Our Hot Date | Wine About It

[@RabbitWhispererYT]

I’m going to write a card for my husband telling him, “I would never cheat on you starting now,” thanks for the advice QT ❤

[@bloodwolf2609]

Shoutout the yard

[@ZetsuTheKid]

yard yoke

[@goromajima7677]

“How do I talk to women if they scare me” - if you feel like this, I always say it’s really good to ground yourself and realize that this person you’re nervous to approach is just a human like you, with their own thoughts and anxieties- just like you have. I feel that when we see someone as super attractive, or admirable, we put them on a pedestal higher than yourself, and in your mind this de-humanises them to some extent, but removing that and not letting yourself get carried away has been something that’s really helped me in different situations.

[@mjz667]

Or just take Ecstasy

[@Boblyme]

nah just pretend ur gay

[@Genomaxter]

QT, that "Script" plan to cold start a convo is honestly the best way I have ever heard to approach that situation. No prying, no pre-gaming. Just being normal, genuine and sincerely forward without being creepy.

[@3yp0n]

I love that QT addressed and brought up the fact that people can have 2 different sets of love languages for their romantic partner (and can be different for friends). Giving/receiving! I'm similar to QT wherein one of my giving love languages is gift giving and my receiving is quality time and words of affirmation

[@mandygroening]

I am with Maya on the rock friend gifts, that is really cute. Super low effort yet meaningful.

[@fr1ckingh3ck]

Getting suspicious that you guys are birds >_> (This is a joke, it's actually a cute idea just a little strange)

[@nein_nein.]

46:45 Honestly I would love a rock especially if it's a recurring gift once a month once a year or special occasion it could symbolize milestones in your relationship literally

[@Movman82]

"This rock shows how many miles we've walked together. I found it .5 miles away because we don't walk that often."

[@Atom-ji6fg]

‘If you can get inside a car, a man can get inside of you’ QT what?? 😂

[@blablablabookneko]

QT's way of writing in journals to move on from her crushes is basically the plot of the To All the Boys movies

[@AgitpropPsyop]

As a guy, this made me realize how low the bar is for us 🙃 it’s funny but it’s also really sad lmao

[@FezCaliph]

18:02 her little jig was so cute lmao

[@codymoore6765]

Actually Maya, talking to women like they’re normal is the BEST advice.

[@Wholenewcris]

I don't really watch football either but I think whenever they keep crashing into each other, the idea is that some of the guys on the line are going to create a gap for the guy with the ball to run through. That gap isn't always properly created so they crash into each other. No matter what side of the field you want to run down, you need to have space and the guys on the line are supposed to try to create that space for you if you have the ball. Sometimes the other team can see what kind of space you want to create and they make a play to try to stop you. That's why they so often seem like they just crash into each other. One team has a plan and the other team's plan is to stop them.

[@Gingawhitus]

Also to limit the chance of an interception happening

[@mattwho42]

As someone who doesn't really watch either, this sounds the most correct. I'm still learning the game and I'm like 32 lol. That being said, it is a frustrating sport to watch. I get the game clock, plays, and time-outs, but good god sometimes it takes 15 minutes just to get through 2 minutes of play. I'm a hockey guy and that sport is really fast paced so to come over to football, it can be frustrating.

[@narcocastillo3783]

It's also because they're so fast. Even the linemen who are huge have insane reaction time and a gap that a running back sees for like a fraction of a second can be immediately closed in the fraction of a second it takes for them to reach the line of scrimmage by one of the linemen.

[@gregcub3d]

the other part of it is kinda mental, i.e. "we're stronger than y'all are, we can go through these reps longer than y'all" etc. and by the time it's the 4th quarter the hope is that you've worn down the opponent to the point where that gap DOES stay open an extra half-second or whatever so the runner can burst through the line

[@Megan._._]

46:45 Weighing in: I would not melt. I would find it cute and nice but also be a little stressed out to find a place for it to live in order to adequately showcase my affection towards my partner’s consideration of me.

