Overcome Negativity & Improve Your Health, with Mindset Expert, Dr. Jamil Zaki

[@MayimBialik]

Raise your hand if, like me, you were also floored by the results of the Canadian wallet test?! 🙋🤯🍁

[@user-ei2cd7vv8j]

Hey Mayim! Big fan. Can you please reply, pin if it's a possibility🙏❤❤

[@peterbelanger4094]

As someone who is no denial of my own negativity, i qualify for all kinds of labels, I'm sorry, you are no help whatsoever. Someone like me can't even get 10 min into the video. We are the hopeless variety, what is to be done with the incurably negative? Your "perky" conversation only makes my misery worse.

[@peterbelanger4094]

And, btw, I Am that guy at the fringes of the party, smoking outside, resentful at the shunning and exile I have suffered from the non smokers. Why would I join them? with their cold shunning of the 'distasteful one"? I'll never quit smoking, I'll never become one of those who rejected me all these years. negativity ruining health? the negative do not care about their health. ... pointing that out does nothing to help. At 54, I'm just running out the clock, "health" is a losing battle.

[@pattiemark8112]

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[@alinetabosa7191]

Hi Mayim, my name is Sara and I from Brazil, I’am 13 years old, and in the last year I decided to be a neurologist, but by coincidence this year I started watching The Big Bang Theory, and I loved the series, my favorite character is Amy, because she is a neuroscientist and you too. This motivated me even more, thank you for inspiring me and for being this wonderful woman. You are certainly my heroine. Thank you very much!!!🥰🥰

[@MayimBialik]

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[@familiescharf4207]

This is fake!

[@critterkarma]

About trusting people: Maya Angelou’s quote holds true. “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” I find in order to develop a healthy level of trust: observe a person’s actions, displays of emotion or non-emotion, independent of their words. Understand their motives/ manipulations for survival. Once you have learned how this person “ticks”, refrain from your own tendency to manipulate, for self-interesting. Instead, see who this person is, understand their behavioral patterns, and “trust” they will be just as they are. Act accordingly.

[@jwest1816]

It took me moving out of So CA after 47 years to move to the mid west to see how kind and caring people can be on a consistent basis. It's been 5+ years now and I am still shocked at the authenticness of people here compared to the dog eat dog life style of Los Angeles. People here are genuine and are just so kind and thoughtful. I experience this all day everyday here. It's rare that I run into an inconsiderate egotistical jerk, which happened every second in LA! 😅 You don't know until you know. I call it a decompression after one leaves Southern California. It takes awhile to realize that you too are a jerk and you will slowly change and start to talk to strangers and ask them about their day! 😊

[@Yay_be]

my take aways I am worthy. I can be trusted. My feelings are valid. I am inquisitive. I can step outside of myself. Perspective taking. Ask _more_ questions. Thank you so much I feel appreciation for the cynic in me The world is a better place after listening to this ❤

[@MayimBialik]

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[@BobbySanders-bf2fr]

Hang in there Mayim. Happy Holidays.

[@rainbowtravelingyogi]

I traveled Asia and Europe for 5 years, cycle touring, hitchhiking, and taking public transportation. From my experience, I would say you can trust more people than not, but also, you get back what you put out. My natural inclination is kindness and willingness to help when I can. I’m generally an optimistic person, that being said, I have a lot of grit, so if things turn in a not so great direction, I stay focused and rise to the top. My main point is I had a great experience and made great connections in several places with different cultures. Which means it’s possible to find good people in the world. ✨

[@MayimBialik]

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[@rebeccaa1621]

Fear and division are the fuel used by those in power to keep power. And maybe make money in the process. We need to have awareness and control of our consumption of News, cable news, social media, etc. Not watching the news or following politics, makes me happier and kinder. And helps me create a better world. (I vote for what I support, without getting caught up in fear and demonizing the other side.)

[@steveguti6452]

Let your light shine 🕯️ praise God praying for everyone Everyday God bless you all

[@sellingacoerwa8318]

*eye roll*

[@birdlady2725]

Sadly, growing up in cover abusive house, I have grown up as a distrustful cynic. The times I trust, I find out the hard way, that I shouldn't have. People pick up on my bad energy as well. Although I do attract people I am trying to stay away from.... 😢

[@louisbonilla6780]

My Dad used to say a cynic is a small minded person who is unable to embrace the vast majority of personal modalities thus being seen as a crank - great episode Mayim and Jonathan ❤

[@samsmulders7908]

Woww, another amazing and powerful episode! Thank you so much for having him on. And thank you Mayim for being so vulnerable! This episode makes me understand this topic so much better. Really grateful for this podcast❤

[@MayimBialik]

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[@orland0110]

