LMAO the fact that Pete Davidson has become the universal sign of dating out of your league is my favorite thing that's ever happened in pop culture.
@egusisoup18262 жыл бұрын
@Grantelbart girls like his looks, now. I clearly remember when Ariana Grandes entire female audience was confused as to why she dated him lol. He definitely wasn’t seen as universally attractive at the time, but now that he has that reputation all of a sudden I’m seeing women develop crushes for him, and I personally find it hilarious
@kateoc82 жыл бұрын
Pete is way out of that girl's league. A genuine, honest, flawed but working on it, humble individual who happens to be hilarious and vulnerable. Win in my books.
@mistadopeyy2 жыл бұрын
@Egusi Soup He's a rake. His reputation now just makes him even more desirable. Plus he's already good looking, funny, and charming.
@juliagoolia56042 жыл бұрын
Hes always been hot@ any guy funny is awesomely attractive
@deadinside87192 жыл бұрын
He has a good sense of humour maybe that's why Or ladies are using him
@jeffw52632 жыл бұрын
As it’s been said elsewhere. “If you treat her like a celebrity, she’ll treat you like a fan.”
@tadmira127dreamuvtadmir22 жыл бұрын
Wow 😳
@towarzyszmarcin4742 жыл бұрын
No cap
@jovannovakovic12792 жыл бұрын
Someone here is following hoodville
@mainagakere73052 жыл бұрын
It is what it is
@XxLew2 жыл бұрын
@@jovannovakovic1279 or coach Corey Wane
@thisguy4682 жыл бұрын
"If you put someone on a pedestal they have no choice but to look down on you" forgot who said that
@daemonace59102 жыл бұрын
Wow wise words
@tutorialslave2 жыл бұрын
Seth Rogen can be wise whenever he's not quite himself if you know what I mean.
@VinceFS2 жыл бұрын
If you treat her like a celebrity, she'll treat you like a fan. (Rollo Tomassi)
@somnorila99132 жыл бұрын
Cool sentence. Has sense. But isn't that what love really means? What people mean when they say show me you love me don't tell me. Putting someone on a pedestal is the act of being able of sacrifice yourself for another, you desires or time and such. Not all of course but at least some of that. Otherwise you are distant, uninvolved, you don't care and so on. And that has sense too.
@siyacer2 жыл бұрын
@@somnorila9913 no, she has to put in effort too
@Ziggler-ky9kv25 күн бұрын
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
@HoudiniFade8 күн бұрын
Fake
@PeytonDLifts2 жыл бұрын
“If you’re ugly make her laugh. Her eyes will be closed more”
@juancalara39972 жыл бұрын
Lol
@johnallenbailey11032 жыл бұрын
😂
@rpruffryder2 жыл бұрын
i love this loool
@adia85702 жыл бұрын
Loll
@nolanj8882 жыл бұрын
That is funny, but sadly, might be true!!!
@GibranEscobell2 жыл бұрын
You need to level the playing field by raising your value internally. You do that by changing your self beliefs. What you tell yourself determines the way to act, speak, walk, behave. You could be good looking and strong and act weak because you believe you are not good enough.
@MrLeolesh2 жыл бұрын
I.e. first actually become attractive and THEN display it with social cues. Working backwards will only lead to heartbreak and feeling gaslit.
@RubiscoTalks2 жыл бұрын
I learnt that this year…
@GibranEscobell2 жыл бұрын
@@RubiscoTalks You on the right path 💪🏻
@kushalom2 жыл бұрын
Thanks mate. I'll remember this
@biiiznesg5702 жыл бұрын
been trying to build my self worth/work on my internal image.
@StrippedDownPodcast2 жыл бұрын
Step 1. Stop thinking ANYONES out of your league strictly based on their appearance.
@mordredstein95532 жыл бұрын
Game, social status and money are a crutch for bad genes. I can act more or less however i please because I'm 6'8" tall with a chad jaw. If you're not a hot guy, there's always money, social status and game if you desperate enough to be a con.
@lafe61832 жыл бұрын
Exactly, there are lots of things that make someone attractive: looks, smarts, heart, drive and a special knowledge of experience that only comes from having a hard life. A man can bring nothing to the table except for a good heart and that can still make him even more attractive than good looks may to some people
@thomasben39912 жыл бұрын
That's a good one tbh !
