Planning For A Baby Alone at 30 | testing my fertility

[@TeAmoAaron]

Hello my dears! I feel like I always have to pin a comment and clarify things after reading through some comments. Just because I am planning to get my eggs frozen does not mean I won't be dating. It also does not mean I will be actively raising the baby alone (though I can if I want to). I am just getting ahead and making a plan. I know too many women who are in their 40s, single, and regret not getting their eggs frozen in their early 30s. Love uuuuu byeeeeee

[@QueenBee1118]

You’re wise to check on your fertility. But you can have a fulfilling, worthwhile life regardless of whether you marry or have children. Pls don’t ignore red flags just to have a family. The costs far outweigh the benefits.

[@TeAmoAaron]

For sure

[@QueenBee1118]

@@TeAmoAaron You are wise beyond your years.

[@stephaniejsmes8991]

You are so right. People will do that just so they can say they have children.

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

They do. My kid's dad is a bum.

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

@@stephaniejsmes8991 and no offense. Kids arent that great lol. Idk why people want kids whwn theyre so much work.

[@PamelaDanai]

I’m 34 and still haven’t had children yet. So I understand exactly what you are going through. But I know due to my current circumstances it wouldn’t be fair to bring a child into it. Hopefully one day I will join motherhood. Praying that you have strength as you embrace this journey ✨🙏🏽💛

[@ki4815]

This has me thinking about my own fertility. I just turned 30 and despite family members telling me "don't have a baby" all my life now the tides are turning and they're asking me WHEN now lol. I'm also in Georgia and the RvW overturn is scary. I heard that not only is abortion at stake if you live in a red state but also things like IVF, which is,crazy. And that's scary for us women who might need to turn to that if we unfortunately can't get pregnant.

[@carlieamado6153]

I’m approaching the last side of my 20’s hey 90’s babies, and I’m all about achieving my goals and healing myself. An opportunity to have my eggs frozen through egg donation, so when that time comes and I chose to whether as a single mom by choice or love finds me I’ll be ready!

[@soupafleye]

this convo makes me think of shameless maya who had a baby i think at 38/39? being 23 i’m really trying to ease myself into a space of not worrying about what anyone else wants or expects from me. i want to live in my own comfort and happiness without external bs impacting my decisions. idk if i have trauma but i can hardly remember my first period. maybe coz it was not a big deal for me

[@zeexoxo4583]

I started my period when I was 9 years old. I will NEVER forget that day either. I was at school and my male bestfriend told me I was bleeding through my TAN uniform pants. (Just an awful day, haha)

[@bellybuttonring1]

So comforting to see this video. I will be 35-years old next month. I, too, am thinking deeply about beginning my journey to Motherhood. I lost my mommy 11-months ago, so I am heartbroken that I have not had my first child. Men are so indecisive and emotionally unavailable. It is time to consider going about this alone.

[@ThePresentTimeNow]

I’m 31, I still have my innocence, and just waiting on the right one which is my husband. I just decided that I want kids, I think; and I swear my 30s came quick…I feel like I’m still in my early 20s and that’s not the case. Time sure is moving.

[@katlennat1680]

I’m 23 and still have my innocence lol. How do you feel about it? My friends shamed for it and saying I have cob webs. My take on me still having my innocence, I don’t care anymore. And Idk if I want kids I’m 60% no and 40% yes.

[@TheVintageGlamm]

@@katlennat1680 you’re not missing out on anything. Don’t let anyone shame you for still having it.

[@ThePresentTimeNow]

@@katlennat1680 I feel great about it. I have confidence in knowing I’m healthy and I have an advantage and a gift to give to my future husband. You’re special. Don’t let your friends dictate or tell you that. You’re pure and you have value. You have something a lot of people don’t have. I’m 31, and I don’t flaunt it. I don’t tell anyone in a virgin unless it comes up because flaunting it can make you a target. I’m proud of it, and will keep it as long as I can. You’ve made the right choice.

