Parents Tell Stepparents What They Really Think

[@KayKayshaw]

"I know how powerful it is for a boy to see that his mother is loved, because that's how he's going to treat his wife." Crying. Preach. Amen.

[@potatobalamory757]

Kaysha Ainayya I cried so much at that part. I'm not even an emotional person

[@sun.sh.in.e]

Kaysha Ainayya That's when I started crying!

[@linal5471]

Kaysha Ainayya i cried so much at this part

[@lisaduke2001]

Kaysha Ainayya I didn't cry am I a soulless potato 😂😂

[@aishaally3351]

Keeley Barrnett i didnt either lol

[@tallen4889]

Lucky kid, he's got 4 parents and they all genuinely love him.

[@yayokra9392]

T Allen Some people have 4, others have none. Fvcked up world.

[@siahbossio7385]

Ya Yo Kra fo sho

[@talent6295]

T Allen I have 1

[@TheAwesomeguy559]

Talent Johnson as of my 16th birthday a few days ago on the 10th, I lost my father...I only have 1 now

[@tianavstheworld]

TheAwesomeguy559 I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️❤️

[@N41991]

This type of maturity is what the world needs more of 👌😁

[@mohamedyusuf7612]

cadey iskwrn

[@positivevibes5364]

Naima Hersi it's so rare...we need more

[@amaryllisbrooke8098]

Naima Hersi where is the love? the love... the love..

[@UltraXplor]

Yes! But unfortunately my boyfriends baby mama was going to blackmail him and I.

[@Sarasara-bi1oq]

Naima Hersi definatley!

[@NurtureInChrist]

I’m crying my eyes out watch this - he is so blessed to have 4 parents that love him so deeply and respect and appreciate each other 🙏🏾❤️👏🏾

[@nancymorogo519]

NurtureInChrist so sweet.

[@gordo1163]

get a grip

[@annewanjiku52]

NurtureInChrist that what really make my tears comes out dear

[@JeevesReturns]

A child has TWO parents. That’s it.

[@DjKuality]

I dont even have 1,, Smh.......

[@plainkapp]

it takes a real man to cry to another man

[@scooterstudios123]

Shut yo sensitive ass up

[@kanejones8153]

Hippopotamoose 😂😂

[@jm--nf7sz]

Hippopotamoose Hahahahahhaha this got me dead bro.

[@visualpr3cision]

I officially am gay for hot crying black men and I'm not even gay!

[@ACDBunnie]

+

[@alexandermillar1202]

For a moment there, it seemed like the biological father was about to ask the step-dad to be his dad too

[@Kilaraya]

Im dead😂😂😂

[@gloriahauter4437]

Alexander Millar hahha

[@80spurple13]

LMAO!!!

[@rubengutman8856]

lmfao

[@yukyayukyukya2330]

Alexander Millar 😂

[@1utube01]

What's warped is that THIS is how exes should treat each other. Put the positivity, and the child first. THIS is RIGHT, and the peer pressure to hate, the trend of jealousy, is WRONG.

[@SilentHotdog28]

You said it spot on, you don't have to like your ex and their partner, but just get along for the sake of the children.

[@marcdefranco9203]

My parents are multiplive cheap and annoying

[@EmmLee1111]

Clobbersaurus I mean, some people come from abusive relationships, like my parents. It is an ideal situation, but there is a reason parents get in these situations in the first place... some people don’t want to be parents even, after they separate from the other parent. It is a beautiful statement and dream, but a lot of the time not the case.

[@foodislife728]

Clobbersaurus why would anyone put someone else's child before their own that's just not how it works. reality is different and that's how we were born. no blood connection no unconditional love!!!

[@bokarndiaye323]

I disagree with you, EatwithmeASMR. There's plenty of counterexamples to this: many adopted children, or children in reboud families, have the unconditional love of their parents, and many biological parents don't provide unconditional love - think of parents who are abusive to their child, or who throw them out because they're gay (which is litteraly putting the condition of being straight to their parental love...). So, you can't equate blood connection and unconditional love, because obviously, one can exist without the other, and having one doesn't guarantee the other.

[@KoKoCola82]

This is the 1st time I've EVER seen a blended family that looks and acts like mine (minus the instruments). I LOVE my son's stepmother for the way she LOVE'S our son. When my son woke up on his 9th Birthday he came straight to my bed, laid next to me and said he'd never love someone else more than he loves me. I said "awwwwww, baby me too"! Then he wasted no time asking me if he could call his step mother mom.... I cried almost immediately. ONLY because my son has ADHD and is SUPER DUPER HYPER. MOST ppl can't handle it, and make him feel like he's a bad kid... including some of his teachers. This makes him assume that most adults just dont like him or want to be around him. So, when he experienced the opposite reaction from her, it made him feel like he was loved and accepted by someone other than ME. At that moment I knew that she was a blessing to him, his father and I. I happily told him OF COURSE BABY..... WHATEVER IS IN YOUR HEART.

[@Tanisme777]

Wow...your family is amazing

[@nicolelollipops8268]

Racquel Le'Andra omg this brought water works.

[@niurkamilano]

You are amazing and your son is so blessed to have you ♥️ Many blessings.

[@jamedraa8472]

That is beautiful. Btw, look up the attributes of a genius they are similar to ADHD "symptoms"

[@chloekit4861]

Racquel Le'Andra you should write her a letter like this

[@CassidyParkerKnight]

This is why I always argue when people say parents should stay together for the sake of the kids. If the parents aren't getting along, but divorce could give the kid a loving family like this (and like mine), then it should be an option. And I know that unfortunately not all divorced or blended families are like this, but I firmly believe that it's not because of the divorce in those cases. It's because of the people.

[@EreneWOlson]

+Cassidy Parker Knight when people say stay together for the sake of the kids i'm pretty sure they mostly mean if the relationship is damaged but still repairable. I think it's just to say try a little harder for the kids since although a lot don't have this but, a two parent household is the norm. Also every child is different and handles situations in different ways, so it's basically saying just keep your child's feelings in mind when thinking about divorce.

[@victoriahillmitchell3982]

+Daisy Long the selfish thing is to put your child through misery because you dont believe in divorce. your child should never think a norm relationship is fighting and mistreating. after 4 years of staying for my child I decided I was worth more then lies, & cheating.. my son is great and his step dad is his best friend. you are right we will all issues but you should not be unhappy.

