Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success | Louise Evans | TEDxGenova

This speech is a call to action. We spend about eighty percent of our day at work, the rest is at home. If we have a bad day at work we are likely to take that negativity home with us and vice versa. It is of paramount importance that we create healthy environments in the spaces that most affect our lives by giving of our best and receiving the like in return. The 5 Chairs is a powerful and systematic method which helps us master our own behaviours and manage the behaviours of others. To be a good leader is to contribute to the success and happiness of everyone, at work and at home, on a conscious level. The 5 Chairs offer 5 Choices. Which will you choose?
Behavioral Coach, Corporate Trainer, Author of ‘5 Chairs 5 Choices’. Louise Evans heads up her own organization in Florence, Italy from which she offers international leadership development, cross-cultural transitional coaching and personal development programmes for individuals and teams working in international contexts. She is English but has lived and worked in Germany, France and for the last 30 years in Italy.
Three things have always been important in her life - people, travel and the performing arts - all three of which she combines in her daily work. Having travelled to seven-five countries and experienced culture shock three times, Louise brings multiple perspectives to the present moment to help people connect across their differences. Louise believes deeply in people’s ability to grow and transform. What she values most is helping people strengthen their self-awareness and their understanding of others so that they bring their best selves into the world in every situation.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@louiseevans3534]

Thank you all so much for your appreciative comments. It really warms my heart deeply.

[@rozzieonodera1560]

Louise Evans .....So beautifully explained. You are one of the most articulate teachers I have ever listened to!

[@lauransengiyumva5524]

The colors match exactly the chakras philosphy... blue:expression,words , yellow: self-esteem, etc... wonderful...

[@winterbaby9208]

I absolutely loved your presentation. The content, the pace and the clarity of your speech and ideas. While listening I was thinking if I put a comment would Louise see it? And then I found you! Thank you 🙏🏻

[@gemelse2674]

Louise Evans thank you I have just listened to this before work you are a great teacher. I am on a journey myself learning how to do things differently in life and a big one for me is being aware of how I behave and realising I can change that. Thank you x

[@simojandie2904]

You're quite unique. Every TED Talk is great. But there is something particularly ingenious about yours. I will study this talk and teach it someday.

[@sabrinacalabrese3410]

"Do you want to be in a relationship with that person or do you want to be right?", very powerful question!

[@LifewithNono]

@@wingit7335 well her mom was not does people.

[@tylerdurden7764]

You are gonna regret that

[@Salsero12]

@@wingit7335 her mom exaggerating is not a big deal

[@terriepehrson3103]

I know, right!! Well put. 👍😃

[@Michelle721014]

I want to be right. I have self love which is doing the right thing despite how hard it is.

[@fredjones554]

Attack - Judgement of others, correct others Self doubt - Judgement of ourselves, play the victim Wait - for evidence, be present, curiosity Detect - My needs, self aware, create boundaries, assertiveness Connect - The others needs, compassion, understanding, empathy

[@bjuliene]

Thank you so much!

[@learnenglishwithpallavianand]

Very well summarized! 👍

[@RamnathDixit]

Arguably one of the finest TED talks one could experience. Louise Evans subtly manages to make us reflect while helping us navigate the complex world of interpersonal communication. Simply outstanding!

[@shewayneshbeyens0168]

Thank you for your amazing in saying very interesting 👌👌👌👌

[@navoditashrivastava6469]

True

[@ebrelus7687]

Subtle world of lack of any communication and not knowing own children...

[@louiseevans3534]

I am so grateful to all for you for your feedback. It makes me feel both humble and useful knowing that the Chairs can in some way bring a shift into your lives and contribute to your happiness. Thank you s much for your appreciation Louise xxx

[@astoryofafrica]

Such a beautiful talk. I would like use this for myself as well as communicate this through film. You are a lady to look up to. I would be honored to meet you come visit Kenya, Africa and watch the giraffes! Will watch this video twice right now, and many times in the future.

[@mogulmade]

@louise do you have books?

[@kijalaful]

Thanks Louise, I have this morning used a stinging judgemental comment on my sister and afterwards as I watched this presentation, I saw how terrible I can be to others. I know I can be a better person and I will work on it. Thanks you so much for impacting my life!

[@kh-ze5ub]

I wish I had your chairs with me at all times.

