PIES: The 4 Ways To Attract Your Spouse

Is everything you thought about attraction wrong?
Tired of feeling like you're just not attracting your spouse anymore? You're not alone. Most people think attraction is just about physical appearance, but there's so much more to it!
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Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, shares a powerful secret that can transform your relationship. It's all about the PIES of Attraction: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual.
In this video, you'll discover:
Why physical attraction is just one piece of the puzzle (and it's not the biggest one!)
How to connect with your spouse on a deeper level
The surprising way to make yourself more attractive (without even trying!)
A real-life story of how one woman saved her marriage using the PIES method
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0:00 Introduction
0:03 4 WAYS TO ATTRACT YOUR SPOUSE
1:19 THERE IS A PROCESS TO FALLING IN LOVE
2:27 PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
2:38 INTELLECTUAL ATTRACTION
4:11 SPIRITUAL ATTRACTION
4:54 IT COMES BACK TO EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION
8:30 YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL YOU
9:05 BECOME THE BEST YOU THAT YOU CAN BE
11:23 ART OF ATTRACTION (PIES) BOOTCAMP (LINK IN DESCRIPTION)
14:29 KEEP WORKING ON YOU

[@mavishenator123]

Good to see that people value the sacred constitution of marriage and are willing to put efforts to make it work. I respect and pray for everyone trying. I feel marriage is a responsibility and a purification one has to go through. Its a journey of lifetimes

[@carolemoritz6937]

You mean sacred institution?

[@mavishenator123]

@@carolemoritz6937 yes

[@mml1224]

thank you, her vids have been helpful but i think i lost her, luv her alot! x1000

[@mavishenator123]

@@kassandrabarr6740 Best thing is to live close but separately, I don't know how your partner feels. Don't have any extra marital affairs or any affairs. Both of you. Its a sacrifice that will help your children also. They will also value and respect the institution of marriage. Both of you can also take up some meditation or yoga classes that can also help. Either together or separately. Take help from the lady in the video

[@AbelSFR]

This video should be required to view before a divorce or before marriage.

[@MarriageHelper]

Wow! Thank you for the kind response. We have found the working on your PIES is the best thing you can do for YOU regardless of your situation or how it turns out. Thank you for the comment!

[@carolynhall4176]

@@MarriageHelper another reality is that these kind of marriage helps (counseling) should be like you said, something you do all along. Everything has momentum, so if your marriage is not getting better, you might not realize it, but it's probably getting worse. Tips like you share here are great tips for all marriages.

[@madtofuboi8085]

My wife and I are separated.. after our separation I’ve been applying this without even knowing. But to know I was on the right path, it was a Godly sign. Thank you. It helped me so much!

[@Schyler__Parker]

@madtofuboi808 update on the marriage?

[@MohammedAli-lw6tm]

Did your wife come back to you

[@blkrbbn1535]

How did this work out for you?

[@Gxie]

This was BY FAR the best advice I’ve seen. After at least 10 prior channels, I’ve stopped crying during your video. I need to work on ME. I’m gonna sub. Thank you.

[@danduneman3892]

Amazing video! Every married couple should watch this. Now if I can get my wife to try this we can save our marriage. Praying everyday for reconciliation.

[@rsfitness9690]

Wrong way to look at it initially. Just start with you!

[@magicj599]

Don't pray for reconciliation, even if it's what you want. Get your life together and let whatever will be to be. If she bails, you at least are ready to control your own destiny. If she comes back, then you will be a man and lead.

[@donpoe8435]

stop praying start reconciling... dont waste time on some BS nothingness ...

[@googlecritic2773]

How’s your marriage going?

[@JohnnyAdz.]

How did you get on?

[@HMT-tf2ld]

I believe this is something every person in a relationship should watch. Change yourself first to see the change you want in others. Sooo good! ❤️

[@danielnovak4284]

Thank you so much, my Sister, for this! I needed to hear this for my marriage. It just hurts so much in being in a sexless, loveless, and touchless marriage. God bless you for your advice! Peace be with you!

[@charlesbell5500]

How is it going now, brother?

[@nm9586]

I know exactly how you feel. It hurts so much. Where is that woman that used to wrap her arms around me when I came home from work and gave me a kiss and told me she was happy to see me?

[@veemafunda9528]

Thank you for this video. I decided to focus on myself and pray for myself my marriage. I am so exhausted to be honest but I still want to save my marriage.

[@forte642]

This is amazing. Been married for 32 years. Personal change. Very important stuff to help me hit the reset button

[@wordandmusic3911]

The power of prayer is key. I asked the LORD for help when I suspected my wife of cheating. He answered. As a result I started to look at myself more seeking to effect change. My closer examination of myself along with guidance through faith is beginning to look a lot like what you describe here. It is amazing how ones love for the other grows when one sets out to begin this process. You remember how good it is to be good to your spouse.

