Parts Work in Therapy

[@soulfulandallthat]

This video should be renamed as " How to explain parts work without sounding like a maniac to normal people"😂😂 Beautifully explained! 💕

[@DrToriOlds]

Haha!! Love that comment!! So glad you found it non-maniac-ish!! ;) (That's what I'm going for!) Yay! :)

[@diva2classy]

YES!!!!!! the best I have ever found!!

[@liljanakaci4451]

Exactly!! I am so excited that I found this video! Though I believe in IFS and I have already completed Level 1 of training in it, I feel uncomfortable with the lingo and the specific questions we ask (like "how old does this part think you are?"), which just sound weird. But, conceptualized in this way, it makes more sense to me and it will definitely make more sense to my clients! Thank you so much, Dr. Olds!

[@AdaAdi77]

yes, good suggestion. I abhorred the word "parts". I tried IFS and hated it even more. I was triggered for a year by the word "part". It sounds so infantilizing and insane. I had to read EMDR Toolbox: Theory and Treatment of Complex PTSD and Dissociation (Jim Knipe), Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain (David Eagleman) and four articles on dissociation, DID and brainspotting to finally understand that this is science and my aversion should be addressed. This explanation is less triggering to my highly cerebral brain... :)

[@kingfiona3344]

😊😂

[@ascensionsoul]

Parts work is so important and critical. As an IFS trained therapist, I am super grateful to see this content being watched by so many people. I am very passionate about IFS and send people to Dr. Olds work in preparation for our sessions. I am an advocate for low cost IFS, and hope to that this content can help people understand IFS. The challenge becomes when they start looking for an IFS therapist, the cost can be prohibitive. I don't believe people should have to take a second job to experience Parts work as IFS is very popular right now. I have stayed committed to keeping my rates affordable so people can get the benefit and hope other IFS therapists will do the same. It's just not affordable when people charge $250 -$350 a session.

[@FrilledMayfly_AmberlyFerrule]

IFS has literally changed my life, working with my various parts has been helping me though a whole lotta trauma and made remembering everything less painful. It's like I'm no longer alone in my head

[@DrToriOlds]

This video is actually just a small excerpt from a series that I created for therapists and clients who are interested in working more experientially to achieve transformational change. You can find the playlist for the whole series here: kzbin.info/aero/PLCJ2fBBavCJE8m311eCdtNScTuIAhGjnY

[@intrinsicallysleepy]

You have a really calming, but not boring voice in my opinion. It’s really nice to listen to ☺️ I hope that isn’t weird to say! Thank you for making this video and for having subtitles!

[@DrToriOlds]

I'm so glad you feel that way! Thanks for saying so! ;) I really appreciate it!!

[@intrinsicallysleepy]

@Dr. Tori Olds - Of course! ☺️🌸☀️

[@paigeboyatzis8642]

This explains parts work so eloquently, especially the difference between CBT and parts work. I often find that CBT encourages a person to be in opposition with their parts as opposed to being in true dialogue. I think CBT often discourages seeking emotional information from parts, and rather just seeks to present them with "factual" observations (misunderstanding that facts are always coloured by emotional interpretations). This can be disconnecting between parts who feel they aren't being heard, rather that they are just being argued with. Thanks for this video, it's helped me clarify some things for how I practice :)

[@DrToriOlds]

I would have to say that I tend to agree!! Bruce Ecker also has some wonderful thoughts (in his book 'unlocking the emotional brain') on the importance of being 'non-counteractive' as a therapist. In other words, not simply trying to 'manage' or 'control' symptoms, but rather understanding their coherence (why they make sense), and working with implicit memory systems (rather than conscious, explicit ones), to provide different emotional learnings to unfold. He actually postulates the this happens through a process called Memory Reconsolidation, which I have a video on that I think you would really like if you haven't watched it yet. Ecker's ideas are really amazing. Thanks for the comment! ;)

[@littlestbroccoli]

It's very encouraging seeing how many therapists and professionals you have in your audience. I want to advocate for more emotional recognition in psychotherapy, but I am just one layman/client. Seeing this helps to envision a time when CBT will be one of several scientifically valid and insurance-covered treatments, not the only one. A time when the rest of us will be able to heal and address trauma, not be coerced out of talking about it. Thank you for what you're sharing and working on here.

