Me: **has never been pregnant and is not currently pregnant** My brain: Make a note of that, that's good advice.
@Tankitha8 ай бұрын
Same. Someday I would like to have children... but stories of treating make me fear labor a little.
@scarlettstott75705 ай бұрын
You and me both, I want to be as informed as possible when I get to this point
@GraceHiniker3 ай бұрын
The only 2 things I did to avoid tearing were a water birth and having a midwife who didn't tell me when to push; she let my body tell me when to push, and coached me through bearing down ONLY when my body was pushing itself for a few pushes just to help me find a groove. I, a 5ft 6in 125lb-prepregnancy woman, pushed out a 9lb 3oz baby with his arm against his face with only a very minor 1st degree tear that needed 2 stitches. You got this mamas, listen to your body and work with it ❤️
@BacchizAdventuresАй бұрын
Did you take epidural? Do you recommend it?
@GraceHinikerАй бұрын
@BacchizAdventures I didn't! Personally I'm really proud of the fact I did it med-free. I also really didn't want any meds because I wanted to experience everything exactly the way God designed it to be, and I'd absolutely recommend natural birth. HOWEVER, epidurals can be necessary and even if it's totally unnecessary and you choose to do it I still think that's valid ❤️
@ruthdurfee44399 ай бұрын
I'm so grateful to have found your videos. I searched but in the not best places for info with my first. And no one as far as my nurses or ob bothered to tell me the things I needed to know but didn't know to ask. They were all very nice to me but they didn't give me what i NEEDED nevermind what i wanted. Things went very wrong and that only bothers me because had i been better informed and better supported, it may not have. You are doing a great service to all of us who aren't lucky enough to have you in the delivery room! ❤❤❤
@omihossain52365 ай бұрын
I AGREE!!! Same in my case.
@jenniferb95064 ай бұрын
I’m actually REALLY surprised that medical professionals DON’T try to inform patients of what to expect or how we can handle the birth process. I know they’re taught in school, and it’s info that would help us have better informed consent. It’s really scary how much it seems like they want us to know as little as possible about things. That way we’re at their mercy and c judgement when the time comes.
@ruthdurfee44394 ай бұрын
@@jenniferb9506 so true. That's why with my 2nd child (who is 2 weeks old today!) the first thing I did was get a doula. This birth was RADICALLY different than with my first.
@natk11055 ай бұрын
I'd love for you to talk about labial tears as well. With my first baby i tore both front and back (during the last big push his shoulder got caught coming out and it was too late for me to stop the motion). The perineal tear wasn't nice but the labial tear is the one that has caused me the most discomfort, mostly because it healed a little wonky. I'm about to have my second baby and scared of it happening again! I've tried finding information about this topic but it doesn't seem as commonly talked about as perineal tears.
@erinkimberly49265 ай бұрын
This! I had the warm compress on the perineum, so I didn’t tear down, but I tore up all the way. My clit was free hanging and they tried stitching it but they fell out and now I have a split labia and it catches when I wipe or have intercourse. So painful! How do I avoid that?
@kerryberry___4 ай бұрын
Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry you experienced that. This would be great information to have because I've heard of it but never in detail. 😢
@BexadrineD2 ай бұрын
I had reconstructive surgery after my second birth (4.5 years later) because this happened to me. I labored med free until about an hour before I needed to push and then I got an epidural so that I wouldn't have to go under general anesthesia for the surgery and got to hold my baby instead, and my doctor was able to classify it as a birth repair for my insurance instead of an elective procedure so they would actually cover it.
@Deee454 ай бұрын
This has been the most useful, informative video on tearing prevention I’ve watched! Thank you so much
@harringt1009 ай бұрын
Huh. I didn't realize a long pushing phase was linked to more severe tears. I actually kind of thought it was the opposite--that tears tended to be worse if the baby came out fast, with less opportunity to control pushing and let things stretch.
@hippie.doctor4 ай бұрын
Think of it as more time the vaginal/perineal tissues are under tension, the more chances of a tear.
@soulquest133 ай бұрын
@@harringt100 you are also right, if baby comes too fast there's a higher chance, but also a prolonged time pushing I guess
@taylormcanerney86353 ай бұрын
I could be wrong but my guess is if it's something like shoulder dystocia and the baby is having difficulty coming out and we keep having to work hard at pushing then this would increase the risk. I've had 5 and slowly pushed them out as much as possible and had great luck with no tears.
