On Heartbreak (Lesbian vs. ~Baby Gay~)

[@katnisseverdeen5466]

bethan is an icon

[@Leadley]

hahahahahahaha hello thank u 😂🙈💕

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

@@Leadley What's the flashing dot in Alayna's hair. Not her hearing.

[@ximegomez3704]

"um RUDE"

[@bruadarach9758]

Um, hi? My name too is Bethan and I should add not only does my soul *leave* my body every time Alayna says Bethan I would also like to emphatically concur with the right honourable editor… RUDE. I mean, Ashley, don’t be coming for the Welsh…

[@Yours_sincerely_thedreamer]

Can we please make Alayna and Ashley a regular thing? Your collaborations are my absolute favourite thing in the entire KZbin universe!

[@Niko-ge4uh]

Yesssssss

[@regalkammerlocher6162]

This is the first time I have seen them together and I have never seen Ashley before at all. Made me laugh so hard

[@ibdora05]

YYYEEESSSSSS

[@NinaMans]

@@regalkammerlocher6162 and they have 3 other videos together and I think 2 episodes of Ashley's podcast!!

[@notforapanpam5602]

Amen to that!

[@garnet1223]

this is the first time ive ever been thoroughly entertained watching a sponsor lmao

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

You must not know about Anna Akana or Jaclyn Glenn.

[@dianeaishamonday9125]

@@ireallyreallyhategoogle or Dodie Clark! Back when she was a more serious youtuber, she would write a little original song for every spon! 💖💖💖

[@mariebourgot4949]

Or Paige and Holly. :)

[@Lis_Kid]

Ashley's face at 13:40 when Alayna called her out for taking shit about herself is so cute, I can't get over it.

[@mariebourgot4949]

Yeah! ^^

[@natychocolatee]

yeap. on repeat hahahaha

[@AkshayaJeyaram]

Hi! As a confused bisexual/lesbian(?) from a country where there isn't a big outward presence of a queer community (since it's extremely unsafe here to be out), your videos bring me so much comfort and joy! This channel truly feels like my safe space ❤️

[@jamielondon6436]

Stay safe. Hopefully, things will get better!

[@AkshayaJeyaram]

@@jamielondon6436 thank you!

[@deek7471]

Mmm I got an exorcism conducted on me when my mom came to know I'm bisexual. Typical India.

[@talyasindel]

❤️

[@steponmesolar3489]

And the very few "safe" places are so fucking expensive, that I won't survive a month with a moderate salary

[@whatahyuck]

this felt like having a fun conversation with some lesbian friends; i can't remember the last time I smiled so much at a video :)

[@isapozzo8307]

gave u the 69th like lel

[@whatahyuck]

@@isapozzo8307 thank you; that is extremely kind of you :)

[@isapozzo8307]

@@whatahyuck anytime :p

[@theresataylor1565]

Goodness, where does one find some lesbian friends? I'm in bfe corn county IL. Can't seem to find any.

[@187942]

I love the *whisper* “dildo” This is like a much needed therapy session with friends Ashley saying “don’t judge yourself and don’t force anything” resonates deep Love you both so much

[@katharinaweber9413]

I'm sorry. The "legs don't hurt" Alayna is just too much. 😂😂😂 I relate too hard

[@clairen.6437]

Couldn't watch this, too sad

[@graceylucy4179]

I read this comment before that part came up; and was so confused b.c i was dying from laughter from the get go

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

I can't write that, but i did watch the video and see the description, so ...

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

I’m so sorry

[@theresataylor1565]

@Alayna Joy what are those cute little colorfull things by your sink??? Looks so neat!!

[@jaybean2527]

Honestly, I could watch an entire 5 hour long video of alayna and Ashley simply talking and cracking jokes. It’s my favorite thing to watch ever.

