Panic attacks

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[@illymation]

hi guys!! i had audio issues when i first tried to upload this. thanks for coming back to watch! i hope its fixed :') check out my amazing sound editor hannah moroz in the description! shes a life saver!

[@imaymellow]

Thanks to Hannah \O/

[@jujt2258]

Ty for this! Ik lots of people have this issue and it’s amazing that you can help people in simple ways like this :)))

[@flyingsalmons934]

I am 100 percent of the vote

[@em-fs2sc]

Amazing!!!!!!!!!!!💙💚💛🧡❤️💜

[@ally4629]

lol i was wondering what happened, i had notif on and when i clicked it said private 😂

[@Haminations]

No one: Me: ***sits in my room making up scenarios and hurting my own feelings.***

[@dgsparrow8288]

Haminations that’s a little to real 😁😅😫😭

[@muhammadmukhtar315]

Lol

[@thaliablodgett2749]

Yes

[@catnonymouse]

HAMONATIONS!!! Hello :))))

[@hafsafaisal9124]

OMG HAMINATIONS I love your videos

[@Woofle22]

Old lady arrives: anxiety goes away Conclusion: Carry an old lady with you at all times

[@lilyterrell1405]

That is a good wisdom

[@ihasdiarrheapro5788]

:O

[@urban_gse_]

I literally broke down from not smiling in an airport

[@maya-pr2by]

oh my lord is that a great pyrenees!? My favorite dog breed

[@urban_gse_]

@elana playz oh I'm sorry about that 😫 anxiety is bad

[@untoter5051]

This is why I prefer to talk in texts because I can spend 9 minutes for 1 message to make sure it isn't offensive or could ever possibly be seen as wrong.

[@AdventuresAwait123]

Hahaha same

[@Pinkkittie5006]

True unless it's discord that tells people when your texting too long. Or snapchat that shows you seen their message. 😐

[@mayuwu4408]

@@Pinkkittie5006 what I hate even more about discord is that it only updates wether you're typing or not in 10 second intervals. this means you can go to a chat, accidentally hit x instead of alt (trying to alt-tab away, you were just checking discord really quick), and now it shows that you're typing for 10 WHOLE SECONDS AFTERWARDS, AND THEN SUDDENLY STOP. I hate it so much ;w;

[@renthemen.]

thank god for tone indicators

[@maru-hk7eb]

Same

[@luciabelenoliveri5706]

I don't think I have social anxiety, and I don't have panic attacks, but the part of over thinking and being too worried about what other people think and thinking everyone secretly hates u was really relatable, I think that almost everytime I wanna hang out or just go and talk to someone. But it doesn't happen to me with strangers, bc I know that they probably aren't gonna see me again

[@theconman8835]

There is a word for that in phycology. The imaginary audience (thank you Rebecca Parahm for bringing this to our attention) It's that feeling that people are staring at you and judging you. That's normal, especially for adolescents.

[@WildSheWolf_]

it is a milder form of social anxiety just bc you are not shaking with fear, doesn't mean you are anxious; i for instance always manage to control my body and not let it take over me

[@KitannaColumbine]

Yeah anxiety disorders can still be present even if you don’t have “attacks,” as long as you’re anxious to the point that it makes your day feel disorderly, it’s probable that you have one. Worrying to the point that it’s abnormal and interrupts day-to-day life or (in your case) makes social interactions straining can be a sign that you’re not a normal amount of stressy. 100% valid, anxiety attacks or not.

[@Aroacerat]

Same, mine’s gotten a lot better just with time, but still.. its a valid struggle. Sending strength, luck, and optional virtual hug :)

[@Alexdoesart]

Me: *having a panic attack* My mom: _its that damn phone_

[@audreymele6393]

I relate to this to much

[@cinnamonroll4592]

Yes let us blame the phone that our own moms even use

[@justarandomloI]

THIS IS SO TRUE. “ITS BECAUSE OF YOUR PHONE” But it’s NOT. ;n;

[@lemdem]

Using my phone actually helps with my panic attacks because I can use it as a distraction and watch funny videos to make me laugh, or listen to relaxing music. It really sucks when parents say that its the phone, when in reality, the phone helps

[@violetvix366]

Hahahahaha that’s true

[@freddie9314]

*wait, so normal people don’t lay in bed for 2 hours every night wondering if that one text you sent could’ve come off as mean?*

[@jaimeparra2040]

There’s no way- how could you not?

[@moonlightwinter1072]

Yep-

[@nikpopnanime]

Me every single night

[@alieenzz]

Nah no way

[@llqcia6186]

@@jaimeparra2040 for real do-

[@1805movie]

When I was in middle school, I had this fear of heart disease. Just the idea of blood clotting in my arteries, and my heart stopping at any time (without me knowing), really terrified me as a kid. My school was having an assembly at the gym. We were all sitting in the bleachers, and they had a presenter entertain the crowd. As the event was taking place, I was contemplating about my "vulnerable heart" getting clogged by heart disease. As a result, my chest began to tighten, my breathing was miniscule, and my arms froze in place. It felt like my entire body was shutting down, which only increased my anxiety even more. I started to hyperventilate, and wheezed uncontrollably. Everyone stared at me, and the faculty took me into the nurse's office. Whether the event was postponed because of me, I didn't know for sure. At the nurse's office, the paramedics arrived and asked me what was wrong. In a fit of tears, I told them about my fear of heart disease, and I genuinely thought I was going to die. After they calmed me down, they explained to me that I was having a "panic attack". My body acted in self defense because my brain was in such distress. Back then, I didn't know that the mind had such a powerful effect on the human body. It was quite the eye-opening experience, let me tell you. Nowadays, I've learned to compartmentalize my fears and anxieties by taking deep breaths, and writing them down on paper. Sometimes creativity can come from cathartic releases.

[@duubaduu]

i had this same irrational fear when i was kid omgg

[@crepesareawesome8298]

@@duubaduu same, i was also afraid of breaking my neck so much i grabbed my neck to avoid it being broke

[@BeanZin-dv8kq]

I’d had something like this, but instead of heart disease, it was pretty much any fatal disease. If my arms were aching, I’d complete overshadow the idea that i just worked out, and assumed that I had a terrible muscle infection. I was indeed such a hypochondriac, and it drove everyone else around me crazy whenever I’d talk about my health concerns.

