PARENTS THAT REGRET HAVING KIDS: DAD EDITION!!

[@GDub96]

It sucks. I wouldn't do it again.

[@JJerseyGirl]

I heard someone say recently " Don't ask yourself do you want a child, ask yourself do you want to be a parent"

[@chanson8508]

THIS 💙

[@tiffanybutrum299]

💯this. People always say "I can't wait to have a baby!" and all of their focus is on the presence of a baby, but they don't consider what being a parent really means.

[@talitabotana6992]

That's what I always say to friends ❤

[@L3t1t8e]

It's amazing how childfree people are more aware of the REALITY of parenting and how ghetto it really is

[@Europa1749]

18 years? Not these days. More like mid 20's, if they get a good job and can afford to move out and pay rent. It's not their fault. Times are much more difficult now for young people trying to make it on their own.

[@pink1237480]

You dont have to have kids to leave a legacy. Sometimes it can be a law or business or invention. Something else.

[@bradleysbullm1673]

Regrets of not having children is always reversible Regrets of having children is IRREVERSIBLE. If having children sounds burdensome never become a parent. Unwanted children will also suffer with their unhappy parents

[@ChildfreeLT]

I totally agree

[@Sean___14]

@@ChildfreeLT Is being childfree the same as being an antinatalist?

[@DeemanThomas-bn9qi]

I'm 35 be 36 I thank God for my childfree life I tell that part of the legacy to piss off vs another legacy I'm trying to reach

[@athenamurphy1317]

Dolly Parton, a childfree woman, has 1000 times the legacy of any of these men! Gloria Steinem's childfree legacy impacts every person in the country! That's a legacy!

[@Jac527]

The other day I went to do my hair, and the lady’s friend was complaining that everything was getting expensive , honestly plaiting is pricey these days. Also, this lady’s son was being bullied at school and it just brought me awful memories of school back in my day and I don’t want to repeat that history including taking kids to school, even though kids are “cute” they can be mean as hell and I got not time for that BS 🙄

[@tricieb.5921]

So many people are driven by their hormones and they're thinking of the here and now to the point where they don't think about the future and what will be and they end up in situations like this.

[@joejackson7601]

Female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home.

[@jellygurl27]

What's crazy is in the first scenario, the guy is a Software Engineer, and him and his wife are still having financial issues. Just shows that children are expensive geesh. Sounds like him and the wife did not have proper discussions prior to having children.

[@melfreemans]

Yes....and it seems like something else is going on. Maybe the baby was an attempt to fix their marriage issues...

[@B0BBYJ4CK]

@@melfreemans maybe. 🤔 having children just to FIX a failing relationship is a horrible idea. one of my worst fears is getting with a man and him somehow convincing me to have a child, then everything goes downhill from there. I've read too many stories end like that on and offline.

[@JM-zv5bi]

Yes, having children is hard. But more importantly, I think this man’s wife does not have her priorities straight. Children need love, not things, so many people think that buying children things will make them happy and that’s not so. He needs to sit down and have a serious conversation with his wife about her spending.

[@JJerseyGirl]

Having children is a lifetime committment not when they turn 18 years old your done. What if the child has a disability.

[@MsKim-zk5sz]

Truth Having a child …being parent is an awakening of another level that is continuous. It only stops should your heart stop. Having a child is an additional person to your marriage union…marital contract.

[@shaybuttacreme07911]

I think people confuse legacy and lineage ALOT

[@MsRenaissance]

When I was younger, I did not want kids. Then my sister had a baby and when I saw how beautiful he was and I started thinking maybe I should have one to take care of me when I'm old. But deep down, I would get depressed whenever I would think about being a mother. Then my coworker who had 2 kids told me it's not all that its cracked up to be and my sister said I don't know lucky I am to not have any kids, she said I got away with murd@r. Now I'm older, 47 years old, and I see so many people speaking out about how much they regret having kids, I think I would have been one of those, and I'm very happy that I didn't do it. I can truly own who I am and enjoy my life.

[@priyankarmajumder4152]

You don't have to raise this cute little kid for 18 years, but rather for 20+ years. You don't expect your kid to become financially independent overnight once he/she turns 18. It takes time, so that he/she could finally move out.

[@Laoriginal718]

I don’t have kids and don’t want any. Amen 🙏🏾

[@Zen-cx5tc]

Same 🙏

[@jay-s9y1c]

Seriously from what I've seen + heard from other parents, it is beyond tiring. My friend became an alcoholic bc of the pressure + the lack of freedom she experienced.

