Why So Many Marriages are Failing and the Solutions! | Qari Ishaaq Jasat (Full Podcast)

Ustadh Shabbir is joined by Qari Ishaaq Jasat, where they identify some of the reasons why marriages are failing and discuss ways people can make their marriages stronger.
00:00 - Intro
02:38 - Receiving 13 divorce cases in one month
06:22 - Is marriage difficult?
10:21 - Why marriages are breaking down - some examples
17:49 - Be clear about expectations BEFORE marriage
20:21 - Marriage requires constant learning
25:01 - Why some marriages don't last for more than 2 years
34:42 - Why you should never compare your spouse to someone else!
38:35 - Arguments sometimes happen
42:21 - Marriage is a lifelong responsibility
43:59 - Belittling your spouse is really bad
44:40 - Men want respect, and women want love
48:18 - You are a team after getting married
56:54 - My Qur'an Journal
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[@qoobsmcdoobs1]

The previous generation failed us. They shared little to no wisdom from their experiences with their mature children. They didn't work on strengthening their own marital bonds and swept their issues under the rug, expecting their children to do the same. They under valued Islamic tarbiyyah and over valued a secular worldly education. They did not verbalize and clarify expectations with their mature children and expected them to be obedient and pious intuitively, despite not providing proper Islamic guidelines and letting public school corrupt their children's worldview.

[@imranniazi3983]

So what are you going to do about it then? Past is in the past…

[@fakhriaalam5519]

Words of truth and my heart…the sad and hardest part is, Ok they did what they did how they dealt with, but expecting exactly the same from us, is so hard to deal with. As you have to be in ihsan also with them, may Allah make it easy for all.

[@hawwaahmed772]

True, but we love them and we owe it to them to be better, thou it's not easy to get past the trauma of the neglect we faced.

[@komalmughal5807]

They did the best they could with the knowledge that they were passed down about our religion and relationships. You have to forgive them and learn from them at the same time. Let's see how much our kids appreciate us with the vast knowledge we have access to and claim to ingrain in our lives.

[@qoobsmcdoobs1]

@@komalmughal5807 I'm not holding it against them, but it is important to point out where mistakes were made and to correct them. You can't expect someone to play the piano like a pro when all you did was teach them on a basic kids toy piano. The past shapes the future. You can't just wish it away by forgiving. There is double or triple the work needed to correct the mess we are now in.

[@aliamacintyre483]

If you’ve even gotten married, you’re so blessed wallahy. Don’t ruin it. Remember how painful it is to be single and trying to find a partner.

[@sallyinsomalia]

True

[@Osmosis3210]

Also remember how painful it is to be betrayed etc or hurt by another , put yourself in the shoes of your spouse . In islam compassion and empathy is very important especially towards your spouse .

[@kayn6858]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714]

@@aliamacintyre483 Shayteen live in the human body!!! All humans have shaytaan Jinns living in our bodies!. Warning Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire 43:62, Qur'an [So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you - 36:62, Qur'an [For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason? 15:39 - 40, Qur'an [For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them." 38:84 - 85, Qur'an [So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together.".... Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)....

[@shellahussain7416]

It's not that simple. It's better to be single than in an unhappy situation.

[@abubakarbetts7906]

Marriage is failing because of social media. One thing people forget there’s always going to see someone you’re better than and see someone better than you. Marry for Allah’s sake and you will be okay! Stay single if you can’t respect your spouse for Allah’s sake!

[@bokarmangane8198]

👏🏾👏🏾

[@KA-bw3wf]

We need to protect our gaze, men and women

[@hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714]

Shayteen live in the human body!!! All humans have shaytaan Jinns living in our bodies!. Warning Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire 43:62, Qur'an [So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you - 36:62, Qur'an [For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason? 15:39 - 40, Qur'an [For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them." 38:84 - 85, Qur'an [So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together.".... Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)....

