How To Discover and Heal Your True Self | Dr. Gabor Maté

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

This is a great, powerful clip from their complete talk. I like the idea that awareness is the first step toward being able to respond (in the sense that we are able to respond to the present rather than react to some past hurt). We can begin to detect our triggers and intercept them once we understand that our emotional response is about the past rather than the present. And once we start intercepting our triggers, being curious about them, and stopping the dysregulating cascade... well, that's incredibly empowering and exciting. And the idea that we don't respond to a stimulus; we respond to our interpretation, to the story we make up in our heads. That we may shape our own realities by selecting what we pay attention to and then deciding how to interpret it. And knowing that our emotions may be the result of an interpretation based on translating a previous hurt into a present scenario offers us tremendous power. And I absolutely love the idea of either covering the world in burlap or purchasing a pair of shoes. We can either anticipate and demand a pain-free environment, one that does not trigger us, or we can learn to control our triggers. We have no power if we do not comprehend; we blame others for our outbursts. There is no control. But once we have comprehension and response capability, we know we have power. We are capable of transformation. Very powerful! Thanks for watching please dont forget to LIKE, COMMENT, & SUBSCRIBE, it really means a lot to me! 🙏❤❤

[@elizabethdean0187]

Well said.

[@MohitGarg-wc7nx]

Hi, Mr. Gobar. Please prepare one podcast on privacy fuckers and stalkers as well.

[@robynhope219]

I'd rather cover the world in a burlap than buy shoes. I'm old and tired, thus try to avoid triggers. The less stress the better.

[@jamiewilliams8107]

Always be your authentic self and never try to fit in just to keep the peace.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Very well said thank you so much, bless you.❤️

[@LoriLeeSurfCityTemptations]

That's so hard when that's all you have ever done is keep the peace. At 58 I'm totally exhausted and have been through so much shit I started this healing process on my own . I still have the grieving, from all the death 6 kids and I'm the only one alive and it feel like I don't want to be here anymore. I would never take my life like my brother and sister did , but I want a break.

[@SealoftheonetrueGod]

No! What are you saying please stop you cant make me pay you set me up its wrong what yous did .. no peat isnt yanni and no none of us are related just stop please..

[@Bat_Boy]

Two no win choices: 1) wear a mask, hurt yourself, be accepted, or 2) not wear a mask, hurt others, NOT be accepted. What if I prefer to wear a mask, and I prefer that others do too. I’ve watched many Gabor videos on this subject, and his argument for being “authentic”, is weak and not fully rationalized. It’s just a mantra: “be real” with everyone. How? With losing connection with them? “Oh, do it politely, and roll the dice”. Yeah…not a real solution, and might create more problems just to hurt others feelings (including mine), causing more stress.

[@britiroy9758]

@@Bat_Boy 💯

[@ishani2103]

Gabor Mate is the best. He mixes philosophy with psychology in a beautiful way ❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Couldn't agree more!

[@ms.anderson-place802]

Dr. Gabor Mate is an awesome teacher. What a transforming video! The learners notice that "seeing yourself as a victim or empowering yourself to heal" really hit home for me.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s amazing how his insights can truly transform our perspectives. I appreciate you taking the time to comment!

[@robynhope219]

"when i speak of healing, i'm referring to a natural movement toward wholeness...not an end state to being completely whole or enlightened. It's a direction, not a destination". Thank you for clarifying that. I've been on the healing path most of my adult life, and still at it in my senior years. It's meaningful work, but not fun.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for taking the time to share your experience! Healing is a lifelong journey with ups and downs. Your dedication to it is admirable. 🌿 Continue on your journey, and remember that it is the journey itself that provides you growth and wisdom. I wish you ongoing strength and insights on your healing journey🙏✨💖

[@robynhope219]

@@yourinnerchildmatters thanks...means a lot to me!

[@literarystudies1861]

"I hope people will listen to this interview in a very personal sense, and that this discussion with you will help people look at themselves in maybe a new way. So rather than self-judgment about stuff that went wrong or they did to themselves or others, they get curious. What made me do that? They get curious compassionately because we're all born just wanting to be loving and loved. And then something happens. And then it's a hard road back. But I hope that this conversation helps people reconnect with that path or encourage them to continue that."