[@BibleExposition2022]

One of the things is do not make a big deal out of most everything. Couples argued a lot of time with petty stuffs that amount to nothing. Think on the positive erase the negatives, life is too short compares to eternity. Our life span on earth dissipate and disappear quite fast when we look back in life. Spiritual readiness is quite important. Amen

[@bugsinourpockets2558]

My husband told me about a month ago that he fell out of love with me. I have been working on myself since. Ive been going to therapy and been working on my physical and emotional healing already. I'm just glad I am on the right track for myself.

[@HelenaHart_SPELLS]

it is sad to have a broken home, use law of attraction in my bio

[@MichaelRutzz]

Thanks Helena this helped me save my broken marriage

[@mminniear984]

I have noticed that working out is a good start and gets you on the track to focus on doing things that are good for you. Which is necessary to be happy in any relationship

[@brambletbrats3184]

Great video and very true. The only person you can change is yourself. As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.

[@lindalewis2714]

This hits home for me. Thank you for the valuable information. I have forgotten how important the PIES are and my marriage has faltered after 39 years. I took it and him for granted.

[@tim1942]

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[@jessejames88]

This was fantastic and very helpful. Thank you, Kimberly!

[@angierae403]

I have been recommending your organization to everyone who needs you!!!

[@Iworkwithnitwits]

This video has been enormously helpful more than your other videos combined.

[@EdbertTjoniko91]

This is exactly what i needed to hear rn, that i have not gotten from any talks with my friends. Thank youu!

[@tracicorbin8445]

I truly thank God for you! I’m just in tears at how God gave us you . I’m so thankful for the testimony of the saved marriage.

[@loops3712]

I love the PIES! Thank you for all the information.

[@SandraFernandes621]

This spoke to me- thank you for sharing your story- I am currently in a separation and I noticed I was just sitting around waiting for my spouse to ask to see me or even come back and I stopped doing for me. Now I plan to do things I love and date me.

[@devincheatham166]

Thank you for your testimony. This brings great insight to how I see what I need to do to fix my own personnel problems. Thank you.

[@timothychavis3783]

Thank you so much for this insightful, game-changing information!

[@stacyfelton1243]

This is such an amazing video. Personal account of someone's own life /relationship

[@MrsMysteryWoman]

This is such great advice. SO true.

[@mauricejean-gilles3285]

This is amazing, i definitely blamed my wife for a long long time for not growing together, when in reality shes changing while i remained stagnant

[@icecreaminc8013]

Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. Invariably they are both disappointed. - Albert Einstein.

[@Akabackalooka]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

[@MarriageHelper]

Glad it was helpful!

[@solorizzy8689]

Your story with your husband is exactly what I am going through right now. The only thing is, it's too late. He is with the other woman. However this video taught me that I don't do anything for myself. I will start to do the Pies for myself. For my next relationship, but most importantly for myself

[@isabellawilliam1042]

Hi friend,i really understand how you feel right now,do you really need help?

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I know of someone that helped me get my husband come running back to me.

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He cn hlp you get your husband come running back to you.

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W.h.z.t.s.a.p.p.h.i.m....now

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I really trust him so much,he cn hlp you.

[@Dominionaire090]

Thank you so much for this valuable information!

[@monalissakaluwa3166]

I came across this at the right time when I am feeling like my relationship is falling apart, i need to adopt the PIES strategy

[@daveleighton4683]

My wife has met someone on line and she tells me that there is an unbelievable emotional attraction. She has fallen in love with him, even though she hasn't met him. So much so, that she wants out of our marriage to be with him. He has no money and is not good looking, but the emotional connection with him has destroyed my marriage of 35 years. I can't compete with that. It destroyed me.

[@dianachophy]

Pray

[@daveleighton4683]

@@dianachophy thank you. I am, and her friends. I have made my bathroom a "war room" where i pray when she's asleep. She wants to go and see him, so I am, amongst other things, praying for discord between them before she goes.

[@kaylawilson2996]

@@daveleighton4683 how are things now?

[@JohnnyAdz.]

​@daveleighton4683 Hey, how are things?

[@katiebr]

My marriage is broken and you give me hope! Wow this is a great video!!!!

[@Jamac007]

We waiting?

[@stephanierouse6782]

This made me cry so hard. I'm going through the same thing and nothing is going right

[@MarriageHelper]

So sorry to hear this friend. Please get in contact with us!! We would love to help you and be your support system during this time!! You can call us at 1 866 903 0990! And also please consider getting our free mini course to help you learn how to get your spouse back! Free course here: bit.ly/3FAr9Vg We hope it helps!

