Flirting- A Christian’s Guide

[@PaulandMorgan]

Alright, Fam, let’s hear your thoughts on Christians flirting :) Do you agree with where we are coming from? Or do you see things differently? Love you guys!❤️

[@paulbenish]

You guys read my mind. This is the video I was about to ask for

[@PaulandMorgan]

Paul Benish good to hear, Paul!

[@abigailhattersley7220]

I totally agree with what you said in this video! This was very helpful! Thank you!😁

[@lexisellers828]

I agree with y'alls point of view!!❤❤ right on with this video🔥🤙

[@suzyjean3764]

Yes! I agree! And also I am glad that told the guys to step up and be a man. So good!! Amen to that!

[@erickillmonger1101]

I was looking through the book of numbers and realized I don't have yours🤔

[@madisonmclendon7191]

King Wavy yes.

[@erickillmonger1101]

@@madisonmclendon7191 holy CRAP did that actually work 😱😱😅

[@didyouknowJesusisalivetoday]

King Wavy haha

[@annafebland4460]

King Wavy I know when I saw the video from John Crist (I caught you lol) I like fell on the floor when I heard that:

[@erickillmonger1101]

@@annafebland4460 dang it, you caught me 😅😅

[@T-She-Go]

"If I march around you seven times, will you fall for me?" I love that line :D

[@PaulandMorgan]

Haha :P

[@daughteroftheking1676]

Haha haha! 😂 that's cool

[@trumpetbeckyw8]

Hahaha!

[@jonathanculbertson2837]

That is great! lol

[@amritaswift443]

Love this one 😂😂

[@CourageDearHeart316]

I am not being mean but if he is not funny, I am not gonna laugh. I personally believe that I have to enjoy his humor and be honest about it. After all, he is the guy imma spend the rest of my life with.

[@PaulandMorgan]

Right, and if his humor truly repels you, good chance he’s not right for you😊

[@beulaho]

A guy once said a terrible joke, then repeated it, then said "Did you even hear me? Why didn't you laugh?" I said "Yes, I heard you. It just wasn't a funny joke!" 😂 We still talk every now and again, but he's wise enough to keep things serious 😋🤭

[@samsmusichub]

I would agree with this. Me and my fellow Christian bros would like to earn your laughs instead of being gifted sympathy laughs.

[@LivingTrancefully]

Princess Bina Chosen this idea that there is pressure to make a woman laugh is ridiculous. we can have an enjoyable relationship without cracking jokes constantly. you can find laughter without humor.

[@caroelizau]

I'm pretty sure what they meant was that some people (like Morgan's friend) don't laugh at the joke because they're nervous, not necessarily because they don't find it funny... Also, if you don't enjoy his humor then you might not want to spend the rest of your life with. :)

[@cheyannlematrix]

I think it's okay to flirt. As long as it's in a Godly way and you REALLY like them, and not just leading them on or doing to try and make someone else jealous.

[@PaulandMorgan]

Alaska Jones exactly!

[@diaa2841]

Motivation is very important, don't play dirty games😉

[@tskjesusfreak]

No, affairs happen, so don't even come close to flirting with someone of the opposite sex.

[@kaylenejantjes8113]

Flirting in a godly way? What would that look like?

[@irinaamariei1705]

That's right. If two persons like each other they will flirt without even realising it. I mean a guy will make eye contact, will try to be in the same group to the girl, be funny around the girl he likes, and same for girls, they will laugh at his jokes, play with they hair, etc. As long as you have good intentions,if you are truly interested in somebody I think it's perfectly ok to flirt.

[@sunshinehurricane1139]

I'm sorry I just have to say Morgan always has the best looking hair

[@PaulandMorgan]

Sunshine Hurricane awe hehe thank you❤️❤️

[@annabellesiegel4335]

Sunshine Hurricane is that a flirt

[@sunshinehurricane1139]

@@PaulandMorgan your welcome 😍

[@hilary1014]

oh my gosh i was thinking the exact same thing!

[@ellihighfill8189]

Yesssss!!!!

[@sarahjuntunen5884]

Guys, be a gentleman! Even the little things like holding a door open, mean so much to a girl. She will notice if you do it, and she will notice if you don't. Personally, one of my main requirements for dating/marrying if that the man is a gentelman.

[@PaulandMorgan]

This is true

[@sarahjuntunen5884]

@@PaulandMorgan thanks for the reply, love you guys😀!

[@hopefitzpatrick6484]

Sarah Juntunen Absolutely 👏👏👏

[@gods_messenges1191]

@@PaulandMorgan yea it is true my friends

[@Coleslaw97]

Sarah Juntunen, wow, i am so glad to hear that girls still appreciate chivalry!

[@carleedanielle13]

I have always enjoyed when a boy I was interested in said my name! Good tip!

[@aidylweiss.]

Carlee Sadler Reminds me of this Brooke Fraser lyric that I love: "I could write a million songs about the way you say my name." :)

[@View-sc8wf]

Carlee Sadler or when they say a nickname. Like how my name is Sophia, whenever a guy calls me Sophie, not only does he get my attention more but I know almost instantaneously that he likes me lol

[@nick624179]

People love when someone says their name

[@raewynshaw462]

Eye contact, the only type of contact allowed.