[@user-mb9jx5tx9y]

I’ve never heard anyone refer to it as innocence. I like that

[@beautifullyyflawedd]

@@katlennat1680 They can shame you all they want to but deep down inside they’re not truly about what they’ve done. Keep your head up because you’re a very special & unique young woman. A lot of us wish we could go back in time to undo things so we can keep ours but it’s too late for that. Btw my homegirls shamed me for the same thing when I was a teenager and I actually fell for it. 😢🤦🏽‍♀️✨

[@Ipsychdaily]

I applaud you in checking your fertility. I did this when I first got married but my dr was horrible and I gave up. Fast forward to now, we have an amazing dr and are going through IVF. Little did we know, time was not on our side this entire time. Kudos to you👏🏾

[@rare2find0918]

You're on your own journey! You can have a child or not. You can get married or not. There are no hard and fast rules to life, regardless of what society, religion, family or whoever/whatever tries to push upon you. Walk your own path, there are single parents by choice or circumstance and they do wonderfully. There are couples who raise children and do great. Listen to YOUR heart on what's important to and for YOU and move based on that. There will always be opinions, but yours is the most important when it comes to your life! Much success to you on EVERYTHING!

[@coring.6957]

You’re so not alone. Just turned 30 and I have the same thoughts.

[@Yagirlnoe]

thank you for doing this because i’m 30 and planning my first child

[@briannanight8395]

My mom did a feterility check via here obgyn and she is very kuch feterile at 51. She definitely doesn't want anymore herself. Soo yeah. Just depends on the person. I am actually expecting my first and the first grandkid. Due in two more weeks. She is excited to have the jo and not expected to handle the responsibilities. 🤣🤣🤣 My twin sister and I will be 29 tomorrow. My sister is not in a relationship but definitely not stressed or worried about it. She is still living her best single life. And i love that for her!

[@bfree4830]

Congrats, have a safe pregnancy ❤️

[@its_just_me3214]

I just want to say for my thirty something year olds. Don’t stress, I had my twins at 33 years old and I’m 35 now. I’d love to have one more baby if I was lucky too. I’m the only child and didn’t want to make one child lol

[@wshelby83]

I’m an only child for my mom and don’t want an only child. I want to have at least 2

[@itskema5975]

I love your videos and how creative you are. I loved that you thought to compare the 2 test ... it can be a nice sub for people on a budget.

[@soulfulrenia]

🥺🥺🥺🥺I just turned 27 and I feel like it’s almost that time 💕

[@AllieGittens]

THE WAY I LAUGHED!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can tell you, I have 4 kids through 4 different stages of my life. I’m so proud of you for planning ahead! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ Thank you for telling people to plan and take it SLOW! ♥️

[@ashley_audacious]

Thank you for making this video. I just turned 30 yesterday. I go to my well woman's exam next month and Im going to ask the nurse practitioner about testing my fertility.

[@dymond7374]

Thank you for posting this.

[@_caram_]

You're still young 🤗 I started my cycle at 9. I'm older with no children. However, I am fertile. When the time is right I will be blessed with 1 or 2 🙏🏼 Do what makes you happy. Don't let people bully your ovaries ☺️

[@SaSoSassy]

Hey Aaron! I appreciate your honesty on this topic! I know God won’t fail you and what ever is meant for you will be! Just trust him and put him first

[@TeAmoAaron]

thanks so much saeedah

[@vj221]

I’m surprised you were able to get tested by a doctor so quickly. My provider told me you have to try for a baby for at least a year before they even consider fertility testing.

[@diamondwhite3908]

I love this perspective. Women (especially black women) are often shamed for even considering a “less traditional” route to family planning. If I hadn’t gotten married and had my first child already, I would also be considering this. I’m 32 and I think this is an awesome and safe way to plan for the future.

[@SELFCAREMODEL]

IM SO HAPPY I FOUND YOUR CHANNEL. IM TURNING 30 ON AUG 28. & I HAVE NO KIDS & WANTED TO KNOW ABOUT THIS TOO. I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE.

