Oprah & Arthur Brooks: Build the Life You Want - Episode 1 | Oprah's Super Soul | OWN Podcasts

In Episode One of the Build the Life You Want Super Soul Podcast, Oprah and Arthur Brooks offer listeners a better understanding of the science behind happiness and why Arthur says, “Happiness is not a destination, happiness is a direction.” Together, they take questions from people across the country who have read Build the Life You Want who are curious how to apply topics from the book to their own lives. They discuss the “The Four Pillars of Happiness: Faith, Family, Friends and Work that Serves” as well as the power of metacognition which Oprah calls “one of the biggest contributions to people getting happier.” Arthur Brooks explains how using “emotional caffeine” can lead to greater happiness and how having “a better storage of emotions” can block anxiety and depression.
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[@sweetiesvintage]

😊

[@GabanSaripan]

I wish Oprah could donate this amazing book to the people who cannot access it, simply because of financial issues so that the conversation would be spread further.

[@herlindateteltitla2691]

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[@_Renee2]

Disconnecting from social media and toxic family helped me tremendously.

[@TheRoseChunsa]

Unfortunately, Family is never going to be disconnected by nature, since we can’t pick and choose family. You’re sharing memories in happiness and sadness until death. You can only be distance yourself apart from them.🤷‍♀️

[@NogaAdama]

Mother Earth wants her children to be happy, she loves us for what we are. She gives us air and water, food and fire. Without her love and nurture we could not live. If you look at the rest of her children, the animals, the birds , the fish the trees and floers, we'll see the beauty and fulfilment that can be lived here on Earth.

[@Marie-up7fb]

Thank you. It is not Mother Nature, the feminine way, driving the 4 “negative” pillars he mentions (Oprah seemed to pick up on this). It’s the patriarchy and negative masculine (I don’t mean men here!) that drive power, etc. Mother Nature is all about community, family, meaning. She does not want us to be hungry! Human nature is what drives choices and where hedonism comes from. Mother Nature is the entire world. It’s our societies and cultures that drive how we behave, not Mother Nature.

[@ileishaguinn882]

I agree

[@ileishaguinn882]

Human race made cars and luxury pleasures and ect. a relevant “lifeline” I believe that Mother Earth is being damaged because of these things, I wholeheartedly disbelieve she pushes selfish living on us as humans choose to live by over being more down to earth and more at easy by being natural, and if we notice natural is almost the same as the word nature!

[@happyserhii]

for sure Noga,

[@ClaireCelticMystic]

I am FREAKING OUT at his disgusting confusion stated with authority about Mother Nature. She is pure love embodied. Dear God, help him!!!

[@lauraneaves6912]

I've been walking each day for 3 years straight in the mornings and it's my medicine 💜💜💜

[@happyserhii]

gooood habit. How many miles per day?

[@princessauthentic3]

I love walking in the morning but where I live now it's such a bad weather

[@lauraneaves6912]

@princessauthentic3 we have bad weather too but you walk anyways!

[@elevationchapter]

"Social Media is THE JUNK FOOD of Social Life . " Arthur Brooks 🔥🔥🔥

[@ConfettiTornado]

Mother Nature is the ultimate truth of life. Blossoming when the time is right, letting go peacefully when the time is right. She encourages a peaceful pace, relaxation, love, appreciation, compassion. She is an artist (just look at the leaves right now!) and the ultimate mentor we should be looking to. Using this negative language toward Mother Nature is patriarchal and unhealthy. ❤

[@amandaplunkett6151]

I completely agree! I can’t believe a Harvard professor is proclaiming it this way. Makes Harvard (and him) lose a lot of credibility in my eyes.

[@ConfettiTornado]

Definitely!

