On Masculine Initiation with Elliott Hulse | 8

This week on the Elliot Hulse podcast, Uncle Yo discusses the topic of male initiation. Becoming a man takes pain, wounds, and guidance. Often, men lack the instruction of a father figure, which tends to create even harsher pain. In these situations, mothers tend to step into this emotional austerity, creating a state of necessity that causes many complications for male development. Male initiation allows for the separation of that confinement to reach their best version successfully.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
• Why men need to reach individual growth without the direct supervision of their parents
• Problems with self-control and identity concerning the failure to establish male initiation
• How to establish dominion over yourself and sovereignty over your mind
• Debar your feelings from controlling you and ultimately guiding your decisions
• How letting go of the matrix that bonds you mentally and physically to your mother allows for the growth of body and mind
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[@Sonnykendrick]

I was about to say. First you had an uncle now you do that for us man. Beautiful, I’ve got chills typing this

[@Incogni_to]

The way you describe fasting is the same as the islamic fasting. We not only fast with our stomachs but with our eyes, our mouths, our ears and our souls. It's basically a ultimate Dopamine detox and it is a hard but wonderful experience and I hope there are more people who will realize the benefits of the Islamic way of fasting. Great Video Mr. Hulse

[@OOUGGE]

Thankyou for this uncle E. Love these videos 🙏🏼

[@Madmagic]

I do like guests but i will always prefer these one on one's elliott. thanks again.

[@tonydelpilar]

Thank you uncle Elliot. I am very grateful for ur willingness to put this information out there💯

[@menmi7737]

Elliot man once again BRILLIANT! The last part where you told to face your demons was got me really fired up. Im ready for my first 72 hour fast amen!

[@Ergomanic]

I’ve been waiting for a video about this for a long time. Thanks E :)

[@ryanwhittemore6913]

Awesome video Elliot. I started watching your videos many years ago. Life has led me back to your videos. Ive considered fasting before. Will definietly be trying it out

[@turna1216]

I love these deep dives into these important but often looked over topics

[@luccidoberman]

Tito E, youre really helping me embrace my masculinity. Ive never had this guidance before thank you

[@Melwakeel]

Masculinity and being a nice guy is a crucial subject for every man out there, especially nowadays there are a lot of men who lose their relationships because of that, thanks for this awesome video Elliott.

[@adrianrivadeneira5951]

These videos are great uncle e

[@philipp99_w]

good video !!! in my church we started a study with all the man about biblical masculinity, and this content fits perfect in as well . Its good for the boys too understand how to become a men !!! god bless you Onkel E

[@arcticap-238]

Bro I appreciate your wisdom and knowledge ❤You are a champion 🎉

[@alexeysologub6249]

Man thanks for sharing your wisdom with us. Beautiful person, beautiful eyes, beautiful speech👍👍👍👍

[@giodude92]

The longest I've fasted for is 36 hours. I could definitely see myself doing 72 hours. Just takes a lot of discipline.

[@Yes-gq6rr]

Discipline is amazing.

[@ciprianparaschiv7591]

@@Yes-gq6rr yes

[@trentongrant]

Thank you

[@DouglasAbramskiOfficial]

On the morrow, the winter solstice begins. I ask God to please give me the will to fast for three days, abstaining from unhealthy vices, and help me plant my feet solidly on the path of righteousness. I pray that, through God I find and keep faith to do thy holy work. I am a humble servant of God's will. Please, God, watch over and protect thy children. Amen.

[@alexgalal4939]

Eliott Hulse you are a boss. I am 28 years old now and have been following you since 19 years old. I have taken a lot of advice from you on ignoring women, focusing on myself, and the state of being as a king. I consider myself an Alpha Male but have never been interested in going out, socializing, or asking women out. I lack the action not the confidence. I am still single, not a virgin, just very inexperienced for my age. One of the dilemmas i am facing is do i take women seriously? I am still not sure if i have found the "one" for me. they all play games.

[@initiatorhater0688]

how long ago was your last girlfriend?

[@alexgalal4939]

@@initiatorhater0688 I've been in a relationship with myself for the past 28 years.

[@Yes-gq6rr]

Read Proverbs from the Bible. Maybe that will help you.

[@thomasflippen4341]

A lot of father's have failed there son's! And lots of mothers have failed there daughters!

[@JesseGMan7]

Your parents might’ve failed you, but are you gonna fail yourself. That’s the more important piece of the puzzle. We can only control ourselves.

