Dear Toxic Mothers, Your Children Owe You Nothing. Real Talk

Dear Toxic Mothers, Your Children Owe You Nothing. Real Talk
#BlackTax #ToxicParents #BadMothers

[@SimzRight]

Sometimes it's the very people you share your blood with are the source of your pain. The very people who know how much you are trying but still break you down. The very people you explain your pain to that that bring you more harm. I've learnt that "to be happy, is to be selfish". It doesn't matter who u are. If u bring me turmoil, u are out.

[@nonhlanhlamoyo8136]

True I can relate

[@beyondblessed894]

True Simz we need love and support from the ppl close to us💓...Ola @Smiz Right

[@shiyghansolangesolangenyuy9618]

You can't be selfish. Happiness comes from selflessness just that separate from toxic people

[@diarramoussajerome7271]

Awesome

[@happiness6746]

Facts. ..

[@Cwengile]

Hey Ninja, I watched the whole video of the toxic mother. Its quiet sad that the mom still doesn't see anything wrong that she has done. What she said is really true, we need to choose ourselves from toxic mothers.

[@bongekatchoubou9150]

I think my help was that i never worked but still the pressure i could feel but we both healed i think me left SA has open her eyes and now she sees my importance not so long she told me she is going through the most that i am only child who is a help at home none of my siblings she can count on. Glory be to God who open her eyes otherwise i don't know. As well she never experienced to stays with my boys because she kept my daughter away she realized that this he feels that she missed a lot to them.

[@Cwengile]

@@bongekatchoubou9150 wooow thank God that you managed to fix your relationship with your mom. Sometimes it takes harsh decisions and boundaries for our parents to understand how we feel. I am really so happy for you 😊

[@bongekatchoubou9150]

@@Cwengile i have to break so many rules to be where i am so as well my uncle was my rescue kwezinye izinto so that helps because she listened to him a lot so my bond with uncle endithethelela kwezinye izinto till i escape was good. I wanted to commit suicide at onced stage but i don't why i couldn't do it 😭😭😭. We good now. Even today she send me whatsapp saying she miss my 5 year old son she is not okay about that, i felt for her kuba really she never had a chance to bond while i had him we were not good terms and lonto kelpt me away ekhaya

[@cebisa93]

The video gave me anxiety yooh 😪😪

[@rosebing4707]

Many people are like for a young girl the most important relationship is with her father. OH NO! The MOST important relationship is with your mother because you end up taking her parenting style and parenting your kids. You end up being the same. BUT IF YOU MAKE AN EFFORT NOT TO PASS DOWN THE ABUSE TO YOUR KIDS THEN THIS DOESN’T APPLY TO YOU.

[@faithzunguza7456]

True. I have come to accept that upbringing is not the same.

[@shiyghansolangesolangenyuy9618]

I have to give her money anytime she demands and when I don't no conversation. I feel I have to buy her because no matter how much I do she is never grateful. I wonder how I can take care of someone children sending them to school and yet she never pities me or understand that I have needs too

[@image0947]

When you have a whole toxic family father mother aunts grandparents to the point u wished u never had a family and were an orphan so you could at least keep have had an image in your head of hey maybe they were nice and sweet

[@milaniinalim3357]

If you don’t have a toxic mother you are truly blessed, I hope you cherish her because she’s a gem!

[@goodvibes4330]

Toxic mothers do exits but l feel people are scared or uncomfortable to talk about it because mothers are considered to be loving and have unconditional love...but not all mother's some kids are going thru hell because of a mother..the country is not ready for toxic mothers

[@iam_tinkzam3112]

Mother's are protected. They can't do harm in society.

[@shishi1527]

Iam truly blessed, I have a mother that I can reason with. We have an open door relationship.

[@jungleafreeca1111]

Facts

[@earthgoddess4779]

Where can I watch the video please?

[@renniekufakunesu6254]

People always say "you only have one mother" but you also have one life!

[@nosieoneverything2288]

True!!!

