OVERCOMING LOSS - Jocko Willink

[@jarischol331]

“If you can’t run, walk, if you can’t walk, crawl, but whatever you do, keep moving forward.”

[@johnwarner8641]

Thank you .

[@ernestosoto3931]

I like that🕴️

[@rayrodriguez4341]

Firefly 👍

[@kaltonian]

I like that one, funny how simplicity is the key a lot of the time

[@samcarroll4767]

Didn't MLK say that?

[@khyati7733]

The last few minutes felt very impactful. I am listening to this in silence, it's 3 in the morning, and my tears are falling as the clock is ticking beside me. Its been 5 years and im still thinking about my mom.

[@brendanlucero8585]

I'm very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. May By God bless you.

[@macktheripper7454]

You’ll always think about your mom but don’t die with her. She loved you and would want you to succeed in life. I lost my dad in 2017 and I think about him everyday but I still try to shape my body to heal my mind. God bless you

[@ramandeepsihota207]

So sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.

[@jonsmith7766]

I hope you're doing better, bro

[@nj-kh5vw]

Your not alone bro. Were all here. Losing a parent as we speak.

[@joemoment-o1275]

I lost my son. Jocko is killing it in this one.

[@kurmangee58]

Pete Strebendt my sincere condolences to you and your family

[@jarischol331]

My condolences..

[@thegamersforumorg]

I'm sorry for your loss

[@williamkenel7237]

Fuerza hermano

[@enigmapublius1]

so sorry to hear that brother, keep going forward 🙏🙏

[@greggcoleman7768]

Recently lost my mom and I heard this just at the right time. Thanks Jocko!

[@DjRetsam]

REally sorry for ur lost

[@plasma19]

Keep trudging.

[@eugenegurevich1896]

Sorry for your loss Gregg

[@brendanlucero8585]

I'm so sorry for your loss. May God bless your heart.

[@mso008]

Hi Gregg. I'm very sorry for loss. I'm going to be losing my mum in a few days from Cancer. How did you handle it? I feel so empty bro. I try talking to my dad but he's absolutely devastated. Any advice you can give me will be much appreciated. Thank you in advance.

[@michaelhixson9798]

My son passed away in February due to cancer. I made it through the summer because someone asked me if I knew what butterflies represented. I spent my entire summer talking to the butterflies and just watching them because I felt like he could here me. Now its fall and I am struggling because I feel like he has left me. What I wouldnt give to here his voice one more time. Love you son! I hope you are proud of me!

[@johntran2518]

Michael Hixson what do butterflies represent?

[@louisechainey1309]

Watch out for Robins in the fall and winter ❤️❤️❤️🍁

[@kileybianchi8424]

Aww I’m so sorry I just lost my best friend and I don’t know what to do 😭😭😭😭

[@ChampionSoundsDJs]

Sending positivity your way. I too lost my son to cancer. Also in February. He was only two an half years old. This Feb was two years. Praying we both get to be with them again on the other side.

[@MonosEx]

I lost my mom a week ago due to Cancer, it is really hard to move on when the only person you wanted to make proud with your actions is no more...

[@urdadshusband781]

Make her memory proud

[@JadePX]

8:50 "They have taught you the immeasurable value of your own life."

[@1greener]

This is why the internet is so amazing, I’m alone right now dealing with loss, tearing up. This video means a lot thank you

[@Damalatorian]

As a 33 year old having my father fighting cancer this hits me right in the heart and brought me to tears..

[@kirilbellic3602]

It hurts, the helpless feeling.

[@TheIndirectgaming]

I pray you’re still fighting

[@enragedfurbie128]

Me too my man. On the 12th of this month I found my father dead from health complications in his apt. He was my best friend and we went through everything together. I'm 29 and he was 53. I hope you find your light in the dark, and keep him with you. We mustn't break, only bending and shaping as life evolves. You can do this 🙂

[@dansullivan1983]

The letter........ choked me straight up. Powerful moment.

[@billsmith8805]

I lost my dog 14 hours ago...he was my best friend for 14 and a half years. Thick and thin ...thank you Jocko....this helps a lot

[@jamie4293]

I know how you feel brother. I hope you are doing well and I am take condolence in the fact that you are an awesome pet owner. I'm sure he was a great dog.

[@dcptiv]

I lost mine 23hrs ago. We were apart for a total of 10 days in his 18yrs. I hope things have gotten better for you as this is very hard to deal with.

[@christopherbiondi7397]

Listened when I lost my cat....helped alot.

[@QuattroCarlos]

Knowing that everyone is vulnerable to the same problems is a different feeling. I lost my snake last night and I didn’t sleep at all I’ve never been close to family so this death hit hard.