[@kalebfelts344]

I have no idea why but this episode mayas hair looked AMAZING 🤩 i could not stop looking at it. Also qt had some great advice definitely doing the gift every month one. Love the pod and I hope yall do it for as long as you can.

[@TheOneWithComments]

I get what Maya said about football being frustrating. You just want them to score but they keep getting hit so you never get the satisfaction. That being said her reasoning was really funny it was basically "get good".

[@osirisapex7483]

Once you understand how it works, it’s even more frustrating

[@3yp0n]

IT'S WINE ABOUT IT WEDNESDAY!!!! 3 days from STREAMER AWARDSSSSSSSS. Audio listeners, anyone else excited for Saturday?!?!

[@bxbydrxgxn]

Whine About It Thursdays for all the southern hemisphere girlies!

[@Mister_Migs]

@39:00 Talk to a woman at a parking lot? That's the worst place to introduce yourself to someone 😅 they're either getting into their car to leave and you're holding them up in a closed- tight environment OR they're getting out and walking into the store which means you barely saw them and are being a creep ✋️don't approach woman in a parking lot men, not the best way 😢

[@elora512]

True 😂 not the parking lot

[@ftw4twcs]

That's why you don't listen to the fish when they try to teach you how to fish.

[@moonbear5]

​@@ftw4twcs I guess this is a joke. As the rest of their advice was good imo

[@orionxavier6957]

4:18 "You have a bad attitude and a bad ass" QT is one of those friends that will go for that joke that would either strengthen the relationship or break it lol

[@notur1angel]

that one dude in the 1st advice question could be asexual or aromantic! both are valid!!

[@DeathClawz]

Yeah Maya saying to look for someone else after a few months got me doubting myself lol. I mentally can't date someone I'm not really good friends with. I've dated 2 people ever and they were both good friends for like 1 or 2 years before we dated.

[@tacowolf1765]

@@DeathClawz ah yeah Demisexual, the person asking the question sounded like they were demi and the person that they were asking about sounded aromantic. or maybe I was reading too much into that and they both just needed to be better at communicating. either way, no one needs to have everything (or anything) figured out at 20. I thought "go to graduate school and meet new people" was reasonable advice for moving on.

[@augustmericle6776]

37:10 trying to script social situation is also very common with autism! Trying to figure out how other people behave and practicing mimicking that to appear more “normal” is called masking. (Thought that isn’t necessarily what QT is doing, not trying to be too presumptuous, also she’s talked about wondering if she has autism in the past!)

[@GabbyRN545]

The ones running into each other are the offensive and defensive lineman. It’s part of the play, but I know exactly what Maya means. The running backs will go right up the middle through the pile instead of going outside. I’m sure there’s strategy behind it but it does look dumb when you don’t understand football. And Usher is amazing! A legend!! Been a fan since “Nice and Slow!” 🔥

[@legojedimasterplokoon2173]

The basic strategy behind the inside handoff rush is that the offensive lineman block, creating a gap for the runningback to get through. This play is usually "safer" than other plays and will often result in getting a few yards with results of no yards and a lot of yards both being relatively rare. This is because the rb is running straight forward and never back or to the side, which is necessary for most plays, but at the same time is directly engaging with the are with the most defenders

[@SilentMute0515]

QT calling usher mid actually made me cover my mouth I was like "ohhh hell nooo..."

[@celinec3107]

Listening to this on my walk home in the dark so I feel less scared! Thanks maya and qt for keeping me comfy during my dark walk home

[@AkJakolantern]

For the second question, i think about Stavros Halkis' advice. Your goal when youre anxious and worried about talking with a woman is just getting rejections. Dont worry about landing a date, or a hook up, or even getting/giving out a number. Just get a rejection, eventually you'll be desensitized to rejection, and you can just focus on being yourself. The hardest thing is overcoming the fesr of rejection

[@t-liminal]

Slowly turning into the "Maya comforts QT" podcast, with really funny topics.