@mordredstein95532 жыл бұрын
@@lafe6183 No. That's the exact opposite of true. Women like hot guys. Wealth and social status is a crutch for bad genes and game is for conning women to your bed for the night. Women do not care about our emotions or how we feel. The nature of your heart matters even less to them. They will almost always pick the hot guy given choices. Welcome to real life.
@lafe61832 жыл бұрын
@@mordredstein9553 I'm a chick and trust me, looks aren't everything. As long as a guy is close to healthy looking and actually showers, having a great personality makes anyone attractive if that's what's important to the person
@CCEkeke2 жыл бұрын
If you believe that someone is out of your league, then you're right. Looks, wealth and status can only take someone so far. Confidence, kindness toward others, and a lifestyle that you enjoy go much further in the long run.
@brys.31312 жыл бұрын
Truth. I had so much anxiety about talking to women until I started working on myself, and eventually not giving a crap anymore due to getting some rejections. Getting the rejections was a positive thing. I started to look at potentials as friends instead of dates. I began to engage them in genuine conversation instead of trying to impress. I started to feel more confident. Amazing how far the act of genuine human connection goes when you can just be yourself and connect with others who vibe with your energy.
@heathjoints98452 жыл бұрын
Keep coping with that vibe bull jive.
@OMAR-vq3yb2 жыл бұрын
LOL looks, wealth, and status is 99% in relationships. Women like confident and kind.....if their rich. Otherwise its friend zone and if she's in the mood a booty call. Go read some evolutionary psychology.
@-.a99422 жыл бұрын
People can be out their leagues in different areas. Someone may be out of someone’s league on looks but not on personality. Or money buy not on looks.
@tinycindy29772 жыл бұрын
@@OMAR-vq3yb get your nose off of those "human psychology" books -not that I believe you read books, you probably read some redpill articles and think that's human psychology LOL- and go socialise. How do you think Pete got Kim? Because the guy is lovely enough to entertain millions of English speakers on stage and on camera. The other dude Kanye was also a rapper, same base different flavor, both of them are good with words, heck they even have the same psychological disorder (both Kanye and Pete are bipolar) so Kim has a type. The ability to communicate and sway your partner -doesn't matter if you do it with your eyes or with your words or with your touch since everyone has their own type- is %90 of the relationship not looks or status. Grow up and actually work on yourself. Also a tip: stop putting women on a pedestal as if they are some shiny object. They are human just like you, they eat, they poop, they like fun and dislike being belittled or hurt. Try to get to know them like how you got to know your bros just be a normal human ffs
@tasdiqjubaer372 жыл бұрын
1) Have access to the person 2) Stand out from the rest 3) Playful teases 4) Be honest and don't be FAKE 5) Have other good things in your life apart from the person 6) Minimize your nervousness 7) Dating "out of your league" is a bad goal because of reasons mentioned in 13:18
@krillonusa2 жыл бұрын
COPY PASTA WITHOUT THE PASTA TIMESTAMPS LOL
@shooth1002 жыл бұрын
Also be Mentally, Financially Stable. Then you should start putting yourself onto the market. If you don't have both... you're going to be miserable with what you find.
@blairsmith31992 жыл бұрын
Number 5 is a big one
@BucketOfMarbles2 жыл бұрын
@@blairsmith3199 absolutely. No one wants to be the only good thing in your life.
@duanal2 жыл бұрын
8) Don’t be ugly
@MuseSunflower2 жыл бұрын
As a woman, it's actually not a compliment to be put on a pedestal. Mens lust often drives them to do very dehumanizing things because they want the validation and goal of getting the attractive woman forgetting that she's human with her own flaws, traumas, fears, agency, autonomy etc Being the target of this feels very lonely. I'm not saying that's what the video stated but it could easily go in that objectifying direction if not mindful. Just treat her like she's normal
@egusisoup18262 жыл бұрын
Wasn’t this quite literally one of the points of the video? Not to treat the person your attracted to like your a fan but rather treat them like a equal? He then said it’s generally not a smart idea to specifically shoot for someone out of your league because it means your often insecure and looking for outside validation. He said to be honest instead of lying to appease them. And he said to have other things going on in your life so you don’t end up viewing them as the center of your universe… …Feels like this video was very much anti “put on a pedestal” from my pov
@jeffML39262 жыл бұрын
Well stated, a very useful affirmation 👌
@jaimwah2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your input, appreciated.
