Dealing With Heartbreak :'( | Getting Over Him/Her | Ep 56

[@purityibrah856]

The point on taking a break is super important. My friend always says: Heal or you will bleed on people that didn't cut you.

[@overtwentyfive7805]

WAUUU!!!!!!

[@beingchepsue6274]

truth here!!

[@lisakigenda1859]

Louder for people at the back please

[@lisawinnie1903]

Testify to that truth

[@leolucky7570]

Captiiiion

[@neshavelli]

Hawa watu huvunja Julia roho hutaka nini..That's a fine soul and snack for days..

[@bintimrembo]

Bless you

[@neshavelli]

@@bintimrembo bless your genes..

[@philipokoth4218]

Wanawake wanapenda bad boys; who almost always break their hearts. Ma-good guys wako friend zoned

[@noelamutabi7394]

When I grow up I wanna be like Shikkie. Hatambui hii topic 😂😂😂😂😂😂cheeiii

[@debranyakerario4862]

Hi Noel

[@patricknjenga4502]

@@debranyakerario4862 Me too... Nataka tu naangalia watu na huruma alafu na mind my own business

[@kijana2030]

Shix is gooood people me thinks

[@annekavutha719]

Sis naona umekua celeb😂😂😂😂

[@ednawabwire8407]

Looooooool

[@naomik.4251]

EVEN when you’re the one that ended the relationship, heartbreak is still a MAD TING 😩😩 Whew. Chile. I read something about taking 21 dry days. Love is a drug & when you get out of a relationship you’re like a druggie looking for a hit. So taking 3 weeks off, like an actual addict, no stalking , no calls, no emails - that shit helps. Day 22 is SO much easier, from my own lived experience. :) I also believe in being alone for a good amount of time after a break up. Getting to re-know yourself after this relationship, loving on yourself, making yourself your own best friend again. I think it’s so important to be comfortable in that. BUT I also get how difficult it is, and there’s no shame in doing whatever you need to feel better, even if that means getting into another relationship that you’re not “ready” for. And closure is more about time than about words. All the questions you want answers to won’t matter if you stick it out. :)

[@dennismunyasya]

2019 is the year of consistent uploads. Hii story ya kuenda MIA for a couple of months muache.

[@pintogama4712]

eeeh 2019 tunawachungulia sana...lolz

[@MsMedrin]

I have recently been going through a wild breakup. I did not block my person on any social media platform. Because, like y'all have just said, there's always an avenue to communicate. LinkedIn, Skype, Twitter et al. What worked for me, is I trained myself to not initiate conversations with him. To do enough solo travels. Without forgetting that I vented about this situation to my friends. Venting helps with letting go of the heart break, lets off some steam. I honestly thank God for my friends who would stay up late listening to me crying and venting. If you read this girls, I love you. Am also on a dating break. I think it is well deserved for me. Am taking time to just love my space. Plus your advice is timely....thanks to ALL of you girls.

[@cmaina3788]

After my 3 yr rltnshp brk up,i got a therapist,who also happened to be a friend...this guy was the best.Hed pop into my office early just to give me a hug for making it another 8hrs without my ex n call me for a drive to Nai from Nanyuki with loud music n tell me to scream n cry all i want...lol....

[@MsMedrin]

@@cmaina3788 this is really cool. At least you finally let go of your ex.

[@zipwangui]

@@cmaina3788 Wow aint that lovely!

[@overtwentyfive7805]

LOVE AND LIGHT

[@chemutaicheruiyot7688]

Medrin Kituyi I totally agree, this works for me too. I always vent to my friends.

[@jaberasami5901]

who else is here for Ivy's facial expressions 😂😂🤣

[@bintimrembo]

Loooool

[@Blackiezz]

😂😂for days

[@murugimunyi2734]

Loved this video! And Julia I get the point you were trying to make about the heart ache 🤣🤣

[@stephaniegati1051]

Funny thing...when you finally want to be alone....men find you attractive out of nowhere🙆😂😂😂

[@fatumaabdullahi675]

😂😂True👌

[@fatumaabdullahi675]

😂😂True👌

[@kijana2030]

It's not out of nowhere. Men love challenges. It's an ego thing I think.