[@shardamohabir2955]

Thank you for all these beautiful words

[@benandbetsy6410]

Thank you for this video.

[@mang3139]

Great video! TY for your real-life example

[@ashleyhamilton4951]

I think this is the best video and guidance ive ever seen. And the first time ive felt any hope in my situation at all. Thank you so much.

[@TheNurulAmeera]

I appreciate the idea behind working on PIES. Its true but realistically. I think it all comes down to the hearts and its intentions. Realistically too, what if either one of us is mentally ill, sickly and is dependant on the other? Will they only love us when we are at our best? What about in times of sickness and in times of bad? We come into marriage to also love our spouses even in inconvenience. Thats true love.

[@stefaniakonstantinidou981]

U r so right. Love is a commitment. Yes,,together in sickness too, but always try to improve, Don t give up

[@choanziledrolf2409]

Thanks for making this video 😊😊😊 i learned a lot...

[@hyeyeonlim3092]

Thank you for this.

[@DynamiteKid1224]

Awesome video! Love it!

[@stevenwilliams3829]

I subscribed after hearing your testimony. Thanks for sharing.

[@caseymyslive7632]

I have been working on all these I love you Micque you are my life.💖

[@jcporosity4764]

This happen to me I would work so much we lost connection 😞. She lost the feeling for me. We have 2 kids. She never talked about it she hold it in. Now im changing my bad ways she has notice it. Now she's leaving to a 1 room apartment we both gonna share the kids. Im not gonna give up on my wife she's still mad n upset with me. Ima give her space n time to heal

[@secreteobsession3584]

I'm sorry to here that I wish my partner acknowledged that I'm in a process off moving out but you keep fighting even if you have to send her a letter or flowers every day

[@baniaberry9309]

I recommend you to a man who return my ex back

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He brought my ex back.. [phone]

[@paulrichard4945]

This was great, I been tryin to find out about "my husband has cheated on me what do i do" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Bonuhappad Intellectual Blaster - (search on google ) ? It is a smashing one off product for discovering how to understand what your husband wishes you knew about him minus the normal expense. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my mate got excellent success with it.

[@deniseboynton7913]

I LOVE ❤️ this!!! I really need to start working on me. Everyone tells me that, but it’s hard to know what that looks like and how to start.

[@TerranLikeKaren]

I’m with you on that! “Keep busy” “work on yourself” is what EVERYONE says & I’m just like how?? But this video has given a starting point.

[@evaavi9990]

So helpful thank you so much :)

[@rodneyrobinson4346]

I was against how you started,but you shore open my eyes wow!I went through a simarlier situation.

[@michaelmoran6405]

That was amazing!

[@ParkHillPianoStudio]

Loved this!

[@anuradharaj6572]

Best videos ever with lots of hope

[@kendra3329]

I’m going through a divorce now and the more I focus on the PIES, the more I realize that he’s not even the kind of person I want to attract anymore. The more you work on the PIES, the more you grow, and sometimes you realize that you’re actually worth so much more than what you’re trying to hold onto...

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[@bethestandardallday]

That’s the wrong take away

[@tgtech570]

These are honestly some of the best and most helpful videos I've ever seen. Thank you.

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[@odogunmoni7257]

That help me attract my ex partner back after seperation

[@user-tm8ey9qs1g]

Everything she says hits the nail on the head. I'm destroyed but now I have an idea of what I need to do Thank You!!!

[@HelenaHart_SPELLS]

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[@MichaelRutzz]

​@@HelenaHart_SPELLS thanks it helped me save my marriage

[@pgtips4240]

This makes perfect sense.

[@KatzMe]

Thank you so much for sharing your story it was very helpful and informative. Unfortunately I went through the divorce even when focusing on myself but he was a narcissist and drank. But going forward I will keep this saved in mind for future relationships. I’ve been single for 10 years and I really needed to hear this today to get me out of my slump and back to the vivacious woman I used to be. Again thank you 🙏🏻

[@tassierivera5390]

Definitely going to try the PIES for Me!

[@pinayinmichigan6363]

Great content. Thank you.

[@user-hh8oo9rb7x]

I learned too much , right now me and my husband wasn't in a good situation but coz of your program i've a lot thank you very much

[@sarbjitkaur494]

Thank you Kimberly ❤

[@brightpage1020]

If I'm taking care of me, maturing, learning, feeling excited about life and it's opportunities, then he's bound to be re-attracted or perhaps it will become clear that this match has outgrown one another and become time to find a new one - maybe even with myself. Find a refreshing role in my own life as the one I champion and root for.

