Overcoming Narcissism: Healing from Trauma, Depression, and Failure

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

Wow, this video nailed it. Having had a narcissistic mother, who to this day is stuck in the same immature and abusive behavior patterns, left a deep footprint in my subconscious mind, and soul. Breaking out of those unconscious patterns is a challenge of a lifetime. Thanks to insightful videos like this, one can finally realize that the problem was them, not You.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

glad to hear it helps, thanks for watching

[@Godmershamgurl29]

You have every right to cut ties completely if you feel they will never change. You don’t need to carry the stress they bring.

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

@@Godmershamgurl29 I’m thinking that’s what I should do. Sometimes that is the only choice. Thank you for reminding me of this. Peace & Blessings to you in the New Year!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@Godmershamgurl29 very well said, thank you!

[@IAMinfiniteandfree.]

@@Godmershamgurl29 Don't advise division, advise them to draw closer to infinite intelligence/ God. He will correct the vision and heal the situation but we have to ask and chose God's vision. What you are doing is the blind, leading the blind, that's why this world has so much problems, ego's with no wisdom advising other ego's with no wisdom, division is not coming from love, thus not Godly..And only love is the answer. Please stop advising if you don't have divine wisdom.

[@jennihubby2877]

“To survive you had to freeze your anger. So, therefore, when you need it, it’s not available for you.” That was me.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and it's wonderful that you can relate to the concept of freezing your anger as a survival mechanism. Many of us have been faced with situations when we have to repress our feelings for various reasons.I feel that finding appropriate ways to express and manage our emotions, particularly anger, is important since it can have a major impact on our well-being. It's not always easy, but it's an important step toward personal development and self-awareness. If you're comfortable with this, I'd like to hear more about your experiences and how you've learnt to manage your anger over time. Sharing our experiences and approaches can be very helpful to those experiencing similar challenges. 🙏✨💖

[@patriciamichaels4393]

Sosorry..that was me too. I now have a horrid auto immune disease I was a nurse, caretaker. now my 2 wonderful daughters try not to stress me they are beautiful which really amazes me

[@ArtLoverScotland]

i know how that feels too. ugh

[@VS-yb7oq]

Me too!

[@eastafrika728]

If you lose your will to do things for yourself, they've got you.

[@Snizzle_Fizzle]

Yeah absolutely. Easier to control and dominate

[@HeyitsBri_]

I didn’t know this was a narcissistic tactic. I just thought I was too afraid to do things for myself, but I was conditioned to be too afraid to do things for myself. Thank you for the perspective shift!

[@rocky1raquel]

@@HeyitsBri_ 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼👍🏼🙏🏼

[@jeplica7011]

That's whats perpetuating brood parasitism in birds, ants, wasps, and people.. a need to enslave caregivers to care for the helpless self appointed dictators. So narcississ are training up and creating a slave monarchy of sorts?

[@astercite]

OMG!

[@carolynkepler2826]

KZbin has Ben a God send for me. The kind of therapy that poor people can afford is not helpful. I have grown by leaps and bounds in the last 5 years. Thank you all. You are providing a great service.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time to share your heartfelt thoughts with us. It's really inspiring to learn about how KZbin has changed your life. Your words resonate deeply, highlighting the importance of easily accessible knowledge and help in our digital age. We would love to be a part of your journey and appreciate your presence in our community. Continue to thrive and grow, and know that you are never alone on this journey. We'll be there for you every step of the journey. 🙏✨💖

[@propergunjah8726]

My father was a narcissist and I make a very bad victim for the narcissist because I can detect them from far away and I'm not having it any more.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts in here, bless you 🙏❤

[@jungleboots769]

Refreshing to hear a man with his wealth knowledge admiting to his failure, especialy in being a parent;,as it is unbearably painful to admit. I find solace in that i’m not the only person - to feel this so deeply. 🙇‍♀️🧑‍🍼

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

i feel that way too

[@JDforeveralone]

Jungle Boots - you are not alone here. I had to pay the most heavy price any parent could have. My daughter took her own life at the age of 17 one month before turning 18. That was last February. I do find solace in my faith but the search for not "why" but how could I have failed her so horrificly will probly stay with me till the end of my days. I always knew that something is different with me than "normal" ppl but never ever thought that I am emotional disregulated and she was the worst affected by that. In loving memory and to say I'm sorry would be an insult itself, there are no words I can say.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@JDforeveralone sending big hug for you and sorry for your lost. Bless you dear

[@oumhuda8464]

I am so sorry sending you ❤️ please don’t blame yourself I am sure you did your best please take good care of yourself ♥️

[@mariaridler1831]

@@JDforeveralonethat’s so very sad 😔 I pray you can forgive yourself and find peace, you so deserve it 🙏🙏