[@HalfwaytoYellow]

If my husband brought home a smiley face rock, I would name it and make it my pet, and let it live on my desk where I can always see it. Maya, you are not alone. ❤

[@z.r.r4593]

My ex girlfriend got me a rock that she painted I love you on - and that was the most special gift I ever got.

[@noahstoner851]

For those that don’t know why the football players “just run straight into each other”. The truth is that’s not literally what’s happening. The men on the line, when their team has the ball are actually trying to PUSH the other team either left or right. Each play has a specific plan for which gap between players the runner will run through, and it’s his teams job to create enough space for him. If they don’t create enough space, it’s because the person they’re pushing is stronger- and that’s when plays fail, and ultimately ends up showing which team is stronger overall and which is weaker.

[@torrix4593]

I just wanted to weigh in a bit on the "husband wants open relationship" part. While I would never be able to be in an open relationship personally, I do feel that if there is to be an open relationship, that is something that is determined either when the relationship starts or shortly after it has started. If a husband of 2 years wants/suggests one, I'm sorry to say, but that man probably doesn't wanna be with you anymore but still want you as an 'option', and if you were to get with someone he would have issues with it.

[@DeathClawz]

Anecdotal, but yeah my ex asked about opening up and I found out a few days later that she'd been cheating on me for awhile and was trying to bring them in.

[@PinHeadSupliciumwtf]

The gift thing. It's not even about giving valuable stuff. It's about reminders/tokens of proof that you thought about her (enough to get her a gift). Some people might hear giving gifts an have some sort of gold digger alarm go off. If they care about the value of it it might have point otherwise just try any small token of appreciation/thought.

[@CocoaHerBeansness]

yeah I'd be thrilled if someone brought me a nice rock. it doesn't even need a smiley face if it was already a great rock.

[@cosmonutts2644]

Qt saying that usher grabing alicia keys is okay, was crazzyyy HAHAH

[@jakefine5917]

I JUST STARTED PLAYING INFINITE CRAFT AS THE POD STARTED AND I MADE WINE AFTER CHANTING WINE ABOUT IT, WINE ABOUT IT

[@Butterbeak]

i would LOVE the rock as a gift. i want a smooth rock friend to hold and put in my pocket - "a pebble that we picked up last july, down deep inside my pocket..." taylor swift likes rocks too!

[@AllanDatGuy]

About the first relationship advice question. The guy might be aromantic which is not feeling romantic attraction, in that case not having romantic feelings for anyone. I think I'm on the aromantic spectrum since I've never felt romantic attraction or crushes growing up. That might change after dating more but idk.

[@torrix4593]

It's also important to note that even if you are aromantic that doesn't mean that you don't want to have a relationship with anyone, I'm not aromantic so please do correct me if I'm incorrect about something but they can very well still feel a longing and want for a relationship with someone, that closeness is something most humans want in some capacity. Either way anything is valid as long as it's what you want

[@AllanDatGuy]

@torrix4593 You're right. Wanting a relationship is an individual's choice. Could be connected to other aspects of course. Personally speaking, I still want a relationship, but not having felt romantic or sexual feelings for anyone ever feels tough.

[@sajajaja-ou3qx]

I love that the party went good for qt!!! though I hope she had some fun as well aside from cooking, cleaning and taking care of everyone ! also what maya said about them running into eachother instead of somewhere else (I think), it’s bc of their plays ! every defense and offense have their own planned plays that they follow lol

[@sajajaja-ou3qx]

usher WAS wilding OUTTT.. I didn’t even know he just got married but after learning that..😭😭😭 props to her husband for being so secure

[@inexorableveracity]

I normally wouldn't comment anything till after watching the vid, if I comment at all, but that first second of QT was really funny. Keep it up my dudes.