[@kenzabouzidi5686]

I discovered you with the Palestine Israel conflict. I can't believe your name never came into my feed. You're a blessed soul and I can feel it. I loved every minute of this. So many uh huh moments. Thx a million

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

[@lesliemctavish4300]

It was impossible for me to get through my CPTSD until I started to write my fears on a page every day. I dumped them there. And then I release them. There is no analyzing in this process. I started that two months ago and from this process came more clarity and being able to see what is behind my behavior and thoughts. For the first time in my life I am beginning to heal. I am with the program, the Crappy Childhood Fairy. And if you were to do the program you'de see there is more learning than this. I believe it could heal your life.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you for sharing🙏✨💖

[@YOU-niter]

I’m subscribed to that channel t👀👌🫶 Healing is possible.. especially if we believe it is. Belief is powerful🫶

[@sayusayme7729]

She’s great, hard journey but worth it

[@Lesane007]

That's great! How did you release them?

[@Uche4Word]

The journey to true empowerment begins with the holistic healing from the trauma of our inner child. Thanks Dr

[@spiceynye813]

And I believe that everyone needs this healing right now as the trauma we suffered from childhood is multigenerational. This conditioning throughout history is the reason we all have fragmented ego's which get replaced with an alter ego thus hiding an aspect of our true identity. Healing requires acknowledging, allowing the feelings to sit with us without judgement, accepting it's okay to feel and that every feeling is valid. Once we validate our emotions then we can release them and this is liberating and connecting to our true authentic ego self .

[@Uche4Word]

@spiceynye813 absolutely spot on. Every feeling is valid. The more we judge a feeling the harder it gets to be liberated from it.

[@vishaalbhatnagar3924]

Simple. Brilliant. This man is amazing! Hats off to Dr. Mate.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Many thanks! Bless you 💖💖💖

[@PatrickBiron-u2g]

Wow, iam 69yrs old. And just listened to this. Seriously I feel better now because I know what is wrong with me. But most of all i know it can be fixed. I will watch all your video teaching starting now. Thank you for my release from this. ❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖

[@emhooper7216]

I love Dr Gabors work & it has arrived in perfect timing to help lift humanity, slowly but surely. We're ready now. I've no degree in the psychology world but a strong bond with the English language & I can hear the difference or feel the power btwn the use of compassionate and disempowering words/thoughts. Its way more than that of course & I have a lot of work to do on me. Thankyou ❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Completely agree! Dr. Gabor's learning are truly transforming, and your connection between compassionate language and empowerment is profound. We're all on this path towards growth and enlightenment together. Your appreciation and commitment to personal improvement are inspirational. Continue to shine your light! ✨🌟 Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us! ❤️

[@kylec1411]

Gabor is an amazing person and mind. Thank you good sir. This was helpful as a 10 year recovering cocaine addict now sober for 2 years your work has been a great help for me.

[@awedub5540]

This man is teaching people how to be a sigma and how to be emotional intelligent

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for watching 💫💕🙏✨💖

[@mulantisreunitingall888]

Thank you so much for sharing this very liberating, empowering, and helpful video message.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

I’m so glad you found the video empowering! It means a lot to hear that it resonated with you.bless you dear

[@zovalentine7305]

Be yourself. Everyone else is taken 🤗

[@sayusayme7729]

Love this man and his teachings. A phenomenon he’s helped to create by redefining trauma, addiction & the brain. Whether neurodivergent or neurotypical, it’s possible to change abs implement true healing. Body mind & soul 🤍 Introspection is beautiful non-perfection. 🧡

[@3meandyou]

What a teaching that I had the opportunity to hear understand and a personal growth

[@EMGEE718]

I love this man.. what a treasure to humanity.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for your kind words! bless you!

[@cherxiong8064]

I hope and pray that the people who need this, will come across this video and be informed in all profound ways within them. Thank you.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖

[@julietkeers2016]

Transformable - reconnect to ourselves. Thank you it’s really what the world needs now.

