Perfume Etiquette: How to Store, Apply and Choose Yours & Why I Keep My Scent a Secret

[@JamilaMusayeva]

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[@liamhain2155]

I actually don't mind when people ask me about my perfume in a respectful way. I recognize that most people ask because they like the perfume (i.e. it's a compliment) and/or would like to research/buy it too. I also don't view it as such a private matter, unlike e.g. my tattoos.

[@fallonpettway8080]

I totally agree with you in regard to keeping your preferred fragrance a mystery. I actually was asked yesterday by a client what Parfum I was wearing, I did not disclose this to them just based off an intuitive notion and now this video airs and I feel it was well played

[@Rose-oo9gn]

Sometimes I don’t mind when I can tell they’re genuinely curious and not necessarily pining after it. They also will have different chemistry. I’ve turned down many requests lol. Nope! ✌️

[@PS-fk5zv]

I'm such a perfume enthusiast (of all types: body mists, indie perfumes, oil perfumes, designer perfumes, niche perfumes, literally all of it!), I will literally give them a full review of the perfume I'm wearing lmao. To me exploring perfume is a hobby that I will happily ramble about. I've never had someone buy the same of my favourite scents tho, perhaps they get overwhelmed by the information dump I unload on them LOL.

[@Mia-ug7zq]

@@PS-fk5zv omgggg I’m the same way! I always give the whole description longevity and notes hahaha

[@sa-fs1zx]

@@PS-fk5zv same!!

[@grazsts3005]

To me, I feel flattered if anyone asks about my perfume. It's the same as complementing my clothes or makeup.

[@annasbano4297]

I love when people ask me about my perfume. That indicates to me it smells good on me and works well with my body chemistry. It helps me with future repurchases.

[@MJZondi]

I even share my perfume to friends and colleagues when they asked me. :)

[@Rk21212]

Some perfumes that contain vanilla notes might change colors to a darker tone and it doesn’t mean that perfume has expired, felt like i needed to add this 💕

[@iambloopy]

So true.

[@abigailphilips825]

Exactly, so does jasmine, it can go a very deep orange. I have some fragrances I've had for 20 years or more, they smell incredible.

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

Thank you! I love my _Vanilla Fields_ and I noticed it did get darker. Good to know. It seems harder to get now, I'm hoarding my stash. ;-)

[@lisaakhtarekhavari7614]

Thanks for this. I wondered why my vanilla scent was looking darker

[@maddy3562]

Exactly!

[@wooottff]

Sometimes "etiquettes" goes over board with their unhealthy rules and mindset naaah it should not be an issue at all to disclose your perfume of course if you don't want to answer is totally another different story, you don't have to, that goes for every question on this planet

[@NikaBanana]

This!

[@maddy3562]

Completely agree! I find it so flattering when i asked about my fragrance or being told I smell good!

[@lithishaislam0000]

What do you mean by "unhealthy"?

[@audreyhapy]

This is so interesting... Here in Brazil we have a much more open and warmer culture, if someone asks about your perfume, it's seen as compliment, it's a way of the person who is asking to say you have good taste and choose well, people even smile when you ask and then proceed to respond proudly. The people that don't want to disclose are perceived as rude or entitled.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

I think people have forgotten that they are not entitled to all answers about someone’s live. Boundaries are important.

[@audreyhapy]

@@JamilaMusayeva So true! But i guess privacy it's not a very popular concept in latin cultures, even when i try my best to be polite and gentle when saying that i don't want to discuss something private, some people Will always get ofended by It.

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

@@audreyhapy maybe the idea of what's private and what not differs in different cultures? - I do not move in circles where people have custom perfumes, so I recognize some of the popular scents anyway. ;-) I use plain and inexpensive _Vanilla Fields,_ and have my eyes on some small batch scents sold on etsy. Mainstream commercial perfumes got a bad rep b/c of certain chemicals. -- Nowadays, asking about someone's perfume might be considered s...ual harassment, but that's another story. (don't want to trigger YT filters)

[@MissTuturutu]

@@JamilaMusayeva people complimenting your fragrance and you identifying that as a breach of privacy…. 🙄

[@swhat9203]

Anyone has a different idea of privacy, and it should be respected. It's her life, and no one HAS to know about it.

[@HecateAngel]

I love when people compliment my perfume & ask what it is. I doubt most people who have asked me actually bought it but it's good to understand what scents you like to find your scent personality.

[@luba2nadia]

I love having a signature perfume that people associate with me whenever they smell it. I find that my signature scent has changed whenever my life greatly changes. For example, I wore the same scent for 9 year while in a relationship. When that relationship ended I felt the need to find a new signature scent. When I smell that perfume now, I love that it brings me back to that era of my life. Do you sometimes associate perfumes/scents to different memories in your life? I am curious to know. ☺️

[@Roblxwithme]

😌😌👍

[@ABC-here]

Totally. Perfumes, songs, certain words or way of talking etc... takes us to specific time in the past or to specific someone

[@dannestfleur2414]

Yes, smells bring me to specific time in my life

[@nyawilitips]

yes it does

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

Oh yes. Smell is a very powerful tool to connect us to events and memories. :-)

[@HautePinkFluff]

I don't mind if someone asks what perfume I'm wearing. The perfume I wear, Coco Mademoiselle, wasn't exclusively made for me, and I think it should be up to the person asking about the fragrance to decide if it works for them or not.