[@victoriahillmitchell3982]

+Daisy Long people change. you go through different stages before you settle into who you truly are. my son was not planned and before you throw the you should've used protection, I did and it became detatched. so how bout you shut your judgemental trap. its awesome when parents can stay together but if they cant its wonderful when you find someone who loves your child as much as you do.

[@catk5857]

This is so true! My parents are divorced and it's hard on me, but that's not because of the fact that they're split up, it's because unfortunately my mum continues to be toxic about it. All I want is for both my mum and dad to be happy, but they won't let that happen. And yet despite this I'm so glad they're not together, because as broken as my family is, it would be more broken if they were. Thanks for commenting this, because it's a really important message, and thanks soul pancake.

[@forrest6094]

+Cassidy Parker Knight I could not agree more. My parents divorced too and I often wish that there was some sort of relationship like this. My experience has taught me that should I marry someone who is divorced with kids, I'd make sure I treat them with love and respect that I did not receive from my step-parent. You are right, its the people who make things work.

[@bigdaddyjayman7878]

Love how the men showed their emotions more than the women

[@bigdaddyjayman7878]

Jekku Kepponen yup. That's also what I thought.

[@JulieAnn02261990]

Get glasses, the other step mom cried.

[@thethird3d]

I think it's because men are so reserved with their emotions, that when we see another man starting to get emotional, we know how it feels, and we drop all the bullshit and form this sort of connection. It's like a brotherhood with all of us.

[@bigdaddyjayman7878]

Julie Ann i know but they still showed their emotions more.

[@bythe9290]

Julie Ann He never said that the women didn't show any emotion at all. I think you need glasses if you can't read a comment properly.

[@Hotboxwme]

Why can’t every divorced family be like this

[@chevycruze2061]

Because kids shouldn’t be split between families. The parents should have focused on fixing their marriage especially when they already have a child together.

[@HDDaviid]

Because that love never goes away, as hard as they try to replace the other partner... that is a lifelong bond no one else can replace

[@psniidearly814]

Exactly.. I'm crying because my dad and mom don't get along and they yell at me because of their problems they can't figure out on their one

[@breaththrou]

Andrew Ringquist But what if being in the family with the two parents causes too pain?

[@MB-ml8ti]

Savage_Darling15 please keep in mind some people are abused so situations like this aren't an option

[@jadejones3896]

The maturity, humility and selflessness of these people are humbling and inspirational to me ! Thankyou

[@pagbrothersgaming2236]

The part were the dad and step dad were talking got me

[@antonyreyes7667]

PagBrothersGaming yea me too i cryed

[@familiapascual8784]

Same

[@mitsukipuki]

Oh I love my step dad. I love him more than my real dad. I didnt accept him at first but he was a trooper. He is the only parent that went to my PTA meetings. Took me to and from sleepovers, picked me up from school sick. Drool and snotted all over him as he rub my back while I had a very bad upper respiratory infection. Took me to the hospital as I had a hard time breathing. Held me as I cried over my first heart break. Taught me how to drive. Never once did he tell me he my dad or that I was his daughter. He didnt have to, he just showed it. I gladly call him dad cuz he earned it.

[@eliltak1688]

Aww that is touching❤

[@kammarj7164]

this made me cry. im so glad you have someone like that for you. that's so pure:')

[@zach2649]

That is so awesome

[@KatalovesLinkinPark]

this teared me up. thank you

[@collegefootballnut9556]

mitsukipuki

[@strangeturtle5947]

So my father left me and my mother when I was 2 DAYS old - at the hospital. They were law students then and were supposedly in love, problem is, my mother didn't know that he already had a pregnant girlfriend in the province. So he left to go back to his other baby momma and left us. When I was 3 my mom met her life partner, and I also met the man who would be more of a father to me than my actual father. I have never once felt that I wasn't his child even though we wern't related by blood. We were related by the bond of family and love and that was already more than enough - sure as hell more than what my real father gave me. when I was in High School my father got in touch wih me again, and I figured what the hell, family is family so just forgive. Sometimes I feel like my real father underappreciates my stepdad so much when he should be so embarrassed that my stepdad was raising me while he was off to batman knows where. My stepdad sometimes becomes insecure since my real dad is now a lawyer and can give me more than what my stepdad can. I just want my stepdad to know he is not my stepdad, he's my real father and nothing would ever amount to the love and care he has given me while growing up. Gonna write a letter and tell him how grateful i am, that because of him I never felt like I lacked something because my biological dad wasn't there. So here's to stepparents. ♡

[@northline5670]

Fangirl Faye . Wow, if you let your dad ( the one that raised you ) see this post , I think it would make him the prowdest happyest dad in the world! Thank you for being greatful and caring enough to let him know ! So many take things forgranted ( sorry for my bad English spelling ) and we humans can do so mush for eshothers espeshaly if we know that we are aprishiated .

[@naomirae2]

I went through the same thing and it is true that your dad ( the MAN that raised you) is going to feel insecure. That's normal but you need to reassure him of your feelings. On your biological fathers case , mine actually got back together with my mother so he feels this "relief" like he can just brush off what he has done. It's really weird but as long as you know who loved and raised you, I'm sure you'll be alright ! Much love ❤️

[@angellightning9005]

That is so nice, I bet it will make him very very happy. I got married at 24, my husband already had two kids 9 and 11 years old. people don't realize how hard it is for stepmoms and stepdads. I wish their mom could have gotten past the differences she had with their dad so that we could have made things easier for the kids. I loved them with all my heart and the hardest thing for me was to pull back from them at a certain point because their mum was making them feel bad and guilty for loving me and enjoying their time with me, she made them feel like they were betraying her. Today those two kids are all grown up and I can honestly say I hope I was a little ray that made them feel a little more comfortable if not a little more happy. I have two kids of my own now a 10 years old and a 4 years old, and I have promised myself if me and their dad decide to go our seperate ways I will do everything I can in my power to be nice to the new woman that would come in their life. See knowing my husband I have no doubt that he would bring a bad person on his kids life, because he loves them, and that is what we have to keep in mind...