[@NNLBC]

powerfull. my horses kinda forced me to reconnect to present moment and to react to it, it is healing

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for watching! 🌟 Healing is such a personal journey, and it’s amazing how shifting our mindset can open new doors to understanding ourselves better. I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences in the comments. What part of this video resonated with you the most? Let’s support each other on this journey. 💬 Don’t forget to share with anyone who might need this message! 🙏 #HealingJourney, #SelfDiscovery, #MindsetShift, #EmotionalHealing, #PersonalGrowth

[@allisonewens4036]

Healing is all about empowerment ❤

[@ColargolPL]

A brilliant explanation of core Buddha's teachings :)

[@leigh-anneobrien3299]

Brilliant. ... multi-generational, the function of society. YES. I thank you, Dr. Maté.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you so much for watching 💖🌻

[@WorkingMan1177]

Powerful truths!! 👊✌️❤️

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for watching and appreciating the truths shared in the video!

[@WorkingMan1177]

@@yourinnerchildmatters thank YOU for providing them! 😊

[@lets.7860]

I enjoyed listening as always! My take from this is , to ask what does it mean when something happened. That is my interpretation. It is painful to not blame but feel the pain. I rather feel the pain rather stay in the pain. Thank you for sharing his wisdom here with us.💕🕊

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for your kind and heartfelt comments. It's wonderful to hear that you loved the video and got a meaningful message from it. Your perspective on "what does it mean when something happens" is profound, highlighting the necessity of seeking understanding and insight rather than assigning blame right away. Your willingness to embrace rather than avoid pain shows your strength and emotional intelligence. We grow and learn on a deeper level as a result of such moments of reflection and empathy. We feel grateful to have you as a member of our community, and we look forward to sharing more wisdom and insights with you in the future. 💕🕊️

[@jacendress7190]

Aww Wow no words could ever express, so all I can say is, thank you ❤

[@ianmack5068]

Great video ☺️ Thank you!

[@pentangle78]

I am deeply convinced that a person perceives my weaknesses, and for this reason they take advantage of it, by non respecting me

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It's never easy to feel taken advantage of, but remember that you deserve respect and kindness.

[@pentangle78]

Thank you so much@@yourinnerchildmatters 🙏

[@dyingscreaming8728]

We don't respond to the present moment, we respond to the past 6:40

[@robynhope219]

Not always true

[@mariaflynn4620]

Wow!!! Powerful

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video

[@semracalik3040]

Many thanks and blessings

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you do much too and wishing you all the best 💕🙏✨💖

[@celestehogan5907]

I’m honored to see and hear all your views Dr GM on these urgent matters of the mind and heart …. I’ll keep listening. …..

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I appreciate your support, and I'm glad that you find value in my content. Keep listening, and I'll keep sharing content on these important topics! thanks again

[@theophilusquaye7729]

Thank you. Your word sounds practical. Keep on doing the good work.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you too!

[@w.urlitzer1869]

7:59 actually that quote goes back much further in time: Shantideva 7-8th century.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

I appreciate you pointing that out! It's wonderful how wisdom can transcend time and continue to inspire us.thanks again, bless you

[@CarrieAnnEckert-gs8ch]

This changed me and the way I think. I want to triple heart it. So many ah-ha moments. Thank you, Dr..Gabor Mate.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts! It means everything to hear that this video made such a profound impact on you and helped you discover those 'ah-ha' moments. Dr. Gabor Mate's insight is truly transforming, and I'm happy that it resonated to you. Remember that growing as a person is a journey, and it's wonderful that you're open to change and self-reflection. Continue to welcome fresh perspectives and insights! 💖💖💖

[@dianedugdale3126]

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[@pamwatkins4855]

Right on, thankyou

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏

[@JennyG.COW5]

Thank you for sharing this message. There's definitely things we can learn from this as we learn to heal together! 😊❤️

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

So true!Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video!

[@christinat56]

Bingo❤❤❤I love your insight and the fact that we all have access to you through KZbin as crazy as this world is…it makes me realize God really does work in mysterious ways.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you for watching 💕🙏✨💖

[@robynhope219]

Indeed..we are all fortunate to live in this day and age.

