OUR THOUGHTS ON BABY #3...

[@blairlittle7854]

Thank you for sharing...I recently suffered two miscarriages in a row.. pregnant again now only about 5 weeks and praying for this one to stick 🙏 👶 would love prayers from anyone who does so! Love to all mamas and women! 💘💘

[@lydiamhir6543]

Praying for you!

[@amandaarmas6353]

Praying for you and baby 💙💗

[@Everaftercakery]

Prayers to you sweetie 🥰 🙏🏻

[@Issyrc18]

Praying for you 💕🙏🏻

[@cindycaraballo5573]

Prayers your way! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@staceyhookins3433]

Such a brave and vulnerable video. Sending you the biggest hug.

[@camilya20]

I am 41 and my husband is 43 I had my son at 40. The regret feeling is real. I have a 22 and a 16 year old and my husband and I had that same conversation. He didn't want to at first, but after he thought about it, he was ok, because he understood that we both are getting older and if there was a inkling of a feeling that we were ok with having another baby....well we did. We started over and it was such a blessing. I also did not want to regret not doing it. Just my short story.

[@Sarah-qn7fr]

It annoys me when people ask when people are having a/another baby. You don’t know what that person maybe going through. They may not be able to have kids, they may have had a miscarriage. Being asked could really hurt them. I love watching your videos and you have an amazing family.

[@carmenh2168]

I honestly understand your reasoning but people are just curious as she’s such a great mom and she’s saved her previous kids things so people are just excited and curious as that comes naturally when watching someone’s life like this. But as Kayla mentioned she’s completely okay with sitting down and talking about this and if she wasn’t she wouldn’t do it :)

[@Sarah-qn7fr]

@@carmenh2168 she is ok with it but slot of people arnt. I am talking bigger picture here. Not up for an argument just airing my view and feelings

[@carmenh2168]

@@Sarah-qn7fr I understand, I’m just saying as long as she is comfortable since this is her channel and life she’s sharing. I’m happy with that :)

[@manehbag732]

I get your point completely. But it's also a normal question and we should alwayssssssss strive not to take others questions so personally and in a hurt way. Life sucks when we approach it that way

[@kimberlylott8612]

I agree 100% I hate this question so much. I kept a cancer scare secret from others that ended up being ok but I had a period of time where my fertility may have been taken away. I had surgery and was able to get pregnant a few months later. But before getting pregn people kept freakin asking why I don't have kids and I didn't want to say what was going on. Yes people don't ask this question. You don't know who you may hurt. Now I have questions about when is number 2 coming and I'm done because my cancer could come back unless I have a hysterectomy and now I'm hurt on another level because I did want to have a 2nd kid

[@sammac92]

just putting some thoughts im having out there.... i just dont feel like you would need to try as soon as Jackson turns two. maybe wait an extra year and see how it goes with the two kids... maybe it will get a lot easier on you when hes closer to three to start trying. and maybe your husband at that point would be on board. baby#3's book doesnt need to be closed but maybe put it on the shelf for a little bit. i have three younger siblings and im closest with my brother whos 7 years younger than me. the age gaps dont need to be 2,3 years. maybe just wait it out.

[@meganc3090]

My mom wanted 3 kids, but my dad didnt 😕. I always wanted a younger sibling too. (Im youngest of 2). My mom still regrets not having a 3rd baby. God knows whats in store for you. Pray and ask for His guidance and peace in what He is leading you to do. 💗

[@Kpachm]

I’m just throwing this out there and it’s definitely something that you would want to personally think and pray about and discuss with your husband. My husband and I use natural family planning when we are not trying for a child. With great attention and care it’s very effective and for me it feels less like a door has been shut. When we are being open to life but not really feeling like ttc, we are coming together at times that I cannot conceive in my cycle. To me, this is great because it’s being open to the idea that if God wants another child for us, we aren’t necessarily preventing it, but at the same time if you are not absolutely ready for another child you are putting the odds in favor of not conceiving. I don’t think I did this explanation justice haha but to me and my husband it has been a beautiful way to honor God’s choices for our family while still respecting each other’s wishes for our family. It takes a lot of pressure off the decision too. It’s just up to God and if he wants another child in our family he will provide. Super personal choice though!

[@lynn5505]

I do this too! And it works!

[@clairesanders1456]

We use NFP too! I have 3 children so far and I have very difficult pregnancies so we are very careful when we need to be spacing children. It works for us as a couple for peace of mind body and spirit 💕

[@mylovelydream8828]

This is so beautiful and true 💜 my husband and I practice this too for the most part.

[@hollyiman8931]

Kayla, thank you for your honesty and opening up in this subject. God will give you what is yours, but praying about it is everything!

[@katherinesilva6981]

Ok so because you put it out there, The reality is a newborn takes a toll on a marriage, It’s impossible to not put all your energy into that. Joe probably wants to start focusing on you and you on him now, it’s time to strengthen and rebuild your relationship after the last 2 babies. Your mental health took a hit and you’re still recovering, focusing on yourself is the most important to give you’re family the best of you. I understand that you are very religious and that is beautiful but sometimes the signs god sends can also not be for what you want (I hope that make sense) timing is everything and this might not be the right time. You’re allowed to feel how you feel it will take time before you start to see it from his perspective but yeah I also think realistically I’m pro small families, better chances of setting up your kids financially, easier to give your kid attention and to bond also less to be anxious about.

[@tyharman_]

There’s no rush for a third and having to have a small age gap. Just because he doesn’t want to now doesn’t mean that’s it. Just give it more time. There’s nothing wrong with having a 4-5 year age gap.