[@kathikalinowski4550]

He sets my heart at ease explaining the truth. ❤ Mate is a healer with words. ❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you so much for watching🙏✨💖

[@Hope_is_Love]

So grateful to have come across Dr Gabor Mate 2 yrs ago. Him and a couple others helped me understand a lot brokenness I was carrying. I'm a totally different person than I was six months ago. I recommend him, especially if you're tired of repeating the cycles of pain throughout life. Take the time to heal and life is so much more enjoyable

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

It's great to hear of the important impact that Dr. Gabor Mate and others have made on your life's journey. It show the power of self-discovery and healing. It's amazing how the right guidance and insights can completely improve our lives. The story you share is motivating, and it serves as a reminder that taking care of our well-being is a gift we offer to ourselves. Here's to more growth, healing, and the joy that comes from accepting positive change. Thank you for sharing your experience and advice - it's an inspiration of hope for others looking for a better way. 🙏✨💖

[@ericad8412]

I listen to this and I feel like I can finally breathe that im not the one thats unwell but a society that has pitted us against a noble cause and each other

[@matilda4406]

a healthy culture would not tolerate it, how true

[@anavigil7603]

What a relaxed, authentic conversation. How difficult and necessary it is to face our own reality and patterns personally and coĺlectively in order to heal. Thank you.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for watching, and thanks for sharing your thoughts about this. bless you dear ❤🙏

[@natascha.anastasia]

It’s tough to realise you yourself have been turning to narcissistic behaviour to cope with narcissism from others, it’s so true what Dr Maté says. We all have that side to us, and the choice to let it define us or not. I’m kicking the people that don’t do their own healing work people out of my life with love and forgiveness in my heart. Now it’s time to heal myself and learn to forgive me too 🤍

[@saida817]

👏👏👏

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for sharing your thoughts dear. bless you

[@patriciamichaels4393]

You go girl

[@theageofgoddess]

Being a parent was my biggest failure too, I wish I could do it all over again sometimes. I wish I could have raised them the right way, I wasn't able to at the time.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for your vulnerability, sending hugssss...

[@realhealthrealwealth]

I apologized to my 3 daughters and told them I was wrong. Please forgive me. I can no longer do anything for them. I send em the likes of Gabor and many others, but THEY have to do it themselves.

[@samanthawilliams5520]

@@realhealthrealwealth your awareness is a start. also don’t provide a soft landing/shelter/provision when their destructive choices boomerangs on them. narc children only perceive that what they’ve done isn’t that bad since they still have a parent or other influential person to back them up

[@oumhuda8464]

You are not alone and you dit your best what you could en knew please be soft to yourself the fact that you want to do it better says something about you, it says that you want the best for your kids your intentions are pure, invest in yourself and it will come good anyways. We can’t change the past it was written to happen. Right here and now is what we have. Hugs from another loving mother who also struggled alot but we have insights now. ♥️🌹♥️🌹♥️

[@cindyspiess9963]

me too 😔 I don't think i was horrible just not present enough , to busy trying to make a living for us , but of course that's not what is important to children . I'm also ADD so staying focused was an issue as well 😔

[@CuddleClaw.]

I’m a fawn and freeze type of girl. But once I finally get myself to anger and I call out the narcissist, some of them have reverted back to little boys in those moments, it’s very strange to see, one of them was crying and wouldn’t leave until I hugged him, another one wouldn’t get off the phone with me until I said something nice about him.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It's interesting to see how different kinds of people react to confrontation in such unexpected ways. It appears that your courage in expressing your feelings and confronting narcissistic behavior has a significant impact, almost like exposing the vulnerable side of these people. It just goes to show that at times beneath their outside as well as there is a desire for understanding or acknowledgment. Your ability to extend empathy, such as hugging one and saying nice things to another, shows your compassion. Continue to be true to yourself and your approach; it's wonderful to see how your efforts may create such unique moments of connection and progress.

[@ering7664]

Please remove the music. Dr Gabor Mate doesn’t need any visual or audio support to what he’s saying. When he talks one should simply listen - it’s Dr Gabor Nate after all 😊 AND Thank you, your effort and time put in to making and sharing this is also appreciated 🙏

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for suggestion, appreciated. Thank you so much

[@peopleplacesandperspective5564]

I just feel so heartbroken, misunderstood…. 💔

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

sending big hugs to you dear. Stay strong and bless you

[@peopleplacesandperspective5564]

@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you so much. ❣️

[@Yayas_World29]

Jesus loves you and this love has gotten me through the toughest times 😊

[@Sophia-yo9rp]

Dr Gabor really understands human nature. Great questions. Thank you.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you 💫💕🙏✨

[@tomharkanson]

She asked some great questions !! Very good segment

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

✨💖

[@annastone5624]

Please turn down the music.. 🙏🏻

[@alwaysamazed]

Now the audio is too low

[@lenas5613]

@@KAT-dg6el Music is unnecessary IMO.