[@coachjohndizon]

Agree

[@MrsAndreaEngland]

❤❤❤

[@PaigeSquared]

I agree. My version of "mother Earth" and the natural world does NOT include the systems and hierarchies that humans have created. Like money, that isn't Mother Nature to me. To AB, he seems to include those things in his definition of the natural world; his definition is much more broad, basically he could have said the environment and context people live in. Oprah tried to give him an out, and he dug his heels in, possibly not quite getting the different ways of defining the term he used. His mind is coming from a very specific academic place. When he refers to "the divine path," I believe that path is based in the natural world, or else it wouldn't be such a universal human phenomenon. I think on language used, it definitely isn't the best term, is definitely misleading. "Mother nature" is a vital part of depression prevention.

[@kathycaruso1587]

Happiness is a show without commercials.

[@dr1204]

love that!

[@angelatorres6174]

I find great pleasure in doing things alone, especially the spa. Bringing people along usually messes up the vibe. 😂😂😂

[@besapeposhi3864]

Me too

[@TheRoseChunsa]

The key to enjoy with someone for anything that finding the right person to do just like relationship with your spouse, Otherwise you’ll be better off alone.🤷‍♀️

[@yasssqueen3063]

I agree!!!! ❤

[@Kaylove1210]

😅

[@rbcml47]

Some of the most amazing and life changing trips I've taken have been solo and meeting people and having unexpected experiences along the way❤

[@sharongutwin1279]

Me too!

[@zanzibarspice]

I love when research supports the tenants of Buddhism.

[@donnajeffreys8252]

About a year and a half ago I totally gave up Facebook. I had gotten addicted to it !! Thought I'd miss it but instead I feel emotionally better and so glad I gave it up . KZbin is the only social media I watch now and sometimes I watch too much KZbin but I do get good information.

[@patjackson1775]

Me too. Never enjoyed facebook..in fact I hate it! Other media are a real source of information I thrive one science and utube.

[@drea4373]

I’ve been wrestling with feelings of, regret and stagnation. Listening to this discussion boosted my mood and gave me the spark I needed. I look forward to purchasing and reading this book.

[@GuidetteExpert]

I recommend deleting social media.

[@happyserhii]

Wow, this podcast really hit home for me. I've been struggling with feelings of regret and being stuck in a rut, but listening to this discussion has given me the boost of motivation I needed. Thank you for sharing your insights and inspiring me to take action. I can't wait to purchase and read this book, and I'm also excited to check out the Super Jump Workshop. 8 simple exercises for the mind to increase energy and happiness? Count me in! And the fact that there's a 100% money back guarantee speaks to the confidence in this program. Can't wait to see the positive changes in your life!

[@chixbleau7321]

@@GuidetteExpertI agree I took myself off social media for three years..

[@doremifasolatido-ro7zs]

same here! stagnant for 5 long yrs and tons of regrets in life!

[@zainabsworld12]

Once you are so rich and famous so its is easy to teach all these sources of happiness 😊

[@thinktank4768]

I have a different perspective about being alone. Being alone and doing what you love brings you happiness.

[@lululemonbar9110]

And some of us are introverts and are happiest in our own space. I feel miserable around people too much.

[@thinktank4768]

@@lululemonbar9110 I am part introvert and part extrovert. Therefore, I’m fine being alone and with others. However, you’re right. Introverts tend to like being alone.

[@Goldgirl1978]

@@thinktank4768I’m extrovert and like being alone. Once you have been alone for long enough, through no choice of my own, you get past the pain of it and then enjoy it from there on. I still love company but not fake company so I’d rather be alone than around 5 min friends.

[@thinktank4768]

@@Goldgirl1978 I agree. At first it was difficult to adjust to, because I was always in the company of others, and I am sociable. However, now I’m used to it. Also, it’s not by choice. I have to stop being too picky when I meet a man, or else I’ll be single for the rest of my life, yet I’m not miserable being alone. I work, and when I get home sometimes it’s party on, when I play my music on CDs. Also, I have select shows that I watch on OWN on Friday and Saturday nights, and I fall to sleep to the content on KZbin, so most of the time being alone is peaceful. ✌🏽

[@obedirect5491]

It does for me and enegizes me to be more altruistic.

