Life Update - Moving, Chronic Illness, Laptop Breaks, Polyamory & More | PHYRRA

[@nancyweimer1504]

Love your open and honest attitude! People who judge get on my last damn nerve. My husband's grandmother is a zealous Christian that judges way too much - of course she views as trying to "save" people. Yet she has been married 4 times, once to her sister's ex husband! We are all human and we all deserve love, whether it fits what many consider "normal" does not matter as long as all involved are happy.

[@Phyrra]

That describes a lot of my family! Some have been very supportive and great. Others very judgmental. But like you say, as long as everyone involved is happy, we all deserve love.

[@slashedbeauty]

Moving is DRAINING. On top of the actual buying process. If you're comfortable, I think a video about your Polyamorous relationship like the dynamics of it would be really interesting!

[@emmy1929]

I always wondered who Dave was. Thanks for sharing your life with us :)

[@Phyrra]

You're welcome Vivi!

[@BeautyJudyBlog]

You’ve been busy!!!! I think it’s awesome you are open about your relationship, although you certainly owe no one an explanation! It’s great that people can understand from a vlogger/blogger they look up to the different types of love and relationships and how happy one can be regardless of who and how many! 💕

[@rainbowaura8964]

Thanks for sharing your personal/love life with us! Not that you owe details or an explanation to anyone but I think being open about polyamory definitely helps de-stigmatize it. which is an excellent thing. Maybe don't tell Dave but I always wrongly assumed he was your gay best friend/roommate.

[@Phyrra]

You're welcome! Yes, we've actually got a ton of friends who are poly, who all do it different ways. I agree, I think it helps to see that people who are poly are just normal people, not some TV version of a stereotype.

[@AgingGorgeously]

I enjoy honesty. I believe that everyone has a right to the relationship that works for them. I help people with alternative sexual lifestyles and relationships besides beauty. Good for you for living your life.

[@waverleigh222]

You don’t need to explain your lifestyle for anyone, but I appreciate hearing it. It’s nice to hear about different relationships. I have a best friend who is happily poly. And being poly is also something my husband and I have talked about seeing if it worked for us at some point in the future. So, it’s super nice to see lots of happy people in poly relationships. ❤️

[@yvetteprice4098]

Moving is such a hassle, I always moved myself so I really hate moving. So far as your relationship, as long as you are all happy and getting everything you want, that is no one else's business!

[@Phyrra]

Thank you Yvette!

[@oliveme8122]

I love the fact that you talked openly about your polyamory. I know it's a lifestyle choice that is not for everyone but I fully support people who choose to love however they please. Hopefully you won't get a lot of harsh and unsupportive comments with this video. I always wondered who Dave was (my husband's name is David).

[@Jessinking]

get it girl re your relationship. i love that, it's harder to find a pairing like yours and i always love seeing triad's with one female. wow that move is brutalllll

[@blasFEMMEous]

I love how you politely demand the customer service you were promised/paying for. I’m such a pushover at times. A video on that would be great! Good luck to you and the family settling into the new home!

[@taraball1030]

I understand chronic illness.... I became 100% disabled at age 30!! I've had 5 back surgeries , 2 double neck fusions, and I have a Dilaudid pump implanted under my skin that runs continuously. So it's very hard to help people out when you know you only have a limited supply of energy or pain control.

[@Phyrra]

Since my partner and one of my best friends have chronic illness, I'm well acquainted with the limited energy supply. I'm so sorry for what you go through!

[@taraball1030]

Phyrra Nyx Aww thank you!!! I have a wonderful hubby tho who is very patient!! Thank god! Lol. Prayers to your friends as well!! ❤

[@anneemull]

Tara Ball I understand! I also became disabled at 30. Its been almost 9 years (crazy!) and I still haven't figured out how to balance everything.

