Opening Your Heart

[@laurenelizabeth7525]

Hi Lindsay! I don't know if you remember, but I commented on one of your other videos a while back:) I wanted to tell you that I just love hearing you share your heart! I'm so glad to hear you're having fun with this new guy in your life. And counseling is such a wonderful thing! I have embraced counseling since the loss of my first husband. I can totally relate to what you said about the two relationships competing because that's exactly how I feel a lot of the time. And you're right, peace comes, but that competing feeling hasn't gone away for me (3 years later). I'm not sure that it ever will, and sometimes I don't know that I want it to because I never want to stop missing my first husband. I guess it's all about learning to adjust and adapt to this new life. It's so good to hear that you are happy. You so deserve that. I still miss my best friend too, so much, but I'm trying so hard to enjoy the present. You're so awesome, and I'm glad you're seeing someone who is good to you! P.S. I love the color of that lipstick you're wearing! What is it?

[@lifeofweez8225]

Lauren Elizabeth I do remember your comment! Thank you for your continued support. It’s nice to hear from those that have moved passed the dating period because it. is. rough! Ha ha a bit of a rollercoaster but yes, for the most part I’m enjoying it and he is very sweet to me. Thank you for your input on the competing because I wasn’t sure what to expect. And the lipstick is Lipsense, the color is Fly Girl. I’m obsessed! Thanks again for your support! Xo Weez

[@laurenelizabeth7525]

Life of Weez Rollercoaster is the most accurate adjective to use! Lol But that's life anyways, right? Just keep being you, grief and all. I love my "now" husband very much, but it's not always easy. It's hard for him to understand because he hasn't walked through what I have, but that's ok. I find myself becoming a stronger person because I can show him more patience and compassion than I thought I'd be able to. And he loves me the way he is most able to. I don't talk to him about my grief so much, so God as blessed me with just the right people to be able to share all of that stuff with. Although, just this past Saturday we viewed the debut of a documentary where my kids shared their story for a grief center they volunteer for, and I saw him getting emotional! Ahhhh, that was the first time I saw that from him! I totally fell in love with him all over again. That was a precious moment I'll hold onto!!

[@lifeofweez8225]

Lauren Elizabeth I love that- what a tender moment. It is hard to share all the grief with them because I know it’s hard to understand not being in our shoes but I sure appreciate his patience and trying. I’m grateful for the good men in my life- Jake and this new found love. It’s hard to explain feeling grief and new love at the same time. I’m just hanging on to the ride of life the best I can haha

[@bradmcewen]

Anybody you date, become friends with possibilities, will embrace your continued love of love lost. That is your endearing, compassonite heart that is a quality, yet was traumatized. I speak of similar after loss journey. Had fates reversed, I would want my spouse to have a companion that was genuine. No one that truly cares for you should challenge that. But they are also looking for your attention & affection. It's a balancing act with due diligence as not to conciously triangulate them against each other. Loss is different than divorce, obviously. It needs treated that way by all. Take new bites of life slowly, but take them. Hugs of encouragement to you.

[@lifeofweez8225]

Brad McEwen thank you! You always have such wonderful words of wisdom. It is such a balancing act. I’m trying to be fair and give attention but there are definite times of grief and he is patient. We will see where this goes- one step at a time.

[@ashley3461]

I keep trying to comment on this video and something always comes up, or what I'm writing gets deleted, so I'm going to try again. I have alot to say about this subject, hopefully I can express it without writing a novel! And our doggy just got over fleas too. After I realized that cleaning, vacuuming, and washing everything like a maniac and using home remedies wasn't going to kill the fleas, I got Jett comfortis. I hated to do it though, the pills smell like straight-up pesticides. As far as dating and loving again goes, it will work itself out. It's perfectly normal to feel a little guilty. You were with Jake for so long and the two of you became so much more than just husband and wife. It's never just as simple as just losing a husband. They are our best friends, a shoulder to cry on, always supportive, someone to confide in, and so much more. They can even make your day just by picking up your favorite candy at the grocery store! Jake loves you so much and he would definitely would want you to be happy. He doesn't want you to cry yourself to sleep. As long as your new boyfriend understands that you will always love Jake and that he's not a replacement it will be fine. And as your feelings go, your love for Jake will change. You won't love him any less, it's hard to explain though. And your heart really will expand. And there's no timeline on how long you have to wait. I started dating Zack after 9 months, and it all worked out. Don't worry about negative or judgemental people. Their opinions aren't important anyway.

[@lifeofweez8225]

Ashley you are the best. You always have the perfect thing to say and I love hearing from a widow that has made that transition- especially where this is so new and scary for me. Taking my time and enjoying this new relationship one day at a time.

[@ashley3461]

Life of Weez I'm so happy you are. You deserve it-all of it and every silly little detail that comes with a new relationship, like walking around with a big goofy smile on your face for two hours just because he told you he loves your eyes. And the new relationship butterflies in the tummy everytime you hold hands or kiss; there's nothing like it. Just live in the moment and embrace it, those times in a relationship are so short and precious, they build the bridge to love and trust. That's how I gauged that Chris (and later Zack) and I belonged together. They both had the ability to make me feel like the most special girl in their world and that gave me a feeling like no other. I do feel you on the younger guy thing too, Zack is four years younger than me, and it takes a mature man to handle a young widow. We've already done more living, experienced things no one our age should ever have to, and as a result we are forced to mature way beyond our years. Also, you were on my mind alot (and I do mean alot!) on Thanksgiving and I was praying for you constantly. I hope you had a good day. It's always bittersweet on holidays, sad because he isn't physically there to share it with, but happy too, because in spite of him being gone you still have so many people who love you in this life on Earth and in Heaven. And that is definitely something to be thankful for. 💕 Edit: And thank you, but like I said before I'm just trying to be there for you. I wish I would have had another young widow to talk to during these times. It's the least I can do sweetie-really. You are so bright and beautiful and deserve nothing but love and happiness. It seems like the worst things happen to the best people. I'm sure Jake was loving and kind-hearted just like you are.

[@lifeofweez8225]

Ashley yes he was- the most goofy guy I know ♥️. Thank you for the prayers on Thanksgiving. We actually had an ok day.

[@kimberlymcv8408]

I lost my husband of 24 yrs and we were together for 27 yrs and I lost him July 10th of 2018 , he was my best friend and it is hard not having your best friend to talk to and the roller coaster of emotions