[@Lionhart-fw5nq]

i had the fear of not waking up from sleep (and my mind came up with many thinks that could happen when im asleep) so i had serius troubles falling asleep since elementary. my brain is still overworking at bedtime, but thanks to self studing "Falling asleep" i have it more or less under controll.

[@fuzzystardust]

her description of the panic attacks was freakin relatable on so many levels

[@Starzy2]

fr

[@777Rowen]

Yes exactly

[@zeemonrollin8340]

I didn't have the auditory questions about what others thought of me for what I considered a panic attack. It just felt like tv static and would do actions or say as much was needed to drown it out till it went away. I made my own mantras to repeat faster as needed to put it out in better form. I didn't really have people I wanted to talk to, so I enjoyed going out to browse art/craft stores and sketching by the ocean.

[@Emirichu]

This video reminded me that I hadn't lit that candle in a while and now my room is back to smelling like elderberry goodness, thank you

[@illymation]

Emily!!! I love you!!

[@marrshmylone2861]

I love the both of you💜💜ARMY

[@SIMPLY_GJ]

*HUGS emily*

[@benjaminsweaters7716]

:3

[@estrellalaura7195]

Emirichu u r so right!🙃🤣🙂

[@scarletscout2598]

Title: Panic attack Me: E N G I N E E R I N T E N S F I E S

[@bevyn7423]

What..?

[@mtuber1235]

Engineering intensefies*

[@Accidentalreef]

DO I PUT THE DISPENSER HERE OR THERE?!

[@katherine2415]

just some dude SENTRY DOWN, SENTRY DOWN!!!!!!!!

[@danielsalas2544]

Scout: WHY DID YOU PUT A DISPENSER THERE

[@kira_calamari2431]

The first time I ever had a panic attack was on an overnight school trip. I was staying in a tent with some girls who I was sort of friendly with but we weren't friends, while everyone else was out hanging out at the 'party'. I was so scared of leaving the tent to go do anything with anyone because I just had a recent massive falling out with my two best friends and I knew I'd be alone,and my phone was almost dead with nowhere to charge it,and I started panicking. I kept telling myself "No no no I promised myself I wouldn't do this again" and I kept repeating it until I was having a full blown panic attack in my tent. I had this moment of clarity though when I heard a sudden loud boost of a song I recognized,and I realized what was happening,and did everything I'd heard online to fet myself out of the panic attack. Still scary to think about what could've happened if I hadn't had that moment of clarity because I had started to hyperventilate

[@Starzy2]

You're really lucky, my first panic attack was also at a school trip. I was alone and I started hallucinating sounds (due to short sleep), heart pounding, overthinking, crying and derealizating, I thought I was going crazy. Just when I thought I couldn't take it anymore my bff appeared, she really saved me, I hugged her instinctively. She told me I could of asked for help, but in that moment it just didn't appear on my mind with all the overthinking and panic, and if i had gone to ask help whatsoever it would've added more overthinking because all my life I had never asked help for emotional distress. :) Wish you a great life, hope nothing like that happens to you.

[@noobilyplus]

@@Starzy2wow, i wish to have a bff like that some day. r u still friends?

[@Starzy2]

@@noobilyplus yea :D

[@samsungrefrigerator2563]

One time when I was venting to a friend about my social anxiety and insecurities they said that I should grow up and it’s all in my head and that I’m a selfish drama queen that seeks attention I really can’t control having emotional outbursts or panic attacks and my friend said “what about my feelings? Why can’t you think about the people around you that have to deal with your problems? The world doesn’t revolve around you.” It hurts when you’re accused of being selfish for having actual feelings and insecurities you’re sensitive about/can’t control 😢

[@pikachudardis]

Me: has a panic attack People: don’t panic Me: what an idea why didn’t I think of that

[@ballsrballing]

omg ikr genius ;-;

[@VanNessy97]

I read that in an adrenaline rushed motor mouth voice

[@vulgeriety7596]

My mum shouts at me and tells my to just calm down even though I can't and then I get grounded because apparently I was "stressing her out" and then I sit in my room crying for the next hour .-.

[@scorpiowarrior7841]

It's literally like that when people tell me not to be depressed like "WHAT DO YOU THINK, IT'S A SWITCH? NO."

[@myfuelisramen2890]

*Dying* People: *LIVE LIVE* WHAT AN IDEA WHY DIDN'T I THINK OF THAT?

[@itzpopplio1699]

Me having a panic attack: *almost dying* My mom:it's all because of that phone.

[@iasnessy6701]

Felt my face shrivel when I read that

[@chocobossxii9457]

Most annoying one is when your folks say that it's all in your head and what you're going through is just seeking attention XD I get frequent anxiety attacks, almost like panic attacks but they tend to last longer.

[@catcards6139]

Itz Popplio omg samee

[@Taniks_The_Final_Shape]

I’ll help hide the body

[@sinopathefox7391]

I felt that at a different level because I get panic attacks when a phone make that noise when someone hangs up and it's just like dun dun dun dun dun dun yeah know? Probably not this probably made no sense sorry

[@saanvikulkarni5273]

illy, i don't know if you'll ever see this.. but its worth a shot. you got me through some stuff... i find you inspiring, like a wise elder sister from half way across the frikin world. but this video got me crying.. it gave me horrible flash backs. and since i feel like a burden to EVERYONE i know, im telling this to a random comments section. once again, thank you illy and the random person reading this

[@katehuber4974]

Illy might not read this but I did. I know the feeling, trust me you’re not a burden but I also know its hard to see that but I’m rooting for you.

[@kainaris]

Imagine if your best friend told you that they think they're a burden. What would you say to them? Tell the same thing to yourself. I know it's not easy, I struggle with the same thing, but I hope this helps anyways

[@Danmeilover69]

I just had one of my worse anxiety attacks a few days ago. I was crying, couldn't breathe, couldn't speak, and threw up multiple times. Hearing you talk about this was like looking into a mirror. I have these thoughts all the time and it is an endless struggle. I'm on anxiety meds which are helping a ton. I'm doing better with my anxiety, but it's still an uphill battle. I am in a new place right now so to cope I'm taking my copy of The Lost Heir everywhere with me. I have my squishmallows to cuddle with. I hate being like this. Also She-Ra and The Princesses of Power is my favorite show of all time. This video made me feel less alone. You've changed someone's life by making this video, you've changed my life. Thank you.

