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[@AbroadinJapan]

I really enjoyed sipping my hair drenched coffee throughout this video.

[@pomelo9262]

Premium coffee

[@Divergence]

🤔High in fiber? 🤣

[@lizthedisjointedzebra692]

YOUR HAIR'S UNACCTHEPTABLE

[@JohnTaylor-xg4jn]

What about Iceland for a honeymoon?

[@Zefa2213]

Real talk, you went on that bike trip to lose weight and impress her didn’t ya! 😆 Jokes aside I’m happy that you’re together, it’s easy to tell you liked her for quite a while now (yes this info is new to me)

[@Selkie15]

Been watching Chris for around 8 years, and I don't think I've EVER seen such a genuine, gentle smile on the mouth like pitbull. Sappy bastard is head over heels. It's like a magic.

[@sharlainjapan]

10/10 comment 😂👌🏻

[@michaelhawkins7389]

@@sharlainjapan Since you love England so much , Ask Chris to take you to the beautiful city Of York, in North Yorkshire it is amazing medieval city , it has been home to the romans and even the Vikings

[@gwenstacy8355]

That proposal story is the most on-brand thing Chris could do LMFAO

[@Taylor_R]

This was so cute!! I love all the old footage of you two ❤ Chris’ hair looks great 👍

[@sharlainjapan]

Haha it’s so funny looking back at old videos now😂

[@Obibopbop]

💗

[@Lonesome__Dove]

Omg! You watch this channel too? First i seen ya on Megan moons comment section now i see ya here! 😊 I don't why that makes me so happy but it does ♥️

[@Gutzle1990]

@@Lonesome__Dove they are longtime friends 😅

[@kaori9478]

@@Lonesome__Dove Taylor used to live in Japan and they made many videos together in the past :)

[@heyspeckle8782]

when I watched the proposal-storyline of Chandler and Monica on Friends I thought no one would be as stupid as Chandler making their partner believe they didn't want to get married and make them really upset but I stand corrected 😂

[@Chalepastel]

oh god that's so true

[@laurielansue4131]

In the cutest way. I think Chris is far more likeable than Chandler, lol.

[@lindatannock]

🤣🤣

[@NilsVanDessel]

I was literally shouting at this video as they were telling the story "CHRIS PULLED A FUCKING CHANDLER?!"

[@melyourheart]

Hahaha that’s what I also thought about while watching the vid hahahahaha

[@neonnwave1]

Relationships that spawn from friendships tend to work out better than strangers who have met. I think the reason is because the two got to know each other better and have formed a better sense of trust. However, that's not always the case and not all friends can be compatible lovers. Asking out a friend can be very scary because if the feeling isn't mutual, it can cause a rift and things fall apart after that. But I'm glad it worked out between you two.

[@HeavenlyCreature.]

How could Chris not have fallen for Sharla´s Premium face? 🥰

[@stuntmonkey00]

Just randomly dating strangers is scary because you don't really know them. Romantically crossing the line with friends is terrifying because there might not be a going back. But going from friendship to relationship is so much more satisfying because the relationship is based on a solid foundation. You know them, then you get infatuated because you know them.

[@neonnwave1]

@@stuntmonkey00 You're correct. But most people would rather date someone they just met than someone they've been friends with for years precisely for the reason of 'there might not be a going back'. If you lose someone you've known for a short while, it'll hurt less than losing someone you've known and trusted for much longer.

[@SpaghettiNachos]

Can say from experience, falling for a friend is VERY scary. It actually made me sick from the anxiety. I told her, and she didn't feel the same. But we're still great friends 🙂. You can't lose what you never had, so it didn't hurt too much.

[@FragileStars]

I've been dating my best friend for 8 years, known each other for 13 years and I have to say it was the best decision I ever made. We got married last year, and have a 4 year old, and I couldn't imagine having this life with anyone else 🥰

[@snowfoxxie]

What I learned from this video: Chris isn’t jealous of guys, he is jealous of bread.

[@jessicawarby6227]

The fact Sharla dropped the C bomb shows she’s defiantly in love with Chris and has learnt a lot about British culture 😂❤

[@Stephen-up3sd]

As a Brit I knew that Chris liked you as soon as he started teasing and insulting you. That’s how we show affection in the UK! Congratulations and best wishes to you both!

[@stevehall3228]

fellow british stephen here and i also knew straight away! cant trick us, we know what we're like

[@Hi-hb3mr]

That means he’s also in Love with Ryotaro

[@ross1972]

Im a kiwi and I thought that thier was sparks when they cycled around Mt Fuji

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

TIL

[@slax4884]

@@J-Hz harem anime

[@EnigmaDave]

All of my girlfriends were friends first. I knew Terry was special within hours of meeting her. I knew I wanted to marry her during our 4th date. I didn't believe she'd ever agree to marry me, so it took years to propose. I lost Terry to cancer in 2015. I was a very lucky man to have her in my life.