[@Nikwalenda]

100%

[@Yazmínmf]

💯

[@Nomvula26]

Period!

[@SakshiSingh-gk5pq]

Yass

[@nazfarahani2010]

Love this. Love this mentality

[@cristinamagurean]

Hello, I am a perfume lover and, to be honest, I do not agree with some things you said. I love your channel and your videos, I think you are beautiful and smart. To me, one of the greatest compliments is when somebody asks me what perfume I wear. I always reply honestly and it gives me great pleasure to share that information. Also, I like to wear many many many fragrances, I wear them to my heart desire, of course, I am mindful of social etiquette and I try not to be invasive with my perfumes. I don't believe in signature scents, there are so many beautiful scents out there, I could never limit myself to just one or two. I think wearing perfume is such a personal thing and it represents us and our personality. I wish you all the best from Transilvania!

[@mllefren3y]

Hi fellow perfume lover! I agree, the perfume world is so fascinating, so many interesting scents to explore! I therefore also like wearing multiple scents depending on my mood, period of year, etc.and usually disclose them to people asking. Personally I find it very boring wearing only one scent (and Jamila, if you don't smell your perfume on you, it does not mean you found your scent, it means your nose is used to it and people around might actually be suffocating), but everyone is different and I understand when wearing a "signature" scent, one might prefer keeping it a secret, as it's very intimate indeed.

[@cristinamagurean]

@@mllefren3y I absolutely agree, I wear perfume for my own pleasure so if I don't feel it....I change the perfume :)))

[@ferclinancl]

omg I love fragrances too and I have many of them. I wear them depends on my mood, occassion, or weather. But I wish I have a signature scent.

[@ElizRued]

Don't worry. The tip about not disclosing or asking about perfume is her preference not being rude.

[@minoutv7347]

She makes an excellent point that if you are wearing a very expensive perfume, worth hundreds of dollars per bottle, there’s a potential for tongues to start wagging in an unfavorable way about your choices. Instead, if you feel the need to share something, you can always say its a custom blend scent, as there are perfumeries where you can have personal blends created for you.

[@SG-oo8ou]

Whether or not people chose to share is totally up to them. My former signature scent was discontinued so perhaps if I shared it, it may still be around lol. On the reverse, I used to wear Baccarat Rouge 540 and now it is everywhere and feels less special because of it. If someone if curious about a person's perfume it never hurts to ask but respect their response if they prefer not to disclose.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Agree ☺️

[@enmodelife]

I always love when another woman compliments my style or perfume. I almost *always* volunteer the information about (even when not asked) what the scent is or where I bought something because I want other women to feel or smell beautiful, too! 🙂🙂🙂

[@JamilaMusayeva]

They can make that choice on their own ☺️

[@domorellasings2910]

EnMode, it is so sweet of you to help other women find and experience perfumes for themselves that they really liked! I love that everyone here is sharing tips they think will help others have better lives.

[@Foodloverxx]

I low-key envy the way she talks. She's so calm and composed... I wish I was like that but I'm very expressive. 😭😭

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Aww thank you!

[@Foodloverxx]

@@JamilaMusayeva love you ❤️ keep doing what you're doing

[@LanaBlakely]

I'll be using the handbag trick. Lovely as always Jamila!

[@madina1530]

Love you and your videos Lana

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you, Lana! I love your channel too ❤️

[@shareekhac]

Lana and Jamila my two favourite you tubers ❤️

[@707tich]

Same

[@irada6980]

omg two queens

[@oliviaw.2842]

I personally don't mind disclosing my perfume but could understand why content creators/celebrities may not want to disclose theirs. There was a male KZbinr who briefly mentioned what he uses and the product ended up being nearly sold out online because of all of his crazed fans. Sometimes it's best to keep things a secret! Also, the perfume-on-tissue trick is something I've never thought to do. Will be trying it soon!

[@youcansoften]

Some stones are better left unturned.

[@ElizRued]

I believe unless they are big celebrities, then it shouldn't be issue. Not everybody has the same taste or obsession unless they have crazy fans that buy whatever person says.

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

The tissue trick may not work, because the oils in the perfume don't interact with your body oils in the same way.

[@aichasdiary]

Whenever I watch your videos I make sure that I look put together and sit right, it feels wrong when I don’t.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

❤️

[@modestmama7275]

😂 yep, me too

[@geneva9990]

I don’t consider perfume to be too intimate to discuss, and I’m a private person. You apply scent to your body, but it creates a scent cloud around you that those in your immediate vicinity can detect; it takes up social space and is therefore a fine subject for polite conversation. This is like playing music aloud in public and then taking umbrage if someone asks the name of the song. And unless you’re a connoisseur of niche perfumery or a wearer of bespoke fragrance, your “signature scent” is probably sold at most perfume counters and isn’t so unique. Treating your Chanel or MFK otherwise strikes me as more pretentious than refined. Several of the other tips are practical, though.