[@billsmith8805]

@@QuattroCarlos I'm sorry for your loss, I'm sure your snake was incredibly lucky to have you as his friend and I wish you nothing but the best. I still miss my dog, but now a smile comes to my face remembering the good times and I'm forever grateful for him and the experiences we shared. He made me a better man. You have my deepest condolences and I hope that one day you too heal and can share that love and joy again with a new friend when the time is right. Take care 🫂

[@AmerijamAcres]

My wife died 17 days after our son was born. This is so accurate. It’s been 41 months since she died and I still have these waves hitting me. The last major wave was Halloween. My kids did their first trick or treating. I looked at them and watched the fun they were having and the tears just started. I couldn’t help thinking about their mother and how much she’s missing. The waves are less frequent but they still come.

[@azorian888]

i truly feel your pain , like u i did loose my wife 5 years on 12/25/2014, my daughters was 3/5 ! one time i was wachting them swim and burts too tears , no control so ever major sadnness ! thinking her mom never got to see this ! they come and go too !

[@pap4539]

Stay strong brother!

[@AmerijamAcres]

@@pap4539 my son is now 4 1/2. He’s training Jiu Jitsu with his 7 year old sister. My days are mostly filled with joy. The waves are less often but they do still come.

[@MFJoneser]

@@AmerijamAcres proud of you brother... your passed wife smiles down at your courage, your love, your strength, your family of joy. You are an inspiration to me my friend, though I don’t know you...

[@joecalao5485]

Scott, maybe she didn’t miss a thing. Could she be watching all along?

[@IamTinyJoe]

Thank you Jocko, I needed this. I miss my little girl just as much now as the day I lost her.

[@joelmatthew2508]

Joseph Herndon as a father myself , my heart is truly broken for your loss I pray you find your little girl on the other side and you can experience eternal joy in one another

[@BramMichaelson]

As a former English Language Teacher I'm going to call this one: "Jocko's Homework" Write a letter to your absent loved one and you explain to them... Explain to them how much they meant to you. Explain to them how heartbroken you are that they are gone Explain to them why you are going to carry on, why you are going to keep going with them in your heart. And if you want some advice from the ancients? Burn it.

[@NelthVastLord]

This is great stuff, I have to try it.

[@controllerfreak78]

Who recommended burning it?

[@BramMichaelson]

@@controllerfreak78 The Romans. The Essenes. The Greeks... Most mystics of all paths of Light....

[@controllerfreak78]

@@BramMichaelson I believe you, but which authors specifically?

[@BramMichaelson]

@@controllerfreak78 How about this.. You try the ways of the ancients. And see if it works for YOU. If it does, call me a messenger. If it doesn't, call me a liar.

[@YoungRaptorChild]

Very fitting. I lost my dad 4 years ago today. Jiu jitsu helped with the grieving

[@macktheripper7454]

Lost my dad 18 months ago and training my body helped me a lot

[@garrettthornburg888]

We lost our 2 year old boy due to a distracted driver a couple years ago. I had an urge come over me shortly after to do a distracted driving presentation in his memory. That one turned into many more and I know from the reactions and conversations I have had that it has made an impact he and his story has made an impact.This is great advice! Jocko is a wise man!

[@chris02zo]

GARRETT THORNBURG I'm in my bed shedding tears God bless you

[@macktheripper7454]

People like you give the world hope, amazing job done 👍 god bless you

[@gailambert]

GARRETT THORNBURG I lost my grown daughter to a distracted driver. Her two children, my grandchildren were seriously injured. I’m raising them now. It will be 4 years May 15th. I too have a distracted driving campaign. Prayers to you.

[@blaketudge2611]

G L I couldn’t imagine ur pain brother, I’m very fortunate to still have my mother around, she’s looking over u every single day. Losing a parent is one of if not the worst mental pain I have very experienced, and I’ve been threw a fair bit, it never ends but that isn’t to say that it doesn’t get better and better over time, a very very long time but eventually u will come to accept what happened to ur mother in ur heart and ur soul, it might me heard to believe at this time but every thing happens for a reason my friend, trust god and keep moving, bro

[@SebastianKomor]

Just lost my mother to Cancer yesterday. Its been a year long battle, I have watched this video before. Today I watch it again. Thank you for what you do.

[@DonVito591]

My takeaway was that you don't move on from the loss of your loved one, you move forward WITH them.

[@Fict10n]

I lost my dog of 17 years this week and this video has helped me immensely. For anyone experiencing loss just know that I feel your pain, I feel your grief, we will get through this together.

