One simple trick to reclaim your power | Kasia Urbaniak | TEDxRosario

Throughout centuries, women have been trained to give up their power. With a simple communicational hack, they can reclaim their power when facing gender inequality, no matter the stakes. But the question is, why do women freeze in the first place? In this provocative and insightful talk, Kasia Urbaniak explores the effects of cultural conditioning and the difference between power and gender dynamics, while teaching us to change the way we have conversations as a society, so both women and men can reach their full potential as human beings.
Kasia Urbaniak spent 17 years studying to become a Taoist nun. To foot the bill for her studies, she worked as a high-paid (and extremely successful) dominatrix in dungeons around New York City. What she learned in these two wildly different settings has turned into her life’s work, teaching women about power dynamics and influence to become better leaders. Her mission: to redefine what it means to be a good girl.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@priagrace724]

This might be the best thing I've ever seen on the internet.

[@jimwinter-card.114]

My wife discovered Kasia, I have become obsessed. She is so brilliant and exactly on point! I am a HUGE fan and learning from her so much!!

[@sudheshkumaran6608]

What an amazing message. This must be one of the most powerful message that must be delivered to our kids in school so that our community evolves overtime.

[@robinreinach8457]

Kasia Urbaniak explains why women sometimes feel tongue tied at the exact moment when we most want to speak. And Kasia offers a practical solution that is immediately usable by women in the real world. Kasia's delivery is exemplary and her attitude is generous, tender, and brilliant.

[@alituncungunlugu3081]

Ht

[@raebarto3424]

This concept has been a game changer for me. I’ve started practicing “questioning back” and the power I feel within myself is amazing. I’m about to read Kasia’s book because I want more.

[@FYPNLP]

I've taken Kasia's verbal course which is the ted talk in minute granular detail and I can attest it really does work. Just as you have to exercise to get the body you want for your physical health you have to be consistent in learning how to turn the spotlight. This coupled with NLP linguistics will allow you to break the freeze and own a conversation and not let the power dynamic 'own you'.

[@roxannerodriguez7075]

Thank you. I'll be looking into both! 😊

[@FYPNLP]

@@roxannerodriguez7075 The course is called the verbal dojo

[@metabolicmarybeth]

Brilliant. Impactful. Actionable. Thank you Kasia for being a bright light in the dark for many women.

[@ShootTheMoonStudio]

This is pure, piercing, unadulterated genius. Ya just know it when you hear it. So rare.

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[@kaiawang9593]

One of the most powerful TED Talks I've ever watched! So true and empowering for women.

[@tahnyaiva4494]

Agreed!!!

[@theresad7072]

Also empowering for men by illustrating how what we call toxic masculinity can be very self-destructive, counterproductive & impotent. Business author Jim Collins suggested the most effective business leaders ("Level 5" leaders) have a high questions - to - statements ratios in their communications.

[@jarodandbrandiokano2348]

I took your advice about asking a question with a question and it totally worked. Not only did it stop the person but I also got an apology for them asking the question. It did make me feel so inpowered.

[@theresad7072]

Answering a question with another question is something Jesus did often and it forever changed the 🌎 world.

[@roxannerodriguez7075]

​@@theresad7072 very true!

[@LizLaManche1]

A simple yet revolutionary concept of the dynamics at work in communication and personal power. Inspiring, with a real-world practice you can use right away.

[@stephaniebryant8616]

I am deeply moved by this woman and her work. This simple tool is a profound strategy to interrupt learned behavior in a way that brings us closer to what we want from ourselves and each other. So very powerful!

[@Mahrukh1997]

This is wonderful. It got me thinking about experiences in my own personal life. I can definitely relate to the freeze as a woman. It's time we realized dominance and gender dynamics are two completely different things!

[@frusia123]

She's the goddess we have been waiting for 🙂💙

[@zoedearborn2542]

You are the goddess you’ve been waiting for.