[@taraball1030]

anneemull Amen!!! If you ever wanna chat, please email me!! [e-mail]. 😊

[@Phyrra]

So glad your husband understands! 💙

[@pennyplank-newman2275]

I’ve always liked your makeup videos and your quiet and quirky style. I also say love who you want and love comes back to you!!!

[@Phyrra]

Thank you so much Penny! I really appreciate your support.

[@pennyplank-newman2275]

Phyrra Nyx you’re welcome! Congratulations on your move. Hope you get your computer back soon too.😀

[@RachelRunyan13]

I'm sorry the move was such a nightmare. I hope your laptop gets fixed and back to you soon. I'm not polyamorous, but I think it's great that you openly talk about it and help destigmatize it. Ray and Dave both seem like great guys.

[@Cindyrella1212]

Sorry about all the moving problems! You are so right about your relationship with Ray & Dave lasting longer than most marriages. Whatever makes you happy is no one elses business! You are a wonderful and sweet friend that I truly appreciate!

[@faeriecrypt]

You are KICKING SOME SERIOUS BOOTY with managing your life and keeping up with your posts and work! I admire your resilience, creativity, and upbeat attitude! I always have. I can't wait for you guys to be able to calm down and rest. How are Nyx and Phaedra handling the transition so far?

[@TessaLCastro1216]

I'm so glad I finally got caught up w/ things on here & this is the first time I've really gotten to hear about your life....it's really interesting b/c you get to be a part of people's lives on here whom you normally wouldn't have run into outside of KZbin & your channel is awesome, Courtney... I'm really glad I subscribed a while back, I don't get on Instagram as much as I used to, I just take breaks from it b/c I have my own anxiety...yeah that probably sounds weird, but, hey, I'm a Sag, I'm allowed to be versatile lol ...you're an animal lover, you speak your mind, & you never put on any fake airs....it's nice. Thanks for letting us join in on your side of life. Congrats on finding your new home, I LOVE the enclosed back patio area! -Tessa😊🐾

[@Phyrra]

No, I wish I could take social media breaks! Thank you so much!

[@deadlydesertrose]

on using other people's pcs -- I don't want to spend 20 minutes trying to figure out where all the stuff I need is before I can start doing the work I need. I feel you. Glad the worst of the drama of the move is over. Chronic illness is no joke. I'm still trying to explain to my boyfriend that I have limited energy to work with, or that there are things I need help with. Poly is great with the right people.

[@Phyrra]

Luckily I have profiles saved on both of these other laptops, I hate having to install my software all over again - Premiere Pro and Photoshop. Yuck! Yep. Dave has limited energy to do things and often I do them for him so he can save his energy for more important things.

[@ShilpaGandotra]

It really takes a lot to share yourself like this. Good luck with everything in life

[@lolaseicento4275]

Congratulations on your new home! I hope that you Ray and Dave will be very happy there! Moving always seems to have its difficulties, but it is ridiculous that the moving company didn't show up when hey were supposed to, or more importantly didn't even have you on their books! Sorry to hear about your laptop. Things will settle down soon, and things will be far far less stressful. I am so happy for you!

[@jurikittie]

You're one of my favorite youtubers and I totally squealed with excitement when you mentioned you too were poly! Poly Love

[@1015SaturdayNight]

It's great that you are understanding about Ray's chronic illness! I have similar stuff going on and having supportive people in my life is crucial ❤️

[@Phyrra]

Yes, between Dave having chronic illness & my other friends with them (rheumatoid arthritis and fibro), I'm very understanding. *hug*

[@styrofoamcups]

I am glad the discussion is opening up more and more regarding polyamory/non-traditional relationships. I grew up in a very rigid Christian household and I believe it created a lot of baggage for me regarding what relationships should look like; issues with jealousy/possessiveness and sex/attraction in general. I have been challenging my belief structure a lot over the past 5 months. I don't know where I will land ultimately, but it has been illuminating and has helped my husband and I communicate much more effectively.

[@Phyrra]

It's so good that you two are communicating more effectively! I grew up in a very strict household so I can relate.