[@aaronfaucett6442]

Perception is reality

[@larquinn1090]

Very powerful talk🙏 wish everyone well who is struggling with what ever, like myself

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for your positive comments. Remember that you are not alone in the challenges you face. On your journey, I wish you strength and positivity. We're all in it together. 💪❤️

[@surindercheema5663]

Waheguru 🙏🙏 must hear

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you

[@rickyperez1239]

Hi! I’ve watched a couple of these videos and they’re interesting. One of the issues and struggles that I have in my life and I’m going to therapy for is having walls. I have a hard time letting people get close to me and the moment someone starts to get close to me, I feel uncomfortable. I have a little bit of emotional detachment. As much as I push some people away deep down, I do desire a deep connection with someone

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable and seek help. Keep working on yourself, and I'm sure you'll find that deep connection you're looking for. bless you and take care

[@-quantumhealinghome31]

Thank you for making these videos!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thank you too. Glad you like them! bless you

[@cosmicmanifestation1111]

Soul medicine: 1. meditation 2. deep belly breathing 3. authentic connections 4. sunrise 5. sunset 6. being present 7. hugs 8. nature 9. love 10. act of kindness 11. phone free time 12. gratitude 13. healing 14. laughter 15. deep inner soul nourishment 16. gratitude 17. creativity

[@anoniminpoezie8509]

Life saving! Thank You!❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Glad it helped!, thank you for watching💖🙏

[@PeaceIsWork]

There’s no original self. We are made of different parts and we can choose which ones to identify with and which to heal and even develop and change

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, much appreciated

[@SimiManuja]

Beautifully explained 👏 ❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thanks a lot 😊

[@bethanyvaughan334]

Thank you for sharing. This explains things for me. May God bless you 🙏

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching

[@dannymeyer3256]

Very good video really powerful insight.👍

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Glad it was helpful!, thanks for watching

[@JSMN_DAILY]

Understanding your CORE wounds and working to reprogram your internal beliefs will alter your perception of reality greatly

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! 💖

[@nick8252]

Thanks for sharing 🙏❤ 9:22

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thanks for listening 💖🙏

[@gunzrloaded]

I say one of the best things a person can do for mind,body and spirit is to do "Earthing" or some call it "Grounding"...!!!! Cheers....!!!!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

[@bryanjacob8059]

Thank you

[@patkelly4339]

Even if the contractor did disrespect him, which could be the case from construction people I have met (hard men) it’s not the end of the world. I spent quite a bit of my life in sales and had to learn to move on when people were ‘not nice’. Fortunately most people if you treat them in a positive and friendly way will respond in a like manner. Someone being a jerk does not reflect on you….

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

You've absolutely got it! It is true that encounters with very difficult people are unavoidable, whether in the construction industry or any other field. What matters most is how we respond. Your sales expertise has taught you that treating people positively and politely typically results in a similar response. Remaining resilient in the face of difficulties demonstrates your character. As you noted, the actions of others do not define who you are. Your ability to rise above and keep professionalism defines you. Keep nurturing positive interactions, and allow the good feelings to spread through all aspects of your work. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!💫💕🙏

[@patkelly4339]

Cheers!!!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@patkelly4339 💖

[@emmafinspirations6348]

All so v true

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for your kind words! It means a lot to me that you found my video relatable and true.

[@anamariaalvimsouza6462]

Option for Translation into Portuguese from Portugal, thank you

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏

[@DayByeDayChristineOKArtist]

Thank you for this video ❤❤ ✨️

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏

[@robynhope219]

I’d like to know his definition of “healing”. To me it means becoming or returning to a fully functional being. Idk how that could be possible for ppl with early and severe trauma ...your brain won’t let you forget. I think one can improve as I have done, but full recovery imo is not possible...at least not by my definition.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

thanks for sharing your thoughts ✨💖✨💖

[@JennyG.COW5]