@LorelleJustice5 ай бұрын
LOL when I saw the thumbnail, I read “stop tEars” with your channel, I immediately thought this video was going to be about not crying during labor And then I saw the actual picture and I said nope that’s teArs not tEars 😂😂😂😂
@luisestevez9547Ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@HattonHorseshoeing3 ай бұрын
I'm pregnant with my first and I am so scared to give birth. These are really good videos to watch in preparation, but it is really scary to think that I might tear, or have something go wrong where they'll have to use forceps or a vaccuum, or even a c-section.
@sissyhinzАй бұрын
dont worry u worry i had a forceps and a episiotomy and e and baby were fine
@clairesanders1456 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Always looking for tips. I’m 36 weeks and need to start the massage !
@mamanursetina Жыл бұрын
Excellent...getting close!
@julzrouge369 Жыл бұрын
Great tips, thanks! ☺️🙏🏻
@mamanursetina Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@KarenKhen946 ай бұрын
Thank you for all the info I’m studying to become a doula all your videos are so helpful and go into greater extent then the course I’m studying really thank you this information I’m going to use as part of my practice.
@Laure__Line5 ай бұрын
Thank you for all these greats tips ! I am getting married soon, I am not pregnant yet, but we are both a bit worried about the tearing during the delivery process. My fiancé wants to be present. I think I will give him a few tasks to assist with the delivery :)
@LorelleJustice5 ай бұрын
Why would he be worried? It’s not like he has to feel it or is he just annoyed that he might have to help you more so you won’t be able to do everything…
@Littabethy9 ай бұрын
Just a lil TMI but I've used this breathing technique on the toilet many times. I'm on methadone so I get constipated often so I have to push a lil more to relieve myself in that way. And both ways help but I'm a lil more relaxed when I hum a bit when I'm in that situation. 😂
@jessicanoble1834Ай бұрын
Vagus nerve 🙌🏼
@phrogcasey5 ай бұрын
10 weeks till due date, im hoping i can avoid tearing, shes likely to be smaller due to a medication im on so i have my fingers crossed
@SomeonesGhost4 ай бұрын
When's your due date? Mines October 10! My husband keeps saying our boy is going to be 9lbs 🥴 lol
@diettea4 ай бұрын
Praying for you!!!
@phrogcasey4 ай бұрын
@@SomeonesGhost mines 24th september, my partners family say shes gonna be a tiny baby at 6/7 lbs!
@jaclyn86143 ай бұрын
How are you? Did you go into labor yet?
@venuscreations95682 ай бұрын
Hey mama. How was your labour. Hoping you had a safe delivery @SomeonesGhost
@mo_lc13 Жыл бұрын
This video makes me want to do a water birth in hopes I don't tear down there....
@mamanursetina Жыл бұрын
Water births look so lovely ♥️
@oobiedoobs2 ай бұрын
I blame the midwives for my tear. They didn't listen to me, gave me too much oxy, sent my baby into distress, made me panic & push early. I couldn't be in the position I wanted, there was no coaching, and I strained myself and tore (2nd degree). He was less than 2.5kg. I never want to go back to that hospital. 4 days later, my sister gave birth to a slightly more than 4kg baby, naturally and at home. She got a small graze.
@SamanthaLeBaron-m2r5 ай бұрын
Can you be in different birthing positions if you have an epidural?
@SomeonesGhost4 ай бұрын
I think she has a video or at least a short talking about different positions you can be in with and without an epidural!
@blairaaa3 күн бұрын
I don’t plan to have a water birth but would it help if I used a sits bath regularly a few weeks before I’m due? Or brought it to the hospital with me?
@CadetIvette3 ай бұрын
I love your videos, so informative and helpful. Thank you. 🙏🏽
@bfam7492 Жыл бұрын
Some great tips! Thanks
@caentaurili4 ай бұрын
I'm really scared of unnecessary episiotomy. I hope they let me move how I need it while delivering. Episiotomy is way too common here in Japan.
@crystalkitty9746 Жыл бұрын
Random question but what are the pros and cons of giving birth by c-section 🤔?
@mamanursetina Жыл бұрын
Pro, if planned its predictable. And there is no risk of trauma to your perineum which can be intense if its third and fourth degree. Cons are major surgery, major recovery, a scar (though a lot of providers do an amazing job and its not big or terrible), sometimes delay in skin to skin, risk of pain and infection...
@Danielavarela-gk9uv23 күн бұрын
whats good for panic atack?