[@marimartinez7351]

I wish this coild be translate to Spanish, our community could benefit from this❤ I have found out that my happiness is about living a simpler life and enjoying my time with my immediate family , friend's, dancing and church, and traveling ❤❤❤to meet new people. I also looooove my alone time , that also brings happiness to my life 😊❤

[@claudemontes]

Buen Camino!

[@brendaporter8749]

Great ideal; unfortunately the reality is if you r an introvert like myself and would usually like to enjoy partying by myself it saves the scrutiny of being around other people and enjoying myself. Other people drain me in a short time. The world has changed. When he spoke of the commercials that’s just simple marketing. Being an introvert doesn’t s mean u r lonely, lacking or striving to have friendships it’s just that we need a time to be with people and a time to go to our corner and regroup. I wish people who were extroverts didn’t look at us as lost souls.

[@ninazapalaENTP]

So glad you are expressing this. In fact I wrote a book on this and highlight why it’s absolutely beautiful to be reflective and need solitude. The inner mind of an introvert is typically profound as introverts practice stillness which is the ideal time for the whispers of the Divine to come to you. ❤

[@user-vi7cn3xv6v]

What about people who love their solitude and find enjoyment in tranquility. That's their happiness.

[@NDG76]

Yeah. I disagree with that part.

[@marimartinez7351]

Absolutely, I love my alone time

[@vi2623]

Agree. I am what most would consider to be elderly and disabled. My family lives in other States. But I am content and perfectly fine with being alone most of the time. Social media is a gift for homebound people. I can interact with my family and friends from the comfort of my bed, and am exempt from the drama, etc., that inevitably happens even in the most emotionally healthy families. What an awesome time to be alive!! ❤️👍🏻

[@donnajeffreys8252]

I absolutely love a beach walk by the ocean 🌊🌞 walking in the park on a breezy day listening to and watching the trees 🌳🌞 🌳

[@Manyhailmarysatatime]

social media is the junk food of the social life - so good 🙌

[@shanti888]

TRYING to be happy won’t make you happy. Enjoy the moment you’re in and BE happy. Grateful for being alive.

[@WealthVidaManifestation]

"Social media is the junk food of social life" We have to learn to use social media responsibly, this is urgent 🙏

[@dionysus9876]

I follow Black Women on YT who travel alone and live alone, and they are genuinely happy. They find pride in following their dreams, exploring new places, and challenging themselves. And they are making meaningful memories. The greatest relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. Friends and family are wonderful additions to life, but you CAN find happiness even if you are alone.

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True, 'm Alone &most Happi😊

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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@brendaporter8749]

Sooo true!

[@rizq480]

humans are social creatures we are bound to create relationships that are meaningful to us. if you think your current relationships or friendships don't serve you, please build another one. solitude is important but loneliness will kill us

[@PascalBachmann]

I appreciate Oprah and Arthur Brooks' insights on the science of happiness and how we can apply these principles to our own lives.

[@happyserhii]

yeah, appreciation is a big part of feel happy

[@carmenconnectsu]

There was such confirmation that I'm doing the right things to increase my happiness. My plan now is to be more consistent in those things. Ordering the book now!

[@happyserhii]

yes. Confirmation is a good thing, now time to apply it in our lives

[@zainabsworld12]

Life is better when you share it!❤

[@JWoodf]

Happiness can be found during time alone as well as with others, but especially while being in and also helping to protect Mother Nature. 🙋🏻‍♀️🌱

[@tracylwimmer]

“Mother Nature” is the wrong choice of words. Oprah was right… 😉

[@theVanishingGladiator]

Yep, totally agree! Could be ‘the fleshly desires’ or ‘the sinful nature’(?)

[@168KDW]

Thank you for sharing the light / LOVE . Happiness is not a destination it's a direction ❤

[@happyserhii]

here we go!