@user-kb8qw7dy4t2 жыл бұрын
Because the person they have on the pedestal isn't really you; it's a fictional character they've created within their own imagination.
@rauljrlara99942 жыл бұрын
Wstfu
@DoubleStudentLoans2 жыл бұрын
For men, pre-selection by other women is also a huge thing. As someone who has always dated women “out of my league” looks wise (I consider myself fairly good looking but if you saw them you’d be like, wow wtf) I think a large part of it was getting the first girl out of my league and then staying friends with her. Not only did this allow me to meet more people, but also hinted to other girls “there must be something about him”, since my first gf gave me a shot. Make friends with other women. Seriously, I owe a lot to her actually. It lets them know immediately that you’re likely not a creep, and have desirable qualities. Also, once it happens once, you’re no longer intimidated. I always just remember this line “every single person you’ve ever met has had explosive diarrhea or an embarsssing memory”. I may lack some things socially, but I’ve never had issues with self worth or being intimidated by people. Stand your ground. For every person who you’ll piss off, another will like it, and you want strong feelings either way. It is easier to turn hate into attraction than indifference into attraction. Attraction and hate are fairly similar from a brain chemistry standpoint
@DoubleStudentLoans2 жыл бұрын
@[REDACTED] & The Mask just learned it through trial and error. I was able to find commonality with my first major gf (hence why I still consider her a very good friend), and ever since then I think “if I could date her, no one I will realistically meet is unattainable”.
@nataliejansen23712 жыл бұрын
FACTS I have trouble with online dating because I meet these guys and don't know anybody they know. I trust the women in a man's life more than a man trying to make a good impression.
@suru_media2 жыл бұрын
Wow someone that actually makes sense💯💯💯💯
@Chrisko14922 жыл бұрын
You had me agreeing until your last two sentences. That just sounds toxic af. Real, lasting relationships are smooth sailing from the get-go. No hate involved.
@Skybij2 жыл бұрын
Just listen to this dude "getting the first one and staying friends with them" so he can GET (like a thing) other ones. That's the creepiest predatory S there is.
@sab48952 жыл бұрын
With the help of social media,I've come to terms that everyone is overrated.
@rayanaltowayan95582 жыл бұрын
Fr
@lockiet72272 жыл бұрын
Dating someone out of your league could also mean dating someone wayyyyyyyyyyy below your league
@juanmora26082 жыл бұрын
what???
@Edwin6264.2 жыл бұрын
@@juanmora2608 you heard them
@MaaZy_2 жыл бұрын
Soo, you also need someone to tell you how to not do that?
@juanmora26082 жыл бұрын
@@Edwin6264. i really don´t understand the point of lockie
@Atteflomid2 жыл бұрын
He’s saying that if you date out of your league but you’re treated like sh*t then that person is below your league bc let’s be honest guys we want looks AND kindness am I right?
@anthonypc12 жыл бұрын
Keep in mind that judging what "league" you'd put someone in depends on what you value. Some supermodel could be dating someone way out of her or his league intellectually. A billionaire could manage to attract a life partner in a whole other league of emotional maturity and qualities for an ideal supportive relationship.
@cronosrenovations Жыл бұрын
Sounds good
@Briaaanz2 жыл бұрын
A couple of friends dated. She was gorgeous and everyone thought she was out of his league. He had good confidence, but the real problem was that she was a target of men every time they went out. Wingmen would try to split them up so their friends could hit on her. She would rebuff the advances, but it made going out to be really problematic.
@jaredwilliams68532 жыл бұрын
Those guys always get rejected anyway. I would make jokes encouraging my girl to talk with them but they would always come up nervous being way too corny trying to crack lame jokes every 5 seconds. Girls just like confidence and like to feel like they chose the guy.
@march91772 жыл бұрын
Honestly it sounds like other ppl were the problem, rather than the couple. If someone tried to do that to me, I would tell them straight up “I’m in a life long relationship and I don’t cheat. Cheaters disgust me”. That makes it clear that I have a strong moral ground and no interest in leaving or betraying my So trust. Some people are just disrespectful bruh
@Iambriangregory2 жыл бұрын
@@march9177 remember something if you make up your own moral rules other people will make up their own moral rules that will bother and affect you adversely, so it's hypocritical to talk about someone else's morality if you don't have the STRICTEST morality yourself, that's why the word cheating sometimes is curious, if a person himself is cheating on A HIGH moral code. I'm sure this may be confusing to you but that's the reason why I wrote it because you seem confused like many other people.......MANY
@jamesevans25072 жыл бұрын
@@jaredwilliams6853 Yeah they get rejected until Chad comes along
@jaredwilliams68532 жыл бұрын
@@jamesevans2507 I am technically a “chad” and I don’t approach girls leaning all into their face like these creeps I see.