@montanacurry09155 ай бұрын
Tearing was never a fear of mine until I tore with my daughter haha ouch. I hope it never happens again
@thegalexfamily5 ай бұрын
I had a third degree tear, it took me a year to heal 😭
@tryphenarose3844 ай бұрын
I had a third-degree tear with both of my babies. Had my son, tore during birth, had to go to the ER (gave birth with midwives), got pregnant again 3 months after birth, gave birth to my daughter, tore 3rd degree again and had to go to the ER for repair. Healing actually went smoother the 2nd time around, and it's been almost 2 years since I last gave birth - about to have my last baby in September and will be in a hospital setting. Doctor assured me she'll do whatever she can to minimize tearing. I really hope it goes well this time, because I still have sensitivity in the perinium because of the damage. It just feels strange at times.
@soulquest134 ай бұрын
Can I ask you in what context? Episiotomy? Forceps, vacuum? Position you were in? Big baby?
@thegalexfamily4 ай бұрын
@@soulquest13 He wasn’t big. No episiotomy/forceps/vaccum. I think with induction and very strong contractions!
@mountain854 ай бұрын
@@tryphenarose384half information is dangerous ! Did you have a homebirth in hot water during your 1st and 2nd baby ?? Were you lying down or crouching ? Did you massage your vaginal area with oil before delivery??
@rosea1643 ай бұрын
@tryphenarose384 I got degree 3 tear after giving birth 70 days ago for my first child Still very sensitive😢 Were you exclusively breastfeeding when you got pregnant the second time? Because I have not got my period back yet
@de213able7 ай бұрын
Get an Epi-No! I have done a bunch of research it’s an amazing product. It’s a ballon that slowly stretches you to 10cm. I have to smuggle mine from a family member in Europe because they are banned in the US since it’s marketed as a medical device.
@LorelleJustice5 ай бұрын
Your vagina or your cervix??
@evelynjohnson87567 ай бұрын
This is tmi but for perineal massage, would it still be functional to reach behind to dodge the big belly entirely? Start with one finger and then go to two to mimic the thickness of the thumb?
@SY-gf3pp11 ай бұрын
Thank you for all of this. I’m almost 31 weeks and they’re planning on inducing at 39 (which Indid not want). I have been TERRIFIED.
@ruthdurfee44399 ай бұрын
Why would they want to plan to induce you??? Especially before you even reach full term?? Even if you're having multiples this seems like a weird thing to intend to do. I get that you wrote this 2 months ago and you're probably there now! Lol, sorry!
@saragordon313 Жыл бұрын
When i was born the doctor told her to stop pushing and they had to cut so that they could get me out because she was not only tearing but also my umbilical cord was wrapped around my neck and they almost lost me.
@Nocomment5525 ай бұрын
That’s what happened to me. Both my heart rate and my mother’s was going up. My earlobes are uneven from where the umbilical cord was wrapped.
@hippie.doctor4 ай бұрын
I’ve been reading that the cord being wrapped around the neck is actually not a threat to the baby and can be gently unwrapped immediately as the baby is born.
@lovebites17923 ай бұрын
Would induction increase the chance of a tear?
@craftypenpalmoma4 ай бұрын
I never tore on the back.. always up the front 😢
@justwhistlinpixie5 ай бұрын
I had a vacuum delivery because my baby had heart decels caused by a nuchal cord. This gave me a third degree tear, which was awful, but I can live with it because it means my baby was delivered quickly and safely. I just hope I don't have another complication and can have less tearing with my current pregnancy's birth. My anus is misshapen from the tear and my doc says I can have surgery to correct it after I'm done having babies.
@reneesuisse25 күн бұрын
I'm slowly educating myself as a first time mom, it's my first pregnancy and I'm terrified. Some of the practices (episiotomies, instrument deliveries etc) seem so invasive, violent, oudated, terrifying and outright barbaric in my opinion... I pray I am not in a position where my providers try to force these on me.... I'm so afraid
@Jacquegirl18 күн бұрын
Having great providers makes such a difference. Mine let me call all the shots. Labor was so relaxing with my last. The providers make all the difference! I hope you have a good experience! Advocate for yourself ❤
@krista9054 Жыл бұрын
Can you have a epidural and birth in different positions?
@mamanursetina Жыл бұрын
Absolutely so long as your epidural isn't too heavy. If it is too heavy you can ask them to turn it down so you can move and feel your legs better. I have a short on my page about epidural friendly pushing positions!
@krista9054 Жыл бұрын
@@mamanursetina Thank you! I want to try for baby #2 but the first one was rough so I'm doing my research. lol
@mamanursetina Жыл бұрын
@@krista9054 yea!! Be your own best advocate!