[@Natoya]

Thank you for sharing your life update with us. Moving is one of the hardest thing to do I think personally.

[@Phyrra]

You're welcome! I agree, it's such a pain.

[@KristinaVieweg]

Thank you for sharing so much with us. I hope you all get settled soon. Congrats on the move!

[@IvyMUA]

I remember when you had just purchased that laptop..I hope you get it back soon...I can't even touch the subject on moving lol that shit makes me crazy..I love you and your transparency. 💙💙💙

[@Phyrra]

Thanks! I hope Falcon Northwest fixes it soon too! Moving is so stressful. Love you too! 💙💙💙

[@Maser50007]

Your mug looks so good, and the lighting looks fantastic. 💗 Keep that candor above and beyond, Courtney!

[@DaenaO]

Moving is SO STRESSFUL. Argh! I hope you can get unpacked and settled completely into the new place as quickly and smoothly as possible. I haven't been intrigued by any new makeup releases I've seen lately. Everything just seems like it's been done -- I want something truly new and innovation and exciting!

[@jamand0r]

Thanks for sharing, like another commenter mentioned, I always wondered about Dave. A friend of one of my best friends is also in a poly relationship with two men, and they live in the Space Coast area. They’re also very successfully raising a daughter! I’m married to a woman, so I always enjoy hearing and seeing more representation of non-heteronormative/cis relationships. Glad you guys have found so much happiness. ❤️

[@Phyrra]

So happy to hear that! It always makes me happy to hear about non-traditional relationships too.

[@rhandieseas9849]

Oh lot's of chaos.....but you managed it! Thumps up in and you can proud of yourself! :)) I have always 2 laptops! One for working with and one (second hand business munster) as a backup. Most of my stuff it's in my cloud, I had to learn hard not to rely upon one "machine". Wish you all the best in your new house! 🌞

[@laineybugger]

I would love to see your Alice in Wonderland art!

[@Phyrra]

I'll put it into a future video!

[@penelopedreadful]

Uuuuuuggghhh moving is the worst, especially when dealing with other people moving your stuff. I haaate using other people's laptops, and I especially don't want anybody using mine. I feel like laptops/phones are like the modern diary: they're *personal*. Thank you for sharing with us! I'm glad that you feel comfortable enough to do that, even though it would be totally within your right to not talk about it.

[@Phyrra]

I totally agree about laptops being akin to a modern diary! Thank goodness for google chrome / profile stuff!

[@klove6149]

This was a great video!!! So sorry to hear about all the moving troubles...but I definitely know how that can be😨...😂 Moving sucks...but hey...look at the Beautiful home you moved to...it's totally worth it...right😊....and everyone is right.....you don't owe any of us ANY explanation about your personal life.... I'm here bombass makeup looks...not what you do outside of this...so it's really Big of you to share that with all of us even tho you didn't need to😊 you're a cool chik Courtney 😊✌

[@ItsLoriK]

Thanks for the personal update. I have so many questions about dealing with possible jealousy on every end and such. I know I'd be cool in your situation as I'd feel some security but am not sure how I'd feel if my hub went elsewhere but couldn't tell him not to if I did. We've discussed the possible pros and cons of being open but are afraid of crossing a line and discovering that we'd like to uncross it but can't. So, I'm keeping quiet on the poly subject. Guess I should mind my own business and read some books! Lastly, I thought this look was my fav when I saw your blog post. You make it even prettier in video!

[@caribbeantigress]

Yayyyyy! Everyone has a distinct definition for happiness and if polyamory works, great 👍! I have an open relationship with my husband and its awesome for us!

[@sharonbaker3007]

Yayyy Corinne and Ray’s Mom! So glad your moving drama is over!!!💙💙💙

[@Phyrra]

Me too! Now to just finish the unpacking, then to tackle my 2 storage units. I'm still doing a ton of repairs around this house too. Just found out I need to replace the sprinkler system and all 3 toilets.