[@vivaglamnadia]

Fangirl Faye damn wish I could relate. Dad left me and my mum when I was 1. My mum started serial dating and introducing every single guy to me, regardless of the seriousness of their relationship. She finally got married 2 years ago after knowing the guy for a month at most. He treats me like I don't exist, and it feels like I'm living in a house with strangers. Luckily I'm moving out next year but it just sucks that I never had a father figure and my mum was always seeking attention from men so I never had a strong relationship with her either.

[@tawandabranch8766]

Fangirl already tearing up from video now he you go lol.He would love the letter.

[@lifeunderbudget]

This should be shown everywhere as an example of adults caring the most about their child’s happiness. Great watch 👍🏻

[@august88837]

Kamila Whiteman yes they should , dats how Iam I have stepdaughter but like d man said I don’t say dat , I say she my daughter n she ok with dat

[@lifeunderbudget]

@Victor Rodriguez what do you mean? because they didn't stay with the 1st guy? There's a lot happening in life that could lead to that. Life isn't that simple. Hope you get chosen by a woman with great decision making skills and you live happily ever after.

[@gruemmelinhox4702]

this case is so rare

[@shaybrown7087]

But it's beautiful and shows the possibility

[@kamissadiarra5074]

Erik Leidecker ikr

[@kooldude2777]

Erik Leidecker as a product of divorced parents, seeing this, I'm not sure whether to think this is normal or not, because a lot of my friends and their step parents and parents are tight, but mine could not loath the other more :(

[@alexmorante5489]

Erik Leidecker I'm lucky to have a step father like him. He's been raising me since I was 7 and I am now 17. Much love.

[@kooldude2777]

sadly, i couldn't agree more..

[@WinterSina]

Such endearing video . there is a lot of broken homes, and this video is showing us that it doesn't need to be broken. Families can be United. Unity of the world will start at the home.

[@johnsnow9210]

+Sina Serati well said indeed!

[@christophergeorge5077]

Do you knoooow what YOUR man is thinking? twitter.com/ab4430b5907a80421/status/822777194636152832

[@tomtaylor4537]

Is that Tyler the creators dad

[@xXRAVENSx52Xx]

When i first seen him thats who i was thinking of hahahaha

[@spschol]

Blood doesn't make family. Love makes family.

[@cloudie8314]

Sean Schollaert :')

[@cloudie8314]

JAKE N9NE S7VEN Well said!

[@cloudie8314]

TheLemur 27 I Respect your opinion and maybe it's true in your family but I can count at least 20 people in our family I do not share DNA with. I absolutely love them the same. Open your heart n u will see u have family everywhere💕

[@kyoukabun]

Tom you must be fun at parties...

[@shegotblackeddude4538]

Sean Schollaert DNA makes a family

[@dearpastorr]

Yup. I totally cried through this AND watched it a second time just to make sure that what I saw... Was ACTUALLY what I thought I saw. This is love the right way! Nack is the centre of that family. And this is how it should be. Children should be allowed to be children instead of worrying about divorce. Perfect example of co-parenting.

[@markthompson1084]

Sydney Syd, I really appreciate what you said about children being allowed to be children instead of worrying about divorce. You seem to embody the happiness and good nature our world needs more of. If you're interested, we'd love to show how we're building something similar at Garlew. - your friends at GARLEW

[@dearpastorr]

@@markthompson1084 hey Mark, I've just re-watched this video because I absolutely love it. And looked down in the comments to find your response. I'd love to know more. Please reach out when/if you read this. THANK YOU x

[@shevy_shev93]

This. This is how it should be.

[@anandaadlam9746]

shevonnie salmon I wish my parents would do this (they just finalized their divorce :( )

[@liagiannotti5167]

shevonnie salmon isn't like that for me

[@justingrant4860]

shevonnie salmon them working through and remaining together or not working it out but remaining separate is how it should be.......it's a contridiction to say God blessed them with new spouses after a divorce when those things are not in the will not God marriage us a ONE TIME covenant scriptures are clear about divorce and remarriage I pray that people will not continue to be deceived

[@insomb]

Fr, you're aspiring for broken marriages.

[@ako122]

There is no god.

[@alimcnew140]

This is how it should be when parents divorce. No anger just love. Kids are so much more important than hating your ex or their new partner.

[@afnanalnajar9196]

Ali McNew IKR too bad most relationships aren't like this... ☹️

[@hotheadon11]

Ali McNew ya, too bad it's not😂

[@lauren.7267]

Ali McNew I totally agree

[@Musti._]

Ali McNew Tell tht to romans bitchy ex wife

[@stephenhodgkinson4086]

Ali McNew yes :(

[@Poopman8248]

i thought they would be dissing each other.

[@leetlebob8203]

Nawaf Almadi but this is real life, not a shitty movie

[@anthonyreyes1682]

leetlebob me and my step mom should be in a UFC fight because anytime we see each other there is a huge argument

[@zikekounreal4454]

good luck out there i hope your *GUMBALLS* will not fall off.

[@zikekounreal4454]

u dont get it dont u?

[@bruh_itz_nuam7133]

Nawaf Almadi sameee

[@gabbyg.b_youtube]

I love this is pure kindness,most people are jealous of their ex’s spouse but they admire them and are grateful for them .

[@Deepwang84]

Not really

[@ThePimmy11]

The ones that do are awesome but I don't thing it's most. I think it's pretty rare. Most either quietly resent, pretend they don't exist, or stir up drama.

[@jessehill9993]

I wouldnt say jealous a much as in you can't say much and the state favors the mother so whatever mom wants mom gets even if its to the detriment of the kids/alienated parents. Do *not* tell me otherwise until you wear my boots. None of us were told growing up how our families can be played into the drama as well. I do not sleep well nor do I speak much. At this point I haven't seen my kids in two months and nobody cares except them and I. Edit: yes this was hard to watch. Especially when these situations are like ogres and onions.

[@yomom3545]

why would i be jealous of a dude that recycled my old trash from my old trash can with my extra baggage ...did you see his new wife compared to his pink haired ex with baggage????? nothing to be jealous of when you upgraded like that lol

[@TMSokoya]

I never want to experience divorce. :(

[@izumocore]

So dont marry, cause marriage only has two endings and they both start with the letter D.

