Opening Up about my Substance Abuse + Addiction with my (ex) best friend Suz! + her story & blooperz

[@taylorexploresmore]

You are my saving grace right now. I just cut my mom off. It’s been so hard but also so freeing. Thank you for making your videos! This is helping SO MUCH. Please don’t stop! 🌹

[@KitstoKradlesNursery]

Thank you for sharing this journey, your thoughts and perspective on this issues always seems to help me work through my own thoughts and feelings about certain things. 💗 It’s helpful to see that someone else is working through things in the same way and you are not alone, but also helpful to see how ppl are working though things differently and it can be helpful to see another way or perspective.

[@HQ93]

Hi, the past year has been an amalgamation of overcoming all sorts of narc abuse/ traumatic incidences. They all seemed to have piled up and made me a magnet to a narc cult, who sensing my deep void, swallowed me whole and introduced me to the world of drugs. I’m slowly and steadily learning how to work my way out of my cptsd, but I’m also always worried I will relapse if I’m triggered by my narc mother - who I’m staying with currently. Thank you for sharing your journey with us all..going to watch this when I have the strength to 🌻

[@kw7572]

I’d love to have friends like you. You guys are wonderful and your friendship is beautiful ❤️ thank you for sharing your journey 🥰

[@ProactiveResilience]

🥲 this is such a nice thing to say! I'd agree, our friendship is lovely. I wish you friendships like this in your future. 💜✨

[@theexistenshield]

Very cathartic, I'm happy for you coming up wiser and more knowledgeable and that you're able help people from your journey and experiences, such growth... plus the police blooper was so funny

[@1111Paiste]

THANK YOU for sharing your struggles! That is SO important for recovery. NO ONE who's is operating from a mature, companionate and empathetic viewpoint would find fault in you for using drugs to cope with growing up in a dysfunctional family. I certainty HAVE. KUDOS to you for disarming the negative comments made by your family member by being completely honest about your struggles and how you dealt with them in the past. Break the shame, BREAK the stigma. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

[@laurennn71311]

Love you forever. I’ll always be amazed by your resilience and constant growth.

[@ProactiveResilience]

Wove wou Wauren! 💜 Thank you that means a lot to me. You're resilient and admirable, too, of course. We been through some tough stuff and yet here we still go, having fun sometimes, meltdowns other times, loving people super hard always. Miss you. Meow ✨

[@monicaelizabeth]

Thank you both for being so transparent. You both are two beautiful souls. I’m glad you both made it through all that. God Bless 🙏🏽

[@HeyBestieItsKatie]

wow. my sister died 5 years ago and I feel so similarly to, Suz. I typically have to ignore my trauma around her death as well more often than Id like maybe. sometimes I think in order to functions it's just something you end up doing to survive. my sister had a lot of mental health problems and took her own life. so thank you for sharing Suz. It's good to know I'm not the only one that has gone through his. not a lot of siblings talk about losing their sibling to suicide - or that ive heard talk about it at least. so thank you.

[@ProactiveResilience]

Ah, I'm sorry you've been through that, Katie! Must be so hard. It's really special that you and Suz can relate with that unique experience. I shared this with her, she feels special sharing the experience with you, too. 🥲 You're both super resilient for continuing along your healing journeys and being open like this.

[@ProactiveResilience]

Hello Katie! Suz mentioned to me that her family just attended a family of suicide support group recently (the day we filmed this, actually!) and loved it, and she will be going to the next one. I wanted to pass that along in case there's something like that by where you live that you'd be interested in! 💗

[@HeyBestieItsKatie]

@@ProactiveResilience Thank you so much for thinking of me! My parents used to go, but I've never gone, though I have thought about it. it probably would be good for me

[@holaCarolina]

Hello girls! Thank you for sharing your story. It helps a lot to see that there are other people out there trying. Im thankful that I’ve found this space where I feel that we can do it. I love learning new things to show love to myself and others. I AM WORTHY OF LOVE. WE ARE WORTHY OF LOVE 💗

[@momomoron765]

Allisun you're beautiful and lovable and so is your friend. You guys are strong and inspirational, and I love that

[@LiterallyCensoredDaily]

I'm sorry you've been through so much. The thought of someone so sweet and comforting suffering or being mistreated is heartbreaking, but I guess pulling through proves how strong you are. Even a mushroom cloud has a silver lining, ya know?

[@CimCrafton]

Girl. Yes. Sending light and love.

[@holaCarolina]

Allisun, Im thankful to you for sharing whatever parts of your story you feel like sharing with us. I laughed with you and I feel like people have a whole world and story inside of them. So always go with cautious curiosity and open minded. Sometimes it hurts but you really win in the end.

[@ImanHaji78]

You are adorable and your energy is very authentic, warm and healing. ❤️❤️❤️

[@crux321]

your experience with substances is so similar to mine. I was a good(ish) kid that somehow ended up using the hard stuff and spinning downwards within just a few months. I was going to class and school like you say is if it were normal to be higher than a kite while learning geology. . . It was all me just trying to feel ok without even realizing there was a problem. I was that deluded and detached. This is when I moved back in with my narc histrionic mother and the cycle started all over again. Now I am working on no contract but its only been a few days. Your experience and story really resonates with me so thank you for sharing

[@mamu7976]

Deep video, a bit dark, but your friend's right. You are definitely a lantern Allisun, bringing the light!

[@holaCarolina]

Allisun you are so bright and what you are doing here is a testament to how much you’ve grown. So I’m proud of you.