[@zonunralte4742]

❤❤ Two of the people I really love, didn't know they could even come together... So happy for this...

[@mbianzileonie2789]

Hello, I am Leonie from Cameroon. I love the science that each individual is an enterprise. And the practice of having the children write a business plan just put a smile on my face. My mum used to ask us to write down what we plan to do or become in the future and I used to think "is that really necessary?" Growing older and having responsibilities of my own, I am also doing that, though just in discussion. Listening to the business plan agenda from Arthur, it is something I will definitely program for my kids. Thank you Oprah and Arthur. I've learnt soo much from this podcast.

[@theobservereffectexplained1102]

Congratulations 🎉Oprah you are looking happy and healthy. Wealthy is obvious. It’s a great subject, much needed for civilization that wants more… and have never enough..

[@kesebonemaema1450]

Don't go alone! I love that. Thank you for validating me. I am not a solo traveler and I see it's a trend for women to travel alone. I am so glad I didn't feel pressure as a single woman to do that. I travel with my kids, my mom, my friends ❤

[@aparnabhatia5072]

Good 👍 for you!!!

[@happyserhii]

exactly

[@NOLA-le7rl]

I don't think it's a trend some of us have no other option but to go alone. You're blessed to have the advantage of going w/ family. It's not a choice to go alone it's our only option.

[@albertfinney1328]

@@NOLA-le7rl Why NOT go alone? Use sense and do what you like to do.

[@fashionmusingsdiary8775]

So much actionable wisdom! Thank you! 🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️

[@TheRoseChunsa]

That’s so true! I did million good things to others, then If I did one thing wrong, that one particular person but not all remembered and make sure remind me how hurtful I was to saying something I don’t even remember to her or him 10 years later. My solution is that I stay away far from them even they’re my family. It’s scares me. So Forgiveness is best medicine for happierness!🤷‍♀️

[@magueysunset]

I just got the book 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels and it's been a nice mindfulness guide. Trying to practice mindfulness this holiday season.

[@pattywest1]

Mother Nature draws us to nature to think things through & relax & put life’s events into perspective.

[@Ajwa-kv8rb]

Please team Oprah, let's nominate Oprah for a honorary doctorate and for a noble peace prize. She does such wonderful work. Thank you Professor Arthur. Ms. Gayle King, what do you think?

[@blessme-ng9gu]

There are super Great & greater souls unknown to most already existing not in di social Limelight, who work on silently without seeking prize medals, fame or cash...in de unknown depths of transcendental mystics. benefiting more people than a celebrity interviewer across/beyond 1000 countless miles unseen unheard 🎉 ❤ 🎉 😅

[@fabinaulaguari2580]

My life changed since I started watching the SSS and got to know Oprah’s life ❤ thank you for your love

[@zainabsworld12]

Share the link

[@gregkettnerworkhappy]

Thank you Arthur and Oparh!

[@selestineshiro3918]

Thank You Oprah and Arthur Brooks❤

[@hoteldesigner6392]

Faith ❤Family ❤Friends❤Work that Serves❤

[@aanuyate1]

I resonated with Dr Anita when she apologized to her daughter. There was an incident between my son and me. Afterward, I knew in my heart it was wrong. As soon as he got home, I immediately apologized and he accepted. I have no issue apologizing to my children.

[@Goldgirl1978]

Oprah is looking stunning !

[@feliciamarte3031]

Hello beautiful world , I read awhile ago that the happiest people are the ones that give the Most, Most !! Let's try to learn to have campasstion Love for one another God bless all

[@nadjavranken4965]

Every young person who feels sad because he/she thinks the world is only falling apart should see this!!! Sooo hopeful! Thank you from all of my heart and soul for all your effort ❤ Love from the Netherlands

[@jaideguchi6234]

Currently halfway through this book, it plays a huge part with my journey rn which is healing.