[@sleeepchen5630]

Thank you for sharing this! You have made something which seems so complicated crystal clear. I'm really moved and touched by what you said.Thank you!

[@Krystal620]

“The more we judge others the less time we have to love them..” brilliant

[@deehope9477]

Lol said comment!!

[@musiclava9621]

I believe Mother Theresa said thatxoxo

[@kingquinn3897]

"The more we judge others the safer we are".

[@sincerelym11]

Oh I wished I would’ve found this earlier, I’ve messed up so many opportunities by overreacting 🙄. I’m definitely learning, thank you, this was extremely helpful.

[@gabrielthewarrior7144]

I literally mess up all my conversations with my girlfriend because of how I am and it makes her feel less in love with me because of my actions and this like really is an eye opener for me on my actions my attitude and how I communicate with her

[@amandlakhumalo4728]

You and me both. There’s another TED talk about how we are not at the mercy of our emotions. It helped me, it might help you too

[@cheruiyotkirimigodfrey6178]

I've been a victim too and it really affected my relationship. I hope I'll be better in my next relationship

[@julie-annathao6275]

" everybody is going through something " and " they have their reasons " are my life mottos . Everyone is doing what they do . don't judge - wait and see why they are doing it . I whole heartedly live by this and it makes you live life with little worries and it makes you stop and realize you shouldn't be judging one based on what they look or what they are doing because you don't know why

[@davidsmith-oi3zg]

Hello Julie how are you doing today i hope everything is fine with you?

[@vivianzhao3090]

"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." Victor Frankl

[@rupalshah1466]

👍

[@wafaanoureddine2542]

👍

[@juveriasweet5354]

That's merely a few seconds to choose the right response. Sometimes it's people pleasing and not being yourself..

[@apthra2016]

One question

[@vivianzhao3090]

@@juveriasweet5354 yeah, it really takes practice to set the boundary, and respond in way that being ture to self and not not offend others

[@rhythmforlife7058]

Dear everyone who reads this, we don't know each other but I wish you all the best in life and happiness :) ❤️

[@obarnwon]

Wish you the same dear!

[@rhythmforlife7058]

Thank you so much.....

[@obarnwon]

@@rhythmforlife7058 you are welcome

[@yve4889]

Same to you💖

[@kianadrummond7329]

Your a beautiful soul

[@marynussio9880]

I am a middle school teacher and on Wednesdays I play a video to help the students learn a skill. Sometimes it is a learning skill, organizing skill, and once in a while a life skill. They take notes, rate the presentation and speaker, but also learn something. My eighth graders will watch this on their first Wednesday back to school. Thank you for an insightful presentation.

[@krislarsh7796]

As a teacher working on becoming a future principal this video is probably one of the most meaningful videos I have seen. I think as a teacher, we are not just just educators, but leaders, mentors, and facilitators of life. Which chair a teachers sits in can really impact the outcome of student success. Just imagine the impact of the teachers if he or she sits in the red chair all day long?

[@bizunehnigussie8795]

💯 Agreed

[@lacilangston2633]

1. Attack, misbehave,blame,complian,gossip, punish,judge. 2. vulnerable, judge ourselves, low self esteem, feeling of rejection, self doubt , fear of failing and disappointment, feeling of a victim like no body cares or loves me 3. Being vigilant, being mindfull, observant,we stop, pause, wait and be conscious and WAIT (What Am I Thinking ). Observe the person and wonder why is she behaving in such a way 4. Detect our own behaviour, being self aware, we know who we r, we know what we want, we know where we r going, we r not afraid to speak our truth but we know our boundaries, we r powerfull, here we grow we r free and become our full power,we become assertive but not aggressive. At no1 we lose our power 5. Display of empathy, compassion,understanding, putting our egos in the back seat, listen to people and care for them, embrace other reality, other perspective, other diversity, being tolerant and what is important for the person sitting before us and to stay connected

[@susanllequis3832]

How wonderful to listen and learn without. Putdowns. Elegant and intelligent,Thank you..

[@masangoiyanda3123]

Hey, how are you doing today dear

[@afeedashukoor5348]

Thankyou

[@bjacob9998]

Truth is many in the country were beat down. Then comes the behavior modification stage. Often there is a responsible person and a good person will address their bad behavior and not victim blame the one they provoked or triggered.