[@sharonbaker3007]

Phyrra Nyx all three toilets?!?! Wow! My sympathies!!!💙💙💙

[@Phyrra]

They're all 3 randomly running when no one has touched them, not even sure why, but 2 of the 3 are so tiny that at 5'4' I feel like a giant on them, so I want to replace them with toilets meant for adults.

[@TracyLeaBeauty]

Glad you got all moved! I know how you feel about being woken up early! I'm such a night owl! I usually don't get to sleep until after 4 am!!!! I can't wait to see more content from you! It's so nice you got into your new house! I love your backyard!🌺🌺🌺

[@Phyrra]

I normally like to sleep from 2 or 3 to 9 or 10. So waking up with the sun blaring in my eyes was so awful. And thank you! I love the new place. Lots of stuff to fix around it as the previous owner neglected it.

[@ErikaBonwildwings]

Courtney, I feel ya darlin, moving is friggen hell and so are laptop issues! Your home is lovely and I know you'll have it the way you want it no time, hopefully, the HOA will approve some color in the purple range for the door! OMG, no makeup shopping??? I know it's driving you nuts, but so is not having the whole friggen house all fully put away! I'm totally the same way, ugh 😘 Thank you for always being you and for being a Cruelty-Free Beauty lover. Hang in there, Erika, CF lover, blogger, military wife, rescue mama to a poochie and purr pack

[@Phyrra]

I totally just splurged during the Sephora Sale and Ulta's 20% off sale. I'd been waiting for both of those things. Thank you for your support!

[@declareyourheartofgold4876]

Love your makeup! & I also am a HUGE fan of life update videos haha!

[@Trixalla]

UGH sorry to hear about the moving and computer woes, especially the latter given how much it will impact your next few weeks. Being without your own machine is a nightmare when you're a creative person, let alone when you need to release regular content! In the meantime, here's a kindle book recommendation! The Psy-Changeling series by Nalini Singh is rather good paranormal romance. It touches on some rough topics, and unfortunately it's a bit heavy on the caveman possessiveness and hetero/monogamy centric, but unlike SOME books (coughanitablakecough) it doesn't devolve into constant, poorly written boning at the expense of a metaplot. The world is interesting and it changes as the series continues. Very much an easy read, not dense but not too fluffy either.

[@heathermillis6954]

I hope things start to calm down during the unpacking process. I don't mind moving just hate all the "life" stuff that happens during. Your makeup looks amazing. I won't lie, I'm intrigued about the Too Faced palette, it has some gorgeous colors.

[@neversaydiebeauty]

You can hear the echo in your new space. How cool that you're in! The drama with the movers is something I can definitely relate to. Happened to me when I moved from NYC to MA. They screwed me. Hope you can take your time getting settled in.

[@Phyrra]

Yeah I need to set up my new mic and possibly get sound dampeners for the corners of the room. My old room had carpet, the new one has bamboo flooring.

[@CocoAndTheBombshell]

I think you're really lucky to have such a relationship! :). I am back in the office so I haven't had much time for KZbin unless it's the weekend or unless I'monvacation, like now. But I appreciate the videos much more this way.

[@Phyrra]

Aww thank you! I hope you get some time off soon!

[@MK-mt8jx]

Sometimes it just feels good to get it all out there

[@stellakydd7301]

Yikes, all that trouble to get a mover and you still had to move stuff. :-( Also, thanks for sharing your relationship in this video, the more diverse we are as a community, the stronger we are. BTW I love the Phedra Weldon books.

[@MsJudiXO]

So glad the moving escapades are over for you and you can relax! How about you get your shoes out of storage, keep the storage for a few months, and if Ray doesn't need anything from there in that time, you can just get rid of it? ;-) Don't tell him that was my idea, lol. xoxo

[@SaucerJess]

I'm so sorry you've been through moving hell. Hoping it gets better from here on out! 💜

[@Phyrra]

It's ok! I've actually been through worse in 2002 when a moving company told me they would charge me 3k to move, then held my stuff ransom for an additional 6k.