[@wale4862]

May Allah assist us, the things that call to our desires are so much

[@Ai-nz4bd]

I struggle with this

[@wale4862]

​@@Ai-nz4bd Keep making Dua, make Dua And never giver up, we are all trying to stay afloat

[@fader1912]

Been looking for a spouse for almost three years and I’ve got everything in place but demands from girls are silly these days. Please brothers and sisters make dua I find a wife soon In’sha’Allah so my mum can experience some happiness in her life and I can complete my deen

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May Allah make it easy

[@fader1912]

@@IlmFeedPodcast Jazakallah

[@Queenfisa]

May Allah guide you to what's best for your Deen and Ahkhira. Allahumma Ameen

[@sunnyboy6819]

What’s your contact brother I have a good pious sister in Atlanta looking for husband 😊

[@FireFoxProductions578]

May allah grant you the perfect spouse and allow your other half to be a source of peace in’sha’allah

[@AReflectiveSoul]

How we are raised affects how committed we are to the marriage. I truly worry for the generations to follow because they are being taught that EVERYTHING can be replaced if you don't like it, and there is very little self-accountability. The hard work starts from the moment a child is born. Teaching our children the importance of discipline and not just the pleasure of consuming.

[@Hellfire...]

Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire 43:62, Qur'an [So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you - 36:62, Qur'an [For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason? 15:39 - 40, Qur'an [For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them." 38:84 - 85, Qur'an [So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together."

[@Runique76]

Marriage is built consistent, rahma ,honesty, And appreciation if you don't have that the marriage is easily broken.

[@lightofmylife2008]

Honesty is very uncommon now days

[@jannah66]

It would be good if prior to nikkah there was a short course for couples to understand their roles as a husband/ wife according to shariah & otherwise , also the vetting process needs to be more thorough . It’s also important that there’s a good family support network on both sides if possible. Most importantly both need to fear Allah in how they treat one another both in marriage & divorce if it gets to that .

[@hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714]

Shayteen live in the human body!!! All humans have shaytaan Jinns living in our bodies!. Warning Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire 43:62, Qur'an [So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you - 36:62, Qur'an [For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason? 15:39 - 40, Qur'an [For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them." 38:84 - 85, Qur'an [So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together.".... Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)....

[@Queenfisa]

There are plenty of classes like this being offered but you find that not alot of men are taking advantage of them. So when you have ppl coming into a marriage with different outlooks of what that marriage should look like then that can cause issues. Another reason that ppl tend not to take advantage of these types of classes is because they have their own way of how they want to conduct their marriage but it lacks the knowledge of Deen specifications.

[@3l3phantz]

My husband and i watched Ali Hammuda’s “Married Ever After” series. It’s a great course for those who are interested in getting married, as well as those who are married and those on the brink of divorce.

[@hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714]

@@jannah66 Shayteen live in the human body!!! All humans have shaytaan Jinns living in our bodies!. Warning Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire 43:62, Qur'an [So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you - 36:62, Qur'an [For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason? 15:39 - 40, Qur'an [For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them." 38:84 - 85, Qur'an [So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together.".... Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)....

[@rr12766]

So many rights is spouse courses exist, but they don't really help. Men simply come away from it saying "women have to obey the husband"

[@abcxyz3028]

It takes two to make the marriage works and honest communcation. Have a talk about expectations and the way of life they're going for. Make time for each other. Sometimes, parents raised mummy's boy and ALL houseworks fall to the wife including picking up dirty laundry from the floor. Not even helping out with the washing up, setting the table, hanging laundry, etc. These may seem minor but it will make a huge difference.

[@jajazzzzz]

Today's desi women are fed up being a 'single' married-wife. And are more outspoken against oppression and injustice from the husband and in-law. It's why we're seeing such high divorce request from the wives. Men need to become real men, a real protector and provider. Not loser that uses wife as maid. And stay out all day at friends and his wider family.

[@MrOsmanu]

If you can't do the housework on your own, you might be the loser.

[@jajazzzzz]

@@MrOsmanu Someone's butthurt... Go hire a maid or run back to Mummy and your Sisters and sister-in-law's. And play on your playstation whilst you're at it lmao.