Thank you so much for posting this interesting conversation and episode with Jamil Zaki. Many mental health professionals tell you to attempt your best to think positive but a lot of times it is hard for many people to have and maintain a positive mindset. I believe myself doing things like keeping yourself active besides connecting with people and having friends are one way from overcoming negativity. I gave this video a thumbs up. Much love to you, Mayim, you are wonderful! ❤

[@MayimBialik]

Thanks for sharing and for being here! 🧠🫶

[@jamesbutler5908]

Thanks for your time energy and information. I THINK WE NEED TO BREAK IT DOWN WHEN WE ARE CONDITIONED TO BE RUTHLESS IN BUSINESS AND THROW YOUR NEIGHBOUR OUT OF THEIR HOME FOR NOT BEEN ABLE TO REPAY THEIR BILLS. THEN GO TO CHURCHES ON A SUNDAY AND PRAY 😮

[@rebeccaa1621]

Something missing when discussing health or psychological issues is the impact of past lives (and the traumas that occurred) and the lessons the soul is trying to learn in this life. Traumas (from past lives, this life and ancestral) are held in our energy field and our soul, impacting our body and its functioning. There’s no separating the body from the energy field, it is one comprehensive, integrated energy system. When we can release the traumas, and understand patterns in our life so that we learn the lessons are soul wants to learn, we can shift and heal in amazing ways. Spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

[@SHALOM_0808]

I wish someone would talk about the "dangers" of Toxic Positivity

[@saltiestsiren]

There are a few long-form and shorter videos on KZbin about it. Not the "dangers" per se, but the problems and downsides of it. Try Dr. Tracey Marks's video, it's real short. Patrick Teahan has a video called "Trauma, Shame, and Toxic Positivity" which takes it from a more subjective POV. Additionally there's lots of articles and even research papers out there.

[@lorimartinez6897]

What a fascinating and EYE OPENING conversation! So much light shed on so much! Not only was I realizing so much about myself throughout the entire podcast, but I thought of so many people with whom Id love to share this information! ❤ Thank you, Mayim & Johnathan, for all the work you put into this podcast (and to those bts)😊

[@mariannekaminski8772]

Please Please Please have a episode on HRT!!! I would love to hear the risk and benefits! Also I would happily consume a whole episode on perimenopause and menopause!!

[@KHBogWitch]

I love this episode! Thank you for not pitting cynics against non-cynics in this discussion! It’s hard in realistic conversation to not fall into the trap of “I’m not a cynic, I’m a REALIST” and “what’s the point of living if you just hate everyone??”, and I have never found it to be productive. This was a great example of navigating different perspectives at the table with great success.

[@waltercook4868]

I've been looking for humor that is not cynical. Not easy. I'd like to see an exploration of humor where a burst of laughter is okay.

[@CutieWarrior-ol8ik]

I have a book that deals with the topic. The author explains that, that habit of paying more attention to bad things also comes from the fact that this behavior was necessary for the caveman to avoid being eaten. But she also talks about her own experiences in which, for example, she noticed repeated flashes in the room at night. She imagined all sorts of things. From ghosts to going blind. The next morning she discovered that the battery on her smoke alarm had run low....😂 But my parents also told me that the world is a terrible place. I was afraid of everything. But when I went out into the world it was actually really kind to me. I'm still trying to get rid of this thought pattern though. I'm getting there😊 That book is really helpful😄 I would suggest it but it only exists in my mothertounge

[@CarmillaFenwick]

As a mom of raising two wonderful grown adults, 35 & 30. By the teen years you really need to allow yourself to believe, trust that you have done your best.. especially if they are good teenagers

[@MiiDosvid]

I would think about this in terms of introverts and extroverts. Where introvert feel comfortable only with people who pass all their checks and whom they can really trust

[@barbarabell8674]

I’m so empathetic, and believe everyone as good, until they prove otherwise. I’m basically a bowl of jello 😂

[@veronicabryant2646]

Deep thoughts from intelligent people ground me and give me hope. Thanks for your great discussion.

[@MayimBialik]

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[@curtisrobinson7962]

Pema Chödrön would say, has said: Abandon hope. A yip, man your battle station and abandon hope. ?

[@m_brokenleg]

To me “trust” is to be openly & willingly vulnerable to others. Trust helps us to operate as social primates, as human beings. Cynism destroyes that. As Jonathan, I believe we build our realities.

[@charlotteblanchard]

I 100% agree.

[@marisamartinezolivera]

@@charlotteblanchard Me too!

[@YourJamaicanArchitect]

Dr. Zaki: "Trusting People is a Bad Idea". Dr. Bialik: "100%" 🤣 If I could have reached through the screen, I would have tried to give you the biggest hug Mayim. But as a cynic, that gesture may have made you uncomfortable 😂That said, I absolutely loved the information shared in this epi. And the banter. I've also shared this podcast session with my "cynical" husband - a psychologist who considers himself a realist - for feedback and further discourse. Enriching content as always. Looking forward to the next. Gracias.