[@JDforeveralone]

Completely unnecessary and distracting!

[@brianb7869]

no. nooooo. NO.

[@erikajohnson6646]

I concur. Music in this case was distracting. It overshadowed the speakers. And in my humble opinion the type of music played was unnecessarily sadness-inducing. I think music free would make content much more accessible.

[@ElevatedVibration11]

Wonderful video great insights as always! Dr Gabor really is providing plenty of value for a lost generation.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

yes indeed

[@dragonstaye4557]

Lost species.

[@jetl2119]

Great interview. Note the interview alone without music would have been easier to watch and listen to. Less is more sometimes

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for advice, i appreciated

[@florite007]

Finally someone famous who says the truth about narcissism. Dr ramani never talks about this and she made it her life mission tot all about narcissism but never point out the famous ones.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

💕🙏✨

[@luminyam6145]

Great interview, please turn down the music.

[@susancoombes]

We need to teach young girls and boys this.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you for sharing your thoughts

[@erockfreedom6399]

I'm the grandchild of a man who came from Minsk to the U.S. in the 1920s -' this is what I was told -- by himself. I found it in me to look up Minsk in the early 20th century. Seems to be, one of the first places occupied by Nazi Germany, starting in 1918. Npt sure when he came over by boat... i think he was in his mid-teens. So I'm guessing he fled. Other of his relatives did not. I felt weird around him the few times I met him in my childhood, in the 80s and 90s. His son, my father, was born in the States. I felt sick around him and never knew why. Scared. He displays all the traits of malignant narcissism, and, I think was the non-beaten proverbial Golden Child, while my aunt was described as a rebel of some sort -- a "bad girl" - and beaten, with a belt or some other thing hung next to the door. He was an alcoholic. In this quest to find out what I can based on the bits of information i have. Though my parents are still alive and elderly, I feel it is dangerous to be around them. I have to see them as wounded people somehow, but I am not at a place of forgiveness. Actually angry and resentful. Thank you

[@RamonaMcKean]

So much pain. So much inter-generational trauma. Bless you.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thanks for sharing your experience, hope everything will be ok for you and bless you dear

[@criticalLocus]

Nazism wasn't around in 1918.

[@jennamatkowski2367]

thankyou very much... the voice of truth resonates like nothing else

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you for watching ✨💖

[@TimelessMuse]

Gabor is the best!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

💕🙏✨

[@dagmaranja888]

Thank you for turning off the music and giving subtitles. It's a valuable interview! 👍

[@kr1221E]

The freeze response sucks. I feel vulnerable, because I have not responded to predatory behaviour, like the adult I am. What is the way out of this, I would respect myself more if I could ward predators off and let them know I am not to be preyed on?

[@questioningbeliefs1674]

No expert here, but I have had great progress in this area by creating healthy boundaries. Huge topic with plenty of good info on KZbin. I wish you well in your continued self-empowerment!

[@mattlehnardt8035]

When the interviewers speech pattern quickly mimics the guest it’s indicative of something like fawning or giving up oneself In The presence of an authority figure.

[@ashleyboyd2764]

I tried having a family at 16. My family literally beat the shit out of me and called me a whore. I was already working at that point as well. Now I don't have kids they call me irresponsible. It's not anything to do with parenting: It's not being able to stop bullies in their tracks. I really wanted a family and I tried hard to get one but there is only one of you and something of everyone else. I am not in charge of a mass of other people who don't care.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thanks for sharing your thought. hoping and praying, you will get you what your heart desire very soon, just keep on going ad always think positive. Bless you dear ❤🙏

[@deb9784]

@ashleyboyd2764, so sorry for all your pain and suffering! All I ever wanted was a family to love and be loved by! So I get it! After three horrible relationships, I have two wonderful children that I am so blessed with! But I've found my hope started on Christ. My healing started there also! Sending prayers for peace and hope to be revived in your heart! You have so much to offer a family! But trust me, it works so much better after the healing has begun!

[@rdbeckett590]

I dated someone who was a histrionic narc pyscho and I experienced anger what they call reactive anger I could have done the worst in the situation, but I held on to myself (not fing them up) and eventually walked away and nobody got hurt. I am very in touch with my anger and it’s always in my back pocket if I need to use it. It has taking a lifetime to learn to calm down and instead on reacting start responding.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for taking the time to share your deeply personal journey with us. It's really inspiring to hear how you've learnt to use and manage your emotions, especially in challenging situations. Your story shows the power of self-awareness and growth. Walking out from an unhealthy relationship while remaining calm is an impressive showing of strength. Being able to move from reactive anger to reasoned reactions is an important trait that can bring you more peacefulness. Keep that wisdom in your back pocket and continue to choose response over reaction. Your story may encourage others who are facing similar challenges.