[@shadmani9687]

@@jajazzzzz Desi women have become very masculine, they may seem like they are feminine, but in the household they try to wear the pants and the men take a step back to try to keep the "peace" in the family.

[@jajazzzzz]

@@MrOsmanu And the grown adult male-babies who can't wash a plate after themselves once in a while or throw the bin out or not drop their clothes around the house or who spend all day out with friends after work and during weekends. And who takes their wives money from her job. Aren't they losers? Or is the thought of oppressing another man's daughter 24/7 just normal to you? No wonder divorce is rife. And why women don't want to get married.

[@MegaFatuma]

Marriage is a long term commitment. You should work as a team to try and fulfil each other’s rights, raise your children together and have mercy and compassion for each other. Husband helping wives at home , woman being respectful and not making crazy demands. Communication and trying to understand each other really helps too.

[@hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714]

@@MegaFatuma Shayteen live in the human body!!! All humans have shaytaan Jinns living in our bodies!. Warning Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire 43:62, Qur'an [So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you - 36:62, Qur'an [For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason? 15:39 - 40, Qur'an [For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them." 38:84 - 85, Qur'an [So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together.".... Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2174 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies! May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)....

[@yes1256r]

Marriage is failing because we are never taught how we are supposed to be married

[@Queenfisa]

When the information isn't being given then you must go get it. There are many classes, events, books, and videos around this topic but ppl tend to wait for it to fall in their laps.

[@Hope-r1w]

My husband had many times threatened me that he will leave me and that I will end up on the road. I have been reminded many times during our marriage that I have nothing of my own. In the past 1month he threatened me 2times because I refused to abort our baby and I refused to get involved in riba. To all my brothers and sisters, never compromise your akhira for your spouse.

[@bh_11x]

🫂 Hope you have a beautiful life here and in the hereafter❤

[@theahmedfahad]

Listen to him , if he signs the deal and he gets in riba it's his will and Allah will question him but don't be opponent to him . Men have future tensions ab9ut kids and their future

[@emma647]

​@@theahmedfahadlisten to him and abort the baby? Wth

[@sidxcitrus_]

@@theahmedfahadsatanic advice. Islam literally says obey your husband in everything HALAL only.

[@mariaa1410]

The previous generation lived through hell with their spouses and acted like nothing was happening and now they wonder why we aren’t getting married and finding spouses so easily

[@naturallyaishaj]

Exactly. I appreciate alot of what was said, but alot was one sided and black and white. Many women live in suffering because of some of these "beliefs"

[@naturallyaishaj]

It's more than lack of effort in the past vs now. Are you ready for that conversation 😅

[@naturallyaishaj]

It's more than lack of effort in the past vs now. Are you ready for that conversation 😅

[@naturallyaishaj]

It's more than lack of effort in the past vs now. Are you ready for that conversation 😅

[@ilakha111]

Easy fix. If spouses pray every prayer together on time without fail, you will stay together. Prayer should be the foundation of your marriage… speak from experience 👊🏾

[@piqueny8872]

If the husband is at work how can he pray with his wife All prays? Don’t work if religion is not a priority in everything couples do the marriage will fail Especially interference if in laws

[@sssppp1773]

Completely 💯 agree! Praying together keeps the waswas and Shayateen away.

[@ilakha111]

@@piqueny8872 Thank you for sharing your thoughts brother. I appreciate today living in the west means working for an employer, but I would encourage each Muslim to open their own business. This will allow you to both earn money without being dependent on a wage thereby giving you the opportunity to establish the worship of Allah swt in your house. It's your duty as a husband and father if you have children to make this happen for your families sake. As for interference from in-laws, you as the man of your own household should be able to set boundaries with anyone that interacts with you. If you're unable to, I would suggest you seek assistance through your community or family members who can support you to achieve this.

[@SA-dl6su]

@@piqueny8872 it’s why I always advice my sisters NEVER marry a man that isn’t consistent with his prayers. If he isn’t committed to ﷲ, how will he commit to you? Same works vice versa. Don’t marry a sister that doesn’t pray.

