[Part 3] Former Royal Marine & Special Forces Veteran on Stressful Jobs, Loneliness & Friendship

What happens when you put a former Royal Marine and Special Forces veteran together in a one-off, no holds barred interview?
In this special series - broken down into three parts - our current cover star Aldo Kane and his best friend, Jason Fox, talk openly and honestly about life in the military, adjustment to Civvy St, physical fitness, mental health and friendship.
In our final part, Jason Fox, the former SBS soldier and Aldo Kane, ex Royal Marines sniper, talk about dealing with stressful jobs and situations, why worrying is wasted energy, how they’ve remained best friends for almost 20 years and why in a world where everyone is connected, more people are lonelier than ever.
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Episode 1 - Failure, Fear and Military Life
• Former Royal Marine & ...
Episode 2 - Working Out, Mental Strength & PTSD
• [Part 2] Former Royal ...
Episode 3 - Stressful Jobs, Loneliness & Friendship
• [Part 3] Former Royal ...
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[@berlinocelot]

I really like these two and I know it sounds a bit silly but I'll sort of miss hearing them chat to eachother.

[@freak3903]

Jason has a podcast on spotify. He's got one with Aldo as well ;-)

[@jeddy_bravo]

@@freak3903 what is it called😲

[@orangewarm1]

You can stalk them.

[@RichardStevenson92]

I guess one of the messages to take away from this is to have these sorts of conversations with your friends. Be candid, be honest and talk about how you're getting on. These two are setting the example which we should follow.

[@dillonemery364]

Sorry to be so offtopic but does anyone know a method to get back into an Instagram account..? I somehow lost the password. I love any tips you can offer me

[@ryanblakeperformancecoaching]

Just watched all 3 of these videos. Very interesting and important conversations topics discussed!

[@godwinjoseph2912]

One of the best podcast I have seen in a long time. An honest conversation between two men who respect each other. I watched all 3 and really enjoyed them, more of these, please!

[@robertcunningham3882]

Thank you gents. You both sounded very pragmatic in how you want to get the most from your lives. The transparency in your experiences and coping mechanisms actually tugs on the old heart strings quite a bit. I have huge empathy for what you are saying and I'm proud, as a fellow ex-RM, of how you've articulated this to everyone listening. Similarly I joined the RM at 16 and served 10 years in a close timeframe to you both. It's comforting to hear the little bits of micro banter tucked in there, which without sounding elitist, seems to be somewhat specific to the corps. Maybe it's a language thing that can't really be quantified. Anyway, the conversation resonated a bit (a lot) deeper than I imagined it would, having accidentally stumbled over this trying to find edgy videos for a stay at home warped coronavirus quiz! I felt like I could have sat there and joked away about some of the tragic situations I inadvertently found/put myself in after leaving the corps, having as you mentioned lost my identity, amongst other things. That's the only way I know how to communicate those dark times (cheerfulness in adversity). Well it is strange that I started writing this at all to be honest. I guess that it is the whole point in the interview. So mission accomplished lads. BZ, take care Royals.

[@goat8672]

What a couple of true gentlemen - A dying breed - I wish I had a friendship with someone that is as real as these 2 lads share.. I also wish I could be half the man of either of them.

[@wl9399]

still sense the sadness and struggle from their eyes. thank you for sharing your stories. nothing but respect!!

[@Droopydrawers]

I could listen to these two talk all day

[@jasonfox1652]

thanks for been a good fan 💖 , hope to see your response soon 💝 can we talk privately

[@carolineowen7846]

Well said, 1. daylight, 2. getting outdoors/ exercise, 3. social interaction, Keys to sanity :) top tips indeed. Also from your previous discussions, getting the stuff done you don't really want to do .... Total respect guys :)

[@jasonfox1652]

thanks for been a good fan 💖 , hope to see your response soon 💝 can we talk privately

[@YodaAndCo]

These have been great, thank you!