[@yippykiay13]

I’m so sorry for your loss, but that was beautiful too.

[@ondrejsrnka768]

Sorry for your lost

[@xEPICxNESS]

What a beautiful story. How amazing it is to fall in love, even if loss comes with it. It’s so amazing how you got to spend the last years of her life surrounded by love. I’ll tell my family I love them today ❤

[@xman5393]

😭

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@user-tm2xx8vh3o]

I admire Chris for being such a good sport about actually participating in a video like this. . .and I couldn't help but notice that he was glowing. You can tell he is happy-they both look that way. Congrats to Sharla and Chris!

[@ventro49]

@@tangente00 It's his affable energy

[@user-ri3xr9cb5m]

😊

[@user-ri3xr9cb5m]

😊

[@JoyandSerenity.]

How you guys got together is pretty much how me and my boyfriend got together. We were mates for ages, spent hours every day talking and playing games together, just really good friends who can chat about aaaaanything. Then one day we are sat watching something in my bedroom and my older brother walks in, doesn't even knock or anything, looks at us both chilling and says "so are you guys gonna go out already or what?" and then laughs and walks off.. We look at each other stunned like eh? is that an option? we literally just said "you wanna give it a go?" and yeh, its been 11 years :D He still makes me laugh everyday, its the best.

[@elias.t]

Your brother is Cupid?

[@suineg1]

"I kissed Sharlainjapan - the ultimate subscription". I died here 🤣 You guys never disappoint us! 😄👍

[@shiftyy2786]

Can I just say, I really appreciate hearing you guys talk about not wanting children. My partner and I feel almost the exact same! And sometimes it can feel strange like, you’re all alone making this (seemingly) wild and strange decision. It’s nice to hear it spoken about openly!

[@drskelebone]

I don't have a partner to consult with, but I'm firmly in the not wanting children category. I enjoy kids, and holding a baby as it does baby things is cool, but I like being able to go home without them. I also have moral objections given the state of the world about making someone live with the consequences of what I could have tried harder to fight against.

[@NoodyDraws]

Exactly! We feel the same way and it always feels like a very unconventional decision. Good to hear people speak about it. :)

[@magicalfluffybunny]

My husband and I have been happily married for 8 years, no kids and don't want em. :)

[@deaniej2766]

As part of the Hippy Generation, "Childless by Choice" is a real thing and we chose it too.

[@brandond8197]

Whatever makes you happy, I am about to have my third child and I couldn’t imagine why life without them. I have married friends that don’t Holman on having kids and it works for them. To each their own.

[@denmarq]

Hi Sharla! I just saw your story on IG where you went through a grotesque comment about the lifestyle you chose for yourself. Even if most of us don't know you deeply, it is apparent that what you bring to us here is wholesomeness and an appreciation of life, and most of us appreciate the extent of what you share from your unique perspective in order to inform, entertain, and connect in general to us. There will always be a few closed-minded rotten apples who's out to bring down others for their twisted pleasures or misguided beliefs, but you chose to stand firm against it while being understanding. They're the ones projectiving naivete. I know you have experience dealing with a handful of these as someone with a large following, but sometimes it can still hurt. Stay strong. You and Chris are commendable human beings.

[@TheHonest50s]

Just saw too, made me sick to read how vile some people can be and take time to post things like that to anyone. They look happy together and is all that counts and its their life, no one should meddle.

[@hana4449]

People that have the need to criticize others’ personal choices need to really back off! What a pity human being to attack another like this.

[@AliceElricSama]

That comment made me laugh so hard. "Liver spotted hands"? Lmao! Jealousy at its finest.

[@kiera3603]

I hope karma gets to that person who talked to Sharla that way. I wish people wouldn’t push their narrow minded, old fashioned onto others. It’s so gross. Pretty much everyone loves Sharla. I hope she knows that.

[@ragnhildmd5063]

​@@AliceElricSama yep, jealousy at it's finest. Not to mention that Chris not wanting children isn't something new that he decided on when him and sharla began dating. I remember him mentioning this years ago. But then again, the person who made the comment must be very dissatisfied with themself, and probably felt the urge to Just spout a bunch of verbal bile everywhere to feel better. Too bad Sharla had to be the target of that. She's such a sweetheart.