[@GoodBadBeautifulLife]

Thank you so much for sharing so honestly. Everything you said was me and our family. When our second started kindergarten we both felt the same way, two and done, super blessed and happy, sold all the baby/toddler gear, and agreed on vasectomy. Then the month before I turned 34 bam, surprise baby #3, who we do not have the space for in our house, or the money for in our budget, but he's sleeping on my chest as I watch your video and........you just never know what life is going to bring from one day to the next. 💕

[@lesley8655]

did you have baby #3 with the vasectomy? 🥵

[@GoodBadBeautifulLife]

@@lesley8655 I should have clarified - no, we had just made the vasectomy decision but it hadn't been done yet! I hope those stories are super rare!

[@lindseygundersen3951]

I completely understand what you’re going through! My husband and I only have 1 and he doesn’t want another one. I’ve accepted it but I’m still mourning it at the same time. It’s hard!

[@subifuwant9583]

A very powerful talk from a very powerful woman!

[@BriTeaches]

Our 2 girls are 10 years apart. That is how long it took me to recover from the newborn and toddler stage. I will not do it again. Having small children slows you down so much. I can't wait for my 18 month old to turn 3 so life can be more predictable. I love my baby, I just hate this stage and, mentally, I cannot do it again.

[@aprilsummers9930]

I feel for you so much. I had my first son and always dreamed of having another baby. Then I ended up with a partner that was adamant he didn’t want kids. He was happy helping me raise my one son. I spent years regretting not having more. I finally told my partner that I was stopping birth control and that it was on him to prevent pregnancy if he didn’t want it 😬 For seven years we didn’t do anything to prevent pregnancy yet I never got pregnant. I Felt like I had finally accepted that it wouldn’t happen, as I was getting ready for my first to move away to college. Then we got the surprise of a lifetime. Now I have one son that is almost 21 years old and one son that is 16 months old. I wish I could have one more but between my age and a bad back it wouldn’t be a good idea. I am so so thankful that I got a chance to go through all the stages again. I love being a mother. Thank you for being open and honest.

[@thyrathompson720]

Kayla, when I watched this video, I felt we were sitting on the living room couch with a glass of wine, talking and addressing everything I was going through. I have two kids(boy and girl) and recently one of my cousin had a baby.. I was sad because looking at her newborn being so tiny and cute, it had me thinking if I REALLY wanted more kids. You have touch on every thought and I could have related to you in every aspect. However, reality hit me soooo hard and I realized that both financially and my mental health, I know I had to put those thoughts to rest. THANK YOU for sharing this video. Where I am from in the Caribbean, people would have this mentality... if you have a boy and a girl, you should be done having kids as now you would have your "pair" and having a third would be an injustice as you would need to go for a fourth lol. My grandmother had 13 kids :) but really appreciate you opening up like this.

[@MsJdominic]

I literally just had that conversation with my husband. He has a 12 year old son and we have a 10 month old baby girl. From since before we had her he had been saying that he doesn't want any more kids. Now that she is here he is in love with her. So I told him that when she's 2.5years I think it would be good that we have another and he's on the fence about it. So I definitely understand how you feel. It's something we have to pray about and leave it to God. He knows exactly what we need and can or cannot handle. You got this Kayla

[@susanberberian3718]

I have no children by choice and when people ask me about it, I say, "There are regrets either way." If you have doubts, don't choose to be selfish. If you're not all in with kids, don't have more. Enjoy the ones you have.

[@adeline5688]

For me 2 is perfect, I have a boy 3 girl 1 and it’s the perfect set. I’m getting my tubes tide. My view is I don’t want to split my attention even more and this world is crazy it’s hard enough having kids in general. Plus I want to be able to travel and have time with my husband not spend our whole married life raising kids. Just another perspective

[@safiyas.2546]

Same!!!

[@mamababyrn5674]

This! 🙌 I feel the same way even though I desire to have a third. I want to experience the world and travel with my husband and children. The more you have the harder it is to do those things.

[@lesley-sheena68]

This was a tough one... giving you virtual hugs and letting you know that all your feelings are valid. You've got the right things in place to navigate thus next season; prayer, therapy, friends, family and Joe. Thanks for sharing your heart with us

[@laurasteffanina9258]

Going through this right now, my heart hurts. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone feeling this way and that you ended up with beautiful Sean. God has my plans for me, and it’s hard to let go of that control. Thank you for sharing Kayla

[@sarapnina]

Oh God Kayla, I am almost crying here. I wanted 3 kids as well, but probably will only have two because of financial reasons. So I feel for you! 💔

[@Sunflower.Sailing]

Same here! Except I have one. It wouldn’t be wise to have baby #2 :( I want to so bad thoooo

[@CWall-tv7gm]

@@Sunflower.Sailing I HATE that women have to sacrifice having children because of money. We had to space our babies every 5 years because of cost of daycare. I hate how finances and cost of daycare dictate our lives

[@brigittabottlik7042]

@@CWall-tv7gm Which country are you in? We have the same issue. We need a 5year age gap so my daughter can be in school by the time I have the second. She is only 2 now though still plenty of time until then. She is absolutely enough for me but so much want her to have a forever friend, someone she can trust and adore and talk to through her life even when we get old with hubby. I always wanted small age gap but then covid happened and then financial issues and now we clearly can see we have to wait another 3years ...

[@dacebukane1623]

I hope you'll have another baby when Joe is ready! ❤️ You are a great mom, wishing you all the best!!!