[@anisayuna1510]

No one: Me: *what if what if what if what if wHAT IF WHAT IF W H A T I F*

[@shadowwolfginga2112]

Ssssssaaaaammmmeee here

[@BONETROUSLICIOUS]

YEP 😢

[@acethecinderace5528]

Anis Ayuna me too

[@willlawson6031]

ME TOO :(

[@myrmatta1]

No one? More like everyone. Absolutely everyone.

[@EnderPanReigns]

"dude, what are you ON?" "candles."

[@catqueenstudios8542]

Lol

[@youmutedme638]

Lol no one cares🤣🤣🤣

[@whathappened5797]

@@youmutedme638 you're just spamming that everywhere ._.

[@FLLatinGirl]

😂😂😂

[@EmberMoon5585]

@@youmutedme638 don't say rude and harmful things to others like 'no one cares' or other things like that, mostly because these are years where anyone's mental state can be anywhere from really great to falling apart

[@xx.mika._.]

To everyone who is going thru a rlly hard time rn: You‘re NOT alone It WILL get better U can do this! I know that it‘s hard and it sounds wayyy easier than it is. But things will get better one day. Don‘t give up. And if u feel like u can‘t deal with it without any help, try to find a therapist u feel onehundred percent comfy and chill with. Or atleast 99,9%. U can do this. I wish u the best, though i dont know you and though I’m just a random stranger. Keep going, there will always be someone who’s there for you and loves you ❤

[@Sscwarr]

Thank you ❤

[@Glitterkitten_studios-qd6hq]

I’m finding this video 3 years later and I have recently been diagnosed with anxiety. This is nice to know that someone feels the same as me.

[@iheartannamaria]

illy: *explains what a panic attack is* Me: oh shi-

[@lillianheath9666]

same

[@nathanf4361]

Yes

[@FizaM_is_so_cool]

Sheila Bourke why is that exactly what happened to me

[@theplanthobbyist6040]

Same

[@SerenityM16]

What’s worse is when you’re not sure if you’re just having a panic attack or a panic induced heart attack XD

[@simp3851]

*has panic attack* Mom: jUsT qUiT bEinG aNxIouS

[@dre4mwo0d78]

*it's because of that damn phone*

[@Sir_Jordan2032]

Wow

[@curlytop3194]

Change Mom do Dad and you have my life.

[@itrains1841]

_That darn screen is messing with your head_

[@somebody4942]

Same

[@beatricehathaway5769]

I just realized what you meant by "Sometimes I don't deal with them well, and it leaves me with scars." Sorry you're going through this. I know what it's like, and I hope you can get through this terrible endeavor as well.

[@fivepainbbles]

I was confused too until I saw the tissues and was hit like a truck. This girl is just a clone of me fr

[@idonoteatglitterglue]

I have severe panic disorder and the panic attacks I have often escalate into meltdowns. I have been hospitalized for this multiple times. And the amount of times I have been infantilized and mocked for it is insane.

[@ASeven323]

lady: “you know you could have asked me for help” Illy: “...” Lady: “here let me help you” My eyes: * TEARS *

[@cinnism]

Offly AnimeObsession IKR

[@shookcat1876]

Right!? I felt that!!

[@fnjesusfreak]

That might ironically have set me into an even worse panic attack (because I have some ridiculously high moral standards...blame my fundie upbringing).

[@opentabsofFanFiction]

R E S O N A T E

[@GrayShadowOfNight]

Same. It caught me so off guard when my eyes started watering Wtf

[@oonooooooooo]

I’m glad she addressed self harm, everybody makes it to be so taboo, but not talking about it just makes the issue bigger

[@sarahkline8829]

Sun :3 it makes me so sad, when I here that kinda thing! I can’t imagine, Uch its just so sad I don’t know...

[@valeriefox3505]

Sun :3 I came down to the comments to see if anyone noticed that.

[@moakikuchi5237]

Because *d e m o n i t i s a t i o n*

[@jackelinsanchez7192]

Yeah true.

[@crow7611]

it made me feel heard to hear that other people suffered as well that I wasn't alone I felt alone during my time of struggling with it and it just feels so good to finally see somebody else who went through that pain not that it's a good thing but somebody who understands my pain

[@hellod4787]

This video is how I realised that scented essential oils help me cope with my panic attacks! Thank you illymation 💕

[@cloudie_aergia]

I think the worst part about a panic attack is that the symptoms stress you out even more: My heart is beating too fast, my chest hurts and I can barely breathe: I must be having a heart attack! Doesn’t matter how many times I have a panic attack I’ll always feel that way. Panic attacks also make me feel almost disconnected from the world, like I’m dying, literally.

[@mayyhemnonamegiven1944]

Illymation: - gets compliment - Also Illymation: - runs away -

[@owouwu2574]

Me: has extreme social anxiety and stage fright Also me: joins theater

[@vivienne1349]

the theater technicians are all the socially awkward kids that can't act

[@Agidyne602]

I'm proud you got out of your comfort zone!

[@juaremurr1365]

that would help, i wish i had the courage to do it :')

[@LieutenantSheep]

Lol that’s why I left theatre. I loved the study of it but performing was so painful for me. My life is better without it. Sometimes I miss it but I feel like I’m having more self compassion when I have a creative outlet that doesn’t make me sick

[@saltysalat8823]

Theater has helped me a lot with getting my self esteem back. You got this!

[@dylatron4533]

Therapy/counseling is magic. I used to have a intense fear and anxiety of bees. Which is not a good fear to have. I barely went outside and felt an intense terror in my stomach whenever I did go outside. But then I went to go see a counsellor. He was really nice and we played a few games like uno and shaping clay. We made little clay bees and talked about it. Then when I noticed myself going outside, I didn’t feel anxious or scared. And when a bee flew by me, I thought it looked cute. Instead of running for my life!