[@Kickerworks]

Discovering this is exactly what I need to be doing. I've come to terms with things I did in our relationship and know what needs changed. I have a vision of our future if my wife would reconsider. I have learned two emotions that make me tetter-totter. I've never been able to see what these emotions are doing to me and others before. I'm sad and feel defeated with no hope and I also see there is hope in myself to be stronger. I love my wife and want it to work out but also learning to accept it not working out. I don't want to be in a dark place again. My wife also did things and she confessed infedelity. The situation on that end I am forgiving. But I don't want to be brought down all the time for the things that I only did. I just need to be the real me like I use to be.

[@mariahyun5683]

I can't believe how similar your situation is with mine. I'm also stuck in my little house in Korea waiting for my husbands return daily. We fight just like you did. I have recently started to work on my P and I but I never knew that I should work on the E and S as well. This is such an eye opener. I will work on myself and thank you for the video

[@galator011]

thank you so much for this advice. I will be chasing this and achieving thank you!

[@HelenaHart_SPELLS]

It is sad to have a broken home, use law of attraction in my bio

[@MichaelRutzz]

Thanks Helena it save my broken marriage

[@afgwafa5729]

Just love this speech thanks alot 🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@adatorres2248]

This is great advice 👏, I have done the PIES and it does work.

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[@redbulliswoke3606]

Very similar to my wife and my story. I have been you. My marriage is on the brink but I believe I've started the work that needed to be done before it was too late

[@Austin67G]

thank you for this

[@SergMilli]

Great video. This is helping me a lot through my own break up.

[@MarriageHelper]

Thank you so much Serg Milli. We truly appreciate your comment and are grateful to have you as part of our community here on KZbin. Please, don't hesitate to reach out to us if there's anything else we can do for you. marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/ Blessings,

[@DonaldHTyers]

Awesome Advice ....

[@monicawalton8916]

Thank you so much for this information it really help me an I been married 38 yr but you can always learn how to keep your marriage happy ❤️

[@MarriageHelper]

Glad it was helpful!

[@helenlhocker]

Love it 😻

[@regiz5358]

Shift focus is paramount I changed my life as well being married to someone with NPD... for me the question is: WHAT DO YOU WANT?

[@uchman2640]

Thanks alot Kemberly

[@souhakhalil4809]

Thank you alot for the help

[@jane1925]

Thank You So much❤

[@RelationshipBuildersForum]

Wonderful content that can apply to any couple

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[@kimiekg1]

Thank you so much

[@dianewellness2778]

So grateful for your contant as I kee coming back to keep on track with my marriage

[@MarriageHelper]

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[@irishey0801]

thank you so much It's an eye opener because I'm in the situation now i do hope and pray to do what I'm supposed to do....🙏wish me luck!!!!

[@MarriageHelper]

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[@juliannesharpe278]

Very Good Stuff!!!

[@sushmaelangbam9031]

Thank you !

[@jordangriffin908]

Great video

[@mrincodi]

What a wonderful video. This is like a softer version of the red pill. Yes; working on yourself is always the first step.

[@geemoore1387]

Perfectly said

[@stephaniegordon834]

It's a shame that my husband of 25 years didn't care if I started working on the things that I needed to change about myself he was already disconnected from me and the marriage and was ultimately ready to move on

[@18rlawjd18]

Don’t lose hope. I send your hugs, you’re not alone

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Aha moment for me, thank you for giving me so much hope .🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@alicearminahaik]

I'm single and this video is very good, it's help in the future. Thank you.

[@bigtim31]

I agree 👍 very helpful

[@TipOfTheSpear907]

I’m doing this today I’m starting today and hopefully to save my marriage after making me the best me for me

[@WorldWideWebObserver]

This is very wise advice that works!

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[@MichaelRutzz]

​@@HelenaHart_SPELLS thanks it helped me save my marriage

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I LOVE the pies!!!

[@SAVANNAHHENRI]

Thank you so much, I needed to hear this.

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[@josie5592]

Wow...this was so true this is kinda my life

[@GO-ep8pj]

I am never married but this make so much sense

[@audreymeyer5616]

I like that you bring up God! I really like your videos. My marriage is doing really good. It has had it’s ups and downs and it really almost went south a few years ago. I decided I wanted to keep moving forward. Sometimes even though things are good, I feel a little distance but not the suspicion that something is going on. I just want to keep things really good between us before I could do anything to push him away. I have that kind of personality at times, but I am aware of it. I am working on myself. Thanks again!

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This was an excellent video!

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[@zenanaiga1513]

Wow....I believe you. It's Alwz seems hard to get out of that hurting zone to the pie. But once you get the courage, the sky is the limit

[@joshuafusselman3323]

Ha, this is great! So funny, in my church we started a couple of years ago with a renewed fourfold focus for self-improvement: physical, intellectual, social, and spiritual. It's awesome.

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[@MichaelRutzz]

​@@HelenaHart_SPELLS thanks, it helped me save my relationship

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[@RussBraby]

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Thank you