[@tvil8]

all the other mom vlogs say the same thing, the transition from 2 to 3 is the hardest - theyre outnumbered. also i had my first and only kid at 32 and things get harder as u get older. my body hurts all the time getting up and down with her, lifting her, running around with her.... it would have been easier in my 20s no doubt

[@discopumps]

What?! You’re 32 not an OAP!

[@meganschutte1674]

@@discopumps what’s an OAP?

[@discopumps]

@@meganschutte1674 old age pensioner…..!!

[@ashlysanchez2174]

God has everything already planned out in the palm of his hand. Don’t stress if it’s meant to be everything will go as planned with a job opening for joe. You’re in my prayers thanks for always being honest 💗

[@TheYghani1]

In my opinion a 3 year gap is still too small. I have 3 kids with 3 years gap between all of them and by far my hardest transition for me was 2 going to 3, by far! You are still very young and have many years ahead so can afford to wait a few more years.

[@Ayzlin]

Interesting. I have a 3 year age gap and I love it. My oldest is pretty independent so it's been an easy transition, going from 1 to 2 kids.

[@greenhomestead6305]

You’re still young. You can wait little more to see how comfortable you both are about this topic. Maybe in a few months or year Joe may change his mind or you may. Pray about it. God always answers and guides those who seek His help.

[@anaisroque4470]

We’re on the same boat over here! We have two kiddos. A 3 year old boy and an 18 month girl. After I had my daughter I was like we’re DONE! But now I have baby fever! My husband is a no go for baby #3. My emotional side really wants one, however when I logically think about it, having another baby will make life much more difficult for us. Since we have a boy and girl, we’re already going to have to be divided as far as activities for them (baseball/dance/swimming/gymnastics…etc). Both our kids are happy and healthy, so why tempt faith? Hard conversations to have tho. 😢

[@mathiog56]

I just wanted to thank you for being so honest about your feelings, even if you don't understand all of them. I lost my first baby 23 weeks into my pregnancy. I'm thankful that I have a healthy child now but I still had a difficult pregnancy. I'm conflicted because I worry about and yet strongly feel I need to have more children so my heart goes out to you. I also wanted to let you know that I've been following your journey as a mom and enjoy your videos because my little girl is a month younger than your darling Jackson. It's been great to see a little preview of what I can expect at each age. I couldn't have a mother's group during Covid so you've been a great inspiration to me as a new mom. Thank you! ❤

[@alguiennose6330]

Kayla you are still young! Maybe 3 years down the road Joe will feel prepared for another baby! Time goes by so fast!

[@mandysteffan2958]

Girl, this is one of those times I wish I could chat with you for real like actual girlfriends. But I just want to let you know I'm with you.

[@tiesssa1]

I think its so great that you say you have so much more love to give- and I think there are so many ways for you to use that love in the world. Jackson and Riley will be going out into the world, making a group of friends that you will get to know and love, you can be involved in their classrooms or activities, etc. There are so many ways other than another child that you can take that love and do beautiful things with it in the world!

[@maryanne.sanders]

You are both so young, and it’s inspiring to see you follow the lead of your husband. The Lord will change his heart or yours with time and prayer 💕

[@karoosten232]

We all have so many “what if this, what if that” I do it alll the time! Time changes everything! If you’re meant to have 3 or 4 or 5 then you will! “Give it to God.” You don’t have to solve this 🙌🏼

[@yajairagarcia1617]

Amen 🙏🙌

[@NicoleStephaniepr]

It's a very hard conversation, but i think it would be a very BIGGER regret to have a 3rd and loose your marriage because one of you can't handle it😔

[@NicoleLottLife]

Exactly! It’s very hard on a marriage.

[@SarahNavarro10]

This is a great point!

[@mamababyrn5674]

My husband and I have talked about this also. I desire to have 1 more. My husband is a hard no. We currently have a 4 year old boy and a 2 month old girl. We know it would make it that much harder on our marriage. We both have demanding jobs plus being pregnant I am always higher risk due to having chronic hypertension thats genetically based. Its hard to think about this potentially being the end to this stage of life. Im putting it in the perspective of God that I trust His plans. Im greatful for the healthy children I have because I know not everyone can have that unfortunately. Plus I want our children to have what I did not have growing up. And the more children, the harder it is to give them those things. And not to sound selfish but I always have had a desire to travel to different places and adding more and more would make it impossible to afford traveling. Or even to do fun things. Or go out to eat!

[@NicoleStephaniepr]

@@mamababyrn5674 your point is completely valid and i agree❤️ enjoy life mama!

[@7823jennifer]

I totally understand the "roll the dice " thought! I struggle with this when I think about trying for a third.❤️

[@maylenetain4572]

I can 100% relate to this Kayla and you are not alone, my daughter is also 19 months old and she is our first. I always dreamed that I would have two kids and my husband knew this even before we started dating. But after we had our first he suddenly shut off and said one was enough, he loves our daughter to the moon and back but felt that it was enough for him. But I didn't go through my pregnancy, labour and all her milestones thinking that it was going to be the last time 🥲 and we are only 29 so to me I feel like I'm still missing part of my life and don't know how to grieve over the "what ifs"

[@NicoleLottLife]

I know exactly how you feel. So I have two, a boy and a girl & my daughter was/is so hard that both my boyfriend and I have basically come to the conclusion we are good with two. We just can’t handle anymore and I need to sleep at some point in my life lol. Even though I knew in my own heart that I can’t mentally handle anymore, when we talked about it, hearing him say he doesn’t want anymore hurt for some reason. It was realizing I will never have another baby again, and I still get sad sometimes, BUT I know if we ignored our good judgement and had another anyway- yes we would love that baby but we would be so stressed out and stretched so thin it just would not be a good situation on either of us mentally. More babies is always a blessing, BUT you have to know what you can mentally handle as individuals and a couple and honor that. Joe saw how much you struggled with Jackson, so he knows a 3rd would not be any easier lol. I know it’s sad, but your two live breathing kids need the best versions of both of you ❤️