Yesterday (Thanksgiving Day) morning, as I was imagining myself explaining to someone else about how I was able to get a feeding tube out of my own nose and that I was smiling and happy to be free from the GI food tubing device! I usually explain how after pulling out my GI tube for feeding my infant body, that my Parents had to take me to the doctors so they would put the tube back in my nose. When using a word to describe reinserting the GI tubing, the phrase, Put back in" is how my Mom would describe this experience whenever she shared me this story. (I also remember asking on occasion what happened about it, so I remember her using the word "Put", instead of a more forceful word. Though perhaps I don't remember.) Anyway, as I was sitting on my bed and imagining myself recounting this story about an experience I had as an infant, I remember a comment someone made about viewing themselves in a different light. Their husband encouraged them to view themselves as if they are seeing themselves as a child, and when they did, this different angle about themselves shifted their mindset from one of humor, to one of painful acknowledgement. So while pretending to have a discussion with someone, I thought I'd try to look at this scenario from my own words and viewpoint. As I was recounting this experience as my own words about myself, I imagined that I was talking about times when you are compliant for survival reasons, but that I chose to be a little rebellious in this situation when I pulled out the GI tubing! I then imagined myself telling this other person that the doctors needed to help reinsert the tubing. Next, I thought about telling them, slightly jokingly, "Well, they probably didn't just 'put' it in, because I was a baby at the time, I don't think I would have been as cooperative, since babies don't know how to cooperate and lie still. They (the medical staff) most likely had to hold me down and Shove it in!" While I really have had the experience with needing a tube down my nose to my stomach when I was older, I remember that I was more in control of swallowing and more aware of it happening (this was when I was in my 20's now. I think it was before an emergency operation for an intestinal blockage. Anyway, after imagining myself in the first person, as helpless infant, being re-forced into doing something that I most likely didn't want to have happen to me (Especially when I had gotten Victory over being Free from this tubing device!), it suddenly hit me....Hard! 😶➡️💥 And for the first time since hearing about this story, it became personal! This wasn't just a story about some poor kid who had to put up with this frustrating situation. This was Me!!! 😮 After it suddenly dawned on me about this connection, I cried! 😶➡️😮➡️💥➡️😭 Learning about my Personal Experiences helped me realize that I most likely have more to discover/uncover before I can start healing and progressing. Thanks for sharing this message.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Your comment touched me deeply, and I want to express my gratitude for your vulnerability in sharing such a personal journey. It takes incredible strength to reflect on our past experiences, especially those that involve moments of vulnerability and challenges. Your perspective on viewing oneself through the lens of a child is profound and brings a unique layer to the understanding of our own experiences. The realization that this story isn't just about someone else but about you, adds a powerful depth to it. I appreciate your willingness to share this part of your life and the emotional journey it stirred within you. It's incredible how revisiting our own past can bring new insights and opportunities for healing. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and your openness may resonate with others who are navigating their own paths of self-discovery and healing. If you ever feel like sharing more or seeking support, this community is here for you. I am sending you warm thoughts and encouragement on your ongoing journey of self-discovery and healing.

[@Andy-yi2ot]

Many thanks🙏and many blessings 🍀👍😊 "Stopped by life" Conglomerated out of the mind of the Almighty and the heart of mother Earth From the energy that creates everything we can experience Tossed into the wastelands of this plane among other souls I forgot who I am because that was the condition of this existence I was stopped by this life too soon It painted me a false face of this world here I became a part of the masquerade without being aware of it I put on a mask and costume, blocking out the light I have gathered a lot of experiences because these were the guidelines Replace fear with love and do not let evil forces consume me I see it now, and I am glad that I remembered I thank the Almighty and mother Earth that they have not forgotten me

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Your lovely words have a powerful impact! 🙏✨ Sending blessings and gratitude right back to you. 🍀💫 Continue to shine your light!😊👍

[@Andy-yi2ot]

@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you🙏for your kind words👍😊🍀

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@Andy-yi2ot thank you too ❤🙏

[@deegirl6994]

Beautiful

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you! Cheers! have a wonderful day!💕🙏

[@deegirl6994]

@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you.

[@deegirl6994]

May i ask for a recommendation of one of Gabor Mate's books please? Something revolving around healing, trauma, changing subconsciously deeply ingrained beliefs, etc. Thank u.