[@stuartsmith5146]

Thank you for increasing my vocabulary

[@felicialibo]

Brilliant, thank you for this one! Had no idea how isolating it can be until you framed it like that, but the hope gives me hope! ♥

[@hj45-s9k]

Honestly a pretty fascinating guy. Got me thinking about looking deeper into some of the things I believed and see. True crime says women are as in danger as ever but maybe that’s wrong

[@rancherrita7512]

Good time for this conversation.

[@user-ei2cd7vv8j]

Hello Mayim! My name is Victor and I'm a big fan. I found your channel a long time ago and seeing you reminds me of Amy from 'The Big Bang Theory' and Kat from 'Call Me Kat'. I really hope for a written reply and a possible pin. I love your podcasts and your channel especially that you're yourself here. 🙏❤❤

[@christinakoch2738]

Excellent episode as usual! ❤️

[@MayimBialik]

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[@steveguti6452]

We would appreciate it Deeply if anyone could pray for us our 12 year old daughter Candice living with chronic congested heart failure passed away peacefully in her sleep may 30 2022 we are all devastated please pray for peace and comfort with God's love conquers all amen we lost our first daughter 15 years old Angel passed away peacefully in her sleep in 2018 she had Ms this is very hard we are grateful to God for two wonderful daughters and we will be Altogether again praise God praying for everyone Everyday God bless you all

[@Amy-kr4tc]

I’m so sorry

[@saphire3801]

So sorry for your loss. Thank goodness for the peaceful passing

[@StephenGrogg]

Prayers

[@marisamartinezolivera]

I’m so sorry! No parent must endure the premature death of a daughter or son.

[@kuiwanguistephanie]

Praying 🙏🏿

[@tinatieden3598]

This is a song I can sing along with. I'll have to watch it again to find all the "red things in the room."

[@uniqueusername22337]

Uncertainty makes me really uncomfortable. i think its why i gravitate to cynicism :/

[@MayimBialik]

I feel this. 😮‍💨

[@gretchenkring3721]

Such an interesting guest. Thanks

[@JANAlifestylevlogger]

Self fulfilling prophecy - As a man thinks in his heart so is he. Proverbs 23:7 It is in Torah, Dr. Bialik ❤

[@AchievingIndifference]

OMG.. this is my father to a T. He forces his cynicisms and his negativity on me...and then he tells me those exact words that you guys have just said.. he's not cynic/negative he's a realist.

[@MichelleH1791]

Fantastic interview and information! I'm the Jonathan in my relationship, 80/20 average.

[@reychfish]

my dad is a negative person whom I can't have a conversation with without him complaining about someone or some thing. even if the conversation has nothing to do with the person or thing he's complaining about, he always connects it and turns it to that. I'm 30 now and I'm so tired of avoiding this, all the more when I noticed I've developed it myself. a few months ago, he complained that I don't check on him. as much as I'd like to keep in touch with my dad more, I just can't mentally handle the rants anymore. I always try to look on the brighter side of things, but I feel my progress is always set back when I talk to my dad.

[@Vblade123]

I give people the benefit of the doubt and trust easily, but get used and taken advantage of more often than not.

[@christaylor4728]

I love how people say to be positive in my situation of job loss, eviction, no money…. BEeeeee positive 👎

[@MajorMonkeytoes]

Or do we think the world is broken because as adults we see the world as it is and not as it was when we were shielded from the seedier parts of it as children? How much of it is disappointment at how we thought the world would be for us when we were kids? Are we just not seeing the positive aspects of it as adults that we did as kids? I don't know whether that makes me cynical or skeptical...certainly a little confused. 🙂 Another great episode that gets us thinking!

[@uniqueusername22337]

Cynicism is about the people in the world, not the world at large. It's very easy to be cynical about saudi arabia and their treatment of women, but then you realize 80% of them actually want women to work. I bet you'd be surprised that even republicans want the economy to be strong for the working class. If you think the world is broken then you don't know how capable we are of change. Just think how different the world was 50 years ago and how different it will be in another 50 years. If you think something should change about the world, then fight for it, learn more, and a lot is possible

[@skippingclouds]

The cynic in me be like- "Did the rate of crimes not decrease because we're all more suspicious of others? " Lol

[@hj45-s9k]

I think it’s easier to find the good in people when you grew up with good. Takes a lot of therapy after that to course correct so you don’t think it’s normal for other people to treat you like your family did

[@BFC1372]

Mayim, you may want to interview Eleanor Mann at The Reconnected.

[@mollyjones4165]

The biggest problem with Libertarianism these days is how it's not about your liberty as much as it is about mine.