[@stellastar63]

Fact👏🏿👏🏿

[@artonyalascrafts4892]

Facts

[@iffysd9864]

Many of them use that to manipulate their kids

[@bolaakinyemi1446]

Preach!!!!

[@anehm8487]

Absent-toxic father/ Narcissistic mother combo over here🙋🏾‍♀️ Reparenting and healing is a hell of a ride. A comment like ‘that’s your mother at the end of the day’ is so triggering. Please be careful how you engage with people regarding their parents.

[@KayNaude]

This comment!!!! No lies detected

[@Anita-tl7hn]

I agree, it is triggering, because sharing blood doesn't make a person your "family". A good friend can feel more like your family than that blood relative.

[@Rainjojo]

“That’s your mother at the end of the day” and I just respond with. “I’m her daughter by the end of the day, and I don’t see me punching, hitting and tearing her down for what she’s worth. Because I have no choice until I’m older .” 😙

[@TX-xq6dx]

Same. My dad lived 5 mins away from me. I used to walk past his house everyday home from school.

[@beyoutifullynatural9451]

Same here!! I’ve got a toxic combo too. I’m going to try finding a parenting class soon

[@alciviaglam]

My mother is very toxic, most of my insecurities as a woman came from the way she treated me. Now she's not working and everyday I mean everyday she asks me for money. She always complain when I spent my money on my self, she makes me feel bad for using my own money the way I want. She's always comparing me with other girls who are married and she says why you are not like them. Having a toxic mother is a open door for problems in your life. But I've decided that I'm not going to listen to her and understand that we are different persons, I don't have to be or do what she wants. I don't owe her nothing!!! She brought me to this world and everything she did for me was her obligation as a mother. I am nobody's slave.

[@gracewaithira7000]

CUT HER OFF. How dare she compare you to someone else just to make you feel bad about yourself? CUT HER COMPLETELY OFF

[@alciviaglam]

@@gracewaithira7000 sad 🍂

[@alciviaglam]

@@77kc_77 I understand sis, keep going and live your life.

[@mokamsn2325]

This asking for money issue seems to be a big thing with black mothers. The entitlement. Most of them want to use their daughters as soon as she turns 18. I have noticed it’s usually the ones who were never there for their daughters or did bare minimu parenting with everything(barely supporting ) that demand so much and ask for money like you asked to be born. Black women also need to stop birthing kids they can’t afford and getting with men who abandon them to raise kids.

[@alciviaglam]

Things has changed a little bit I realized that my mother has a lot of trauma. And I also realized that she's the person who loves me the most. I do feel little bit alone but we are all alone in some situations but I think God I can do at least something for myself.

[@yolandachiya4776]

It’s really sad how toxic mothers can be, every time I hear my friends talk about how loving and supportive their mothers are and I feel embarrassed coz I don’t relate to the love they receive

[@shakurwonders5216]

same here gurl

[@chepkorirkoriryo819]

Same here😭💔

[@deltaradiance9034]

Maybe we should open a circle of people who had toxic mothers to Heal

[@tumweonlycommentary2797]

When I was younger I would want have a mother figure from Primary, High school and college. It took years and years of healing and therapy to be at a better place.

[@bokangciya]

Hi, first time meeting someone with the same surname as me, unjani Galweni? 🥰

[@theglen85]

Well you can still honor your mother and father from a distance...a child doesn't just wake up and disown parents, there is always a story so I feel black people in general should stop judging kids who distance themselves from parents..