[@thomasflippen4341]

@@JesseGMan7 this is very true I have not failed myself. But a lot of people just don't have the drive.

[@MindBodyStorm]

Yep......

[@sougatchhetri8677]

@@thomasflippen4341 fuck everyone else. Focus on your kingdom, 👑 .

[@Royal_Relentess]

I must say... You look fresh with The cut G

[@Marc467gg]

Would you recommend this type of a fasting for someone that’s already very skinny like myself?

[@trilimb2191]

🔥🔥🔥

[@Sonnykendrick]

How can someone fast 3 days a week While still lifting?

[@JD-bq1vy]

Boss , I’ve been staying on my dads couch … should I move with my mom for a couple weeks till I figure out what I wanna do ? Or just stick it out here ? I don’t know if I should join the military or get a Cdl . I just feel lost no real guidance

[@Ugod37]

What helped you understand the lessons and the overall story in regards initiation in “Iron John”? I find myself listening to it over and over, but not understanding another part until stepping away from listening to the story.

[@io-rj6sk]

cant seem to find iron john on audible, here in australia if that matters

[@nicolasdazefilms]

Can you please make a clips channel for this podcast? Thanks

[@josiahslate7374]

I moved to my Dads after 16 years living with mom… you could say there would have been smoother ways to end up where we are now lol…

[@lukababu]

Fasting without a spiritual guide is dangerous as it can lead to pride as is the understanding in Orthodoxy. But we must all fast!

[@danielsan6811]

"making men great again"

[@functionalaestheticse.c.8953]

Sick and bloated with information. Spot on. Need time to digest and wrestle with ideas.

[@Johnny.B995]

I do a 16/8 fast. Sometimes I’ll do a 24 hr fast. I stop myself from going over 24 hours because I can easily over eat if I’ve gone too many hours. My only concern is losing a lot of weight and gaining it all back in a short amount of time. Any suggestions on how to ease back into eating after fasting for 3 days?

[@jocampos7002]

Dont eat oily stuff, or sugary stuff, soda... you body will be absorving that in a rush... Also dont smoke! Eat some grapes, watermelon, I would recomend alcaline fruits. Dont over eat at the first meal Im gona be straight honest, I have made 72h period with no eating, only water, like 3 times or something I can say it does wonders, but that by itself is just not enough okay? There are better and stronger battles for you to do on a every day basis

[@iamchannelll]

My relationship with my mother is very complex it’s like I hate her but also don’t because she abused me as a child , but I also have codependency and I know I have beta male programming or nice guy syndrome that I am trying to break out from to become a real masculine man, definitely have fear of the mother as I have parentification and also odiepal complex

[@poli3828]

25:09 where did he speak about it?

[@chrisdevries9646]

👍💪💯

[@EscobarNOT]

Uncle E I NEED your classes but I can’t afford it

[@ramtinbiglary5387]

Be a man and get Money !

[@EscobarNOT]

@@ramtinbiglary5387 I get money I just don’t got 1000 dollars for an internet program. I am a man I provide for my family I put them first

[@MindBodyStorm]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@ratulsarkar8972]

Yo Elliott

[@Sonnykendrick]

Uncle E.

[@iwonder6221]

Sup uncle E

[@whitewolfway]

hashna baby baby dont you cry........mother is gonna make all of you nightmares come thru

[@iamchannelll]

How does one break free from matriarchy

[@jeprodigalson792]

Jesus is the King of making men strong and restoring them inside out. Seek the Kingdom not men. God adds and restores all things. Jesus the King came to us and served us in rags as the King. That says alot.

[@jocampos7002]