[@RFRKTRM]

Are you ok now bro? I lost my cat 3 days ago. It meant the world to me! :(

[@Fict10n]

First off, I’m sorry for your loss man. It’s a horrible feeling and it comes on very strong and like Jocko said, in waves. It’s been almost a year since my dog passed at this point and I won’t lie, it still hurts. The initial grief is relatively gone now, but the weight of sadness will stick with you forever. I feel as tho it’s a fair price to pay for having such a long time to enjoy her company. I hope you’re able to overcome the initial grief, and it will get easier over time I promise you.

[@RFRKTRM]

@@Fict10n thanks a lot!!! :X

[@slazyj77]

Sir, u hit it straight on the head with this one! May the Lord richly bless you Mr. Jocko sir! U r sir a gift from God in more ways then one! Thank u for being u!

[@chunky9791]

1:49 "These waves don't crash on us, they break on us....Cause we are strong". "I know you would die for me dad, but now I need you to live for me". I told myself this several times every single day for the first year after loosing my 18 yr old son in a car crash to a dui driver. As a father & marine nothing, nothing can prepare you for this unspeakable pain & complete brokeness. I would get lost at stores I've went to for 30 years. This description is spot on. Eventually you can identify these waves & how to somehow navigate through them. You find just the slightest glimmer of hope & a purpose again If I didn't have my younger girls who somehow seen I was over life grab & tell me one day "dad, we need you, please don't go we lost mike we can't loose you too" I don't know if I'd of made it these past 3 yrs. When I seen their eyes & heard them words I knew that I had to keep fighting. Just somehow get through each day. Most were long & excruciating. I couldn't answer that question "can I now live for them" I didn't know if I could do it. You don't heal they aren't a broken bone. You find some kind of purpose whatever it may be put your energy into it & honor them in your own way. A heart that's broke is a heart that's been loved a life with love is a life that's been lived. It's not goodbye, just goodbye for now.

[@StillStealSteel]

Thank you @jockowillink and @echocharles. I lost my dad on 11/25/19, and it hurts so much. Death brings about a spectrum of emotions from pure wretched grief to guilt and regret. I feel like I have no one to turn to, so I turn to KZbin. Sad, isn't it? Despite speaking with my mom and step-dad about my grief, I still keep a little inside. That small bit of emotion, seems to be the most painful, because in there lies the regret and guilt. While I did my best to support my dad and always being there for him during his golden years, now that he's gone, I can't help but feel that I didn't do enough. I feel like I could've done better and tried harder. Now that he's gone, I'll never have the chance to improve on those mistakes in helping my dad. Regret hurts. It cuts deep. Regret especially hurts when it's about not doing something for a loved one as important as a parent. I only I hope that I will learn from these mistakes, and not repeat them with my mom and step-dad. As you've stated in the video, dwelling is not the answer. I must be strong, I must carry one, and I must forgive myself. I know my dad thought the world of me until his last breathe, but I still can't help but feel sorry, like I did him wrong. Maybe this feeling will never leave me. Maybe I deserve to feel this way for the rest of my life. Maybe like you said, I'll learn to deal with it, because that's what we're supposed to do. These waves are painful, but I know they'll subside and weaken over time. Thank you Jocko and Echo. Both of you provide a true good to the world. Respectfully and Sincerely, Talon

[@kelleymcfadden9675]