[@temimegraham1904]

U are the best ! Thank you 🙏

[@brynneisafaerie1762]

The highest form of intelligence is the ability to observe ourselves without judging

[@walterpaton8698]

Exactly. The mind is a terrible thing to listen to.

[@noneofyourbusiness8278]

But if you vent to a psychiatrist on this as a patient everything you say should be in private. Not to be shared by everyone outside those office visits and triangulated.

[@spaceoddity2485]

Nope 👎. The highest form of intelligence is to be able to get in the head of other people. Especially across age ranges ...

[@shailzasharma7513]

Jiddu K

[@idanwillenchik3050]

Judgement is good.Judgement helps you choose right from wrong.Overjudgement may be too much.not in my opinion.

[@mbrown5440]

"I don't like that man, I must get to know him." Many times, I've misjudged others...always happy to learn that I was wrong. Deeply, profound quote! Great video! Thank you for sharing.

[@jaypandit915]

12:34 : it shows how even if we have a slip of tongue, if we continue with flow without getting anxious about it, we can go on with our work

[@strongfaith94]

Should we talk about how this Lady is beautiful and elegant!.

[@astoryofafrica]

Love this about her so much!!

[@ajaoadejoke8931]

I thought no one was going to mention that. She is elegant, composed and has such a beautiful spirit. She exudes love.

[@DavidLopez-gn3bi]

Muy Bonita,

[@Annie261.]

Class!

[@tiffanysar-lecluze5679]

I wanna be like her when I grow old!

[@saumyachaudhary5527]

This has been the most easy and beautifully expressed way of different actions and perceptives of how a person behaves/reacts, be it ourselves or others. Amazing🙌

[@digitalpatricia6125]

If we all learned this at school when kids, it would have saved us from so many heartbreaks, heartaches, misstakes, lesson learned and helped us to connect and learn about each others. I wish I knew this long time ago. But I will always go back and watch this. Thank you!! this was amazing and one of the top ted talks so far. I get teared up....I wish I could turn back time.

[@amitamehra9529]

Its never too late

[@jeanmarkbadibanga8689]

80% of your success is linked to how you communicate.

[@kingquinn3897]

I shout myself to the top!

[@villapoggiodigaville]

Thank you all so much for your appreciation of The 5 Chairs. If they can help you in any way with your daily lives they are fulfilling their mission :-)

[@kindnessmaku5969]

You did absolutely great in the explanation loved it

[@kristin1459]

I just finished watching your TedTalk....changed my life....I am 48 and in the midst of many difficulties as are so many people in the WORLD...this SPOKE TO ME....I feel different...I feel empowered and hopeful. Wow. Brilliant.

[@kristin1459]

honestly this was more informative, practical and life-changing than graduate school in Psychology :)

[@HealthiaMedica]

How can I connect with you Louis ? Im guilty as charged, I think I'm more on the red chair. I love your analysis and background. Would love to learn more

[@michellebiland5163]

Thank you Louise. I have shared this link with many friends already. 🌻🌻

[@faridahalihassan8005]

Thank you for this. I want to watch this every day ❤ sounds like something I need, I wonder why I am just seeing it 😮

[@jessicagalusha6987]

I just was "called out" as having adhd. I have watched your video multiple times. I have sat in every chair. Sometimes all in one day. I thank you for the knowledge and the perspective to see and understand things differently.

[@wood7772000]

Me too… In one day 😳

[@cjoviac]

This talk just prevented a major confrontation with a teammate at work. I was planning the 'attack' tomorrow morning at work...but on the way home today (in traffic) I randomly selected this video from all the choices my KZbin page presented. And now...I'm suddenly in 'giraffe' mode. THANK YOU Louise. Tomorrow will be a good day!

[@louiseevans3534]

So happy it helped you xx

[@violettewambua1390]

Joyousj 🤣🤣🤣

[@aleksandar9571]

How was your day in the end, my friend? Did it went well?