@rodrigo100kk2 жыл бұрын
Foot Note: ALL of these couples have broke up/divorced.
@samunthl90773 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@Hshjshshjsj727273 ай бұрын
I think u are lyar, scarjo and colin still togethet. sheym on u
@skytpe609627 күн бұрын
Which celebrities you seen that they re together more than 5 years?
@Focused7622 күн бұрын
Ryan reynolds
@bruceleeeditz2 жыл бұрын
I thought I was well versed on this topic but you are correct a goal of dating out of your league is not a good goal. There is still beauty in finding the right one in common or you just clicked . It’s a bonus really if you find the one that everyone thought was above your leaque. Great charisma, thoughtfulness & attentiveness emotionally helps. Thanks again. Great video
@AxxLAfriku2 жыл бұрын
I am the most famous man on YouTub! This is not bragging! This is the truth! The truth will set you free, dear bru
@bruceleeeditz2 жыл бұрын
@@AxxLAfriku LOVE your bode of Confidence. Greatest bet you can make is Yourself. Keep on trundlin' my man. Always have faith!
@TheSlimmshadyy2 жыл бұрын
@@AxxLAfriku There is a differece between confidence and delusion.
@bruceleeeditz2 жыл бұрын
@@TheSlimmshadyy 🙏🙏🙏
@christianmoya52682 жыл бұрын
@@AxxLAfriku Omg!!! You're Pewdiepie??? O_o"
@desireec28362 жыл бұрын
i thought my boyfriend was out of my league, i still do, but i made him laugh and was always genuine with my intentions. still together 3 years later
@jakonjhn2 жыл бұрын
@@boylumbago1590 stop trolling bro lmao
@Yusa_Beach2 жыл бұрын
@@boylumbago1590 Cap
@Ferna9006176 ай бұрын
Good head helps a lot
@cricket4ever1232 жыл бұрын
"... rather than stalking alone around the venue" This one hit lolll
@Seraphatum2 жыл бұрын
For the record: No one is out of your league, it either works out or not. Be greater and stop putting people on pedestals. At the end of the day, you have to stand up for yourself.
@Seraphatum2 жыл бұрын
@Unknown :D youre welcome!
@expressioncomfort2 жыл бұрын
Exactly, Thinking someone is out of your league is a sign of low self love so start with chasing your dream self. You'll attract high valued people in the long run.
@brainonfire7 Жыл бұрын
Sumwhere in da parallel universe a 4 feet tall guy who's a 2 , read ur comment n got married with k Kardashian . He wants to thanks you🎉
@NickNotas2 жыл бұрын
It starts by getting rid of your limiting beliefs. Most men think that appearance is what matters most to women. So if they see themselves as "physically unattractive", then they've already taken themselves out of the dating game. In reality, looks are one small piece of the puzzle. Accept there is so much more women find desirable under your control. Work on areas like your fashion, fitness, body language, eye contact, sense of humor, sense of independence, leadership, assertiveness, and flirting skills. You'll see how many women are excited to connect with you. -Nick
@patrickbateman8822 жыл бұрын
Appearance is not the most important thing for women but it is definitely important. Women are more likely to give you a chance if you are physically attractive. It's a fact. Women care about looks too, maybe not as much as men (on average) but they definitely do
@mrgr2 жыл бұрын
@@patrickbateman882 especially on dating apps. One might have a chance in person but get rejected online every time
@Eluderatnight2 жыл бұрын
How thick your......wallet is.
@mississipi11032 жыл бұрын
Sadly men only cares about looks.
@holeymcsockpuppet2 жыл бұрын
Actually the research shows that all that matters is appearance. In fact, only 4.5% of men are attractive now. About 9% are acceptable enough to be settled for. Back 12 years ago it was 20%. After the age of 38, women downgrade again and are willing to date down to around 27% but will be resentful for having to settle for less than they "deserve". This is real data from the last 5 years and a progression of data from 2008.