[@Pinkwabbits]

+izumocore my dirty mind made me think the second one was dick but then i realized its death :(

[@mazinombies4752]

+TManChristian 100% of divorces start with marriages. Facet

[@izumocore]

+WaterMalone unless it is for a tax cut/benefit or a green card/equivalent for hetrosexual males there is no logic in marrying. I am 33 and most likely will never marry and yes i have a child ( but no marriage required)

[@paxmalone]

+izumocore whatever Scrooge

[@suckyjohky2212]

Teacher: Who do you stay with? Boy: with my parents Teacher: Both of em? Boy: Yeah, all four of them.

[@blue-or7co]

Sucky Johky lol

[@rawabeenamer9812]

Sucky Johky 997

[@lilbobba1888]

2005th like

[@kcchiefsfanGoLJ]

This is what happens when educated, loving, intelligent people co-parent, this was a blessing to watch, good for all of them.

[@liketheshowmoesha700]

I love the dads relationship💯 #thatshowyoudoit #realmen

[@outlaw3440]

Moesha if you're not a man then how are you gonna say what a real man is

[@aowch1942]

Outlaw well there’s someone in the comment section that’s a man saying that’s a real man too

[@lynneacevedo6641]

@@outlaw3440 bc a real woman should only accept a real man, and to do that she needs to know what one is 👌

[@outlaw3440]

Lynne Acevedo ok ill give you that. But if its that way its visa versa

[@outlaw3440]

1000 subs with no videos I have biased feelings towards that. My parents split when I was 10 and my step dad tried to act like the guy in the video. And I did what my real dad told me to do. I told him he's not my dad and I dont have to listen to him. I'm 19 now and am greatful my dad told me to do that. My point is step parents should respect the child's real parents and leave the parenting to them

[@isabelle-dinh]

i dont know why im crying in the club right now

[@spacerocket3294]

isabelle h 😂😂😂

[@amaniiheaven708]

7294bryan LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[@abde7246]

Ain't no crying in the club Let the beat carry away

[@reggieb5471]

isabelle h stop lying

[@WileChile51]

Congrats, you made it!

[@vladkostin7557]

In a perfect world everyone is a parent of every kid.

[@safaaclermont1560]

Vlad Kostin this is really how I feel

[@nategrey86]

F this. this made me cry. I'm a proud stepdad

[@ccMomOfJays]

iSaiah Freehling Proud Dad

[@mricecream5194]

Don't rape that kid

[@corygeorge4029]

And what made you come out of your face to say that?

[@angelah.3402]

My step-mother made damn sure my father had nothing to do with me and my brother...and he complied!! It's amazes me that there can be step parents like mine, and like this! THIS is the way it should be!!

[@mariekevanaart6536]

Angie Vano oh same story here, your not alone ❤️ x

[@jessicablaze8721]

Same

[@kraftthisile9113]

Same. And I miss my old dad.

[@tmack3256]

Angie Vano mine like dat 2 he thinks he could control me and shii and i cant say nun abt it

[@andrewbean24.2]

My stepdad made sure i had nothing to do with my real dad. Sure enough my mom mostly complied

[@thesupport4963]

as a step parent myself, this is by far one of the most inspiring and loving videos i have ever seen. My step daughters father came to me one time and thanked me for everything i ever did for his daughter. That was truly one of the best moments ever in my life.

[@huntleger]

my dad and stepdad would have killed each other in the first five minutes lol

[@haylee4009]

Hunter Leger my dad and my step dad became good mates, they used to go fishing together and everything but he's not my stepdad anymore and he moved away

[@Katlady001]

Hunter Leger Oh no! 😮

[@queenareanna3534]

Hunter Leger same😂

[@jayrod2536]

That's our genetic makeup as men. We often strive to be the alpha and anyone challenging us for that slot become targets. You see it all the time in the animal kingdom and it is obvious in the human race. So it takes an incredibly strong and selfless man to let his guard down to a fellow man and show his softer side. I commend him

[@Landon1860]

Hunter Leger same

[@brwneyesaz]

This is about loving your children. These parents are awesome.

[@leeischosen1267]

Imagine having 4 parents who love & care for you?! Beautiful

[@sakurakou2009]

nope I rather have my two parents then another additional 2 .

[@ViaMirage]

I wouldn’t want to have any extra parents, no matter how they’re trying to frame that in this video.

[@briannaarmogan6513]

sakurakou2009 exactly

[@gsmith557]

Na

[@TheMariana0295]

This is so beautiful.

[@Mahagony1985]

how can people thumb down this video. must be bitter people.

[@cessw2308]

people who didn't listen to the story but only saw interracial relationship perhaps

[@libertygantner5190]

When my parents got divorced it was the opposite of this. My mom and at that time step mom were okay with eachother but my dad hated my stepdad. I will say that this video did upset me because I didn't have this but I'm happy that that kid is going to grow up with so much love in his life. I wish them the best.😊

[@shayanabtahi9670]

Mahagony1985 same my dad hates my stepdad and it's hard cuz I feel like I am betraying my dad by also loving my stepdad even though I love them both

[@bayleepena2062]

Shayan Abtahi I read yours and the other people above you's posts and it makes me feel so sad, because I also can relate. I'm angry bc I always wanted what the little boy has. And be able to see my parents in the same room together at least once, bc I never have, I was 1 when they divorced and the wars between them began, but this also makes me so happy because that boy will grow up with love and he will be one of the lucky few who maybe won't have to deal with depression or feeling of emptiness not having a certain parent in his life or growing up around so much hatred. This video was so amazing❤️ makes me certain my kids will never have to grow up In a household with divorced parents, and if they ever did, I would be certain there is no hatred.

[@SuperAyaj]

My BF is divorced with a son of 11 yrs old. The kid lives with his mom. I am going to be a step mother too in the future. I am unsure about how the kid will take it. I only want him to be happy. What would a boy of this age expect from all this situation? What advice will you give to a step mom?

[@annemaveera5112]

This is beautiful

[@annemaveera5112]

I can't find deeper words for this

[@trevorlarsonn]

heart touching

[@beigelover95]

its honestly one of the most beautiful videos on yt

[@robwilson8366]

SpicyTheTaco I agree

[@davi66urtin]

sheep

[@voya5020]

Ok, who started cutting damn onions?