Turn to Jesus. He loves you more than you could possibly know. Could you say that you are 100% sure that you would have a home in heaven? What are you basing that on? If you are basing it on anything other than your faith in the finished work of Jesus on the cross, you do not understand God's way to heaven. The Bible says that we are all sinners. When God created Adam and Eve, He made them perfect without sin, but they chose to disobey God and became sinful in nature. This sin nature was passed down to all humanity. Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned: Our sin separates us from God. Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; A holy, righteous God cannot allow sin into heaven. Sin must be paid for and God's price for sin is death, but not just a physical death, but a spiritual death which means separation from God forever in hell. Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. In the Old Testament when man sinned, God required the sacrifice of a perfectly spotless lamb as a substitute in the place of the sinner. The blood of that lamb was only a temporary payment for their sin and so this had to be done often. Jesus Christ, God's Son took on flesh, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life and offered Himself as that perfect, spotless Lamb and shed His blood as payment for the sins of the whole world. John 1:29 The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith, Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world. Jesus loved us so much He WILLINGLY came and allowed wicked men to spit on Him, mock Him and scourge Him until He was unrecognizable. They stripped him naked, thrust a crown of thorns on His head and nailed His hands and feet to a cross. He hung in agony for hours bleeding, thirsting, struggling for every breath. He died innocently in our place so that we could be saved from going to hell. It was His blood that satisfied the just demands of a holy God. God will not accept anything else. There is no greater love than that! John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. The good news is that Jesus didn't stay dead in the grave. He came back to life 3 days later just like He promised and He still lives today! Matthew 28:5 And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified. 6. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay. Jesus did all this because He wants to give you the FREE gift of eternal life in heaven with Him! You cannot do anything to earn your own way into heaven. You can't work for it, be baptized for it, go to church for it or try to be good enough for it. It is a FREE gift that God is offering to anyone who will simply receive it by faith. Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9. Not of works, lest any man should boast. God said there is only one way to get to heaven, but it is not hard. You must repent, change your mind and admit you are a sinner headed for hell. You must believe that Jesus died and paid for your sin with His own blood on the cross, was buried and 3 days later rose from the dead. Then you must simply call on Him and ask Him to save you. Romans 10:9 that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. 10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 13. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. None of us deserve God's mercy and grace, but let me warn you that if you reject His FREE gift, you are already condemned and when you die, you will suffer the torment of burning in hell for eternity in a lake of fire where you will be forever separated from God and all that is loving and good. John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire. Please don't wait. Don't take the risk of putting it off until another day, repent, turn to Christ NOW wherever you are at because you aren't guaranteed to live another day on this Earth. Believe God's Word, ask Him to save you and He will! ---------------------------------------------------------------- If you would like more information or don't have a church to attend, we livestream our services and would love for you to join us. God bless you. facebook.com/regkelly.table/ www.libertyfaith.net/contact-us

[@Bobbo303]

Lost the love of my life Oct 17 2017. This is spot on

[@plasma19]

I'm so sorry.

[@jon6740]

Keep going man! Just like jocko said, there is always light in the dark!

[@Kibella85]

i lost my farther today . It is heartbreaking. I hope he is in a better place with no pain.

[@edwardcurrall7973]

my dad died of cancer when I was 14 years old I’m 18 now, I was extremely close with him, I will always love him he made me the man I am today, he taught me so much in life and in his death. I will succeed.

[@shaddow3456]

yes you will brother. with an attitude like that you'll do just fine.

[@j.erlewine8579]

My dad passed away in January of this year. You’re spot on about waves hitting you, then the calm. I take one day at a time. Most days are good, then for some unknown reason a wave hits me. Thank you for what you do. You’re impacting lives more than you realize.

[@kelleymcfadden9675]

I pray my best friend's story will be a help to you. Jesus loves you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless! Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5nSk5aHj5uEmJo

[@kenwaye5523]

Thank you. I just stumbled across this clip. Burried my mother earlier today. Jocko Sir, your words have given me comfort that nothing else could.

[@AbdullaHernandez]

I lost my child, and I’ve been in that loss, broken for the last half year. I’m finally coming out of it, and this video was exactly what I needed to move forward. Thank you guys for talking about these things - And for sharing. I can tell as you speak it that you’ve been through it. This is so powerful. Thank you. 🙏🏼

[@jeffreyboadi10]

Just lost my wife 2 weeks ago and the pain is unimaginable. But I'm so grateful to have come across this as I know I don't have a choice but to move forward (not move on) with her in my heart, and what Jocko outlines here is powerful.

[@sage8889]

These wise words pulled me out of a very dark place after my Son transitioned to GOD in March 2019. Thank you! 🙏 💪

[@Michael-tc1dm]

God knows how much that hurt you. He loves you and he makes all things new. The suffering is only temporary.

[@dannydazzler]

I lost my father suddenly 4 days ago. We were very tight. Ive been listening to this regularly since then, the waves do not stop coming, but dad would not want me to dwell. This is always what I've needed to hear and I will be back again listening over, when the waves come and come again. I love you Dad x💙❤

[@ghostsmoke11]

My wife left me today. She told me she's not happy 6 weeks ago. I'm still dealing with immense depression and anxiety. Everything you said about waves is completely true. Thank you for this, it's given me a sliver of hope for the future.

[@sheen2394]

My aunt passed away a couple of hours ago. To be honest I still haven’t even processed it yet but listening to this gives me some guidance as to what to expect. Thank you Jocko

[@kerryfoster1]

The loss is so raw. The lack of control of your feelings is awful, but you just have to go with it and let it pass. So right its like a wave that hits you and the regret flows over you, but it will pass. You can bring them back in your memory, feel the love and live again in that moment.

[@highvibes6116]

Jocko nailed this exactly. My mom committed suicide a month after my 24th birthday. There is no greater pain than your creator deciding that they'd rather be dead than live on this earth with you. The waves never stop. But they lose their strength very slowly over time. Find something to do. Keep busy. Live your life. Once in a while a tsunami will hit, but I am strong enough to withstand the storm. Thanks to jiu-jitsu, school, work, caring for other people. Do something. Otherwise, the demons will come.