[@Rieka.Chanel]

I feel all of this! I hope we all get to build a healthy family. It’s a big mental struggle for me because of my women issues and I refuse to have kids without marriage. But I’m hopeful

[@AlliNW0nderland.]

Girl I feel you on the birth control for periods - was on (off and on heavy) for like 3weeks had to get a blood transfusion it’s crazy

[@TeAmoAaron]

Oh my gosh that is awful!

[@shyyy.]

I swear we all get this intense baby fever fr, bcus we all love, love & to have a family Is def a dream! But i mean live your life frfr & it’ll come at the right time ❤️

[@JustBeingMeika]

Love this video!! Thank you for sharing. This is a discussion that need to be had.

[@leonajay94]

I know someone who was on birth control for over a decade. Literally the SECOND she got off (her and her husband were trying) she got pregnant. Like literally the same month lol. And I know many people who didn't have trouble conceiving within the first 6 months of trying after birth control.

[@TeAmoAaron]

Yes same! My cousin was on for 15 years and got pregnant the second she got off.

[@Heyu7her3]

It depends on what type bc. The implanted ones have to be removed months up to a year prior, whereas pills are more immediate.

[@ZoeysMusings]

That 31 thing on the cake was ready to set it off🤣🤣This is such an important topic and I like the way you spoke about it, and injected your humour into it. Periods three times a year? Can I have your life?!😩😩

[@Lifeisfun84]

Im 38 with a low egg count…. I was randomly pregnant at 35…. I started freezing my egg procedure at 37 in my country I’m not a good option but other countries will …. I will check it out …

[@user-fc2xk3uv8y]

the finger pricking part brought me back to childhood, my older brother's diabetic and i would watch him do that everyday pretty much lol edit: also the study that says you have to get pregnant by 35 came from an OLD old french study where the life expectancy was between 30-40 at the time. not only is it outdated info, its very skewed

[@TeAmoAaron]

interesting! The doctor told me at 35 the eggs go down in quality. But my grandmother had three children in her 40s so obviously we are all different!

[@user-fc2xk3uv8y]

@@TeAmoAaron ofc, every body is different! quality in eggs cannot decrease with age though, if that were the case pregnancy wouldn't be common even into 20s + 30s at all because we are born with them.

[@nehemie1255]

Happy birthday! Your overall/content journey inspires me! Im glad you got good news! Ive never been on BC but Ive always had the infertile thought in my head since I was a kid (weird, I know). When I turned 28, babies became an intrusive thought even though Id never desired children lol. Still not sold on the idea but I appreciate you giving young women something to think about. Life doesnt have to just happen to you.

[@cookiemonster7313]

Hi I know your husband 👰🏾‍♀️is coming soon girl just hold on you are such a beautiful and smart lady love 💞from Texas 🇨🇱

[@user-mb9jx5tx9y]

This resonates

[@DaisyDoesIt22]

That is smart to check fertility. I didn't and then struggled with PCOS when I actually wanted to have one. I eventually got pregnant in 19 months. I know of some women who never get pregnant or have never been able to carry full term. I am also over here down the street like walking distance to Emory Decatur like HEY! even though I know you are not there now. lol

[@TeAmoAaron]

Hey girllllll lol

[@camaya9065]

I had a male friend at work tell me not to put off monitoring fertility around 30 because he and his wife had a hard time getting pregnant. I think I could be interested in some fertility services as well so I’m not pressured

[@naomiv7133]

Take your time. I got pregnant at 35 on his 1st try. Now I love my baby but stuff with us didn't work so there's that. Don't worry about age

[@nikaintherichgirldiaries]

I just found your video and it really made me think of myself because I had my daughter at 31. Don't want for the love of your life because, I like you kept waiting finally found someone then we got engaged , I got pregnant ,he cheated on me while I was pregnant ,so I kept my baby she is now 9 and I am 41, she is the best thing that happened to me , I am just saying you can do it by yourself , but it is better if you have a partner. I love your video so you have 1 more subscriber. GOOD LUCK !