[@Mel0Cat]

Aleksandar I would like to know as well

[@MienaMini_]

me too 🤭

[@yutisima]

7:01 // The Red Chair - The Jackal: Attack, Misbehave, Blame, Judge. "The more we judge people the less time we have to love them." - Mother Teressa. 9:34 // The Yellow Chair - The Hedgehog: Self-Doubt, Fear, Vulnerable. "The highest form of intelligence is the ability to observe ourselves without judging." - Jiddu Krishnamurti. 11:06 // The Green Chair - The Meerkat: Wait, Patience, Mindful, Pause, Observe. "You have your way. I have my way. The only right way... it does not exist." - Fredrich Nietzche. 12:39 // The Blue Chair - The Dolphin: Detect, Self-Awarness, Powerful but Set Boundaries to Ourselves, Growth, Assertive but not Agressive. "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom." - Arsitotle. 13:54 // The Purple Chair - The Giraffe: Connect, Vision, Empathy, Tolerant, Understanding, Listen to People. "I don't like that man, I must get to know him better." - Lincoln.

[@etttie1]

👍

[@liammoreland2972]

Saved

[@rosalissa260]

Wonderful thought

[@GarethKing1]

That is exactly the summary I wished the talk had. Thank you kindly.

[@shanetterussell2451]

À

[@Renee11123]

I'm deeply moved by your speech. I'm in the process of being more aware of my behavior, thoughts, and communication with myself and others and this talk sparked something in me that I was trying to figure out this whole time. Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart ❤. Thank you for helping me start the new year on the right foot.

[@stanleyatalakpa9995]

Please do add your left foot so you can stand balance

[@wakeupwithmara7860]

@@stanleyatalakpa9995 😂😂😂

[@dishonb188]

This was one of the best ted talks I’ve ever seen. Exceptionally articulate, well informed, and eye opening.

[@renstarhurst3302]

Who is watching this 5/2020 we need this more than ever today.

[@karthiksanugula8537]

I have been watching this video since 2017, when situations around me make aggressive. Yes, you are right we need this more than every now and then

[@thefashionskunk]

Me, watching NOW! 😊

[@bridgetmary9867]

Here

[@guppyfamily5533]

Thought provoking

[@Mimi_international1]

RenStar Hurst 🙋🏾‍♀️

[@zohakarimi2983]

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

[@peggyhavard1546]

AMEN🙏🏻

[@deehope9477]

Lol knowing God as well.....!!

[@simplyk8767]

Knowing God is the beginning of wisdom

[@gideonmendoza2067]

Fear of the Lord is the Beginning of Wisdom

[@kaylee8869]

So. True.

[@frustratednoname]

Brilliant. As someone who's rushed through life, always in a hurry and often feeling like a "victim" of having too much on my plate, it's a gift to be able to pause. Think. Detect and perhaps act out of intention rather than impulse. This life is a journey and even someone like me, decades in, can learn new behaviours. I recently learned that I very much run off a script in my head that has been programmed over the years, but can be rewritten. Thank you for this. You are wonderful.

[@cheruiyotkirimigodfrey6178]

Honestly, this is an eye opener for me. I've spent most of my time being a jackal to attack, judge and later on have self doubt. Thank you Louise Evans

[@MarkFeaGuitar]

I watch a lot of TED talks and have to say, this is one of the best presentations I have seen... well thought out, well paced and delivered.... absolutely fantastic. Thank you Louise...

[@pavlamuzikova]

I completely agree :)

[@brittanyluke1207]

I knew someone shared my sentiments. Bravo Louise.

[@raghadhabash1370]

MFGuitarStuff Couldn't agree more!

[@rupeshbora]

MFGuitarStuff completely echo wit u...!

[@user-dp4yx9lz6t]

Thanks to the easy and clear introduction

[@sanjanapathak433]

One of the most brilliant talks I've seen on TED

[@takudzwajerrymaponga7173]

true

[@camoimusgrove146]

I have listened countless times

[@winterzhi7314]

Listen "own your face" too. Amazing

[@annbooth9552]

Sisterwives

[@alicelafleche5999]

Absolutely

[@lauraedens9830]

This just changed the entire course of my Thought Life, and I realize it has the power to change my Entire Life! “Do you want to be in a relationship with your mother, (insert any name) or do you want to be right?” Thank you!!!!!