[@piqueny8872]

@@SA-dl6sua Muslim marriage organisations found out men who were seeking marriage where pray 5 times! yet they had gfs baby mommas did drugs alcohol had tattoos the local imam confessed some married men who attended farj in the masjid but admitted they were off to the brothel houses after pray tellin the wife they were still at the masjid doing extra worship A person may pray fast during Ramadan yet there characters and actions is haram You have to Check all boxes these days not just based on there prays

[@gladtidings7874]

Marriages breakdown because people don’t interview the person they’re marrying. They don’t get character references, They don’t ask important questions like do you pray, what is your aqeeda, what sheikhs do you take your deen from, how many children do you want to have, do you want me to work or stay at home etc. The person might be an abuser in a previous marriage, an adulterous or a weed addict but because you didn’t do your due diligence you won’t know til after the nikkah. Another reason is there is less arrange marriages now. Arrange marriages work better (when the two people are put together for the right reasons) because they tend to be more compatible.

[@coumba5527]

My ex husband is a very good liar even when it was about Deen. Sooo maybe we women should ask for proof. Like: asking to go through his what's app to confirm that he doesn't talk to women. Wish I had done that rather than believing him 😞. People need to be honest from day 1 otherwise how do u want it to work

[@MrOsmanu]

Marriages fall apart because men have no conditions and women too high. The average woman today believes that she is better than the average man. And as long as it is, nothing will change. No man has to prove anything to a woman. The other way around, yes.

[@austinmacc]

You probably are as good as him at lying that's why you were both married​@@coumba5527

[@tarekahmad2978]

​@@coumba5527my ex wife was a lying cheating narcissistic woman who pretended to be Muslim. Be careful out there brothers and sisters

[@Osmosis3210]

@@coumba5527husbands who commit zina in marriages are the worst wallahi

[@pamk380]

One thing I didn’t necessarily agree on is just say you are open to living with in laws, u do your nikah then move in the after some time u realise actually I’m not comfortable with this, you shouldn’t have just stick it out because that could cause resentment towards the husband and then the marriage breaks down either way.

[@jolaoshoabdulbateen8239]

That's why communication is very important. Emphatic Communication would work in this case 😊

[@Rclsllh]

1. Men aren’t qawamuna/ masculine anymore, they see women as someone to compete not someone to provide, protect, support, love, etc. 2. They don’t prioritize their marriages but involve their mothers and have no boundaries with their moms 3. Unrealistic Expectations 4. Social media 5. Surrounding yourself with echo chambers 6. Low imaan and taqwa 7. Expecting your spouse to be everything (best friend, therapist, maid, nanny, chef, etc)…your spouse is one person and can’t fit all these roles 8. Unsealed traumas 9. Marrying the wrong incompatible person based on superficial reasons like looks 10. Sihr, ayn, etc.

[@imranniazi3983]

There needs to be mass research on Muslims, we don’t have enough data on ourselves to have a starting point of where to start solving the problems

[@Amazigh_MaeMae]

People dont put up with stuff anymore. Women have their own money and are not depended on a man that abuses her and knows she cant go anywhere. Now women can go somewhere.

[@lovehadi7233]

I agree with this. Women know their islamic rights, and men now don't get their way😅

[@RIMJANESSOHMALOOG]

@@lovehadi7233it sounds good but when women have the options to leave, it’s gonna fail obviously

[@bh_11x]

​@RIMJANESSOHMALOOG and what should women do: leave in oppression?

[@RIMJANESSOHMALOOG]

@@bh_11x there many cases where the problem is in the women’s head. A bit of money and they got ego, they will disobey and disrespect and destroy the marriage because of the ego

[@naychagirl2389]

@@RIMJANESSOHMALOOG Many times the woman is getting beat on her head.