[@ooooo000ooooo]

This exactly. It’s not like a hidden tattoo where other people don’t have to know about it. In applying perfume, you’re doing so with the knowledge that other people’s senses can come into contact with you and your scent. How it is too personal to be curious about it but not too personal to expose your scent to other people?

[@annac1678]

Very well said! Couldn't agree with you more.

[@Urpichachacha]

Wow! So true... our fragance is taking public space, so we give to others the right to ask 🤯

[@chanel.amalia]

Yes its true and if u tell name of perfumes doesnt mean u are not elegant or u are not lady anymore ,she just stupid (

[@lifeinluxe]

@@chanel.amalia Someone saying something I don't agree with must make them an idiot and me a genius! You sure sound like a well adjusted individual.

[@starlightshimmery]

I was very surprised even by the idea of not asking about scent, it’s very different in Australia. It’s often an opener for discussion when you meet someone here to ask about their perfume and certainly if you like it you would always ask, I’ve never heard of that being an etiquette taboo. It’s good to know that this could be an issue for some people as I would never otherwise dream this could be something which could cause offence or discomfort.

[@littleczbear]

I disagree, I am Australian too and I like to consider my perfume as mine, not something I want to be smelling on other people. So I would be very reluctant to share what I am wearing with someone if they asked me (luckily no one ever has aside from my partner and best friend who I did tell, but they are the exception) especially as I have been using it a long time too like Jamila.

[@starlightshimmery]

@@littleczbear that’s cool I’ve just never even heard of this as an idea before

[@nazfarahani2010]

Yea very strange for saying it’s offensive

[@adeline2405]

I agree. I'm Australian and I'm always flattered when someone compliments my perfume and share what it is without hesitation. I've also complimented others on their perfume and have never had a bad reaction.

[@Bubbles-go6fq]

@@littleczbear maybe no one has ever asked you because it smells awful! Perfume is mass produced so unless you made it yourself it’s a little Presumptuous of you to think that it was made just for you to wear.

[@beautifulme261]

My mother in law asked me about my perfume I was wearing years ago. She went out, purchased it and ruined it. She over sprayed it and made everyone gag as she goes overboard. I stopped using it. I never disclose what I wear after that. I will tell a stranger because I will never see them again. If my mother in law asks… I tell her I can’t remember.

[@minoutv7347]

That’s the issue, you never know how people will react with that info. If you do not know the person very well, it could be broadcast all over social media, or literally blow up in your face as in your case, to the point where the joy of the fragrance was ruined for you. An alternative, tell the person its been discontinued, or that its a custom blend. You could offer a key ingredient in the make up of the fragrance to steer them toward their search and away from their scrutiny.

[@FreedomNurse]

😂😂

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

I had the same thing with my eldest sister. It takes me a !long time to find a perfume that suits me. I told my sister not to ask me, because I wouldn't tell her.

[@rondanatan6198]

Haha. Good one😂

[@evelynwanjiru7437]

​@@vanessamvarela😂😂

[@MayaJohn]

I personally don’t mind telling someone what perfume I’m wearing. Although it is something that goes on the body, perfume is also a public component to your look. I equate it to someone asking where I got my shirt or what lipstick I’m wearing.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Perfume gets absorbed onto your skin. It is becomes one with you. Depending on your skin, it will open up differently. Scent of a woman is more intimate than a lipstick or tshirt.

[@johnmetzger7646]

I do season 4-4-4 Example: 1.Winter 🥶 Parfums De Marly Herod 🧣 2. Autumn 🍁 Tom Ford Oud Wood🪵 3. Spring🌱 Blue Seduction ☔ 4. Summer ☀️ Creed Aventus 2019 formulation 🌴 Also I decanter so as to reapply and do so that the people get the dry down.

[@QHuda_A]

Your videos never disappoint Jamila. Grandma Zahra told me when I was 10 years old to keep certain area of my life a mystery and my scent and the type of perfume I use is one of them. I always remember her whenever I put on my perfume. I do not share my personal scent, but I do not mind if people want to know.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you

[@modestmama7275]

I agree, Jamila is elegant and I value her advice❤. People over share these days and there’s no mystery anymore. I’ve been using the same scent for 20 years and it’s become my signature scent.

[@japankasasagi]

Your story about your father was such a lovely, tender vignette, and I am in tears over it. I can feel how close you and your father are, and I miss mine terribly.

[@alessandracarnevale8893]

Great video. Talking about not sharing too much, can you make a video about how to avoid elegantly intrusive questions or how to deal with rudeness in general?