[@snsnxnsozv]

This is a really important point to bring up!!! there is so much value in exploring healing somatically and even energetically. I am currently in school to become a therapist and I also look forward to the day that we see different healing modalities-- aside from behavioral-- integrated in mainstream psychology/therapy

[@tahirrazzaq9494]

You explained this so well!! My therapist isn’t a parts specialist but she has enough knowledge of it. We combine parts and EMDR to introduce new ideas about past experiences, hoping to reconnect myself to me emotions and body. Numbness and disconnection is no fun.

[@AilsiePath444]

I've been helping to heal someone with PTSD. Thank you, I love how you teach, thank -you

[@DrToriOlds]

Oh wow! Glad to help! :)

[@graciela_digitalnomad]

Dr Tori you're a blessing to this world. I never encountered someone who can explain complex theories, therapeutic methods and concepts so eloquently. You are able to break them down into simple digestible ways that are easy to understand and relate to. Keep them comin 🙏 Thank you ❤

[@madz2013]

I started this therapy recently. I've only had a few sessions but I think it's gonna be really helpful.

[@TheAweslims]

This is great! I love using parts work- I’ve always heard about it in more of the spiritual/metaphysical realm, so I enjoyed hearing it from this perspective too!

[@DrToriOlds]

Thanks so much for the kind comment! I just checked out your channel as well and found it so inspiring! It took me 5 years to get pregnant with my first kid...and 3 IVF attempts, etc. etc. So I know about that whole journey! It's crazy how common infertility is these days! Glad you are helping people get the info they need ;)

[@AdaAdi77]

@@DrToriOlds I am curious of your take on infertility. I read an EMDR book (EMDR: The Breakthrough Therapy for Overcoming Anxiety, Stress, and Trauma - Francine Shapiro) and it mentioned psychogenic infertility. Any other explanations?

[@LuisBohorquezJr]

I love this. My therapist and I have been working using parts work. Not necessarily IFS but pretty much as you are describing here. It took me a bit to buy into this until I talked to my protector and everything changed from there. Thank you this video, it gave me a lot more insight. I am going to share this with my therapist.

[@DrToriOlds]

Thanks! I'm so glad you found it helpful! If you'd like to learn more, this video is actually an excerpt from a series that I created for therapists and clients who are interested in working more experimentally to achieve transformational change. You can find the playlist for the whole series here: kzbin.info/aero/PLCJ2fBBavCJE8m311eCdtNScTuIAhGjnY

[@AdaAdi77]

Did parts work give you a quick(er) resolution to inner conflict? I am trying it after resisting it for three years and... I was attacked! I guess the protector... I realized that, previously, it also damaged my two safe spaces I had for ten and twenty years, respectively. My therapist says that it is just doing its job. LOL

[@LuisBohorquezJr]

@@AdaAdi77 It gave me everything. It's crazy to think that I wrote that last year. My life has transformed because of this. It helped me find answers or at least face them and tolerate them. I can talk to my parts, I can feel and listen to them. If you would ever like to chat. Always here for real.

[@JosephineMcMullen]

After watching this video, my husband is obsessed with parts work right now. (And I love it, too.) Thank you for creating this video. (And I love how you gesticulate. I do the same thing when I'm making a speech. It's not distracting. In fact, I think it's enhancing.)

[@ableanswer4226]

Your work has spurred salient, comprehensive clarity about my intrapersonal world. I am a self diagnosed high functioning autistic. How might autism affect my schemas and parts?

[@PaulKellieMusic]

This was really helpful. Thank you. I'm starting parts work with my therapist and EMDR- it's very intense, and things like this really help.