[@MarthaFynest]

Wooi Aki ukweli 🤣🤣 but why????

[@magdalenekemunto5922]

But why Is this true 😭😭😭.. literally everyone wants you now

[@ianmisik9]

Also talk to God about it. I mean, it's not conventional but one of my best decisions.

[@rukamwi]

Ian Misik same

[@paulamugabi7320]

Yes best tip.

[@HeyPhonsi]

Topics ideas. Do you only discuss relationships? - Defining happiness for yourself - Faking it online to make it - Open relationships - Politics in the workplace - Millennials and the hustle culture - Knowing that he's the one - Relationship advice for men

[@carolinekolute]

Wow 🤗this are actually great topic ideas that I would like to hear from this channel

[@faithfullypenny]

Add finances too.

[@fiddierique]

Nice insight... You should DM them on their IG

[@nancysimiyu3107]

wow these are really nice topics, ad really like to hear them debate on dating celibate, is it a myth or something thats possible in our generation. Hope they take note of these awesome topics you have outlined.

[@SavvyKenya254]

Most of these have actually been covered in previous episodes. Please watch all of them.

[@stellawanjiru1980]

Ivy's facial expression is everything ,the nods .....she really does understand all those points.

[@kijana2030]

Active listening 😅

[@hendritahwanjala3101]

I know right 😍😍

[@SamanthaNyakoe]

I hope you all give Jules a hug once in a while ,I really understand what she means by being lonely when single.That was deep 😭

[@wambuinganga4143]

As I am watching this I can't help but notice shiko amekuwa that pillar to her squad through their breakups hugs to such lovely souls maayn 😍😋

[@bintimrembo]

VERY ACCURATE

[@justabantu]

Glad you tackled this topic. Yes delete his social media I'm with Lorna

[@yvonneivyyvette9231]

Ivy's facial expressions are everything.. Jules is such a sweet soul.. You guys are bomb

[@teddymugambi]

So much truth in what y'all are saying. I went through the same cycles and dealt with them almost the same way all of you dealt with them; and I'm a guy. Block & delete. Thrive in your singlehood. Get rid of the pain progressively and don't try to numb it. Find a close community of friends and family to guide you through every stage. Probably what you left out is the journey of forgiveness- both of self (if at all you regret anything) and of the other party. You let go of a lot of negative energy when you forgive and embrace the 'scars'. From that, it has reached a point where I'm so grown and content in myself to the point that I sometimes wonder whether I'll ever disrupt that sense of peace with another relationship. Am I lonely sometimes? Yes. Am I fearful? Maybe. But there's just this innate pleasure of growing in yourself which is so fulfilling that makes it somewhat hard to try and get into another relationship for the fear of losing that peace. I guess we'll have to see what the future holds. That said, this really is an amazing video. :)

[@mushie1560]

Woooooow.....you have stated truths in a very amazing manner..👌👌

[@cindyodinga9695]

👏👌👌

[@faithkhaemba6161]

‘This too shall pass really is true’ Took me 2 years to recover fully after a 4 year relationship, but after therapy and yoga am good.

[@becky4579]

Love you guys so much. My biggest take away from this episode is what Julia said...if you're single for a long time it's the universe trying to pass a message, listen to it...mahn! I felt that shit. Thank you so much. I think I needed to hear that

[@raywira7338]

Personally, I just disappear, reevaluate the relationship, what worked, what didn't. Take my lessons and then I throw it all out, everything! By the time I'm resurfacing, I have amnesia and if I needed to delete shit like pics or conversations, it is like you never even existed 😀😀 I believe in living in the moment, so holding on to the past whether good or bad, just holds me back. Plus, I think about it in a "I almost drowned a couple of times whilst learning to swim, I don't remember how it felt to almost drown when I get into water, yet I learned to swim, and I also stopped counting for when to breath because after I learned, it comes naturally" Anyhu, y'all do dope videos! Would love to be "studio audience" 😂😂😂😂 (not a good idea though) Cause I am super crazy lol, would have totally jumped in on that heartbreak feeling debate... Plus, I would keep interrupting with questions. But y'all doing a great job. I love your vids! Y'all real, human, raw and super relatable.