[@MehrzadKhaksar]

i need to punch some walls to feel manly again

[@Sinic818]

It's those ninjas

[@Aprilluvv]

They at that onion cuttin AGAIN over here too!! Damn Ninja 's!! 😭😭😭😭

[@sayannieishere8921]

*slows down cutting* I'm sorry, it's starting to hurt my eyes too ;-;

[@LaCasitaTampa]

voya so many onions

[@leeischosen1267]

“At some point we stopped watering the plant...” wow

[@uche1246]

Some people aren't that lucky when it comes to stepparents

[@sabriasasalinas]

I'm so grateful God gave my mother a husband after my father left and he gave me an amazing step dad who I believe was meant to be my father all along.

[@jordansmom143]

this is great. my biological dad isn't really a dad but I was able to have a man in my life that I consider my dad. he was amazing and he was supposed to be my dad all along. unfortunately he passed away. I miss him.

[@sabriasasalinas]

im sorry to hear that, im hglad you got to have that though RIP

[@sharos2168]

Bria R. I'm glad that you & jordansmom143 were able to have great stepdads. There are so many horror stories out there that they get a bad rap.

[@ambersbamber7739]

Bria R. Sometimes that happens. Your put on the would then fate brings the right family to you. I hope u have a amazing life with your mother and father.

[@lilymay1591]

Bria R. Omg this is exactly my life to ! Xx

[@user-bz6zr7ig4r]

what the hell! my stepparents and parents aint like this lmaooo

[@tamarabrunson9022]

WizOfTime ikr 😂😂

[@f4iryfields]

+Malaya Buena same, verbally and also literally

[@madilopez6384]

My parents would pull out the belts and start smacking each other

[@isiahvasquez4019]

FORALLLL

[@leonoratesoro2586]

You all this is just 5 min.I don't think they are perfect in real world.lol

[@flclub54]

Yeah my stepmother resented me. She let it be known that she wished I wasn't part of the picture and that she wished it we're just her, my dad, and their kids minus me. Seeing this video made me cry. I would've done anything to have a loving family like this.

[@ns.jandali]

So what happened in the end?

[@zc-m6642]

Owow Photoshop her face out of the photo and add yours instead! (jk but fr sorry to hear that, that's inappropriate for a stepparent to say)

[@ericag5346]

I'm sorry you went through that. How she treats you is a reflection of her, not you. I bet you're an awesome person, I bet going through that you've learned how to treat people and it's better than that.

[@millysimpson8130]

I literally have this same dynamic now, find it very challenging...

[@makaylak2k]

Ugh what I wouldn’t give to be close to my bonus kids (step kids). This gives me hope but not sure if I should have hope.

[@lusibeth]

I treat my stepdad as my own blood and he treats us the same. I'm thankful to God for that.

[@helene6686]

I wish my parents had sat down like this and did this. I had a tough time growing up because of so much tension and fighting :(

[@evohei]

Helene Im 12 years old and i've been a victim of over 5 divorces. stay strong💪

[@helene6686]

+evoevolution aww man I'm so sorry you had to go through that in your life💔

[@JBella-pq2qi]

Helene me too . But between my grandma and mom because they both raised me

[@KateCirque]

I agree, I dread the day i ever get married, will end up being the worst day of my life because of parent conflict.

[@julieaytonyates7121]

it seems like they each remarried copies of their ex. odd.

[@anfalassaqa-5]

Julie Ayton Yates that's what i was thinking exactly

[@LexieNicole24]

maybe they just both have a "type"

[@SlowMotionStylez]

It is common for Humans who had a good realationship with their parents. That those persons, automatically choose a partner who looks a bit like their parents. So if the man had a great realationship with his mom, then he would more likely chooes a partner who looks, act, behave or sounds bit like his mother. 60-70% Men 30-40% Women It is most likely not because he/she finds it attractive. It is more about, feeling safe an protected.

[@slendrrabbit]

Pheeraphon Kabbun Oedipus Complex

[@lyrae2469]

Juicy Box OEDIPUS IM WHEEZING

[@marcelprimes]

I’m going through a divorce and i pray that when the day comes I’ll have the same love and respect for my sons stepfather as this man.

[@shosha1771]

This kid is so lucky to have these people around him. amazing video

[@funnyeverlastingskits3504]

my parents and step parents would never do this they hate each other they say they don't but they really do I truly wish my parents did this... when I get married I will never put my kids through what my parents put me through.

[@karvast5726]

Mybparents don't argue anymore but what really sucks is all the stories even some that i can remenber because i was there,and the thing that really suck is that i love them equally and that my mom keep saying bad thing anout him,and i don't even know what to think for if he deserve it or not,and i huess there isn't any answer,also when i hear that all other students in my class that their parentd are married and i say that mine are divorced and once some people asked me if ot was not hard and i said that i was maybe 4 when it happened do in fact i don't even remnber or just sligtly how it was before,i'm not bad about it but it just suck.

[@collegefootballnut9556]

Funny Everlasting Skits .

[@markusseiler2693]

SCP-087 just remember it is perfectly normal for them to not get along, when relationships (especially a marriage) end there will always be certain feelings that "muddy the waters" so to speak, but it is also perfectly normal for you to love them both, when you get older ask both of them for there sides of the story, and come to your own conclusion. My father abandoned my family when I was two, and for most of my life no one would speak about him except for in negative ways, so when I moved out at 18 I tracked him down, and started talking to him, eventually I got his side of the story and found his reasoning for leaving to be inadequate, and I hated him for the longest time, but as I got older I began to realize that I couldn't go around holding on to that hatred, it was ruining my life. So I did the only thing I could think of, i tried to forgive him; except I never got the chance as he committed suicide before I could. Now everyday I feel horrible for how things turned out, and i wish I had just one more chance to see him and tell him that I forgive him. I guess the point I'm trying to make is whoever was at fault for the divorce, you don't have to hate them for it, as in my experience that is no way to live. Love your family with every ounce of your being, as they're the only one you have, and this is the only shot at life we get.

[@karvast5726]

Markus Seiler thank you,pretty sad story...