[@rdbeckett590]

@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you so much for your reply. Love the channel. Many blessings❤️

[@claudiasbarra1044]

Thank you Dr Gabor Mate

[@DN-ye6gz]

Thank you for posting this ❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for watching!

[@marthamoreno1539]

Wow! What a beautiful video and message

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much!

[@saida817]

What he’s saying it’s like music to my ears

[@mb-co3vv]

The music is so loud and makes it difficult to hear the parts when Gabor is talking about how one can help themselves. Please remove the music

[@M.C.Blackwell]

Thank you for a very important video. The loud music really detracts from and drowns out an otherwise terrific interview.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Sorry about that 💕🙏✨💖

[@M.C.Blackwell]

@@yourinnerchildmatters Still great information!! And a wonderful channel for which I am grateful. 👍💖

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@M.C.Blackwell so kind of you, thank you again. Have a nice day!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@M.C.Blackwell 🙏✨💖

[@heartdawg]

Love Gabor~

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks

[@loannahoffmann8556]

Is there a video of just the dr these interviewers are just sooooooo talkative

[@Hope_is_Love]

"If you look at the studies on post-traumatic stress disorder. 100 soldiers go into battle. 20 come out with PTSD, the others don't. Why? The 20 that went home with PTSD who had traumatizing childhoods. And the adult experience simply triggers the old trauma."

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for your thoughts on the relationship between post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and experiences from childhood. It's wonderful to see how our experiences in the past can influence our reactions in the present, especially in the setting of traumatic events. The idea that new encounters might trigger in the past traumas is in line with research showing the complexities of PTSD. When considering mental health outcomes, it is necessary to evaluate the interplay between our past history and present-day situations. Your point of view highlights the importance of comprehensive support and understanding for people coping with PTSD. Let us continue to have these talks in order to raise awareness and empathy for individuals who have been affected by trauma. 🙏✨💖

[@zarinabostan7753]

very nice conversation but why put all those unrelated pictures?

[@SN-sz7kw]

Not ALL politicians. But otherwise on point. Thank you.

[@Lakshmi235Lakshmi]

Thank you so much 🎩🙏🤗

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

You are so welcome and thanks for watching, bless you 💖💖💖

[@joelmckaig8923]

I had enough of internet trolls and I posted some stuff I didn’t mean because of cyber bullying and my PTSD

[@advancedbasicsAB]

Would love to see a conversation between Dr Gabor and Dr Ramini

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

likewise, that will be great...

[@mardishores4016]

I suspect Ramani IS a narcissist!.

[@gapastorelli]

I've never watched your channel. This is one of the best interviews I've heard in terms of dialogue. You asked superb, moving questions. The editing and the music are doing no service to this content. Please consider re-editing this video. I'm a SAHM and I would take the raw footage and edit it for free. You are asking the questions that matter with people who have such powerful views to share. Don't let some major editing mistakes get in the way of this gift. 💌

[@endigosun]

But we’re literally raising them to be like that with today’s “out of balance” style of parenting. There’s too much enabling, coddling, and utter neglect of children that create narcissistic tendencies.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for sharing your insights about this topic,

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@Dans white thanks for sharing your insight, bless you

[@endigosun]

@Dans white So do we just let it continue that way?

[@endigosun]

@@H-youtube7 No... parents SHOULD indeed look to "fix a fault" that they see in their child. Parents have a RESPONSIBILITY to use their WISDOM to help their kids develop the skills necessary to succeed in mainstream society. A child literally knows NOTHING about what awaits them in this cold, cruel world. It is the PARENT who should've gained enough wisdom to lead, love, protect and advocate for their child -- not the other way around. Unfortunately, parents can't depend on young children to give them the answers; it's actually the other way around.

[@endigosun]

@@H-youtube7 "When the student is ready... the teacher (with enough empathy) shall appear". Lol! No, I get what you were saying now... it was my mistake; I misinterpreted your statement. I guess I'm "shell shocked" by so many misinformed people in the comments these days.

[@salihashahid9526]

Thank you so much for this video

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

my pleasure, thanks for watching. Bless you

[@PowerOfPerception4747]

Is it possible that only 20% of soldiers come back with PTSD because 80% have been conditioned with apathetic narcissism that reinforces their desensitized state of awareness? A desensitized state of awareness that is required to sacrifice life for the sake of an un-comprehended military objective?✌️💗🙏

[@ibelieveinaccuracy.fact-ch5942]

No. That’s missing the point. The 80% have healthy responses to trauma. That is the point. Military training generally encourages greater self-awareness by forcing people to face themselves.