[@eshtonadams8121]

Flirtings cool when you know your limit and intentions😌🔥

[@PaulandMorgan]

eshton adams right on!

[@diaa2841]

Yes, limits!👍

[@tskjesusfreak]

No, affairs happen. That is why I can't flirt with any woman.

[@eshtonadams8121]

@@tskjesusfreak then you're doing it wrong buddy.... then you needa change the limit your flirting goes to, don't flirt to the point where it seems like you're tryna have an affair

[@tskjesusfreak]

@@eshtonadams8121 it starts out that way. I'm getting advice from the reformed perspective. Guys like John MacArthur, Steve Lawson, James White, Paul Washer and the late R C Sproul. They all say one should not flirt.

[@grantprairie5307]

Just quote Song of Songs and tell her that her neck is like a tower of Babylon. Worked for Solomon: the man did get married 700 times... Why am I still single?...haha...ha...

[@ruthannpayne9010]

Grant Prairie lol

[@Jeremiah0809]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@heilabang1044]

😂

[@soapy3112]

😂😂😂😂

[@joseluiso1611]

hahahah you made my day

[@nissihires3518]

I was literally hoping someone would do a video on Christian flirting, and who better to do it then y'all! Thank you!

[@PaulandMorgan]

Whoop whoop!!

[@sarahmatos1658]

Morgan’s hair literally ALWAYS looks incredible. Drop a hair routine girl!! I’m struggling over here 😂😂

[@PaulandMorgan]

Haha you're sweet! :P

[@cindyhampson5859]

Just be you Sarah! God made you beautiful! Your value is not in your hair

[@rachelmoore4438]

So I have been flirting a lot with this guy for a few months and he finally took the first step and we are dating now! We have been twice and we are going out again soon.

[@PaulandMorgan]

YAY!! :)

[@Musterdseed87755]

Hows it going 8 months down the line?

[@Moosewoodworks]

Update?!?!

[@meanmasherttv3285]

How did it go?

[@rachelmoore4438]

@@meanmasherttv3285 oh my gosh that's been so long ago! We dated for a month and then I realized we would be better as friends. There really wasn't any spark ig. I was right and we are still close. He even helps me try and get other guys. I haven't seen him in a while but we will see each other soon!

[@thomashouk5434]

My mother taught me to be the one walking closest to the street, which is one rarely mentioned. God bless you and thank you for a great video!

[@erikabutterfly]

I think the most important element is trusting God, praying about and for whoever you are interested in.

[@PaulandMorgan]

😊

[@aletheamarie1341]

I like that at the end of the video ya'll said "we'd like to hear your opinion so we can have a conversation about it"... That is HUGE. Even if people disagree with them these youtubers want a conversation. Yes you heard right. Wow. :) Two thumbs up here. And I also love the vid.

[@maryc8502]

I know way too many single women that really wanted to get married and never did because they never showed interest. I wouldnt show interest in most cases and i almost missed getting married for not allowing myself for guys to approach me (including my husband in first instances )My husband called me (cuz he lived in a different state) after my Bible school graduation to congratulate me and we werent friends so I just knew from that call that he was interested...my husband was bold and intentional.

[@PaulandMorgan]

Love that! Thanks for sharing, Mary😊

[@virgeleyp.4040]

Yes thanks for sharing!!! ♥️ because i always reject a guy and say “I’ll wait for what God will say” in my mind and purposely ignore them. And wasn’t taught how to show interest.

[@johnpeake3560]

Mary C m

[@johnpeake3560]

Paul and Morgan h

[@LivingTrancefully]

Mary C when I’m bold and intentional, pursue the girl, they tell me they want a man who doesn’t care about them. Christian women. Let me ask you, were his looks very important to you? For example, if he was ugly but treated you the way he did, would you still have married him?

[@megandelli1]

I totally agree with you guys on this. Especially the saying the name part! When my husband says my name I'm taken aback a little and feel butterflies! I know this wasn't the point of the video, but your video really reminded me to flirt more with my husband because it's so easy to forget that!

[@PaulandMorgan]

That's sweet

[@AnnaPotts818swifferbaby]

I'm Soo shy! Flirting is honestly talking for me lol

[@PaulandMorgan]

You have to determine what flirting is for you, what you are comfortable doing! :)

[@Marie-oh8es]

Same😂 I just never know what to say

[@Moosewoodworks]

@@PaulandMorgan Wow, that really makes since. I always get anxiety when watching these types of videos bc of how different everyone’s style is but this video helped me a lot, thank you. I’ve had a crush on this girl all my life as I’ve know her since I was born through Sunday school but I’ve always been so scared because of how beautiful and KIND and crazy she is. But I feel like since my interest in her has never gone away that maybe it’s a sign from God so it’s prob about time I really get out there. There’s just one issue. I’m a freshman and she’s a junior in high school but luckily I’m not a small freshman lol. Tbh it is a little intimidating tho bc of that lol.