[@victoriamyst4742]

I find it a great ice-breaker for a conversation to compliment someone’s perfume and then may be ask what they’re wearing. I never got hostile reaction, in fact, the opposite, and people are always happy to share. I once got a compliment from a totally random man, with the pandemic restrictions and all, we were waiting outside a confectionery store to pick up our cake orders, and then he complimented my perfume in the most respected and adorable way and actually made my day because I was feeling pretty low:)) he never asked what I was wearing but if he did I would have responded without any reservations But I guess it depends:) you want to have that unique scent and you don’t want half a town to smell the same. Sure. But it will still smell different on everybody 😎

[@ladywytch129]

I was once followed around the mall for over an hour by a gentleman, to the extent that I was getting concerned. As it turned out, he was just wanting to know what scent I was wearing because he thought his wife would like it, but he didn't know how to just ask me because he didn't want to seem creepy 😂

[@Olga8888]

I was asked about my perfume many times, and I always felt uncomfortable answering that question. Your vision resonates with me a lot. Thank you.

[@sabrinagomes6107]

I totally agree that one should not disclose the perfume they use. I like it when someone remembers me by the fragrance of my perfume.

[@claireh6348]

I don't mind either, I believe that it is a welcomed compliment, that spreads positive energy in the room as more people want to be nearer to you. And as you say, scents smell differently on everyone anyway. However, if it's a scent you want to keep a secret, you could say, "thank you so much, I'm not sure what I'm wearing, it's a mix of everything ;) " as looking awkward and not disclosing it can seem rude. and that's not good etiquette :) great video Jamila X

[@positivelyopal8415]

I really appreciate how you touched on key points as to why perfume is intimate and the etiquette behind it. Especially on how perfumes smeIl different on different people. That's personally why I don't share my perfume with everyone. I personally like to use the sample size first then, if I use it more often, I'll get the bigger size. 💖 Looking forward to the next video 🤗

[@Rose-oo9gn]

Yes! It’s too much commitment if you find your chemistry doesn’t work with such fragrance. I love Gabrielle Essence but it turned pretty yucky on my skin 🥴

[@SD-hs2pk]

The fact that it will smell diffrently makes it so it's easy to share actually.

[@CoolKidOx]

What do you say when people ask?

[@slytherinsimsbunny5873]

@@CoolKidOx yeah I'd like to know what they say when people ask as well, as to me it seems quite rude to say i'm keeping it a secret?

[@positivelyopal8415]

@@CoolKidOx If it is a stranger or someone I just met, I do not feel inclined to reply whole-heartedly and just say "Thank you, it was a gift." I'm generally a private person, as I've found that publically sharing information has done nothing to my benefit at times. One-on-one conversations with friends are different though, because I trust them and if asked said question they explain their intentions 99% of the time right after.

[@writerspen010]

I'm on the fence about being asked about my perfume. On the one hand it's a compliment: you know for sure that the fragrance you're wearing works well with your body chemistry, and if it becomes positively associated with you through consistent wear, that's wonderful. On the other it has bothered me before when family asks me what I wear and then decides to gift it to someone else. What your own fragrance is is so personal that it bothers me to think that people think a perfume is one size fits all and gift others perfume without prior knowledge about whether or not they like the line it comes from or whether they've worn it before, etc. I really like the tissue trick you mentioned. My husband really likes one scent in particular that I wear, so I've just hidden a tissue with a few sprays of it on his WFH desk while he's on-site today lol And in regards to perfume on clothing, I don't generally think that works well, but I do sometimes find it nice to put a few sprays on my scarves in the wintertime. I have a question. Is there a polite way to bring up someone else's lack of etiquette? My husband could use a little help with his table manners, and I don't know how to bring up my discomfort without sounding like a rude nag. How does one politely encourage or suggest the improvement of these soft skills?

[@MsLaharee]

I think it's intimate for both. Keeping it mysterious, I love it. But I also appreciate them who doesn't care about being mysterious and want to help you out to smell exactly like you because they love your perfume.

[@s_rupsa]

I think it is okay to keep your perfume a secret otherwise it may influence people to blindly buy it . People even collect perfumes without even realising/understanding their taste or if that suits their personality accordingly or what kind of aura that creates . I really loved the tips that you shared. ❤️

[@courtneypuryear4217]

I love that your dad loved the smell on you and that’s how you choose your signature fragrance. I have been in search for a signature perfume, this video helped a lot. I don’t mind if someone asks me what perfume am I wearing, I guess because I’ve ask people all the time. I didn’t realize it wasn’t good etiquette to do so. I’ll be more mindful about that. Ultimately like you said it doesn’t matter what they are wearing because it won’t smell the same on me.