[@oreagano9492]

I know I’m a little late but thank you Illy this really really helped me I have a deep fear of being sick and I now have some peppermint oil near me whenever it crosses my mind which seems to help.❤️❤️❤️

[@beverycarefuljohn586]

Love how the poll with the "do you ever feel like this" is at 100% often

[@geertdegryse1650]

@Ender moon nah its broken try to vote for another answer it keeps saying 100%

[@tylerthecreator2947]

innit lmao

[@beverycarefuljohn586]

Honestly not even suprised

[@artsyebonyrose]

me: **has cripplingly bad anxiety** my ex-teacher: **everyone gets nervous sometimes uwu**

[@mj-cd9fr]

Same. He knew a lot of people in my class really didnt want to do the presentation and he said to write on the side of paper how we would rate our anxiety from 0 to 5 and *circle it*. I'm pretty sure that's the EXACT OPPOSITE thing that would help a person with anxiety.

[@outcastedautistic3239]

oh i feel ya. got that before i gt diagnosed with autism now its 'everybody is unique in their own way, you dont need help just suck it up and stop pretending to be "special"'

[@qeorqie8843]

Ugh ikr you don’t understand how many time’s I get that

[@mo0nflowersart]

Oof! I hate that!

[@sofiaardvark9039]

Me: *has anxiety* My friends: yeah, I get nervous before tests too.

[@The-mafia17]

I also get panic attacks, I get them a lot in gym, so I cry a lot in gym.This video helps me a lot with understanding and coping with my panic attacks.

[@byouka_kai]

Thank you, I really needed this. I struggle with social anxiety all the time so thanks for reminding me that I’m not alone.

[@lem0ncrunch]

When the “I don’t have anxiety” section of the poll is so small Me: o o f

[@sakurabiskuit]

People who don't have social anxiety are usually busy socializing instead of watching KZbin

[@mayonnaiseguggler9425]

I felt bad for saying no even if its true

[@Shattered_Prince]

I'd say most people feel anxious. But dont have anxiety? Mainly because most self diagnos.

[@chromosomepolice4870]

They’re all a bunch of 12 year old girls who think that they have anxiety and self diagnose themselves because they feel nervous sometimes.

[@Shattered_Prince]

@@chromosomepolice4870 yeah. It bothers me a lot. Especially since I have been diagnosed by a doctor that I had anxiety.

[@supern0va_003]

Biggest threat of 2019: candle dealers in an alley...

[@supern0va_003]

@@elifsu2951 lol xD

[@mslightbulb]

I wanna become a candle dealer now.

[@Vatalica]

5:06 thank you for reminding me that relapse is a normal part of recovery, I've been binging your videos all night and it makes me feel less alone with my depression and recent diagnosies it's nice to hear someone with similar experiences

[@Unovakid24]

I've never had an actual panic attack before, but I do get really anxious sometimes, and recently I've started thinking about "Here comes a thought" from Steven Universe whenever that happens. Just singing the tune to myself really helps me cope with unwanted or stressful thoughts 😌

[@owenc.0]

Oh my god same here haha but fr it helps to cope too!

[@lake-om5ss]

"You're just lazy." "Oh yeah. I get nervous too." "Don't worry, it'll go away." "Just cheer up, life is good." "Face your fears." These are only SOME of the things a person with an anxiety disorder has to hear. I know that they mean well... just... it doesn't help. Please keep in mind that this person does not CHOOSE to live this way. Don't say this stuff cause it just makes that person feel worse.

[@breyanna6951]

i completely agree.. but if a person i care about is having an anxiety attack *what do i say?* pls help

[@noahkinard8569]

@@breyanna6951 Just being understanding, compassionate, and letting them breathe. Also don't be pushy about someone that has anxiety to do something they feel anxiety about. As it can cause anxiety before anxiety even occurs. Just tell the person you're there for them and don't judge them. It's the simple things to help in life that really matter.

[@andreaturnquist4855]

@@breyanna6951 I have been struggling with anxiety and panic attacks for 20+ years. Just be there!!!

[@andreaturnquist4855]

@@noahkinard8569 Well said 😍

[@oliviadrinkwine1411]

One of the best things you can say from someone who deals with anxiety (GAD) you aren't alone I am right there with you.

[@cloudiirainbows325]

*me ready to talk to my mom after crying for 10 hours* Mom: Hi- *Proceeds to flood house with tears*

[@undefinederror40404]

Me: >holding back tears Other person: hey, are you doing okay? Me: oh boy here we go TT-TT

[@Maxwellchaos7439]

Same!

[@Leen7293]

Undefined Error Gosh this is so true. Sometimes people asking me if I’m okay while I’m holding back tears causes me to cry.

[@dev_sev_ace5329]

Same here! Nice profile picture

[@asher6327]

Hi kirishima i hope youre doing ok :)

[@alisaart8927]

girl why you gotta be so pretty? like my bisexuality is being tested today

[@-Nty444-]

Please tell me you meant the REAL Illy😭

[@AuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuA]

@@-Nty444- sorry If I ever go to vidcon Im hugging the Illy cutout before the real one

[@-Nty444-]

@@AuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuA 😭😭😭

[@DRAMAQUEEN2368]

I get stressed out by the simplest things. Sometimes nothing. I have had plenty of panic attacks. And they can be really scary. You can’t control your body, and it’s tough. Love you illy!!!!

[@pugglerpuff42]

Me: **gets anxiety** My friends: "whY U GeT So ScaRed FoR EVerYthinG?"

[@urgae9125]

Easy fix: *Become a hermit because these friends don’t sound so good*

[@katie1081]

Bacon Bandito bro stop :/

[@ShinoriDelfrim]

Bacon Bandito You shouldn’t say that. It’s not their fault they have anxiety

[@michaela6876]

Bacon Bandito so then would you agree it’s people fault if they had a stroke? Because anxiety is definitely not anyone fault (if it was I wouldn’t be scared writing this and be done with it)

[@dianejohnson6987]

I don’t think they are friends then... just sayin just sayin

[@max_does_stuff_]

Illy: *likes the smell of eucalyptus* Me who lives in Australia: ............ OH HONEY

[@orchidman3421]

is eucalyptus the fire trees?

[@ctrlhyuka]

Where I live you just smell and feel cold air that's probably 22 degrees and that's probably why,I'm sick xD

[@fearofphthalo]

I have a bunch of eucalyptus trees just outside my house.