I have a deep issue right now I have met a girl who is very smart, does not judge, and we are young, 22 years old The thing, is that, even she is sweet, kind, simple and very smart (I trully crave that) There are LOTS of red flags. -Her father is not in her life -Her mother is Really crazy, and narcisistic for sure -She had party, but like hardcore psychedelic partys, with acids and smoking weed, drinking too -She has 50/70 body count. Previous sexual partners... -Anger issues, and emocional instability -Male "friends" only previous me -She cutted and beated herself in the past -She trows tantrums I mean, I have one girl wich I have been with for 5 years, and only had sex with me, and I trust her bond, but I do not see her as sensitive/compreensive, genuine, smart, shes more the "superficial semi-kardashian style" even if she has a father figure etc... But her caracter is top. The other problematic girl is indeed "sigma", in some ways, and I like her smartness, her hability to not judge others, shes not a kardashian neither superficial... And she never saw anything diferent in her life... The problematic girl now is studying, does not have piercings, dont smoke or drink, have more boundaries, she is catholic and goes to church...But I sense that I may beeing deceived, and for real I dont like the idea of the damage that a high body count 50 minimum made to her mind. I fear that I am not beeing wise. I could say that we are very similar, that in someway I do love her? And she is really growing aswell... But I dont know, people dont change And the bonding is really important, and of course a body count of 50 minimum afects her and myself too, in my self worth I feel it is wiser to chose the girl wich I know will never leave me, and its a 6/7 Than a girl that seems a 10 but acctually may be a 2/3 and double cross me. This is messed up I need to reset my brain. What are your personal thoughs on this? Thanks for your time anyways

[@jeprodigalson792]

​@@jocampos7002 I understand.... been there myself before. brother, our lustful desires if not taken control of, consume our minds and bodies... it creates this fog of pleasure which is pleasant to the taste.... but when you are not seeing things spiritually. This should be a no brainer... but more so... if you are not centered in God... in your life, you will often make bad decisions. I think sleeping with either woman is not beneficial to you or them. I would not sleep with a woman that is not my wife. When you do... you become spiritually attached. Hence the cravings, and desires.... or thoughts for the woman you have slept with. Its fogging you rmind. this is something you will have to take to Christ... in prayer. you have to control your body. I think resetting your mind... and tapping into God through prayer and reading his word will bring truth to the situation for you. I can tell you to cut one off and focus on the good one... and do things the right way, honorably, like a real King... and like The King Yeshua (Jesus Christ). When they say... Jesus is coming for his Bride... he is not coming for the prostitute. But remember even women in the church.... are not exempt from past trauma and abuse. You will just have to utilize the fruits of the spirit when you find the one worth sharing your God centered Love with. I'm no guru... but I've learned alot from God through his word.... reading it and talking to him in prayer. Still much to work on.... its a continual process. "Carry the cross daily"

[@jocampos7002]