[@cstanard10]

You both make me laugh so much!!! The awkward “hiiiiiii” 😂 You’re so informative, relevant, practical, entertaining, and you speak TRUTH!! Your content is solid. Thank you! ♥️♥️

[@JamesPrime1]

Everyone knows that the best way to show interest in someone is to: 1. Stay as far away from them as possible. 2. Say absolutely nothing. 3. Avoid any and all eye contact 4. Ask God why they don’t like you. Or am I doing it wrong?

[@PaulandMorgan]

Haha no, no...that's perfect! :P

[@Estiexo]

Yep I needed this im that girl who avoids the guy they like smh. This helped a lot though so thanks :)

[@meganhassenkamp5303]

Estie P haha me too 😂

[@PaulandMorgan]

haha you have to be confident in yourself and then that confidence will flow into how to present yourself to others

[@leahh.5107]

Same. This video was helpful. 😂 I don't know what I'm doing.

[@omphashandukani6524]

Estie P I’m also in the same boat.

[@randomperson-zs5wb]

This is so me 😭

[@mollyprins3930]

Does anyone else think it’s funny that Morgan Cat Statue just causally sits in the background? 😂

[@PaulandMorgan]

😺😼😺😼

[@caroelizau]

YES! I was waiting for someone else to comment on it xDDDD

[@semire11]

Kinda weird

[@duct_tapeheart6484]

Omg. Im 27 yall... TWENTY SEVEN!!! 🙈 I've rededicated my heart and purity to Christ, I moved back home to my college town and serve in my local youth ministry and with the most awesome kids at work...HOWEVER, my dating pool has been dry for years lol. You hear me?!!! 😩 I had a crush on an old schoolmate long distance. Then I told him so, and he was like "no ma'am!" lol... I thought... He loves kids, I love kids, he's single, I'm single, we both love Jesus, made occasional eye contact in the library- maybe his heart skipped a beat like mine! ...nope! *sigh So that was embarrassing, but he didn't stop liking my stuff on social media even though I unfollowed him in an attempt to disappear... Which proves it wasn't as cringey as I thought. However, THASSIT!!! That's almost a year's worth of romance 🙈 I'm lowkey thinking I should join a convent (those gals get to do all kinds of missions trips FO FREE!!! 😍 )

[@Emily-ok1nq]

Coming from a 17 year old who’s never dated and genuinely doesn’t know how to flirt...thank you :)

[@tskjesusfreak]

I disagree with that. Flirting should only happen between a husband and a wife only. Flirting leads to sins like affairs, sex outside of marriage, and lusting. Start listening to John MacArthur, Steve Lawson, James White, R C Sproul, and other reformed guys. They never flirted outside of their marriages and have wonderful marriages.

[@account10558]

@@tskjesusfreak Flirting shows someone that you're interested, I have no idea what you're talking about 😂

[@chocogirlxo5608]

Lol the definition of me...twinsies 😊

[@lattesdarling]

Of course!!! Flirting is so important!!❤️

[@PaulandMorgan]

lattesdarling 😄😄❤️

[@sierrab489]

Honestly, without ANY flirting at all it's not only harder to approach someone but also it can be really weird when you do because neither one of you has any clue that the other had interest in you in the first place haha it's kind of a necessity in a way. XD plus.. it's also a little fun 😏

[@diaa2841]

@@sierrab489 agree with you! Flirting is needed, but just in right way😉

[@tskjesusfreak]

Disagree with the whole notion of flirting. Why? Affairs happen. Only flirt with your spouse. If you don't have a spouse flirting still can be dangerous. Don't ever flirt.

[@DeathxStrike18]

Flirting is a form of fornication if your looking for the person your meant to be with Pray to the Lord Jesus Christ to show you who your supposed to be with and a sign to be certain their the one you dont need to date God will bring you togeather if you ask and have faith. I prayed to God and 2 days later got a text message from the person I'm ment to be with after they said they had this strange urge to call me and see how I was doing God is the greatest dating app because he knows who your ment to be with before you and knows who's right for you.

[@ruthbarboza4609]

I always avoid the boys that I like 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@nick624179]

I assume that a girl acting like that doesn't like me. The things we do...

[@ruthbarboza4609]

nick 😀

[@BELLAGENEVIEVE-i3b]

Morgan, your hair looks sooo pretty!!! Also, I am very bubbly like you and it was good to hear that I can just tone it down sometimes cause it does seem like I have a flirty personality. Yall are a beautiful couple. God bless.

[@PaulandMorgan]

You're sweet! And of course you can tone it down! It is not wrong to be bubbly, everyone just has to learn how to present themselves most effectively! :)

[@mada7393]

“ Hii👀🙂” 🤣🤣Morgan, your hair looks gorgeous😍

[@PaulandMorgan]

Vegan With Love Thank You❤️❤️

[@hopefitzpatrick6484]

Vegan With Love True

[@dragonairbender1796]

Impress those girls with those Bible versus

[@eymerich6872]

I think this is gonna be a hit guys try it while flirting !! Timothy 2:11 "Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection…" pretty sure she will be impressed :P

[@fionandanu9060]

@@eymerich6872 Nope , actually that hurts my ears

[@fionandanu9060]

Tell 'em!