[@tillyyy3652]

YESSSS XD

[@ninjatuna3917]

Ha, relatable

[@ErinWheeler]

This video is incredible. Not enough people know about this, and you bringing it to light is a great thing! Also, that candle thing is backed up by psychology. Having a solution on hand, being prepared, boosts your resilience. Resilience gives you confidence, and confidence is key to overcoming anxiety. Keep up the good work!

[@annahdz4614]

I was in a very toxic relationship with someone a couple of years back. The last time they tried to contact me was because they had a panick attack, and even though we hadn't spoken in over a year, he saw me as a safe space and I took the time to listen to him. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to handle the situation as well as I could've hoped and had to completely break contact with him out fear of getting back into the toxic relationship we had. It took me many years to learn that we just couldn't be anything other than strangers. I still hope he's doing OK on his own and that I did my best to help him, the best that I could with what I had.

[@Multi.Fandom.]

Me: has anxiety. My mom: "when I was your age..."

[@e.a.m.._.4309]

wHEn i WaS yOuR aGe wE diDn'T hAve AnXiEty wE JuSt sUcKEd iT uP yes a common story

[@D_YellowMadness]

The good old days of beat up some other kid if you're anxious. Or beat up your kids if you're an adult. Or just drink a lot.

[@maggie12md18]

MultiFandom Someone: “wHeN I wAs yOuR aGe” Me: Oak Hay Boo Mer

[@TarantulaTru8lemaker]

Me: OK BOOMER

[@mosesnt_maybe]

ok boom booms.....

[@paige.elizabeth.09]

I get terrified that my friends secretly hate me. I just think that they stay "friends" with me because they feel bad that i have no friends. I feel that they talk about me and talk about how annoying and wierd i am. So, its not just you. And, honestly im glad its not just me! :)

[@rhinoalesevich4945]

Same tho

[@jaxk9060]

Same bro

[@paige.elizabeth.09]

@@jaxk9060 I am so glaf it isnt just me. i mean i thought inwas insane... I AM

[@paige.elizabeth.09]

Honestly to know that others are feeling the same way its just a pire relif because, about 3/4 of my freinds in primary school were fake but, i have freinds. Its doesnt sound like much but it makes me happy 😂

[@lylahhhh]

same thing here, i just feel like im annoying my friend and i worry about what she thinks because shes really quiet.

[@rebekahmuller9127]

thank you so much for making a video on this. the video and the comment section has really helped me come to terms that my panic attacks aren't just "melt downs" as I like to call them ((I get really hesitant to relate almost anything out of the NT I do to an existing term out of a big fear of overstepping and over self-diagnosing)). I'm so happy that this video exists. and not to say I look forward to my next panic attack, but when one inevitably does occur again, I'll definitely try distracting myself. maybe I'll find myself a nice candle too ^^ it's gotta beat stewing in the feeling as a way to punish myself for something I decided I did wrong

[@cat-ol7mf]

i've only ever had one panic attack, and that was right before i went on for my third performance of whipped into shape in my school's production of legally blonde. basically, i had almost thrown up right after that number on the first night, then on the second night, i messed up w the jump rope and it messed w my head so badly (mind you i was 1 of 4 jump ropers). everyone was so supportive and sweet when i was having it and i ended up not going on for the third night. so scary bro, u feel like you're dying and it's the absolute worst!! wouldn't wish that on anyone

[@user-ds7ip5od7s]

Me: I don't freak out while presenting my presentation Anexity: *I gonna end this man's whole career*

[@baxenblade]

Fr

[@cockadoodledoostudios2778]

*AAaAaAaAaAAAaaaAAAAaAAhHhHhHHHhHhHhhhH*

[@corndog4762]

*anexity*

[@flamingaxolotl264]

*anexity*

[@user-ds7ip5od7s]

Omg I spelled it wrong lol Edit:Oh well

[@sonichedgehog8646]

"Really young for her age" Me: *Confused internal screaming*

[@fnjesusfreak]

I worry about it sometimes. I'm on the edge of 40 and people still call me "kid".

[@fnjesusfreak]

@The Happy Cajun LOL, not at all.

[@foxrunner3270]

Friendly Neighborhood Jesus Freak yeah my almost forty year old mother was ID’d at a beer store recently.

[@fnjesusfreak]

Most places around here have a 100% proof policy, so I'd get proofed even if I didn't have a major case of babyface.

[@jwiaakzuejedi6654]

OMG dis coment has 333 likes...is beatiful

[@Robin.kinda_very.silly.]

I love how ur vids are relatebale, like for exsample SH, panick attacks, going to therapy and so much more! keep going and keep putting smiles on people's faces!

[@shookyyt9404]

Thank you you and some other youtubers made me realise thinking I don't deserve love is not normal thinking everyone hates me isn't normal. Not being able to sleep every night and crying thinking everything I am doing is wrong isn't normal I am finally getting the help I needed I can't explain how you and some youtubers helped me

[@uncommondragon8309]

I remember a few months back when I was having a panic attack - It infuriates me that the school nurse took my *temperature* , said I wasn't on the floor shaking either so I was fine and faking it and that "it's offensive to people who do have panic attacks."

[@urbasichamilfan]

I’m so sorry. It’s uneducated people like that who are actually invalidating people who suffer from panic and anxiety disorders. That really sucks and you deserve so much better.

[@dahlilahanderson6928]

That makes my blood boil

[@quit83636]

I’m so sorry about they shouldn’t be a school nurse 😩

[@whos_rei]

thats messed up, im so sorry that had to happen

[@la-tf9kf]

this makes me so mad I feel rly bad for you 😭😭

[@possiblyvi]

Me: *Literally faints sometimes due to my crippling anxiety* Dad: “Just don’t *panic* “ :) ō_ō

[@superfireninga]

We did it boys panic attacks are no more

[@Captain_Ravioli7321]

Ah yes, genius, why didnt i think of that

[@chillgilli3200]

Ikr

[@kevinadams1835]

Breaking news: panic attacks have stopped completely

[@depressoespresso7076]

It's like telling someone who has cancer to just "stop having cancer" wtf?

[@nerdynaomi7]

This makes me feel so validated as someone with anxiety/panic attacks!! Thank you!!