[@dbguru500]

Thank you Louise! You have very successfully, condensed all the self-help books into 20 minutes! I cannot thank you enough. You have changed my life, and many others, as these comments will attest. This is one reason the TED talks are so powerful. Brilliant people sharing wonderful ideas in 20 minutes. God bless you Louise take care and be safe.❤️❤️❤️

[@patriciamartin9515]

This is such a good talk: it makes me realise that I've been sitting way too much in the red chair lately, it's time to change... one choice at a time. Thank you so much for enlightening me, this is really a life changing speech.

[@anja1789]

I hope you're not at the red chair anymore

[@utewavkdo8515]

Thank you all so much for your appreciative comments. It really warms my heart deeply.

[@geraldoalvesdelimalima2071]

Lula

[@elvismolefimolf]

Very powerful

[@andybrown8613]

Hi beautiful. HiI would loves us to be friends and also love to know more about you...what do you say?

[@louiseevans4882]

Thank you all so much for your appreciative comments

[@mariajaffary2697]

Really Magical and life changing words.hats off to you

[@sarnabchakraborty1323]

Great mam.

[@Neldidellavittoria]

The best Ted Talk I've listened to in a very long time. Well thought out and well presented. And very meaningful to me at this moment in my life, when I'm re-thinking a lot about myself, my life, and my relationship with the people around me. Thank you very much indeed Ms Evans.

[@ogarelizabeth8084]

Louise Evans Thanks so much Louise. You've made my night

[@mrinalgadhade9304]

Louise Evans -that’s something I’m gonna remember all my life. Thank you ❤️

[@scenesane]

Making myself, my home, work, world better one chair at a one.

[@offxgraysee8886]

Watched this video because of an assignment, but it ended up being something I needed personally - thank you!

[@sammy_lynn]

This just made me a better person and helped me recognize where I sit most of the time...I'll be changing seats now lol

[@mazey2896]

Been playing musical chairs with myself for years now how can i just sit in 1 ?

[@neemakaegele1174]

Lol move on girl

[@zcmdwane]

Me too lol

[@dustbehindthehat2237]

Hahahahaha

[@chulangaaverilhettiarachch3267]

"I don't like that man, I must get to know him better"

[@lisafiel8457]

right and after that if you still don't like them maybe trust your judgement and if you can move the F on!

[@kardoyle]

@@lisafiel8457 yeah don’t be afool over it

[@elvismolefimolf]

Amazing 💯

[@wwd5104]

A fellow lankan.

[@karankapoor2701]

One of the best tedx talk to ever have happened

[@lesia4703]

It was incredible, Louise! You've gethered so much wisdom to share with everyone! And every word you say is so meaningful. I'll rewatch it over and over again, not to miss a single word. Thank you so much!

[@cebolla3922]

her voice is so goddamn calming and this TED talk is so important

[@DBoyuh]

Awesome talk !!! It reminds me the quote: There are only three things you need let go of Judging, Controlling, and Being right. Release these three and you will have the whole mind and twinkly heart of a child. ~Hugh Prather

[@louiseevans4882]

I love that quote Oyun. Thanks

[@dsstudio76]

Perfect! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@elegantfifi]

Exceptional video x

[@zakiplayzhashimi8802]

@@louiseevans4882 you are the best teacher !! i studay english today.very uesfull. tank you very much

[@ahmedghazwan4747]

Thank you for the beautiful words.

[@user-kv8dp3ib7w]

Rewatching again! Thank you.

[@amandacassia2553]

Starting new year in the right shoes after that ted talk, thanks ❤

[@abr2648]

"Stepping into someone's else shoes and understand them is a great act of generosity"❤️

[@peggyhavard1546]

AMEN🙏🏻AMEN🙏🏻AMEN🙏🏻

[@sonalibhat5149]

I think a person is a combination of different chairs..what matters is which chair is dominant !!

[@yaoiblfan]

sonali bhat You're right. I like your answer.

[@owlfeathers6615]

"Hello Patricia"

[@muhammadghiffary2110]

well said sir.

[@blertaklevis]

I would say, which chair YOU decide to be dominant. We all have those chairs, but do you decide to be angry, to be doubtful or sad, or you could be a Giraffa if you want to ;)

[@Onlinesully]

that makes a lot of sense

[@ameralbadry6825]

One of the best talks I just wished that I saw these earlier in my life!

[@amorporlasletrascontere7692]

I loved that video. It is one of ny favorites Ted talks. This is a crucial topic in our daily lives. How many problems would not exist if empaty guide our lives!

