Freedom After a Homosexual Lifestyle w/ Kim Zember

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0:00 Intro, Kim puts a guy in a headlock
0:40 Kim's Childhood
4:20 Kim's Catholic Upbringing
7:26 Realizing First SSA Thoughts
13:00 Origin of TomBoy
15:00 First Exposure to Illicit Content
16:50 Progression of SSA
34:09 An Internal War
44:26 "Coming Out" with SSA
48:00 Advice for Parents
57:33 The Heart of God
1:00:48 Identities & Christianity
1:11:57 Analogizing Sin
1:16:09 Kim's Conversion
1:31:38 Relationships & Temptation
1:37:00 Kim's Source of Passion
1:39:43 Kim's Journey
1:40:28 Change within the Church
1:41:56 What is Marriage
1:44:08 The Christian Identity
1:45:28 Bearing Burden of those w/ SSA
1:49:07 Kim's Fav. Breakfast
1:50:47 Restore the Glory Podcast
1:52:51 Tackling Temptations
2:03:39 SSA Normalization & Society
2:09:11 Reclaiming a Christian Society
2:21:16 Evangelizing & Protecting Family
2:29:45 Great Resources/Ministries for SSA
2:38:40 Closing

[@therdinazinastina3000]

1:28:56 "The opposite of homosexuality is not heterosexuality. It's holiness. The opposite of any sin is turning back to God who is sinless."

[@roselove2983]

Absolutely amazing, I love that Kim said this!! ❤

[@RainbowTrash06]

I have been raised catholic my whole life but it is videos like this and comments like yours that make me turn against the catholic faith, catholics talk a lot about love and happiness and love thy neighbour but they never practise it, God loves everyone regardless of race, gender, sexuality etc, if love is a sin then send me to hell

[@user-bv4sj2gq7g]

Sy Rogers always said that. So very true.

[@roselove2983]

@@krabbypatty5333 My head is spinning I can’t seem to make heads or tails of your comment.

[@Dienekes678]

@@RainbowTrash06 You are totally mistaken, I'm afraid. God does indeed love all of us, more than we can comprehend! He hates sin though. If we are told that two men laying together is an abomination, that's not language that is open to interpretation.

[@karenglenn2329]

I am 78 years old. I have been sober for 34 years. Everything this woman said moved me. I was "loved" by alcohol. The craving to be loved in how we are made.

[@melanieannette3781]

Yes, isn’t it interesting the similarities? We all are sinners and should rejoice when repentance occurs without ever looking down on anyone for a particular sin. We are to pray with one another and recognize our own weaknesses.

[@karenglenn2329]

@@melanieannette3781 Thank you for the comment. But for the grace of God has real meaning. One day at a time. Peace

[@octuple505]

I've never heard it put this way, loved by alcohol.

[@karenglenn2329]

@@octuple505 lt was all l could think about. It killed the pain. "It was my best friend. It ...was my everything". I did not not know how l could ever live without it.

[@BitsyBee]

Agreed! The great truths here are for everyone, not just those facing SSA.

[@juanruelas9008]

I am a man who has SSA, I lived a homosexual life style that lead me to a life of sin in addiction and promiscuity and in my pride I egotistically told God I don’t need you I have made a life for myself without your help so if you can do something that I can’t bring it on. And the Lord listened and delivered in a very powerful way. A family member attempted to take his life in front of me and my knees gave out, and screamed “Lord, I can do many things but I cannot bring someone back from the dead!!” This family member recovered and I was able to reconcile myself with my history and the church and saw the power of prayer and God’s unconditional love for me. Fast forward, God sent me a Catholic woman that I respected in our courtship, and am now married and have a baby boy! The Lord is faithful and I love this conversation because we need more people who have SSA who have had an encounter with Christ to give their testimony. Blessed be God!!!

[@lynncrf]

I hope you don't mind me asking, but if you felt you were gay how did you have a sexual relationship with a woman? The gay people I know say that they are repulsed by sex with the opposite sex in the way I am at the thought of having sex with a woman. No worries if that is too personal a question.

[@peaceandlove544]

Wowwwwwwwwww Juan you are fighter and survivor. As my grandpa said "One of the most important virtues is to have definition in our lives in everything that pleases our Lord that made us" I didn't understand it until older and meet a few couples that I could tell were gayish both or one of them but loved each other and had families. And you could tell they made a decision for the traditional family instead of the SSA life. Even know several SSA men that chose a celebat life and to help their families instead of the gay life. There is no inner peace in the gay life one told me.