[@DrToriOlds]

OH, I'm so glad that I could help in any way that would make your work more powerful or rich! Yes, it's nice to sort of have the intellectual frame for things, so that that part of our brain can relax and feel oriented so that we can simply be present and onboard in doing the work! Good luck! ;)

[@IFSCA]

Thanks Tori, I especially like your critique of CBT. I don't agree that we need to use "imagination", as an IFS therapist it is clear to me that the personality system is multiple and when people go inside they simply encounter their parts (or are blended with them to start with). This is slightly different from viewing schemas as parts. My parts do not like being called schemas. Your suggestion to "go nicely" would loosely correspond to Self energy; however if it is difficult to do that then it is helpful for people to know how to "unblend" from parts not allowing Self to enquire. Of course our figure-it-out parts want to "figure out what your mind believes"; but in my experience vulnerable young parts holding distress don't want to be "figured out" - simply heard. Nonetheless I appreciate your contribution to the field - thank you!

[@DrToriOlds]

Hi Derek! Thanks for your comments! I have very much enjoyed seeing some of your videos on KZbin, so I appreciate you watching these and giving your thoughts! You picked up on some interesting pieces here...with the keen eye (ear) of a true IFS therapist! My sense is that we would generally be in agreement, although perhaps the language is a bit off, and I bet I know the reason: this particular clip is from a larger series on how to uncover one's schemas and create a new experience that might trigger Memory Reconsolidation (ala Coherence Therapy). As part of that series, I couldn't help but mention using parts work as a potential means for this, because it is such a fit. It gives a way to move beyond thinking about the learning or 'emotional reality' implicit in the schema, and asks 'who' is there that learned these things? Which is just a beautiful way of exploring how our mind is organized. Also, I'll be careful in the future when I use the word 'imagination' or 'imagine', to be clear that I don't mean 'pretend', but rather simply to open up one's receptive capacities. Because I agree with you that there is nothing 'pretend' about one's parts!! Finally, I completely agree with your comments about unblending. I hope to address these types of details more fully in an IFS-specific video in the future. Thanks again for your comments! Wonderful to dialogue with you!

[@IFSCA]

@@DrToriOlds Good to be chatting with you too - I'm very much looking forward to a more IFS specific presentation and with your permission may put it on my KZbin channel as a resource. Thanks for providing the context for this one. One of the reasons the language around imagination is important is that a common protective response is, "I think I'm just making this all up". When that comes up in session I let the part voicing that know that it could be right - sometimes young parts have learned that they need to make things up in order to get attention. If there is a part making things up it is welcome... so let's enquire... Invariably it is not the case, however the concerned part feels validated and we can move on. Without this kind of intervention the part stating it is made up may hijack the system and block further work.

[@DrToriOlds]

Thanks for these thoughts, Derek! Sorry it took me awhile to respond...what a crazy few weeks it has been!! In any case, I think your comments here are so important. And I love how you invite clients to stay curious and open and give their mind a chance to be known, rather than simply shut down with "I'm making all of this up." I really agree with this, and like the way you describe this. I would be really honored if you shared any of my videos on your channel. Thanks for asking! Hope you are staying safe and well during this time, Derek!!! I've been meaning to go back and watch some of your vids. Maybe I'll do that while stuck at home ;)

[@IFSCA]

@@DrToriOlds I've started a Covid 19 playlist you might want to check out. There is a lovely resource for children helping them to be with their parts (Inside Out characters) when they hear stuff about the virus. Well worth sharing. Stay well, Derek.

[@Galia.Solange]

Thank you for sharing. I just had my first IFS session and the level of healing was so surreal I wouldn’t have believed it if anyone had told me… thank you for making this content available and spreading the word ☺️

[@keithwins]

I just love your work. Every video. Brilliant, insightful, on-point. Hopeful. Deeply caring. I think we are at such an amazing moment, where insights and science of psychology and neural biology etc. are coming together to fructify in therapy and science of mind and... but then you explain these things in such relatable and "obvious" terms, it fits together and makes very beautiful sense. What a gift you have, and offer all of us. Thank you.

[@anecologistspeaks6422]

Thank you Dr Olds, this is such a clear and easy to understand description, really useful.

[@DrToriOlds]

Glad it was helpful!Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment! :)

[@jamieslate]

What a wonderful explanation. I want to share this approach with the world because it is so awesome!