[@Akshitaa_2006]

I really like when she says that scent of a women is a very private matter and kept to be mystery and indeed it’s true we should respect one’s privacy and should not ask them questions in which they are not comfortable to answer and I know how it feels like my friends or someone just ask me which fragrance you use so it just you know make the conversation awkward so it’s like a important things we we all should keep in mind it implies to all whether man or women most importantly we all are human beings. Love 💕 your videos

[@oumaima353]

I put on perfume only behind my ears. When I'm going out I always cover with a scarf. The only ones who will smell the perfume on me are the ones close enough for me to greet by kissing cheeks, and that's only a handful of people, that way I keep my sent private and I'm not making all people around me aware of it. I remember when I was a kid accompanying my mom to a perfume store, then walking out of there sick and throwing up from all the concentrated smells. That experience made all strong smells repulsive to me, so when I can catch someone's perfume without being intimately close to them, even if I'm sitting next to them in a conference room or standing next to them especially in our line of work when we need to be as impersonal and have a sense of sobriety, if the smell isn't particularly pleasant to my own taste then I'm just disgusted with that person and I avoid them for the day. When it comes to keeping perfume private, I agree a thousand per cent. For the sake of not disclosing social and economic differences, and avoid judging and being judged for the brand or the price of the perfume(s). It goes both ways; be it less pricey or expensive people are bound to judge and act on that judgement. The price of a perfume can easily be found online. Telling those around you about your luxury perfume when they can barely afford cheap ones, or disclosing your cheap perfume to people who don't ever buy anything below a certain threshold, both can be harmful when people's intentions are not pure.

[@swatisaini6447]

But Other things like clothes, shoes, jewellery etc will give away your economic status anyway so keeping perfume brand a secret is not helpful in anyway

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Absolutely agree with you!

[@jenniferannfox2316]

I have been asked alot what perfume I'm wearing and never found it offensive to share the name of it. I wear Lancome La Viestabelle and get compliments alot. Prior to that wore Lancome Tresor. I would pick up others but still stick with the one. I like them seasonally too.

[@catladylion5186]

I love tresor by Lancome. So addictive. I tend to only wear this perfume when it’s raining and cold. It just seems so appropriate to the weather, and whenever I wear this perfume on cold climate, I tend to get really creative

[@lucyachieng3271]

Wow i wear the same perfume 😊

[@larisat7557]

Absolutely looove Tresor! Also Tender romance by Ralph Lauren and Alien by Mugler are my go to scents, I get tons of compliments when I wear them.

[@lanaofficiel4042]

I love La Vie est Belle. Definitely it's one of top 5 perfumes. It's so feminine.

[@NicoleCB]

Hi, Ms. Musayeva. Thank you for this information. I didn't realize that there's an intimate nature about perfume. Also, your story about how your father's opinion played a role in your decision for selecting your signature scent it's so sweet. Take care, Nicole

[@mimvlog3236]

I agree with you! I also am hesitant to give recommendations to people who are looking for a new perfume, or are searching for a fragrance gift for someone. I feel it's such a personal choice and only can be made by the individual.

[@mairiiii]

A video on public transportation etiquette would be lovely, too! Thank you my dear 🌸

[@kflecha1]

I love her style 💁🏽‍♀️ she is always so elegant 🖤🤍 I do agree that a woman smell should be private 🤫🤗🤍🖤

[@euphomira]

It’s a bit late to comment on this video, but I just want to say I really appreciate & agree with your last tip - do not let others influence you when it comes to choosing your perfume. I did that mistake - i searched for what’s the best perfume for women, the most complimented perfume, etc videos on youtube and I bought them instantly because a lot of people love it. Turned out the perfume that most people love, is not my type, I thought I’d love it but I don’t. It’s a waste of money, and I should have take my own time to actually try smell the perfume first and decide.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@jennyf251]

Jamila, I never thought of keeping my perfumes a secret that way, but you have inspired me to whittle down my collection & choose a signature scent ☺️ I love your videos!! I would love to see your beauty/self-care routine if that’s not too personal for you. You inspire us all💕

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you very much 🙏🏻

[@thewildadversary]

I would disclose my perfume, mostly because I have purchased independent scents from small businesses, so I can help to potentially spread the word about a creator I enjoy 😊

[@Soothingyou45]

Yes!! Do be mindful of other people's nose. Just because you like a scent does not mean others will or have to smell it. Plus, it can give migraines or allergy reaction. Remember you live in a society.

[@ruchitafotedar]

I don't mind if anyone asks about my perfume, I just take it as a compliment but I don't ask anyone what they are wearing as a lot of people are not comfortable (based on experience 😅); also choosing a perfume based on the fact that it smells good on someone never helped me in the past; which infact is the very reason I don't mind sharing my scent as it will never smell exactly same on them!

[@sarazigova1641]

If someone needs to reapply fragrance, he/she could use small 5-10 ml travel bottle for fragrances. I love your tips, but the one with cotton is just so complicated 😅

[@navyagoswami4937]

Your voice is so soothing

[@soniatosamadhi]

Thank you for finally demystifying how to get all your pulse points without using half a bottle of perfume and having people smell you from 10km away. Whenever "gurus" talk about spritzing on the wrists, elbows, neck, knees, I was so confused! I thought I'd hate to be the person standing next to them on the subway. I use half a spritz at most during the day out of courtesy of others (and not to give myself a headache) and now I understand how to make that half spritz count. As always, an enjoyable and informative video. Thank you, Jamila!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@mrt3669]

Gem. This should be made into slides and be taught in schools; see so many get it wrong from identifying perfumes, how to apply, how much to appy, storage, etc.