[@njokindungu8306]

Just to make any y'all feel better, nobody breaks your heart they just don't meet your expectations. This has made me feel better despite the fact that actually I feel like its broken. Thank you Julia

[@alexagaba7244]

Julie, please share your daily affirmations. Am also on that energy journey.

[@dianaogega3502]

Hahaha, y'all are just funny. At 17:20....The pain is called Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy. A temporary heart condition often brought about by stressful situations. It's a surge of stress hormones which prevents the left ventricle from contracting effectively.

[@neshavelli]

Say it louder so that Lorna stops associating it with mitochondria

[@doreenkawira1124]

Is there painkillers for such pain haha because i need it damn.if it's a medical condition then there ought to be some sought of pills aaargh

[@De1Litto]

Hi ladies. I was recently ghosted by my girl. And so i read between the lines, got depressed for two-three days and now everything in Nairobi reminds me of her. iIt really felt so bad coz i thought she was the one. So my way of dealing is to move to a new town, enjoy new experiences and that will be really easy coz my work is online and super flexible.

[@christinebmomanyi2846]

Bravian... sorry You can hit me up though hehe Am very single hahaaa

[@bintimrembo]

This too shall pass 😘 Love and Light and Healing

[@bintimrembo]

@@christinebmomanyi2846 well... congrats

[@kuigaceru8421]

Have a beautiful life man. Remember that self love even when you find love again.

[@De1Litto]

@@christinebmomanyi2846 lol thanks but I think it's my time to be single for a cobwebs-worthy long time. Thank goodness I have The Fray and The Script music to comfort me..Not getting a cat though.

[@aririsamantha]

I believe in what Jules is saying, taking a break from dating. You get to know yourself better and know what exactly you want. You also learn how to guard your heart. I couldn't watch comedies I loved for a while because we watched the same things and every time I would start, I would just start crying because I never had anyone to do the after show discussions (lol, I know it sounds weird but they were the best discussions).

[@jemmywande2613]

Downloaded this vid for offline view and forgot to watch it till yesterday, and of all days....it 'spoke' to me. Thanks ladies

[@constancemutua1070]

The reason as to why we feel pain in the heart it's coz the body is divided into 7 Chakras ...and the heart chakra is the one responsible for love n affection.. Google for more info.

[@gracejohnson3048]

This video got me so prepared for a heartbreak I want to dump my boyfriend just to rehearse.. lol

[@adventureswithphi405]

That self destructing thing is soooooo true.... Surround yourself with people that care about you. My girlfriends suggested we join the gym and it felt nice to redivert my attention elsewhere. Being by yourself can get pretty toxic at that time.

[@deedonna6080]

I loved the discussion..for me I think its easier dealing with heartbreak by crying your heart out before allowing other people get you through otherwise no matter how they try helping you ,you will tend to think they don't understand the pain you feeling. It will be interesting to hear you guys bring men to talk about the challenges of boy child in this generation .

[@DianaKavaya]

first things first.....loose all hopes of getting back with your ex....😂thats essential

[@austinomolo580]

I agree.

[@catherinenyambura9741]

Very true. That hope keeps one from healing.