@@jeprodigalson792 I trully thank you for your reply. And yes I believe in God, indeed I do, and I know my faith has been growing a lot. I know only I can solve this problem, and I dont want to have my vision blurry... Soo I decided to have 2 weeks break from they bough. I'll put things this way, the first girl, I have been with her for 5 years, almost 6. She has vallues, a father figure, and catholic, always ready to help others. But I guess I started losing my interess in her because I was second guessing if she was/is the girl for me. Yes, she is consistent, she helps, and have only slept with me. But there is another side, were I got really disturbed. She has some ego problems -like the truth/logic is on her face, in a clear way, and she is soo proud... Keeps denying... She has entitlement issues... And the thing its a great issue, is the lack of critical thinking... I dont know I feel that I cherish her, I like her, but I dont know... her parents have spoiled her very much, Im not sure if even I like her, and we have a strong bond, if she has the capacities for a marriage, in terms of living a real life... Sometimes she gets hostile, and say passive agressive things to try to hurt me... soft.. But Its not nice...I am afraid that her ego issues, a litle entitulement, a bit lack of understanding others point of views, and her "princess" lifestyle may be a problem in the future. Sometimes I feel like its acting, or not 100% deep.. And the fact we sin easylly, And that is my fault too.. I mean, you must know how to clean, raise children, be smart, and feel faith We also have sexual sined for a lot of years.. And This is on me, but I cant or have extreme dificulties "controling my lust around" her Its a "At least we are in a relationship", "When we get marry it will stop be a sin" mentality I mean she is catholic but I dont know how to say, but sometimes I feel like she lacks some intelectual and deepness in some ways... But for real, she has values, understands (or makes me believe) that sex is not for any person, she cherish her intimacy, but its superficial in some ways... It the past she had showed some issues I trully didnt like, Ego problems, superficiality, some arrogance, two faces when we were with her family or friends... Sometimes I fear that I may have created a bound with a girl I should not And I gave her time because of that, but, even she is not super hot, she only slept with me, shes caring in her way, and has strong values... But somethings she doesnt have personal opinion? I feel like its missing critical thinking, and empathy in some ways... But she is resilient, and consistent, and dont let go easy. The second girl, I have met her while working. To be honest, I was tired of my ex girlfriend ego issues, that lead to strong fights, for stupid things.. And I swear that I have tried to stop looking at this other girl, trying to stop conecting to her... But as things went wrong my ex girlfriend, things were going fine with this other girl I respected the fact that she was working, she liked psycology, she was simple, always ready to help, sweet and nice in many ways. I tried not to, but indeed she melted my heart in some ways. Than, I found out she smoked weed, drinked badly, believed in astrology, piercings... welll, I did not judge her, because I have been there too... I had my past where I smoked, and grown a lot of weed, and got drunk sometimes, I had my past were I could not sense God. And was suposelly and atheist... But thanks to God I found my way out. And I wanted the best for her. Recue her in some ways. Some things were smart, intelectual, easy going. Others I was a little bit riscky and imprudent. For example, I was not even smoking, but I did one thing for her. I would smoke with her, if she promissed that we would not smoke for a week.Then I would smoke with her, then we do not smoke for two weeks... Then we dont smoke for a month... Then two months... Then 4 months... And now? We dont even want to smoke. And we had the chance, we just putted that asside and pray. Thanks God. I feel like, with the help of God, and its mainly God, I dived in the ocean of her problems. Of her issues... I gave her flowers, on the first day by surprise, when she showed me her face for the first time with no piercings. For showing her that the way God naturally made her is the most beautifull.... I made her understand that astrology is deceiving, and dangerous, and that makes more sense to love and be guided by the creator of the stars, that be guided by the stars themselves. In the beggining, I was craving my sexual sins and so did she, we slept togetter, had lots of sex. THAT IS A PROBLEM. The only thing I regret. But then we got above that sin. For my surprise we did. I cherish our intelectual, loving, funny godly talks. She doesnt fit with the world either. Now she does not smoke, nothing, not even tobaco. Not getting drunk.. She is studying. She is following God. Goes to the church and prays. She stopped sleeping around and seems to have better bondaries. Understands sexuality.. No piercings... And I love to see her happy, healty, with a future. She quited her social midia, and Im gona be honest, I trully wish her the best. We are similar, I could say I love her in some ways. She is very smart, inteligent, nice to people, empath most of the times expecially with kids and the ones in need. I feel like she feels things in a deeper way. And I am not joking. I feel very very bad for her, because its not her fault her father is not in her life, and that she has a extreme selfish narcissitic manipulative mother, who even though ther spiritisms... Its not her fault that she ended up in the world getting used by guys, and having fisical, emotional and spiritual damages... Trying to fulffil her heart with lust, pleasure, bad companies, psychedelic trips... And I have been there too so I trully wanted to help her... I feel that she is similar to me... And we have a" push to the right way efect" on each other. Even sexually and that amazes me. Sometimes i feel I grow in faith with her, we even pray the rozary. But for real, I also feel I cant ignore the signs. -50/70 minimum people she has had sex with before at 22years old Huge mother issues -Not a father figure -Having lots of guy "friends" -porn -Drugs -alcool -Emotional instability, mood swings -tantrums, and Anger issues. Trully anger issues -Self harm, she cutted her self in the past, beated herself -Avoiding responsability -Sometimes, unespectes selfishness, she has some issues understanding other points of view Im not dumb. I cant spot all the Red flags. I can realise that I may be blind to the truth. And probably even I find her -inteligente -smart -deep talk -understanding -helper, knows how to clean, and economically responsable -likes to read I mean I like her very very much... But I feel like she may be to broken.. She may not trully pair bond... Psychological damages... Traumas... I dont want my kids to know her mother had sex with multiple partners, sometimes at the same time... She is similar to me, I dont judge her, I dont make her feel bad, but I cant ignore she had 50/70 minimum guys with her, and the damage that that type of promiscuity makes... Most of all, I am afraid that she is a temptation between me and my ex girl? She still loves me, but I know she is getting tired too... And she may not be that smart, that inteligent, and have problems but at least I never question her love, and I know she only had sex and trully bounded with me. I wonder what Jesus would tell me... "You are right, the first girl is materialistic, and those ego problems are gona ruin you, in the future, she needs to seek god and put in practice genuilly. You were young and rushed in sex and its a bound you should break. And keep with the ex sinner girl because now she is redeimed, she is new and the bond of love will be stronger. The ex sinner girl makes you grow with her more than the other you know that" "Keep the first girl, who trully loves you , and always have been there for you, love her, start chasity values, lead in a example of god, do the right thing for her, dont follow tempation, you are blinded by love and you have lust the sinner girl, watchout for not loosing the love of your life. Dont be fooled, even if she seem to have changed be prudent and love the one who was here before" "Leave them both, not good for you" "Leave them both, regret your sins, you dont deserve neither one of them." Sometimes I feel more like the last one... Because I was divided in my feelings and that is messed up I dont want my insecurities to make me believe she is dommed because of her past. That is not what Jesus would do. If I dont forgive others, how will he forgive me? I also grow and feel way saint around her. I dont want to keep a bond that may not be trully good for me, of my ex girlfriend. What does it matter if shes only slept with me, but follows the world and God in practice is not the first priority? Material world I dont want to be decceived and ignore the fact that this girl is too damaged, broken, god forgives but will she sin again? We all do fall, with all those serious issues i know its almost 100% sure Im gona get hurt. I dont want to have messed up my pair bonding with my ex, and ahe really is the love of my life I dont know what to do. I want to follow Gods will. God knows its true. I may sin, I may not be perfect, but i seek him and ask for forgiveness. I want to submit to God fully. I wish and trully think that may be one of these girls. And I am soo afraid of not understanding the signs, or interpret bad, or even that even God loves me Im a sinner not in grace and he wont show me the signs... But I think its more about I understanding them Of these girls, I would like to marry the one God trully has for me. I dont know what to do... Thanks for your time. God may bless you, greeting from Portugal 💪