[@starlightshimmery]

Actually just thinking again - I used to sell perfume so maybe that’s why I have no boundaries about this subject. I’ve never come across anyone who wasn’t quite enthusiastic to tell me what they were wearing and I’ve been asked many times what I was wearing and find it a compliment. I like to share the info not keep it to myself, that really seems quite strange to me . So this video really did amaze me that anyone is mysterious about it but to each their own, I can respect that too.

[@Boop-beep-bap]

As the restrictions have been lifted, please do etiquette during wedding/receptions. People have really forgotten how to behave and interact.

[@sweetblanche9442]

For real! I hope Jamila will see your comment

[@prillaafrantwi1968]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@NatalieG427]

One tip about Perfume I got was from Tova Borgnine, when she was selling her perfume on QVC. She said when you apply it to your wrists do NOT rub your wrists together. That “ crushes” the fragrance & ruins the natural dry down of the notes. Instead do the “ Royal Wave” to dry the wet perfume. Also you can spray it in front of you & walk through it to apply a light layer. I LOVE the perfumes her company still sells. I also love the ones from Philosophy.

[@Tatycharmz]

im such an overthinker, and i am so grateful to find your etiquette videos!!! like finally a guide to the right way lol

[@blueberriechiiizcake]

Never bothered about perfumes in the past bc I don't know where to start & which to choose for myself. Thanks Jamila for this informative one. I'll find my own scent soon and remember all that you've shared here. ☺️

[@amyethridge1798]

I learned so much from this video, wow! And now I’m even more determined to find my “signature scent”. 😊

[@CristinaV.Quinones]

I’m a perfume lover/addict/reviewer and absolutely loved this video ❤️(and all your videos)! I love the idea of having a signature perfume (though I do not), and all the tips here are very helpful in being an elegant and well put together human.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

🙏🏻❤️

[@JamilaMusayeva]

🙏🏻❤️

[@DianeLeifer]

I don't have a problem with asking someone what perfume they are wearing or telling them what I am wearing. I take it as a compliment and know that each scents smell different on each person, so I do not feel it is an invasion of privacy or something that is too personal to reveal.

[@COUNTDEVIL]

Seriously love all your videos it helps me become more mature and more womanly. Without your advice I wouldve been doing same mistakes with perfume or my purse or other habits over and over again. Thank you for teaching me basics and advanced tips! Also I think men would like to keep their cologne a secret as well but they usually aren't so discreet about it because they don't have a competitive environment with other males in that manner like the women. Men compete in a different manner and particular formula while women are more passive competitive which is why most men don't mind sharing certain mundane things. But I don't think anything was wrong with you using your husbands cologne as a example he probably gave permission to use it and help out with your video. You do lovely work and very smart and precise advice. God bless you and your life and continue the work I will keep looking foward to your creations!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you! He uses all different kinds so it is not his signature scent.

[@COUNTDEVIL]

@@JamilaMusayeva oh that's good! Very wise! And your welcome! You have such a healthy mindset the world needs more like you!

[@elsaandrosemary6622]

Jamila, you are so kind,understanding,lovely,pretty,and I just love you sooo much. You are such a good teacher. Thank you for this video.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Aww thank you!

[@MmirrAkl.108]

Thanks a lot. That was really helpful. I'm just a young teenager who's new with make up stuffs and watching you video gave me so many hints about make upping

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are welcome 🙏🏻

[@L-ng1xb]

This is the first time I hear such a view on perfume. I dont mind people asking about my perfume at all. For me It is not intimate since it has a projection that anyone coming a bit Closer Can detect.

[@rogmaryperezpardo]

Lovely video, the handbag and the notebook trick are great! I use agendas and notebooks daily, this is something I will love to implement in my life. Thank you!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

You are welcome 🤗

[@fatimaezzahrae9854]

i’m a perfume addicted that’s video inspiring me thank you jamila ❤❤

[@elizabethvhwong]

Finding the right perfume is not easy, as you need to know it won't discontinued. I love your suggestion for keep a tissue in bag. ^^

[@lislourenco8630]

Thanks for the great tips!! I just would advise not giving a smell to a designer bag because it decreases its value if you decide to sell it in the future.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

I do not intend to sell it ☺️

[@lislourenco8630]

@@JamilaMusayeva Of course. I didn’t mean you in particular but anyone who, for some reason want or have to sell it😊.

[@NathanyCostakfwhfi]

I had never stopped to think about whether or not to mention the perfume you use until I was asked once and because it was an unbranded, common perfume, the person treated me differently.

[@m.j.4711]

I believe it's the same with makeup or any other cosmetic product.. I told someone what foundation and moisturizer I use. She bought them and it was a disaster. Then accused me for recommending her the products and ruining her face. Lesson learned. When I'm asked I tell them that the products are suitable for my type of skin and they should do their own research and pick products according to their needs. When it comes to my scent I let them know that it was picked and gifted by my husband ant it's too personal for me. I come off as rude and arrogant, yet people aren't really aware of the type questions they ask and their entitlement. Not every question demands an answer that tickles our ears. Also be aware of boundaries. For you it might not be such a big deal, but for some people it is. Respect that without rolling your eyes and throwing criticism at the person.