[@deegirl6994]

@@yourinnerchildmatters hello, may i ask for a book recommendation of one of Gabor's books please? Thanls

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@deegirl6994 Get Gabor Maté’s books: 📚The Myth of Normal: amzn.to/3UHiUeQ 📚In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts:amzn.to/3YxFvO4 ❤‍🩹Audible Gift Memberships: amzn.to/3WZp7Ey It goes deeply into healing, trauma, and the transformation of subconscious beliefs. Maté's thoughts are truly transforming; a must-read for everyone on a self-discovery path. "Enjoy your reading and healing!"💝💖

[@zovalentine7305]

❤ Gabor Mate MD PhD ❤

[@nuhaelkhatib1108]

I wonder what the reaction should be for ppl not respecting time in certain countries or cultures

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for bringing up this thought-provoking question! It's important to discuss and understand different cultural perspectives on time. Let's open up a discussion and learn from each other's experiences.

[@Themis33]

Woah let's unbox that quote. It was too fast. Have to study it.

[@MissLori2010]

Your “true self” does not need any “healing!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for your kind words! It's important to remember that we're all unique in our own ways and don't need any "fixing".

[@pp-1954]

I am still bleeding

[@thirdrockjul2224]

❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

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[@margaretworthing8645]

Your regret it when you come to life found what you lost even men in another department said your very good woman

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

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[@yourinnerchildmatters]

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[@Tammissa]

I just want to heal from my trauma. I feel I need someone to tell me how. How do I get over the pain and fear? I want to but don’t know where to even start. A good therapist is way outta my financial range. So how do you do it? Where does one start?

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts. It takes a lot of guts to reach out in a manner such as this. I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult time. While I am nurse but I am not a skilled counselor, I can provide some some suggestions to assist you begin the process of healing. 🌿 Self-Compassion: Begin by being nice and understanding to yourself. Recognize that healing takes time and that it is normal to feel this way. 🌿 Educate Yourself: Understanding trauma and its consequences can be liberating. There are plenty of internet tools, articles, and books available that can offer insights and techniques for coping. 🌿 Mindfulness and Grounding: Mindfulness and grounding skills can help you stay present and deal with overwhelming emotions. 🌿 Support Network: If possible, communicate in friends, family, or support groups. Connecting with individuals who have gone through similar experiences can be very comforting. 🌿 Creative hobbies: Engaging in creative hobbies such as writing, sketching, or playing music can help you deal with your emotions. 🌿 Routine and Structure: Creating a daily routine can provide you with a sense of stability and predictability in your life. 🌿 Physical well-being can be improved through regular exercise, a well-balanced diet, and adequate sleep. 🌿 Since you stated financial limits, look for online forums, free classes, or resources designed exclusively for trauma survivors. 🌿 Journaling: Writing down your feelings and thoughts can help you process them over time. 🌿 Professional Assistance: While counseling can be costly, some therapists provide sliding-scale prices, and other places have low-cost or free mental health clinics. You could look into neighborhood services or non-profit groups that offer mental health assistance. Remember that recovery is not a straight path, and it's fine to seek help along the way. Take small steps, be patient with yourself, and celebrate in your accomplishments. You're stronger than you realize, and your dedication to healing is an important beginning step. On your journey, I wish you strength and positivity💕🙏✨💖

[@slated9]

I have a quote for you and it may sound weird at first. "Show, don't tell". Having the trauma still around, (I'm still healing from being gaslighted myself) in your head kind of traps you in a story or narrative. I suggest, and this will suck but it works, you relive the trauma BUT do not label your emotions that come up. FEEL them instead, note how your body feels. Don't just say your anxious, describe how your body feels anxious. focus on the sensations, and then forgive youself. Its fare to easy to beatyourself up with hindsight, you cannot blame youself for not having the wisdom you gained after the fact.

[@robynhope219]

I think what he means by healing is to process your trauma.

[@dekapwt5618]

🙏🏻😔

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

🙏✨💖

[@CM-uo5tq]

He must have an amazing wife to be such a workalcoholic

[@MB-sj1zd]

Do it first!!! And i will rethink if i should give u a value 😂😂😂😂

[@Anacuentacuentos]

School is disconnecting people. :(

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏

[@dhirendrasinghgehlot4565]

They still didnt tell how to reconnect with oneself. How to reconnect???????