[@imfluffythegoat]

🙏🏾love & respect from a distance💖

[@sivenathisitwayi3867]

🙏🏾🙏🏾 that’s exactly what I did and I’m now at peace

[@stellastar63]

I used to judge children who disown or distance themselves from their parents, until I experienced toxicity from my mum, I have changed. Being black and having been groomed in a certain way (respecting parents, elders & all that). It seems as if our modern parents are different from our great & grandparents, they love material things and esp money and are not grateful. Many of my friends & relatives whom i spoke to about my mum's ingratitude & toxic attitude thought I was being "disrespectful" when i shared my experiences. I stopped sharing & suffered in silence. I developed high blood pressure. There came a time when I cut her off for 6 months & saved myself from depression. My mum is 89 now, has advanced dementia & I live with her..she cannot hurt me anymore becz she does not remember 5 mins from the next. I am now her "parent" and am learning to handle our relationship in new ways. Talking to someone who understands and is non-judgemental helps, for me it was Malume & my Aunt (his wife)- eish have recently lost them both😢 Coincidentally, I too am a Social Worker & not young. The passage of time seems to "even" relationships out. My advice to all those suffering the parental/family abuse...walk away without conflict and earn your peace .

[@kylemcpherson1772]

i agree

[@cindyndlangamandla]

Creating boundaries is self care my black people. Please normalize that.

[@shakurwonders5216]

ikr , were just finding that out now atleast for me

[@eudeciamainganya5012]

Some mothers have this sense of entitlement, they can be very cruel and evil

[@ThofiB]

A toxic mother messes up your entire existence. It's really hard coming back from the damage. Every single area of your life is unfortunately affected by a toxic mother. Shame and guilt made me go back into that relationship over and over. Thank God I finally walked out.

[@thulisilegumede8060]

I once read a post/article saying Toxic mothers are far worse than absent fathers....watching that video I agree hey

[@eheheh3263]

Can you link that article? I would like to read it, thank you in advance

[@shakurwonders5216]

Those are my parents right there perfect match that happened to be divorced.(TOXIC MOM AND ABSENT DAD

[@oyinloyeademola7086]

Toxic mothers create absent fathers, most often time.

[@lauren_knight]

The problem is when everyone around you believe you actually owe her.. And reminds your everyday.Going as far as telling u that u will be cursed by her sad heart if you don't deliver on demands. Nothing in life will work out. This eats me up though I made a decision to create distance. They make excuses for the toxic behavior. Here our parents see atms and all the food they fed u an Investment

[@nicoleharrington9086]

That's mental abuse

[@lauren_knight]

@@nicoleharrington9086 not in Africa sadly... 😭

[@karaboselemengmakhetha1237]

Leave the people alone sis, people will always talk. Love her from a distance, focus on your own journey and healing. You dont need people to validate that you were abused

[@mssummer07]

As someone who experienced a toxic mother, this video really touched me. When u become an adult after suffering such emotional abuse and manipulation you have to learn to mother yourself. As a child of a toxic mother, your self value has been so diminished that you have to learn to rebuild your self esteem again .Thank for talking about this topic

[@viyarmadememes123]

How do you do this though

[@landisebrinadiergaardt9400]

This is exactly how i feel..I feel so relieved as well knowing I am not the only one that feels toxic mothers exist. My mother's love literally has to be bought. My boyfriend is in a favor only when he buys her stuff.. The times when he buys me things, she sort of acts jealous and expects the same from him. She makes me feel so guilty everytime when I enjoy myself. She demand things from us as her children and he favourite line is: " I brought you in this world before anything else I must be first and you must first support me for a few years before starting a life of your own". I feel so bad because this is my mother it wasnt meant to be this way.

[@gabbyg.b_youtube]

The worst is when the route of toxicity is jealousy. And yes some mothers look at their children and it reminds them of the father so they dont like them.