[@petarniciforovic6543]

Right, life is worth living no matter what happens !

[@petarniciforovic6543]

Go on, joy can be found... every day you will become better... people that are not with us will be proud of you... and eventually you will leave happy. Fulfilled. You will have a great job done.

[@macktheripper7454]

My father (ex military) did in 2017. I understand and keep moving on brother

[@joseeleazararenasramirez1967]

I feel you man, i also lost my significant other from suicide, and it was really hard, but eventually life has got better and the waves less stronger, i send you a warm hug from México brother, keep moving forward!

[@trevorprice7366]

Once in a while a tsunami will hit… and theres nothing you can do to prepare for it. Other then let it go and just ride with it. There’ll always be a hole there… and its irreparable. But you have to move on

[@wakeupandflow]

Jocko my brother you’re a gift to humanity

[@augustoctober3092]

I get this. The wave is real. I can’t always put my thoughts/feelings into words like you just did. Grief is hard to explain unless you go through it.

[@MatthewSmith-cp3hu]

Best road map or framework of grief I have ever heard. Jocko you seem to turn hardships into something positive, something that is going to be ok. Your in my prayers bud, your perspective comforts and guides. I pray that you are comforted and guided by others as well.

[@houseoftoussaint9609]

I needed this cry. “Kiss their soul” Thank you Stay safe out there everyone.

[@maximilianobognanni2786]

I lost my nephew las Saturday, only 10 days before he get born. Don’t know I found this video but its what I needed.

[@shanedale6452]

This was needed. This u=is exactly why Jocko's talks and advice can change my view, in turn working towards practicing what I have learnt and show others. This is everything.

[@donepperson5637]

Jocko, good job on the grieving pod cast. You have a good grasp on it. I lost my 13 year old in skateboard accident 12 years ago. Thanks so much

[@soldieramerican5964]

Seven years later for myself, and sometimes out of the blue, BAM! And it’s back, I have controlled it somewhat, but I live with the hurt, and anger that comes from the worst lost of my life.

[@reganwolf4405]

thank you Jocko for uploading this video. a year a go I lost my little brother . I was in a long depression . and now I feel like leaving again. your podcast are really a break through . this is the so beautyfull and strong. sorry for my engelish. great from the Netherlands 💪🏽🤲🏼

[@ChampionSoundsDJs]

I lost my son a little over two years ago to cancer. He was only two and half years old and dealt with pain that I still can’t fathom... Someone shared this story with me, so I thought I’d share. PEACE. The Brave Little Soul By: John Alessi Not too long ago in Heaven there was a little soul who took wonder in observing the world. He especially enjoyed the love he saw there and often expressed this joy with God. One day however the little soul was sad, for on this day he saw suffering in the world. He approached God and sadly asked, "Why do bad things happen; why is there suffering in the world?" God paused for a moment and replied, "Little soul, do not be sad, for the suffering you see, unlocks the love in people's hearts." The little soul was confused. "What do you mean," he asked. God replied, "Have you not noticed the goodness and love that is the offspring of that suffering? Look at how people come together, drop their differences and show their love and compassion for those who suffer. All their other motivations disappear and they become motivated by love alone." The little soul began to understand and listened attentively as God continued, "The suffering soul unlocks the love in people's hearts much like the sun and the rain unlock the flower within the seed. I created everyone with endless love in their heart, but unfortunately most people keep it locked up and hardly share it with anyone. They are afraid to let their love shine freely, because they are afraid of being hurt. But a suffering soul unlocks that love. I tell you this - it is the greatest miracle of all. Many souls have bravely chosen to go into the world and suffer - to unlock this love - to create this miracle for the good of all humanity." Just then the little soul got a wonderful idea and could hardly contain himself. With his wings fluttering, bouncing up and down, the little soul excitedly replied. "I am brave; let me go! I would like to go into the world and suffer so that I can unlock the goodness and love in people's hearts! I want to create that miracle!" God smiled and said, "You are a brave soul I know, and thus I will grant your request. But even though you are very brave you will not be able to do this alone. I have known since the beginning of time that you would ask for this and so I have carefully selected many souls to care for you on your journey. Those souls will help you create your miracle; however they will also share in your suffering. Two of these souls are most special and will care for you, help you and suffer along with you, far beyond the others. They have already chosen a name for you". God and the brave soul shared a smile, and then embraced. In parting, God said, "Do not forget little soul that I will be with you always. Although you have agreed to bear the pain, you will do so through my strength. And if the time should come when you feel that you have suffered enough, just say the word, think the thought, and you will be healed." Thus at that moment the brave little soul was born into the world, and through his suffering and God's strength, he unlocked the goodness and love in people's hearts. For so many people dropped their differences and came together to show their love. Priorities became properly aligned. People gave from their hearts. Those that were always too busy found time. Many began new spiritual journeys, some regained lost faith - many came back to God. Parents hugged their children tighter. Friends and family grew closer. Old friends got together and new friendships were made. Distant family reunited, and every family spent more time together. Everyone prayed. Peace and love reigned. Lives changed forever. It was good. The world was a better place. The miracle had happened. God was pleased.