[@mackenzienelson6997]

I am there with you and have had all the same conflicting thoughts. Deciding on children and how big your family should be is so so hard. My husband and I have one 2 year old and spent a lot of time talking about do we want to adopt or foster or have another baby. I was wanting to have another baby myself and my husband wanted to adopt so we were on different pages for a while and took a long time going back to it over the past 6 months. There are no easy answers. You are absolutely not alone in having these conversations and having a difficult to time figuring it out. Stay strong, and maybe give yourself a few months to put it out of your mind (if that helps you - I get obsessive about things and need to allow myself to stop thinking about them) then reassess your and Joe's thoughts about it later. You're an amazing mom and person. Virtual hugs!

[@achristine2195]

Have you ever thought of maybe going through an agency and hiring a part time nanny, just so you can have some relief sometimes? Doesn't even have to be a lot, maybe just twice a week. I totally get being scared to leave your kids with a stranger, but a lot of companies background check and you can call references to check them out and have them come and interact with the kids to see if it's a good fit. It's okay to be scared and to be extra picky and careful when it comes to who watches your kids, but maybe it's worth looking into a part time nanny.

[@jessicaknapp6049]

I just wanted to come and say that you are a rockstar!! Very brave of you to share this. I love your videos, and often my husband is in the room and always asks how you do everything that you do with 2 littles running around. We only have 1, and can barely keep it together sometimes! Whatever decision you and your husband come to in the future will be the right one for your family at that point in time. I also wanted to share with you that my one year old has been stuck home most of his life because of COVID, and he loves seeing your babies on the screen! It's almost like they're his friends and he loves watching them play. I can't be the only one who often has a baby watching also, so in a way you're already impacting so many babies/kids in such a positive way! My little guy hasn't gotten to interact with other babies, and I can tell he's actually learning from Riley and Jackson and loves seeing other humans his age! Thank you for all of the content you work so hard to create, and I think I speak for all of us when I say that we are all rooting for you in whatever will be the very best for you and your family, now and always 🥰

[@JH-tv8zg]

I am pregnant with my second and I already know in my heart this is all I want. I am done after this pregnancy and my husband agrees. If he wanted more, I still wouldn't. I'm 32 and I feel old lol.

[@jessicaely2521]

Wait until you're 37 😂😂😂😂. I have a daughter and I had her at 35. For me personally kids keep me young.

[@cafedulce6545]

2 is enough

[@anniegoodwin2412]

I just turned 23 and I have a 4 and 1 year old. I feel old 99% of the time lol

[@TheDivineblessin]

Same here on my second pregnancy and I’m done 😂😂 and I’m only 28

[@marijamataic4614]

Are you....me? Girl same!!

[@lucaspetshop9143]

I believe your husband is súper down to earth by not wanting to have a third child.

[@claudiavillanueva1798]

Hello. I totally understand everything your saying. There’s always the what if when your trying to figure out the right decision.I’m sorry that joe is not in the same page as you. But my advice is to pray about it and god will work with you and your family. Pray for future decisions and God knows what’s perfect for you and your family. God bless you

[@Jjlavids]

Questioning “that’s it? I’m done having babies?” Is so heavy on the Heart! Ugh I feel the same. I wanted a big family but it’s just me and my husband too and no other help. So so so hard. 😣😣😣😣 I hope a good resolutions comes to be for us because the thought of “being done” doesn’t settle with my heart very well. 😫

[@Shiharaariel]

You do have plenty of time at least! I had just turned 36 when I fell pregnant easily with my FIRST and I’ve ALWAYS wanted THREE kids! I’m hoping to conceive a second soon! 💕

[@thebjm1967]

I was also 36! My little guy is almost 2 now and I wish I would have started sooner. But I’m so thankful for him!

[@deandraking3751]

Thank you so much for your honesty you are one of the few moms on her I’m subscribed to that are sooo transparent and honest even when it hurts and I couldn’t thank you enough❣️ praying for you and your family continue to keep God close.

[@judithbuchanan9566]

Awwwwww Kayla😭😭😭😭😭😭. I just want to reach through the screen & give you a GIANT hug. You had me in tears😢. Thank you for sharing your heart ❤️ with us. No matter what you & Joe decide to do, know that we your followers LOVE 💗 & support you♥️♥️♥️.

[@MeganSaidThis]

A lot of things to consider, like POTENTIAL physical changes with subsequent births. Women never ever talk about POP (pelvic organ prolapse) I just wish I had been told, severe ones are bad maybe might be worth a look.. I know women tell other women not to "scare" women about pregnancy and birthing but I think when you go through something you want others to be more informed than you were. I wish I'd been told how bad it could be!