[@iSpellKatt]

I've never heard anyone talk about this and it just really made me feel seen. I know this was 3 years ago but thank you so much for making this video it makes me feel so much less alone. ❤

[@wizardshark1127]

“If you feel stressed out just like... don’t.” -Every unhelpful person ever

[@cristinabarbosa8049]

I mean... Its true

[@selinasstarlight8890]

It just makes it 10x worst 😭

[@celestesimulator6539]

On this very channel you might find a useful video to help you with that kind of people!

[@Dikin-Baus]

lol

[@perryplatypus6185]

Ouch

[@Junie_tunes]

Me: *tries to text friend to talk* My anxiety: tHiNk aGiN

[@jameeliaclarke3576]

Same

[@koreo_oreo]

Me: Tries to look at someone My head: *They think you're weird if you look at them. You shouldn't talk to them after that.*

[@dashycorn]

The part with the old lady made me cry. I wish I would have experienced kindness like that. All my friends I ever had left me in the most toxic ways possible without talking to me. Just like that, a friend, a best friend for years, suddenly started ignoring me, and then after a year texted me that they dont want to be friends with me anymore. These experiences made those fears of mine even worse, because I cant think " nah Im just anxious everything will be fine" anymore... I have one best friend who is also my lover and I am grateful for them. I dont even want any other friends anymore.

[@randomblonde-gj7dk]

i love illy so much because of how much i can relate to her and what she says about her mental health, in this day and age it’s so easy to feel like you can’t relate to anyone so thanks illy for being someone i can relate with about mental health ❤❤

[@PossiblyJaxx]

Me: has depression My friends: *_just stop being sad. DUH-_*

[@Heezbungus]

Bruh

[@88phantasmagoria]

then you should stop being friends with them if they act like that!! you dont deserve that kind of treatment!!

[@ochakouraraka5718]

Telling a depressed person to be happy is like telling a deaf person to hear. It does nothing to you.

[@ottertrot]

oH YeAh, iT’s BiG BrAiN TiMe

[@3m3c7]

My friends just laugh at me when I get mad bc I don’t know how to express my anger to them there so fakee

[@samarapadgham9168]

everyone’s first panic attack was definitely the most traumatic edit: i love all of you and thx for everyone supporting everyone❤️❤️❤️

[@beesbrownies]

Definitely!!

[@samarapadgham9168]

Beth Shea i remember i was in second grade and the teacher had called on me and i wasn’t expecting it and i remember i couldn’t move or breathe and my heart was literally POUNDING and i thought i was dying

[@harleelynn1754]

Samara Padgham swear

[@beesbrownies]

@@samarapadgham9168 oh yeah

[@denoragonsalves6434]

So true. I straight up thought I was having a heart attack, literally couldn’t breath and went to the emergency centre just to make sure that I in fact wasn’t going to die.

[@Kadenlush]

ur channel makes me feel so comforted i feel like im not alone when im watching ur videos

[@yamumgay]

im currently having a panic attack rn and i started watched this to help me feel better, n when that old lady said “here let me help u :)” i just started crying? idk its just the fact that when u think somebody is gonna get mad n then they’re not is so stress relieving to me. even if its not even my situation

[@MunchkinSheep]

"That is the good stuff. I gotta get more." Ad pops up: "stop vaping!"

[@epxcc1f]

Oop lol

[@noakatie]

Omg I get so many of those ads for no reason

[@memes1796]

Me: ^was just eating waffles and I wanted more*

[@whathappened5797]

Same

[@shrek3721]

@@noakatie wtf do you mean

[@willaandrews7283]

Wait is everyone not scared of being judged, rejected, and upsetting people

[@adeola_63]

Yeah I thought the same thing I think I have anxiety

[@willaandrews7283]

@@adeola_63 yeah I do too, and before people say anything that’s not my only reason

[@ihasdiarrheapro5788]

I am

[@laineyburgraff7541]

Lol I thought the same things, I thought everyone worried what others thought

[@diebfjdjdjdsjnspoosau]

I used to be like that but then you realize the people who look down on you, there random people, they don’t matter, we’re all stuck on this rock that we call earth so why care about someone out of 8 billion people. Hope this helped

[@gn4rls1sth3m4n]

I used to be a very social and outgoing person, but I think my past caught up to me and caused depression, and anxiety. I can bearly last a day without feeling like my heart might explode. Even around my family, and the people I love most.

[@selenacramer9142]

Thank you so much! This makes me feel like I'm not the only one. I really felt like I'm the only one who spirals so much with thoughts. And scars... I finally feel like a person. You have helped me so much illymations thank you❤❤❤❤

[@Lazy_Artist129]

Me: *in the middle of Anxiety attack* Person: Dude, stop overreacting it's just homework Me: ...

[@hibbamajid6886]

actually me

[@TVsMyBeloved]

i once had an hour long anxiety attack about 3 pages of long division and i hate homework lol

[@hibbamajid6886]

@@TVsMyBeloved I had an hour long panic attack a few weeks ago. I did really bad in a test and my teacher was passively aggressively shouting at me and saying that we didn’t do work on lockdown even though we did and had no support. I had to keep it in since I was at school and it felt like there was a hurricane inside me.

[@echomoon4693]

iTs jUsT hOmEwOrk I fucking hate people who say stuff like that Like yeah- maybe it’s just an assignment to you, but it’s a mark of self worth for me. Plus it determines where I go from here, what people think of me, how I see myself, and a whole bunch of other things People just don’t understand and they don’t try to- it’s infuriating. I know exactly where you’re coming from, you aren’t alone

[@glarak9819]

I totally understand. Sometimes when I hand in an assignment I feel my heart racing and all I can think of is how the teacher thinks of me as a complete failure. Same feeling for tests and stuff like that, although I am not a bad student

[@joshuasanchez8980]

Ok but did everyone notice that “inmate: 420” 🤣

[@BunnyRupers]

Yeap

[@Sebbyyyy14]

Joshua Sanchez yes

[@pogfrog9968]

And loss

[@varietyhub2948]

And that math problem

[@trashlord6447]

| || || |_

[@shrimpiee56]

i was diagnosed with GAD alongside my autism diagnosis, i suffer from panic attacks pretty much all the time, but usually what helped me was my comfort item, i have a baby blanket that ive had since i was very little, its one of my favorite sensory items of all time, i like to smell it, chew it, and rub it against my face. it helps me calm down so much and its always been there for me ever since i was little.