[@thabisileangelmkhize8915]

This is happening everywhere even family members that are toxic they call u when they need money or help from u n if u can't help them they get upset

[@katlegokhunou1370]

It's only recently that people started noticing that all the badmouthing that my mother did all through my life was a lie to make me look like a bad child. Today her friends gossip about her behind her back about hpw bad a person is. I don't know if it makes me a bad person to say that this has given me some sort of peace knowing that it wasn't me but her being toxic to me

[@buyiluvuno6218]

My mom would literally come to my workplace every payday to demand money my colleagues thought she was loanshark if I don't give her what she wants she would throw the money on my face and walk away I have to pick it up and beg her to take the money I buy groceries she would throw them in the dustbin coz I didn't give her the money to buy the groceries I have moved from home but every month she demands money manipulating me threatening to kill herself and I have to go through that once she gets money she will not talk to me until the next pay day to top it all she abused me so bad growing up I tried cutting her off she shows up at my place I can't seen to escape the nightmare

[@mmaphefomoela2246]

Your story is very painful, but u need 2 put or foot down. Basically you are buying your mother's love, how about you happiness? Woman up and tell your mom exactly how you feel and she takes it the wrong way, that would b reason enough 2 show u that she doesn't care about you or your feelings. Sometimes we need 2 b selfish just 2 protect ourselves

[@nelzg5819]

Hope you find yourself in a better place and cut her out if she is abusing you financially amd emotionally. There are millions of women who can't conceive she should be grateful that she could even have a child. You are therefore a gift and you need to know you don't owe her your life at all. It was her DUTY to take care of u

[@MissQomfortable]

Oh no💔So sorry🤗I couldnt help but laugh at the loanshark part though.Cabanga😅😅😅😅

[@denfolo5224]

How are you doing today?

[@artonyalascrafts4892]

The Bible does say honor your mother and father and it also says do not provoke your child to anger

[@amandandzumo4319]

From an absent father to a mother like hers, I couldn’t finish the video, I just can’t listen to her story because all that she spoke about I just can relate. Parents can be extremely unnecessary sometimes 😭

[@chantelklane5313]

I hate the fact that as I’m growing old , I’m starting to look like my mother. That woman caused a lot of damage that I’m still battling with 35 years later😪 It’s hard! I’ve spend most of my life being on survival mode... I don’t blame myself for being motionless sometimes...

[@forestnymph9697]

Me too ! I’m 30 my mum is pure evil and I’m looking more and more like her the older I get 😢x

[@zinhlesibeko4627]

Not all fathers are toxic... my father was the best Dad I could ever ask for.

[@faithzunguza7456]

Same, my dad was an amazing dad to me and my sisters. Still is, I am spoiled. I had to accept that my husband is his own man. I used to hold him to the same standard as dad. Its also a little dangerous having an attentive girl dad.

[@tarirotaruvinga8166]

My dad was amazing, I pray I get a husband like my dad.

[@tthuto.m]

Same here my dad is not toxic 🤭 he is the best father

[@nellygumede5597]

My dad was my uncle. My father's youngest brother. OMG that man loved me. He spoiled me. At my age he will still wakeup midnight n go pick me up from a grove. At the age of 36. I would eat whatever i wanted. His death cut me deep

[@AnzaniNephalama]

Her father is toxic

[@andiswanjovane6371]

I broke into tears 😭😭😭 cuz that's how my stepmom used to treat me, i would send money home to the point where I would be left with nothing, if I tell her that I don't have money she would say nginamnga tyooooo 😭😭😭😭💔!!!

[@beewest5704]

When the person that gave birth to you cannot even show you love how are you going to require love from another human being. My friends relationship with her mom mirrors her relationship with her bf. They use her then they need her & discard her when they don't. Having toxic people in you life will make you sick. Put up boundaries & when they refuse to respect them cut them off. You deserve a peaceful happy life & should not allow anything to take it from you.

[@ntokotom147]

This just made me appreciate my mom more. I love that woman. When I want something, I don't ask her twice, she immediately jumps. I appreciate her, ❤️

[@jacquimbingeneeko8594]

I'm a victim.......abused emotionally and physically when l was a little girl by my own mother!!! I've very bad childhood memories. To make matters worse I'm sick as a result........and everyone in my family blames me for distancing myself from my mother!!!