[@juanruelas9008]

@lynncrf I acknowledge that it is different for everyone. I have racked my brain over this throughout out my life because I was abused as a child from 5-8. I actually grew up hating men and really only had friendships with women because the person that abused me was a man. I sought out spiritual direction after the encounter I had with the Lord through this family member and I realized that what I sought was masculinity, strength, something that I didn’t think I could ever posses. I wanted security and I wanted to be protected instead of being the protector. You could say that my longing was misplaced in homosexuality. It is horrible to say but deep down inside, I wanted to posses the men I was with in an almost obsessive way. So when I said yes to the Lord I became open to whatever path he wanted for me. I prayed for my vocation, and I spoke very freely with the Lord. I said “If you want my vocation to be marriage send me the woman you created for me.” I of course was afraid, but at the same time willing to do the Lord’s will. And he sent me my wife, the only woman that I’ve experienced to be completely honest with me. She opened up about her history as a radical feminist and how she was anti life and helped me to be open about my past struggle even the lack of physical attraction. So all this to say that the Lord made me new, I fell in love with my wife’s soul first and then everything else came afterwards.

[@lynncrf]

@@juanruelas9008 Oh wow. That would make an amazing book/story. I follow a non religious gay man (Disaffected podcast) who says he will likely remain single for life because of what you talk about. He says that most gay men are traumatised and broken and that that is why the rates of promiscuity are so high in that community. God bless you, your wife, and child. I am so sorry that you were abused. ♥️♥️

[@juanruelas9008]

@lynncrf I felt loved unconditionally by the Lord through my wife, and not to say this was a one way street, my wife also attests to being loved by the Lord through me. I stopped putting my sexuality first and started putting my identity as a Beloved child of God first. I know this might sound abstract, but I leave you with these words that I received. “You want to have an encounter with God? Do you want to see your life radically changed in the Light of Christ’s unconditional love? Do you want to see a miracle? Then ask the Lord, right now, drop to your knees or even just mentally ask Him. I can not bring someone back from the dead. Lord I am dead in the world, in sin. You died on the cross and were buried. You descended into Hell, I am there, let me rise with you on the third day. Let me see that my history is perfect and that you have always been present. Lord Jesus Christ son of the Living God, have mercy on me a sinner. Amen.” I pray that you may encounter the Lord and know that when He sees you, He is not repulsed, He loves you and wants to do wonderful things in you life! Courage!!

[@SilverCottage]

I was a Tom Boy also, and people were always asking me if I was gay. Finally, I wondered if they saw something obvious that I was not aware of, so I tried to be gay but it just didn't "work" for me. I was still attracted only to boys! This was decades before I was baptized and then became Catholic. I wish people would not push that "gay" label on others, just because they don't appear to be a typical frilly female. It turns out that I was more attracted to GOD than anything else in the world. I was meant to be a nun. I've been a religious hermit for 20 years and am perfectly happy.

[@fragwagon]

Thank you for your vocation!

[@MARLA116]

Amen. You are an inspiration.

[@celestial-mq9sc]

This is a beautiful story. Let’s all try to be attracted to God first and foremost! Bless you!

[@MARLA116]

God bless you. I admire you. TY for your story.

[@mR-dc4oq]

I resonate with what you wrote. Nice to read from someone I understand and I believe would understand me. We humans are ge really baffled in our lives, or that’s how I experience it; we are complex beings. This life can be so confusing.

[@classicworks0316]

I'm a Catholic dude with SSA and I gotta say I LOVE Kim. Her testimony helps me know I'm sane and following the right path.

[@angelalemos9811]

Keep going brother 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 God bless

[@racheljames7]

You're awesome. Keep strong, brother.

[@kellibuzzard]

Bless you, brother!!

[@JH-xu4du]

Same here @classicworks0316. God really is speaking to us all through her 💜

[@lumenaperpetua]

So glad you're here!

[@stangerling9412]

I cried from this discussion. I am a 29-year old Catholic man struggling from SSA since I was a boy. Probably a contributing factor was that my father was distant and my older brother bullied me for being effeminate when I was young. As I turned 29 this month, I was suddenly enveloped with a deep sense of sadness and anxiety as I approach my thirties still struggling with SSA. Though I have never had a boyfriend or had sexual contact with a man, I am still struggling with pornography and masturbation. I still have strong physical attraction to men. I may probably never get married and have children to take care of me when I'm old. And people in their heads are probably confirming their suspicions already that I'm a "sissy" since I've never had a girlfriend before. So I could relate to a lot of what Kim said. However, I would really like to follow God. I don't know what the next step is and where things could go from here. Please pray for me that I eventually know and follow God's plan for me 🙏🙏 thank you Kim for your honesty, you are an inspiration to struggling Christians and for sure not only those with SSA. God bless!

[@dan-ch8kr]

I'll be praying for you, brother 🤍

[@RCGWho]

There's an author named Joe Dallas you might look up. And Becket Cook.

[@ynesrivero5470]

Check on Dr Joseph Nico!osi

[@tinygold772]

I have been in deep depression and suicidal thoughts daily for 3 years I’ve been listening to this podcast constantly and with this interview I actually began to believe that I am a beloved daughter and I heard “arise” and I had to google where exactly I read that in the Bible and it’s Ephesians 5:14 “Wake up sleeper! Arise from the dead and the Messiah will shine on you” - for the first time in 3 years I feel like I have something to get up for… to start living like I am a beloved daughter

[@user-sq2ek7eo6w]

I hope you're doing better 💞

[@BriD2119]

Im a Christian guy who struggles with SSA 😞. My parents are narcissists so 🤷 im a survivor of narcissistic parents. Im now 39 but thankfully Holy Spirit filled.