[@mollycloverblog7140]

This video from you could not have come at a better time. My husband and I had this conversation pretty much exactly the same only going from 1 kid to 2 kids. Thinking of you. Its kind of a grieving process I think. Grieving for the idea in your head of a big family. Hopefully you'll find peace in the decisions you come to. I don't think in the long run you'll regret any decision you guys come to because you'll always feel blessed for the family you have xxx

[@heatherdoyle7903]

Aww Kayla don't cry, I'm a mum of 3 ranging from 19 months old to 16 years old. My older 2 only have 20 months between them and with them both now being teenagers they are harder than the 19 month old. I can't imagine having anymore teenagers at the same time I have aged so much and really miss them being young and lovely. It was also very hard having them so close together and I'm glad that I have my little one and at first I was worried about starting all over again. I would suggest just enjoy Riley and Jackson at the moment and if it's meant to be it will be, the 2 older ones do adore the baby and I'm glad not to have all 3 as babies or teens! Sending hugs ❤️

[@siennawerner98]

I loved this! My heart is with you mama 💛 it’s so hard to make big decisions like this - we’re here for ya!

[@GivesMelissasABadName]

I am only halfway through your video and I’m sitting here crying because I am in the EXACT same situation, except my kids are one more year apart than yours. My son will be two in February, and I feel like the “you know what” made it difficult to really enjoy the baby stage knowing that it would be my last time with all of that. Maybe it’s just always normal to feel that way regardless. I think people always mean well when they ask questions like this, but it’s really important to remember that these are all the emotions someone can be working through behind that decision. Thanks for a great video. Needed to hear this today. ❤️

[@lolar780]

My Joe was also frozen to try again after we lost our daughter to a genetic condition at 22 days old. He was terrified. Yet, we have an older son, and we both knew we would regret not trying again, even if more heartbreak was involved because of our genetics. Our little miracle, Leo, was our first accidental pregnancy in 25 years (yes, we’re high school sweethearts). He is a month younger than Jackson, and it still blows my mind that he is here. I longed for him and shed so many tears. I’m a mama of three, with only two on earth. There are 10 years between our sons, which was never the plan. They have taught me so much is outside of our control. We never know what the future will bring. Just some food for thought. Love to you as you process all of this, and for being vulnerable enough to share thoughts many others have. ❤️

[@lotte90]

Sweetie, I just hope that no matter what you’ll be happy and healthy and have each other. ❤️ You never know what happens in life, regardless of whether you end up making one choice or another, you’re doing amazing.

[@MarilennyPina]

Gosh im crying 😭😭 im going through this in my mind right now! Praying for you💕

[@angelymiguel652]

Idk if I’m broken or something but I have a 10 month old and I guess since Postpartum was hard on me mentally and Breastfeeding was hard on me physically , I can’t even imagine wanting anymore than one. Mentally I can’t handle it and it’s a part of life and we should be grateful to have experienced something so beautiful. But now on to other things and another chapter. ❤️ focus on yourself mama you deserve it so much !

[@johnnycanales9569]

This is really powerful- thanks for being so vulnerable. I really identify with your words and I’m certain many others feel the same, so you’re definitely not alone. I turn 40 next month and I have a 10 year old, almost 3 year old, and a 17 month old. As you can see by their ages, I thought for years “one and done” because our first was so easy. But then I got in my mid 30’s and started thinking I need to move forward or I’m going to miss my chance. I did have 2 miscarriages back to back but God is good and we were fortunate to have 2 healthy children after that. I really did “start all over” so yes, it’s challenging but I never regret it. My last pregnancy ran into complications and I had to have a hysterectomy so now obviously I’m done but please take heart. God knows your dreams because He put them there. You are a woman of faith and a fantastic mother. Pray for your husband and for peace in the waiting. You do have time but I totally hear what you’re saying. Thanks again so much for sharing. We think the world of you. ❤️❤️❤️

[@kayleerae2540]

Hugs mama❤️ I wish your family nothing but the best, things happen for a reason! Maybe one day you guys will be ready for #3 or maybe not but in the meantime enjoy those kiddos you have!

[@shwetapatki3845]

It's always nice to have a practical voice of reason. Are you prepared for another year of sleeplessness? A year of colic and cries? If you are really ok with it, go ahead !

[@0625harmony]

Kayla, I don’t know you personally, all I know is what I see on KZbin. With that being said I don’t understand how you want more kids and I 100% agree with your husband who does know you in real real life. Just cause you can and you want to doesn’t mean you should. You just started being able to go out in the street with your kids by yourself, Target, grocery ect. You just started being able to drive with your kids in the car by yourself. I just don’t get it. If having more kids is dependent on weather or not you move back to FL for your family to be able to help you then it should be a no. I feel bad that you feel this way but your husband knows you better then anyone on KZbin.

[@tamaraYvonne02]

You put it into words perfectly what I was thinking. I dont think she is mentally ready for a third child with all the anxiety she is having with her kids and within herself with going out and driving on her own. I have 3 kids (all 3 years apart) and it is hard doing almost everything myself since my husband is in the military and we are no where near family. It broke my heart hearing her even talking about moving back to FL for family help one day because from the sound of it that might not ever happen with her husbands job.

[@BriannaWeiler]

Praying for you and Joe! It’s always possible Joe can feel different in a year or two… or you may feel different in that time! Sending you all love! I am having a hard time conceiving our own child so I wish nothing but the best for you!

[@_smartyshorts]

My kids are 3 and 18 months old and I’m on the fence with a third. My husband is very sure he doesn’t want another but I feel like I’m not done. I told my husband it’s been on my heart to be a foster mom one day so I think I’m pretty content having my 2 children knowing I have the potential to spread love to many many more children in the future.

