Power Phrases for Toxic People: Backstabbers and Gossips

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[@rashaski]

Being a person of integrity is key for this stuff to work.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Being a person of integrity is key. Yes.

[@birnak1512]

I wish there was more of Us. Integrity is rare.

[@StickyIky]

Unfortunately it’s Becoming a rare quality... as rare as common sense

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

@@StickyIky but that's something we each can work on. :-) I cannot change the other person, but I can work towards not giving them a foothold. * thumbs-up *

[@lilabukvic3257]

But this is painfull

[@GoGreen-l7e]

I love this guy! I'm a communications major and a couple years ago I ha a mental health crisis and realized my job, my family and my friends were all neglectful, abusive, and causing all my stress. I could not communicate properly any more , I just disconnected with them all and found a new job that I'm very happy with. My therapist kept telling me why are you not communicating with them?. I guess because gas lighting and head games just made me feel it wasn't going to change anything. Now I'm in a new beginning in life and these videos are really helping me when I meet new people .

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Very happy to hear that, bugsea :)

[@brightpage1020]

God bless you and your success! As a kid I had parents in alcohol treatment and had to go to an experiment called "al-atot", a support group for elementary kids like us. Their 1st rule spoken at every meeting was: "Keep yourself safe." I see you as doing that - keeping yourself safe and sane. More power to you. It's heartbreaking when family is more destructive than reliably supportive but I hope in your healing and acceptance that eventually you can forgive them even though forgiveness doesn't habe to equal reconciliation. That you can forgive from a safe distance - for you. Cheering for the challenge of your new life. Impressed amd inspired by your sense of responsibility to handle it so well.

[@GoGreen-l7e]

@brightpage1020 thank you, and much success to you too!

[@brightpage1020]

@@GoGreen-l7e many congratutions on the changes you are making to better your life by taking responsibility for it. ✨️ Wise, mature decisions can come at tough costs... but the positive network of support you are clearly capable of building for yourself thrives on opportunities to champion you and your goals. Everybody wants the best for you, even enemies (because you bother them less when you're busy enjoying yourself), but only people who love you aren't willing to accept anything less. Congratulations on becoming a person who loves you and simply won't tolerate any less than the best for yourself. Phew! Good on you!

[@CherryBerryFashion]

@@GoGreen-l7e Just wanted to tell you your therapist was definitely wrong for saying this. Some people don’t understand what it’s like having abusive relationships and cannot fathom that sometimes the only option for your own mental health is to cut them off. I personally told my own therapist that I want to cut myself off from my dad because he keeps hurting mg feelings no matter how many times I tell him how to not treat me and how to treat me better and she just keeps trying to tell me that its better for me to keep him in my life. It’s frustrating, saddening and makes me question myself but I will trust my own gut and my own heart. Wishing you well on the journey!

[@cbutler81168]

I don't know why I'm getting this video recommended to me. But, I do know that I damn sure needed it! Thank you!!!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I don't know why you need it, Grits, but I do know that I believe you when you say you do :)

[@InHisSservice]

I love what your overall focus is. "Remember who you are."

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Yes, I think that is vitally important to a peaceful life and approach to others.

[@brightpage1020]

Yes!!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@lizzchoate]

Love this! I've always said "What others think of me is none of my business".

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Good idea because it IS none of their business.

[@esmereldapinchon1422]

It wasn’t meant for my ears. That’s beautiful.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

So often people get bent out of shape when they overhear or see or read something not meant for them to hear or see or read. Overhearing has destroyed more than one relationship.

[@sierraluster7931]

You're a genius at this❤

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Like all of us, Sierra, I'm trying to do my best.

[@artjordan]

Facts

[@unknowninfinium4353]

Dan the last part took me by surprise. I came here for your amazing content and advices but that last part of remembering who we are. That's deep Dan. Never it would occur but its profoundly deep. Thank you for reminding us that. That's the substance.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Yes, it is, Akshay.