[@GigaMoth]

I’m not a Catholic and grew up in a Protestant Christian home. A few years ago I struggled with ssa and started down a very confusing and spiritually dark path. God saved me not just spiritually but physically and mentally. Kim’s testimony touched me in a way no other testimony has. I am so thankful for her and her ministry.

[@roselove2983]

I could agree more with you!! ❤

[@ThinkLuckyThink]

Beautiful testimony. I myself have the burden of having SSA. It's hard. Very hard. When I tell people about my struggle they just tell me how it's normal and I should just accept myself. For a long time I did accept myself. I was proud to be bisexual. But I soon asked myself, "Is this what God wants for me? To have this sinful life style?" And he didn't. So now whenever I have urges I turn them off and think about something else. It's better to struggle and follow God then to be comfortable while rejecting God

[@gigifontanilla6288]

I am only halfway of this podcast and I just bawled for 20 straight minutes. I don't struggle with same sex attraction but I was sexually abused in the past and I experienced other forms of abuse too and the after affects nearly killed me. I am blessed to be alive. So a lot of what Kim says about identity really resonates with me. I am a Daughter of the Most High God. That is my identity and that alone is my identity

[@lisamurphy3291]

😥❤🙏 So glad you are healing from the abuse and that you know you're a Beloved Daughter of the Most High God. Your witness is inspiring to others. 👍

[@theresem7140]

Amen!

[@giorgiaalexanderactingothe1892]

Same here. Amen

[@rl2388]

I am in my early 30's, Male with a Catholic and Asian upbringing. Having SSA (closeted) and porn addiction. Emotionally distant from my father. Started reading the bible half a year ago with the protestant community. Doing a confession last month, telling the priest everything I've never told to anyone. Similar to Kim, although I have never had a sexual relationship, I was always fond of seeing older males. When an older male is talking to me, giving me suggestions, and teaching me kinds of stuff, I am experiencing this "loving father" and I love him being around. Perhaps I was only looking for something that I have never received from my father but for some reason, this sexual desire emerged. My heart cried when I realised my little brother, who is 10 years younger than me is having this SSA (accidentally saw it from his phone but we've never actually talked about this since I have never told anyone). I just can't comprehend why this happened to two people in my family. I am starting to blame myself. I hope you can pray for me to be able to carry up the cross and be closer to God.

[@luzclara3855]

🙏 Please, do not despair. God will help you. Praying for you and your brother, with much love. ❤

[@lionheart5078]

the first step is to kick the porn addiction and of course up your prayer life. As u mentioned a lot of the SSA has to do with the fact that you are hungry for male attention and approval but then this gets mixed with sexual desire etc. You have to try and seperate these things and not make everything sexual. Its difficult but God will help you. God bless.

[@rl2388]

@@lionheart5078 Thank you, God bless!

[@sarahalderman3126]

Sexual sin has saturated our entire society and culture. It is NOT your fault that this “happened” to two people in your family. It is simply an effect of our sin filled society. For myself it was being molested as a small child and again as a very young teen of 12/13, for others it was pornography, or some other perverse sin…

[@shlamallama6433]

Praying

[@Mom-os9sp]

Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I cannot say it enough. I am a mother, 2 of my children have told me they are homosexual. One "no longer believes in God" the other doesn't go to church at all. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I cried almost the entire time. So often we either told to accept them exactly as they are, no questions or drill it into them that it is a sin. Kim also helped me remember, they know what truth is, I do not need to drill them with it. All I need to do is love them, bear it with them, pray and trust God. Thank you for all of the resources, these are exactly what I have been looking for.

[@trussme3210]

"If we knew how to love one another we wouldn't need therapists...." How true! In the past year I started seeing a therapist, now I'm doing great but in the middle of all my issues I had this overwhelming feeling that there were only two people in the world who listened to me, one was my wife and since divorce isn't an option she kinda had to listen. The other was my therapist, and she got paid quite well to listen..... that's a terrible place to be in and it reflects badly on the church and the elders/leaders whatever you want to call them. One of the goals of my life is to be a good listener, no one should experience the extreme loneliness I have gone through, utterly alone in the crowd is an emptiness almost to great to bear.

[@josephososkie3029]

You would be a good listener because you are aware of the necessity. And you would gently move them to be open toward God.