[@jenniferr7358]

Oh girl, I feel this so hard. My husband said he was happy with only 1 and while our son is my whole world, I just did not feel like our family was complete and knew I would regret not having another. We had several hard talks and it came down to who felt more strongly, honestly. He was more impartial and it wasn’t even a second thought for me. We did end up getting pregnant with #2 in only 3 months and I’m so thankful because if it took a while I’m not sure he would have stayed on board. While I would probably be happy to have 1 or 2 more, I know that we are done after this one because he’s already made that compromise. This is so hard, I really feel for you ❤️

[@nik5851]

I am literally dealing with this exact same thing with my husband right now in regards to baby we 2. It’s nice to hear that I’m not alone in the ways I’m feeling and thoughts I’m having and not being in that spot where I’m fully ok with the idea of being done. Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable.

[@susalkasarahi]

I can only imagine that Joe comes at this from your own mental health perspective. Like I know when Jackson was a tiny newborn you had shared how it was very difficult on your mental health and not being able to sleep and everything that has to do with like a colicky fussy baby and maybe he's coming at it from that perspective that he doesn't want you to go through that since you mentioned that you would be the primary caregiver and especially being far away from family so you don't have that support system nearby. I personally would be so thrilled in your position to have the set and be done with. It's sad to admit this but I had gender disappointment when I found out I was having a son instead of a daughter and part of me is so terrified that when we try for baby number two I would be devastated if it was another boy because I know in my heart that I couldn't handle more than two children, but I would still have that longing for a daughter. My husband said that after our son turns two that we would be able to start to try for baby number two and so I'm hoping God answers my prayers and that he gives me the daughter that I've always desired.

[@lesley8655]

I have 2 boys and people have asked “oh are you going to try for the girl” and i’m like 😅😅 i do want a girl & I love my boys but I don’t know if I can handle another one if it’s not a girl 😩😩

[@susalkasarahi]

@@lesley8655 thank you so much for sharing! So glad I'm not the only one feeling that way 🙈

[@lilianaperez7969]

You are definitely not alone! I had gender disappointment upon finding out I was having a second girl. It was only when I spoke about it with my best friends that they shared similar feelings but they never told anyone! Very taboo to talk about but helpful knowing you aren’t alone.

[@brigittebosshardt]

I am the same as you. Worried that our second baby will be a boy and I’ll always want a girl someday. ❤️

[@angang6278]

I think people ask so much about baby number three because you’re such a good mom!

[@Ppk0829]

That reasoning is totally stupid

[@angang6278]

I think your comment was unnecessary. It is extremely rude. It’s my opinion on why she always gets that question. She is a great mom, I believe a lot of her followers would agree with that. Wondering if she will have more is a valid question. Don’t bring hate to her channel.

[@ashleynicole9325]

@@Ppk0829 your a jerk. Why would u even need to say that comment!?! There is alot of us thinking the same thing that she commented.

[@aliciafalendysz6231]

All right ladies let's not attack. If Kayla teaches us anything it's to be kind! She's a great mom and as she said she doesn't mind addressing the questions but we can all agree that she has the right to say it's also her business. Love to all!

[@angang6278]

Couldn’t agree more! 🥰

[@ashb2404]

I had always wanted a 3rd baby... My husband was never quite there.. but 15 years after my first and 10 years after my 2nd, I got pregnant out of nowhere ... Sadly we lost that baby... But my husband and I decided we did want 1 more, and being in our mid 30s it felt like now or never... Towards the end I had some moderate complications that landed me in 2 hospital stays... The 2nd stay was less scary than the first and I had a lot of time to just be by myself and pray and read . I was overwhelmed with the blessing of being chosen to carry one of God's children... I can't even imagine how Mary felt.

[@liv-vp3wg]

Oh Kayla, I don't usually comment on anything, but I know exactly what you are going through. My husband was okay with two kids, but I just wasn't ready to close that door. I struggled a lot with my emotions. We ended up getting pregnant with our 3rd ( a little surprise) and I wouldn't trade it for the world. Children are stressful, but they truly are a gift from God! Continue to pray and ask him for guidance.

[@maxineatresino2844]

Literally the exact spot in my life right now. I don’t want to be told “no”. I want that decision to be my decision but we have to think about our significant others. You got this mama!

[@aleshaanderson5006]

I’m in the situation now where I am your husband and my husband is you. I’m 36 years old and he wants to try to have baby number three but I have a beautiful girl and boy and in my mind I am done because I am 36. You get to a point not regarding the age but in general of when you know your family is complete. You know in your heart. I think your husband knows in his heart that his family is complete and he hast to give you all the reasons of why. I gave my husband all the reasons of why we don’t need to expand and I think he has excepted that. What also helps is when the kids are fighting constantly and screaming we know then that too is enough LOL

[@stargwynn1]

It’s a continual discernment process. That’s why as Catholics practicing NFP it’s a monthly decision. It’s okay to wait til/if you are both ready 😊

[@Getglitcheyordietryin]

I have 2 babies under 2 and it is hard but I don’t want to shut the door on having a third, even after how hard it is because I feel that the rewards outweigh the hardships. I’m 30 as well. You never know what the future holds. Pray about it and the answer will come.💗

[@monica_zulkerine468]

Kayla 🥺🤍 my third baby is about to be 1 and I have been very emotional to not have a little newborn again and to feel that mama high we have when we give birth. I’ve had a challenging transition from 2 to 3 and I can say I’m done even though it’s emotional. My husband isn’t done and it’s been hard for us because I refuse 🥺 listening to you makes me realize how he may feel. You are NOT ALONE 🤍

[@clairscharlow543]

I totally feel for you. I have a almost 17 month old and I am ready and want #2. My husband does not. He says we aren’t in a place, our house is too small and how he just likes our small family. We have actually had fights over it. I feel extremely blessed to have my healthy boy, but I can’t shake this unexplainable urn for #2. My sister is 13 weeks pregnant and when she told me it sent me into a spiral of emotions, even though I am so happy for her. He says there is a possibility but that I need to accept our family and stop always wanting more and that it it is never enough. I feel for you and you and your family are always in my prayers! Stay strong girlfriend!