[@barbsmart7373]

That is a very, very good question. I am glad you have asked it. I was listening to a WW1 vet talking about how sick he felt after bayonetting a French soldier. He was German and clearly believed in the attack on Alsace-Lorraine. He was Jewish too, so I wondered what difference that could make to him. It seems that seeing the Frenchman's eyes made a big difference in that situation. I also heard many soldiers say that when they were much younger, killing didn't bother them. But when they were older it did. I have also heard men say that after the first killing of an enemy soldier, the subsequent killings didn't bother them. I get the very strong impression that hand to hand fighting is what has the worst psychological effect on the person who doesn't die. But I think that to a big extent, ''as a man thinketh, so is he". I am interested in the idea that the people who suffer PTSD during war service actually suffered their original trauma in childhood. I hadn't thought of that myself. Gabor Mate is a person I take a lot of note of, and I appreciate his wisdom and his remarkably high level of gentleness, understanding, and connection to the natural world we are now so removed from.

[@PowerOfPerception4747]

@@barbsmart7373 Very well articulated! Everything about the Military Industrial Complex contradicts Everything that Is Biological. A child’s brain either has to be rewired or born into psychosis in order to take exception over other biological life (as toddlers we are more apt to hold a bug than squash it…until we are bitten or witness someone older perceive threat from such bug). Point is, that I feel we are conditioned from a faulty social infrastructure that is quite possibly “in the know” when it comes to apathetic social conditioning for means of governmental purpose. If rewired satisfactorily, the soldier has a difficulty in his/her own self awareness that there is a deficit in one’s inclination towards empathy😢 Therefore most soldiers are not even aware of their trauma! The fact that natal separation at 2 weeks to a month after birth is traumatic, and nobody addresses it…is an indication that a massive % of the human population could be unaware of their well rooted trauma and desensitized nature😳 ✌️❤️🙏

[@ms-gb4cj]

I wonder if most of those 20% are empaths. They would have far more difficulty comprehending all the traumatic events.

[@7regeneration]

This is truth even once you find that anger energy if you haven't told off the abuser past their narcissism you end up back in their apathetic stupid state of silencing

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for watching, and thanks for sharing your insight about the topic. bless you

[@sweety2817]

Hey I'm wondering the same..Even if we are able to recognise the repressed anger of childhood... Can we get past that fear of not being to able express our anger (that became our default in the childhood) without confronting the narcissist about that injustice now??

[@pastelito33]

​@@sweety2817The trauma from the childhood is not neceesarily inflicted by a narcissist. That took place with your parents or family, even a teacher or friend. But the narcissist in your life is the one to confront. That does not mean to be violent. And maybe you can not do it but at least you build a line of defense that he/she is not allowed to cross. As a child, I was s3xually abused by some women. A big trauma. I have healed in a god way and that does not mean that I have to confront them.

[@sweety2817]

​@@pastelito33thank you so much

[@Sky10811]

i did Hoffman Process and i highly recommend those 7 days thing for ppl with CPTSD

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for sharing your Hoffman Process experience! It's wonderful to hear that it's been so good for you and that you highly suggest it to anyone suffering from CPTSD. Your recommendation means a lot to me, and I'm sure it will be helpful for others considering this journey. I wish you continuing healing and growth.💪🌟

[@janicelewis2384]

Often people join the military to escape their current trauma but it's not an escape its another program and possibly a distraction into other traumas how can they be happy if peace is a component of happiness 🤔

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Very well said, thanks for sharing your thought about this. bless you

[@ibelieveinaccuracy.fact-ch5942]

You have no evidence for this. Traumatised people are poor military recruits. Training weeds them out if it’s good.

[@Quasihamster]

I'd love to see a conversation between Dr. Maté and Dr. Ettensohn from Heal NPD.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for your advice! We're happy that you'd like to see a discussion between Dr. Gabor Maté and Dr. Ettensohn from Heal NPD. Both of these differentiates individuals have made important contributions to their respective fields, and a conversation between them may be very enlightening. Dr. Maté's insights into the root causes that contribute to different psychological and emotional issues, together with Dr. Ettensohn's skills in healing and personal growth, have a chance to pave the path for a deep and enlightening conversation. Exploring the interconnections of these concepts could provide a more comprehensive approach to treating NPD and its effects on individuals and their loved ones. Thank you once again for your engagement and support! 🙏✨💖

[@kfc_769]

Thank you for you video xx

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thsnks for watching, bless you

[@lucylocket1159]

On point ❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for watching. 💕🙏✨💖