[@sevinch6304]

This was the Ted talk I absolutely needed. I have been a jackal most of my life. I really want to change

[@ninasmith8965]

Believe in yourself and work on yourself. I'm on the same path. Good luck. 🙌

[@karinberryman2009]

Very honest - you’re doing very well when you can identify yourself like this!

[@definitelymaybe_cath]

One of my favorite Ted talk :) I always keep on re-watching this whenever I feel like I'm losing mindful self and I'm drowning in my emotions.

[@Harith5]

💪🏻💪🏻🌻💚

[@dinnabharath2201]

These are an ower reality of five-way choices. Appreciated.

[@minhhanhto1965]

"we listen to people, we hold people in our present" - beautiful words, thank you Louise !

[@myownlittleworld9216]

Girrafe chair.....the giraffe has the biggest heart of all land animals...longest neck so it has incredible vision. In this chair we display empathy, compassion and understanding so in this chair we let go of our ego, we hold people in our presence and we care for them and listen to them, and stepping into somebody else's shoes and understanding them is a great act of generosity. To embrace diversity and to become tolerant.

[@dougraddi908]

Three horns don't play with long necks

[@reallifelove]

Great talk, and I must say the brother's comment "do you want to be in a relationship with her or to be right", struck very deeply and to the point.

[@TellTheTru]

On her brother’s comment... I understand that being in a relationship is important but it’s also important to correct the person in a good way only for good. And can’t we correct the person in a good way and still be in a good relationship? Why do we need to choose between the two?

[@hunpiya]

Such a timely talk for me. Yesterday I wrote, “I will be better”today, I am watching this. Thank you Louise. I will definitely be using all of these

[@gwalker5826]

This perspective really helps when dealing with my children. Very much appreciated ❤️

[@dbguru500]

Wow. Good luck with that! LOL! I’m sure you will master the five chairs in no time! :)

[@imeldafani]

I love her voice and intonation! She'd be great to be a voice-over artist 😀

[@Relachi]

i absolutely ADORE this ted talk

[@jubileetsuyuki9505]

I agree. She has great points and story.

[@jagmeetsinghfan1019]

me too love Louise Evans

[@sayusayme7729]

Wow, love this!!’ 🦋 5 chairs and change ♥️

[@princesstah-tah1461]

❤

[@ckim5021]

Relachiiiiii

[@murielbarry3766]

Thank you Louise. I was planning an attack when I go to work tomorrow. You saved me with these chairs. Lesson learned. Thanks 😊👍❤

[@mygdaliafierro0731]

I commit 🙏🏻. This is a lovely Tedx. Thank you , Louise Evans ❤️.

[@annahnabalayi1090]

Having been raised by my very or should extremely harsh, tough, iron lady African mother as all most African mothers are, I was never given a chance to express myself. I was always told off, never good enough, always comparing me to my peers, it was hard to make Friends who were scared of being my friend because of my mother. Traveled to England for the first time in 2008 on one year placement at a retreat house where the wardens were a wonderful elderly couple. The love and attention i received, these people taught me to love me, encouraged me to use my voice. Alot of that pain and anger was released because of what i received from this couple and people who came to the retreat house. Louise thank you for this talk, i can self evaluate, i know what to let go of and what hold on to. i am watching this like for the fifth time now. Love the idea of chairs, i have been in all those chairs all my life but i must say this is WISDOM. Thank you

[@aishammanga654]

African parents can really be toxic

[@commedesigns836]

My name is Dennis. I also understand how you feel, I was also a victim a toxic parenthood actually from Dad, Nigerian, I was forced to run away (self decision) after a domestic abuse but one thing i learned after leaving was calmness and had the opportunity to express myself and inner giant. I am a creative and found that gift spontaneously ... I now have a good respectful relationship from my dad and found that life is worth staying positive

[@Honeybeememez]

💓

[@anja1789]

This is inspiring to read, thank you for sharing, I hope you're well

[@annahnabalayi1090]

@@anja1789 thank you. i am well

[@mkim7715]

I watched this three times today. As I am going through difficult time personally, this message was enlightening and exactly what I needed.. I am red chair person.. i will continue to watch until I memorize the signals of each chairs .

[@aaliyahbarker7225]

My favorite ted talk. I have watched this many times and will continue to do so when in need of reminders.

