't say anything about either of those things you don't really know if they're taking a break from work for mental health or because they might be an introvert and the co worker might be working while talking

[@litomario]

also a thought about op saying that they don't take other people's jobs and the co worker not managing their time properly i understand where you're coming from it can be physically/mentally draining for some people to have to take on the extra responsibility considering that they didn't say if it takes a toll on them and that they didn't say if the co worker was talking while working it is possible that they refused to help because of what i said in the other comment i left after you responded

[@WittyRoseKoi]

Shadow boxer I’m I second

[@shadowboxer1]

Nope. Sixth.

[@markcollins2666]

So, you're here, with nothing to say to Ellen, but to check in with some dumbass scorekeeper, who also has nothing to add to Ellen's conversations. Aren't you all special!

[@lisikoshy8565]

1st comment!! 🎉

[@shadowboxer1]

Seventh.

[@Nicholaspimpinsohard]

How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? In this very story, I would just completely end things with her and call off the engagement. If she's like this now just imagine what it's going to be like when they're married. In the second story, I fully agree with him everyone would blame him for playing that slow song which led to a marriage proposal. By the way, that is so tacky and disrespectful to propose while you're attending someone else's wedding. He should have propose in a more intimite place. I love you!! Have a great day!! Stay safe!!