[@DrToriOlds]

Oh that’s nice to hear!! Do it!! :)

[@JustT725]

Tori has a calming voice and demeanor. I have had an interest in parts work for awhile. This is a easy to understand description of parts work.

[@DrToriOlds]

Glad to hear that!! ;)

[@tygereyes]

As a fellow clinician, I really enjoyed his video and am a big fan of the work Ronnie Janoff-Bulman (e.g., Shattered Assumptions) and, in general, Social Cognitive Theory. Nicely done. PS: I hope your thumb has long since healed. Blessed be.

[@DrToriOlds]

That's cool to hear!! I'm not familiar with Shattered Assumptions, but I'll have to look into it!! Yes, my thumb has healed ;) Thanks for noticing!!

[@peterscheer4039]

this was brilliantly and simply explained.. thanks so much Dr Olds.. !!! I will be sharing this frequently ! This should be taught in counseling programs... I graduated in 2016 CACREP accredited school .. no mention of this or of trauma.... very unfortunate for the field and for the hurting people out there...

[@DrToriOlds]

Thanks for saying so, Peter!! So glad you enjoy these videos (and so sad to hear that trauma and deeper healing weren't taught in your program. Eek). Thanks again! Tori

[@arkieologist]

Your voice is very soothing and lovely to listen to. ❤️ (Coming from an avid KZbinr) Grateful for psych education like this. Thank you. Recognize you have a great setup for audio and video. 💯

[@MarionFiedlerMusic]

i really enjoyed this talk. how relieving. precious information. thanks!

[@DrToriOlds]

Glad you enjoyed it! And thanks so much for commenting, Marion. I really appreciate it :)

[@zuhayermamun5902]

Phenomenal video and breakdown of parts work. Thank you! This was very helpful to me!

[@DrToriOlds]

You're very welcome! So glad to hear it :)

[@jennafitzgerald985]

Thank you, Dr. Olds! This is an amazing explanation. Many thanks.

[@lisabeeke7162]

This is brilliant, helpful and so very much appreciated. Thank you.

[@KamalaTahyi]

I actually, finally, understand parts work

[@NedWeber-gt1ux]

Thanks for such a clear and concise explanation, and for keeping it simple.

[@lt827]

Excellent

[@user-sc8eu]

I am grateful i found your channel. You give a great explanation. Thank you so much

[@coolman000099]

Thank you so much! I can’t afford a therapist right now , so this video helps so much!

[@DrToriOlds]

So glad to be of help!! Hopefully in a month or two I"ll be posting a much deeper dive into this topic, and I hope those videos will be even more helpful!! Thanks for the comment! ;)

[@melikiac]

Really enjoyed the simple explanation

[@bevnibbs9038]

Fabulous and beautifully explained

[@DrToriOlds]

Thank you for the nice comment!! I really appreciate it! Last weekend I just recorded a whole 5-part series on IFS, so stay tuned for those!!! :)

[@AC-ff4uu]

i really enjoyed the contest as well as you express the ideas !

[@DrToriOlds]

Glad you enjoyed it! And thanks so much for taking the time to tell me! I really appreciate getting comments ;)

[@theologytherapist]

I work with many religious trauma or cult survivors so it has been interesting playing with parts language when they tend to be sensitive to magical type thinking. The more I know about IFS the more I’m curious about it.

[@Unherd_Of]

For those of us with D.I.D the schemas have become whole people .that take turns with whole embodiments and preset patterns of destruction. Bc these were created at points of disassociation stress brings on these changes automatically. Thank you for pointing us to the off switch 🙏 You are a REAL DOCTOR

[@TimEmmerton]

Omg what a wonderful wonderful watch

[@Blackmoonsoulx]

You are amazing!!! Thank you for explaining in a good manner.

[@DrToriOlds]

Thanks so much for saying so! I truly appreciate it! :)

[@dartcree8185]

I get this. You are even clearer than Janina Fisher in explaining parts. But they don't talk to me. How do I get my parts to talk back?

[@nickcascone4552]

It takes time and practice. Begin sitting with and staying with the different emotions that come up in your body. You continually feel them with your awareness and that helps begin the dialogue. It creates the bridge for messages to come through. Body to mind. They will talk back when they sense you are with them in a loving and non-agenda based way and they feel safe enough to do so.

