What if Cognitive Behavior Therapy Doesn't Work? What can I do? | Kati Morton

[@MetalCooking666]

My problem with CBT is that it’s essentially a form of victim-blaming. It works off the assumption that the problem is with the way you are looking at the situation, hence all the advice about replacing negative thoughts with “more realistic” ones. It fails to consider or address the possibility that the negative thought is, in fact, correct - which is entirely possible given that life is not fair and some people really do have to deal with very harsh realities. If you are depressed because of a very real and very awful problem that you really can’t solve, then CBT is useless.

[@DreamingOutLoud91]

Time stamps: 1. 2:38 2. 16:11 3. 25:18 4. 31:16 5. 35:26 6. 47:35 7. 55:38 8. 59:05 9. 1:03:21 10. 1:06:36

[@annasophia2005]

Timestamps! (This is my first time making these so idk if they are completely right, but I hope this helps) Question #1 - 2:38 Question #2 - 16:10 Question #3 - 25:16 Question #4 - 31:16 Question #5 -35:26 Question #6 - 47:35 Question #7 - 55:38 Question #8 - 59:04 Question #9 - 1:03:20 Question # 10 - 1:06:36

[@niecee1961]

Anna Divera, this was great, thank you for the Timestamps🙏🏼

[@chantellekaro4344]

Your amazing Anna

[@ws4612]

I love Katie's broadcasts; they act as an add on to my therapy/counselling sessions by reinforcing, repeating or explaining mental health matters and giving me more confidence on my journey as a client and now adding to my own training as a counsellor. I love her positivity and inclusive approach.

[@too_tired_for_this]

I did cbt for SEVEN YEARS and it made a lot of things worse for me. I thought that I was a horrible person for “failing” at therapy. I think that it would have been appropriate for the therapist to recommend a different approach. My trauma, attachment issues, and things that were never diagnosed were completely ignored. Now I am with an incredibly helpful therapist who is working on a lot of different aspects of my life In different ways. It makes me sad to think about all of the years that I wasted with my first therapist. I have pure o, and it was so frustrating to try to use “thought stopping”. Ugh. Nightmare.

[@qwr742]

If CBT doesn't work, I'd go for psychodynamic/ attachment based therapy. Did alot for me and my anxiety after years of sticking with CBT and finding the progress superficial and not long lasting. And it deals with all the things the first question was concerned about like deeper issues and if there's any specific trauma etc.

[@balletcrazy16]

I never felt like CBT really helped me either. Recently discovered IFS/parts work, and it made so much sense to me!

[@jessman8597]

@@balletcrazy16 IFS saved my life. I really wish there were more people who do it. I can't find an IFS therapist around here.

[@sparkeli4513]

It's amazing how people think spanking their child gets respect. No, it doesn't get respect, it makes them petrified of you. There is a huge difference.

[@SusieQ78]

Thanks for the time you put in these!!! And yes, I like the “off-track” side notes too ;-)

[@freeluigi4444]

Yay! It's ask Katie anything day… Just had my first EMDR training session and I'm wiped out!!Katie always recharges my battery

[@sparkeli4513]

I love it when you go off track, please don't stop this 😊

[@TheHuber26]

Struggling to sleep and this pops up!!! yay!!! you are good for the soul day and night Kati!!

[@SusieQ78]

Yes indeed twin

[@SusieQ78]

Yes indeed twin!!

[@eloisemarie5219]

I've just learned about attachment theory. Including this in my therapy has been so helpful.

[@DontWantToBeRecognized]

Yayyy my Q is up this week 💜 thank you so much! As soon as my little one is in bed I'll be straight on this!!

[@dunjapaj8849]

I absolutely love this, this channel helps so much! Thank you Katie for all the awesome work you do!

[@schannaish]

I love all your AKA podcasts but really loved this one!! Thanks soo much for all you do Kati

[@taramacphee9093]

Journaling in my car when driving as helpful for me. I felt saying feelings out loud helpful and reassuring. Though sometimes we’re more difficult saying out loud then writing. Things that are hard to admit to yourself.

[@pmrh1]

CBT only heightened my anxiety

[@emilyjane6252]

Thank you Kati for everything you're doing your amazing to do so hard work.

[@arianajuni]

Wow, as an educational scientist I have to say: Please NEVER spank your children (or anyone). I am so speechless by you saying that that's probably not the most popular answer. I don't know whether Germany is just so much different but I'm shocked about that. Honestly. Research shows that consequences are much much more effective than "punishment" and whilst I know personally that it's impossible to always act perfectly fine, that's still a border that must not be crossed. It is just demonstrating your own power towards a helpless kid and nobody's helped when the kid stops doing stuff out of a FEAR. I am deeply touched by the question and the answer and I am so sorry that so many people still think that violence against children would be okay. It is not. Not under any circumstances.

[@jessman8597]

As a survivor of trauma, I can say CBT doesn't work well for me. IFS is amazing. The last question was handled perfectly by Katie.

[@nadjethrn3751]

I really love your videos Kati 🥰🥰🥰 but this was the best one so far!!