[@jagsfan0864]

So sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this . Take care my friend

[@violator2695]

Gospel ... I fell into the abyss after my mum died in 2011 to cancer, then I lost my aunt to cancer in 2016, she was like a mum to me ... the wave analogy I've heard before but JW describes it perfectly ... I turned to drugs, sex, alcohol, eating junk food, all as ways to hide the pain at different times ... I became self destructive at a subconscious level, as work and career remained on point. I was very sad inside, but I had no idea as it all seemed normal. Now in 2019, 2 years ago I decided after my aunt's death I wasn't going to go backwards, I wanted a better life for myself. Meditation and Buddhist teachings helped me personally, Jordan peterson, Joe rogan and jocko are my the father figures I never had. God bless.

[@cshawn316]

It takes time to heal. Really that's the answer. You will always have a hole in your heart. Remember the good times and cherish them and acknowledge them.

[@jenniferl4329]

I’ve listened to this every day. I miss my son with all my heart. Thank you Jocko

[@MrSalal420]

I lost my wife and my baby girl just 2 weeks ago, it's just too hard to manage. I can feel everything he is saying, i just hope i can get through this immense pain.

[@violator2695]

Look after yourself mate, time does heal, if you get the chance jordan peterson has always helped me. When i was depressed after losing both my mum and my aunt to cancer ... I couldn't get out of bed, I broke things down into the smallest piece I could. Brush my teeth, get washed, make breakfast ... if i could do one of those it was a win. Then the next day, if try again but maybe add another bit on. I also went to sought help to speak with someone at grief counselling. Grief is a messy business, it's not something we can just fold up and put away. Like jocko says ... it comes in waves, but eventually through time we get to row the boat and move forward, and tgat doesn't mean you don't love them any less, just means you're processing what happened. All the best mate. Stay strong and be kind to yourself.

[@kelleymcfadden9675]

I pray my best friend's story will be a help to you. Jesus loves you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless! Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5nSk5aHj5uEmJo

[@justindore684]

I watched my soul mate become manic and hate me in the process. I feel like the "real her" is gone forever. The waves are tall right now. But WE HAVE TO ROW THE BOAT. Thank you so much Jocko. It doesn't feel like the its okay to be distracted, or calm. But thank you for giving me some hope.

[@justindore684]

It HAS taught me the extreme value of all of the other relationships in my life.

[@CryosFOXHOUND]

It's been 2 months since my father passed. Jocko, you've really helped me with this. I think I may have watched this 5+ times. It helps so much

[@rafaelortega9262]

Thank you sir for your encouragement! I just lost my dad and your words are spot on. Im learning more about how to cherish life and how important it is to spend as much time with your loved ones here on this earth. I also believe that God is good and loves us and will let each and everyone of us be with aware loved ones whom have gone before us. Thank you for what you do Jocko sir I have the most upmost respect for all service men and women who have served past, present and future. Thank you and God Bless you! 🙏🇺🇸

[@sinoelll]

Lost my Auntie yesterday, exam tomorrow, assignment due on friday. LIFE MAN!

[@3RD-ii]

YOU, got this my nigga💯. FINSH strong💪

[@macktheripper7454]

Hold your head up always brother

[@frankyrizzoh4369]

pops just left us this morning . i knew you would have a upload . thank you

[@enragedfurbie128]

This really helped me with the passing of my father. Thank you so much Mr. Willink.

[@nickguy1642]

Thank you Jocko. I just lost a close friend of mine and these clips have kept my head above the water ♥️

[@babelnumber5]

I feel for this person who lost their child. I've lost a father and other loved ones but I can't imagine how horrible it would be to lose one of my children. I am touched at how jocko is able to delicately help this person move forward. It's apparent that jocko appreciates the magnitude of this person's question and is doing the best he can to guide him forward. I wish the best for their family and hope they find peace. It's moments like this that I wish there were a god. I wish I could believe that loved ones are not lost forever.

[@TonyShore]

This is one of jockos speeches that I listen to regular. I needed this so much to help focus and remember I'll get through things. This man is a legend.