[@amixedgoddess]

I get it honestly I think parenting has been one of the reasons why I drank so much

[@jay-s9y1c]

@@amixedgoddess It makes perfect sense. It is a way to cope. Parenting ignites a lot of stress so naturally you would want to have relief from that + alcohol provides some relief.

[@amixedgoddess]

@@jay-s9y1c Exactly!! I’m thankful I have kicked the urge to drink alcohol. I’m also thankful to know what it feels like to be stressed out from parenthood so I can help someone else experiencing the same thing.

[@joejackson7601]

​@@jay-s9y1cmost ppl don't understand the programming... female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka breeders.

[@SandiHartke]

I feel really bad for a lot of these people and for the kid. I wish it were more socially acceptable to put your kid up for adoption. There’s so many nice people out there who would do anything to have a child. But you’d be looked at like the devil by anyone you knew if you decided hey this really isn’t going well for either of us and I think my child could have a better life with someone else who can provide a better life for them.

[@Wodan87]

As a dad of 2 small children, I hate it. I love my children and spend lots of time with them but not a day goes by when I think of my old life with no children. There is no freedom and you have 2 jobs, one regular job and then the other constant job of being a parent. I would not recommend it to anyone! I tell everybody how much it sucks and that I would not do it again even though I love them. But if somebody told me it's that hard I would have had the vasectomy just to be sure.

[@d.a.4153]

Its interesting to hear men regret being parents cuz usually the burden of parenthood falls on women. But either way, kids a permanent decision on both parts and it needs to be seriously discussed beforehand

[@d.a.4153]

@@marcellusrobinson1465 this was not a shot at men...? I said the burden USUALLY falls on women and that is a permanent decision on BOTH parts. Ofc there are women who leave their families no one is saying there isn't. Don't try to cherry pick my comment so you can feel offended.

[@lilywong9672]

@@marcellusrobinson1465 You sound like a panini pressed dusty.

[@insomnia9999]

Yes raise them until they are 18 but you’re never done being a parent. Parenting is a forever role. Ask any parent does it stop at 18. It does not.

[@noirefit5954]

I think once people get out of the baby/toddler stage, having a child gets easier. But that first 1-3 years is tough lol. Especially the first year since it’s mostly severe sleep deprivation. I love being a parent even though I am a single mom. I’m always exhausted but my kiddo is worth it. She’s the apple of my eye❤

[@wendywatkins7366]

You have nice skin…. Childfree all the way🙌🏾… my life is perfect

[@heroldjaras9909]

if women get children, their skin ages a few years. if you never get children, you look younger

[@santanaduncan9047]

What is even having the right spouse? Nobody really knows how they will be, or even how the other person will be until they're there. The shift n change can literally be too much for some. It's an extremely transformative experience. Parenthood is not for the weak.. many feel alone, even when they're coupled up. I wish the best for all going into it.. the children deserve it; or stay childless

[@tuinfarto608]

18 years? 18 'PLUS' years, many won't be able to leave the house til they're in theirs 30s nowadays unless they get a few roommates. Parents will be broke af...

[@B0BBYJ4CK]

It's really sad when you hear regretfull parent stories...but it's also kinda hard to feel bad for most of them since it WAS a choice by full-grown adults (usually). I definitely feel for some folks, but when you make BIG life-changing decisions like having children and you aren't 100% on board from the beginning, I can't help but think "well, now you just gotta deal with". 🤔 I don't think we put enough emphasis on knowing ourselves and the people around us. Knowing yourself can SAVE you from certain situations. I know that I'd be annoyed, upset, and regretful if were to give birth to a child. that's just how I am.

[@Ms_Introvert_4_Life]

Those stories are funny and horrible at the same time. Children aren't a joke! I'm telling you it would take a SPECIAL REALLY UNIQUELY SPECIAL person for me to take on children....and still prefer they're grown!

[@denver.d7030]

Daycare is such a bad risk, literally paying someone for your child to get sick and bring home Corona virus the flu or stomach viruses.

[@Europa1749]

Strep throat, a gastrointestinal virus, from my son's daycare, by just walking in there to get him and breathing that air.

[@denver.d7030]

@@Europa1749 wow smh I wish him a full recovery that's completely unfair.

[@Divine_dialogues2]

Love your videos! I’m so glad to see this community thrive 🤍 new subbieeeee

[@JJerseyGirl]

People don't really think of the commitment being of being a parent. It's just you and your SO doing it all. People just as the thing to do on the list of life or all their friends are having children but no one tells you the real dirty side of being a parent.

[@goduxunike]

Yep, there is no village anymore. Not even grandparents can retire, it's unfair to ask them to also take the responsibility of helping when their health is not the same.