[@ntokotom147]

I'm sorry about that ninja. I'm glad you distanced yourself

[@amirajudah]

You should checkout Shannon Evette on youtube. The Sanctuary is launching Jesus & Therpay this month focusing on healing and wholeness from trauma and wounds from feeling rejected,neglected,worthy, or any shame. I hope you find peace dont listen to everyone else do what's best for your peace of mind and health

[@emmanuella1167]

Don’t listen to them your doing amazing and u made the best decisions for yourself. Let them talk.

[@veranwoye8140]

How to heal and get over the fact your parent is toxic. 1. Forget about ever building a relationship with them....cancel it from your mind because it will never happen. 2. Stop seeking validation from them. 3. Do what you have to do for them...don't ignore them if they are sick take them to hospital and pay their bills if you have to you are not doing this to be called a good son or daughter by them you are doing this for your own peace of mind and so that you won't have any regret or guilt in the future. 4. Move out....this is for your own mental health.... Africans are always covering up for mothers and ignoring toxic things they do....mental health is not recognized fully in the African culture in fact its not even a thing what you will hear is your parents are always right even tho they abuse you and cause you to have low self esteem....please to be happy we must put ourselves first and do what is best for us...let us take care of our mental health and get help if you need to

[@oleratomoile9480]

Agree with all except number 3. With all the shit she did to me growing up she on her own. COMPLETELY.

[@kadiatusannoe6673]

My mom is so toxic to a point I have to move out of the house at 17

[@ms.Waldorf]

How did you do it? 😢 how did you move out at 17 at that? I want to move out but struggling to find a job

[@tendai4043]

The Bible says ‘Honour you father and your mother IN THE LORD’ most of our parents make us do things that are against God’s will. So we are told to come out from among all wicked people the Bible says separate yourself from them and ‘I shall be your Father’ . We must run unto the Lord and lay our burdens to him alone and come out from among all this toxicity

[@emmanuella1167]

Amen it also says “ do not provoke your child” .

[@wheeljackx3]

I'm done with Christianity.

[@ceekay4413]

Is psalm 27 vs 10 it says if your mother and father forsake you I the Lord will take care of you.

[@innocentiambonambi5583]

It's comforting to know that I'm not alone, it always felt weird not to be in good terms with the only parent I have

[@londiwexaba4185]

I watched the whole video (Im happy that I didn't even cry watching it), some parents are very toxic. For myself, I had to set proper boundaries when it came to my mother so that I am good mother to my own child and live my life freely.

[@cookingescapadeswithbnn2522]

My mom's cousin once said to my mom that she can't say she's broke when she has a girl child, she said a girl child must phanda for her mom. I was so disgusting by that comment.

[@Jamjar-iu3ji]

And the boy child must now what? Enjoy his money alone?

[@nelzg5819]

There are women who would give their life just to have a child. So these toxic mothers out here must be reminded of the fact. A child is a blessing not a financial breakthrough . She could have easily been barren. If you have a toxic mother remind her of this. Also it's a parents *responsibility* to raise the child that they chose to have so that child owes you respect and not money

[@shishi1527]

Owanie recognises the difference between sympathy and empathy. Sympathy, you feel for someone but can't do anything for him/her. Empathy, you feel for someone and able to assist them either emotional, spiritual or perhaps financial through their journey to see the person come out as the best version of himself/herself.

[@tarirotaruvinga8166]

I don't have a toxic Father but toxic fathers is a South African phenomenon.

[@ncxymj8182]

I heard my mother talking to my aunt about how children owe their parents because their parents took care of them when they were younger.

[@ceekay4413]

Let me say this when a parent gives birth to a child they have a “parental responsibility” meaning the have a legal right and duties relating to their children’s upbringing

[@kmensa5301]

I can’t even remember a point in time i had a good meal with my mother growing up; learn to live to give her the distanced-love.

[@deltaradiance9034]

I never had one. I always stand up or she stands up to go eat in other room.

[@allmotivation7411]

That woman isn't just sick she's Evil Yho I watched the whole video💔

[@vanessamapel]

I hope she can break off that relationship completely. There no need for a mother like that. Just ghost her don't say anything don't attend any funny meeting.