[@curtisrobinson7962]

This is the first time I have made a donation to a politician. I admit the donation is made in fear. I fear I _our_ democracy will be lost. "You only vote _for_ fascism once."

[@erindabney2758]

Can one be negative enough to destroy their health so severely that they die in under 12 months? Since I cannot go home, this has become my most innate, deepest desire.

[@Golgibaby]

How do you reconcile then the evil in the world? The abusers, the manipulators, the ones who take advantage of others? How do you reconcile those who have interests that conflict yours?

[@uniqueusername22337]

Compassion, curiosity and hope. Abusers and manipulators weren't born that way and they can change, pray for them to change. Oftentimes abuse and manipulation comes from a place of fear. Get curious compassionate and hopeful about those who seem different from you. They are more like you than they are different. And they are probably just as cynical about you as you are of them. Have some humility, we are mostly all just individuals with the same basic needs

[@MMLZombie]

Forgiveness. Reconciliation comes through forgiveness

[@elissa3188]

Did he say Framingham MA? From NJ but I went to Framingham State back in 2001!

[@danmarquez3971]

My view is that everyone in the world is trustworthy up to a limit. That limit varies with people. LOL!

[@Mmcay]

Anyone else wondering about the blue, red and purple books behind Jonathan? 😂

[@boringredheadstudios]

❤

[@bludog4657]

I feel it would be a whole lot easier if things weren't out of control. As far as the criminal aspects and war going on. This is a tough one

[@carocuno06]

How we develop habitats and ownership for best use for community

[@BARBARAPIGG]

Howdy ❤❤❤❤

[@willowXtreeX]

Okay, so life experiences have definitely made me a cynic 😆 didn’t know it! When Mayim said something along the lines of ‘I’m a realist’ haha that resonates.

[@ValentineGalindo-lc4uz]

Hah! Still cynical ..but its a work in progress! 😊

[@MayimBialik]

You're in good company! 🙌

[@laurascorner-f1m]

I should get my boyfriend to watch this however he'd just continue to say " I'm a realist" or "it could be worse". He justifies much

[@skyc.j4571]

Well this video was very much needed after what happened with Trump 😅

[@curtisrobinson7962]

Guest wish: Dan McClellan PhD, Bible scholar and fellow KZbinr. Thanks in advance.

[@karenvanderbeck]

Why have the most negative and nastiest people I know live well into their eighties and beyond??

[@blairg8171]

Good genes lol

[@uniqueusername22337]

They probably have a community with shared beliefs. Also have some humility, are they really negative and nasty? What are some of the negative and nasty views they have? When did they acquire these views? Are they just naive?

[@MMLZombie]

​@uniqueusername22337 I think they're just asking why is the correlation between cynicism and poor health, talked about in this episode, not applying to cynical people they've encountered in life. And while we all deserve the benefit of the doubt, some people are legitimately cynical. That's not a value judgement but just an observation. So it's interesting to note the apparent outliers who make it up into their 80s and 90s

[@altaresjoyceee]

💯👍🏻♥️

[@carocuno06]

Why pre 70s real Estates need to be rebuilt?

[@raflim]

53:18 I highly disagree. Respectfully

[@carocuno06]

Vast ist de international community?

[@Mermare]

Cynicists or realists? The world is a damn ugly place now.

[@BruceJWalts]

Please avoid politics.

[@anastasiachigarinova4949]

Hi, Mayim! You discussed empathy and trust quite a bit in this podcast. I wonder if you would be interested in inviting Chris Voss as a guest. He’s quite active on podcasts, but you have such a unique style, personality, and knowledge that I can’t even begin to imagine what such a conversation would turn into. Chris is famous for his negotiating skills. He is a former hostage negotiator and has worked worldwide. According to his book, when he first joined the FBI, their negotiation methods were ineffective and flawed. So, Chris began to experiment and based his approach on practice rather than studying the underlying neurobiological mechanisms. It wasn’t until later that what he tried became effective. It’s interesting how, without in-depth knowledge, he learned how to connect with people through action and tested it in high-stakes situations like hostage negotiations around the world. I personally love how he challenged the traditional rule of negotiation, “saying yes,” and demonstrated why saying no first is much better. That one changed my life for the better, much like the many insights I gain from your podcasts with guests. Thank you for your work, your experience, and your deep understanding of so many things, as well as your curiosity. As I mentioned earlier, it’s such a unique mix that allows these conversations to be so deep and fruitful.❤

[@kkrriiss_3660]

The episode I didn't know I needed 🩷🌸

[@MayimBialik]

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[@kathleenquilausing3165]

Fabulous episode. Perfect topic for todays issues. One more tool added to my toolbox. Mental wellness is my comfort zone. Thank you for being my people .🌺🤍✨

[@MayimBialik]

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[@SunShine-qk4rb]

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