[@theindestructiblenomad5633]

Both of these fine chaps have intelligence, humility, and authenticity in spades. A pleasure to listen to them converse...

[@mannybee]

Loved this!

[@flok1971]

So much respect!

[@XTSu-sl1bb]

I liked this. Thank you guys.

[@da4506]

Thanks lads

[@SebastianBevanPhotography]

All three were great to listen to, thank you, could listen to them two chat all day.

[@dawelnawr7965]

Awesome chat guys.

[@nuthinguseful]

These were absolutely 👌 good work everyone involved

[@walster59]

Great to watch,Love it!!

[@dawelnawr7965]

Loving the chats guys.

[@jonathanquigley3601]

Cracking segment of the interview when they discussed isolation from society or even lack of exercise, very relevant to the current situation across the world and extremely insightful!

[@minecraftman1002]

The value of real, honest words between true friends is inspiring.

[@hphoenix7974]

Loved all three videos, they were honest, warm and genuine 🙏

[@MountainRhode]

What a great conversation.

[@pdpiper]

That was a great trio of vids. Fantastic stuff. Would be great to know what kind of thoughts or advice they have with the current circumstances in mind, ie people having to isolate at home and having no social contact. I know it was touched on in this vid but I think a more detailed mental analysis would be very helpful, especially given the depth of experience these guys have.

[@cornelfrancis5048]

True friendship.

[@jackmitchell20]

superb

[@tonycroxon4681]

Interesting, given the timing, how they talk about the effect of isolation on mental health!!

[@Aquarius.]

great videos and comments

[@gwhite1932]

Enjoyed that

[@gwhite1932]

@@menshealthuk I watched all three then found Jason's podcast too.👍

[@michaelcarter5049]

Thanks for this guys. I can relate - sort of. I did 5 years with International Red Cross working in 5 different conflict zones. I know fear. The worst was Darfur where we were going into the field where the official military and the peace keepers dare not. The worst was the waiting period of several days during the build up to leaving the gates. Once outside the gates I was fine. 60% of my colleagues did not complete their 1 year contracts. I had armed hold-up on my first trip and relate to that feeling of not knowing how I would react prior to this. Our only defense was a red cross in a fiercely Muslim country. The saw us a Christian. I want to point you both to a voyage like no other. Research one word: sesshin. It will demand the same resilience and determination you encountered in your basic training. It is part of the traditional training of the samurai. It can do wonders for the mind. Those like you with strong muscle-tone find it particularly difficult. I failed my first try many years ago but came back to it. Later, it got me through where others failed. I practiced it daily during my contracts and still do.

[@deangoddard821]

They need their own talk show

[@aranstuart566]

that is man love😂❤️

[@YorkyFromFax]

When you said you went out and got smashed the night before, I’m bang on with that. Done it many times & sometimes during a beasting throwing ya ring up hahahahahaha, fck the memories

[@craig975]

Guys check out Foxy's book Battle Scars its a brilliant read.

[@lordofgraphite]

id fucking love to train with these two

[@andrewnicholas4951]

Lonelines v solitude or a mix of both. Solitude is a choice loneliness isn't! However either way one can liv productively especially if one likes not narcissistically ones own company it can b quiet healthy. The med trade dnt like the mentally strong and self reliant as there's no profit!!! It's argued were r a herd animal but the lone wolf exists also. But wiv anything to become proficient requires experimentation practice trial and error to reach the right combination that flicks the switch that holds the right keys

[@orangewarm1]

That guy from Lost was in the bunker for months.

[@richardwalmesley8223]

royal marines and sas the best

[@camrichards7473]

Can someone tell me what jacket Aldo is wearing ?

[@timmyk4004]

Cam Rich2002 belstaf shirt jacket

[@jonniebyford]

Yeah, it's a Belstaff. Originally a British company making mostly motorcycle clothing like waxed cotton jackets/overtrousers plus leather jackets etc. Pretty sure they went bust and the name is now owned by an Italian company.