[@danielmatu7639]

Interesting video, definitely came from the heart. I've found that addressing things straight away and not being in denial quickens this process, Lornzie style. Delete/block till further notice. People heal at different speeds, but don't waste more time than you need to move on. Best point for me, you don't need closure. Lool. 100% true. Move on

[@linahnjoroge4132]

Hapo kwa no point of closure 🙌🙌🙌🙌. Never understood it... Good job guys.. Love this

[@awam951]

Yenyewe heartbreak is painful... When i remember the times my heart was so broken, in the middle of that pain and tears, I remember just praying and asking God to help me get out of that state. But keeping my distance, blocking even if just temporary, not responding to their messages and generally just allowing myself to grieve. And after all that nothing , nobody could ever tell me to go back to that person.

[@Glo_wan]

Yaass.. Watching comedy really helps My go to comedy shows for when I'm feeling low, after a heartbreak or when I just don't feel right are two and a half men, men at work, golden girls, baby daddy, mom 😊

[@Grace-mr8bc]

I just love, love how genuine & concerned you guys are when putting your points across. I feel like this was a therapy session in itself. 👏

[@brendakiptum4374]

You have no idea how timely this is for me. Thank s ladies.

[@charitywachira462]

Everytime I remember why I left and the lessons I learnt , I leave again in my head I swear😂😂😂😂

[@sandram3205]

U be imagining being Oprah's guest talking about how u never going back yea😂😅

[@stellakurui2195]

🤣🤣🤣🤣so true!

[@evemuriuki160]

Haha this is soo true

[@stellanyawira460]

😂😂

[@lorrecco]

I love how Julia has to use 1000 words to explain one thing

[@bintimrembo]

Hahahaha... this is true.

[@nellykioko1454]

I got paged on the rebound so definitely don't get under someone to get over another one. Issa scam

[@OGfunk-ks2xm]

Wow how did you handle this. Kinda in the same too

[@4382.M]

Yap issa scamm

[@winniemutunga1990]

Love it!!!! Super relatable. The lonely part is real. Maybe its just time to discover more for yourself and to love on yourself. Thank you for this..... but aki mitochondrion,....... hapana.

[@sharonsusu1306]

wow soo timely....just when i needed it.My heart aches literally....i cant wait to move on ....

[@neziahsharon8106]

I accepted the pain for three months and I'd see the guy almost weekly (talk of breaking)... after three months my friend I'm awesomely smiling, laughing, dressing good and enjoying life! I don't know how or what he feels and I do not care coz all that matters is ME!

[@kawiraikiao156]

We feel physical pain in the chest area due to something called psychosomatization where our psychological hurt manifests through physical symptoms. The symptoms can vary but perhaps its usually chest pain or tightness in the chest because the organ tied to love is the heart.

[@everything_sheila]

The stupid things I did while dealing with a breakup!!!! Smh. Thanks for this. So relatable.

[@mwanjeri737]

I've been heart broken and I've learnt to love myself once you love urself you become happy and do stuff that make you happy, thanks guyz

[@MatwanaMatatuCulture]

Good insights, Most important thing is God is in control.

[@meisukerubo3394]

I understand Julia about learning to be alone and fulfilled.There are those days you get lonely but there is strength in being able to be alone and like it.We are human but you are single for you,for a reason.You become stronger

[@eddonserio9215]

Y'all look really dope today...I needed this soo bad.

[@stacymote3809]

Love the discussion. I think there should be a part 2 with guys involved

[@graceodawo]

F closure, closure issa lie. I totally agree with this also with deleting and blocking your ex.

[@michelle.ntalami]

Thank you for this one ladies. Love to you 4! 🖤💚💛❤️

[@cxllider]

I've been playing that intro for way too long...😂😂😂😂😂if I ever have a bad day..I'm coming for that intro..good content here

[@Ladyfaithke]

Break ups are real, I have not encountered them coz I expect less from Adams born of flesh and blood. I also know when to goodbye, still living so, can only hope to handle it better if it happens!

[@sylvia8871]

Lol Julia just looks like shes getting pointers when Lornzie is talking the first part so cute

[@ninakayinamura45]

Block vent and surround myself with loved one's is my go to!