@aikighost2 жыл бұрын
There is nobody out of your league unless you think there is. Confidence conquers all. Failure/Rejection is training for success. Success in dating is a numbers game, if you see someone you like just ask them out, you miss all the shots you don't take. If you do ask someone out and they treat you with disrespect rather than a simple "sorry I'm taken" or similar you dodged a bullet be thankful they so readily showed their true colours.. Also point 7 in this video is the main one that matters. Date for connection & enjoyment not for external appearance. Have fun, because if its not fun why bother?
@rayl69012 жыл бұрын
Don't do this. Even thinking that someone is "out of your league", just sets you up for disappointment, and gives them power over your heart, mind, emotions, etc. Better to focus on becoming the best man you can be: kind, fair, and decent to everyone, as you don't know what a person struggles with in their life. But don't give them carte blanche. Respect should be earned, not automatically given, and if people give you a red flag, it's usually best to end it then and there. It's the best for both of you, as it may be that your values are incompatible. Life is too short, don't waste your breath on one who cannot even listen. Believe me, you will NOT end up alone if you stop taking the first offer; hold out for what you want.
@mainagakere73052 жыл бұрын
Yes indeed!
@asmrfoodieuk79652 жыл бұрын
Women dont want kind, fair and decent......replace with rich, wild and dominant.
@steffenjensen4222 жыл бұрын
@@asmrfoodieuk7965 That sounds like an incel mindset mate. It's not true, women want the former, but also self-confidence. And not creepy, that's a big one. Don't be misogynistic, it won't get you anywhere and don't be creepy
@asmrfoodieuk79652 жыл бұрын
@@steffenjensen422 I'm female so of course I know what females want. Keep being a beta and see where it gets you.
@yaseerbeig86112 жыл бұрын
Yesss 🙌🙌🙌
@lindokuhleshandu40242 жыл бұрын
Protip: don't get emotionally attached until you know for sure that she's crazy about you.
@adlad31992 жыл бұрын
There's nothing like dating out of your league lol. What kinda way of thinking is that? As soon as you assume your partner to be better than you, you view yourself as inferior to them and this isn't healthy for any relationship out there. You're worth, she's worthy and that's that lol.
@greyaliien2 жыл бұрын
And you can't just think it, you gotta know it
@-.a99422 жыл бұрын
Yes there is. Looks, money, status, intellectual, academic education and so on
@JohnPaul-oq6ud2 жыл бұрын
12:12 I do this at interviews. When I'm nervous waiting in the foyer I chit-chat to the person at the front desk. This helps to distract my thoughts/second guesses, warms up my communication, and establishes familiarity. I also make sure to repeat what they say, smile brightly and say "it was nice chatting with you" as the person who interviews me walks in. This way they see that I'm friendly.
@timothyspool13992 жыл бұрын
The speaker has a very weird idea about what "out of their league means". SNL comedians are obviously rich and famous, with a sense of humour and tons of confidence. Them dating a hot singer or actress is in no way "out of their league".
@egusisoup18262 жыл бұрын
He’s talking about general social perception
@timothyspool13992 жыл бұрын
@@egusisoup1826 the general social perception of a rich and famous comedian who is on a popular TV show is that a model, actress or singer is not out of his league.
@egusisoup18262 жыл бұрын
@@timothyspool1399 The examples used were of people the general public responded to as them being out of their league. The actresses and singers are the top tier of celebrity, but modern SNL comedians are nowhere near that level of fame. The parameters he was using to define “out of league” was “attractiveness, wealth, fame, or social status; all things all of the girls in the video had more of in all four areas than their perspective romantic partners. Comedy is often one of the most cited reasons for why guys can date out of their league, because when people traditionally talk about leagues, they’re not talking about personality but surface level attributes obvious at first glance
@dancingspeed Жыл бұрын
ikr. For example, a lot of average dude thinks Pete Davidson is average like them. He was only 24 when he joined SNL, which is like one of the best thing to do career wise for a comedian. He's tall, rich, famous, funny and in tune with his mental health. Most dudes haven't even figure out life at 24 and barely started their careers.