[@simnikiwemthathi228]

It is so so sad that we will have kids of our own as broken as we are from the toxic nature of the parents, my fear is not loving my child enough

[@thumekajordaan3920]

I once came across someone's mom who was toxic to her children. The sad was that they had so much love for their mom.

[@rlgrlg1672]

My mum in law is toxic. Nomatter what you do for her it's never enough. I put her on medical aid when I got married coz she has medical issues. She used to work but never saved money and now that she cant work, its emotional blackmail and toxicity all the way. You buy grocery, she wants money ontop. Things are hard, she says you're selfish. I still do the grocery and medication for her, initially I did it out of love but lately I feel so deflated coz it's never enough.

[@nelzg5819]

Toxic. She feels like you owe her

[@ntokotom147]

Is your husband the only child she has? If not, all the kids should sit down and talk about this. You don't deserve this cc wam.

[@rlgrlg1672]

@@ntokotom147 no. He's got 2 siblings but they have different fathers. He's the eldest. She does that even to the sister who is in the middle. The last born is her favourite, she lives with him and manipulates him to a point were he has two kids with a woman he hasn't married and they all live with mum but he wont look for a job. So now we literally looking after all of them.

[@tlalerosie9437]

Why you keep doing it, only you can deliver you from this

[@victorioussisters3307]

I watched the live on Saturday, I cried because I felt the pain. I’ve never been through that but I was so hurt.

[@mandingan.9745]

Link please 🙏🏾

[@lucyndebele63]

One day can we have a chat about having kids before we are able to take care of them after being advised so many times not to by our mothers and once we have them we automatically believe we have a right to demand that our mothers put their lives on hold and take care of our children. Not fighting just want to hear views

[@tondaniraluswinga2590]

This is not the video for that.

[@lucyndebele63]

@@tondaniraluswinga2590 calm down I already saw the original video, and there's no way I said this was about that suphapha

[@tondaniraluswinga2590]

@@lucyndebele63 suphapha to who ? Darling have some manners dint go around cussing people in the internet thinking they wont respond. I'll drag you by your edges sweetie. If you want to talk about that go find videos on that topic, that's not what this video is about....B said " Suphapha" I'm laughing 😂😂😂😂😂😂🌝🌝💀💀💀

[@lucyndebele63]

@@tondaniraluswinga2590 ayi sisi suphapha gezi zitsha or something and come out of my mentions or uhambe uyofinya just get busy ayi yabhora 🙄

[@Jamjar-iu3ji]

@@tondaniraluswinga2590 She said “one day can we…”

[@unsolicitedadvice2800]

She says, "I LOVE you!" forcefully, with a look of expectation in her eye as though that means that I owe her something. She should go ahead and say what she really means, "I love you, conditionally." Some (maybe most) toxic mothers expect validation from their children, and when they don't get it, they turn into a martyr.

[@jpmashugane2415]

Thanks for sharing this topic Owamie!!!!! It's soooooo needed, you are an.Angel😇 God bless your genuine real heart and soul❤ Let's break the toxic cycle guys, Amen🙏

[@loideferdinand6299]

Notification gange from Namibia 🇳🇦

[@melisahlongwa274]

ubuthakathi nje that playing the , and that someone has been thakatharing them for years but I believe that god will set fire on who Eva is behind it .

[@lebom2456]

Eish, my sister cut of our mother too. She's put us through a lot 😢

[@everytingniasha]

If your mother is really awesome towards you, then you are truly loved🥰 and know the best femininity.