[@kellyjaggers8934]

I saw your post on IG and I wanted to say that, as a barren dog lady who locked down a high value male and didn't have children, you don't owe anyone an explanation for how you choose to live. Some people can't fathom life choices different to their choices. I have found they wallow in negative feelings because they are unhappy with their lives and need to bring others down to feel even a tiny spark of joy. Occasionally someone will ask if I regret not to having children. I can assure you that as a mid-40's lady I don't regret my choice not to to have children. I am happy, and so is the high value male I gaslit into not to having children with me. ❤️ Maro has the right idea. Ignore the haters. Be happy. Enjoy your life the way you want to live it!

[@NilsVanDessel]

25:53 The look on Sharla's face after Chris said the rather awkward "Stuff happened" is an image I will treasure for eternity.

[@tamashiranai1091]

not only that but the fact she decided to leave it in XD

[@TheSylfaein]

Well, Chris is lighting up as well. He's pretty much glowing... Basking in delight. ☺

[@nicokojima4214]

Favourite moment haha

[@Badzeep]

I'm happy to hear you two are in the same page with kids. I'm 31 next month and my partner is 33 and we both share the same feelings on kids. Not everyone should have children. You shouldn't be shamed for wanting to remain child free either.

[@kaitlynwalters9086]

I’ve known I don’t want kids for a very long time. I’m only 22 but everyone keeps saying “you can change your mind.” It’s annoying how if you want kids, no one will ever say that to you though. Kinda like how Chris said, I don’t think I’d be a good parent. Me and my bf both don’t want kids and know we wouldn’t be a good fit for the job. We both prefer animals to people so we’ll just adopt some animals and give them a good life. As long as the people in a relationship know what they want, I wish more people would respect that

[@CarinaCoffee]

​@@kaitlynwalters9086 yeah and especially women are just often ask when they plan to get pregnant? It's invasive (and can be really harsh when that person is actually wanting children, but is infertile) and when you do bother to respond with saying you don't want any people always tell you you'll change your mind. It's reducing especially women to just their reproductive functions and when you're told you'll change your mind, it's taking away agency.

[@CarinaCoffee]

@@favi677 I think everyone is allowed to change their mind, but I think it's super invasive and disrespectful to ask people this and then if they tell you how they feel, people then doubling down and not excepting someone's genuine feelings at the time. And maybe some people feel the need to be so adamant about their views on not wanting children, because of societal pressure. Overall I think it's a an issue that people sort of see married with kids as the societal standard. It's quite hard to unlearn this, growing up like this I too still catch myself thinking about that sometimes e.g. when I hear someone's getting married. But I think it's sort of invalidating life when you only see this sort of "goal". People don't ask others "are you happy?" they ask "are you in a relationship yet", etc. when being on your own doesn't have to mean lonely. And it's super a super allo-centric view too. There are people that are ace and/or aro or demi and they're not unhappy. I think if people just pressure people less and don't ask invasive questions we would all have a more chill time together. Because I know people that don't really want to meet family anymore because it pulls them down psychologically to be pressured like that. And people don't even think they're pressuring others, because they're socialised to think asking these invasive questions is normal.

[@bex6638]

🙌

[@KiyokaMakibi]

@@kaitlynwalters9086 I've known I haven't wanted kids since I was probably under 10 lol!

[@AshleeHarveyMusic]

As someone who also doesn’t want children, it is extremely validating to hear other people openly say that they don’t want children and don’t really like them. I worry about being judged for not having an affinity for children and for not following the social norm and having kids, so I really appreciate you guys being so honest about it ❤️

[@MelancholyMoondancer]

I can say, as someone who never wanted children and never did, I am perfectly happy with the decision. I was also told by a spine doctor (I have a degenerative chronic spine condition) that be in my "best interest not be pregnant". Fine with me!

[@ab.c]

Yes so true

[@kathleenhawkes7543]

I never wanted children either, and then one day, it just happened. My children are definitely the best part of my life now and I thank the universe every day for that funny surprise.

[@billyb6001]

You should have kids

[@quokkakola1722]

I am so happy for you both. It’s so refreshing to hear people speak openly about a child free lifestyle, even though it does attract the crazies coming out in the comments and taking it personally. The obsession some people have about other people having children is at best obnoxious and at worst aggressive and deeply inappropriate.

[@ptjzmemory]

Well said. Not everyone wants children and that's fine. As you stated, it is refreshing to hear it discussed openly.

[@TheLAexplorer]

This is wild. I started watching you both at about the same time over 10 years ago. It's so interesting watching y'all grow up, get married

[@jazzestardust]

same!!! Its so wholesome

[@kme3894]

me too! their story is the most romantic ever ❤

[@AmyBrueckman]

SAME!

[@SerbianSabre1]

Ever since I saw them together on that "Cycle across Japan" episode with the rollercoaster ride, where Sharla was dropping F-bombs at Chris I believed they were made for each other.

[@brianlefko4404]

Same for me. It’s so odd to have started watching them both when they didn’t even know each other and now this. I absolutely love it!