[@markusseiler2693]

SCP-087 my only hope is that others can learn from my mistakes, life is too short for trivial things like hatred, thank you for taking the time to read my story, and if you ever need to talk about things, I'm sure your family is there for you, and if not myself and/or others like me are always there when needed. Have a great day and DFTBA.

[@eeeeeeeeeeeeeelli]

oh wow that's like the ideal divorce sadly that's not always the case my best friend's dad basically abandoned her, because he found a new woman, who has kids. he's gonna marry that chick and kick out my best friend. his own, 17 year old daughter.

[@TheRaveyBabyy]

apple crumble happened to me happened to my sis now happening to my little sis shes 9 sadly... this is ideal saaaadlllyyy

[@squishieicecreamzsoo3207]

apple crumble That thing is not a human that is an animal.

[@illestkid236]

happened to me too except at the beginning it was literal physical abandonment and now we're all living together and it's emotional abandonment bc he's more invested in her feelings and keeping her from throwing tantrums than anything else

[@bobbyc.1111]

sad divorce to decent people shouldn't need a divorce. It splits the fam. When there is harmful disfunctions we need a divorce. its sad in this case. glad they get along but it is sad.

[@lovemecom3832]

Beautiful! This just shows us that it is possible for a step-parent and a real parent to have a good relationship with each other. Tears are falling down from my eyes when they started talking to each other and appreciated all the good things that the step-parent did for the child.

[@philiplee7668]

When the dad was talking to the stepdad, I broke into tears like crazzzyyy

[@alastacolalastacol8402]

Wow. The story of forgiveness and love. The internet needs more of this.

[@christianroy4177]

Sadly this isn't how most divorces go, the parents usually go on to hate each other after and their kid rarely gets to see their other parent.

[@CraigTheWriterStewart]

This took me out. “Black men loving Black men is a revolutionary act!” Joseph Beam

[@sundancekat7656]

Soul Pancake is just one of the best things one could add to his or her life. EVERY video is so so worth watching, rewatching, and sharing. Thanks guys

[@justanaverageguy912]

+Sundancekat because there isn't enough mindless kum-ba-yah on youtube already. but whatever it takes to keep the bad and evil reality out, i guess...

[@justanaverageguy912]

***** accident.

[@Participant]

+Sundancekat Thank you! We're SO happy that you love our content! It's messages like this that keep us going, and keep us making content! We're so happy you're apart of the SP Family!

[@dacarla21]

+SoulPancake That was just AWESOME, Made me cry. Why can't the world be this way. Makes life easier for everyone!!!

[@_l0veStaR]

Wishful thinking for me.. I could only pray that one day our blended family could be this way. amazing. thank you for this video.

[@Zstray17]

Any man can be a Father. It takes a real man to be a Dad.

[@kidgrunge9607]

Zstray17 i think its the other way around but i agree

[@lauren.7267]

The two words are synonyms...

[@kidgrunge9607]

Lauren. i know but I'd rather have a father than a dad. A dad to me can be anyone around a child but a father is someone who takes care of that child even if they are not blood related. but thats just me lol

[@TheHEROFamily]

Zstray17 you have that saying backwards. any man with a dick can be a dad but it takes a real man to be a father.

[@cornyado_9383]

straight from tumblr

[@SonTannerProductions]

Sadly this isn't the majority...

[@briggs9187]

This is .00000001% of step Parents... the biggest issue is they simply want to continue their relationship (Parents) when they are with someone else. So sad, but glad it is working for these people.

[@414MrMilwaukee]

Stepparents.......People that STEP up to be a PARENT!!! Much Love to you all and to all parents as well! STAY STRONG

[@cgmo14]

I grew up without my biological father, but was introduced to my new stepfather when I was 9. He has shaped me into the now 19 year old man that I am today. While I have gotten in touch with my biological father recently, it's hard not to feel resentment towards him due to the time missed, and due to the fact that he does not show any appreciation towards my step father for the gifts he has bestowed me. These 3 young ones are incredibly lucky! God bless

[@rickyferguson8099]

Met my step dad when I was 2. I lived in a different state then him. He died when I was 6, as someone who has lost a biological parent, just learn about him and get to know him. Even if it ends up bad, atleast you tried

[@purejokes3951]

Cordell Simons I feel the exact same

[@mikeholmes5824]

I told my two now grown ex-step daughters (who I always refer to as my daughters) that one of the proudest moments of my life was when their bio-dad came to see me to tell me how much he appreciated my being in their lives. What a wonderful thing for a father to say and another father to hear.

[@shadowzero39]

the husbands got way more emotional than the wives

[@xCosmicMuffinManx]

Cris Zamora lol

[@KompletterGeist]

cuz women tend to fake how they act. You could also tell that the wife's letter was just cheesy, whereas the husband's letter was real talk and came from the heart

[@acertainanimeindex420]

Cris Zamora my stepdad cried for a day straight when i finally accepted him and asked him to adopt me...men hide alot

[@oliviaplayer8039]

Mothers typically get more custody of children

[@K84r7]

Men are more loving than women . Fact

[@jennrodrigue0409]

THIS is how co-parenting with adults is supposed to be! Not all that jealousy nonsense like most of us deal with. 👏🏽💜

[@Stargazing_night_sky]

I'm glad some people can easily bond with stepparents and consider them actual parents.

[@kianhoover9389]

Taylor Summers yeah i see my stepdad as a friend even tho he insults me

[@KayHarperOfficial]

My divorce was final November 16th. My ex husband bringing a woman around our son has been an extreme struggle for me. There are so many different feelings involved in something like this. This video helped open my eyes. ❤

[@respectedfemale]

Soul Pancake for the Christmas Eve tears!

[@kateburger2001]

if this isn’t the furthest thing from how my life with step parents is. this little boy is so unbelievably lucky to have all 4 parents that are mature enough to put aside the stigma of step parents and just bond for their love of him. wow, i’m just breath taken. i pray one day my parents can learn to love like this.