[@kelseylou2483]

Thank you for sharing! You are definitely not alone in these feelings. I’ve always said I wanted to base how many kids we have on what I want our dinner table to look like in 20-30 years. The first few years are hard but are SO short when you think about a lifetime. I didn’t want to let these fleeting years make the decision for us. You’ll have your children much longer as adults than as children (god willing). HOWEVER, this is easier said than done! We are pregnant with #2 and we’re already so freakin’ tired! 🤪 Never say never but I really don’t see us having anymore after this one. We are looking forward to being past the newborn stage and getting to live a little more. Watch our boys grow and have each other to lean on, but not be as hectic as it would with more children. Hang in there, mama! God always has a plan and everything will be fine. ❤️

[@UOlover13]

I was in the same boat. We live a minimum of 12 hours away from family. We have two kids two years and 3 days apart. My oldest a girl and my second a boy. I just found out a few days ago that I’m pregnant with #3. I’m scared no doubt. I had REALLY bad postpartum depression. I gave birth at the start of the lockdowns. The family we had planned to come watch my daughter couldn’t leave their state. I ended up having to deliver my son without my husband there so he could watch our daughter. The isolation of the pandemic made things worse for us. I’m clinging to the hope that this time around we can have family come to help. And we recently found a church and have made amazing friends. They are like our family now. I’d recommend finding a church and getting involved. You don’t realize how isolated you’ve become until you try making friends again.

[@ivieiremide5548]

Had this conversation about waiting till my daughter turns 2 to have number 2. He wants each kid to turn 2 before I try again and it was so hard for me to hear that. I probably won’t have my number 3 till I’m about 35 and that’s if I have no delays getting pregnant. It’s not what I had planned for myself and it was super emotional for me. But I guess, we both have to be on the same page and God will do what’s best for our family

[@KatieLogen]

Also - it’s so much easier for men, they don’t experience pregnancy birth and motherhood. fatherhood is different it just is! But also one thing I tell myself is that even if we have another or 10 more at some point we will be done with the baby phase. It never lasts forever and it’s such a special time we get to cherish for the short time it lasts ❤️

[@drarchnapatel]

I am so sorry for your loss, may her soul rest in peace. Something similar happened with us too last year. It's almost a year when I lost my MIL. It's hard to think she would be not around to love her grandbabies.

[@corpselizzy]

I think having 2 for right now is for the best just based on how you act with 2. Mentally you would probably not be able to handle having to take care of 3. It's alot harder than going from 1 to 2. So tbh I think your husband is 100% correct. You shouldn't have anymore kids for right now. And that's just for your mental health. Just because you WANT another doesn't mean you could mentally and physically handle having another right now or even in the near future

[@pearlvillagomez8250]

My husband and I have talked about this way too frequently since we had my daughter. She’s 19 months old right now. We agreed that we’d wait until my daughter turns 2 to start trying again. In my case I’m the one who needed convincing not my husband; he convinced me by agreeing to put me off work for at least 1.5 years after baby is born. Another thing I did to stop overthinking and over planning is say this: “LORD I give up all control, may you give us another baby when the time is right for our family.” Thank you for sharing your experience Kayla, you’re definitely my favorite family/motherhood channel! ❤️

[@safiyas.2546]

Both my babies are from God, we never planned them, and I think wouldn’t have been able to either knowing how we are, it is never the “right” time… if it’s meant to be, it will happen. All the best Kayla! Personally, kids are real hard work… and just thinking of raising them to be good humans is so hard in this day and age… it’s scary… I’m more than ok with two!

[@KrystenStrunck]

My toddler is the same age as Jackson and he is my first. I’m a licensed esthetician and work for myself. So I’m client based. My husband and I both said we will only have him and be our only child. Now we’re kinda flirting with the idea of having another… but If we did have another i want to stay at home. Daycare for two kids would be expensive as heck. So I’m having to decide if I was another baby and stay home or if I want to continue to work for myself and continue to build my business. It’s such a hard decision.

[@KrystenStrunck]

Right now my sister in law watches him while I work twice a week but I know later on that won’t be an option. so stay at home mom I would be.

[@thayerwilliams905]

I loved how you talked about why you believe raising kids is important. I agree! Also, I never wanted to be a young mom. I didn't feel ready for my life to be about them. I thought 27. At the EARLIEST. I ended up being 31.and even then it wasn't planned. But he's perfect. And the timing ended up being perfect. And we're planning on a 5 year age gap. But as a kid I loved the idea of 5 kids. A few biological, a few adopted. The realization after our first turned 1 year that that unofficial plan is no longer the right plan felt devastating, and it was only a child's dream. Realizing a plan is changing is just really hard for me, and a lot of other people. But my current child really cemented my belief that God had a plan. Still hard. But there's a peace with that hardness. Thank you for being open and sharing. It means a lot. And I hope you reach a place of peace too

[@sarahrayl7569]

Thanks Kayla for sharing such raw emotions on a sensitive topic that is so close to your heart and the hearts of many other momma’s. I have never resonated more with a video than this one today. Thank you for validating my feelings and being real.