[@nick624179]

Yes, tell a girl "your hair is like a flock of goats"

[@hopep8371]

Love this video! Something that I’ve noticed on a few dates that is “good weird” is when the guy will come over to open my car door for me before getting in on his side! It’s clearly intentional and no one really does that nowadays!

[@PaulandMorgan]

That's a good tip for guys too :)

[@HeatherJaneBirkeland]

Hope P the guy I’m trying to know did that a couple of times too!!!

[@rebeccadurden4281]

The laughing thing is such a great one for me. I have always been the class clown and the person who likes to make people laugh so if I notice someone who genuinely laughs (or at least pretends to) it really stands out to me! Love this video!

[@PaulandMorgan]

It makes sense :)

[@fionandanu9060]

Is your name Faith? Coz you're the substance of things I've hoped for

[@PaulandMorgan]

😂🙌

[@OxoRoxo]

I love this🔥🔥

[@smoothsolja404]

Nice

[@saharbrown1751]

Yes! It's really helpful to me that you guys are talking about this from a christian perspective❤

[@PaulandMorgan]

:)

[@liveyourbest]

Christians aren’t allowed to flirt..? When did anyone ever say rhat nonsense...I’m a transitional Christian and I flirt all the time and love to do so as well😂

[@justchilling704]

Lol do you have urges?

[@jeanmarieperez8528]

amen amen, needed this. Thank you so much for your point of view on this aspect. It’s very helpful!

[@PaulandMorgan]

Jeanmarie Perez so glad to hear that! ❤️

[@joshuadiaz6777]

You guys are so enjoyable to watch. Love all your vids. 💯⚡️

[@PaulandMorgan]

Thank you, Joselito!

[@mbabaziguma]

Morgan said, "wear your hair down and play with it"... So, what do girls who have afros and whose hair goes up and not down do? Otherwise, fun video!!💕💕 Keep on keepin' on!

[@braylap]

Mbabazi Guma good point

[@deja-58]

Girl, I guess just twist your puff. Look like you enjoying the conversation. Haha.

[@anaf6984]

I think she meant if you have long hair.

[@mbabaziguma]

@@braylap Thank you!

[@mbabaziguma]

@@deja-58 LOL😂😂😂 good one!

[@elishajacobs8026]

If you haven't already you should do a video of how NOT to flirt. Sooo many guys think that calling a girl sexy is appropriate flirting for Christians...

[@PaulandMorgan]

True, thanks for the topic :)

[@elishajacobs8026]

@@PaulandMorgan no problem. I just recently started watching your videos (had never heard of you guys before) and they have been a real blessing. :)

[@osselot]

Thank you for your vids! I watched ur last one on spiritual gifts, and it came at just the right time. For the past few weeks, God has been putting it on my heart that I have the gift of prophecy. When I went to church our youth pastors sermon was talking about spiritual gifts, and he said "I pray that some of you will have the gift of prophecy" and I knew God was talking to me. So I prayed with my youth pastor and we talked about it, and I'm really excited to use my gift. Ik I left some of the details out, but I do know that God has given me this gift. So basically can u guys pray for me that i can use this gift to help others? P.S God has been speaking to me too! Like he has told me sooooo much about me, and what he wants me to do, which is super cool. Love your videos! Keep up the good work!💜💜💜💜

[@PaulandMorgan]

Katie That’s so cool! Praise God, that’s a really special gift!

[@jessimitchell2051]

I am SO GLAD that you two put out this video!! I cannot flirt for the life of me and it really bothers me. I don't know what to do around guys who I am interested in. I freeze up, am super awkward, or simply avoid them. But I don't like that this is how I act around guys I am interested. I want to know how to flirt in a normal way that is not over powering but is obvious. I am also 20 and have never been in a relationship, so I do not have any past flirting experience to help me haha. So yes, I think it is fine for Christians to flirt... with someone that they are genuinely interested in. But I disagree with flirting with everyone or just trying to lead people on, because that is playing with emotions which is not okay. Paul and Morgan, THANK YOU for your tips to flirting! I would love even another video (maybe collab with other KZbinrs) where you can talk about this topic more and give more tips.

[@yaely4115]

Did Paul Just Dab?

[@PaulandMorgan]

Yael Y oh you know it!

[@samsmusichub]

Like a boss!

[@beatricesophiayounga3889]

he does it almost every time ahahahaha lol

[@prime201]

Yael Y that is of the world.

[@nick624179]

Christians dont know such things.. #sin

[@gabbym333]

To flirt, just read the person verses from the Song of Songs. Some of favorite verses include: -I liken you, my darling, to a mare among Pharaoh’s chariot horses. -Your hair is like a flock of goats descending from the hills of Gilead. 2 Your teeth are like a flock of sheep just shorn, coming up from the washing.