[@sweetsea4337]

Oh boy this really spoke to my heart. I found myself shocked when Kim started explaining her life and I’m faced with my own life story (with our differences of course, I don’t believe I have ssa but I’ve never been attracted to any person in that way regardless of gender or at least never let myself be). That longing for a safe friend is one that I’ve known most of my life and which still haunts me. I’m not sure what this means for me now as I am continuing to find new wounds and I’m not sure how to handle them. I feel dumb for sharing this on KZbin and I’ll probably regret it when I get over myself in a few hours and go to bed but Matt has been talking about vulnerability so much and that coincidentally (which let’s face it there is no coincidence) was my prayer last time I went to adoration so who knows maybe this isn’t as dumb as I think. I don’t ask for prayers much but if y’all wouldn’t mind praying for me, I’ve come to the realization that I can’t take care of myself and I am praying that my Heavenly Father will Father me in this way, I would really appreciate it. Anywho thank y’all so much for everything you do❤️

[@dentellier]

Praying for you. Hang in there and keep being honest 💜

[@adriennejohnson1756]

Pray the Surrender Novena. God bless. 🙏

[@sarahalderman3126]

❤

[@Dienekes678]

It's not dumb to share your feelings at all! /hugs! Try to remember that you have a guardian angel beside you who loves you dearly 24/7. God bless!

[@jacksonbaker5375]

Bless you for sharing your feelings, it's so wonderful that you've had the courage to open yourself up to strangers. I'll pray that God guides your experience of self-discovery and keeps you close to Him during it, and that God may send you a true friend who will be a comfort to you. May Jesus bless you!

[@timdillon8841]

I have been struggling intensely with SSA. I was touched when I was younger by another man and that perverse seed has stuck in my being.

[@jacobecklund717]

Praying for you Tim!

[@roselove2983]

God bless you, I will pray for your healing! ❤❤❤

[@kellibuzzard]

Praise Jesus Christ! This woman is fantastic! God, glorify yourself in this beautiful sister. Use her to minister to millions. Protect and provide for her.

[@AKDickens]

I don’t have SSA or have a loved one that does but I do have elementary aged daughters and appreciate this interview. I also appreciated how you went about it. Never attacking SSA but always loving the person at heart. So many “Christians” have this “beat the devil out of them” mentality that will only create defensiveness and animosity towards God and his church. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@davidmcpike8359]

are u fricking serious? So many Christians "beat the devil out of them" mentality?? Bullshit. That's a calumnious lie that the devil will beat out of you some day if you don't repent. Seriously: every idle word, you will render an account on the day of judgment. Jesus says so. Watch what you say.

[@oldskola3634]

I’m a Latter Day Saint. Honestly I’m still in the middle of this episode, I live it so much! So much pure gospel here! This woman has an amazing a beautiful story, and a beautiful testimony to share.

[@squishy8758]

Maybe try giving a catholic mass a shot?? You can just sit in the back and not talk to anyone, just sit and watch

[@dentellier]

As a heterosexual woman, my relationships with men have been just as broken and fraught with sadness, disappointment, and codependency as the relationships that Kim describes having with women. Seems to me that the biggest issue here is when we love our romantic partner more than we love God and this partner becomes a substitute for God’s love.

[@Jennifer-gr7hn]

And, have to tackle childhood issues...it's ALL from there,than we try to find it in man, society, etc.

[@aeb_captain4857]

This was POWERFUL. Even for someone who does not struggle with same sex attraction, Kim brought so much truth that anyone in any situation can relate to. Ive got some new things to pray on!

[@bigol7169]

‘Struggle’…

[@chase.23]

“Don’t pretend that it [our feelings] doesn’t exist ❤️. That is beautiful and right where I’m at

[@jazamaraz8029]

Holy cow! I'm halfway through this video and I now understand much better than ever before the phrase 'tongues of fire'. This chick's words are on fire and they're creating a burning desire in me to have a deeper love for God and to know his heart more intimately. Thank you, Kim. And thank you PWA.

[@DavidMorales-hm3cg]

Was listening and at 1:07:42 Kim says a Priest asked her "What is Truth?" And I immediately thought about how those are the words of Pilate when he turns his back on Jesus who is truth incarnate!!! God was trying to show this priest he was in error and it flew out of his mouth and over his head! Lord have mercy on us!

[@marywright2005]

Absolutely amazing interview! I love how Kim breaks down the identification. Every person deals with this. I used to self-harm and I never understood why I would make that my identity though people insisted I did. Why do we insist on identifying with our fallenness and yet balk at identifying as children of the most high? God bless you and thank you for this amazing testimony!

[@jajohnson7809]

I've watched this twice, and am holding back tears. I knew I had SSA some 30 years ago as a teenager. It's been a painful road. On top of SSA, I struggled with depression and anxiety as well as other things, still do. Unlike Kim, I did leave Christianity, and by God's grace, came back after 10 years. I've felt great consolation from God, the saints, and my church community, but the pain and loneliness have gotten to the point where I'm barely functional, though I do hold a job. There are so many times when I want to end it when I reflect on the years of heartache and struggle, as well as on the knowledge I will have to fight this battle for life--and also, that I'm never going to know the intimacy married couples do. There's a definite mourning process in accepting that it's my lot to be single. I do not pretend that others don't have struggles of their own, but Kim expressed it so well when she said, we want to be heard and seen, as well as loved. We are human, after all. I've seen the wonders God's capable of, and I pray God will strengthen me to carry on, as exhausting and difficult as it can be. I know God is with me, even in my darkest hours. He's with all of us. Thank you, Matt and Kim.