[@mondaymathew5773]

Treat your life the way you treat your job. Prof Authur Brooks

[@nancybroadcast]

🎉One of the best interviews ever! Thank you so much Oprah and Arthur!!!❤❤

[@Travellifestyle733]

Thanks Oprah. Great content as always. About the girl with regret: she failed the exam, where’s the regret in that? The regret would be if she had the opportunity to get in the university and she didn’t. But she didn’t even pass the exam. So I’m thinking that was more about feeling sorry and self pity than regret. Dying for our faith? Unfortunately people who are willing to die for their faith are usually ready to kill for it too. And that’s what keeps the wars going. Dying trying to reach your goals that’s aligned with humanity is another story.

[@jeanapolinar6879]

Only God can fill the void in our hearts and minds., and what we do is discover who God is and cooperate with Him!!Joy is the result not just happier!!

[@michellesobhy998]

Oprah hi this book u r promoting is great for the mentally and emotionaly depressed u and the dr need more seminars on books like this for the depressed god bless u and arther 2❤ 4your help

[@ayandashabalala9795]

Im half way into the conversation and thoroughly enjoying it but i must say, the 4 pillars of happiness are sounding vary extrinsic to me. The family you are giving might not always make you happy and building a family isn't always easy because you can't necessarily control people. Choosing the right friends does add to your happiness for sure but again, even the best of friends will disappoint you at times and poof, there goes that pillar of happiness. I guess faith and work with purpose are the two pillars that are more under your control so I'll work on that and the family and friends will stem from that

[@FlowersandSun22]

One of the if not the most insightful interviews. Thank you thank you. I think overall choosing to deliberately lean on more positive things. As you said have a reserve. Especially if you grew up in negative environments. This will be useful in jobs as well. Love your idea/ advice to get up early and take it the start of the day. I’ve discovered this and that’s why I love waking up early to work ❤❤❤❤❤❤I love you Oprah.

[@patriciabyron216]

Really wonderful conversation! Thank you, Oprah! You always bring on the best of the best...

[@happyserhii]

Hey Patricia, hope you made some notes.

[@user-di4nz3qt8o]

My gratitude to you guys.Stay blessed 😊

[@cloudsofwonder7004]

I am so grateful for this Sharing Thank You ❤

[@tengotnco5942]

Yes transcendent ... being in awe at nature, being with God, the universe .. nothing taken forgranted ❤

[@kesebonemaema1450]

Enjoyment, satisfaction and meaning = Happiness

[@katliven]

The second episode made me act out a few acts of kindness ❤ both for close family and for coworkers thank you for saying that it’s completely normal to be kind and be intentional about it and without seeking any reward 😊

[@sharonbryce7724]

Peace, contentment, happiness - they’re pretty close I think. I think belief and commitment to something transcendent (what Arthur and Oprah are calling faith), satisfaction (at achieving what we strive for) and meaning are certainly important ingredients but I don’t think they are the only ones. For me, connection and time in nature and with other living beings, play or adventure and creativity (not just producing something creative but the process as well) are important as well. I also think what Arthur blames “nature” for is probably more accurately attributable to cultural influences. Fame, fortune yada yada - I query whether his need to blame Mother Nature might possibly have something to do with the fact that as a lecturer at business schools he won’t question the role of capitalist society and many religious bodies of the West in promoting fame, fortune yada yada as values to be strived for at all cost - most significantly at great cost to our natural environment.

[@farahaleem1247]

I am grateful to be alive family love friends healthy ❤

[@janenjaga6410]

Absolutely take the lead, only you can.

[@lianadwi_]

So grateful can find this videos and its will change my life to be happierness

[@sibusisodyosih309]

Let me download load it. 💕💙💚❤️🖋️ Thank you Oprah for these incredible conversations. You truly inspires us. To go deep into our souls our true "self". ❤

[@happyserhii]

totally agree. Much love

[@UKRN85]

spa-ing ♥️. Love it too. Love you O! Been watching you since I was 8. Thank you Arthur! Enjoyment, Satisfaction, Meaning.