[@graciemcgrane2056]

“I will give an authentic response...” *goes and smells hair* -Paul 2018 😂

[@PaulandMorgan]

:P

[@abbeymorrison5431]

Thank you so much for making this video!! I am one of those awkward girls and I accidentally avoid the guys I find attractive sometimes and this video was SUPER helpful!

[@PaulandMorgan]

We're glad you found it helpful! :)

[@petralines1376]

I totally feel that part about the bubbly personality. There are guys that think I like them when I totally didn't mean that. This does make it harder because I can't tell how the guy I actually do like feels about me. I just discovered and love your videos! Thank you for answering these types of questions from a Christian perspective!

[@PaulandMorgan]

Thanks for the comment😊

[@samy7789]

you guys fill so many gaps when it comes to my knowledge about dating as a Christian so thank you for making these videos (esp because im heading off to college in the fall)!!!

[@PaulandMorgan]

Thanks for your support! And good luck next fall!! :)

[@michaelsaviano2802]

Ahhh seeing that fresh shave on Paul is a good sight😂. In all seriousness though, I needed this video. Thanks guys, I love you both, hopefully this retreat happens bc it would be so exciting to meet you both !

[@PaulandMorgan]

haha yes! And we hope the retreat happens too! We would love to meet you! :)

[@priscillaahlers]

Oh my gosh saying, the name thing is so true! I love when people say my name. It makes my heart so happy ❤️

[@PaulandMorgan]

[@mahalashelby381]

Lovedddd the video! Been watching for the past two weeks now and have been on a Paul and Morgan marathon all evening lol. Keep up the great work!

[@PaulandMorgan]

awe that's so sweet! Thank you :)

[@stephanies577]

Ya know this kinda hit home for me, I think you guys are right. In our culture, that's how you find someone you want to marry. We don't have to be like Isaac and Rebekah in the bible and wait for God to provide some kind of sign haha. In college if there were guys I liked I fell into that category of shy-away-and-don't-let-on-you-like-him... Sure, even go on a date with someone, it doesn't have to mean a whole lot, but genuinely get to know them as a friend at least! :) I think the other side of this would be my friends who do the courtship thing...even then, some flirting or making your intentions known is healthy, in my opinion.

[@ivoryiris97]

The name thing is RIDICULOUSLY true. You notice it (sometimes subconsciously) and it just makes you feel special and seen.

[@dmeads5663]

You two are the luckiest people in the world.

[@monicamarie4986]

🤓📝 (taking notes) 1.Hey Sarah ... 2. Staring contest 3.LOL Jk. Awesome video guys!!! Love youuuu guyyyyss!!!

[@kellynorthern3612]

This is great! and Morgan thanks for the advice about being aware if you are too bubbly or outgoing and how that can deter a guy without you trying. I’m naturally super friendly towards EVERYONE so I find it hard to know where the line is in still being my true self but also how to make it apparent that I’m interested in someone

[@PaulandMorgan]

Yeah, you have to be yourself no matter! God has created you in a special way :) now to figure out how to best express that to others :)

[@shanerothman4357]

Thanks for making this video. My wife and I just watched. We also should guard our hearts in case the person isnt interested. This happened to me a few times and it was really good, so it wasnt awkward around them and could still je friends.

[@PaulandMorgan]

this is true :)

[@wattoreviews7193]

Seriously tho, I only realise a girl was flirting with me like, way after.

[@Jovan_Zae]

Man I love y’all! Thank you for being awesome, needed this video! I’ve been afraid way too long to pursue this girl I’ve been interested in for a while. It’s time to do what I need to do!

[@zoeo792]

I’m jewish but I really enjoy y’alls vids. It’s not very often I find myself taking religious advice but you guys make it seem so logical! thanks. keep being great.

[@PaulandMorgan]

Thanks for watching!

[@Sarahannamaria]

Yeah I have that happy bubbly personality that gets every guy to misunderstand me... 😄

[@PaulandMorgan]

😊😊

[@djwafflez9354]

Me too!

[@TheChocchipcookie]

Love this! So helpful to hear it’s okay to show that you notice someone and like them without feeling guilty or weird about it. Loved this video.

[@PaulandMorgan]

Yeah!😄

[@mrsturtevant1]

I always seem to make that mistake of only wanting to go out with a girl if it leads to potential marriage. Thank you Paul for the reminder that going out on dates is about making new friends.

[@An19941]

Oh man, the bubbly thing has been an issue for me SO many times and it's something I've been worried about now that I actually think I may have met "The One'' (who's in Australia right now, so thank the Lord that I have some time to practice this pulling back thing). Thank you for opening my eyes and helping me realize that pulling back in an option lol! And for the tips, nearly all are pretty "scary" to me (except for laughing, smiling and cute nervous ticks since those happen naturally), because love is one big bawl of nerves and leaving your comfortzone, I'll try them out once he's returned (in February, so I've got some time to get used to the idea of flirting (in a way that is a little more obvious while still subtle) with him :P)

[@PaulandMorgan]

It doesn't need to be scary! Just practice being clam and relaxed. Be yourself, and good luck with your guy!:)

[@An19941]

@@PaulandMorgan aww thanks for the advice, that's something I'll focus on. I will, always. Thanks, if there's a development, I'll let you guys know

[@tavernwenchreads]

This could not have been uploaded at a better time!