[@PlanetC64]

This is therapy in & of itself. You are helping me with that Sliver In Time that comes up like on a weekly basis

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Happy to help, Planet C64.

[@mfar3016]

Why oh why couldn’t I have learned this as a teen! It would’ve saved me so much Lunchroom drama as well as a ton of toxic family turmoil!!! It likely would’ve come in a bit handy in the workplace.

[@lethiapage4767]

So direct. So beautiful. No wiggle room for an asshole who gets their mess served back to them.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Uhhhhh, yes.

[@anne-mariekerr4154]

aye

[@kfin2287]

Holy... Never mess with a high IQ articulate gay man. Some of thier social awareness and ability to surgically dissect the context of a situation/conversation is second to none!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Is it OK to mess with a high IQ articulate straight man?

[@kfin2287]

Yeah I get your point. I geuss it's the presentation of the articulation it's a good thing. Some people say stereotypically but a say statistically, it dose not matter if the pretence if from a impartial view

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I say never mess with an Irishman with black hair or anyone whose last name begins with O'C. I think that's the ticket.

[@kfin2287]

Very good response. I rest my case 👌😅

[@charlottehanna790]

I love 5his man.

[@denisehannon2505]

Oh my goodness, I am laughing so loud. I needed a real, belly laugh. Around the seven minute mark you put your glasses back on and made a comment about being, "so service oriented; it's making you sick." It caught me in a way that I can't stop laughing. I greatly appreciate your videos and advice.

[@Onlineintrovert]

Great video! Had a situation like this yesterday. It took a lot of self-restraint to not get angry and start defending. I am glad I had patience and saw through the person’s tactics to see their intentions. I’m usually an emotional person but I was able to have self awareness in that moment and was able to remember my principles and values. Alhamdulilah!

[@hannahdavis7]

Every video I’ve ever watched on your channel includes a valuable lesson that beautifully changes my perspective. Our perspective is our power right? Either way, thank you. The love in me salutes the love in you.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

The love in me salutes you right back Hannah.

[@tiablasangoriti8347]

This is BRILLIANT! Wow! This is how it's done. Dan you are the communication Ninja.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks, Bill. I appreciate your comment. Years ago I self-styled myself as a Ninja. Now I'm an old warrior :)

[@papermason]

I get so much out of your videos Dan. Just having the words to say and to be more self-possessed at work. Thank you.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're very welcome, Papermason. If I can help you with your self-confidence and feelings of well-being, I'm grateful.

[@lunarae8037]

Dan! Just sat down with one of the. Boss people today because of the silly social behaviors. Your videos helped me have the confidence to be kind but still stand up for my own power to be treated well and take responsibility for my own things. You’re advice is gold, thank you for helping me change my outlook for the better you make a difference

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks for taking a moment to report in. It's much appreciated, Lunarae.

[@michelepascoe6068]

Listening to this is balm to my soul. I taught my children to nip gossip in the bud by saying, "Have you talked to (whomever they're backstabbing) about it?" And never to say anything about someone which you wouldn't say in front of them. I love your words that you will be letting the person know what was said about them. And saying what you know and don't know about it all. Talking about people behind their backs destroys reputations and relationships.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Your children are lucky to have you, Michele.

[@bambina3148]

You have helped me so much with confidence and the ability to make my point without going in all guns blazing. Thank you so much Dan ❤️

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Well put, Bambina--"without guns blazing."

[@coratn9679]

Thank you Dan! I have learned a lot from you over the past few years.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

We're always learning, right Cora N? There is no dog-paddling. We're either learning or sinking.

[@Kakes6817]

I learn something new every time I watch his videos. Dan is fantastic & the best channel I watch on KZbin!

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

Listening to this with a racing heart. You have no idea how much I needed this! I should have known this many, MANY years ago, but better now than never. Holidays with The Narc may be coming up...

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Whoa! Slow that heart rate down. Now you have some tools for those narcs.