[@LexieEclectic]

He may not be the best at articulating his feelings (he's terrible at it actually) but I can see in the way he looks at her and his body language that he really really loves her. It's so cute to see. So excited for the wedding.

[@garaktartv3647]

the fact that Sharla basically "knew" Chris since robot wars and they ended up together is pure insanity, this is such a awesome coincidence.

[@Cheeseypuff17]

I was never actively shipping you two, but I remember years ago thinking "aw they'd make a cute couple." Then seeing y'all on the cycle across Japan series, I thought "oh how cute would it be if they ended up dating?? They're such good friends." Then I saw the announcement and I'm like *jaw dropped, head exploded* Happy for you two, and wish you both a successful and happy marriage ❤

[@Diamondkitsune]

Oh god, hearing about Chris's attempts to throw you off the proposal just reminded me of Friends, except with more language 😂 I'm so glad you guys are so happy together.

[@Noname.118]

I thought the same 😆 I can imagine Chris acting crazy like Chandler

[@Polkaknot]

Chris Broad = British Chandler Bing

[@KB-ql8cx]

You are 100% correct, not everyone needs to have kids and you should never feel obligated and shouldn’t have to explain why

[@donnahdunthorn5207]

Except this is literally a Q & A.

[@hayapatel_]

@@donnahdunthorn5207 just bc it's a Q&A doesn't mean they owe you an explanation nor are they obligated to really answer the question. They can just say yes/no and leave it at that

[@jigglypuff52]

​@@donnahdunthorn5207 They're allowed to reject questions that are too personal. They don't owe their audience every little detail of their lives and health.

[@yulie1022]

10 years ago I had dreams of living in Japan, and I watched both your channels. 30 years old now and life didn’t quite turn our like I planned BUT finally getting to visit Tokyo later this month. Thank you both for all your videos, letting us watch you throughout the years and get a glimpse in your lives. Congratulations and I hope you keep helping one another fulfill as many dreams as you can. ❤

[@tamalena]

I saw your post on your insta story that someone commented on here. I sent you an insta DM but I just wanted to say here too incase you don’t see that message. You are not a barren cat lady you are an amazing person you both are. You are allowed to say you don’t want children that’s no one else’s choice but yours. I also don’t want kids and have two cats and the idea of kids is overwhelming cause I find my cats tough some days and kids are a lotttt more work then cats😂 Anyways thanks for being you. You and Chris are amazing people. Keep on being you and ignore the hate comments. Thanks for sharing your life with us ❤

[@LizzyCat]

Seriously here to do the same! I’ve had fur children my entire life and now I have a “not” fur child son. If you only want cats, that’s great! Don’t let some troll try to define what you can and can’t do.😂 My senior kitty just turned 17 and she is my first born. ❤ congratulations y’all and wishing you the best in your new life together. ❤

[@brittm1960]

I am also childfree. I'm sickened at people getting angry at childfree folks choices. We know ourselves better and always will. We don't want to be miserable because misery loves company. We choose ourselves and have fulfilling lives. I'm really happy they know what they want. It is also exciting to know Sharla is relatable in that way as well. It makes me love her even more lol

[@cynicalleviathan3305]

Man that video of you eating bread must have been the greatest thing Chris had ever seen, not only did it inspire him to make youtube videos in Japan he also decided to marry the person who made the video.

[@bri-was-here]

I hate shipping, I think it's deeply inappropriate, but I always saw the friendship you two had as so fun and healthy. When Sharla said she was moving to Sendai, I knew you two were probably more than friends, and it warmed my cold dead heart 💜

[@nutrinogirl456]

only fictional shipping is a good ship!

[@Crybaby-Media]

@@nutrinogirl456 I’m not trying to be rude or anything , I’m genuinely curious. And maybe I’m just unclear on what the exact definition of shipping is . What’s the harm in saying something like “those two would be so cute together .” Or something along those lines. I agree it’s inappropriate to say something like “they should date!” Because it puts a weird pressure and might introduce some awkward feelings to the relationship. But I think two friends who are confident in their friendship, are probably able to handle somebody saying. “Oh are you two dating?” Or “you two are so cute together” from someone who doesn’t know all the details . Sorry I’m a little blazed and I type a lot when I’m high . TLDR in your opinion, are there limits to things you can say (in the context of shipping) , or is everything completely off limits?

[@j134679]

I think if someone being shipped is affected, then at least a part of them is hoping for that relationship. I've been shipped countless times to multiple friends of both sexes & it never made me uncomfortable as I had 0 romantic attraction to them. Like even if they courted me for months, I knew it would be a no from the get-go.