[@vlaea2202]

“The more we judge people, the less time we have to love them.” - Mother Teresa. Great line.

[@mattsonaleman6649]

her voice is so goddamn calming and this TED talk is so important

[@maryamasim6140]

Best Ted talk ever. 👍👌👍

[@leulitascro]

If we only allowed a tiny bit of our daily spare time to observe and to assess our behaviours and our way to communicate to others, we would dramatically contribute to change this world for the better. The Five Chairs is a stuggering practical tool to make it happen. Thank you Louise!!

[@louiseevans3534]

You are so right Matteo....even just one behaviour a day :-)9

[@kimberlyrosssegovia203]

I'm proud to honestly say that I favor the green and both blue chairs. 😄 I'm disappointed in the realisation that I act & react in either the red or yellow chair with my husband of 20 years. Honestly I'd have to admit that i spend most of the time in both red and yellow chairs when remembering past events, talking to, thinking of and reacting to my husband. This talk has been an eye opener. Much gratitude Louise.

[@nishakuttan2822]

Matteo Baronti Becky. A. Bailey's book called Easy to Love difficult to Discipline is a great parenting book.. Must read for all..

[@melissaaranda1229]

One of the best Ted talks I've seen

[@Karlacook89]

This brought so much healing to my heart. Thank you Lord Jesus for placing this video in my path ❤

[@maureen95]

We often talk about shifting behaviors but Louise's talk helps us to pragmatically feel and do exactly this. Even more so, we learn to stop the stories we tell ourselves which are fabricated in our mind until we open the communication. Great tool: W.A.I.T. - What am I thinking? What am I telling myself? Tweeting, texting and tech are with us forever. How can we be so connected yet so communicative. Louise gives us the answer. Thank you.

[@heathersaydyk4891]

Maureen Rabotin is

[@ericmoore1173]

How are you doing today my name is Eric Moore

[@melissajohnson9668]

This presentation hit home, hard. The introspection begins.

[@rc....]

And then what??? ONLY introspect???

[@pmugenyi]

Never too late 5 years later, thank you for the beautiful words of wisdom indeed one behaviour at a time.

[@larryewaen4945]

Wow it's so amazing as I have found a solution to most of my problems, I am quick to attach instead of connecting.....thank you so much for this wonderful teaching ❤

[@coleman6203]

I've spent my entire life sitting in the wrong chair! Thank you for this presentation!

[@amourtoujours779]

"Observe yourself without judging" By this point in her talk, I was already crying but this one took me over the edge. So glad I stopped to watch this.

[@kristinasmith784]

Divine timing

[@Shalini2808]

Stumbled upon this very insightful video today, what a find!

[@iannaash8383]

I'm feeling goosebumps because this talk resonates to me so much. I felt vulnerable while listening to this talk because it feels like it is exposing some of my inner conflicts that I didn't even realize I havem

[@louiseevans3534]

Thank you. So glad you enjoyed it

[@belib820]

Thank you so much.

[@salwaalhajel5634]

Louise Evans awesome thank you ! The great lesson in the right time ! God bless you

[@ericmoore1173]

How are you doing today my name is Eric Moore

[@veshk3241]

I was just on the verge of a breakdown. My Masters year isn't going so well and life is shit around me. Now i have some tools to make things close to me better. Thank you so much Louise Evans!

[@louiseevans4882]

Your comment made me feel so grateful Vesh. I really hope the Chairs help you come into a better place in you life....a place you deserve :-))

[@noelmabiza711]

Powerful. We need a lot of learning to do to make this world a better place for human settlement.

[@nellykoskey5073]

Many years ago and her teachings still making sence and inspires, what a piece

[@sandrangarka9855]

Who is watching 6/2020. This is so inspiring It has spoken directly to me We all need to carry the 5 chairs along

[@loribrejcha4676]

Listening in July now, brilliant women!

[@ginamccollum7237]

I completely agree! This touched me to the core!

[@peggyhavard1546]

@@loribrejcha4676 listening in April 2021

[@TR-vh1fi]

4/2021 here

[@cherylsmith5998]

Wow profound. Thank you for highlighting my 5 chairs.

[@andreahuerta7508]

Beautiful! I loved this Ted talk ❤ brilliant woman, thank you.