[@kb8511]

Me too. I feel anxious thinking about saying this to someone I really need to. He is a narcissist and he is very manipulative and is making me look like a terrible person.

[@rochellepfeifer5752]

Thank you Dan! I need to remember who I am…. I needed to hear you today ❤️💋

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're welcome, Rochelle.

[@jennymaldonado5472]

I think you just gave the truth. Remember who we are. All love, kindness, patience, forgiveness and boldness. That's why we have two ears and one mouth.

[@allenstenis9911]

Dan you are amazing! Because of your vids I was able to stand up to some terrible workplace bullies.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you so much for telling me that, Allen. You've made my week.

[@neena9202]

There are so few people that think critically like this! Ive lost a few friends due to someone lying and gossiping about me

[@TheWizardOfWords]

We need a little critical thinking, combined with mindful communication, of course.

[@janarhorton686]

I weeded out my friends in 2019. I have 3 friends 2 are TRUE FRIENDS. Well you get the picture. This past August my boyfriend of 23 years GHOSTED ME THEN WENT NO CONTACT AND YESTER I SAW HIM… I will keep my comments to myself. 😮I am smiling ear to ear and I never blush but….

[@janarhorton686]

I weeded out my friends in 2019. I have 3 friends 2 are TRUE FRIENDS. Well you get the picture. This past August my boyfriend of 23 years GHOSTED ME THEN WENT NO CONTACT AND YESTER I SAW HIM… I will keep my comments to myself. 😮I am smiling ear to ear and I never blush but….

[@tcroshon70]

The O'Jays said that a long time ago:"They smile in your face,all the time they want to take your place! The backstabbers!"

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Right on.

[@prettyladie8327]

I’ve struggled with communicating my needs & feelings without becoming angry or being seen as the bad guy….This helped….

[@6ense]

You, sir, are an amazing human being. Thank you for caring about people this much.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

6ENSE, you are welcome. I believe all people, all living creatures are valuable and should be treated with respect, reverence, and love. Our words should be as loving as possible because they have lasting impact.

[@prissypacheco2860]

Yes be prepared is good advice. I need to prepare myself more. I work in an office here in Chicago and it gets pretty fierce, and even more so after the pandemic. The office environment is even more toxic than before since lower sales and people getting laid off. Backstabbing left and right, mean comments and rude comments. I really like the cost / benefit analysis. It makes me think before I speak in a lot of situations.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

The cost/benefit analysis can save you a WORLD of hurt, Prissy.

[@prissypacheco2860]

@@TheWizardOfWords ☺️

[@prissypacheco2860]

@@TheWizardOfWords I listen to your videos on my drive to work each morning..

[@Mary-fq6sm]

Appreciate the video. It makes me rethink why I allow toxic people’s comments to go unacknowledged or unchallenged. In the moment I’m too shocked or emotional to respond thoughtfully. Also your thumbnail picture is fab!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks, Mary :)

[@sage_forensics_2261]

This advice is both beautifully said and brilliant! It is applicable to so many situations, too! I just found your channel yesterday, and I could not be more pleased! I am learning so much already, and I look forward to more. Thank you! 🙏

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Happy to help, Sage, and welcome aboard.

[@OmniZero1178]

Thank you for the lesson. I have struggled with communication barriers for awhile now in fact most of my life, not gonna point fingers but instead be thankful I found your channel. Have a nice day

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Glad it was helpful and please stay tuned for many more Galaxy.

[@consciousequus]

This one gets them to walk away for good: " thank you! You obviously care a lot for my best interests to relay this vicious gossip to me..& because you care , what to you say to them about that? "

[@janiceball8431]

Backstabbers and gossips don’t have an ounce of unselfish integrity. They already think they’re above the rest, but have no clue who they are or have a tiny bit of awareness to become better people. It will be a long and nefarious narrow road for them.