[@jocampos7002]

@@jeprodigalson792 I have edited several times the other coment, but it wont let me edit I changed this final part: I wonder what Jesus would tell me... "You are right, the first girl is materialistic, and those ego problems are gona ruin you, in the future, she needs to seek god and put in practice genuilly. You were young and rushed in sex and its a bound you should break. And keep with the ex sinner girl because now she is redeimed, she is new and the bond of love will be stronger. The ex sinner girl makes you grow with her more than the other you know that" "Keep the first girl, who trully loves you , and always have been there for you, love her, start chastity values, redeim yourself, dont hide, a lead in a example of god, do the right thing for her, dont follow tempation, you are blinded by love and you have lust the sinner girl, watchout for not loosing the love of your life. Dont be fooled, even if she seem to have changed, be prudent and love the one who was here before, only slept with you, and deserves you. Be trully a man she deserves" "Leave them both, not good for you" "Leave them both, regret your sins, you dont deserve neither one of them." Sometimes I feel more like the last one... Because I was divided in my feelings and that is messed up I dont want my insecurities to make me believe she is dommed because of her past. That is not what Jesus would do. If I dont forgive others, how will he forgive me? I also grow and feel way saint around her. I dont want to keep a bond that may not be trully good for me, of my ex girlfriend. What does it matter if shes only slept with me, but follows the world and God in practice is not the first priority? Material world I dont want to be decceived and ignore the fact that this girl is too damaged, broken, god forgives but will she sin again? We all do fall, with all those serious issues i know its almost 100% sure Im gona get hurt. I dont want to have messed up my pair bonding with my ex, and ahe really is the love of my life I dont know what to do. I want to follow Gods will. God knows its true. I may sin, I may not be perfect, but i seek him and ask for forgiveness. I want to submit to God fully. I wish and trully think that may be one of these girls. And I am soo afraid of not understanding the signs, or interpret bad, or even that even God loves me Im a sinner not in grace and he wont show me the signs... But I think its more about I understanding them Of these girls, I would like to marry the one God trully has for me. I dont know what to do... Thanks for your time. God may bless you, greeting

[@jeprodigalson792]

@@jocampos7002 You might find the book of proverbs interesting. Its a book of wisdom. Ofcourse we must forgive.... but you must still use wisdom... even Christ himself had a period of solitude. Sometimes God puts his chosen in a holding pattern until he gets your attention or humbles you to seek him first before another love. He often answers prayers.... so pray for clarity. Pray for discernment.

[@antjaynyc]

Prediction: No one will actually listen to this. And stop bashing marijuana. Go back to 'roids, Elliott lol

[@almurabitun]

Elliot, I am a Muslim and I would like you to read Imam Ghazzali - Disciplining the soul and breaking the two desires. He wrote this book over 500 years ago and he touches up on EVERYTHING you speak of here from Islamic spiritual practices. Please read the book and do an episode sharing your thoughts.