[@jamalibnrasit5303]

I find that if a person is knowledgeable of deen and prioritises Allah and has a person who does the same, they can overcome any challenge in sh Allah, but we are weak and can’t all be that consistently good, so we will be as good a couple as we are good muslims and the balance is constantly tipping one way or another. Beware distractions. Pick someone commited to Islam and kind. You will be with who is destined for you.

[@asmaa145]

I don't agree staying with spouses who are not praying at all. Maybe give them some time with showing tham that u are not pleased what they doing. but someone who refuse to praying has no Deen nor does he have Akhlaal prayer is commanded by every prophets and make sure their love families prayed

[@DeqaAbdi-ug5tk]

You should not take a spouse who does not want to pray in the first place.

[@SuperIsadam]

I disagree. You are responsible for yourself and to have patience. Have patience and pray for the spouse to come around.

[@suesue9578]

It’s so sad to hear this …marriage needs patience and Rahma and compassion for your partner. It takes 2 to build a healthy marriage and 1 to destroy it 💔… May Allah bless you my brothers and sisters with god fearing spouses

[@islamonlywayout]

Nicely said

[@temilolaolatunji5703]

If I can add one more-TRUST

[@hani786ish]

Ma’sha’Allah very good podcast

[@umarahmed1187]

Pray ,prioritise,protect,respect ,truth no lies ,love ,loyalty effort ,problem solver ingredients to a happy marriage

[@maimunajawara4485]

Thank you for this podcast

[@ifthi.opinion]

Mashallah a very useful discussion...learnt quite a lot. Jazakumullah khair.

[@IlmFeedPodcast]

Alhamdulillah. Hope you find our other episodes beneficial.

[@ifthi.opinion]

@@IlmFeedPodcast This is the first time I watched your videos. In shaa Allah hoping to watch the episodes which I have missed before. Honestly this episode I have been watching little by little when time permits for almost 4 days. After watching it completely I was happy coz understood the importance of marriage and most importantly how to avoid issues between husband and wife. Jazakumullah khair for the eye opener.

[@321Sapphire123]

JazaakAllahu khayr for this podcast, ustadh Shabbir with Qari Ishaaq. Some very important topics discussed and overall a helpful and beneficial episode الحمد لله.

[@IlmFeedPodcast]

Thanks for watching!

[@Donotcare6]

Because we are far from the religion of Allah (SW). I never seen 2 true worshiper of Allah (SW) having difficulty staying together. But if you're a dayuuth and she believes Feminism is above the law of Allah (SW) good luck with staying married and having a happy marriage. This is very simple. If you want to be happy in this life and next, then make Allah (SW) happy by following his rules.

[@HowToTouch]

Facts.

[@bh_11x]

That is not correct. I have seen atheists with beautiful marriages with a lot if love and respect.People can pray and do all of the fard but they fail in respect, and showing love.

[@abdulmalik-rz6uo]

Very good

[@tatiekbokings7930]

married the one who Allah choose not yours

[@bargaincouture]

Marriage is as hard as we make it. Premarital coaching is vital so you can actually make sure your values are aligned, character is recognised, respect and negotiation are key negotiations. Marriage is constantly contracting with each other to make sure you are aligned.

[@Nabzilla1]

Such an important topic 🙌🏽

[@zaimiztiq]

We need to learn & teach Effective Communication & Collaboration Skills. Conflict management and most importantly respect & self-Respect ❤

[@renatad.2554]

What sheikhs/scholars should we contact and ask for help? Noone is available. They offer counselling which is often very expensive. Once I called an imam, he was rude and dismissed me.

[@ALBYY2412]

True

[@imranniazi3983]

If you live in the US or not there are Muslim psychological services available now, not perfect I get it… but there is something

[@tekkman4485]

Social media..

[@islamonlywayout]

Big problem

[@piqueny8872]

Parents gave the children too much unislamic freedoms Not enough adult responsibilities Taught or given This generation life is work travel vacations out with friends party celebrate every haram holiday Take pictures for social media Me myself and I worldly gain

[@letstakealook123]

Too many speakers romanticise marriage. The rights/responsibilities need to be taught, practicalities, the limits between husband wife , between the couple and in-laws. You all need to know the rules . Speakers don’t speak enough about this

[@YurrahAlHadi]

Can you guys go over the 40 hadiths of marriage?