[@ItsSoarTime]

UNH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

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[@robynhope219]

On page 361 in the Myth, Gabor says "I do not define healing as an end state"...then on the following page he says "healing is best seen as an end in itself"...is this a misprint, or am I missing something...what?

[@sonicheart8940]

What does it mean to be an end in itself? : something that one does because one wants to and not because it will help achieve or accomplish something else. (from dictionary). I believe Gabor is referring to healing as an ongoing process of aligning with a sense of wholeness.

[@robynhope219]

@@sonicheart8940 aligning with a sense of wholeness...sounds so new ageish.

[@robynhope219]

It sure does...

[@stoneem5387]

I'm sure you only meant that atba figure of spea h

[@RunaChakra-zf1id]

No one should have to be apologetic about ones ethnicity. God chooses to incarnate in India multiple times. Racism really needs to addressed. People ignore because they don't value Indians. Only interested in what can be given to them.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

You are right! It's a beautiful thing to embrace our heritage and uniqueness. Let us unite against racism and appreciate India's rich heritage. 🙌🇮🇳✨

[@gersonsimon4283]

Dr. Mate, do you think you could reach me and help me? Im in a profund state of sadness and depressed...Im running out of steam.................I need help

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Good day there, I'm truly sorry to hear you're having such a difficult time. Remember, you are not alone in this. Consider reaching out to a trustworthy friend or family member, as well as seeking professional assistance. There are people out there who are concerned about your well-being, and you are not alone on this journey. Take small steps toward healing, and remember that it is acceptable to seek help. Sending you warmth and strength during this tough time💖🌻🌹💕🤗

[@gersonsimon4283]

Yo you are a good man, I'm in Vancouver, west 21st 600 block, coud I invit you for a cup of coffee?...I would really appreciatte, if you prefer not to, I would understand, God Bless you!@@yourinnerchildmatters

[@robynhope219]

What do u mean "heal ur true self"? The self isn't true, or it wouldn't need healing...right?

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Good question! 'Heal your true self' refers to the psychological and personal growth process in which we attempt to connect our behaviors and ideas with our authentic views and goals. While the concept of'self' can be difficult to understand the goal is to treat emotional wounds and bad patterns, allowing us to live more genuinely and positively. 🌱🌟

[@robynhope219]

This takes a lifetime...ik, bc I'm old and am still working on issues.

[@lubasamoluk8024]

Here is one crucial part missing in the picture of healing, and it's our Heavenly Father and Lord Jesus who died that we may become free and whole, and have peace, love and life eternal ❤😊

[@robynhope219]

Not true for atheists.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's amazing how different beliefs may help us understand healing. 🙏✨

[@dalmara17]

And who wass controlling the universe whilst he was died. If you say the father that means you have more than 1 God. Meaning you do not believe in 1 God.

[@lubasamoluk8024]

@@dalmara17 Yes, the Father was:) There is one God in three divine persons, just like we are made with three components: spirit, soul and body.

[@dekapwt5618]

CCTV... Can't Exspress Myself 😔😔😔😔

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

🙏✨💖

[@ImranAli-tm3rq]

Ok...what if you messed up, and now it's too late to go back and fix things...how about then? What self talk do you give then?

[@jodisky25]

🌑✨🔥

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

💕💕

[@stoneem5387]

You say going to hell of heaven really try stepping outta the separation you won't know matee

[@jolhdj]

where is the how to in this video ? i guess you font get that ftom a 7 minute video . im sick of myself truly . i feel like i cant even go out because ive been so misjudged lately . im just a traumatised person like everyone else .

[@ultravioletpisces3666]

I’m confused because I like Gabor but if I paid someone to fix things and I got back and they weren’t fixed I would be mad, NOT because I’m thinking I’m not worthy but because it’s not done. This is a very weird take imo.

[@joycegoes266]

Jaante ho jab Mera baccha hoga tab muje mere bacche mein school daalna boring sa lagta Hai. Muje school life kya Hai nahi Pata.