[@nolickspittle4753]

Absolutely wonderful! Well done! I know someone who starts telling people things and then stops midway and say I shouldn't really be telling you this. And when then asked what they are on about they say they shouldn't be involved. So why did they open their big mouth to create? Because they are a "toxic back stabber!" They've done it for 70+ years!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Anyone who is speaking and then adding "I shouldn't be telling you this is suspect." Surprise this individual sometime by saying "I agree and therefore I don't want to hear it." Then walk away.

[@gypsyruth6336]

Dan, You are such a loving man who has blessed my life with enlightenment. I DID FORGET who I am. I believed that I could never again be the lady I once was. You have given me hope. I can turn around anytime, I just needed the words. Thank you 🙏 Gypsy

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are so welcome, Gypsy :) :)

[@tamaraweed3124]

Thank you so much for these videos. I wish I would have found them when I was young I’ve hurt a lot of people and embarrassed myself. I’m going to be a wonderful student and learn all I can with these videos 🥰

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Great to hear, Tamara :)

[@mariarichards5221]

remember who we are.. and the words that impact our cosmic footprint. 🙏❤🌹thankyou and thankyou again.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're twice welcome, Maria.

[@a.b.37-f9v]

..."cosmic footprint"...I love that! So true.

[@annie9924]

I needed this two years ago, but still can and will use it!! U r amazing and so helpful.

[@gwenstein5517]

Thank you so much Dan. I love all your videos. "Remember who you are" so true ! ❤🤗❤

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are so welcome, Gwen :)

[@annamoody1590]

I’m so grateful I found your KZbin channel! I found you over a year ago and started listening because I’ve experienced these kind of situations so many times in the past… fast-forward two years later these videos are so applicable with my current workplace it’s not even funny…. I’ve been pushed into a management/HR role with no training mentoring support and no real experience to go off of… it’s been difficult not only because I am trying my best to figure something brand new out and recognizing where I can improve and be better for myself and my team but also having a handful of very resistant and argumentative types of people on this team that have been able to get away with whatever they want for the last three years before me. Anyways all that being said this channel and your videos help me so much!! Thank you!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Write [e-mail] and she'll point you to courses that will help you, Anna.

[@adinasalina9037]

You are extraordinary dan.. I have been following you for last 3 years. I think your youtube channel is quite under rated. You deserve 10M subscribers, I swear. We all love you anyways & you know that 💕

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Please spread the word and encourage others to do the same and we'll reach that 10M someday. Hopefully I live to see it. :)

[@rosyo9304]

Yes, there is power in our words! And yes, we do need to be careful with our words because words can definitely hurt, but they can also heal, uplift, and encourage.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Absolutely, Rosy.

[@tarabilbo3280]

I LOVED this video so much I listened to it twice this morning. I’m so glad I found your channel here because I feel like listening to you helps me. Thank you 😊

[@amydolan2973]

Dan, thank you for sharing your knowledge and skills. The point of “you don’t even know”, is exactly the situation I’m facing. These videos have really helped to frame that actually this is a learning opportunity for me! The books are ordered! Thank you again.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are welcome, Amy, and I hope the books prove valuable to you.

[@tarawalsh-arpaia3928]

Just adding, as a lawyer, the average supervisor would have a hard time firing anyone for this. If they tried, start keeping a record of all interactions with them and prepare to NOT allow them to fire you but allow the Management to know. If they do not correct this issue, you have an excellent case against them. Though Dan is teaching something of immense value here.

[@somer0703]

The spiritual office conflict repair man😇🤣❤ You are just a diamond! X

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Well thank you llona.

[@janarhorton686]

Time stamp 10:32 to the end…I need to know how to do this from a relationship type of context. He wants to prove to me that I don’t respond well to anything. Just like you were put in a situation with your coworker above when they tried to get to you in front of everyone. I also wanted to thank you for letting me get this help from you.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

If he is trying to prove your deficiencies to you, know this--IT WON'T GET ANY BETTER OVER TIME. What are you doing with this guy to begin with if he is not supportive of you, and just wants to find fault. Consider--you want this for the rest of your life?