[@yang7436]

In this culture nice people believe they have sins since born and they have to have a 'nice' way to express their anger or other negative emotions even when they were affended.I'll say sometimes you have the right to be angry in your way.The first step is just to show your anger.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

You make a wonderful point regarding the pressure to always be "nice" and the necessity to acknowledge and express our feelings, especially when they are negative. You are completely right; it is healthy to understand and address our emotions, including anger, in a constructive manner. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this cultural issue.Keep being true to your emotions, and remember that it's appropriate to express yourself authentically.😊

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

In this video, Dr. Gabor Maté real conversation with Dahlia and talk about his instant best-seller, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture. They tackles about NARCISSISM, TRAUMA, DEPRESSION & FAILURE. Dr. Gabor Maté discusses narcissism and what you should know about it. Is it being produced? Why do it appear that there are an increasing number of narcissists? And why does society continue to reward narcissism? Dr. Gabor Maté explains why when it comes to trauma, everything goes back to childhood. Dr Gabor Mate also give best advise If you feel lonely, depressed, and think there’s no hope. in conversation, Dr. Gabor Maté also shares his biggest failure in life. But this also offers a life lesson that applies to everyone. Get Gabor Maté’s books: 📚The Myth of Normal: amzn.to/3UHiUeQ

[@She_McGee]

I bought "when the body says no" but haven't read it - the title says most of it, really and he explained it so effectively in interviews and I understood it so well almost instantly that I don''t need to read it. Love Mate, thank you to him for so eloquently expressing what most of us didn't have the words to, even though we lived it.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@She_McGee very well said. Thank you and bless you

[@dianehenke2539]

Very interesting!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you💕🙏✨💖

[@robertwest7197]

I believe I have narcissistic tendencies that I recently acknowledged about myself. That said, what book would you advise for self help for my condition?

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for being open about this; acknowledging such tendencies takes quite a lot of self-awareness and courage. The book The Narcissistic Epidemic: amzn.to/3tkGe9G by Jean M. Twenge and W. Keith Campbell is frequently suggested for self-help in coping with narcissistic tendencies. It offers useful insights and practical recommendations. Remember, you're taking an important step toward personal growth, and there's help available.💪

[@robertwest7197]

Thank you very much for your response, encouragement and advice on which book to acquire. I know I have a long road ahead and I feel disappointed in myself. I’ll keep trying to improve in hopes I can change. @@yourinnerchildmatters

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@robertwest7197 Thank you for reaching out out and sharing your thoughts. Remember that the journey to self-improvement is filled with ups and downs, and it's completely normal to be disappointed at times. What actually important is your willingness to change and your determination to keep moving forward. By seeking guidance and making decisions to improve, you're already on the right track. Continue to believe in yourself, and with each step, you will become a better version of yourself.This community be there for you every step of the journey. 🌟💪 💖

[@robertwest7197]

I am determined as I don’t think I have a choice now. I mean now that I’m aware, it would be difficult for me to turn a blind eye to my behaviour. I have already reaped some guidance or insights from watching your videos. Thank you so much for them! To be honest after watching a bunch of other videos, I was starting to think there was little to no hope as a narcissist can very well be his own worst enemy. @@yourinnerchildmatters

[@e.1766]

In American, a Narcissist is Rewarded. They Sure Are😞🤢👺. Can we get a billboard put up on that?? Love You Dr. Gabor👍❤️

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

✨💖🥰

[@azaleaslightsage1271]

On the men touching women inappropriately, using sexual innuendo, women laughing it off so as not to escalate his behaviour is normal self protection because men are stronger can overpower women easily, can force/rape a woman in a secured environment/room, to make them Angry by rejecting them is dangerous, majority of women laugh it off for this reason, I was taught to do that if alone with a man that does that, to pretend it's a joke not real, to get out as fast as possible DONT ANGER THEM by outright rejecting them, because rejection can tip them over into anger DANGER RAPE ZONE, when 1 in 2 adult women have had some form of sexual assault/trauma Perpetrated upon them, it's common & we all know it, that's why we laugh unwanted sexual advances/sexual innuendo off, it's SAFER to do so. Nothing to do with childhood trauma.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for sharing your thoughts about this topic 🙏✨💖

[@karenkasteler942]

I believe it goes even farther back than childhood......I believe in reincarnation......although it might now show up for awhile....we come in with tendencies and pre-programming.....it's not all the parents or environment's fault.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

The concept of reincarnation and the thought that our tendencies and pre-programming may have roots beyond this lifetime are very interesting. It serves as a reminder that our path is deeper than we often realize. Thank you for sharing your thoughts! 🌟

[@mariekiraly100]

Don't forget that we have VERY few choices in regards to leaders. Very few people want those roles.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

You are entirely correct. Leadership roles can be extremely challenging, and it important to appreciate those who step up to the plate. Thank you for expressing this point of view.🙌

[@MC-pn5ed]

Damn I just get him.. he is good

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

yes indeed

[@nancyferguson6011]

Women are socialized NOT to stand up and not to get angry...... be nice

[@AdrianoGiovanni]

💚🙏 doctor

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

🙏✨💖

[@davidmitchell6873]

Wonder who the comedian was?