[@naledindlovu976]

When she said she wishes she can exchange imiphefumulo...I'm so sad for her because my mom was also my friend...13 yrs passed on and I still talk about her everyday...I wish she could have experienced that kind of relationship but there's always treasure hidden in a mess...she'll rise ...I'm hurt beyond comprehension

[@matladimahlatse4808]

Eish ninja.. gwa nyewa. They are projecting

[@landisebrinadiergaardt9400]

She makes me feel so scared to start my own life because its like she puts a curse on my life if I try to defy her.. My boyfriend proposed to me and she told me if theres no blessing from me you can forget about it😐

[@Balparism]

I had to move out and rent though m not working because of a toxic mother, she made me believe that I had mental illness yet it's her ,m free now now and peaceful

[@andiswanjovane6371]

It broke into tears 😭😭😭 cuz that's how my stepmom used to treat ,I would send money home to the point where I would be left with nothing, if I tell her that I don't have money she would say nginamnga tyooooo 😭😭😭😭💔

[@sbongilemakhuvele4938]

Sorry😔

[@naledindlovu976]

Aaii💔

[@andiswanjovane6371]

Toxic mother's do exist trust me, she would say ngikukhulisile when your biological mother left you 💔💔💔 she would say I owe her so much tyooooo I have not healed from that .The good thing that I did was to cut her off my life I haven't spoken to her since 2010 I pray to good kuthi ngimxolela but ngingakhohlwa

[@naledindlovu976]

@@andiswanjovane6371 you guys are making me cry 😭💔 I wish you joy, peace and happiness

[@SisFufu]

Sorry sisi 😢😞

[@tebogomokobane8094]

Its a trivky situation in all honesty

[@lorenzotee8776]

Owamie can I ask. What if I have a younger sister who my mother doesn't want to support her relationship with a guy she loves who doesn't earn much. Instead my mom pressurises her to date a rich man with money and she keeps on reminding my sis that the man has nothing

[@nosieoneverything2288]

Thanks for this video Owamie❤ people make you feel bad if you cut out family ties but many of us are suffering from toxic families.

[@jo-annroos7202]

It's like we owe them the breath in our lungs🤦🏾‍♀️ke shap

[@tondaniraluswinga2590]

We are literally buying oxygen from them.

[@anelemasala8765]

Ninja can you please plug us with your lipstick 👏🏼👏🏼😩😩

[@SaltieBW]

Notification gang

[@leeyahdior]

Yaz WORS FOR WORD my mother is like this. It’s hard to cut her off cause she purposefully does not want me to get my passport, I’d or birth certificate. I can work and she wants me to be dependent on her. When I finally started working, I felt like I had to buy her love. I would pay her rent and stunting my own financial growth but the minute I didn’t work, she would take her love back. She would pocket watch. We would make the same amount but like clock work she would ask for money that I didn’t have. Don’t get me started on manipulating, turning my sister against me or getting jealous when I have healthier relationships with other women

[@olilumgbalu5653]

African culture is very patriarchal...why is everyone talking about toxic mothers but not fathers?

[@bantubonke5389]

Owami I wanna send you a video of my brother wanted to kill me because of Lobola. It happened on New Year's Eve. My mom was there in her room. She just said he is making noise.

[@vuyombina4472]

Not me looking for “toxic mother” topic. Yhoo to see that a lot of us are suffering, one day I’ll write a book

[@Jsmwl1]

Mathew 10:36. ‘a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’ Thankyou for sharing ❤

[@bridgettkubheka2046]

😭😭To cut the story short I disowned her for my own sanity. Now I understand that God made her abandon me at an early age because he didn't want me to be like her. That woman is a narcissist❗️

[@prayeracademy]

It's so sad😭😭😭

[@pearlita2137]

Owamie,my own defines toxic,in every sense of the word,things only got better after I distanced myself from her for more than two years now.

[@bongiwemashiyane5056]

What about toxic daddies ninja, even dad's can be toxic

[@makgabomatsha1835]

Anyone knows her name? I wanna follow her and know the outcome of the family meeting. Shame poor lady, I cried with her. This is so sad.