[@InuMokuba]

Love the video! I can relate to some of this, but these help me when dealing with friends I know who have severe social anxiety. My own anxieties make me constantly feel like it's my fault and they don't wanna hang out with me, even if I know it's nothing to do with me and I can't help like a professional can. It just hurts because I miss them and feel like I'll lose them or they will find friends that can make them feel better and it's because I'm not good enough. Using the time to focus on my hobbies and work on my own life, talking to my therapist etc. It just hurts missing them. Thank you for dealing with the dump, just getting emotional thinking about it. I want to be understanding but I miss them.

[@mcl8373]

Nobody: Not a soul: People who don't understand Anxiety: ITS THAT DAMN PHONE

[@salty8202]

Maisie Langston my dad: iTs ThAt DaMn PhOnE, nOt Me, NoT sChOoL, tHe PhOnE I don’t think he realises that depression is hereditary and him and my mum have it and my brother and my sister but yeah it’s bc I’m too young to be depressed

[@mycah6326]

Maisie Langston my mom does that 😂

[@rictaslicta]

nah that’s just mum

[@thestrawberryelf4985]

Me: *has panic attack* My mum: *is sympathetic* Also my mum: ItS ThAt dAmN PhOnE

[@_crunchyleaf_398]

My mom

[@odiethesaint9109]

This is honestly the most accurate video I've seen about social anxiety

[@ArutherMorgan774]

My panic attacks just pop up in the middle of the night and I just feel scared of nothing and sometimes it can happen multiple times a night

[@criptravenwood3910]

i have been going through this and not knowing how to fix this and i understood the" incorrect way of dealing with stress " part that u put in there because ive even gone to that extent. But this video really helped me understand that some people actually want to help me and that there are things other than the bad thing to do to help. im glad that u shared this, it really help my mind open to some ways to help my mental state 😊

[@SeaPeeKay]

turns out me and you having the same audio issue was a blessing as ive now found an unbelievably talented animator!!!

[@jimb.errrrrr]

Ahhh seapeekay! I still remember the old crazycraft 3.0 videos. (Seapeesound4lyfe)

[@nexaf7140]

YOOOOO I used to watch you like a mad man when I was young!!! Like when I was 8!!! It’s been 4 years

[@Pigeon.Feather]

@@nexaf7140 dude youre twelve. you are still young.

[@nexaf7140]

Kas the Wolf yup...

[@Angie-Amidot]

Im 10

[@honushi9315]

Me: yeah I've never had a panic attack so... *watches this as someone who also has social anxiety and experiences this often* Me: ....OH.

[@manuosorno2638]

Same

[@honushi9315]

iamaplatypus 1234 yeah I’ve tried that method before and it sometimes helps actually, thanks!

[@cheesebags4341]

Same omg

[@nobinary2296]

I have anxiety problems as well, the best thing you can do? Count out of order. Your brain can't panic and count out of order at the same time. Example, saying it out loud works best, "1, 8, 13, 2, 20, 12, 14, 6..etc" I hope that helps. Or even blurt out something crazy that has nothing to do with the situation. It makes my brain go, "...Wait, wut??" List random things that have no connection to one another. It can even be a game if you make it into one. Especially if you have a friend with you to help destress. They can go, "Favorite subject?" You can go, "I think I can lick my elbow! Wanna see?" The more stupid the better. Because if you're laughing you're not panicking. Hope it helps.

[@honushi9315]

Kawaii Chan Tysm, I’ll definitely try it!

[@danielmangum7147]

I love this video so much! Throughout the whole video I was just saying out loud how much I related to you. I haven’t been diagnosed with social anxiety but I really think I do have it. Thank you so much for sharing your story

[@Beannns433]

this hits so close to home for me being told all my life i didn't have social anxiety and i was just being dramatic and faking this helped me realize all of my symptoms and now i am going to ask for help

[@chelseacardin2150]

"It really is that easy sometimes, but It doesn't always feel like it." Accurate. My anxiety is exactly like yours, the cutting and everything. About a year ago, My mom bought almond milk because she thought I liked it, but I didn't. I much preferred dairy but I didn't say anything because What if she freaked out about it because she spent so much money on almond milk, or she thought I had somehow been lying to her? Somehow, the topic got brought up in therapy and my therapist told me to ask my mom. In my head I said "absolutely not" but I promised her I would. So after my therapy session, I got in the car and my mom said "How'd it go? "Good, but there's one thing she said I may want to ask you." "Sure! What's up?" "Um can we switch to dairy milk? I like it more than almond." "Sure, just finish the gallon we have at home, okay?" It is that easy to ask for help, or advocate how you feel. Edit: I did not think a story about me being too scared to ask for milk would get so much attention. ty!

[@lizbroski3869]

*runs* NEVER I DON'T NEED AN EXTRA PANIC ATTACK IN MY DAYS (I get them when asking for things most of the time good thing I have gotten good at keeping it secret)

[@afonso.d.v.rodrigues]

That's something that happens often to me

[@vixxcelacea2778]

It might help from a logical standpoint to switch roles. You are your mom, you bought the milk because you thought your daughter would like it. Would you prefer to be told that she doesn't? How would you respond? Good for you for saying something. Avoidance behavior is the worst thing we can do overtime to any anxiety trigger. Small controlled steps that get bigger are the way to teach your brain that it doesn't need to be scared, because it has a plethora of experiences large and small to back it up. Logic doesn't stop anxiety, but it can help us understand how it works. Trying to treat ourselves how we would to treat others in our shoes is important in not beating ourselves up.

[@PillowedNebula]

It may be easy for some people to ask for help or convey their emotions, ( not trying to be mean or anything in ANY way) but for me I never ask for help because I’m always wondering what people think of me and etc , all the feelings of anxiety even though I haven’t ever been diagnosed . And it takes so much work for me to ask my mom or even my grandma or anyone in my family or even anyone on the internet that is my friends for help or something like I’m thinking in my head what will they say? How will they respond ? Etc etc etc... and it just tortures my poor head with these emotions. ( sorry for sharing this, but not all anxiety is the same, and some people are just self conscious , shy people and it’s harder for them to convey stuff, like me,) thanks for listening 💜

[@arcticfoxygirl938]

I have the same sort of anxiety is a lot like yours but I hit myself instead of cutting myself

[@somekid4730]

Illy: *talks about really depressing stuff and her worrying about too many things* Music in the background: we g r o o v i n'

[@romanalillian]

Lol

[@PloverTechOfficial]

Always groovin cause we gotta keep the mood good

[@shahdkarout3093]

@@stevenuniversefan108 grooovy~

[@ariivib3z]

@@stevenuniversefan108 grOoOovy

[@axolotyx1767]

@@ariivib3z GROOOOOVY!