[@Thahighlife]

Well all I got to say that bullet I done dodge because think about it if I had kids now I would be struggling I wouldn't be able to buy the things I want online like New outfits and going to the nail salon to get my eyebrow waxed or being able to get out and go whenever I please because I would have to babysit so I couldn't have that

[@gazagxrlx2974]

Same !!

[@joejackson7601]

Outstanding you broke the programming... female offspring are programmed to be sex slaves, maid servants and baby bearers via doll babies, strollers and easy bake ovens aka the kitchen and the bedroom and male offspring are programmed to be stud horses and play play play aka papa was a rolling stone wherever he laid his hat was his home aka breeders.

[@Divine_dialogues2]

Dang…I should check in on my brother 😭😭😭😭

[@Aniexo_]

My best friend just got pregnant. I’m so happy for her. I hope that seeing her go through her pregnancy doesn’t make me change my mind about having kids. Lol

[@ChildfreeLT]

Your friendship will change once that baby comes so be ready for that

[@melfreemans]

@@ChildfreeLT it's true. I lost a good friend because I didn't make her child the center of my world. It was the ONLY think she ever wanted to talk about. I was ok with that for a few months but after the boy was 18 months I was over the non stop kid conversations. And she wouldn't do anything without bringing the child which really put a damper on any event because she expected everyone to watch her kid.

[@Childfree334]

I'm the opposite. Whenever I see a pregnant woman I feel sad for the child because of the kind of world they are being born into. Nothing to be happy about.

[@Aniexo_]

@@Childfree334 lmfaoooo man listen I am not changing my mind. I don’t feel anything just like when I held my cousins new born. NOTHING.

[@Aniexo_]

@@ChildfreeLT aww I hope not. I’m not the type to leave my friends hanging after they have kids. If we do it’ll be on her part bc she’s getting on my nerves 🤣

[@elyse443]

😂 of course the software Engineer feels that way. His child is still a baby. Literally everyone feels that way until the child is around 3. That’s when they become fun and can actually say, “I love you,” and God knows what other funny stuff. My son is almost 2 and only now is he starting to be super funny and Sex is far better than it was before as we are now so connected in such a specific way. Only we two can or will ever love our child the way we do. It’s an INCREDIBLE aphrodisiac once you get past the first two to three sleep deprivation years. Of course you’re tired with a 9 month old. He can’t get on a jet ski with you yet. That first one is very common, but a little silly. If you don’t want kids don’t have them. But you can’t judge having a child on the first year. That’s like judging your career on the first few weeks😂. Of course it’s hard at first.

[@hanalala3164]

Youre trying hard to convince yourself huh?😂 then not long after, theyd be a preteen and teen. So things get worse again after they get better.

[@michaelfreydberg4619]

The first example sounds like something I’ve heard a lot. I’m ND, and oftentimes a person who is ND does ok until the child is born. Then they hit a wall and it doesn’t get better. (They didn’t know they were ND until the exhaustion set in) One man on a different channel gave an example and said “my first child was born when I was 39, and at that point I lost my ability to adult” and years later he found out he was ND. It’s too much for some.

[@ChildfreeLT]

@@michaelfreydberg4619 what is ND if u dont mind?

[@michaelfreydberg4619]

@@ChildfreeLT Nuero diverse. Like autism. A fair amount of men don’t find out they are until the child is born. One (of many) symptoms is exhaustion when your capacity has been reached. Having a kid will sometimes unveil it.

[@ChildfreeLT]

@michaelfreydberg4619 oh ok

[@melfreemans]

I'm happily childfree but I don't agree necessarily with people who say the world is too horrible to bring kids into it. Someone said "never apologize for raising dragon slayers in a time where there are actually dragons". This upcoming generation of kids might be the ones who save us all... who knows. There are plenty of other great reasons to not have kids aka sex trophies!!!!

[@gazagxrlx2974]

But why offload that unto children ?? Save what?? Save who ?? The only thing they will need to save is themselves into this crazy world

[@B0BBYJ4CK]

@@gazagxrlx2974 shit, I'd argue, why not try to make the world a better place ourselves?

[@mthokozisimpanza34]

This is the mentality of a gambling addict.

[@skylinefever]

Yes, the children might be able to be the dragon slayer. Or they might just say "Hey, I never asked to be born and cast into this dumpster fire."

[@mthokozisimpanza34]

@@skylinefever the Dragon always wins. Death and suffering are undefeated. It's a roaring dumpster fire indeed!

[@nerdsports]

Cant get over how many people make being childfree their whole personality. 😂