[@bri-was-here]

@@Crybaby-Media especially with internet personalities, you don't know them. To try to throw romantic or sexual connotation to their relationship is overstepping. I'd argue it's weird to say "you'd be cute together" to friends too, but at least then it can potentially come from a place of knowing the nuance of the relationship. With celebs and influencers, you don't know the nuance to their relationship. Having to hear it over and over and over from people who don't know you that you'd be "so cute with (friend)", it's like this weird expectation that people can't have close, platonic relationships with the gender they're attracted to.

[@bri-was-here]

@@j134679 hard disagree. I hate being paired with another person by others, it's sexualizing me when I didn't ask to be. Even if it's an innocent "you'd be a cute couple," the next statement is almost always "you'd make cute babies." If I thought I'd be cute with another person, I'd make that call. Another person's opinion is unwarranted and unwanted.

[@grey3318]

100 things I like about you? That is absolutely adorable, Sharla. What an incredibly sweet gesture!

[@lokicooper4690]

Chris: "She swears a lot more" Me (a fellow Canuck): "That's cause she's Canadian." We are polite, but once you get to know us better, we swear.. a lot! Lol! This was fun to watch, and intresting to learn new things about you both.

[@xSmartassxChibix]

Also, I'm sorry, but your engagement story truly does remind me of a shojo anime plotline 😂 love you guys together, I'm so happy for you!!

[@sharlainjapan]

It would probably make a good manga😂

[@SinzPet-]

that is one of the most funny proposal stories i've heard in a while XD

[@sharlainjapan]

🥲🥲🥲😂

[@saraaguayo-aponte9014]

I just found out you guys got together! What a lovely surprise! I always thought you two would make a great couple. All the happiness to you both.❤

[@sharlainjapan]

Thank you Sara!! 🫶🏻🩷🩷

[@newday-om6qh]

As a 34 y.o. single person. This is inspiring ❤. Although, after seeing how you two became friends years ago at a youtube party. Now this... Chris, it's time to write that youtube RomCom short-film.

[@Hitogata]

As someone who's had 2 crazy cats for 11 years and is now a mother to a human toddler, I tell you, no matter how demanding your cats are, it doesn't remotely compare to how physically and mentally exausting it is to have a baby/toddler 😅 I just want 5 minutes to myself, please 😂 Definately I think it's something you should do only if you both really want it!

[@anidanielle]

Yes, I have 3 kids and honestly have no time for my 3 cats anymore because they're so self sufficient compared to kids. I pet them at night to make sure they get some attention though. My kids also don't really sleep well until they're older. There is no way to prepare for the absolute exhaustion that comes from years of being woken up every few hours at night. Thankfully now it's only one or twice a night since my youngest is 1.5 years old.

[@Lisallamaa]

Yes, and with cats you can, like, leave. You have to take your children with you 😅 I will say I call my cats my babies, but my human children are the reason for my white hairs.

[@YukiOnna86]

2 cats and 1 toddler mom here as well. I couldn't agree more.

[@SmilingRuby]

Kids are a huge commitment. I'm so happy you guys are walking into it eyes wide open. They are wonderful, but they are life consuming, at least for the short-term and if you know you can't give a child what they need this is the decision to make. You'll be a wonderful Auntie and Uncle to any of kids in your life.

[@bibiwithlove5317]

love how you both don't want children. It's so rare for people to say that. It's so true. Not everyone should have children and it's not everyone wants one either.

[@Lrbrz]

I’m a child free woman as well and I’m coming here directly from your Instagram story. Absolutely disgusted that people criticize you and Chris for your choice. I love you guys and have followed you both since both your channels started and seeing your friendship blossom into love and watch your lives grow separately and now together is a beautiful thing. I’m so happy for both you ♥️

[@smome7773]

Im always surprised people still get mad at people for this choice. It's weird.

[@millennialchicken]

Still can't believe we live in the timeline where these two are together. Good things do indeed happen.

[@SimplyPharmD]

I love how giggly and genuinely happy you both seem; warms my heart 🥰 thank you guys for sharing. I know parasocial shit can get weird, but I'm just so giddy to see 2 of my favorite creators so happy and supportive of each other. especially given everything the both of you have gone through.

[@pochuyma9530]

Chris deserves a happy relationship! He has brought so much happiness with his AbroadinJapan videos🥰

[@JoY-zo2yi]

It's alright Sharla, after nearly 10 yrs now I take my husband's snoring as a sign of life 😂 you will (hopefully) get used to it. Congratulations again to you both 🎉😊🎊

[@sharlainjapan]

A sign of a life hahahaha love it

[@Vero.Doodles]

LMAO okay that’s funny! 😂

[@MoonGalleon22]

I had the opposite, my wife's sleep apnoea was so bad that she would stop breathing with terrifying regularity! The minute she got a CPAP machine was the minute I could sleep with any degree of peace lol.