[@_pomegranateseeds_]

Can you talk about the cases you’ve had regarding infidelity? I found that not a lot of material is available on infidelity after marriage in Islam and how we’re supposed to deal with it except by divorce.

[@japanesemaple2462]

Bear in mind all these topics that are issues now have been dealt with by an older generation with patience

[@jewellerydreamer173]

People marry potential and go in with assumptions without being direct or making own preferences clear. I believe its to do with social media, movies etc placing unrealistic expectations of how a romantic relationship will be. People havena fantasy and delusion in their head of what someone will be like. Husbands marrying virgins but expect them to be experienced in the bedroom and then wives wanting to be provided more because they see on social media going on holidays, eating out etc. Its fine to do all those things but have to be understanding and considerate of eachother. Give eachother basic rights, learn about rights and obligations even after marriage..also dont get parents involved in your disagreements unless its absolutely necessary and give eachother grace and consideration

[@untouchableali]

Marriage is easy. Unless you are a difficult person then the problem lies with you. Life has ups and downs not just marriage. How do you deal with ups and downs in life? You figure it out?! So why can’t couples figure out their issues rather than calling it a day?

[@emma647]

Simple women have economic power now, & thus are not forced to remain in bad marriages like their mothers, nor settle for less just to be married,

[@banirahman4926]

A man wants to divorce his wife because they are not able to conceive a child? That’s terrible and so sad! This happened to one of my cousins.

[@theahmedfahad]

He should marry 2nd instead giving talaq

[@banirahman4926]

@@theahmedfahad He should have accepted Allah’s will and not blame his wife for not being able to conceive. As a couple they could have adopted a child.

[@MikeSpence-wk6iv]

A lot of men are going abroad back to more traditional countries to get married. I know a bengali brother born in the UK and went back to find a wife 10 years his junior from a good family. They now have children, and she's a stay at home mum alhamdulilah.

[@Osmosis3210]

There’s always a third party ! That’s why . It’s not the woman’s fault all the time . Sometimes the men have female friends and ex’s that they still keep in contact with . It’s so sad wallahi .

[@Iamnotheif]

And the women don’t do that? 😂

[@Osmosis3210]

@@Iamnotheif it’s very rare

[@izzlabel]

@@Osmosis3210 oh yeah, women are so pure. they are not human right? the gamma bias is just insane at the moment.you dont know anything.women are are the same as men but i would argue they are worse than men because they take advantage by knowing society is less suspicious towards women.its ok,in akhira we will all see.khalas

[@AbuZuhayr21]

The key to a successful marriage and a happy wife is almost too easy 😅: when she is angry and wants to argue, don’t say anything. If she’s wrong in her argument just say, “ interesting point babe, I never thought of it like that or you really have a strong point or you’re right now that I think about it”. Other than that, give her intense intimacy and affection and study her like a college topic and study her body, her mind, her heart, her entire existence! From there your wife will turn into a crack addict for your presence 😂.

[@bigman5586]

Getting a divorce. All of a sudden my wife becomes a faasiqa and faajira

[@naziastanikzai5997]

It is bcz of social media The ladies and men are watching everything in the social media and it has negative impact on their social relationships

[@johnelway9879]

Imagine getting married

[@MrOsmanu]

We Muslim men think that if we get one with hicab, our lives will be easier and we will be saved. Unfortunately, we only have a picture in front of us, but we know nothing about this person's past. Everyone should know that a woman is not programmed for emotions but for survival. And if she's convinced she can't survive with you, you'll be a very, very, very....................... have a very difficult time.

[@naturallyaishaj]

You can agree to live with in laws but sometimes in laws become abusive and too intrusive. Its not usually as black and white as not keeping your word. Keep your word through how much?