@UnDonnaiolo2 жыл бұрын
"If you treat her like a celebrity,she will treat you like a fan" -Ancient Indian Guru
@Trizzer892 жыл бұрын
This is probably the most comprehensive facts I have ever seen on dating on KZbin
@JamesRDavenport2 жыл бұрын
I did this. I got the "hottest" girl in my college acting class at the time, wasn't trying. I didn't think I had a shot, there was a Super Chad in our class. I got paired with her in scene assignments, we spent a lot of time one-on-one. I teased her about her clothes, her doofus moments. I was also busy writing my own novel and poetry collection, she'd snoop in my poetry on food breaks. Little by little got introduced into her inner circle, parties etc, but I'd always wander off and look around. Not really a big party guy. Long story short, she was fun and pretty, but exhausting. Not all it's cracked up to be.
@susansheldon20332 жыл бұрын
I have never thought someone was "out of my league" but I have never looked for someone based on looks. Intelligence, kindness, integrity, and a great sense of humor are much more important to me and I haven't found many good-looking people who have spent time developing these areas as much as others have.
@daemonace59102 жыл бұрын
I mean, if a person is too good looking, that's probably where a lot of their effort went to
@s22claudia2 жыл бұрын
Great video! Sometimes the "out of my league" only exists in our minds. Plus, I think that these suggestions are great to enter in any kind of relationship 😊
@bassicallyandre2 жыл бұрын
The unphased advice really works. I worked in a warehouse of 20 guys. Everyone was always hitting on the receptionist. I never paid any attention to her or even interacted with, just cause I focused on work and didn't really think I had a chance with her. Sure enough, I was the one guy she had an interest in and even went out on a date with me.
@danielgatsby22172 жыл бұрын
did you slash? i bet some of the 20 did even without date
@bassicallyandre2 жыл бұрын
@@danielgatsby2217 Took me a min to realize you meant smash. Yeah, I did. Lol Ultimately, it didn't work out and as far I know, no one else had hooked up with her up until that point.
@pffa9675 Жыл бұрын
@@bassicallyandre the guy in bed with her is always her first lol
@cronosrenovations Жыл бұрын
Cause u r the cutesf
@bassicallyandre Жыл бұрын
@@cronosrenovations 🤗
@SBahamondes Жыл бұрын
Attraction connection intimacy. It's not about what you do or say, it's about how you make them feel.
@HumanAki Жыл бұрын
They just cracked the code. Genuinely the most comprehensive, straightforward and actionable video on dating and anxiety I've ever seen. Holy crap!
@senister142 жыл бұрын
I don't believe in leagues so they can never hurt me, I look at girls and split them into two categories, the ones I'm compatible with and the ones I'm not.
@Void-Angel Жыл бұрын
I always felt I was missing information when talking to people or dating and needed something to mimic or learn from as I had not had any good or meaningful experiences that let me learn. This, this right here is fantastic.
@inorite45532 жыл бұрын
Distilling this down to one concept, "Fix yourself first. Become the person you wish to be and make you your utmost priority."
@IndieRockerHippy2 жыл бұрын
Love to see a video about Johnny Depp. He's so quiet and shy yet so magnetic, and great at making people feel at ease and at telling funny stories. I could watch and listen to him all day. ♡
@Tontoquienloleation2 жыл бұрын
There's a guy in college who's been acting like that around me 🙈 He teases me so much, but I think it's funny. And yes, now I'm head over heels for him.
@GearReviewDepot2 жыл бұрын
Rule #1: don’t have the mind frame that anyone is out of your “league”. Because they’re not.
@revenant0972 жыл бұрын
Ultimately it depends on the other person. So it might be true and that's ok.
@ziloe2 жыл бұрын
Looks, sure. But if you're a bum with no life goals, or life outside of her, a smart girl will avoid you relationships wise, and that in itself is a league to overcome not just for her but for your own benefit
@Lite7272 жыл бұрын
Yes they are if you do have that mindset is my philosophy.
@daemonace59102 жыл бұрын
@@ziloe Yeah I like to think of league as internal and external achievements playing a good part in it rather than looks and only looks
@norm18152 жыл бұрын
Show me your receipts or else it is all wishful thinking mumbojumbo
@the-stoic-insights-12 ай бұрын
Be honest in situations where a lot of guys would lie. Integrity is extremely important. As Marcus Aurelius once said: 'If it is not right, do not do it; if it is not true, do not say it'.