[@Nonresponder01]

Maya is the weird one for not having a little jig. Everyone's gotta have a little jig. Mine is like QTs, except I add an extra finger dance from pointed up, to retracted, to horizontal, retracted, repeat

[@DeathClawz]

When someone asks me if I dance: "Uh, yeah, of course" ✊☝️✊👈✊☝️✊👉 Yeah I don't dance lol

[@mikey172]

I don't understand dudes that get annoyed explaining football. I love explaining it, genuinely one of my favorite things. I think those guys just don't know ball and being asked about it upsets them.

[@Mrcoconacho]

As someone who recently moved to the US, the more I listen to this and other similar podcasts, the more I realize that the bar for men to be a good bf is so low. Everything QT and Maya talk about here (especially when it comes to gift giving) seems more like common human decency/respect than something you do for your SO. I hope everyone had a good Valentine's day :) Please do not settle for men who make you unhappy.

[@kylebennett5095]

My gf would absolutely melt if I gave her a rock with a face painted on it, every time we go on a hike she hides fist sized rocks in my bag as a gift.

[@JustACrows]

I think Maya would probably prefer watching rugby than football, there is more movement of the ball and less stoppages

[@FilipG-hy3sx]

I feel like you shouldn't approach people from the opposite sex with all of the expectations of rizzing them up and trying to start a relationship. Just treat them like a human being and try to get to know them and then you can decide if you are even interested.

[@Gregorious4]

36:25 you’re gonna have to teach me some haven lineups because girl you are radiant

[@CameramanI88]

48:48 I laughed when a QT said this, and then laughed more when Maya had no reaction and was just like, “That’s right.”

[@somethingwitty87-f8t]

Maya gives me such hippie druid vibe and i love her for it ❤😊

[@NicelyWhypped]

Superbowl segment and takes from Maya MIND NUMBING as expected ily girls ❤

[@maccamachine]

Happy valentine this is the best gift today. Me and my friend were at work during the Super Bowl and put the tv on Nickelodeon’s showing of the game. It was the exact same game and everything except commentated by SpongeBob and Patrick and made to look like it was in bikini bottom that made it much more entertaining and the fact we had other people watching that version of the game

[@bibubbletea]

People if you don’t know what to say in a letter, look up a cute fact about something they like, like their favorite animal or a place they want to visit and write it down and say that it made you thought they would like it. That would make me kick my feet like a schoolgirl and it’s a simple way to fill up a little space in a card if you truly can’t think of much touchy feely stuff (but you do have to still include a compliment or two and tell them you’re glad they’re in your life or something)

[@ninin11]

the rock with a smiley face would make me melt yes

[@mattwho42]

The Kelce ambush on Reid was ridiculous. There was zero respect for the coach there. On our sports radio (Boston), they mentioned that if Kelce did that to Belichick, Kelce would have been benched and probably wouldn't be playing in any games. That's how you lose respect from your leadership and your locker room.

[@DeathClawz]

Do we know what he was yelling about? I didn't watch but I assume not, unless someone said afterwards, since you only hear them if there's an interviewer.

[@emilyhaworth895]

What QT described reminds me of limerence which is common with OCD (specifically ROCD) and ive had it from time to time. it can be really hard to get over it, even when its just a crush

[@1415carter]

The rock gift would make me melt! W Maya

[@jcbthegreat]

Confessions Usher is such a classic album. no skippable tracks.

[@konumbra]

I did that exact same thing qt talked about the journals, I think it's healthy to get out the feelings!

[@ilznidiotic]

The running into the other team thing is because they're hoping their teammates in front of them will move the other guys out of the way so they can run past them. It just kind of doesn't work that often.

[@shoshanahelek]

I think Maya's advice for talking to women if you are scared was great. Its important to think of women as normal people, It's helpful advice for a lot of phobias. When you start to see something you are irrationally afraid of as normal its not so scary anymore, just like how normalizing bugs or reptiles to people who are afraid of them can be helpful.