[@adriennejohnson1756]

Praying for you. God loves you and you are worthy.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Much love to you❤️

[@paulina6826]

❤

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

I recommend finding a SSA girl who is Catholic and pursuing chastity like you and live together as roomates and platonic duo so that you won't have to be alone or pray for one. Or find a roomate pursuing holiness in general.

[@MarySmith-sv1zh]

@@carolinpurayidom4570 I would not do this, but yes, pursue good friendships with faithful Catholics. Find a good, more traditional Catholic church that tells the truth in love. Institute of Christ the King? FSSP? St. John Cantius? Get involved in parish life. Coffee dates, movies, picnics...

[@PaxChristi7]

1:36:18 “We may have come to the end of ourselves but that’s when we come to the beginning of God” what a quote. Can absolutely relate to that.

[@pax9864]

Yes! So much of our lives in a nutshell!

[@kellyklingbeil5802]

It's been said that "God cannot use anyone until he has crushed them to powder first "

[@tonymorris3378]

I love this woman. Not many/enough are so infused with grace and interpersonal intellect as she is. So much she said has me realizing I need to rewatch this more than once to unpack all the spiritual gems she just threw out there. Thank you both for this!! I have much to learn from this.

[@PAT201000]

LOVE the phrase, "Weep for them before you speak with them."

[@chloewilson9898]

KID YOU NOT at the start of this I thought "Man we really need a Saint for our time who struggled with SSA, maybe it's Kim" NO PRESSURE KIM 😂 so much love for this. It's so relevant because so many of us, arguably all of us, have experienced sexual perversion to some degree. Thank you for your honesty and fire for GOD!

[@kellibuzzard9431]

Yes, we're all broken and bent! So agree.

[@benjamin.misantone]

Protestant here, but it's just amazing the common ground we share for those trying to stay faithful to a Biblical sexual ethic. God bless!

[@Featherfinder]

I haven’t even started watching yet but I *salute Kim’s extraordinary courage in speaking about this publicly*. I can think of two people who have been heavily persecuted by the Human Rights Campaign and other parties simply for speaking about their own private experiences and their deepening conversion to Christ. Her speaking here is an act of great love. I’m praying for her.

[@truegirl2anna]

This can also be applied towards any other sexual sin, particularly pornography. Such an amazing conversation!!! ❤❤

[@Free1inhim]

Even to any inordinate affection even food.

[@jaimievasquez2328]

P o 20:24 😊 Thanks moThanks m😊😊Iki I nniii😊😊.

[@MeaningToMatter]

Dude.... Kim is ON FIRE!!!! 🔥🔥🕊️🔥🔥 She is such a gift!!!

[@MeaningToMatter]

@Fog 🕊️🔥

[@juanortiz2937]

agree

[@Strive1974]

Fire of the Holy Spirit is good flaming

[@kellibuzzard]

Truly! Her logic and words are Scriptural. We would do well to follow her example...!

[@bernadetteyarbrough7275]

I love her testimony, I don’t struggle with homosexuality but I have struggled in the same way in my life with the opposite sex, finding myself and self worth. Her story has pointed out things that happened in my life that I knew I struggled with but didn’t recognize I was seeking out connections and love in the wrong way. I feel hopeful in my relationship with the lord now, and to know someone who’s struggled in a similar way that I’m not the only one.

[@generalquoti3304]

This is so beautiful. Brought me to tears. I have a loved one whom i dearly love. She has SSA. She is not "out" but i know that she has SSA cuz i found out somehow, by accident. It broke my heart to a million pieces when i found out and i never confronted her. Lately, i have sent hints via messages that i know about her SSA and that I am just here if she wants to talk. Pls pray for her conversion. I wish i could send her this video but it myt seem confrontational. So i am just going to do what Kim said, to bear the burden with her should she come out to me and i will love her for the sake of Christ. And find ways, words, occasions, by the help of the Holy Spirit, to remind her that she is a beloved daughter of God. ❤❤❤

[@winter-wb7cf]

As someone who doesn’t experience SSA, this was absolutely incredible in every way. I feel more confident in my dignity in Christ and the expansiveness of God’s love. I will be sharing this!

[@chanman201]

Thanks for sharing Matt. I hope to love my daughters and support them the through the love and compassion of Christ against the forces of this evil age.

[@anahermenegildo251]

Thank you for this conversation. As someone who's recently converted and still struggles with same sex attraction, your testimony has helped me fill some blanks in my journey. When all I knew was sin, I lived in constant chaos, but ever since I accepted Jesus into my life He showed me a type of peace and joy that I had never experienced. God bless you.