[@flynastaran]

I gave my perfume brand if others ask. honestly, I am very comfortable with that. Thanks for the tips.

[@JamilaMusayeva]

welcome :)

[@LisaFladager]

Thank you for this, for bringing up the topic of "perfume etiquette." I think the first question to ask when it comes to perfume etiquette is whether it is good etiquette to wear perfume at all. Let me explain.… As a person who wore perfume up until about age 35 and then developed chemical sensitivities, I stopped wearing perfume. I know I can't control others or keep them from wearing perfume, and even though I love perfume, what it does to my body when I smell it is make me feel sick and headache-y. In public, if someone sits at a restaurant or at a seat next to or near me and they're wearing perfume, I feel trapped and angry. Perfume invades others' boundaries, leaving them no choice but to abandon their position and move away. Sometimes that isn't possible, especially if one is seated at a restaurant or a concert, or at a cubicle or waiting room in an office space, or even standing in line at the post office or grocery store. I really wish people wouldn't be so presumptuous in this way, thinking that others want to enjoy the fragrance they are wearing. Many people do not. Many people have chemical sensitivities and have zero interest in that nice little fragrance you are applying. I know this probably sounds a bit hostile, but please try to think of it another way--if you knew you were going to give a person a headache for the rest of the day, or brain fog, or make them feel sick because of the fragrance that you apply in the morning, would you care? Etiquette is the custom or code of polite behavior in a group or society. Polite behavior is to consider the needs of others as well as one's own needs. Perhaps one has a "need" to wear perfume, but considers that others around may be sensitive chemically and, for them, smelling your fragrance may be akin to smelling poison. Again, would you care? This is why I use the word presumptuous, above. I believe it is presumptuous to think that everyone wants to smell that scent that you are applying in the morning. They don't. Again, my apologies if this sounds harsh, and I think it probably does. But as a 66 year old woman now, I have earned some life experience that I didn't have when I was 35, and it is less self-centered.

[@sa-fs1zx]

I don't mind sharing scents that I love or new fragrance brands or unique scents. I have found some of those fragrances that I have recommended have become my friends signature scents and I like that. I believe and know from my studies fragrances smell very different on everybody so they always will be unique to an extent. Fragrances are also associated with memory so your experience will always be personal to you.

[@sgmei]

I'm a beginner with perfumes and I love the bag / planner trick!

[@shafiyasiddeek1197]

🔥THANKYOU SO MUCH JAMILA MUSAYEWA🔥🙏🙏♥️♥️

[@flo-dq6hq]

I don't think asking about perfume is a problem unless you want to keep it a mystery for fun or if you don't know the person that well. I actually think it's not different for men or women, I find that cologne and perfume are quite similar in nature so they shouldn't necessarily have different rules come with them. I also like the idea of having gender-neutral scents, or switching cologne and perfume sometimes!

[@Magnelan1]

To replace ziplock bags you can re use a little box. Like the one used to sell vanilla. Or any spices some are very thin and light! Or beads container. You can also repurchase some candy boxes. They all hermetic, you just have to wash them and let them soak overnight in water and baking soda to eliminate all the smell! Let's be mindfull, and not throw away like there is no tomorrow.

[@tanyajoshi6848]

Your videos are really like Christmas gifts! ❤❤

[@Naz-uz5zj]

I actually don’t mind telling people what perfume I’m wearing. I don’t think it’s that intimate or private especially if anyone can get it at the mall.

[@youcansoften]

As a fragance hunter ,and fan I was deeply waiting for this video 💕

[@JamilaMusayeva]

🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@MissMiserize]

Thank you for explaining why some people wouldn't want to be asked about thier perfume. The comment section is too focused on what's the "right" boundaries to have instead of the idea of respecting other people's boundaries.

[@clementineclement5757]

I'm not keen on telling any odd stranger any time my perfume brand, but of course no problem with friends. I've developed a good reply for the first category : "I'm so sorry, but it's one of the samples the perfumery gave me, can't remember which one. " By the way there are 2 more categories of perfume : the Eau de Cologne, the least concentrated and fit for casual occupations such as shopping , or at work ( my cousin is a psychiatrist and only applies the wonderful Guerlain Eaux de cologne ( the famous "Aqua Allegoria" series). The genuine German 4711 Kölnisch Wasser (where Eau de Cologne historically originated) can be used anywhere, it's so light and fresh and for men and women alike. Then there's the Parfum, the most concentrated pure perfume, which is becoming rare nowdays but can still be found, for instance Dior J'Adore. Be extremely wary with that concentration and apply very sparsingly.

[@junyang4852]

When I notice nice smell of perfume from my friends I would tell them “I really like the smell on you” or “you smell so nice”. But I tend to not ask them which ones they are using because it feels like a very intimate question. (to be honest even complimenting other’s smell feels intimate, but I guess it’s ok between friends or close relations) For me generally I’d prefer to keep my perfume a secret, but if a friend wants to know I’m willing to share:) Love this video, it’s super helpful!