[@azarius001]

Thank you for posting this - very helpful.

[@Unherd_Of]

Dr. TORI IS AN OLD SOUL!

[@justaninja1]

You kinds remind me of that therapist in Sopranos 😊

[@jenniferrenzi7008]

What a wonderful explanation! Thank you so much for his.

[@DrToriOlds]

You're very welcome! Thanks for the comment ;)

[@Jesusandmentalhealth]

REALLY well explained.

[@oh584]

Doc Olds' affect is rockin. Ugh! One of my schemas fell in love 😍 and started pretending to kiss the good doctor. lol

[@DrToriOlds]

That post cracked me up ;)

[@oh584]

@@DrToriOlds eep! It's her! *blush* Your face is so bright and sunshiney, your transitional movements are so kind on the eyes. Paying attention to you is so easy. 😍 hehe Anyway. Thank you very much for the information. I found it very helpful and a pleasure to receive and digest.

[@glenw3814]

I would love an indepth video coaching series on how to do self parts work. Just putting that out in case it's of interest to you.

[@DrToriOlds]

I'll keep that in mind!! Some time next year I might offering such a thing. Thanks Glen! (My husband's name is Glenn). :)

[@glenw3814]

@@DrToriOlds I watched your videos (in addition to reading some books on IFS) in prep for doing my own parts work. I made some progress. Out of curiosity, and to see if there was more to find, I did a psilocybin aided introspection. Wow! This really gave new perspective, allowing me to identify and better understand my parts and what I suspect might be universal parts. I'm currently at a roadblock as I try to work through Self-Therapy, by Jay Early. I think his book offers an effective system, but it's very difficult work to do without a guide or partner to push me when I'm up against something uncomfortable to examine. Just thought I would share these data points for others doing self exploration. 🔭🔬

[@littleworldcomprise5191]

Can you please make a video on how to identify schemas through various techniques with examples? I will be very obliged

[@sankturban291]

Good video

[@moulee7448]

It seems like its hard to do it without the help of a therapist.. I definetly want to do this with the help.. I feel like this can help me immensely! Thanks for sharing! Can i do this on my own for less complicated parts in me? Or will i be stuck in a loop trying to work on my own?

[@DrToriOlds]

Hi Moulee! Sorry, I wrote a response to you when you posted, and then I realized I never remembered to actually reply with it!! Sorry!! Here it is: That's such a great question! Thanks for asking, because it probably applies to everyone. The answer is sort of mixed. On the one hand, yes, this work can be complicated (although using parts as a tool--as complicated as it sounds--is meant to actually make what might be otherwise vague and confusing terrain actually more accessible and easier to work with). But any inner work brings up the possibility of getting stuck, and usually having some help is necessary, at least at the beginning. That being said, I am a big advocate of everyone--and our whole culture in general--becoming more psychologically minded and empowered with tools they can use on their own or with friends. Psychotherapists don't OWN the world of inner work. And the more we can find our own ways to do healing or growth work on our own, the better. It is a very empowering experience to learn how to use mindfulness, or parts work, or journaling, or self-compassion, to have a deeper relationship with our self. Learning how to slow down and look into our own mind, both for the sake of regulation (that is the basic one most people think of...like learning to take a breath or doing self-care to feel better in the moment), but also for the sake of understanding ourselves better being able to offer ourselves healing experiences, is life changing.

[@Rebeccak57]

Thank you.

[@lilyl5492]

I do like these explanations now that I need a refresher, but I used to find the 'imagine that part as a person' idea really distracting from the real body sensations sometimes. E.g. preverbal, pre-identity baby parts don't even get the idea of separation of self-other-world. I wonder if this could also be about neurodiversity? with more bottom up processing focusing on sensation first, then interpreting meaning and applying concepts...