[@ScarFace-qn5rf]

they should all get married, four parent family haha

[@alexlg9521]

OrcaPlayz It already looks like one big happy family to me! 💓

[@phuongnghi8283]

OrcaPlayz they should all live in the same house too

[@pewpiedeetown7721]

polyamorous icons

[@mouzaalw8717]

I am grateful! When my parents got divorced they stayed in same house in different rooms with their 6 children just bc they wanted to stick with us even tho it's hard to see you ex husband/wife everyday and I don't know how difficult it was for them but they did it for us and I really appreciate that!!! I am not going to deny that there were couples of fights, argues and disagreements but after all we became so strong and so successful and well raised by these two !!! In 2008 my dad passed away I miss him! And now me and my brother are staying with my mom and our oldest brothers and sisters are married having kids ! Life just goes up and down and you have to stay strong and positive!!

[@thecreativeKue]

mouza alw that's beautiful

[@mouzaalw8717]

kunday destiny thanks💕

[@AszapFerg]

This is a beautiful story showing how people can always manage! Keep your friends close. Keep your enemies closer.💕

[@pbj0815]

mouza alw your parents did awesome! I don't think I could've done that. Bless you guys & sorry about your father

[@renirn7101]

mouza alw same with my parents too !!

[@LaliF]

Well, I wasn't expecting to cry.... but i did 😂😭💙

[@JBella-pq2qi]

Lali F. Me too 😂

[@beyond2766]

Oh Wait. W

[@hauwakulumaijidahhassan1154]

Lali F. truss

[@bukunmiawofisayo506]

Lali F. I didn't even know I was crying until I felt the tears on my legs 😭😭😭

[@dianakrueziu]

Lali F. Sameeee I'm like crying an ocean

[@r.e.4640]

This kind of relationships with mix families, is very rare, its like LESS THAN O.1% in the world.

[@concepcionledezma5027]

You're so right. That's why parents have an obligation to think of their kids and not have divorce be an option. It'll always affect kids negatively.

[@peruanodecorazn5731]

@@concepcionledezma5027 but dumb bitches only think about themselves and believe they're wise enough to make their own choices

[@mykloalias2536]

the stepmom reminds me of annika from the show empire

[@its_miriamdawg]

Myklo Alias yaaassss!!!!

[@blastoisemetapod]

same

[@camilleholliday6972]

Myklo Alias omg I was thinking the same thing

[@typhanieberry3361]

Child yesss. I had to blink my eyes a few times cause I don't have my glasses on

[@ethanminard2917]

These people seem like the greatest and most mature people ever, it's like its not even real it's so amazing, I have a lot of respect for these people and I almost cried when the original Dad started to cry

[@michaellang5320]

soulpancake you never fail to restore my faith in humanity

[@rebekahvidler6769]

This is when 2 parents are both respectful, considerate, devoted and there is no abuse. Extremely rare.

[@mondegreen3119]

THE DAD PART

[@DANGERTASTIC]

I dated a lot of single moms before I got married. Out of probably 3or 4 girls....only one of the fathers of the children ever shook my hand and said thank you for taking care of his kids. Surprisingly it was the one guy I had the impression hated me. It’s difficult stepping in and taking care of kids that aren’t yours. The same rules don’t apply to you

[@annacharlotte584]

When I look at this family, I feel a kind of envy. My parents got divorced when I was 7, my younger sister was just born, my older brother 9. My parents never fought in front of us, they never gave us a hint that there may be something wrong. And then my father moved out and everything turnt. I don't remember anything concerning my family/family events/my mom/my dad/my siblings before the divorce. Everything is just "after". They never talked properly to each other, they had to go to court for alimonies. I guess they also sort of played us. My father more than my mom. Shortly after the split up he had found a new girlfriend, who he still is with today, and my mom never found anyone. I guess she wasn't ready when they were getting married and she feels like it is now too late to "catch up". Now has been 14 years ago by the way. I remember sitting on the couch with my father and talking about everything that was going on at the time and he said "I still love your mom -this much-. But my new girlfriend I love --THIS MUCH--." That was one of the toughest things to get. How could he say he still loved her, but treat her the way he did? When I was 11 I stopped talking to him, I stopped seeing him, I stopped calling him dad. That went on for a couple years and at 15 we began talking again. Just a little bit. When I graduated from High School and went abroad for a year our contact became something I even relied on. When we were talking about my mom he always sounded so full of pity. "Isn't it so sad that she hasn't found someone?" is what he would tell me. Over and over. Still does. Just words it differently. Sometimes I wish my parents would have been "normal people". They are both so messed up and messed me up a bit too. No big deal, since everyone is, but it still is really bittersweet to hear about a story like this. Even if the parents have their issues, they make their child's life comfortable and comforting. They know how important it is to let him breathe, but still give him the comfort of a loving family. A family that expands beyond his biological mom and dad. It's a real success story. Sorry about the ranting, I just really felt it tonight.

[@Itsrainingkats]

Anna Charlotte I swear your story is so much like mine, except it's been 20 years and my mom still hasn't found anyone. I know what you mean about feeling a bit damaged from the divorce and envious of the family in the video. I wouldn't wish my situation on anyone but...I'm glad I'm not alone.

[@aprillewis8601]

This was so beautiful. It made me tear up before they had their face to face with each other. That was so lovely what the dad said to the step dad.😢☺

[@hi5_centipedes874]

Is SoulPancake sponsored by Kleenex? If not, they should be.

[@andreweverett]

weenermeat I'm not crying, you're crying!

[@kandywaffle]

I was crying and then I busted out laughing at your comment!

[@ricorecklezz7687]

for some reason I was thinking a dick beating joke

[@jeyonce9501]

It was a hard fap but I arised victorious!

[@jussiaho828]

Rico Recklezz Ey boy..... U aint Rico. Dont fxkin take his name ya got it?

[@kayleeguzman4922]

Honestly I didn't realize how important it is to show step parents how much they mean to you. I had a revelation just now that if my stepdad hadn't been in my life, my sister and I would never have had a father figure we could look up to in our lives and we wouldn't be in the amazing place we are now: graduating high school next June and heading off into the Air Force soon after. Before my graduation, probably around may lol, I'm going to write a letter with my sister to my stepdad and my mom to say thank you for the way they raised us and loved us.... I can tell there's going to be a lot of crying, even from my step dad maybe who NEVER cries 😂 stay tuned for an update within the next year on what happened

[@David-Ivey]

Kaylee Guzman dont forget to update us, fam! We gotta know what happens :)

[@daltonsmith3779]

Hell yeah bro! I’m hopefully going to the Marines in May!