[@Adam-kh9rb]

Zina zina zina Its simple. Never marry someone who has committed zina and thats including yourself. You attract what you deserve.

[@theahmedfahad]

I am indian muslim lived in india and grew in india and moved ro western land 15 years ago . The modern day problem in western muslimsi have seen is high divorce rate bcoz muslims here have lot of free mixing , due to whixh they meet lot of girls and guys , go on dates etc . When things don't work out seek other person , this is how they have multiple relationships before marriage and when they get married , they compare marriage life to dating life ( no duties no bills no worries of families , kids etc) most are not even mature at 30 to get married . They think it's just romantic after marriage and every day honeymoon , Romeo juliet life.

[@aibel99]

Both sexes in the comments section like to blame each other but in reality, we've both hot our faults and if you're honest with yourself, you will recongise this.

[@emma647]

The change in women having economic power is what has result in much divorce, they leave marriages now because they can, whereas before this option wasn't available to them

[@emma647]

With economic power comes choice, men had the monopoly when they had all the economic power, now they don't as women have it too, women now can be choosey on who they marry and who they divorce

[@emma647]

Even non Muslim divorce lawyers have named this as the reason for a rise in divorce, women work, and they feel their men are no longer bringing anything to the table except additional stress/work.

[@aibel99]

@@emma647 ok

[@banirahman4926]

Anyone who wants to divorce the spouse because he or she is not praying. It’s not a good attitude! Encourage your wife or husband to pray instead of threatening to divorce.

[@BlueBlue23]

It is haram to stay married with a person who has abandoned the prayer...

[@banirahman4926]

@@BlueBlue23 If the wife was praying before and then stops praying isn’t it the duty of the husband to encourage the wife to pray and bring her back to the deen.

[@banirahman4926]

@@BlueBlue23 Islam is not a harsh religion. Saying “haram” to this and that is not piety. If your loved one abandons prayer you try to help them and not abandon them.

[@AuthorPreneurElite]

Be a man and leave if you aren’t happy. Divorce is a blessing. Why force two people that aren’t happy to stay together? Do you think prolonging a bad marriage will make things better? Leave before kids come into the picture and the divorce gets ugly. If you’re smart, you’ll learn from your divorce and be better for next time. An older brother at the masjid once told me he doesn’t even look at a man as being a man until he’s been divorced. My parents divorced when I was 10 and they should have divorced 10 years sooner. We need to tell people divorce is good and a protection from ugly, abusive, miserable marriages.

[@Icywar]

Women happiness is based upon man's happiness. Lead the woman they don't know what's good for them except the MAN

[@YurrahAlHadi]

😂 Who told you that?

[@HowToTouch]

​@@YurrahAlHadiExperience

[@bh_11x]

Ahhahahahahahhahahahha I am going to be showed what happines is from man-kids who spend 20 hours a week playing FIFA/watching football etc while I have 100 responsibilities to cover.Great joke😂

[@A.--.]

Foreplay is less fun when you marry late so marry early (around 16-17 if possible).

[@catcoffee7958]

They are still kids at that age,,, and marrige is not only about foreplay,,, get your priorites right xx

[@A.--.]

@@catcoffee7958 did you go to middle school? We were foreplay with our girlfriend in 8th grade (Haram!)

[@shadmani9687]

@@catcoffee7958 16 and 17 year old are not kids just because government says it is. But ofcourse follow the rules in the country. They are not kids regardless.

[@imranniazi3983]

Hit the gym and eat healthy… muscles never age so get going and soon you will be young again

[@Donotcare6]

​@@catcoffee7958😂😂. Istaqfurullah. 17 year old man or woman is not a child.

[@RIMJANESSOHMALOOG]

It’s allowed for women to work but this is destroying marriages I think. Money means something else for women because they are vulnerable. It means they have options to disobey, disrespect or even destroy the marriage, leaving the kids traumatised, just because money gives women some kind of power!

[@banirahman4926]

Working is not destroying marriages. Many wives are working and their marriages are not falling apart. Both husband and wife need to respect each other. That is most important.