[@lulumoon6942]

The editing and voices is not only entertaining but really helps understand things better! 👍😎🤣

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Glad to hear it! Thank you for letting me know that, Lulu.

[@jennyanderson4796]

I dont listen enough to these ....REMEMBERING Who we Are! .... Is the first ah ha moment that your teaching/ explaining with such dignity respect & civility , I feel the love , pretty neat for a rainy Monday evening - thanks good man!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are most welcome, Jenny.

[@silvercarolina4045]

Lmao at "...I DON'T KNOW where I'll be working next week." 🤣🤣🤣🤣 OMG you're so valuable AND entertaining!💗

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks for listening hard enough to get it, Silver :) :)

[@matteonicoli]

as a person who hates politics, at work, and can’t react in a fun but assertive way (afraid I’m seen as angry), when someone pulls a fast one, I want to say… I LOVE you!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Yeah, me too. As long as no one is the butt of the joke . . . .

[@matteonicoli]

Of course, ment upbeat and assertive.

[@Merdle]

You sly little philosopher. True love and our connection to the cosmos. I heard that ; ) Teacher and Guru !

[@belssage]

I was in management 20 years. Seven years of management education (not 'training') prior to managing. I began as Team Leader moved on to Shift Supervisor then Manager. One of the most valuable lessons I learned was to politely interrupt an employee when they wanted to complain to remind them of this, "Remember, before you say anything about a co-worker ask yourself if, "Are they going against the mission statement?", "Are they impeding my ability to do my job?", "Are they harming a guest/patron/customer/client?", "Are they committing a crime?", "Are they making a mistake?" No? Then the comment has no place at work. No gossiping, no hate comments, no problem.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I am in complete agreement with you, MJT. I'm stealing all those questions, and I hope you don't mind. :) :). More succinct than I tend to be :) :)

[@jessicacooper2582]

At work I have been a witness to someone equal to me, agree to help with our supervisors paperwork. Supervisor leaves. Night shift supervisor walks in. That equal that agreed to help with supervisor paperwork complain about our supervisor to the nightshift supervisor. Extremely uncomfortable for me to witness. I heard everything. But kept my nose down on my paperwork. The nightshift supervisor supported our supervisor, thank goodness. This equal is so toxic. I told my supervisor what she did to her behind her back. And my equal refers to themselves in the third person in all conversations. Super odd. The general consensus is this person is vying for our supervisors position and usurps their authority and tattles on her and others based on her "name here, is a rule follower". We are all like over here actually working and our equal is usurping and walking off the job on the constant, avoiding work and whispering into upper management ears. I'm putting in my two weeks. Just done with this person.

[@MonicaRicciCoach]

Dan I love this video so much! The way you closed it reminds me of the thing I keep hearing myself say this year to clients and in speaking engagements, which is, "We are born perfect, gifted, and filled with a divine inner knowing. As we grow up, the world quiets, obscures and diminishes those things, and some of them we hide from ourselves. Then we reach a point where we spend the rest of our lives trying to find them again." Bless you and this wonderful work you do. Happy Holidays to you and your family, including your frightfully perfect sister. 😅

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks, Monica, and I love your quote. Thank you for the holiday wishes, and I wish you a happy holiday as well. As for that sister--she's a figment of my imagination and as you can see, my imagination is quite vivid. No, my only sibling is Marty and he's nothing like that sister in my head :)

[@Aprojoy]

Great video Dan!! 👏👏👏

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks, April. Please share!

[@JaeGabrielle.]

You are an amazing teacher. You’d be great teaching debate as a professor. Thank you 💕💜 when I homeschool, you will be added to the curriculum.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Well thank you, JaeGabrielle. We'll change the global dialogue--starting with children, one conversation at a time :)

[@sophiashekinah9872]

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your honesty! Thank You.