@dianechoi54915 ай бұрын
Or hire a birth doula ❤ best advocate and helpers so that way you can focus on the birthing process .
@BenitaPollard-fx9pf4 ай бұрын
I had to have an episiotomy with both my babies.
@rac86quel Жыл бұрын
Would they even let you push a baby out at a hospital not on your back and in stirrups? Seems like that’s how it is
@mamanursetina Жыл бұрын
Yep that’s very common but absolutely pushing in the position of your choice should be allowed without question. Unless it’s unsafe for you or unsafe for baby. Make sure you voice your wishes, ask them to explain the reasons they are telling you to be on your back and have a strong support person with you willing to amplify your voice!
@Regansaidso Жыл бұрын
@@mamanursetinacan you do a video about your rights during labor at the hospital?
@mamanursetina Жыл бұрын
@@Regansaidso That's a great idea for a video. This would really vary hospital to hospital though as some have policies that others dont and what should happen is they should be explained to you and then you can choose to follow policy or you can choose to decline. You always have a right to your own body!
@ekatrinya9 ай бұрын
I think it completely depends on the hospital. I'm very thankful the hospital I will be giving birth at allows anything. I can be in the water, on a birth seat, on the floor, on the bed etc. Whatever I want. I hear a lot of stories about women physically being forced to lay down on their back and I would rather stay home than go through that 😕
@ruthdurfee44399 ай бұрын
@@ekatrinyathis absolutely infuriates me! I absolutely had this feeling with my first, that I was allowed to have wishes but i had to be a "good patient" and be ready to put them aside and do what I was told. My birth went absolutely nothing like i planned, and while I get this is always possible, it upsets me because I feel like it didn't need to be that way. If only I had known then what I know now. I'm 21 weeks now and I'll be dammed if I let it happen like that again! I have a doula this time and I'm taking the classes i should've taken before. Last week my dr made a comment that set off all the bells, one that he probably made the first time too. Last time I heard the message "remember, you're not in charge!" and took it. This time I heard it and switched to a midwife! DO NOT let anyone tell you what you are and aren't "allowed" during your birth. (Obviously without being absurd, like "I insist my 9 pets come to the hospital!"). Your position, your partner, your setting, your blankets, your wishes as far as when baby arrives too! This is YOUR body, YOUR baby and how they first experience the world matters!
@maquisbg4 ай бұрын
Funny video. Thanks.
@melissafeds1344 Жыл бұрын
U could buy an EPI NO.
@mamanursetina Жыл бұрын
I have heard pretty mixed reviews on the epi no from providers. But if it’s something you are looking into chat with them 😊
@thackerybinx26374 ай бұрын
A episiotomy equals perforation
@mountain854 ай бұрын
What does that mean??
@thackerybinx26374 ай бұрын
@@mountain85 a perforation is the little slit in a package to help you open it
@Shadowkat0326 Жыл бұрын
One question: will massage increase the chances of staying stretched out after birth, or will things still go back to normal? These are greatly appreciated! I intended to start the perineal massage with my husband a few weeks ago, but we have a small business, and he's gone quite often, and exhausted when he's home, so I felt bad asking. I think I will ask tonight, though, and get whatever benefit I can, haha. (The baby's due tomorrow.)
@mamanursetina Жыл бұрын
It should go back to normal the same as it should after delivery of your baby. Perineal massage won't stretch it out nearly as much as baby would and it goes back to "mostly normal" after that
@Shadowkat0326 Жыл бұрын
@@mamanursetina Ah, okay. Thanks for the clarification!
@kayhansen922911 ай бұрын
I never had any children, but when I was young I went to a famous gynecologist in Houston he was known for his natural childbirth. But the minute he examined me he said it wasn't much bigger than a breadbox in there and I would be a C-section I was small at the time 103 lb and he asked me what size my shoe was I told him but I was dumbfounded I said size 5 1/2 or a 6 later I learned this is an old midwives trick. Small feet small pelvis, anyways I appreciated him telling me that. I now at 66 have vaginal atrophy very bad and I will need to use estrogen cream and dilators if I ever want to have intercourse again. And this is actually very common.
@kayhansen922911 ай бұрын
In other words everything shrinks and shrivels up after menopause😢
@maquisbg4 ай бұрын
About episiotomy, it is not really true. The studies are not concluded. I saw women with and without. And not necessary was worst. In usa you don't use the episiotomy, but the births are not better than in other places.