[@tamaraesther7765]

i really liked this video

[@darinsmith2458]

I have watched a few of your videos and a lot of other videos about IFS. I even have an IFS Therapist which I will see tomorrow. Logically this stuff makes sense but I am not having the experience. I do have lots of parts. I have a hypervigilant part and a critical part and a perfectionistic part and I do have experience with them. I guess I do look at them all different but I am not sure if they are their own personality. They all have personalities but having their own personality is another thing. I am planning on watching your video on picking a Therapist so I will try to talk more about Therapists more there. The only thing I will say is that I went to a Church that preached Acceptance but they never accepted me. I kind of look at Therapists the same way. If my parts aren't comfortable coming out during Therapy then does it matter if the person is an IFS Therapist?

[@Phoenix333Rising]

What's the difference between schema therapy and IFS?

[@sethgauby8730]

I just started this therapy. I’m not sure I can buy into this

[@Unherd_Of]

Trying to describe your parts as parts is already a whole other sport.

[@some-cool-guy]

Thank you for this excellent explanation. Very illuminating! -Dr. Diak, The Happiness Psychologist

[@DrToriOlds]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for the comment! :)

[@backtobalancecounseling2774]

This was so helpful. Thank you!

[@DrToriOlds]

You're so welcome! Thanks for watching and thanks for leaving a kind comment!! :)

[@trueessence5834]

Hello, thank you very much. i wonder if you saw teal swan´s example for parts work and what do you think about it. i tried it once and a lot subconscious things came up.

[@ddavila3]

Although I know the phrase “archetype” can get a little hairy in its Jungian sense, I feel like in description and example there is a similarity here with “parts.” Is that fair to say? How do they differ?

[@suhasnisinggaravelu4746]

Such a useful video

[@DrToriOlds]

Thanks! And thanks for taking time to say so! ;)

[@Apachetribesman-we7jv]

What about addictive personalities

[@ultravioletpisces3666]

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[@jonsnow911]

4:00 till end

[@ankitaghosh3892]

Wow...😃😃👏👏

[@DrToriOlds]

Thanks Ankita!!! :)

[@adeeshaneyhaan6371]

Is this the u find the past trauma which showcase in absurd ways later in life? .correct me in im wrong

[@prettytiff2562]

Is parts work the same as inner-child work?

[@DrToriOlds]

Yep!! There are many different ways you will hear 'parts work' described--either in a sort of general, pop-psychology way (ie 'inner child work'), or in terms of names of particular formalized approaches to therapy (like 'Internal Family Systems' or 'Inner Voice Dialogue' or 'Inner Community'). But generally when people say they did some 'inner child work' they mean that they contacted a young part of themselves that needed care and can now receive it from their adult self (or the therapist, depending on how you approach it). Many therapies guide this type of process, and there would be nothing wrong with calling it inner child work ;) Thanks for the question!!

[@TheMisslili8]

what about schema therapy? is it the same? what is the difference

[@Hotpocketmountiandew]

This is the best part of kung fu.

[@DrToriOlds]

Really? Interesting...

[@RoseannPascaleMSLMFT]

but what is that photo of the little girl with the eyes on her hands...that is a bit freaky no?

[@DrToriOlds]

Haha...good point. Guess the doll was supposed to represent an inner part...but yeah...probably shouldn't use that one again ;)

[@RoseannPascaleMSLMFT]

@@DrToriOlds Oh Hi!- I appreciate your work and these videos - I send them to my clients all the time. Thank you! But yeah, that image freaked me out a bit..lol. Thanks again for the great offerings!

[@janetwavesong9172]

The constant hand gestures were distracting to me and I was thinking the speaker must have anxiety. Otherwise, interesting to listen to.

[@DrToriOlds]

Nah, I'm just a bit of a spaz. Sorry it was distracting...

[@nancydecosta8577]

Stop with the hands

[@DrToriOlds]

Sorry! I don't think I can ;)

[@kld70]

Actually, using body motions along with tone of voice signifies an authentic and highly effective speaker. So please let the doctor convey her message in her very professional way. We’re here for it! 🙂👏✌️

[@RC-hs1gh]

Society.....before a collapse. Just at the point where societies believe they can evolve into their own god.

[@DrToriOlds]

...the danger of hubris...

[@Anniebear7f]

Thank you, Such a catapult in my journey🪶