[@laurenyerke1443]

Ben and Jerry: the only men allowed in Ashley's bed

[@wendyfrederick5965]

Good one! I hope you don't mind ... I'm gonna steal that line!! 😆

[@magbiblue7045]

a note of hope for the wlw out there: after two years of wallowing and making bad decisions and healing, it occurred to me a few weeks ago that i don't miss her anymore, and that the pain associated with thinking about her has stopped. you'll get there too, whenever you get there

[@e.v.b4046]

Two years, oh noooo haha that’s not really comforting

[@magbiblue7045]

@@e.v.b4046 that was just my experience tbh, everyone else has a different time frame!! It might be longer or it might be shorter, but regardless, it will happen, no matter what

[@val-iy3qw]

“Congratulations, you have loved.” A light and more optimistic perspective that I needed to hear

[@pyssa420]

I’m a full grown lesbian as of last week. My first gf of three years and I have called it quits. This came up on my feed after watching super serious breakup videos all week. I needed this funny take on lesbian heartbreak so badly lol this is the first time I’ve truly laughed in like three days

[@NE8675309]

11:12 The whole bit of Ashley talking about being miserable and heartbroken with the sad "zoom zoom, zoom zoom on my face" is my favorite thing

[@preciousonejewel]

A lot of what was said in this video actually helps me in my grief journey losing my mom a few months ago. Grief is grief... Thanks ladies ❤️

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

Sending so much love your way 💛

[@kerttupeura6116]

I was about to say the same about my stepmom! It's weird to realize how universal sadness can be. Sending love your way 💛 I don't think the grief will ever really stop, but I can promise that it will get easier to carry over time (it's been a bit over 1,5yrs without her for me by now)

[@preciousonejewel]

@@AlaynaJoyOfficial thank you, I feel the love in this community you've built ❤️

[@preciousonejewel]

@@kerttupeura6116 thank you for your encouragement and love! One day at a time right? 😊

[@CassidyQuinn]

Ughhhh I feel you on this! I lost my mom last month, and DAMN it hurts. Sending you lots and lots of love ❤

[@pamellisgonzalez6970]

I love how you try so hard not to blush or laugh when presenting adam and eve toys HAHAHAHA

[@heidivoss8755]

“Kids, when you don’t feel anymore.. that’s when you know you’re an elder gay” made me laugh soo hard 😭

[@careboss13kendall19]

also if it's your first gay relationship after having a straight relationship/relationships it hits different during and after...... At least IMO I feel like it's more emotional. Her moving on so fast she's been out longer so it's not new. This is a whole new situation, every break-up before to me was blah not emotional and I think it's because I was just doing what I thought was what my life was supposed to be. Being in my first gay relationship after coming out is so much more intense and emotional, and I was married to a man for 10 yrs and with him for 12 created 2 kid's before I came out at 29.... I'm now 42😭.... This is a whole new world to navigate 🌈

[@LivGreene]

Came out in February. Had my first (queer/real to me) heartbreak this summer. She tore my heart in a million pieces. This content is so so so what I neeeded and from two of my favorite creators! Thank u 💛💛💛

[@sydneyashelton8597]

I hadn't laughed this hard in months and then it got realll sheesh

[@natalietorres6345]

Lets give a 👏 to Bethan!!🎉😁

[@hopemoore2724]

One of the best ads I’ve seen in a while. Normally I just skip over them but this one entertains me just as much as the rest of the video

[@laurenlittlewood3913]

I have been the same with breakups… until her. I have broken up with and even divorced men but after seeing this woman for two or three months (not even an official couple) I was heartbroken for months. It’s was very new and very weird for me.

[@comicsgatekeeper9746]

I sing this when i am sad Bring me sunshine, in your smile Bring me laughter, all the while In this world where we live There should be more happiness So much joy you can give To each brand new bright tomorrow

[@maever6407]

Absolutely perfect timing, thank you! Had a girl who I had been talking to/going on dates with for a month break things off to be exclusive with someone else this week :(. It was my first time feeling heartbreak since joining the lesbian dating scene, so I appreciate this!

[@52Paulis]

That was nice to watch. My favorite online gay couple just broke up and I was devastated. It triggered me remembering a few of my really hard breakups. The two of you helped me get some perspective.