[@PaulandMorgan]

awe good :)

[@afkoppauthor]

"Or they purposefully avoid them..." DON'T CALL ME OUT. I've been notorious for this in the past. And Morgan's note on being Bubbly and Charismatic IS SO TRUE TO ME! Everyone calls me too optimistic and happy. I honestly don't know how to show I'm interested since the only time I hang out with the guy I am interested in is with my sister and we make sure we don't hang out alone. My sister would probably get freaked out and wonder what I was doing if I complimented him or whatever. And I want to know if these things are considered flirting. -I accidentally kicked his shin underneath the table and I apologized and he said, "As long as you aren't playing footsie with me" with a huge smile on his face. -At a costume party I was a tree, and my twig fell off and he started hitting my shoulder with it and said, "I'm hitting on you!". -Over text he asked what my plans were and when down the road I'd like to get a boyfriend and where I'd go to college. I responded with "after college I want to settle down" and I asked WBY. He said his plans and said he wanted to settle down and marry a girl after she finishes college. I mean, I think there were more but they aren't coming up. Any advice?

[@cbebop5]

I definitely think he's interested in you..! He's asked you great questions, especially the one in regard to your future. And his attempts to flirt with you are both funny and adorable. :) I would suggest complimenting him on his wit, or complimenting him on his conversational skills. Just try to figure out a way to compliment and or encourage him, so that he feels comfortable that you're open to him pursuing you further.

[@monanana-04]

Omigosh, yasss😍😍 saying their name is truly such a good tool! I love it when ppl ya my name. It’s kinda shows(to me) that they are truly interested in talking to me. It’s gahh so interesting and effective!

[@PaulandMorgan]

Yes girl! :)

[@legolaslotrmcufan9002]

As a girl I can confirm that I LOVE it when a guy says my name, uses eye contact, and when he is a gentleman!

[@KendraMBrandon]

Paul and Morgan, I love watching you’re videos; they definitely make me think! 😀 Just a suggestion... it would be really cool if you guys made a video on what it looks like when a guy pursues a girl in a genuine, God- honoring way. Thank you for all you are doing!!

[@PaulandMorgan]

Thanks for your support :)

[@kealrae3247]

I've been watching you're channel alot lately on all topics of love, dating, relationships and everything to do with this subject. I'm interested in a guy in my youth group n hes intrested in me. I just want all the Christian advice I can get. Thanks for being a youtuber who's open about their faith and the topics church's dont talk about often love you guys!

[@hannahdonaldson9537]

GOALS. I pray that someday I have a relationship as genuine and Godly as you guys clearly have.❤️

[@PaulandMorgan]

God will bring the right one in the right time :)

[@Chryslerdealership]

You both are so cute together!! :) (I hope that doesn't sound weird lol). I hope I will find a guy like Paul who loves God, has humor, and can sing, and that my future relationship will be just as godly as yours'! Thank you so much for this channel!!

[@joannalambright738]

Ahhhhh!!!!!!! I love you Paul & Morgan!!!!😍😍🔥 amazing video💗💗

[@PaulandMorgan]

Aweee you’re awesome Joanna😊❤️

[@xxTheSkilletFreakxx]

Morgan is literally my spirit animal

[@chriswilson5480]

You're never fully dressed without a smile. I love it.

[@PaulandMorgan]

:) :P

[@oliviaromero1371]

"Stop being scaredy cats!" Lol so great 😂

[@PaulandMorgan]

:P

[@jessicabogle30]

One thing that I would say is don't compliment a girl too much. My date did that one time, and it made me never want to go on a date with him again because he was focusing on my appearance and I felt uncomfortable. Just a suggestion from a girl that doesn't want all that attention.

[@PaulandMorgan]

Thanks for sharing! :)

[@noblepuzzler1536]

The name one is so true! If a guy says my name, especially if he has a nice voice, it plucks my heart strings!

[@dianasimina]