[@annastone5624]

I think the phrase ‘seeing oneself as a victim’ is so so over-used and often just plain incorrect, implying that that perception is wrong, but many people are terribly victimised..so they are correct they are victims. I think he would be better to use..the terms helpless or powerless .. People can’t see what they could possibly do to escaped their circumstances.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Certainly, your point is well taken. The terminology used to describe these challenging circumstances is important. While the phrase "seeing oneself as a victim" may be overused, it is important to recognize that many people are truly victims of their circumstances. In other circumstances, the labels "helpless" and "powerless" may be more realistic, emphasizing the lack of options and means to escape their situation. Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Appreciated 💖💗

[@annastone5624]

Yes I’d like to almost ban that phrase ‘thinking like a victim’.. who uses the phrase most? Narcissistic abusers.. ..many victims have not only been profoundly victimized, but a major part of their abuse has also been, being told they are over-sensitive and ‘thinking like a victim’ when they try to stop the abuse or express their pain. I think Maté has an excellent understanding of general trauma, but he doesn’t really understand or talk about narcissistic abuse.

[@robynhope219]

Exactly, ppl over the yrs often told me to stop being a victim..it is a stupid and direspectful thing to say.

[@robynhope219]

@@annastone5624 ...nor does he speak about psychopaths...thats cuz he's not a shrink.

[@Xtine72]

⁠@@annastone5624I understand what you’re saying and agree that in this context, it’s not a good choice of words. But it’s a generalization and no matter what phrase is chosen, someone will feel hurt or offended. I’ve been a victim of a narcissist. But I chose not to be a victim of Dr. Maté’s choice of words here…. Knowing full well that that is NOT what he intended. I hope you are well and can see the nuance there ❤

[@robynhope219]

I think the word "heal" is thrown around too much. It gives ppl the wrong impression. One can improve, maybe improve a lot, but there will always be remnants of trauma. The body remembers.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Healing is not about erasing the past, but rather embracing growth and progress despite the scars of our history. It's a journey of self-discovery and resilience.Thank you for sharing this insight. 🙏✨💖

[@mb19873]

​@@yourinnerchildmattersI am 67, female, and my husband passed away 2 months ago. I thought I had healed from childhood, until now. Fear and rejection has been the theme, which were constant in all of my childhood.

[@robynhope219]

He talks too fast...before I have a chance to decide if I agree, he is on to the next thing. Overall, I have the impression he simplified a very complex issue.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

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[@stoneem5387]

Truth the persiparion with ADHD examples are fair but your wrong about understanding where we are something you have forgotten too wake up too and all that is build on earth Carl Sagan would be watching you sitting in a blue dot

[@instanta2693]

Tears are just rolling down. Gabor is a gift to humankind. We all are and he lives like a gift. Thank you Gabor. This was heart opening! ❤

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful thoughts! 😢💖 Gabor has a special knack of reaching people's hearts and motivating them. We are very glad to have him as a member of our community, and comments like yours remind us of the huge impact that he has. Let us keep spreading love and gratitude together. 🌟💕

[@instanta2693]

@@yourinnerchildmatters♥️I’m having such profound realizations during these past couple of days I’ve listened to him. Almost like being broken up from within…and I’ve been in therapy off and on for a decade. Thank you for sharing his knowledge with the world.

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you so much for taking the time to share your meaningful experience with us. It's wonderful to hear that you've had such profound insights while listening to the contents on our channel. The right words at the right moment may have a significant effect on our lives at times, and it appears that you've discovered that. It's also encouraging to hear that you're still open to growth and self-discovery after many years of treatment. Remember that personal development and healing are continual journeys, and that each step you take takes you closer to your best self. We are grateful to have you as a member of this community and are overjoyed that this information is resonating with you. We can continue to encourage and inspire one another on this great pathway of self-discovery and progress if we work together. Best wishes on your journey to personal improvement! 💫

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@instanta2693 I'm very touched to hear how thes teachings have impacted you. profound understanding can be both challenging and transformative. It's wonderful to know that the advice provided here resonated with you. Thank you for your kind words and for being part of this adventure. 🙏💫❤‍🩹

[@tanij.3404]

♥🥹 That "higher part" of me loves me very much, even though I (or my ego) am terrible sometimes... ;-)

[@AryaArya-rc2bu]

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[@yourinnerchildmatters]

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