[@opSquadhttp]

My uncle died just yesterday morning he had a class 5 aneurysm just dropped unconscious and then for the next 2 days he was in a hospital bed on life support and they debated whether they should pull the plug or not and just yesterday morning I figured my uncle had died and had to go to school with that in my head, bad shit happened previously and this was a addon to it

[@Dean.AlAmriki]

My aunt died from an aneurysm too, my condolences man

[@opSquadhttp]

@@Dean.AlAmriki same to you man

[@michaelseely3169]

I’m glad you did this. My loss want as bad as the ones here and it makes me realize it can be much worse. Thank you jocko

[@saxcobra895]

Thank you. My fiancée and I have had 3 miscarriages. We have talks about it, but this hits me in a way so hard...

[@maqsoodnsx]

I don’t mean disregard this disrespectfully but have you tried adopting

[@ikkib2846]

Jocko I just want you to know, that I’ve been struggling so much with my fathers loss. During the days up until his burial I was strong and showed no emotion, now that I completed the mission, I am in so much pain the waves are crushing me and I didn’t want to go to anyone. I was searching for videos that may help and nothing was helping until I saw this and it - you helped me figure out how to carry on, thank you so much, anyone who’s going through it don’t worry you’re not alone we will do it together.

[@PimSchouten]

My father passed away in 2018. One massive thing I’ve learned is, you’re never ever getting over it, you live with the pain. One day its fucking horrible, the other day you’re the happiest person you’ve been in years. The wave example is bang on perfect. The waves always come when its unexpected, and it sucks. Its very important to talk, cry, be angry, and just simply let your emotions out. The letter example is an absolutely awesome thing to do❤️

[@acornsucks2111]

We are like mist, here for a moment and then gone.

[@WWXspartan058]

I lost my best friend and mentor this week and I needed to hear this.

[@emmanuelvalles9601]

This is just a great, calm and firm voice that guides the mind from darkness into peace in the middle of the storm. Thanks Jocko!

[@michaelsamchuk1819]

How on earth did this come from a navy seal. I lost my fiancé two months ago after 4 years of dating. Died in her sleep with no known cause of death. My grief counsellor hasn’t said anything like this. Every video I’ve listened to no one hits like this. There is such understanding of what I’m going through in these words. Our societies complete lack of an outlet for healing on this. I just got back from Peru, I took ayahuasca 8 times in the Amazon jungle in search of healing. I highly recommend that to anyone suffering through this. But this video gives the exact roadmap of what I’m going through plus a plan for moving forward. Such deep wisdom

[@Canada151337]

Lost my best friend almost a month ago now due to uncertain circumstances, as of yet. 27 years old, we went through a lot of life defining shit together, and I still cant really comprehend that hes gone, Jocko talking about the waves is absolutely right. Miss you Glenn, I'll never forget.

[@christopherzapata5266]

I just lost my wife jocko the love of my life the one I lived for. But this is just what I needed to hear. This is what I needed to hear.

[@coltonbradley9293]

I lost my father about 5 months ago.It was 4 days before my birthday.Thank you for making this video.

[@macktheripper7454]

How you doing bro? I lost my dad too, I know how hard it is. God bless you, if you want any advice just reply to this. (I’ve made nearly 2 years now)

[@neilries902]

I lost my best friend a few days ago. This video is literally keeping me together. Thank you

[@jagsfan0864]

So sorry to hear about your loss . Stay strong . Take care my friend

[@MG-yf6mc]

One of his best. Thank you, Jocko.

[@ashsmith7551]

For the family who wrote the letter about the death of their child and asking for advice from Jocko - thank you. His response has helped possibly hundreds of thousands people deal with their own grief. Myself and my family included. I hope you can find some meaning in that. ❤

[@ramandeepsihota207]

So glad I found this, lost my dad 3 years ago. Been having difficulty coping even now. Thank you so much sir.

[@thetruth7046]

Wish I would have heard your words 32 years ago, as I stood by my daughter's grave. Though this segment brought back memories, it also allowed for the realization of how far the journey has come. Fully understand the words "Kiss their Soul"... Thank you, Jocko. Thank you.

[@jagsfan0864]

May she forever Rest In Peace . Take care my friend

[@thetruth7046]

@@jagsfan0864 Appreciate the kind words. Kinda crazy you wrote today. She must have known I was having a horrible day. Signs she is still there and watching over. Thank you. ~ Truth

[@belgianshepherddog5047]

This speech is complete and in-depth description of the process where you literally think you are crackling. It returns to discipline in the end, to keep oneself together. Development of character.