[@Jenny_796]

my situation is not technically a breakup (and lord i've been in therapy for that) but your words were extremely necessary to me. thank you for the reminder that sometimes all you can do is moving on with your life

[@buffy455]

That’s true real heartbreak can be felt physically in your heart, scientists have been doing their research on that! So graduated as a lesbian for our Alayna

[@kjlynn6791]

Ashley's breakup advice was on point 👌🏻 (also applicable when dealing with loss)

[@octoberrose243]

Me last week when Alayna said Ashley Gavin was coming: Ooo, yay, return of the joybaby jokes. Ashley (not even 2 minutes in): Everyone, joyriders and joybabies- Me: Yessss. 💖🏳️‍🌈

[@ST-vt4nu]

I just recently rediscovered my feelings for girls and your channel has really helped me figure some things out. Thank you for that! I'm pretty sure I am bi and I want to be a bit more open about it. (I dont care much about coming out or labels, but I don't want the option for dating women more open)

[@mirrorball_12]

I just had the biggest smile on my face when I saw the thumbnail and knew this is gonna be interesting to watch!!!

[@anotherday2084]

I got heartbroken right now and I found the video in the right moment so thank you for this talk, it still helps people

[@sagesabr]

Yo! I just went through a breakup, and you have no idea how much I needed to hear ALL of this, because I felt like I was going crazy with how I processed everything. So thank you for this video.

[@brooklynginter4726]

Love this. So glad that I came across your channel. I am a 23 year old pansexual and my family are anti gay. I held it in for years as I grew up being gay is wrong. So thankful I met people who let me be who I really am

[@marysteer6794]

Love the two of you together always such a laugh.

[@radioactivekid007]

My ex broke up with me about a week ago, and even though I'm struggling right now because I was completely in love with her, mind, body and soul, this video really helped me relax and remember that time heals everything. It may take a long ass time, but it's really nice to hear this advice from fellow lesbians because a lot of breakup advice I've gotten has been from my friends in hetero relationships, so hearing it from people in the same community as me has resonated much more strongly for me. I thank you both Alayna and Ashley. You have no idea how grateful I am to the two of you.

[@norahoyer9413]

These videos are like therapy sessions for me and really helped me to let go of the "fond" memories that makes me not give up on this girl that clearly doesn’t like me

[@trinaolson7131]

you'll make it through - I've been out for 21 years - each ending is a part of your story.

[@rainea91]

This collab makes me so happy the amount of time I spent laughing and smiling it’s been amazing! Also watched these two separately so putting them together was perfection like shite y’all trying to kill us XD

[@EyeconicLaura]

Half the video was intro and sponsor but I can’t even complain, I was so entertained.

[@megzeman]

My favorite thing is that Alayna’s eyes scrunch up when she big smiles. 10/10 brings me joy every time

[@kahlanwilliams267]

Alayna, real talk, you're videos are very entertaining and I enjoy them emensely but the moment at 13:34 where you very seriously stopped the negativity was brilliant. You saw a moment and stopped it in its tracks. This is one of the reasons I stick with you, and to Bethan, the comment on screen was perfect. Thanks so much for the safe environment.

[@chvrrlxgaming1437]

9:35 Ash is so proud of herself lol she's said you welcome, anytime.

[@buriedtoodeep1508]

17:45 ish brought me to the realisation that I am extremely grateful for every day spent with someone that I have loved. The essential post-relationship change in perception comes with being thankful to the world, the universe with that thanks radiating from me, rather than being focused at someone else. This allows me to be open to love, should it come my way and gives me the satisfaction and stability to keep being awesome.