[@LethoHali]

That story is so triggering!!! 😭😭😭😭😭

[@mfanafuthimokubung5026]

My mother is exactly like that , she always yell at me and tell me that I'm useless just like my father . The father that never raised me , he was absent. She goes all out to destroy me emotionally and claims that she's my mother and she only have love for me. I only see hatred from her , she hates the man who fathered me and she vents all that anger towards me. She's very toxic.

[@bongivelem6037]

I'm sorry. I hope u find a way to heal

[@victorioussisters3307]

I’m sorry that you had to go through this, have you told her how you feel about that? If not please do and if there’s no change in her behavior walk away and love her from a distance. Also go for counseling. 🤗

[@tlalerosie9437]

I am sorry, God is able to heal you .

[@KayNaude]

I’m so sorry 😢 you don’t have to feel alone. There’s many of us out here.

[@Livewell-xgi]

So true! Thank you for addressing this issue. Children are not life insurance

[@PRUDENT05]

You hit the nail ...this is so true

[@chillwithnonto7446]

I thank God it didnt change me a lot but emotionally I was disturbed ended up being an introvert

[@Justgloryn]

I know of two horrible mothers. Mmmm they exists for sure

[@phumzilemwelase8352]

U c dat stort, dat ma self. Dat ma situation dear.

[@angiegona4238]

I love how you addressing it ninja you look beautiful ♥️

[@glow-raynkwana7910]

O pila gore💥💥💥Thanks for this clip and prior one I needed this

[@dimphongwenya3404]

Looking good Ninja🥰

[@LiftingUrVeil-LUV]

It sad cause my toxic mother sided with my ex narcissist and she keeps ghosting me and giving me the silent treatment and she phases me then comes around joking putting me down then soon as I try to talk she ghosts me again til she ready to joke around then ghosts me. I was being abused by older guy badly and she called him and apologize for my behavior for leaving him. I told her she could never be in my life again cause that was ultimate betrayal

[@mountainhigh6324]

This all we got to tell the truth realy

[@unathiandlusanda7059]

It was a painful story.

[@m.yolande7672]

🖤♾🤩

[@deleshamomoh4204]

Ok I have read everyone's comments. N I can agree with it. But if u have a mother that hides behind the church n calls herself a preacher which was a lie. U collecting rent money from people cause ur a crook. N ur out her lying n starting alot of shit. This so called lady that's my mother which her own sisters n brother don't want nothing to do with her. Now that's some sad shit So what does anyone got to say bout that🤔

[@shataditswai2673]

I am so blessed to have a mother like the one I have she never asked a cent from me I give when I feel like and she will never complain that it is not enough ,she raised us,our kids, grandkids and great grandkids without complain mind you I am taking about a 92 year's old still strong. Taking to you now I build a house 🏠 for her with everything inside I am so blessed to have a mother like her🥰😍🤗💝💖love mum

[@nomvulamahlangu2935]

Wow you just opened my eyes 🤞🏽❤️

[@Niicky_S]

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[@royaledenoir5694]

♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@torronbrown7063]

I hate my mother

[@deborahemeni4268]

I can relate with this so much, story of my life 🥲

[@thestreettea]

💔💔💔💔💔😭😭😭😭😢😢😢 ngiyazwela

[@ethelnyaba1820]

Black pipo, white pipo were different plz. Same of us my mother is a maid so I help my mother

[@nontokozondlovu9745]

It's good that you're taking care of your mother however she doesn't have to love you only when you have money or buy her stuff, that's what owamie is saying. She loves you regardless of money or not. Don't mean to offend you with what I just said

[@aliciamomat7963]

Everyone has a toxic father??? Sisi that's not true, fathers are wonderful yho

[@fruits7655]

She said 'almost'

[@cebisilemabaso8445]

Mmh toxic and absent

[@lebom2456]

I think she used it to mean its common compared to having a toxic mother. For me my Dad was more of the loving and accepting parent compared to my mum.

[@queenm2723]

She said ALMOST everyone has a toxic father.

[@siphosethujadu1166]

She said " almost " . Are you sure you're a ninja😂😂