[@SaucerJess]

Phyrra Nyx, oh no! I'm so sorry!!! 💜

[@Phyrra]

It's ok! It was before the days of good reviews, so I got scammed.

[@AmandalaRoo]

I’m cracking up about your guys being a bit lost at getting things put away correctly...I’ve been married since I was 20 and I’m 39 now. My hubby can’t even handle putting laundry away let alone move things without direction. 😂😂😂 Gotta love them, though! ❤️

[@Phyrra]

Right? It's like... how can they not get it?

[@ToadinaTophat]

Moving is often a horror show. Glad you got yours all sorted.

[@Phyrra]

Thanks, it was pretty stressful!

[@silverthompson8313]

Yay for fellow poly spoons and spoonies :D

[@carolsteeleactionplan]

Glad you got through your move. My job just moved to a new building and now there are all these new rules like "no lamps" so now I have to go get a doctor note so I can have my full spectrum desk lamp in my office. I have ADEM and I get migraines from bright florescent lighting. Other than that I'm thinking about fun stuff I want to do with my own channel.

[@Phyrra]

I hope you're able to get the lamp, it's medically necessary!

[@Denise-ki9ii]

What a beautiful eye look and great lippie as well! I'm sorry your move was so stressful with the company you hired being careless. At least you are now in your beautiful new home. Please can we see your art, especially your mermaid picture! I am a big mermaid fan, I should belong to a Mermaid statue/art addicts support group, ha ha. I'm glad you are in a happy relationship with both men, what matters is that you are all good for each other, other people may have different values but hopefully they will have the decency to respect yours.

[@Phyrra]

I'll put it into a video! I've shared snippets on Instagram Stories. Thanks for your support Denise!

[@CrisStoneisAwesome]

moving SO stressful! love you!

[@LeeloRbeautybymissl]

I hate moving and so I'm not looking forward to next summer when we'll have to move. I loved your video!

[@anastasia.glamorable]

Moving is the worst! It's always so stressful.

[@MarciaFriedman]

Moving is so much harder than I expected it to be. We wish we had hired someone to pack the boxes and unpack since it was a long and laborious process. I'm still not completely unpacked after 8 months. Good luck with the laptop. I know you've had some problems with it before. I'd go nuts without my own computer but it happens!

[@Datan0de]

So proud of you! 💟

[@JoyceMcDaniel]

Sorry you are going through so much. Moving is such a pain.

[@binxcat4ever]

Ugh what a nightmare with your move! I'm so sorry. BUT the worst is behind you now at least! I feel like the laptop company should have sent you a loaner. You said in your vid exactly what I was thinking. Besides different things work for different people - what matters is that you're happy, Also, for someone who has been running like crazy, your makeup in this vid LOVE!!!

[@Phyrra]

It's ok! The movers themselves were nice. And it wasn't the worst move I've been through. And thank you! I love this eyeshadow palette so far.

[@LaraSchilling]

Oh my gosh, didn't know you were poly! :D Sending spoons to Dave.

[@krista436]

Thanks for the update!

[@Phyrra]

You're welcome!

[@JenMathews]

Gregg and I talk about our "spoons" all the time! Gregg likes to say he's "out of silverware" for the night. :D

[@kristiv4993]

Yikes, sounds like you have had a lot on your plate! Congrats on getting moved in!

[@thejediwife]

Ugh, having to work without your own machine sucks! My laptop is currently not working well and I'm having to use my hard drive in my husband's laptop.

[@heydreakins]

I'm surprised you didn't work from a desktop! You do so much of your work online and requiring tech. Even though I hate having work in two places, it's easier to keep my design and business stuff on the desktop since laptops can be finicky at times. Good luck with the dog training as I know it's a good investment. I love my shoe collection too so I hope you can get them all soon! Have a wonderful day!🤗🙂

[@Phyrra]

I ended up working from a laptop starting in 2004 because it helps when I travel so that I can work from any location with internet. But I think I need to make my main machine a desktop again, even though I hate being tied down.