[@meganrigsby4037]

Thank you for sharing! I'm an ACA that never got deep into drugs or alcohol thankfully and it's helpful to hear this perspective. I love listening to your videos in the morning after my meeting 💜

[@eleanorbrown1629]

So proud of you allisun 💗

[@ProactiveResilience]

💜💙💚💛💗💗💗💗!! Thank you!!

[@sunshinebelle31]

Dear Mrs. Allisun, this was a great video! I can relate to a lot of things Suz said, sometimes I tend to ignore my trauma and just pretend like "I'm over it" but at the end of the day I always have it in mind... Which I don't know if it's a good or bad thing. I'm trying to pay more attention to my mental health I guess sometimes it's hard to accept that you've been hurt, but your videos always comfort me and make me realize that I don't have to "move on" from my problems or trauma super fast because it is ok to just sit down and think about it, maybe even feel some locked emotions. So yeah, sorry that my comment it's pretty long it's just that your videos make me feel safe and comfortable enough to share my thoughts... Well, I hope you have a great day, and please stay healthy and safe. Bye-bye👋 💞

[@ProactiveResilience]

Aw I love your thoughts, and love that you feel safe to share them here!! It 100% *is* okay to slow down, be exactly as we are, feeling exactly as we feel. It's important to strive for resilience, with the balance of striving to accept how we are right meow. ☯️ Thanks Yoonah! I hope you have a stellar day, too! Buh bye! 💕

[@archives2020]

you guys are so cute. Thanks for sharing. This was inspirational. :)

[@Britt-ue6sm]

You are so strong and brave thanks for sharing.🥰

[@lynnlewis9938]

Wait...your ex best friend? Just wondering what happened if that's ok. I'm new here and appreciate what you're doing!

[@LiterallyCensoredDaily]

I'm with you on that thought. I was hoping she just found an even cooler friend and nothings wrong.

[@momomoron765]

I loveee this videoooo

[@ProactiveResilience]

🥺💗 it means a lot to me that you do!

[@ReversemortgagedataSanDiego]

Hello again! I’m going to say this and it is a compliment! I’m so surprised. I never would have guessed that you went through that. You are such a wonderful, great, helpful, respected, counselor that we tend to think you must have always been this perfect straight and narrow person. But guess what, this is the awesome reality that 99% of the time we get wrong! My kids (8 ranging younger to older than you) are soooo much like you! Gone through similar stuff but are now the most incredible, loving, smart, amazing people. Even me, I went through similar stuff as you when I was a kid. And by the way, I have no problem admitting I was STUPID!! lol. Jk. I guess being young is a thing we can chalk up to as immature. Which is a better word than stupid. Right? lol. I’m very proud of you Allisun! Glad this video popped up. Never change! Be proud! Keep helping others!!

[@ProactiveResilience]

Thank you so much for sharing this! Thanks for feeling proud of me. I guess I am proud of myself, too. 💜

[@momomoron765]

The bloopers omggg 🤣🤣🤣

[@franklinsimonsen740]

If only empathetic men could act like this, even with out the drug use. The loneliness of a man is horrific compared to the never lonely woman.

[@ProactiveResilience]

fascinating insight... I'd argue that both circumstances can be devastating. thank you for the thoughtful comment, regardless. I wish you well 🤍

[@LiterallyCensoredDaily]

For real. Empathic men are seen as emotionally fragile wussbags, while women with that same quality are rightfully regarded as sweet and comforting. It's almost like bottling everything up and putting up walls is some kind of requirement for having a wang or something. Of course then you bottle it up until it goes off like a grenade, and you're some kind of monster. That's the choice for many modern men. Wussbag, or monster. Or try to numb it with beer or something. We aren't allowed to be healthy most of the time.

[@DazedJoe]

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[@ProactiveResilience]

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[@ProactiveResilience]

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[@theghosttiger1446]

Your mannerisms, and your expressions lead me to believe you were experienced to a lot of awful shit. You give me Joan "The Mouse" vibes. ~ She baked The Punisher cookies. The way you are makes me really angry at your parents. Im old enough to be your dad and I wonder why someone like you has to experience the worst out of people. Nowadays I wonder who is mistreating their daughter like this? I feel so bad for you sometimes and I don't even know you Proactive. You should leave those tarot cards alone.

[@ProactiveResilience]

I'll keep my tarot cards but I appreciate you!

[@sraprocida]

Of course you are worthy of love.... bur maybe YOU were the one who thought you have to " morph into "their values". I bet they would have loved if you morphed into someone who is just happy and loves themsevles.

[@ProactiveResilience]

I think you're right about how I perceive what I felt I needed to be in order to deserve love. That was an on-the-spot answer. However, about what they would have loved, I don't think you're right. I think they wanted me to cave into a pit of hating myself, to take all the blame for everything wrong in their life, to be honest. I definitely could be wrong. Either way, there were lots of explicit messages to me telling me everything wrong with me that needed to be changed in order to be even considered worthy of love, and so, I don't think me just being happy and loving myself was their goal.

[@ProactiveResilience]

I never knew it was possible when I was younger, but now that I'm older, I have soooooo many relationships where messages like that, saying what needs to change about the other person, literally don't exist... There's acceptance, encouragement, uplifting, and unconditional love and support. Even with minor differences in values... We can be uniquely us and still get along, and even better, bring each other up. In the relationship I talk about in this video that is not possible, and I say that after years of diligent effort trying to make it possible.

[@sraprocida]

@@ProactiveResilience Sending you a hug.... be who you are ... you sound like an awesome young woman. XOXO