[@muthonimuchiri3880]

My biggest thing would be don't be afraid to cry! Honestly the tension you build up with all these emotions - it's wild to hold it all in. Ugly cry unapologetically!

[@bucketlistcess6457]

Thanks guys for being such a big inspiration. I’ve been watching your videos religiously and because of that I’ve become confident enough to start my own channel, which is going to be about making my dreams come true and living my best life this year.Thank you 🙏🏽 keep up the good work.

[@cirukarago7251]

Subscribed ☺️.

[@bucketlistcess6457]

Shish Edmund thanks alot

[@doctorukia]

Noone mentioned prayer and God. Isorait! :D :D

[@lonewolf1865]

Woiyee umefanya niskie kulia yah prayers help a lot🙌

[@showspace2220]

I think age plays a huge role on breakups , I will feel more freed now after a breakup than back in highschool where i would listen to Nsync for days just to relieve my stress...

[@akinyinyawanda3461]

Am I the only one who died when Lorna said Mitochondrion? 🤣

[@crazyworldwearelivingin3679]

I fell TF out 🤣🤣🤣

[@winniemutunga1990]

nope. i was like, Hell No!!!!

[@Taaa753]

I googled and laughed -The main job of mitochondria is to perform cellular respiration. This means it takes in nutrients from the cell, breaks it down, and turns it into energy. This energy is then in turn used by the cell to carry out various functions.

[@laurawamae211]

na venye ako serious aki.haha

[@mwololoianmbwika9869]

Awesome episode! Love you guys!

[@hendritahwanjala3101]

Ivy with Stripped this year..I likeeee it 😍😍😍

[@tutumaina3332]

Loved this video. Absolutely relatable!

[@JanetKimani]

How relevant is this to me right now!!!Wauuuuuuuuu!

[@petronillahpyt1511]

Big Bang Theory is my go to series every time 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. I thought i was crazy for doing that 😂😂😂

[@wamz9191]

Omg! That was mine too!

[@camillakanani898]

Everytime.. Big bang all day everyday

[@loisewanjiru3303]

F. R.I. E. N. D. S for me was the salvation 😂.. Best comedy to nurse literally every pain😁

[@anitahmbugua4894]

YES. Big bang is everything.

[@doreenkawira1124]

Big bang & friends works for me all the time

[@sallykaynjogu]

The point where it hit home 15:19 and i realised i am dreading those moments coz i cry so much i can't breathe.

[@joiejay141]

How is it that you guys don't have 100k+ subscribers already? Is it weird if I created 100k youtube accounts just to subscribe to you guys infinity and beyond? :-D ...keep the fire burning.

[@jb3777]

Great content ♥️♥️I love you guys♥️♥️♥️.. Plus you guys have the best lippie game🔥🔥🔥

[@AfriScents]

I believe its a case or matter of self awareness. The relationship always mirrors back to you the kind of relationship you have with YOURSELF. I would advise that you take timeout to work on your relationship with yourself, learn who to love you and that will carve a path for a more fulfilling and intentional relationship with the next person.

[@githinjistellah2849]

Great topic, it definitely takes a while to get over someone in regards to how deep it was, the period of time and the memories you created together which are unforgettable though avoidable considering why you broke up. I always say IF YOU DON'T FUCK WITH THEM NO MORE LET THEM FEEL YOUR PRESENCE...

[@johnmuchau8427]

Its easy to say "delete". Lakini nikishaa activate stalker mode :O. I can't stop

[@wanjikuthuku3634]

U galz are just so real and practical.May God bless you.

[@kbobbz9187]

You feel pain guys at that point because that's where your heart chakra (a ganglionic mass of nerves located at your chest... ) Is located.

[@elishibandungu4965]

aki I had a bad day and I thank God y'all came thru!!! 😍😍❤

[@eastafrika728]

I have to say, our Kenyan girls are the prettiest in the world, educated, hard working, 10/10. I think ladies over analyse breakups, this is Kenya, we always get back together.