[@megan-im2ny]

this is so goddamn important, can't be put into words.

[@user-vz8ro6df9k]

So much respect for all of them. That boy, together with all his other siblings are loved above and beyond. Beautiful family.

[@Cloudburst2000]

My family was much like this. My mom and dad divorced when I was two and my sister was four. To me, them living apart was the norm. They were both very active in our lives growing up. Both remarried to other divorcees with kids when I was around five. We were never that close to my step-dads kids as they were over ten years older then us and already in college. My step-mom had two kids (around our ages from her first marriage). She and my mom knew each other from high school and were always friendly with each other. My dad and step-dad get along fine too. My mom always invited my dad, my step-mom, her kids to any events like birthdays, sports games, etc. They always sat together too. When my mom and step-dad had my younger brother, my dad and step-mom would often invite him on outings (camping, white-water rafting, etc). They didn't want him to feel left out. My step-dad isn't into the out-doorsy activities and had it not been for my dad, my younger half-brother would not have had the chance to do those type of activities. My parents made sure never to fight in front of any of us or to ever say a bad word about each other or the step-parents/siblings. Now that we have kids of our own, every kid has three sets of grandparents (my mom and step-dad are Grams and Papa, my dad and step-mam are Poppy and Mimi, and the inlaws parents are usually Grandma and Grandpa). The best thing you can do for your kid is to remember to treat the other parent and the step-parent with respect and to not talk badly about them. This will make a blended family so much easier on your kids. This should be about your kid's feelings, not about your own. So you had a nasty divorce. Get over it for your kid's sake because no kid wants to hear you talk bad about their mom/dad. It will only create animosity towards you.

[@MrMsmaimai17]

Sly3n i needed to hear this- currently going through a separation and my daughter is three. I hope in the future my kid can be okay with this separation. Thank you for giving me hope

[@ahmedmest79]

Maite Mena my parents got divorced when I was 14 but they were acting like adults and they didn’t dissed each other behind each other’s back for example like staying with my dad and he’s talking about my mother but they didn’t do that,and they explained that they don’t love each other and they can’t live together anymore but my dad kept visiting us and was always there when we needed him in everything and my mom too.the important thing is you must not remove your ex from his/her children because they need him/her

[@321milana]

wauw, this is so beautiful it made me cry. unfortunately my parents were not like that and always talked badly about each other to their children, me and my brother. they still do it and it's still affecting me to this day and i'm already 22 (they divorced when i was around 10) but hearing about your family situation still gives me hope.

[@marinadia8029]

The step mom looks like Anika from Empire

[@elle2368]

SOOO TRU.......LoL XD

[@flowerbit4137]

Hanna S. yes! I saw her and I was like "omg it's boo boo kitty"

[@tolua7255]

Hanna S. I wasn't the only one that noticed 😂

[@kaydani5520]

Hanna S. Anika straight pimping huh 😂

[@jamadilee]

yessss and shes preggo with bella 😂😂

[@zacharymazalewski3951]

More touching than I honestly expected, a pleasant surprise.

[@ClareceLeona]

WAIT I just want to know where she found all these fine black men lol

[@mochamommyATX]

Black men are so beautiful

[@eriothkeruma6643]

😂😂😂

[@gordonckeene]

I'm right here

[@cocot9414]

I found my strong passionate loving black man online. I've heard horror stories from some woman but online dating was a great experience for me. Be the type of woman you'd want to be with if you were a man and your frequency will attract awesome men.

[@blakman41]

@Jake DeSander. 😂🤣😭

[@babble2leeza]

I hated being a step parent when my son was young. His mother put herself before his needs. It was awful dropping him off knowing that he would not be supervised or have his emotional needs met. Just broke my heart. He is 30 now. Love him so much.

[@shiying6532]

The stepparents are gorgeous

[@thelazyhuntress]

lmao in a perfect world they are. Not all of them can be that great

[@tomasmatos2020]

unfortunatly this was not the reallity in my childhood and in most of kids...

[@jayymilliner6843]

Tomás Matos wrd💯

[@jakob...]

Tomás Matos true

[@graceclarey9755]

Mine too my man

[@piolo1023]

Yup

[@aes8302]

same

[@moonwillow113]

The Father's are who struck my soul! Soulful. Honor. Dignity. Respect.

[@94chicity]

I feel that the two fathers showed more emotion and his letter was more sincere. Can't help but feel the mothers letter was not as real. Didn't feel like she fully meant it.

[@RuthNSantos1]

I felt the same as you...almost like she is resentful that he has moved on and and she didnt expect him to

[@fistoftheworldking3834]

As cynical as this may sound, that seems like a normal reaction from divorcees (either gender). I see it all the time, a form of this, at the divorce clinic.

[@mercedesplay_more_kof8488]

I think their positions were very different. The dad spoke a lot about the step-dad's ability to do things for his ex-wife and son that he wasn't yet capable of. It was a very powerful, humbling letter, but it shouldn't be seen as any reason to discredit the mom's letter. They were crying just as much at the end of it so our takeaway should be that they said what needed to be said for their relationship. Both were beautiful and I cried a lot. lol.

[@victoriaf8571]

I think the biological dad felt insecure but respected him, and the biological mother felt challenged but respected her. Very different atmospheres.

[@ablackbeltbabyyt7921]

I don't think his biological mom believed what she said, I get the vibe that she low-key hates his step mom

[@mandarskichacha6761]

This was the most adult thing I have ever seen

[@iceberg1560]

So mature i love it

[@ezeo.7315]

Aliyah Roane ikr.

[@lashaundadiaz7411]

😭😭😭😭 THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THINGS I'VE EVER SEEN!!! ❤❤❤❤ GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!

[@b.a.8397]

I did NOT expect that. That was as soooo cute and ugh I'm emotional

[@vanessaventurino2693]

I came hoping there’d be beef but instead this is beautiful

[@shortfuse75]

Wow. This is incredible. This is what the world is supposed to be like.....making something beautiful out of something difficult.

[@kristacanales3148]

What being a true adult is all about, and how putting the kids first is always number one. I love this. The fathers almost made me tear up. Had great “stepparents” growing up. And I miss them.