[@Kima344]

I feel so validated listening to her. Very similar situation

[@roselove2983]

God bless you ❤❤❤

[@lizsteving2054]

What a powerful conversation for ALL of us Sinners! ❤

[@catholickirby]

God bless her, she is very honest and has really solid insights too. Thanks for this discussion.

[@gloriaperreault309]

My 39 year old daughter is going through the same thing. She's an awesome and spiritual person. It bothers me very much but I also love her very much. She thanks me every day for my unconditional love. I either love her or lose her. She lived for 9 months near my heart. No matter what she is or does, I could never not love her. All I can do is pray for her like St. Monica did. ❤

[@MsCzechqueen]

Kim you just told me something so important I needed to hear! Im a recent reconvert and my boys (9, 7) are coming into faith exactly with the dos and donts instead of Christs love! 😮 They recently told me they dont think of Him during the day at all. I have to help them build a relationship and put the breaks on the rules a bit. And I need to share more woth them of how I am building my own relationship with God and what it means in every day life. I needed to hear this! Thank you and God bless!!! Matt thank you for this interview! God bless!

[@vivachristorey4777]

This conversation touched me so much. I’ve never been ssa, but struggle with how much God loves me. This has taught me so much because we are all sinners, especially judgement of others. I was three-fourths through this video when at a friends house, a young man came over dressed in a woman’s bathing suit and seems to be struggling with gender dysphoria. After listening to most of the podcast I totally looked at this young man with compassion. The Lord worked quick yesterday to help me not judge, but to be kind and pray for him. I’m couldn’t believe it. God works in mysterious ways.

[@Eliza-cn5ii]

Kim is so inspiring. I struggle with self gratification and the parallels of temptation are insightful. "Love is giving and receiving" and so many words of wisdom in this convo. May God bless her and grant us all the grace to live virtuously for His glory!

[@dadfirstalways3578]

Had to put it out here. I'm Mormon, however the power of the messages on this channel keeps bringing me back. Love you all!!

[@mizzscoots68]

I NEEDED to hear this! love this! for myself, and my daughter! thank you! thank Jesus for your heart! thank you!

[@lrdmrs]

Thank you Matt for this interview! As a woman with SSA I find that most of the ressources online are more centered around male homosexuality, so it is refreshing to hear another woman’s perspective and life story regarding SSA! God bless you both xx

[@sarahalderman3126]

Same here❤

[@Jesusgirl00]

Ive never had same sex attraction, but this is prabably the best talk ive ever heard.🙏

[@dgathome4345]

She says so many profound truths that can be applied to our own particular sins. We all sin differently, and we all have our own attachments, but the love of God is what saves us all.

[@MarySmith-sv1zh]

Agreed. Identity as a daughter of God...only. Love.

[@cortneyholmes3839]

❤️❤️❤️ I wish the whole world could hear your testimony. ThankYou!!! 🙏🙏

[@Shesobold]

So many amazing sound bites in this conversation that can be applied to any sin that we struggle with. Great dialogue ❤

[@ABock4]

These are the types of stories that I’ve been looking for lately. Wonderful people like Kim are huge weapons in the fight to free as many people from the LGBT ideology as we can. Bless her! ❤

[@cherylg8073]

Kim is incredible!! I could not take my eyes and ears away!! Agree COMPLETELY that Jason & Kim together would take over the world (in such an amazing way!!)

[@cargopilotguy305]

Damn I feel so sorry for her ex husband. To be cheated on and then to be faced with the reality that your wife, who you love and desire, has never loved you the way a wife loves a husband, never desired you. God bless him. That’s a nightmare

[@mraemartinez]

So true. You're the first one I saw pointing this out. Everybody else acts as if she is some Saint.🙄🤮

[@mraemartinez]

@@Jack-eg6po if you mean what she did to her husband you’re absolutely right.

[@kg356]

To be fair he knew that she had cheated on him with a woman at least once before he married her

[@cargopilotguy305]

@@kg356 and she literally lied afterward and implied to him that she 1) loved him 2) was at least bisexual and therefore that she was 3) attracted to him. That’s three monstrous lies that swindled a good man into marrying a selfish ghoul

[@mraemartinez]

@@kg356 That don't change the fact that HE deserved to marry a woman that truly loved him. He got cheated out of that and prolly has some trauma due to it. He indeed chose poorly with Kim. People are no good.