[@macbadesha8275]

What are the main differences between SAS and SBS?

[@ryanhall4919]

In a nutshell the SAS is the Special Air Service and traditionally operates missions requiring airborne tactics e.g parachuting, dropping in via helicopter etc whereas the SBS is the Special Boat Service which traditionally operates missions requiring amphibious/water based tactics e.g scuba diving, speedboats, amphibious craft etc. Due to the difference in tactics and specialisations each unit traditionally operates in very different environments compared to their counterpart. The SAS would traditionally recruit members from the parachute regiment while the SBS from the Royal Marines however paras are more than welcome to try out for the SBS and marines for the SAS if they so desired.

[@directdec8224]

SAS are the special air service and is the main task for terriosm on uk territories and SBS is special boat service mainly tasked for Protecting British seas but also do raids in Afghanistan and Kenya.

[@3allz]

The SBS training is also harder. They have to do the same as the SAS plus extra marine and naval exercises. As Ryan said, the SBS usually come from the Royal Marines, which is also considered one of the tougher infantries out of all the non-special forces infantries. The training is extreme! Most of the operations conducted by the SBS are highly classified, and are rarely commented on by the British government or the Ministry of Defence due to their sensitive nature as opposed to the SAS who most people have heard of and are a bit more of a poster child for special forces

[@directdec8224]

@3allz Royal marine is a branch not part of the british army. Para training is harder the marines that’s why a lot of soldiers wear the maroon beret rather then there commando beret. Also sbs training is attended 5x a year while sas is only 2x a year

[@sebastianwardana1527]

"your wife is going to kill you if she finds this" stranger words have never been uttered...

[@paulreynolds9003]

An English man and a scotch man friends I guess there is hope after all.

[@jonniebyford]

Scot/Scotsman; scotch is a drink. Not getting at you, I made the same mistake once upon a time.

[@paulreynolds9003]

@@jonniebyford Thanks Jonny . I never noticed I had wrote that.

[@Bhodisatvas]

Lockdown is having a major effect on people's mental health.

[@TheCraigrenard]

Bit of a bromance going on here...

[@andrewnicholas4951]

Iraq in essence was a broken third world army starved of equipment for many years before the might of western forces going in to annihilate. Hardly heroic. Same wiv Afghanistan.( btw) country been colonised stripped of its natural wealth and its people starved injured and killed . Lastly to me u play the odds and wen u kno ur fight i.e. Tyson in his prime wiv an old grandad wiv one hand tied behind his back it's not your classic FAIR FIGHT! Vietnam or first or Second World War that's a whole another level of brave. But of course individual acts of valour in recent times hat must b tipped

[@iceswallowgum8540]

Random place to put this comment. Two buddy's catching up with each other about mental health.

[@LS-jv9hp]

Iraq and Afghanistan aren't the same type of war as conventional wars between countries. A war where your enemy can have a signals watch you without fear of being shot, a war where your enemy can easily set up ambushes, IEDS, use child soldiers, abuse the geneva convention to their advantage while you have to follow it, where your always the first to get ambushed. It's not like fighting a conventional army, insurgents work in a completely different way. The conventional wars of Afghan and Iraq were steamrolled, the time after though? Absolutely not the Taliban and al-Qaeda had all the advantages. Also a fair war? Never heard of such a thing don't try to undermine something you have no idea about. Also, you want to know where the valour is from these wars? How about stopping the Saddam regime from wiping the Kurdish Iraqis from existence, suppressing the Shia majority, invading and occupying countries just to settle a debt, high government officials freeing raping the population(Uday Hussien), stopping the Taliban from gunning down women for the slightest reason, beheading people for their sexuality, destroying Buddhist temples, along with massacring entire towns of Shia population and forbidden the dead the right to their own religions funeral customs. Unless you think that's A-ok then yea the men who laid their lifes down to stop those two horrid regimes, no honour that, they aren't real heroes because they didn't god damn nazis! Fucking idiot.