[@mackenziekeil-long8110]

Thank you for making this. I broke up with my gf of 5 years this week and it’s been hard. Hearing this advice from queer people I admire is everything. Thank you

[@noneedtoknowme-4536]

I'm going through my first breakup after almost 3 years in a relationship. It's been almost 5 months and only now am I starting to have courage to go out and do something. This video made me feel like I'm not alone and that it will get better. Thank you ❤️

[@DTM-Books]

This discussion has been very helpful for me personally, and I'm very thankful to hear all of it. I'm not only going through the end of a marriage (a long and exhausting story), but I've also been haunted by past breakups that I honestly don't feel I've completely faced and resolved. Add in the fact that I'm getting older, seeing so many of the people I grew up with becoming fat, old & completely unrecognizable, the greater fear that it's just too late for relationships or love (there's simply nobody left, everyone my age is completely burnt out, etc), yadda yadda. So I have a lot of things to unpack and resolve in my mind. Being able to hear stories and experiences from other people is very helpful, and I'm very grateful for these women who are sharing their wisdom. One last quick thing: I just want to say that, as a father of a 2-year-old, I just want anyone out there who is gay, lesbian or transgender that I am very PROUD OF YOU. I am very thankful for you and I will always stand by you and support you completely. I hope your own parents are loving and accepting of you, and for those of you whose relationships with parents are more difficult, I hope that your mothers and fathers will come around and embrace you and love you unconditionally for who you are. We are all in this life together!

[@ironxcrosss]

Honestly, I know these where coming from a gay/lesbian standpoint, but this Q and A helps with all kinds of relationships. Straight, gay, friendship, toxic family, honestly good advice all-round

[@theembersinside1420]

The 2 of u make me smile literally the ENTIRE time I ever watch u! 💖🏳️‍🌈💖

[@euphony93]

This was extremely entertaining and also helpful. Ashley is freakin hilarious! Going through my first breakup as an adult, and I didn’t realize I needed this so much.

[@MissEvannaLily]

I would’ve bawled my eyes out listening to this one year ago, I am living proof that it gets better

[@sharadaramachandran7428]

You guys are hilarious 😂 never fail to bring a smile on my face 😊

[@anastasiamiroshnikova1007]

My God, it's the best promo, I could not watch it, too sad. Thanks Ashley for taking such a great part in it)))

[@reinaxmoonlitrose5623]

It is sad that I can relate to all of this, 8 year relationship ended 2 months ago, the pain was so unbearable back then even though I knew it was right, 2 months later I'm honestly so much better now. For anyone that needs to hear it, it really does get better, time and working on yourself and loving yourself will help alot.

[@lbsimple1849]

I don't usually comment but this was posted on the day of my first ever breakup. I watched it the next day and it made me laugh so thanks for that and the advice

[@PARADOXsquared]

Ugh, the advice about still going to work and being social... when today I skipped work and flaked on happy hour.... oof... I think I needed to hear that.

[@nayavi6633]

when this video came out i was like - i can't watch this, i'm in a relationship. walking home after we broke up, i remembered that, and found this again. thats the last time i'm letting someone get between me and this quality channel lol

[@ViktorErikFade]

I need her in my life, Ashley is the kind of personally that kindly demands you appreciate yourself and talk highly of yourself because damn it SELF LOVE And I need that so bad

[@jessvanlaar]

This content is not made for me, but I still relate a lot! Love the energy you both bring, goofing around while not shying away from talking about real stuff!

[@avery8213]

13:34 was such a heart warming moment for me because i self deprecate on the daily and this felt like the first time someone called me out on that habit of mine instead of just showing me pity and that really hit me right in the core :')

[@Elizabeth-nn4qn]

The sponsor segment of the video really cracked me up 🤣 Sending love from Canada 🇨🇦

[@Hyperparody]

Oh I been waiting for this one!!!

[@ccaatttiraffe]

I couldn't watch this - too sad. LOL JK. Thanks for having Ashley back on your channel! Love her pod - can't wait to see part 2 on her channel :)

[@ZoeMurray]

The energy in these videos are so good, I love them so much

[@Gdna.2546]

This is the !!best!! break up advice, coming back to this again and again. Thank you two!

