People Treat Me Differently As A Wheelchair User, Depending On How I Look

[@MsAlyssaJM]

What a hard lesson to have to teach

[@whentaniatalks]

It was and it wasn't. Elise sees so much of it in the way people treat me. At least with this I had control over how Elise learned it.

[@user-mq9ov5xk7q]

I partly put on make up sometimes because I want to look capable and put together so no one can see my mental illnesses or disability but since I already don’t look disabled I end up getting treated like crap either way. Just cause one is disabled doesn’t mean they’re not capable and it doesn’t mean we don’t like to look nice for ourselves. For some of us maybe doing our make up is hard when disabled but for others that’s not one of our disability struggles but it doesn’t make us any less disabled. I’m glad you can talk to your daughter and she can learn from you.

[@whentaniatalks]

Yes! I completely agree. Society has such a long way to go in understanding the nuances of disability. It shouldn't be this hard.

[@TruthSeeker413_]

Good on you mum ❤

[@whentaniatalks]

Thank you ❤️

[@schaschia6332]

meanwhile i have an invisible disability apart from some faded surgical scars. I actively try to look less capable as a cry for help since im not responsible for noone but me

[@ladyhagaming]

I hear you, I am in a similar situation to you, but I still try my best to look okayish and tell people when I am having trouble. I don't care what other people think about me. the looking okayish are for me. hugs 2 you

[@whentaniatalks]

I'm so sorry you have to do this. It awful that society places so much emphasis on how we look to determine the support they think we need. It shouldn't be this way.

[@whentaniatalks]

It's such a difficult balance. Thank you for sharing.