[@pedrorserra]

Chris, make your father repair the robot so it can take the rings on the ceremony! 😂

[@sharlainjapan]

HAHA love that

[@HenryKlausEsq.]

@@sharlainjapan Recover the original sprockets from Killertron and have rings made to size. Or instead of rings get knuckle-dusters that you can wear permanently.

[@Fiveonesix]

I really love that people are being more open that having children is not for them - my husband and I have to deal with people pushing that we will change our minds and it's been 8 years and no change in our minds. It's not a lifestyle for everyone.

[@chendaforest]

Totally agree. I've never wanted any I have very few maternal instincts :)

[@CleoHarperReturns]

All my life people have told me not to have a hysterectomy (I have adenomyosis) because I would want kids someday. I'm now fifty and went through about 35 years of unnecessary, excruciating, monthly pain and the occasional surgery. I still don't want kids; never waivered. Don't let other people try to tell you who you are, girls. Some women see menopause as a ticking time bomb -- and if you're maternal at all, that's totally understandable. Glad you girls are out there or I wouldn't even exist. For me, it's the last leg before the finish line. Good god I can't wait for my uterus to stop whining and finally go to sleep.

[@TheNails3]

If I may ask, how was your adenomyosis diagnosed? And what kinds of surgeries did you have? Did they help at all?

[@katiavandam8435]

The chemistry between both Chris and Sharla is undeniable! During a few distant episodes and over time I could tell there was something there, just didn't know if you both realized the attraction could be lifelong. Supporting each other is what you both do best and that in itself is the key to keeping the relationship strong.

[@MelancholyMoondancer]

My husband and I were friends first. Took me nine months to realize I had feelings beyond friendship for him. That was about 24 years ago. This year will be our 15th wedding anniversary. We also didn't really have a "this is when we started dating" date. We picked the day when we had The Talk about where our relationship is going. I'm so happy to see y'all together. It's so wonderful to see you both so happy!

[@MxPotato84]

From bread girl and telling pigeons to f**k off, to cursing at each other playfully in an adorable way. Seeing the two of you evolve has been fun and cute. Your relationship did seem like it just randomly morphed on its own and you two just went long with it like gravity. Keep evolving, you two!! ❤❤

[@cloudkitt]

"A premium face" is my new favorite compliment.

[@snilefisk]

I have kids and I’m always glad to see people decide not to have kids. I don’t know why so many parents treat it like a pyramid scheme and try to pressure other people into becoming parents. It is for sure life changing to have kids, but why do we necessarily need our lives changed? I’m just saying that the level of happiness and fulfilment will not increase or decrease based on you having kids or not :)

[@sharlainjapan]

“Pyramid scheme” haha that’s so true! I’m always really curious why people feel the need to pressure others to have kids. Makes me feel like they just want to see us suffer too😂 I’m good thanks haha.

[@DeadPoolWeapon]

Debt to society and human race I guess. Not to gain anything in particular, but payback. Or pass on life or learnings. I guess people in public life would be remembered for long, but otherwise the ripples we can induce are limited. I personally have taken a step more bach than this. A solitary life, a life with just my thoughts and thoughts I learn from books and other human creations. Time to dive deep into a thought or subject without any knock on door.

[@ColdBrewBarbie]

I love that you to are so open about not having kids! My husband and I decided we don't want kids and its refreshing to see other couples our age say that too! Love this video!

[@LdeV26]

Yes, there need to be more people like us out there. Always happy to see couples I can relate to.

[@simgrmemaj8075]

@@LdeV26 “need to be more people like us” ..huh

[@est02]

@@LdeV26 there is no “need”, only preference

[@LdeV26]

@@est02 No there is need.

[@LdeV26]

@@simgrmemaj8075 Yup.

[@DelorienAz]

You really don't need kids to have a fulfilling life. My husband and I were together for almost a decade without kids and we loved our life. We both felt that we weren't missing out on anything. We did end up having a surprise baby and it's been a great experience but if it hadn't happened, we'd still be OK. Our son is a bonus joy, but not our only reason for living. Either way, no one should be shamed for their very personal choice! Wish you both happiness:)

[@mysakus]

gotta say the funniest frase is: Kissing Sharla in Japan is like an ultimate subscription 😀

[@damfino1964]

Top tier Patreon level!