[@giselamoda]

I want you to think about the dominant and submissive states of attention like your right hand and your left hand. You need both of them, you need to know how to use them and use them well. Up until now we’ve been asking men to cut off one hand and women to cut off the other and the result in terms of human communication has been catastrophic. Kasia Urbaniak

[@FreyaGem]

Wow. This was exceptional...had to watch it two times in a row!

[@sydneymav]

hate how we treat women as less. when they just might be better than men. maybe neither is better but both deserve RESPECT

[@fitfizz]

Yes! Yes! Yes! Pure empowerment! So much admiration for Kasia.

[@MonifaHarris]

I've read her book many times and I still am floored by the simple brilliance of her work. I'm still working on the not easy part

[@pnartugaykaraca5862]

This truly nails it! Thank you for the fantastic analysis of the state of things as they are and ways to handle them differently. I am absolutely going to try this for myself and share it.

[@mhuuudhaarrarhhhmmmez4829]

This gives me hope.. that there are *1stly* (finding that more) -'PEOPLE' (but who are content to reason!).. but more (last but not least).. There is a real woman that can speak so strongly on the objectives and relevant condition in intelligence on upper degree to relate rightly (as!)

[@roopa123451]

Fascinating.....you can see the truth of what she says if you watch yourself

[@mixedupbd9435]

Wow impressive , actionable, motivated

[@anachocolate1262]

I wished I knew about this talk before ! 😪💜

[@karenjohannessen8987]

@Ana - Rather, celebrate that you know about it *now*!

[@rubymaubert3605]

Wow!!!! Simply wow. Easy, straight forward, truly genius. Brillaint

[@loufur4502]

That's great for some situations and in some situations when you are out of the room you might get punished later for being in control in a blindsided and ambushed way so having a sense of discernment.

[@pdxbk]

Bravo! I've just watched a master share. Thank you. Came here from Russell Brand's teaser clip of their podcast.

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[@karenwest4925]

Absolutely needed to watch this. Brilliant thank you!

[@gigimoss]

I just got Kasia's book and I'm so excited!!!

[@grantlindsley2189]

Love attention as the focal point. This is great.

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[@marcelaparedes8364]

Finally, spanish subtitles done. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

[@KateLate____]

You did them? 😲

[@karenjohannessen8987]

Thank you, Marcela!

[@solfh]

I noticed this when I am dating, I realized men would avoid answering without me reclaiming an answer back and I just talk about my own conclusions and never get their real opinion. While I would answer all their questions automatically even if they are uncomfortable🙄

[@Singirl22]

Absolutely brilliant!!! So clearly explained. Thank you. 🙏🏾

[@marcelaparedes8364]

GREAT TALK! I'd love to share that the spanish version will be available soon! I enjoyed so much translating this talk!

[@markobrkovic6651]

I Put her as Superior being and I am her servant and I am proud my and most important her life is now Heaven

[@beatriceroosmark9796]

Bought the book!! Loving this ❤️

[@ijeomarichards6402]

Amazingly simplified truth.

[@Mario_toma]

None of that Is true

[@eemoneali]

This is exactly.. what I needed. Thank you so much ❤️

[@tahnyaiva4494]

This should have millions of views

[@cbv1979]

Sandler Sales calls this reversing! It does not have to be men to put the pressure on women. It happened to me often by women who crossed a boundary.

[@shiram88]

Wow, this is VERY helpful!!! ❤❤❤

[@Camila-do8ot]

So eloquent, this topic is really important

[@RoyceMunday56]

Marvellous talk from an individual perspective... over-generalised to 'all boys' and 'all girls' - I accept that we must see things from our own experience. Thank you.

[@dapsolita]

".....a fluid switching between dominant and submissive states." That's what I look for at the dog park. All healthy mammals are basically the same.

[@gazelson4545]

Very powerful.

[@amazingyear9042]

what men DO vs how woman ARE... societal training.

[@tahnyaiva4494]

Absolutely incredible!!!

[@natieleskate]

eu amei isso, i loved it

[@MsMerkley]

Woooo! More of this hotness, less freezing women!