[@khaledelmagraby9090]

Amazing Louise, “5 Chairs 5 Choices” Master your behaviours and communication 🟥 🐺Jackal chair: Attack 🟨 🦔 Hedgehog chair: Self-doubt 🟩 🐿 Meerkat chair: WAIT 🟦 🐬 Dolphin chair: Detect 🟪 🦒 Giraffe chair : Connect

[@indralakhram3380]

I changed my behavior, because of this message

[@diemhuong3876]

I think this is the most valuable 18mins in my life really. You see I’m having struggle communicating with people these day, and it got so much worse each day that I think I’m suffering from depression. I have insomnia (which i never had before) caused by the worries of why ppl hate me so much or why they just can’t get it. I even feel suffocate in my own house. But your sharing I think will help me so much and I’ll try to change in this way. I’ll come back and write the results. Thanks alot teacher!

[@nd6007]

Same here... Exactly what you say...

[@darlingnyibz]

One of the best ted talks I have heard Just makes us aware of the impact we have on others. And how we can improve relationships often

[@janaesimmons4672]

Wow "making this world yes, a Better place one behavior at at a time" excellent! 2022. Thanks 👍.

[@christakounine]

You are an amazing speaker, Louise! I loved your talk, the concept, the story/ Vignette you used to illustrate the 5 chairs and the way you presented, so clear!

[@louiseevans3534]

So very glad. Thanks Christa

[@nammyohorengekyoooooo]

+Louise Evans One of the best Ted talks I've seen, too bad the people that really need it won't see it..

[@ice-chills5153]

👍

[@elsagrace3893]

Christa Schreiber glad it made sense to you. It takes all kinds of teachers.

[@christinerugambwa3579]

Arianna Kamal k

[@sheils2688]

Thank you for this. How I wish I had seen such a clear and edifying presentation before getting old. Still time to act.

[@louiseevans3534]

Bravo! It's never too late. I wish you success xx

[@IwasBlueb4]

sheils....your comment touched my heart somehow

[@suprabhathapaliya2833]

I listened to you few years ago and again fell in love with your personality and your perception of connection with your people. Thank you Louise for this insight.

[@bethryan9054]

Thanks for opening my eyes to these five chairs

[@psychopathinthemaking]

She deserved that standing ovation. That was amazing! So many of the issues I've been having with myself and my family suddenly became clearer. I'm going to have to set aside some time and sit down with these chairs, see how best they can help me in changing my life.

[@louiseevans3534]

Love the idea of you 'sitting' with the chairs to get clarity ;-)) I've written a book called 5 chairs 5 choices (Amazon). That might help !

[@psychopathinthemaking]

Thanks for replying! I will check it out!

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[@raindropsonroses3919]

Eloquent , articulate and intellectual... what a woman! One of the most inspiring ted talks I’ve seen

[@elizabethhan1219]

The purple chair is that third eye. The Ajna. That silent but deadly intuition that whispers the truth of some deep inner knowing within you.

[@leilaalamian8760]

Thank your for your speech video that I will watch it over and over again for learning how to observe my reactions and correct my mistakes in my encounters with people until I feel improved. Also, Thank you for touching one of the most important obstacles I face with my children. The Cell Phone and the applications on their phones distracting them to be present with me when together. I learned from your experience with your young woman in this video that I should not get disappointed with my children being busy on their cell phones which stops us from any meaningful communications. But I still do not know how to react to this behaviour while it is happening or even later. Mind you this issue is not limited only to our youth. My own siblings ( all over 55 years old) they rather text than calling or meeting! I just gave up on all of them until I watched your video. So there are ways to help this issue. I just don't know those ways.

[@kellyewright4845]

Definitely one of my favorite TED Talks. Louise's presence is so calming. I could listen to her all day!

[@stewart6830]

Yup it is a

[@konmylona]

This is one of the most enlightening speech I have ever heard! Thank you!

[@ericmoore1173]

Hello how are you doing, my name is Eric Moore how is the weather over there toda

[@arielzuidema7193]

I cried when you mentioned Viktor E Frankl and his book, A Man's Search For Meaning. It is my favorite book and drastically altered my mind, along with the ideals of chakras, which are in favor of being self-restorative until you are physically capable, emotionally capable, and socially capable of being empathetic, open, and truthful.