[@pamisolester6651]

It’s such a shame people still believe in spanking. When there are so many better ways. People tend to see parenting in black and white. Either you assert authority you spank and you raise behaved kids or you don’t set boundaries you spoil them and they are horrible and entitled. But it’s not like that. There is also a way of setting boundaries and limits in gentle way and being example of respectful behavior to your kids. People mix respect and fear but they are very different things. It’s not easy to be respectful parent to your kids when we are first generation to even consider this in our family but it’s worth it !!

[@DawnSTyler]

People confuse fear with respect. They have very different foundations and end results. Once physical domination is not possible anymore, the child is usually left with a lot of resentment that comes out as rebellion or is turned inward as depression.

[@mooremindfulmoments6599]

This is so helpful! I was wondering why CBT felt so “soft” I thought it was just my therapist but good to know if I need a more aggressive treatment plan I might look into other approaches

[@amypowell7017]

I had cbt for what at the time was diagnosed as gad for a long time with no luck . 10 years later turned out it was cptsd and bipolar

[@ipsykd40]

The first question is exactly how I fear I would feel if I started CBT. 6:15 I was screaming Gestalt Therapy. F-ing Psychosis 🙄

[@AJOG14433]

Yasss I needed this today. Perfect timing. Thanks Kati. Hope you and yours are well and staying safe. Sending love 🙏🏽💙🔥💯

[@rockchik676]

Best part of my Thursday!!!

[@poohbear0320]

I finished reading it yesterday. I saw so much of myself in it.

[@nikkimckay860]

Kati Morton. I know this is a old AKA podcast but I couldn't relate to this podcast questions at the time but finding it again and watching and listening I can very much relate to question 1 I am in Therapy right now but its phone calls and video call Therapy I'm doing CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy but I'm struggling with it I'm trying my best to do the in between sessions Therapy tasks and homework I'm feeling stuck and like I am a disappointment and like I'm failing in Therapy I'm 6 sessions into my Therapy and no matter how much I write down Therapy notes and make lists of things I'm going to do or should do I can t keep up with monitoring my moods /Emotions/and thoughts I feel Anxious before Therapy and uncomfortable I feel like opting out I always feel stressed and triggered after my Therapy session I'm struggling to feel a connection with my Therapist 😥

[@natalieedelstein]

I actually had a question several months back that got hearted and didn't get answered.

[@natalieedelstein]

(Asked 5 months ago)

[@andreafeelsfantastic]

Yeah there was an episode that she had planned to do with a guest and then the guest had so much to say she never got to the questions…

[@whispers.m4023]

@@andreafeelsfantastic yes my question was also supposed to be in that episode but it got answered about 3 weeks later. So maybe try checking later episodes Natalie??

[@natalieedelstein]

@@whispers.m4023 it wasn't answered. I've listened to all of them

[@nataliehilton2661]

You can try asking again

[@louvillarino]

I have been diagnosed having BPD. I am having consultations on a public general hospital and a general rule is once the doctor finished residency you (patient) will be transitioned to a new doctor. Is this helping or should I invest on a private psychiatrist?

[@diablominero]

Codeine is the gold standard for cough. Doesn't mean it actually works well. "Gold standard" just means we haven't found anything better.

[@juliesmith4539]

Hi Katie the question you answered on grief could it be that because the therapist died they are scared that the therapist they have at the moment is going to die

[@milly9jumper_355]

🐸❤ appreciating the fortnightly question-answering - however some of the latent answers didn't have the follow up questions (in the response comments) last week? Even the hearted ones :(

[@sarabooen96]

thank you for this (:

[@askkatianything]

You're so welcome!

[@diablominero]

Sometimes you need a physical punishment for a kid. But it should be a last resort thing. You should realize that you're putting your kid through a traumatic experience, and only proceed if it's actually worth that -- i.e., if what you're doing is necessary to stop a serious injury or death.

[@Anna133199]

"if what you're doing is necessary to stop a serious injury or death" Then it's not really a punishment though. Then it's a preventative measurement. For example if you're restraining your child who is out of control and beating their sibling. I'd argue you never need physical punishment for a kid. It's always abuse, but yes sometimes some force is necessary to prevent damage to others or the child.

[@diablominero]

@@Anna133199 punishment should always be preventative. If you're punishing a kid because they made your day worse and so you want to make their day worse as revenge, with no thought of preventing similar behavior in the future, that's abusive whether you physically hurt them or not.

[@SusieQ78]

Yes, you are definitely a “homework follow-upper” one 🙄😂

[@hezziattubeyou]

Well it doesn't seem to be working very well for me.....

[@chantellekaro4344]

No timestamps kati

[@nicoleleeanartist5999]

So now we know the secret!!!! If its hearted, it goes live

[@stoffls]

Any physical punishment of a kid is wrong and some kind of abuse! I was tempted several times with my daughter, but never even did spank her, as I remember how much it hurt emotionally as a kid! And distraction in therapy? Oh, I can drink a lot of water but I actually never comment on her office. But then there is always the great topic of dogs to talk about.

[@FREEANDREWTATEKKK]

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