[@fourthgirl5028]

Thank you for your direct yet gentle approach. It stopped me in my tracks and took the knot out of my stomach. During that sliver in time, pause before speaking took on a whole new meaning for me.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Wonderful! That sliver in time can be a game changer.

[@mashakalinkina7207]

Recent dealt with a work environment where everyone said such awful things about each other behind their backs. Then would be nice working alongside the next day. It made me SO UNCOMFORTABLE!! Have never dealt with that before & dealing with that is beyond my current social skills. Then when people try to constantly rope you in when you say, "you know, i really try to not talk about people..." and they keep on, its So uncomfortable. People are so innapropriate + channel their insecurities in the worst ways that dont serve Anyone. They just wanna cause chaos & hurt.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

And sometimes when you assert yourself there is an awkwardness. However, it's worth it, to maintain your integrity, and it sounds to me as though you want to maintain your integrity and your kindness, rather than be complicit in gossip.

[@thriftismygift8449]

I just joined the channel. Your videos have added immense value to my life.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

And your words to mine, Gretchen's One . . . .

[@lisathelonelyballerina1580]

Fantastic video Dan. Thank you from The UK!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you from Mexico and Fargo, North Dakota Lisa!

[@MsActor2009]

The most awesome supervisor I had didn’t like tattletales and the weakest supervisor I had encouraged it!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I can easily believe that. Any good leader encourages people working together, not spying on one another.

[@puffsleeveskindagirl]

Thank you so much for these channel Dan!!!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're very welcome puffsleeveskindagirl.

[@alecianewman4226]

Thank you for these messages. I need them more than I can explain. You ROCK!!!

[@GillyMaid100]

I am new here today and have subscribed. Thank you so much for inspiring confidence with difficult conversations, delivery is key. Dan, this should be taught in School.s. This style of communication is vital. Very best wishes to you 💖

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Many thanks, Emma, and yes, it should be taught in schools. There are so many things that should be taught in schools!

[@HeavenlyLights]

I don’t know why you told me that but I do know it was not meant to make me feel good so why did you tell me that? 👊🏻

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Perfect!

[@HeavenlyLights]

Great. Especially for passive aggressive coward sniper shots.

[@JustVoidWalking]

Don't hesitate to do this, he's right. Do. Not. Hesitate. #AtTheKnees

[@veronicamitchell9378]

I appreciate this, I need to practice the ‘I don’t know/I do know’. In the example with the folder & server, I would adjust my wording from ‘I’m sorry it wasn’t clear’ to, ‘thank you for providing me the opportunity to clarify’.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Great tip, VeRonica.

[@emaria7244]

So powerful. Thank you.

[@ponytail911]

Truth is spoken here! So blessed by you!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I hope so, Ponytail. :)

[@carynm.4662]

Gossips are the worst! People seem to use gossip as social lubricant and/or social commodity. It urkes me to no end! It is so terrible to hear such negative, harmful, personal, and private information banned about like a wiffle ball on a pickle ball court. Often times, the subject has -0- idea because gossips are cowards!

[@pearlmoonoverwater]

I love your approach to life Dan

[@anaj0s]

Your hair looks great!!!

[@lethiapage4767]

One of my fav things to say when people try to fill me full of crap is...i dont believe you. The response is usually pretty priceless because nooooobody likes being called out on their crap.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

It's direct and why not? If people are truly BS'ing and you know it for sure--it's a quick call-out.

[@k.c.7.]

Thankyou!! Your videos are so helpful in building confidence and communication skills, much appreciated!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are so welcome, Karen.

[@rebeccamoore4177]

That was powerful, especially at the end.

[@Heallove24]

OMGosh, this is soooo relevant for me! Thank you

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're so welcome, Ro Brockway.

[@murphyshsu]

This was SO GOOD! A new tool in my communication toolbox.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Happy to hear that, murphyshsu.

[@sophieshen6886]

I love these videos. And learn a lot how to handle these horrible people (including my toxic father).thanks❤

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are welcome, Sophie.