[@dREAMwShan]

Happy birthday (belated) and good luck on your journey!

[@courtneylavonne1694]

Happy belated birthday! I just turned 32 this month and I too have baby fever sometimes. I want kids for sure. I haven’t ran into my husband yet either. So it’s like should I do this alone or continue to wait lol

[@Mamakarkade]

The baby fever comings monthly during your ovulation period ! It’s totally normal and causes some women to think they arent normal

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Hi. Single mom checking in. Please please PLEAAAAAASSSSEEEE. Do not do it alone. Its so hard and grueling you truly need that extra help. I would just wait on the love of your life. When they say it takes a village it does. Plus the single mom stigma. Just from my experience Id say just wait but its your choice just giving a heads up.

[@TeAmoAaron]

Thanks for your advice! I am definitely wanting to do it with a partner, but just planning and being proactive for now

[@smorequeen2362]

Aww happy belated birthday 🎉 that candle almost took you out lol

[@TeAmoAaron]

I KNOW LOLLLL and thank you!!

[@lexusgibz2745]

Thank you for sharing this!

[@93morganmarie]

Girl I'll be 30 in February and SAME... lol 1:39

[@simplymonica6888]

Just came across your channel. I turned 30 in June and my fiancé proposed on my birthday. He’s 38 and we have no children. We are loving our lives. We both feel almost the same about children. I’d say I’m 20% interested in kids and 80% not wanting any. He’s probably 5% interested and 95% not interested. I haven’t really felt the urge to be a mother although I know I’d be a wonderful one and him an amazing father. It’s nice to see other 30 year olds with no kids in the comments.

[@keonatanese]

So many moments in this 9 minute video. the doodles. The FBI agent. The “elderly age of 35” 😂😂😂 but I completely relate! I turn 30 next month and have been thinking about fertility more & more

[@TeAmoAaron]

HAHA I so badly wish I could draw

[@keonatanese]

@@TeAmoAaron saaaame! you did better than I would have

[@Yagirlnoe]

i enjoy it here

[@Chi_di]

Baby fever is perfectly normal and it’s something that hit me at the age of 27, but it’s not wise to have a baby outside of marriage. Children deserve two, responsible and devoted parents. Planning to have a child just because you want one and not thinking about what’s best for the child is making it all about you. The act of bringing life into this world is not about you, it’s about the child 100%.

[@AllThingsJadene]

Love this

[@shachede6828]

Dude for sure! Must check fertility!! If you want kids. It will happen please don’t anyone tell you BS about black women alone and no kids BS. I believe you will get married and have a beautiful baby! For me I DONT WANT KIDS AT ALL AT ALLLLLLLL! So I am not checking and I kinda wish I won’t be able to have kids. So I have a JUSTIFIED REASON TO TELL OTHERS.

[@briannab.8127]

I’m a bit older but this resonates for me too. You sure you don’t want to date ?

[@FuchsiaHarmony]

It’s the cookie for me 😂😂😂😂😂😂 SAME!!!

[@TeAmoAaron]

right like good job LOL

[@luckyxxxxk]

Just entered my 30s and I’m still a child 😂 me a MOM! Oh no! 😂

[@Kiki-AndBeyond]

Hey girl!! I don't know if you can send something to KZbin but my first comment was deleted.

[@annaknight6177]

Us girls in academia have to wait to get the rewards

[@bluemickey23]

Elderly at 35!?! Girl!

[@TeAmoAaron]

I was being sarcastic of course 💛

[@imab125]

😮

[@Shiryryu]

8k ppl watching🙄 we all could tip her 5$ and she can end up with 40k 20 for her and the baby 😍😂😂

[@TeAmoAaron]

hhahaha love this energy

[@SaharaKnows]

Single parenting by choice