[@H-youtube7]

If narcissism is a developmental stage, what's the window and can it be reached afterwards through therapeutic relationship?

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Great question! Narcissism is a stage of growth, and while there is no set 'window,' therapeutic sessions relationships can help individuals in working on healthy self-development at any stage of life. It is never too late to pursue personal development and self-awareness🙏✨💖

[@carolynkepler2826]

I think America is at the end of a 60 year adolescence. Finally, the we are moving into adulthood. But, as we know, young people don’t really reach true adulthood until around age 25. We as a people have to go through this stage. WE WILL SURVIVE AND WE WILL TRIUMPH‼️

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for providing such a profound viewpoint! It's an interesting analogy to connect the stages of human development to the evolution of a nation. Countries, like individuals, go through stages of growth, change, and self-discovery. While the journey has its ups and downs, it is encouraging to hear about your optimism about America entering a new era. Transitions can be difficult, but they also provide opportunity for growth, learning, and good change. Let us hope for togetherness, understanding, and resilience as we navigate these difficult situations together. Your faith in humanity's potential for survival and growth is inspiring, and it is this spirit that may help design a better future for everybody. 🌟💪 #TogetherStronger

[@ele4853]

As much as I like listening to Gabor, boy! He speaks inwards. So hard to hear, even with high volume. I wish there was a high gain microfone just for him! 😅 Gabor! Please! Speak OUTWARDS!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Sorry! 💕🙏✨💖

[@maelleamand]

Thank you so much ! Do you have something on miscarriage as a trauma and cptsd ?

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for reaching out and sharing your interest for such an important topic. I appreciate that you found my information valuable. Miscarriage is a very sensitive and often unspoken subject, and it may be a painful experience for many people. CPTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) can be a difficult result of trauma, and it is important to have open discussions about these concerns in order to develop understanding and healing. While I don't have any content directly addressing this problem at the present, your comment has highlighted its significance. In the future, I will definitely consider generating content to address miscarriage as a trauma and its potential connection to CPTSD. It is critical to provide help and resources to those who have undergone such trauma. In the meantime, reach out to us if you have any questions or specific topics you'd like me explore into. Your insight is extremely useful, and I'm happy to help you in any way I can. Sending you warmth and strength during your journey 🙏✨💖🥰

[@maelleamand]

@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you ever so much for your kind and careful reply. I have found your videos insightful and have found several paths to pursue down the road of healing. I will be browsing through your rich content.

[@johnvliet523]

I have the volume all he way up and can barely hear the Dr’s low voice.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

sorry 🙏

[@jackiechild9740]

Thank you ❤️

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thanks for watching, bless you dear ❤‍🩹

[@lauraheselton8093]

You mentioned on line groups. Mind referring?

[@Kir-w67]

Today I gave up. Fighting for ones own sanity, I'm exhausted, depleted. Dysfunctional family. Friends don't believe you. Safe space out of reach. No response to my ask for help. Money taken from me. I love life, can light up a room. Exposure to being seen and safe - oh so wonderful. Why is suicide not called murder.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

I'm truly sorry to hear you're having such a difficult time. It takes great courage to share your feelings, and I want you to know that you are not alone on this journey. It's heartbreaking to hear about your struggles with family, friends, and the absence of a safe zone. Remember that you are a strong and resilient person, as proven by your ability to light up a room with your enthusiasm for life. Even in your darkest moments, that light within you is still burning, even if it appears to be dimming right now. Reaching out for support is a huge step, and I'm sorry to hear you haven't yet received the support you need. It can be really difficult for one to feel alone and unheard. Please do not give up on getting assistance. There are people and resources available to help, even though it may take some time to find them. Consider sharing your feelings with a mental health professional who may provide direction and support specific to your individual situation if you are comfortable doing so. There are also hotlines and online communities where you can connect with others who have faced similar difficulties. Your life is valuable, and even though it doesn't feel like it right now, better days are ahead. Keep that joy of life alive within you, and don't be afraid to seek help and support. You deserve to be able to heal and grow in a safe environment. During this tough time, I'm sending you virtual hugs and support. You are not alone, and others are concerned about your well-being.