[@joshcatanzaro6220]

Just lost my dad a couple weeks ago. It's hit me really hard as I was not able to visit him during 2020 or 2021 do to his weakened immune system do to Cancer treatment. He beat cancer and it was the cure thar killed him. The waves are real and it takes little to trigger them no matter how tough we think we are.

[@jagsfan0864]

So sorry for your loss . Stay Strong. Take care my friend .

[@HiKaij]

Jocko... my wife and I recently went through a miscarriage... it was the first pregnancy... ten weeks pregnant and just like that the baby was gone... I have been struggling with how to process things until I saw this. Thank you.

[@The357Mason]

Jocko Willink for president.

[@sage8889]

This is Absolute Best Insight on the transitioning of a loved one ❤. The emotional rollercoaster is Real, but must be confronted w/self-love, gentleness, & honesty.

[@chrisknight9308]

November of 2018, I was gifted Discipline Equals Freedom. I opened the cover and it read “Chris-Stay on the path. Get Some, Jocko“. I was told by LTC Frazer, that he had informed you that the reason the 177th RTI from Michigan was at the Dallas Muster was because of me and that I was not there because I was retiring after losing my 23 year old son the year prior. He said you handed him your book and personally tabbed the chapter/page titled “Death”. It hit home and so did this clip. As you stated it happened. It still comes in waves, but the sets are far apart. Enough for me to Live. I’ve been repurposed and found my next call to arms. This fight most consider to be the invisible enemy. If not for my faith, his glory I would still be lost and broken. I’d also like to thank you for that gift 4 years ago. I keep your book next to my bible on my nightstand to remind me to “Get Some” every time I see it. If you are ever in Houston, have the time and interested in seeing what we are doing at Camp Hope, PTSD Foundation of America, I’d be more than humbled to show you how we are combating the invisible war. Thanks Brother for everything that you do! SGM (RET) Knight - Director of Camp Hope Operations.

[@KirstenBayes]

Really wise words. Memorial Day this week was one of those waves. But also reminded me of the laughter. Got to press on.

[@topsysdad1]

I work with young teens, to help them understand the process of bereavement. I play this, because its profound and spot on

[@aslapiana]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdom.

[@d2m133]

Thank you Jocko. You help more people than you will ever know

[@BurekGreg]

Damn. Warrior poet. That is how we deal. I can see the losses you've taken in your face and hear it your voice. Outstanding! Channeling that to help others. USMC.MD

[@ImpactMotivation]

Jocko raises the bar with every episode, thanks for this!

[@Gelathius]

Jocko, I wish some day I can be half the man you are! Everything I hear you say always hits home and is such good advice. My girlfriend died two and half weeks ago, and I am going to take this advice to heart!

[@techmantra4521]

Speaking from experience, I lost my dad merely two months ago, but I had the experience of pre-grieving due to knowing I was losing him. I can already see that the light can break through. The deep sandess still comes and goes but happiness is possible. To anyone reading this who is going through the same thing, happiness is possible. They are never really gone as long as there is a memory in your mind.

[@jacques8895]

Thank you for this, I lost my son 3 years ago it has changed me I’m not the same person the pain is unbearable, I’ve listened many times it helps thank you

[@tammycaplan2445]

Wow this makes me cry

[@joeyboedeker7205]

Could have used this advice years ago. Better late than never

[@ernestogarcia6577]

It's amazing to be motivated by Jocko Willink I mean I've never been privileged enough to be a personal friend or colleague of Jocko but just hearing this and listening to his encouraging responses to questions it's awesome just to hear thanks Jocko.

[@nicolas3145926]

Man, you made me cry

[@IbnShahid]

Thanks for this Jocko. Means a lot. My mum has pancreatic cancer (Likely terminal). Just five months ago she was happy, active and seemingly healthy. 64 years old but leading a more productive life than many people half her age. Now she is in hospital, totally wiped out by her first bout of chemo. Which probably isn't going to work anyway. Can't see how she can manage the next five chemo doses she's meant to have. I just feel emotionally wrecked.

[@ceasarverdugo354]

Jocko willing right I lose my dog yesterday and I come home from the army national guard and it's hard for me but today I listen to podcast number 352 it's helping me and realize that Wake up and work it's does help me with the good path thank you

[@jlb5532]

Thank you Jocko. God bless you.

[@kitsune303]

My dad was a WWII combat medic. He killed himself at 85 years old because he couldn't quit seeing the things he saw. I hit bottom in 2016 and was hours away from suicide when I thought of how much harder my dad had it. I dug in and turned it around and now live each day for the both of us.

[@artemrabinovich4943]

Thank you

[@ShinChan0397]

Lost 4 friends today. All age 22. Thanks sir.