[@Jentzenfong]

Your last point is legit. I'm so regret purchasing JPG Ultra Male and couldn't find it to finish it still

[@TheRoshnisaluja]

Those were some really good tricks ❤ personally i wont mind sharing what perfume i am wearing if some one genuinely interested in knowing .

[@pradiptadutta9300]

Feeling much educated after watching your video, Jamila. Also, the comment section here is so interesting. All the beautiful women are sharing their scent, and it’s wonderful to know.

[@obsidianbutterfly2099]

I really enjoyed this! I have a signature scent too and only told my Mom what it was! Its gone up in price so I only get it for Xmas now and I make it last years! I more recently found a budget friendly signature scent as well which is the one I wear nightly, as it lulls to to sleep. Scent is such a mood setter for me and I love being recognized by my scent! I agree is very intimate and adds mystery to a woman so I enjoy keeping it private!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Absolutely ☺️

[@aalaashaaban4989]

I always change perfume as I don't stuck to one.. I live change.. But then one day ppl recognize my perfume.. It was body splash actually as I luv the light scent on me.. And one person said to me u know I really luv ur scent.. I tried to put the coconut scent before on me and saw ppl do that.. But it was the best on you.. It's like it combine wiz ur body scent.. And whenever we got in the same place I can recognize it was u... And it was the first time someone said that to me and the first time that I got to know that not every scent can be good on you.. And that video is the sec time I hear about it ❤️thank you

[@luizamoura9193]

Amazing video as always Jamila! ❤️ Not only it was pleasant to watch because perfume is a topic I personally love, but also it was very educational and informative. Thank you!

[@JamilaMusayeva]

Thank you!

[@annajohansson6225]

Thank you Jamila! I loved your video I'll be using the handbag trick♥️

[@JamilaMusayeva]

🙏🏻

[@mangogo44]

I always tell people what I'm wearing if they ask. I also ask so myself (if it's a casual setting, no controversial question in "high society"). At least where I live it's not considered taboo, but I am aware for example that in France it's not considered ok to disclose your scent. Every culture is different.

[@noeliaurdangaray4388]

I disagree about the first reason not to disclose what my favourite fragance is. Regarding the second one, I agree 100%

[@whatwouldpicarddomakeitso9607]

Thank you so very much . I’m surprised how much I learnt .unfortunately the perfume that suited me is no longer made and I’ve not worn much perfume since lockdowns but I have found another favourite and only just this week started wearing it .but the difference is I now know the optimum way to apply the perfume from this video, and also bonus ideas for a more personal touch , thank you. Thank you for sharing about your dad , it made me smile and feel very happy for you . My dad has passed and I cherish the lovely things he said to me and how he made me feel .

[@naroacanalo8544]

Thank you Jamila! I loved your video. I personally will never reveal my perfume. 😉✨ I was eyeing one for some time, which smelled like paradise. 💕 I let some close friends smell the perfume sample and they obviously fell in love with it too. The next day, both of them bought the new scent and asked me if I wanted one as well. NO Thank you! I replied. I will certainly not be using that parfume in the near future. 😄🤭

[@richasoy795]

I feel flattered when someone ask about my scent. It makes me think that so many people like it my choice must be so good, makes me feel proud. To share what I am using depends on my mood. Usually people don't ask me that and just compliment me about the scent. And I do the same, just compliment one's perfume if I like it. Though I don't feel perfume as a private or intimate matter, I never ask what perfume one is wearing because I am not interested in knowing or buying the same one as them..

[@darleneisebia1733]

Hiiii jamila I have no problem.telling people wivh perfume I use I'll br very happy if someone say to me I smell nice that's why exist perfume store

[@ARKh236]

I m a perfume collector but to me Humanity means a lot more than etiquette, therefore i always tell people the brand of the perfume when they ask. Be kind life is too short. Don’t be egoistic with your etiquette. Etiquette also has boundaries!

[@sheethalshivalingappa1277]

I agree with you.. Being mysterious is good

[@MadamMopGee]

I like using eau de toilette in the summer, and eau de parfum in the winter time (we have a very harsh winter, so we always wear lots of layers and items dark quickly). I will have the same scent in varying strengths for the different seasons ☺️

[@MACnificence]

I couldn’t imagine taking life that seriously that I would withhold the name of the perfume I was wearing. I think people need to take these videos with a pinch of salt. I imagine we would be very uptight if we took all her points on board

[@ashleygallagher5777]

Lol totally…life would suck!

[@Sauvageonne]

In Paris, it's not too much of an issue to talk about perfume, but we won't really ask people what body lotion (except hand lotion) or makeup they use. I find it difficult to apply makeup in front of people, even in fancy hotel bathroom. I suppose some girls do that in clubs, but it's quite unusual to see.

[@rajpreetrajpreet7912]

Thank you Jamila Musayeva for making this video ...very thankful to you 😻❤️