[@rosemacaskie]

Mary Trump writes about how Trumps father taught Trump by critisising his elder brother about 7 years olderfor anything that demonstrated kindness, or friendship. I have seen abmother teach her children in the same way, despising their Dad for giving others a choice for what she saw as weakness, she did mot want to breed children who would become othr peoples slaves. She scorned empathy and kindness. As to Trum, ,I think he was voted fior because he was what his father taught him to be a man, a man who would do what was needed to help his family, or his thing. His behaviour is a result of such an education, of such scorn for the humanity in his brother.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

[@Zainygreenstone]

Audio too low, but I agree

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

sorry and thank you🙏✨💖

[@ninagraugaard4353]

Musik er for høj og ødelægger samtalen. Why musik ?

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

beklager.

[@jennywager6228]

Sound is so quiet struggling to hear most of this.

[@greener9115]

Audio low

[@angelaowen1513]

I wish they would not play the music c and video - just keep on the speakers. I can’t hear him speak and the video is very distracting. I don’t mean to be disrespectful so please no mean responses.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

💖

[@AlastorTheNPDemon]

I'm terrified of human predators. I have some dark desires myself, but these are just ungrounded fantasies. Dark Tetrad types are practically a different species with how naturally it comes to them. We need to get them before they get us! In the end, even if it means turning into one of them, the God of War spares nobody the draft. *_Who is it going to be, them or me!?_*

[@loannahoffmann8556]

Eish can we allow the good dr to get on with it sjjjjjt lady

[@Mithras444]

This kind of abuse has caused me to have Defiant Personality Disorder. Having to try and convince myself and the world, I am NOT a piece of garbage you can use as your scapegoat!!! Its taken 56 years to figure this out. 😮

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

I'm really sorry to hear about your pain, and I want to salute you on your courage and perseverance in sharing this deeply personal experience. It takes guts to open up about these kinds of challenges, and your honesty may encourage others who are facing similar difficulties. It's painful that you've had to put up with abuse for so long, and I can't image how much of your life it's taken over the last 56 years. Your awareness of the problem and willingness to tackle it are important steps toward healing and self-discovery. Remember that you are not alone, and you are not a piece of garbage. You are a special and important person who deserves to be respected, loved, and understood. It's never too late to start working on self-acceptance and self-care. There are resources and support networks available that can help you on your journey. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. You are breaking the silence on abuse and providing a message of hope to others by doing so. Please feel free to reach out to us if you ever need someone to talk to or if there is anything I can do to help you. I wish you strength, healing, and a better future. Sending you a lot of virtual hugs and support from Your Inner Child Matters Channel 💫💕🙏✨

[@anaibarangan4908]

We're all feeding online narcissism. Beginning with that of tech giants.

[@bl7406]

I couldn't even hear much of what was being said, and my sound is on at max

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

sorry

[@machstem2536]

its the ideaology

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

💖

[@speaktruth9989]

Yeah

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

💕🙏✨💖

[@pkpapers]

1:37 - "predators always knows . . . " -------------------- Why the bad grammar? Why use an ellipsis when a period would be proper?

[@samanthawilliams5520]

The matrix is meant to be confusion. The greatest among us should serve the rest that are least instead of the unqualified restraining the masses…but that’s intended

[@scottjones1083]

Background music too loud. Difficult to make out the conversation.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

i am sorry🙏💖

[@mattlehnardt8035]

She seems like she takes her cues on how to be from the authority figure in the room. Harks back to childhood where you freeze or fawn to survive??

[@joanlally9757]

what's with the imagines... all they do is distract me from listening mindfully...

[@monikadymek19]

There are many effects of trauma that can be removed. The human brain is plastic. That's why I assure you that it is available everywhere, NPD is available. We know the effects, but we also need help to find ways to solve it.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

🙏✨💖

[@monikadymek19]

@@yourinnerchildmatters The end is the beginning, even NPD's ego defenses collapse before death. Many such people wake up (not all). My father too. Sensitive people undergo mental death in NPD's defense system protects them from this. The question is what happens that in some cases of NPD the defense mechanism system collapses...

[@mindfulmomentswithColm]

its a bit quiet to hear...

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

🙏✨💖

[@itzakpoelzig330]

I wonder which comedian she's talking about? I wish she had felt safe enough to name him.

[@nick8252]

4:09

[@mattlehnardt8035]

She laughs AGAIN when she says there’s still a lot of stuff she could post about the incident with the comedian. She panders and fawns when it’s an authority figure and gives herself up and the comedian thought he could exploit that or that she’d be easily fall under his sway if he instigated physical intimacy.

[@cyberpunkworld]

Let's chat about this. We must see him on TV? Raise hand. Must he walk outside WH? Raise hand. Are you wearing at least pepper spray?