[@sajajaja-ou3qx]

note for all men: if u see an attractive woman in the parking lot and u want to say hi or wtv DO NOT FOLLOW HER😭! I’ve seen so many videos of women talking about men following them to their car to ask for their number or introduce themselves or whatever without I guess realizing how scary it must seem as the girl and it’s crazy😭😭😭 putting yourself out there is always good! there’s just a time and place and especially place😭

[@JuriRs]

QT using Mykonos as an alibi got me howling 😂

[@eli.vzq464]

I forgot today was wednesday!!!! Wine about it! 🎶

[@wooden_girl]

12:36 this whole part has me cackling maya is aubrey fr

[@kate2706]

“tell your husband we hate him” 😭😭😭

[@mrlobyou]

when maya said the things about football being boring i got sad for some reason but then she said she likes watching basketball and it made me happy cuz basketball is goated 😺😺😺😺

[@NotDad]

I have run the rock once and it was insane. She actually teared up.

[@sharknadofartquake2449]

I'm ALL ASS and HOLE!! As a TROMBARIST with NOICE TALENT PLEASE DON'T FEEL GROSS AND WEIRD REACTING TO ME MAYO!!

[@m.czandogg9576]

11:37 Great sequence lol 55:41 Nice "The Yard" reference, QT :D

[@ArtMontef]

I love QT but every time I learn about Swifties through this podcast the more repulsed I am how cultish all this is lmao. God if they could kiss the ground this woman walks on they would

[@KCAssassin98]

As someone from kc that game was tense as hell. Super close as well boring is crazy.

[@theminecraft4202]

i'm with Maya for the rock i would giggle and melt if i got a rock friend

[@erwinhun]

My only way to talk to women is the non-scripted random conversation that happens mostly because we happen to be at the same place at the same time. Just like I talk to dudes, or whoever.

[@Djoowie6]

god damnit, so i did try the script for talking to a girl. but she couldnt find me on socials cause i am not actually called Bill .. thanks for the advice anyways! ;p

[@Klust413]

It's like Maya completely forgot there's an entire group meant to keep the offense from scoring that are well paid professionals as well.

[@caprisuncoi]

i love maya so much. she is my number one favorite streamer but she does have a bad attitude 😭😂

[@z.r.r4593]

Maya that’s the running back. The players in the middle try to push eachother out of the way for the running back.

[@ETK_]

QT taught us to smoke, Ludwig taught us to pack TF UP

[@Ph0enix7373]

I have to rewatch the advice segment of this pod the next time that I am in a relationship

[@TonyRobetson]

i will still overthink but this was good stuff to hear. love the script and smiley rock ideas the most!

[@musicdaph]

I'm on Maya's side, I'd LOVE a smiley face rock every month

[@wolfloverify]

Maya, I wish I could have been there to answer your football questions. Your complaints about football are valid.

[@Loading4.4]

If someone gave me a rock like a cute little penguin id cherish it forever

[@GiratinaForce]

maya’s jodi merch 🥹

[@VermisTerrae]

I'm dirt poor and have poverty brain pretty bad. I do like it when people give me gifts, but I'm tremendously insecure about people spending money on me. I'm working on it in therapy, lol. I say all that because gifts don't have to be huge or expensive to be meaningful (at least imo). I'm really into foraging and nature stuff, and one time my partner came home from a walk and give me a small handful of acorns. Another time it was a green intact sweet gum seed ball. They were free and little things, but they were tiny treasures to me :) Not to mention that they were temporary in nature and I wouldn't feel guilt eventually composting them outside. Sometimes receiving and posessing more and more items is a burden, or just flat out wasteful and uncessesary. So I guess I'm the perfect recipient of a rock gift, lol. If my partner found a nice rock and put a smiley face on it and gave it to me, I would think it was tremenduosly sweet. Any time I'd look at the rock I'd think of them, and ESPECIALLY think of the fact that they took the time to find a nice rock and put a smiley face on it just so that it would brighten my day.