[@lynseythompson7268]

I remember following both your videos when I was planning my trip to Japan in 2019. At the time i was 6 years single and gave up on love and when I came back reconnected with my childhood sweetheart and now we're getting married later this year in September. Now we're planning a trip to Japan for us next year! It makes me unbelievably happy the 2 of you have found each other and fell in love. This news makes me so happy!! ❤❤❤

[@kookurikapooh]

The friend strat is consistently at S-tier for finding suitable partners. Exposes any unwelcome or pleasant surprises or secrets. Easy way to establish rapport with the person. Makes knowing the other person easier and in a natural, organic, and less awkward way. 11/10. Would highly recommend but i won’t personally try it ever again as I’ve done it with my best friend-now my wife.

[@chendaforest]

What is S-Tier ?

[@kookurikapooh]

@@chendaforest Highest spot on a tier list. It’s a ranking system that usually go: S, A, B, C, D, E, F (S tier being the highest and F being the lowest. Unless your question was rhetorical or a joke that i missed

[@chendaforest]

@@kookurikapooh thanks I didn't know.

[@scotmcpherson]

I think you've been in a genuine relationship for years even as friends. You've just had that chemistry, but didn't realize your relationship until more recently.

[@christah9420]

It’s so lovely to see two people so happy to build a life together, especially when it’s two people who are obviously perfect for each other. Cheers guys, and thanks for sharing your journey with all of us! ☀️

[@CommodorePochi]

You literally pulled a Chandler Bing with that proposal, Chris. Glad it worked out in the end! 😂😂

[@MrNoe1993]

It makes me laugh every time he calls you "SharlaInJapan" 🤣🤣. You guys are just so funny in videos together.

[@AnniS]

The announcement that you guys are dating was one of the best KZbin days ever anyway ❤ wishing you years and years of happiness!

[@ujona]

I am so happy that Sharmchris is official and well deserved. Happiness to you both and my prayers are with you both and ur families always!

[@Spawn256]

I hope your love for each other grows to the point you guys can admit to each other how much you love each other, not sarcastically.

[@ParaSytius]

I met my wife at work coming up to about 10-years ago now, we were friends for five years before eventually becoming a couple. That initial friendship laid down some firm foundations to build upon once we started dating. Good to see you both went through the same thing and best of luck to your future together.

[@julesg9004]

Laughing so much at your stories - If you can upset Sharla that much one minute & she still says YES to marriage then its meant to be 😆I've literally never been happier to know that 2 people are a couple. I hope maybe we get lots of 'Sharla - Abroad' collaborations - Journey across Japan style! x

[@MelissaLearns]

I love the response about the kids

[@violettaleggio7443]

This was so cute! So happy for you two!!

[@marianariveram7692]

I think we all saw this relationship coming from waaaay before you guys did . I'm just so happy it worked out for you both! You've always had a great chemistry

[@NightOwlsMedia]

I don't know if you guys actually read these or not, but I had to write this. I have followed you both for so long. You give so much to the world and the community of viewers and Japanophiles and on top of that you bring so much joy and positivity as well. I have found so much assuage and comfort in your videos through the years and can not thank you enough for that alone. But knowing you two have found each other and fallen in love makes my heart swell with happiness. That alone is why I wanted to write but I also wanted to possibly send an offer. I know we are a world apart and you don't know me from Adam, but I have worked in weddings for over 14 years and know quite a bit about planning and such, as I am sure you are being swarmed with offers and comments galore, but if there is anything a wedding cinematographer from Chicago, IL can do to help, even if it's just advice or planning tips, I am happy to do so :) Congratulations to you both, to your friends and family as well. This is such a huge thing not only in your lives but also the worlds of the people you give to on a daily basis! We are so happy for you

[@ryandibernardo7285]

I'm so happy for you both, and this was so nice to watch! ❤️🥰

[@Lonesome__Dove]

I love that yall are so honest!

[@DanielFHanson]

To me, the fact that Chris doesn't upload videos very often is a sign that he _does_ work really hard. Maybe I'm just attuned to other channels like CGP Grey, Folding Ideas, and hbomberguy, where I know that if they haven't uploaded in a while, it's because they're working insanely hard on the next big thing(s). Also, Witchcraft is an _amazing_ song!

[@LauReXyLL]

Internet Historian

[@RedAgain2626]

Don't feel bad Chris, my husband had a similar experience with weather and unavoidable events interrupting his proposal. I was in on the general timing and we got to the very end of the trip we were on before I point blank asked him if he still wanted to get married or what. I swear he almost cried explaining the series of unfortunate events. He proposed the next morning right before we were meant to leave for our flight and the rest is history.

[@LaraMuzio]

I am so happy for you two! Congrats!!!!

[@PKshockwave]

Look at that! Chris got him an ultimate subscription with a premium- faced lady. Rizzy Mc'Rizzington over here! 😂 Congrats to you both!