[@cristinabednarz8557]

Aw maybe he will come around and change his mind! I have a girl and a boy the same age as your kids and I do want 1 or 2 more kids but I will probably wait until it 31 or 32 I'm currently 27 I still want a big family I know it will be so much more work at that time but I know down the road it will be worth it! When I'm old and see all my children and grandchildren ❤️

[@tiffanyreign]

Aww Kayla you made me get emotional and want to cry as well 🥺 I can completely relate to exactly how you’re feeling! My son is soon to be 16 months and my husband only wants 2 kids as well & I want more also. Keep your head up & stay strong & positive Kayla! 💜 God willing things will workout for you and your family. Love your vlogs and you and your cute little family keep me going 🙏🏽☺️

[@whitneypea]

Oh Kayla, i went through this with my husband last year. When my daughter turned 2 I was ready and my husband didn’t want anymore at all. It was definitely a hard pill to swallow. Now that she’s getting ready to turn 3, he’s been bringing up baby number three on his end. It might be worth having the conversation again in another year and see where he’s at. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts ❤️

[@aliciafalendysz6231]

Pray about and revisit it in a year! We are all here to support both you and Joe! Praying for your decision and for perspective and peace! We love you!💕

[@emilygilliland861]

It’s so hard to trust God sometimes! It’s okay to be sad and it’s okay to grieve. I know you are in a complete different situation, but I can really feel for you. I’ve been TTC for 16 months and just went through our second pregnancy loss. Don’t feel guilty for grieving the life that you thought you might have. Your feelings are valid and you will heal from this❤️ Keeping you in my thoughts!

[@heartofmakeuppromua4234]

I totally understand you wanting 3 kids. I always said I wanted 3 kids but it was in God's timing and life path how I got them. I have a 17 and 14 year old and now a 9 month baby. I had my 2 older kids in my 20's and my last one at the age of 39. My 3rd baby's labor was the best one I had. I always thought I would have 3 kids but it happened when I got remarried 2 years ago and got my 3rd baby. I am happier than ever and my baby boy is such a blessing. You wanting a 3rd baby is in your heart and always honor your feelings. 💜 I love your videos...your family is precious and you're such a great Mom!

[@ccbunn]

Thank you for being so real and raw about what you care so deeply about. Kayla, you have so much to look forward to at your age! I don't think any doors are closing for you. Considering this, it takes two and interpersonal communication is such a skill to have in marriage. I hope you find contentment and know the future is abundant with opportunity.

[@sarahfisher3457]

Oh Kayla! My lip was quivering for you through this whole video and you are certainly certainly not alone in this! Your conversation sounds very very very similar to what my husband and I have discussed numerous times. No one talks about the resentment that can happen in these tough conversations with the spouses that we love so incredibly much. No one talks about how ideas of family can change right in the middle (we thought we were 4 kid people too) and that spouses can have a different idea of what that looks like after a kiddo or two. This long ramble of a post is all to say that you aren’t alone.

[@Ayzlin]

I want 3 as well. I have an almost 4 yo and a 9 month old. Conflicted because I would have to be pregnant again by the end of the year if I want to have a baby before 40. And... financially, things would be a little tight. But Kayla, maybe I missed it but why aren't you considering daycare? Is it because of the pandemic? I was struggling to let my boy go when he was 2.5 but it turned out so well (pre pandemic). Helped me mentally with a few hours space and it helped him with playing with kids his age. I think sending your kids to daycare for a few hours can help you alot mentally, while you take care of your newborn. I hope you find peace in whatever you guys decide in the end. Keep praying 🙏🏽 Loved this video 💓

[@laurenmcevoy8225]

Really really enjoyed the raw honesty in this video Kayla. My partner didn’t want kids in the first place and I took the chance on having one with him as I couldn’t see my life without kids. He adores our son, they are best friends and now my sons nearly 2.5 he’s agreed to have another in the future. Mind sets do sometimes change when the time is right. At the moment the time isn’t right for Joe and for all the right reasons but he’s an amazing dad same as you are an amazing mom and you’ll find what’s best for you and your family 💕

[@simplymebykas]

It's such a difficult conversation to have especially when one person isn't feeling the same way a out another baby. I am only beginning to think about the possibility of maybe thinking about #3 too so it's very early stages still...but I get what you mean about feeling sad when you think that the newborn phase is over...I think about that too. A lot. And it makes me so sad to think that I may never hold a newborn baby of my own again, or nurse another baby, or introduce another sibling to the kids. It really makes it hard for me to breathe when I think that it could possibly be the end too (although it's not certain yet). Thanks for sharing such a personal and difficult topic to talk about. I know it can't be easy for you. But please know that we respect both you and Joe's decisions in life and only hope for the best! Sending lots of love from Hong Kong as always!

[@Jess_quez]

One thing I always ask myself when thinking about another child is would I be prepared mentally and physically to care for an unhealthy child as well as a healthy child? Would I be able to be a good mother for say a disabled child or a child with cancer or Down syndrome? Am I prepared for the worst case scenario because usually we don’t think the worst case scenario will happen to us. I struggle with anxiety and depression and I know I am not mentally or even physically healthy enough to. I’m also 39. You’re still young. Just know that if you decide not to have another child those sad feelings will eventually go away or become easier to deal with.

[@anasalas7124]

I feel you so much! I want baby #2 and my husband is not interested so every time we talk about it I have a panic attack because 2 babies has always been my dream and it just feels like he’s closing that door for me.

[@emilyhira8136]

My husband always leaves this decision up to me, he says he will have as many children as I want. I’m also two minds about what we should do, it’s so hard to decide and a lot of pressure on me actually. I have a hard time believing I won’t have any more children, but I’m also losing my mind with two kids. Don’t stress because you never know what the future holds for you! I would be interested to know what your mom thinks considering that she had 3 children!