[@gomathisenthilkumar7215]

Absolutely Brilliant❤🎉.....thankyou.

[@sophiescotttv]

Finding a life of meaning is the key to happiness. Giving to others brings you love ❤️ Oprah thanks for all you do ❤

[@happyserhii]

yess Sophie, live for yourself does not make any sense.

[@susiepayne1775]

Happiness = contentment on the inside of u❣️🌹🎶

[@MrMassageReflexology]

Just what I needed to see and hear just now. Thank you 🙏

[@charmaineweerakkody6977]

Start with self. If you are happy, you will inspire others to be happy. When you understand what it means to be happy, you can help others to be happy. You can’t be happy all the time. You can have moments of happiness and use that skill to maximise those moments. ❤

[@kimberlytate2623]

I AM GRATEFUL FOR YOU TEAM🙏✝️❤😀😀

[@makellyjt]

Thank you! We can all be and direct our lives as a happier being!! The universe has brought you to me today. I am in need of my pillars. ❤

[@thewestendwoodworker]

Transformative work ya'll. Thank you so much

[@dianahigueral]

Happiness for you ,it is not the same for me.The most Important thing its that nobody control your own life.❤ Other wise you loose everything. You will be a puppet in their hands of others. Keep the control of your own life because only it matters to you .

[@amykoorn8861]

Thank you from Belgium 🇧🇪

[@jeffstephan6486]

Thank you Oprah 😊 that was an enlightening episode and I feel better after listening to it. Thanks again!!!😊

[@minou2586]

I really enjoyed this conversation, it's a very refreshing way of thinking, acting and being. Can't wait to get the audiobook and can't wait for the next episode ❤

[@mdaniely3045]

Dang y'all. I'm going to purchase your book. Great discussion. Loved it.

[@lisam.4686]

I listened to Arthur Book about happiness, I went depress for 2 weeks. Maybe what he said is true that you can't be happy and have to go through the pain/unhappiness to recognize happiness. This is nothing new, but in the end, he emphasis that there is no other ways. It's about acceptance and is part of life.

[@SwallowThisJuice]

I absolutely adore Arthur Brooks!!

[@judymendelson8171]

This video felt so right . I learned so much. Trying to incorporate these concepts into my own life is really exciting.

[@happyserhii]

Exactly Judy. Step by step you can get ahead!

[@prairnuannapa]

Thank you so much ❤

[@blessme-ng9gu]

Simple Living & High Thinking, with meditative solitude retreats benefits more. 😅 ❤

[@skyylovespace]

*what an enlightening conversation* ✨

[@paulavanduynhoven8951]

Love this Oprah. I’m grateful you followed your calling❤. You have taught many of us how to overcome but also how to enhance our lives. Priceless!!!

[@zahrashirazi1283]

I love the conversation. Thank s ❤

[@girl123cdn2]

Thanks so much for sharing this wonderful information! Can’t wait to read this book

[@gabriela29ish]

We all need to have faith in order to be happy! Believe in God people!! Your life will change. I love that he is Catholic ❤

[@pattygonzalezinga2951]

Thank you!!

[@hahamee]

professor Brooks, you look genuinely happy ❤

[@pialee5492]

Loved This!! I want to learn more!

[@staceyann_dawkins]

I love this ❤

[@zariahspeaks6718]

I really enjoyed this video. So much so I took notes, then said, my family, and I, need this book. Thank you. On to Part 2.

[@janicechaudhury6043]

Excellent video. Cannot wait to get this book. Thank you so much. Best wishes from Ontario, Canada.

[@sigvianafrancisca70]

Beautiful conversation, thanks for sharing.

[@SithembisoWambi]

Super inspirational 🇿🇦

[@ruleyourfitness]

I got some gems from this thank you both ❤🎉

[@user-cl5ob7wi1o]

Happiness be with god ❤

Thank you very much

[@KaloMuokii]

This is a great discussion.

[@christinasims4761]

This is life changing thank you both🙌🏾