[@wiolettaaleksandra9097]

💕💕💕 Kasia, pozdrawiam 🇵🇱 🇵🇱 🇵🇱

[@goltanprav6389]

really nice speech!!

[@niomiphi5295]

thanks for this

[@estudiom142]

Bestial! Amazing!!!

[@SarahGK333]

How is it that there are 355K views, yet only 110 Comments on this piece of mastery?

[@md.raselal-farabi5796]

Energetic

[@tdr_paraadvisor3996]

2022....thank you for this...do you do any narcissism videos (like surviving narcissistic abuse) ?

[@yomarcelojeje]

Great one.

[@ReclaimByBeingYou]

love this

[@martinhalsey843]

thumbs up!!!

[@ShalomSarahJoy]

KASIA FOR PRESIDENT 2024

[@Lizpennington]

Fantastic

[@abuhakur193]

Awesome

[@beronicad.2580]

👏 spot on!

[@JC-ce8uw]

Amazing 💞💞💞

[@johnsnow4065]

nice speech

[@UmerFarooq-vx6ht]

Amazing

[@fiat2496]

Is there a Tedtalk about women reclaiming their hearts?

[@beatriceroosmark9796]

ALWAYS APPROPRIATE TO ASK WHY SOMEONE IS ASKING A QUESTION!!! ❤️

[@jenniferstclair8615]

I loved what you are saying but I get in trouble when I speak at times. I speak as I see it calls a spoon a spoon call a fork a fork. I have a relationship with a Muslim guy who in my opinion have a problem expressing himself to me. I am very independent assertive sometimes bold and hold a senior position in my job. So I try not to say much around him

[@robertatterton3102]

I am impressed, good work!!!

[@Jeshuaben_joseph]

Robert Atterton, this is NOT about YOU being impressed. Wow. Here is the problem in plain view.

[@BeingPeace922]

Excellent

[@EverydaylifewithGael]

Big factssssss

[@mantos1611]

❤

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👍👍

[@huzaifalia504]

Best

[@SundayCookingRemix]

Amen

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👍

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GENIALNE! BRAWO!!!!

[@mehmetcoban1593]

Tamam

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I thank my father power Amen

[@seriousgaming6969]

Good

[@AlwaysHereAndNow]

That was amazing! But what's up with the fake crowd?

[@themotherranch]

Covid?

[@evadebruijn]

🙏❣️ ✌️

[@claudetesiqueira310]

Traduzir em português

[@TOPTRENDING10M]

Stay home, stay safe everyone. Time doesn't stop, so hard times will pass too.

[@sebo641]

Intro is a bit run on but it's worth staying

[@Angrymobs62]

I like that outfit though

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:)

[@rafaelsontaya2835]

Trauma response at work!

[@hasancltk1635]

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[@michaelapril2463]

Kolejny jakże pusty ale nowoczesny baniak - K. Urbaniak.

[@Facts-First]

What a pretty

[@utsavpathak7185]

What about start with cleaning dishes.

[@sgordon8123]

The shoes ruin it for me. They are so crazy! Surely men make you want to wear such ridiculous shoes? Be bolder. Be comfortable. Be healthy. Women don't need to wear power dress stuff. You are enough without them.

[@katietheriault6387]

Your attention on her looks rather than her work/message speaks exactly to her point.

[@daniellek7233]

​@@katietheriault6387 the irony 😂😂

[@jameshendershott2170]

men don't need the instructions. We aren't necessarily agreeable. Personally I think it's a big mistake for a woman to man up on men by asking them questions. This technique is just a band-aid, and the root problem will continue to resurface until basic insecurity is taken care of.

[@Katu3572]

Creepy

[@eve4468]

Good message, shame you had to make it political. Lost me there, as a woman, your example doesn't speak to me and frankly diverted your focus and goal.

[@urbanet1939]

It’s still true if you look at her example objectively. Her paradigm goes beyond politics. It’s universal.

[@GinaHatzisTooMuchWoman]

Her political example is poignant and relevant

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Awesome

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Best

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