This video came out too late for meee 😢😂 now i'm married but i totally agree with you guys and i soo needed that back in my single days! In the 4 years after i got baptized and before getting married this summer, I actually struggled with flirting and i kinda had some problems (who got very known from the whole church, and it's a big church - hundreds of people...) with a guy from my church. I also have a very outgoing personality like you Morgan, and this happened in the period when i just got into the church, i was new in faith and didn't rly know how to behave as a christian. And I met this guy and i was all nice and ME with him and of course he thought i liked him, and he fell in love with me (in my defence, during 2 weeks) and it got a bit nasty.. I had to tell him that i don't like him in the same way, he didn't understand why because i was so nice to him, our pastor heard about the whole thing, he called me and said he wants to talk to me, the whole church heard something about it at jumped at conclusions and I turned out to be the bad guy who hunts and hurts little nice christians. And it was 2 years before he got over me and before people in the church let me forget about it and it was tough for me, being at the very beginning in my walk in faith, to go through that and not turn back to my old life, because it was tempting... but Jesus was holding me with His birth hands ♥️ And it was tough to learn how to back down a bit, i turned out pushing every guy away without even realising, because i was trying to be the exact opposite of how I normally am, until a guy told me to get off my "back off" sign from my forehead 😂 only then i realized how bad it was 😂 and I came to the conclusion that I have to back down from flirting for a while and focus on my relationship with God. And i've done so util last year when I met my husband 😁♥️ So everyone, take this flirting thing serious enough because it can turn out bad for someone... And story No.2, my husband, while we were dating, told the most not funny jokes 😂.. but i love him and i learned to love his kind of humor and his jokes ♥️ and now i genuinely think they are funny, i just used to have a different taste of humor, i still have it but i made room for his too 😁 so don't be so harsh about it, try to see where this person is coming from. If he/she is a good christian he/she won't tell bad/missoginist/racists/etc jokes so there's nothing that you can't try to accept and end up to like or even love, because trust me, in a future marriage there will be a lot of compromise - the jokes will be the easy part 👍 (Sorry for the novel, i just felt that I have to share)

[@dianasimina]

but Jesus was holding me with His BOTH* hands 😂 sry autocorrect....

[@PaulandMorgan]

Thank you for sharing! That's is awesome! :)

[@semire11]

Don't date as a teen. There is a time for everything. Enter Into a PURPOSEFUL RELATIONSHIP; when ur ready for marriage

[@kimberlyjennings618]

Aw thanks for sharing!

[@rosemnjeri4912]

Smiling really works...especially when guys make eye contact,don't look away ..look briefly and SMILE it makes someone feel welcome to come talk to you.

[@danielle_jireh]

I can't believe your guy's channel is getting a wider audience!!

[@PaulandMorgan]

We're blessed :)

[@joselovestamales256]

1:00 the word is Connotation And I'm 14 btw but I have more self-conscious than the rest of kids at my school and church so I worry about these things. I also am the worship leader, my organization has this rule where you are put in "discipline" while dating I won't be playing for that period.

[@mariaalessia2557]

Was wondering if you could do a video on your thoughts on teen dating and what age do you think is reasonable to date? Love this vid btw🙌🙌☺️☺️

[@ddraper4819]

Maria Wright i think 16-17 is a good age. That way you can drive yourself to dates and stuff. Its awkward having your mom drive you. I started dating my husband at 16. Got married at 21. I do however sometimes wish I would of dated later because we knew we wanted to get married 2 months in and couldnt because we couldnt legally get married at 16. So we had to wait several years.

[@mahalashelby381]

Maria Wright sammeee it would be a great topic

[@melbabennett8191]

Yes

[@nick624179]

@@justchilling704 I hope you talk to your church leaders 😅

[@leahrempel1579]

Yes to the name thing!! And if they are a twin (like me), they probably hear their name less than the average person because not everyone knows which twin you are.

[@joelsaldana2468]

Love how you guys worded it at 10:29. Yes most definitely us guys need to be intentional and pursue her from the get go. 👌🏼💯

[@PaulandMorgan]

😊

[@joelsaldana2468]

Paul and Morgan 😀

[@anna-rebeccajohnson9480]

@Morgan, I 100% understand you. We have similar personalities, and one time my best friend said “No offense, but sometimes guys think you’re flirting with them, because you giggle a lot.” 😂 The bubbly personality struggle is REAL. Love to watch y’all. I recently started a channel, and y’all were a huge inspiration in why I wanted to do that. Keep it up! 💕

[@meanmasherttv3285]

I thank you guys for this. As an adult who has recently found faith and lived quite a different life prior to Christ, Im clueless on how to flirt because I'm used to taking it across the line. Thank you guys for sharing these tips!

[@somethinggood9267]

And I think your right, I'm one of those girls who can talk to any guy really easily, until I like them...then it's awkward as all get out

[@ashgohard]

I truly respect what you two are doing I think it’s amazing !!

[@BixLovesMiley]

You said it yourself, and I really agree that one of the major things when it comes to flirting between Christians is the goal behind it. To not flirt for fun, or to lead someone on, or to boost your own self esteem. Not even to test the waters. Flirting is meant to let the other know you like them and giving them a heads-on, to "suggest" to them to see you in another light and (esp. in contrast to the helplessly-rude-and-ignorant stereotype) give both you the chance to interact.

[@PaulandMorgan]

:)

[@16icecream]

I usually avoid the guy I am interested in

[@YurLord]

It means a lot to a guy when you are interested in talking and hanging out. You shouldn't have to be anyone but yourself around him. The Man of God for you will see and appreciate you for who God made you to be. He will respect and honor you as the daughter of the King. And of course, surround yourself with genuine Godly people who will speak life and encouragement to you. I prayed for the Lord to surround me with brothers and sisters in Christ who are hungry for God and He has been faithful to answer this prayer. He will be faithful to you no matter what.