[@n1hondude]

You're both wholesome so I don't think there is a single soul out there who's upset you're a couple, we've all been cheering and it's been obvious since the first journey across Japan! :D

[@minhdo3482]

I think U forgot abt Connor lol

[@n1hondude]

@@minhdo3482 Oooohh you're right, I'm sure Connor will be happy to be the mistress in the relationship

[@jungwhat]

"I kissed Sharla in Japan... the ultimate subscription" 😂😂😂

[@xkattastrophe]

I too could also tell from the journey across Japan that y’all had something there! I’m so happy you guys are engaged ❤

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

This was so heartwarming and fun to watch! I'm so happy for you two and I hope that I'll be in a similar relationship too ❤️

[@closetwarrior]

Chris looks so cute in glasses and nobody better tell him otherwise Edit: 13:00 Sharla what is this bread eating video?? What is going on, did I ever watch this? I was just thinking the other day "what was the first Sharla video I ever watched" it wasn't this weird bread eating video was it?? 🤣

[@MazAMaTaz]

I'm just watching this video smiling like an idiot because you're both ADORABLE. It's crazy because (and I know you've heard it before because I've seen loads of comments that say this) I've thought you guys were so compatible for soooo long just from watching the videos where you were together, haha. So happy for both of you!

[@FM-en5nv]

I love the clips from Chris's previous videos inserted into the conversation. I almost choked laughing.

[@Lonesome__Dove]

Awe! Thanks for the QnA! But don't let it be the last! Could watch these periodically and really enjoy them.

[@TheThumbelina]

Your answers to having kids is so refreshing! 👍🏻😍 I’m sure your lives are gonna be fulfilling and wonderful without kids if you chose to not have any

[@mikekun155]

Most affable couple in the game!

[@douglas.skene88]

This was adorable and wholesome af!

[@ThatPerthFan]

You've kept this from us for so long and omg we're just loving thisssss

[@eels3658]

"I don't think we need to live in a world where everyone has to have a kid", I completely agree!

[@RobotsRuleTheWorld]

I fully understand and support the decision to not have children. My wife and I really do not want kids, but somehow it's okay for others to keep asking and prodding as to why/when we'll have some.

[@katarzynaczerwiec4848]

Congratulations on your engagement ❤❤❤ I watched you both for ages and loved the road trip, sooooo happy for you!

[@rebsanjapan]

Wishing you both many, many happy years together, you’re both a ray of sunshine on this planet and I throughly enjoy your videos. Have a lovely day and take care ❤

[@izabellavanryn3531]

Chris' life flashing before his eyes at the cat question, and then the immediate look of relief when you said two cats is enough. 🤣 My husband and I had 4 at one point, and I agree that two is enough. We love each of them so much, but it was definitely chaotic!

[@ankiolebring8388]

Ain’t Sharla the coolest woman ever; she has Swedish qualities and “a matter of fact” personality - she’s a no fuss person and I find that so liberating and I think it’s time you start doing content more out of your personality ❤ And Chris; the forever grumpy gentleman with an fantastic sense of humour and self distancing- love you both 💞

[@mercerworldtravels5980]

Rain on the wedding day is a good sign. I suppose it could be on the proposal too. It's weird watching Abroad in Japan and Sharmeleon knowing we have mutual friends in Japan. Thanks for all the effort you guys put into your videos. I know my wife really appreciates being able to see everything you both show about Japan.

[@nicop6165]

I literally could not stop smiling throughout this video. As a long time subscriber of both of you separately, it's lovely to see how happy you guys make each other. Thank you for sharing this with us ❤

[@_marimopeace]

8:33-11:03 "despite everything going wrong" AHAHAH oh god so happy everything worked out I do feel bad the misdirection led to Sharla crying for hours that's never fun 😭 20:18-20:56 "like a 1980s stock trader" oh god "bread girl" was one thing but that just took me out 😂 thank you for sharing this first/last q&a with your audience!! good to hear from both of you and have some laughs over y'alls humor

[@anthonyleung5277]

Having watch them both for over a decade. It is such a beautiful story and really happy for both of them.

[@rdu239]

They are a couple? no way!

[@CZsWorld]

I wish I could meet a girl who appreciates Pendulum as much as I do...

[@carsonfrazier9246]

Or a girl like Lorraine Warren?

[@CZsWorld]

@@carsonfrazier9246 Hell no. I don't want to get air yeeted out of my bed in the middle of the night.

[@CZsWorld]

@@icebonbon They don't really have dnb events in USA 😢

[@NessaGhouliful]

​@@CZsWorld Whaaaaa???? That's tragic. Vancouver does dnb right. Damn near something every week, especially during the summer.

[@ohemdoublegee]

@@CZsWorld yes we do what are you talking about lol

[@PapaSarto]

So happy for the both of you! It is such a blessing to be able to marry your best friend. God bless!