[@user-ce8nz1ds7e]

idk if illy will see this but i had a panic attack while seeing a movie today and I also had a sniffy thingy! and i got the idea from you ily while it wasn't a oil it was a perfume that made me feel calmer and when you started talking about the self harm I thought I was going to cry i used to cut my self with pocket knifes and pencil sharper blades and I've tried quitting but sometimes i do go back to it and the fact that you also have autism and adhd too makes me feel so much safer and less alone and you saved me from making a scene at the movies so thank you illymations you are my favorite youtubers.

[@Aaylias]

As an Australian who lives around many eucalyptus trees, I can proudly say eucalyptus is one of the most relaxing smells.

[@LoverOfStuff]

“Something that smells nice for when you’re anxious” My Ansomia: Hah, you thought there was a way to HELP your stress?!

[@sybernoodles7797]

Same

[@jaxd1402]

HaH yeah same

[@nintendo3dsgalaxyeditionan948]

Hi

[@mikustwintail]

Oh yeah. Insomnia probably is the worst thing ever(it is).

[@rwbyfanfix554]

@@mikustwintail hence Faithless wants it to release him.

[@charthesmile]

My sister has severe anxiety and gets panic attacks from the smallest things, so when I talk about my social anxiety, she tells me it’s not real and that I say I have it for attention. This really affects me and my anxiety even more and makes me really upset.

[@moinuddinqureshi8804]

Sounds like your sister has problems of her own. But hey soon you'll learn to not let her affect you regardless of how the conversation goes. If you do the work and learn to prioritize yourself and listen to the educated opinions and advice of well-intentioned people who care about you, you will find happiness.

[@TheTurtleWithATopHat]

One person's struggles don't negate another person's struggles. Say one person was stabbed in the neck and another was stabbed in the thigh. The person with the neck wound needs the quickest attention, but that doesn't mean that the other person wasn't stabbed or isn't hurting. They're both struggling.

[@LPSmeow1989]

I looked it up and apparently anxiety is genetic! Also your struggles are valid, it shouldn't be a competition of who has more panic attacks!

[@Kat_dragon]

I feel bad for you

[@noobilyplus]

that’s stupid. i heard someone give some advice one day, and i feel like it’s perfect for this scenario: if someone broke their skull, but then another person broke their hand, does that mean the person who broke their hand shouldn’t go to the doctor? just because someone out there is struggling more? same applies with mental health.

[@ak0402]

illys social anxiety and panic attacks: That one GOOD smelling ass candle: i'm about to end this man's whole career

[@sophiamlb6869]

She is so incredibly wonderful. And SO SO brave for sharing something so personal as a relaps like that. You are doing a good Jain illy ❤

[@ravenoftheinn6623]

When you sniffed that candle it’s actually a coping mechanism. I was taught it when I went in for therapy. I called it the 5 senses so like you find 5 things you see 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste. Personally I found that really good at helping me stay distracted

[@Kelzlps]

Aryn Elias underrated comment!

[@pepperfr3sh]

@@Kelzlps agreed

[@jetpackpenguin1803]

Yeah I learned about it today it’s called aromatherapy

[@samjohnson4751]

I haven't been to therapy or diagnosed with anything but large groups of people and social settings tend to be a problem for me. I don't wear much jewelry but I've started to get in the habit of wearing a particular heart shaped necklace with raised bumps and whenever a situation is becoming too much for me I hold and feel the necklace and focus on my breathing. I've occasionally found myself reaching for the necklace on the rare day I'm not wearing it.

[@a.maritime4908]

Crisis text line does the same thing except it says “Say one thing good about yourself”

[@mochiweeb556]

Me dying from crippling anxiety Dad: MORE WATER

[@caliicocam7809]

Water helps me because I don't have to talk to people when I'm drinking water lol

[@theartmaster2492]

So true I thought my dad was the only one who did that Headache: Water Stomach: Water Body: Water Mental stuff: Water DYING: Water

[@lizzyjames3592]

Mom: just be more social! It will deminish if you do that!

[@kameronthorpe6663]

This one.. this is the one

[@sussycecil]

Cakey UwU School nurse: pUt SoMe IcE oN iT

[@nicoleangel3308]

I would just like to thank you ily for the candle recommendation, you see i suffer from social anxiety as well and i never knew how to calm down my solutions used to be pulling my hair bitting my nails and other things.... but i just want to say ty cuz the candle thing actually worked really well keep doing what you're doing ily, love your channel btw :)

[@skylar1798]

This is the first time someone has exactly described how I feel… thank you

[@urmom-zh6zs]

Me: **has literal panic attacks** My teachers: *everyone gets nervous uwu*

[@thefrognextdoor]

you literally just copied someone else so don't uwu me

[@lo-fifurby1953]

Delete your comment it's stolen

[@kikoushii8400]

Um how tf is this stolen? (To the two comments above me)

[@lo-fifurby1953]

@@kikoushii8400 the comments probably shifted but right above this one was an older one that said the exact same thing

[@Noelle.pearls]

girl there are 6k people who commented on this video and you think that this girl is a copycat just bc she just happened to make the same comment? (To both the people saying she copied)

[@rachelalan07]

To all those who get really quiet, or bounce their legs, or have silent freakouts. Just because your anxiety isn't visible to most, doesn't make your pain any less real. You are valid. You deserve help, happiness, and more.

[@simplynia8316]

Thank you :)

[@cherizsaw]

thank you!! :))

[@wedreamofspace1663]

thank you so much!

[@aliceannewidmeyer9144]

thank you :)

[@roumiko_]

Thanks, I feel that way because when I tell people about it there like “You’re just over reacting”

[@_forever_eclipsed_]

I feel the same. i get so stressed and scared in social settings its very hard and stressful and im scared of friends not liking me