[@CourtneyBoell]

What a stressful move. Sorry that was so rough =(

[@erikatheicyone]

Moving sucks! And it's an even bigger pain in the ass, when people don't show when they should and screw up the job.

[@SharlzG]

I'm about to move on my own and I have chronic fatigue so I both have empathy, and am now not looking forward to moving

[@Phyrra]

Oh man, I'm so sorry to hear that. Do you have any friends who can help you locally? That's one of the things I've done for my friends with chronic illness, I've helped them move because they just cannot physically do it and it's a gift of love / friendship from me.

[@SharlzG]

Phyrra Nyx fortunately I have some wonderful friends who have already volunteered to help me paint and get things sorted at the new place, so I'll get a company for the big stuff and gradually get things set up where they belong

[@mamadebbeauty4118]

Honestly you shouldn’t have to explain your relationships to anyone that’s your personal business and as long as your all happy that’s all that matters and that’s your personal life like I said no one needs to know and put their noses into it and keep their opinions to themselves regardless if someone agrees with it or not it’s not their business

[@ThePinkLadyJ]

Wow, sorry about all the moving chaos. I know how much it sucks to move. I move constantly because my husband works in the space industry so we always have to move for his career. I think our record is living in 5 different places in one year. Yuck. I've been hesitant to switch from a desktop to a laptop for the same reasons. Hope they get your laptop fixed soon. I know what you mean I HATE using my husband's computer. Using someone else's computer is like using someone else's toothbursh. No, just no.

[@SaucerJess]

How do your dogs deal with thunderstorms? Any tips? My doggo kept us up all night last night and I need to figure something out. Thundershirts are no help :(

[@Phyrra]

Thundershirts worked to varying degrees for Phaedra. You can try wrapping them in a blanket (think like swaddling a baby). I will put on trance music (something with heavy thumping base) to drown out the thunder. Another friend tells her dogs 'no' so that they know it's not acceptable behavior.

[@SaucerJess]

Phyrra Nyx, thanks! I'll try the swaddling thing 💜

[@SaucerJess]

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[@Phyrra]

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[@LabNYorkie]

The house is terrific. I hope everyone has a lot of happiness and good health and enjoy the home. I have Fibromyalgia and chronic intractable migraines. As a bonus, I found out yesterday that I have Epstein Barr too. According to the bloodwork, I've had it for a while and it's not latent now. I'm wiped out and the thought of moving house is too much. It's hard not being able to will yourself to push through and that means physical things get pushed off onto other people. You feel guilty. Anyway, I hope Dave has more good days than bad days and that everyone - the pups included - make a ton of great memories in your home. 😊 Sorry - forgot the training thing. I'm waiting to hire a Barkbusters trainer who doesn't lay a hand on the dog and also does positive reinforcement. I'm saving up. I've gotten as far as I can with my dog who was abused by the former owner but, some stuff is beyond my knowledge base. Please could you update on how the training goes with your two?

[@dindranew.6808]

LOVE your look here! Tutorial, plz? Good luck with the move and much support to you--no laptop sounds like a personal HELL. I've had to use other people's machines when called in for a translation, and holy shit is that like a war crime. When you have the time, this tag might be fun: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fHWcZmptaal5mLs OH, and College Hunks is a national franchise thing, I think, because we have them here in Hellabama.

[@25sweetpeas]

Raining and moving! Not the best combo! Hope your computer gets a quicker turn around than expected, that stinks!

[@SuperOrderedChaos]

Are you bisexual/pansexual? It's fine if you're not comfortable with answering. As a bi girl I just think it'd be dope to have something in common with a creative content creator that I enjoy (obviously if you're straight, that's fine too)

[@Phyrra]

Yes! I identified as bisexual for years but after learning about pansexual I think that might more accurately fit me.