[@michaelpower6546]

Dear lovely fellow Catholics she shows us the spiritual charismatic gifts are real in our church Too

[@RiseUpUNAFRAID4614]

This story sounds like my life except I'm not Catholic. I made a profession of faith at 9, started seeing girls in H.S. I got married to a gorgeous man 4 my family. Was 2 hrs late to my wedding, I left him because it was wrong. I begged God to take the sexual attraction I had to women from me. I prayed that when I was married. I finally came out. Lived as a lesbian for years and was SO MISERABLE. Thank God he started drawing me back towards the Lord Jesus Christ & once I got to know my Messiah, I broke FREE. I'm free from homosexuality, free from fear, free from fear & it's AMAZING. My 1st cousin has no family except my mom & me & visa versa. She now has 3 baby boys. The oldest 4. I was never kept away from him. I probably considered myself gay then, but wasn't in a sexual relationship when he was born. However, as the world continued to teach lies, I truly believe my nephews were used initially to draw me back to Jesus ❓️ Yes, I feel like I was changed overnight by the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏. The change in me is so drastic. I do keep some folks away because of fear. My biggest fear is NOT feeling the Lord the way I feel him now. I never want to be without him again.

[@tolkienlewis6887]

I'm a heterosexual woman and this was so helpful at gaining some insight tbto ssa. Great interview. Thanks.

[@SenorJungle]

Kim said something that snuck in around 2:02:20. “It’s not on your shoulders (on sitting with someone/comforting them) God wants them more than you do”. Beautiful to stop and really ponder on.

[@undolf4097]

I don’t have SSA but many of these lessons connect with other parts of my life and I find this inspiring and reassuring that they are overcomable with God

[@bethedoG...gohome]

Awesome!!! I really believe that no matter what our particular struggle is, Kim's insights are spot on!!! May God give each and every one of us the grace to see and address our own particular "notGod" choices so that, like Kim, we can begin the journey of truly finding Him.

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

An issue with the Catholic church modern day is that barely anyone explains the faith and why we believe what we believe and our history

[@puregirl2008]

I really enjoyed this interview. I watched from beginning to end. May I humbly say the thing I noticed that was missing from the discussion was confession. The power and need for confession.

[@TexanSecession]

Oh my. That was so good. I have a few people close to me I am sharing this with. She was amazing and clearly filled with the Holy Spirit. Her advice on bearing the burden with others in love without correction really hit home. As a father, this is one of the hardest lessons to learn. Just wow. Thank you for all that you have both done for me.

[@patrickturner91]

Matt I’ve been watching you for years, I’ve seen a ton of guests come through, I’ve supported you on Locals, but THIS was the greatest interview I think I’ve ever seen. Kim is such a wonder, and she’s real, and she’s vulnerable and beautiful, and her testimony really touched me profoundly. 10/10.

[@andrewpruett3719]

There is no such thing as "her truth" there is just THE truth.

[@guesswho22peekaboo]

1:02:00 professional musician here! I think Kim gave me a beautiful revelation. I identify too much with "being a musician" as a primary part of my identity, and it puts undo pressure on me when I create. I need to reidentify myself more strongly as a child of God. You're not just helping the LGBs, Kim...thank you so much for this 🙏❤ Love you, and God bless.

[@troubledguest7401]

Holy cow. This woman. This was SO powerful!!

[@philipwiley273]

That talk about the struggle and desire to be unconditionally loved cuts right to the heart

[@annforrer8445]

This testimony spoke to me about so many different things in my life....none of them about sexuality....but nonetheless....GOD SPOKE THROUGH THIS! Thank you Kim for allowing Jesus to take over....and boy is it BEAUTIFUL! ❤

[@Matt_Reinhart]

I was most moved by Kim talking about how she wish she had been loved when she was younger. I'm sure her mom did her absolute best that she could. Whatever capacity of love that I'm lacking in I want to work on that so that my kids aren't hurt by me

[@sarahalderman3126]

❤

[@cargopilotguy305]

I honestly think she’s just a narcissist. By her own account it sounds as though she was loved very much by her family AND her ex husband. She just didn’t care. She wanted to have sex with women more.

[@Matt_Reinhart]

@@cargopilotguy305 I think she might agree with you. Although I think by your definition we would all be narcissists. After all, we do all have wounds that we chose to try to fill with things besides God. But that is an interesting take nonetheless.

[@cargopilotguy305]

@@Matt_Reinhart she met a man and when she met him she was sleeping with women. Then she dated him and kept sleeping with women. Then she confessed she cheated but intentionally lied to his face about being gay. Then she married him and never wanted to have sex with him or have children. Then she violated two marriages. Then, while admittedly carrying on a full dating relationship with a married woman, leaves her husband. She toyed with that man’s life so cruelly. I can hardly imagine a more selfish and cruel sequence of acts. And then what finally makes her realize she’s been doing something wrong is when the woman she cheated on her husband with, who was also cheating on her own husband, cheated on Kim a year later. It’s just…it’s unbelievable. She’s an actual nightmare.

[@alvinmarshall9446]

Her mom had two boys and a tomboy and a husband to care for. Definitely she couldnt possibly be everything to everyone.

[@toddgruber5729]

Kim is awesome. Completely love her.

[@paulbrooks539]

I was watching this video, and when she gave her testimony of when she gave her life to God, I chose to save this video. I clicked the link and it said “saved.” Thank you.