[@joyceandrews8094]

Thanks for helping me to respond with dignity !

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Happy to help!

[@reneedesrosiers7447]

You are so helpful! Thank you 😊

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're so welcome!

[@k2mskillsdevelopmentsoluti700]

Amazing Video, I so needed this lesson today! Wise Words

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks and I hope you subscribed and share, K2M.

[@lindahandley5267]

Every morning, at the state mental hospital I worked at, we'd have a director's meeting with all the higher ups, sitting around the 'big' table. We nurses and social workers would go to the meetings when we needed to present a patient that had a problem with recidivism. I was always as nervous as a cat and am terrified of public speaking. By the time the meeting started, I'd have myself worked myself into a frenzy. 🤪 The meetings were always long and boring. I was reading my notes from the chart about this young male patient who was in and out of the hospital all of the time and was always a problem. At the end of my presentation, I read to them what the mother had said about her son and she concluded with, 'And I've got 3 more at home just like him'! I guess it was the serious look on my face and how I said it, but the place exploded in laughter, with the director laughing the hardest. I was sitting there frozen, with my eyes as wide as saucers, 'like oh sh*t, what did I just say!!!' He snickered throughout the rest of the meeting. Whew! I'll never forget that!😵 At least I didn't get in trouble about anything!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Linda, depending upon how you said that line, it would be funny. Be grateful that people were laughing at the line, and maybe even the seriousness with which you delivered it, but they weren't laughing AT YOU.

[@vtjmproductionsusa2390]

You are absolutely fascinating, Thank you so much for the educational videos. With out doubt you have a Five Star🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 Channel. 👍

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Many thanks, V

[@CJ-jq4lv]

Another keeper video I’ll watch over and over. Thanks💕

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Great!

[@Frances270]

Thank you so much for all the great content man! I love how you make it comedic! LMAO

[@TheWizardOfWords]

My pleasure, Todd.

[@WitmanClan]

I wish I knew of your channel back in 2017. What a difference this kind of knowledge would have made! Thank you for sharing 🎉❤🎉

[@LynnSandler-j9k]

If you keep yourself busy the gossips will walk away and pick up a good book to enjoy maybe theyll spend time mentoring someone that needs it or focus on their own issues perhaps

[@TheWizardOfWords]

That would be ideal--in an ideal world.

[@adamh5963]

I once adopted the the tactic of saying „I know what they say about you behind your back“. This threw a spanner in their works too. I think the technique here is much more productive tho. One doesn’t reduce themselves to indulging in the same dark Arts as the the Person That is trying to make problems.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

As effective as your technique might have been, Fruit Moon, I am happy that you've chosen to take the high road. It too will be effective for you :)

[@AZTigerMMA]

Powerful words . Thank you

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks for listening, AZ.

[@kimmyfromclt]

OMG….I just found your channel! I love you! Your just what the doctor ordered. TY

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Welcome aboard, Kim.

[@Alplily]

I wish I had known this last week for a conversation with my supervisor where she told me something a director had said to her about me . I got part of the way there on my own "Why would you tell me that? I do not see any benefit to ANY of us for you to tell me that. And, going forward, I am going to limit my conversation with you to strictly professional dealings and possibly the weather. That's it."

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Wow, I think you handled that perfectly.

[@Alplily]

@@TheWizardOfWords You'd think. I just got put on a 90 day probationary period.

[@_serreina]

Thanks Papa Dan🥲 Good stuff!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

OMIGOD, am I at the "grandfatherly" stage? Judging by my nephew, I guess I am. (: (: (:

[@juliesunnydaze]

Brilliant✨ rationale ✨for using scripting communication. ✨

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I am a great believer in flashcards, scripts and practice.

[@ivanagurrera8769]

Freaking love this episode!!

[@ivanagurrera8769]

He is master!!

[@corrinetomlyanovich305]

You are so awesome. Thank you so much.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are so welcome, C orrine.