[@Tesjhkyayy]

I think God has written down the things we have to know in his word, the Bible. If you're flirting it comes to a point where men and women begin to think sexually about each other... and that's not the will of God except you're in a marriage with each other. You urge him/her to think about you in a very emotional and intimate way and that's sin (Ephesians 5,6; 2nd Timothy 3,13). We should live in chastity and flee from temptation (Matthew 26,41)! Love is crazy enough with all these feelings and you don't have to add fuel to the fire... that's just not a holy attitude and very selfish to flirt. Trust in God, pray for thies guy/girl and behave like a good friend who is reliable, godly, forthcoming... God will find a way if it's ment to be. If it's the right one you don't have to do extra work showing your presence or acting flirty... just trust in God and everything will come in place at its best. "17 I urge you, brothers and sisters, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them. 18 For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery they deceive the minds of naive people. 19 Everyone has heard about your obedience, so I rejoice because of you; but I want you to be wise about what is good, and innocent about what is evil." Romans 16,17-19

[@walkingwithH]

Hey guys! I wanna encourage you for the good work you’re doing in the kingdom!❤️ I really felt on my heart to share with you guys that the Lord is challenging you to grow more in the revelation of what it means to involve the Holy Spirit into the journeys of dating and marriage! So I encourage to pray on that, I believe God specifically wants to speak to you and take you deeper into these topics💛 I am so blessed by your ministryy and beautiful anthenticity, may God take care of you more and more!💓

[@ladyjoyarcher1187]

I really appreciate you guys as a couple addressing the nuances in Christian interactions , esp in the modern era - whereas most Christian relationship books have been based off marriage or for engaged couples, from a previous era. I actually have the opposite problem; I’m introverted& quiet. Not that I’ve low self esteem, but that I watch and amylose everyone & interject when somethings important. However, there’s a lot of bold, controlling girls younger than me w/ more $ who I mentor that have informed me they’re obsessed with the Sam guy I’ve been keeping an eye on. I haven’t told them that, because they are also very controlling & tend to dominant any interactions as a group. I couldn’t agree more w/ u both that girls shouldn’t peruse the guy constantly in conversation txts & posts on fb or esp asking them out because God put the man in charge of everything; but they believe “it’s the 21st century, everyone equal, I’m perfectly caliber of asking him to date me even though I’d never propose”. So, it was refreshing 4 me to hear your friend in another video w/ all the guys comment that quiet girls can be Attractive as well. I guess I’m wondering how quiet guys peruse a women, when all the Christian dating books are saying ‘he has to know what he’s persuing first; go add him on fb & start a conversion, go up & say hi to him first’ & where that fine line is between us quiet girls being completely ignored from church cliques again & being perceived as persuing the guy.

[@abischmidt1516]

Yes! Laughing is a massive one! Just have fun, it helps you getting to know the person without stressing out!

[@caroelizau]

I couldn't stop smiling throughout this whole video!! Hahaha!! Anyway... I'm like Morgan, I laugh at everybody's jokes and am just generally nice to everyone, but a loooot of my friends seem to take it the wrong way. I was feeling a bit bummed out a while ago because I felt like guys only wanted to be friends with me to date me and for no other reason, because once I told them I wasn't interested they wouldn't talk to me anymore... I do realize, though, that I might just have to take a step back sometimes... Thanks for the tips! Love you two!!

[@PaulandMorgan]

I think there are times when it is just hard to be close friends with guys as a girl. Don't take them stepping back as a sign they don't want to be your friend. You just keep being you and trusting the Lord to provide the right guy :)

[@caroelizau]

@@PaulandMorgan I'm trying to do exactly that! ♥♥♥

[@angelicalloyd3535]

This gave me so much clarity

[@PaulandMorgan]

Yay :)

[@angelicalloyd3535]

@@PaulandMorgan thank you so much

[@angelicalloyd3535]

Can you make a live video on single virgin because I'm a single virgin my family doesn't approve of the white Australian man I want to meet and marry one day what should I do?

[@richardcuadra1094]

Very cool and informative video thank you for sharing your videos help me in my day-to-day Life as a Christian starting to have a relationship with the opposite sex as a Christian be coming a better person a better Christian

[@molotovmafia2406]

So: getingt to the group using people you know, making eye contact, laughing at each other´s jokes, asking questions, saying their name, not being too bubbly (or introverted), being protective, smiling, being a gentleman, being clear with your intentions (I think this is for men AND women, because women also need to be confident. I´m not and feel the need to be!!!) Thank you for this lesson!!! Better than school!!!

[@kassidyhench299]

I loved this!! The part when you talked about girls who just avoid the guy they like/are unintentionally rude is SOO true! I know so many girls who are like that. 😅 My husband and I started dating in high school and I definitely made it clear that I liked him cuz I wasn’t messing around. 😂 Flirting is so important, how are you ever going to start a relationship without showing interest? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Love you guys and your videos!! 💗

[@PaulandMorgan]

Thank you for sharing