[@OriQurosy]

I would melt if someone got me a rock. Especially since i’ve loved collecting rocks since in was little.

[@arplejuice]

Highly recommend if you have time Sul & beans across the street from the wiltern for Korean shaved ice

[@DannyboiTO]

QT in 3 weeks has said Megan Thee Stallion wasn't actually calling out Nicki in her diss track, gave Viva Las Vegas to Sinatra, and called Usher, one of the greatest entertainers of all time, mid. I love it.

[@Rynodino]

46:55 I’m with maya. I’ve got a shelf of rocks

[@kingmeverse5861]

GREAT EPISODE! HAD ME GIGGLIN

[@corro202]

Amazing podcast.

[@elora512]

I'm very much terrified of men coming up to me. I've only ever had awful experiences, just yesterday some man came up to me to talk about breeding and genitalia, I was too scared to show negative reactions because I was on a boat ride and there was nowhere to go where I couldn't escape him in case he was unstable. So I was a little worried about their advice, but I genuinely like QT's advice and that exact script.

[@richardsrandomadventures]

i think the reason approaching women in public is hard, is because hardly anyone does this, women especially. I'm an ok, friendly looking guy. I've never in my life been approached by a woman when I was alone, just to chat. Doesn't happen. We're not very social, men and women aren't that different in this regard, everyone will just sit alone. But the world opens up to anyone that can overcome this, you can become very popular just by talking to randoms in public.

[@bxbydrxgxn]

I agree with Maya on the rock thing it's cute

[@AshKay131]

I’d be happy with a cute rock, but I relate to Maya’s love of nature so I might be biased

[@jojobean45]

Can confirm the rock thing works wonders haha

[@ErnieZee]

36:00 you're sweet Maya but speaking from experience this approach is really soul-crushing. If you're just some Paul you're gonna get rejected hundreds of times before any girl gives you time. That's just reality. Women are very picky and you need to stand out. Even if they are introvertic you have to be outgoing and engaging. Unless you're dating 40+.

[@ramen833]

To the woman who is looking for how to move on, here is my advice if you are interested: stop focusing on the good times and all the things you like about them. Focus on the stuff you would be settling for by potentially being with them (like constant anxiety and uncertainty). Focus on all the times you felt bad with them and because of them and don’t allow yourself to sit in thoughts of good times and stuff you like about them. Then decide, if you are in love with this person who clearly does not feel the same way about you, can you move on with your life if you’re still clutching onto this relationship? In the end, this is YOUR life. This person is not the center of your universe. You were fine before this person, you’ll be great after them. Rooting for you!

[@Doctor_of_Fartiology]

Sooo what if Travis Kelce wasn't yelling at his head coach but was actually saying "VIVA LAS VEGAS!... VIVA LAS VEGAS.... VIVA... VIVA... LAS VEGAAAS!!!" Does that neutralize the "Ick" factor? 🤔

[@acool1356]

Thank you, i actually needed this

[@VespaTTV]

Yeah idk the cold opens are so tricky because yes the idea of having a script probably helps a lot but it's more the matter of timing? Is it *really* appropriate to do that at a coffee shop than a bar? I'm always assuming people are very busy and trying to move on to the next location/objective so it feels rude to impose that conversation onto them. This could even be applied to a bar, but at least there are more subtle ways to make your presence known (i.e. buying a drink for someone across the room).

[@spockola]

I'm very practical, says person who dropped 4K to watch the Grammys from space.

[@ferth2315]

26:14 Pretty sure this guy is just aromantic

[@lausiv2783]

maya what hoodie are you rocking it looks comfy

[@CrabbyDarth]

my two cents on the open relationship query: if you are not comfortable w being in an open relationship - then you shouldn't be in one in the same way, if you're not comfortable w being in a closed relationship, you shouldn't be in one either this goes for mono- and polyamorous relationships too. and there are always people who have similar feelings as you, and you shouldn't try to push it one way or the other