[@DAmend3]

Kim's take on our false identity and labeling is beautiful and rings to me as spot on. 🎉 I will try to emulate this.

[@JohnChappell-fh5sb]

Just heard the saying " Desire may have a twist, but its circumstances that makes it twisted. Be aware of those circumstances."

[@ann5028]

I can’t tell you how much I appreciate people like Kim. Absolutely no BS and so real. I have such a hard time taking the fluffy “Matthew Kelly” Catholics seriously. No shade I just find it so fake

[@SuperSaiyanScandinavian]

this is truly a beautiful woman, sister, and daughter of Christ. your message is incredible and i will share it with my gay brother when i feel like the time is right. God bless you!

[@nancyherrity2172]

I listened to the entire podcast while cleaning my house. I am going to watch the entire podcast again so I can write down some of the quotes, scripture verses, books, comments that were referenced...it was THAT informative . I could relate in a similar way. I am separated for the last 19 years and I am continuing to live out my marriage vow. I loved the many references to strength from God. Honesty breeds honesty. You both have helped more people than you can imagine. If the people that call us haters would here this, they would understand and a lot of the tension would end.

[@TheCathyWAFFLE]

Great show as always! Ordered some Sacred Heart stickers and so disappointed that they never arrived, trying to work with Spring hasnt helped too much 😢 Just wanted some stickers to give to my husband for Fathers Day.

[@erravi]

I love Eden Invitation. What they are doing is so deeply needed in the Church today ❤️‍🔥

[@gannonleonard]

This was such a beautiful talk to watch and listen to. Thank you both so incredibly much sharing, opening and allowing everyone to listen. Thank you dearly for all of this! God bless!

[@Jesusgirl00]

I heard a man explain marriage/sex like fire. Imagine youre on a camping trip. Its evening time and you have to cook your food. Before you make a fire, youre going to need to make something to contain it. If you dont, what happens? Well, you end up with an un contained fire open to becoming a wild fire that can easily get out of control. So its not that the fire is bad, but it can be bad if we dont acknowledge it for what it is. think of marriage between man and woman as the container and that sexual desire as the fire. If we go astray from what God created, sin gets out of control. ❤

[@AJKPenguin]

🔥

[@jensmith9009]

Thank you for this! I'm going through this right now.

[@catholicmurph7707]

Right on. God bless you. I know it can be difficult to overcome temptation and desire, but all things are possible with Our Beloved Lord. I hope the very best for you in all your struggles and triumphs.

[@roselove2983]

God bless you ❤❤❤

[@truegirl2anna]

Wow this was insanely powerful….especially in a world where everyone questions everything!

[@eowyn237]

I feel like the love and wisdom of Jesus flowing from this conversation can be physically felt. 💛

[@MsCzechqueen]

I am a one!!!! Now I listened to the rest of this and yes - I am one of those ones!!! You made me realize that in this journey I am stuck in fear and it’s been paralyzing me and pushing me away from Him, not to Him. I don’t know how yet, but I need to find His love so I can help my kids find it. Thank you for sharing all this.

[@catholicmurph7707]

Thank you for this interview. This was really great. Kim is such a cool person. God bless all of you.

[@SL-es5kb]

I relate so hard to her innate discomfort of taking on identities. It’s always been hard for me to even write a resume or professional bio cause it always felt wrong or not accurate!

[@maryfitzpatrick6179]

Wow, an amazing interview/ talk. Thanks Matt for inviting Kim on your show. God Bless you both. Kim you are a beautiful daughter of Christ who loves you. 🙏❤

[@labsquadmedia176]

Such a joy-producing fact: in Christ, we have an identity that is not subject to change and a status before the Father as loved children.

[@leacadia8791]

Thank you, Kim, for how beautifully vulnerable you are! This was such a wonderful interview!

[@blackbutnotblue]

Great interview! Thank you for sharing this important message!

[@pam6745]

Wonderful testimony and message dear MRS. KIM ZEMBER ! 😢 ❤ 👀 God bless you 💖 🙏!! Thank you for sharing your story. All the Best 😅

[@thankfullyforgiven9611]

This was fantastic! She had such a beautiful testimony. Great interview.

[@clarad7669]

I am loving this conversation. Still have an hour to go and really glad there is more to listen to. So much truth and about God's love. So helpful.

[@Pilgrimofhope7]

Preach it sister, minute 1:06 on identity, is so true!!! I too experienced so much pain and heartache before knowing my true identity as beloved daughter.

[@marabarnet6789]

Amazing lady, incredible interview, God bless her and help her spread her healing message.

[@christianstephens7213]

Kims testimony is incredible , how do you begin to live this out in a Catholic context .

[@suzan1mal]

I so needed to hear this today. Remind me of WHO I am- no labels except His daughter. To help me reframe how I see myself in relation to Him.

[@Gonts64]

Excellent conversation! I will be re-listening to this one, then sharing with a loved one.