[@msee254]

Taking a long break helps you get over that shit completely

[@patiencewanjiru5612]

I was left cause of refusing to do what a certain person wanted at work I was told I was shitty and petty...Now am single and happy..Mazoea ya madharau finally is over

[@christinenjeri8323]

This is was a really nice discussion ...and Julia go girl!!!! i get where you're coming from!!1

[@esthermwangi6691]

Julia I feel you girl..don't worry good things come to those who wait...yours is on the way😊

[@bobbymwas3273]

The maturity level of these ladies on top no wonder its over 25 juu most girls under that age bracket are just childish. I think all ladies present here rare above 30 if am not wrong.

[@BM-dr4eu]

This has been very helpful ladies. Keep it up 😘

[@seisebagbo7682]

I bumped into this, today is the second after I got dumped and I am here like poor me I can't delete this person because we work in the same company, and we own a company together. I guess I have to just matter my own kind of strength, I loved this video a lot.

[@leilajuma2358]

Julia I'm sorry the way you discussed how to be single it was from the heart😂😂😂

[@bintimrembo]

Yes ooo!

[@vyebey8934]

shikie, which hair is that? looks good :),

[@MsLaibon]

Should have also addressed people who used to share a house help. The itch to ask if they have started washing random tops or seeing different women around the house needs a strong dose of that fruit of the holy spirit, self control

[@njokindungu6770]

Hey guys i just love you you make my mondays yaani badala nianze kazi naanza na Over 25...I'm lornzie once i block you i delete you in my life completely i never go back no matter what

[@princesssitora4651]

Annrita Njoki me too, sijui kaa ni pride🤣

[@njokindungu6770]

@@princesssitora4651 si pride you just don't eat your puke there's a reason why you broke up why would you go back?

[@merylchinsky4579]

Personally,when I break up with someone,they just cease to exist...like to me you are dead and that's it.The whole point of seeking for closure is just ridiculous.

[@princesssitora4651]

No need to go back👊🏾

[@njokindungu6770]

@@merylchinsky4579 i know right?!!!! i don't understand the purpose of a closure its just not working that's it!!!

[@joycegichana3213]

yooooo!!I've been single for like 12 hours now and I feel like shit.Definitely needed this.😍😍😒

[@damarisngina2484]

me my stomach hurts 😂😂😂

[@dennisbett747]

I don't know about you guys but when I feel hurt it seems more like my chest is contracting not my heart

[@mbinyawilliam8129]

F.r.i.e.n.d.s The best comic series ever Never dissapoints 😂😂😂😂😂

[@ropsylvia4164]

Restrained from watching this video like 3 weeks ago,was still in denial.Shiks is lucky mann

[@mitchiebwari]

Wow great tips here very accurate it's always great with you guys I love this channel

[@catlover8360]

Heartburn?? Acidity?!?! Chale, truly 'someone' has never been through heartbreak 😂😂😂😂😂

[@mumbigithogori]

Why is it the heart is paining and not the eyebrows?!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 love you guys nice having you back. Xoxo your bff😂

[@rhodawambua7588]

Thanks guys,,,,listening to u for a moment made me forgot am in this situation

[@leelashammy]

I needed this ❤️❤️💁

[@cherriecherustui4993]

i agree with Lorna, infact even if i had crammed his number, i make myself forget and i eventually do.

[@DignaK]

People discussing how heartbreak 💔 hurts. Shikie: Maybe it’s heartburn because you’re stressed 😂😂😂😂 wow!

[@leolucky7570]

Ivy barry goals coming thruuu

[@lydianyawira3827]

I have never had a boyfriend so I don't know anything about break ups but am here to learn. Loved the video ❤️

[@herglowuprecipe]

Me too Sis😂

[@hayesnjogu2108]

How.....🙄🙄🙄