[@kokooath]

First time coming across Ashely and wow, what a wonderful articulate person. I loved everything you said especially how essentially all advice boils down to let yourself feel and don't be so hard on yourself. MORE ASHLEY!!!!!

[@whatkindofblue17]

your videos are one of the best part of my week!!!

[@zeiroc]

thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this with us despite it being such a tough topic. This video has been super helpful to know we are not alone and learning how to move forward.

[@AW-yg2lp]

This video is the best! I love you guys so much! ❤

[@krewland7041]

Dude i need merch that said. "Couldn't watch this,too sad" or "An ancient elder lesbian" dafaqhahahahah.

[@brookemahan8063]

I literally just found your channel watching your airb&b horror story. I love you so much. You remind me so much of my best friend that passed away on my birthday last year. I could listen to you all day.

[@okiegirlsrock5103]

OMG 😂😂😂 I love when you and Ashley are together, you should have a podcast together. I laughed so hard but loved the heartfelt discussion about your breakups😢😢😢😢. I will tell you I remember Ashley's first podcast where she tells everyone she had a hook up with someone in the witness protection I swear to God I never laughed so hard. 👍👍👍👍Ashley!!!!

[@crazyhusky8646]

U are an amazing duo.....u make us laugh so bad!!...have to do many more...also OFTEN plss....😭🙃

[@talorrenea7735]

Yall are amazing- together i feel yall are besties and even my friends. Thanks- love yalllll

[@vmcintosh8956]

Right the advertising finally got me on this one 🤣🤣 cheers for the discount alayna 😉

[@ritamacedonobrega...]

Lovelies! Congrats... You work sooooo well together!! Thank you for you awesome colabs!!

[@user-324-v3e]

Ashley makes so many jokes, but also gives great advice. Thanks Ashley❤

[@lisadebruin8719]

Omg that first half was making me a Cheshire cat. I was like make it stop! My face hurts! 😂😂 And then Boom serious talk. Loved it 😊💕

[@kaistevenson6374]

Going through a break up right now this video is perfect timing. I think I needed to hear this right now thank you. ❤️

[@jkasumi6135]

I've watched this video before but I'm rewatching it now during my first heartbreak. Having watched it before did help me process initially even though I didn't remember specific advice from this video, the info was in my brain somewhere and it helped a lot. And rewatching it now knowing I'm kind of doing everything right even though it still hurts is very reaffirming

[@BLm0207]

This was wholesome and very healing for me, thanks 😭❤️

[@audreeannadowning]

Alayna i am in the EXACT situation mentally with you and I appreciate this video so much. And the collaboration was great. I felt like I had a friend to talk about it with. A lot was said that had to be said. Love you both sm 💗

[@Mariethechaotic]

I love this duo so much! More Alayna and Ashley!

[@brrrrrrrrit2663]

This duo is the most entertaining entertainment

[@jessicaelecta]

Ashely's eyes😍

[@clowneurysm]

Ashley is so hilarious I love her so much already

[@christy2745]

The most heartfelt Ashley 💕

[@trashkru]

Ashley is everything

[@SaigeTatum]

Did anyone else really need to hear "you deserve to be loved wholly and completely?"

[@AnnieBez]

i cant get over the little light blinking in alaina's hair/ear

[@deserellas]

your hair looks so nice in this video!! its always beautiful, but today especially so 💗💗

[@eliezermorse6728]

omg, this collab is amazing and Ashley is so funny ! :)

[@emilyjoneill]

Loved this the two of you really had me in stitches and also so real! Thank you

[@amess9172]

this entire video felt like a slap in the face thank you

[@ttracey09]

Gems, I love you both. Always bringing happiness and laughter to my days when I watch.

[@chvrrlxgaming1437]

Can't watch this, still tooo sad to watch.... I have lost how many times I have watched this lol I still die laughing.

[@irradiated_woman8016]

I've been waiting, _ladies_ . Seriously I need this and I like you both very very much thank you, more please. I'm sad gay and boring.

[@ellouisebadger849]

I think I agree with the saying that better to have loved and lost than to never have loved ❤️