@TheVirtualBomb2 жыл бұрын
I can’t even date someone in my league lol Edit: this was a joke haha
@kenethsoberano2 жыл бұрын
You're self assessment may be off. Aim lower.
@ShaferHart2 жыл бұрын
@@kenethsoberano 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@girlygirl3362 жыл бұрын
@@kenethsoberano how do I self assess 💀💀 I TRULY wish someone would hypnotize me into forgetting what I look like and then I could REALLY self assess
@zacqueeentertainment73362 жыл бұрын
Damn lol
@daemonace59102 жыл бұрын
@@girlygirl336 Uhhh I don't know how accurate this method is but, I saw a theory that looking at a photo yourself from more than a few months ago is a good indicator for self assessing physical looks
@vitalis2 жыл бұрын
Unknowingly I've be doing some of the things in the video and it works but with me it came with time and "failed" relationships. Those experiences just made me focus on myself because I realised that's the one person I will always be with. That thought and the gradual actions that I took to better myself shaped my mindset.
@thechancellor-2 жыл бұрын
To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
@MitchellWiggs2 жыл бұрын
No one is incredible, they deserve the worst in life. Everything is their fault, they shouldn’t accept anything and remain stuck. Success is unachievable, lay down and close your mind to new skills. No one will ever be happy. Give up 🥺
@RegulareoldNorseBoy2 жыл бұрын
@@MitchellWiggs You know. The funny thing is that you're right, in a philosophical way. But in the world of humans, we make our own picture of truth and reality. Happiness comes from within
@davecullins16062 жыл бұрын
Now THIS 👍👍👍👍
@cassidymudd13942 жыл бұрын
Would be interested to hear from a woman's perspective. Great job! Super helpful info as always.
@patricklindsay722 жыл бұрын
Women aren't honest about what they want or like tho
@SpaztasticSheep2 жыл бұрын
@@patricklindsay72what are you basing that on lmao
@paigejohnson92012 жыл бұрын
same
@notsahsoj51552 жыл бұрын
“Just be yourself”
@mississipi11032 жыл бұрын
@@patricklindsay72 ... That's false. It seems like women love a lot of qualities but men purposely ignore this First of all, women are individuals and each one of them have their own standards. But most of them like kind, sweet, funny not mysoginistic, hard working, well dressed man with passion
@carlosgamez73452 жыл бұрын
the first thing you gotta do to start dating out-of-your-league people is stop believing you're out of their league. SELF-CONFIDENCE is KEY. Work in your confidence, start talking with new people, make new friends, work in your physique and smile.
@lastandroid4487 Жыл бұрын
And then she starts calling you "bro". 💀
@heisenberg3206 Жыл бұрын
@@lastandroid4487 bro what idc
@ntokozomngomezulu16102 жыл бұрын
l personally believe that their aren't any leagues.. it all comes down to how you present yourself.. no one is truly out of your league.. you just gotta go in there in the right state of mind.. you'll get her/him
@warrenbfeagins2 жыл бұрын
If you treat a woman like a celebrity, she will treat you like a fan.
@torachan232 жыл бұрын
Biggest step is to realize that no one is "out of your league"
@welpjesphinx88812 жыл бұрын
Imagine believing this lmao
@harryswingler50092 жыл бұрын
@@welpjesphinx8881 the insecurity in your comment is palpable
@ShaferHart2 жыл бұрын
@@welpjesphinx8881 while everyone's mileage varies, there's a big truth in what @Tora Chan said. Most guys reject themselves way before girls even get a chance to do so. When you see a guy dating "out of his league" it's usually that he didn't heed to that bs and went for it.
@exnihilonihilfit63162 жыл бұрын
Found the egalitarian filth.
@TheSultan14702 жыл бұрын
As if
@lorddavester2 жыл бұрын
Yes warming up is great. I used to get to bars and clubs and befriend the bouncers , waitresses,and bartenders long before I approach the women / customers. If I was not scoring I was never alone and just started talking with the staff again. I bounced back many times.
@MrClassicmetal2 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't say that Kim Kardashian is out of his league at all. She's over 40 and a single mom. Pete Davidson has his own money, and can do much better. He can attract younger, more attractive women who don't have someone else's kids. If anything, Davidson is dating _down_ 🤔
@wzg88042 жыл бұрын
Men in America have a bad habit of putting women on the pedestal just because they are attractive.
@McCrapweasel2 жыл бұрын
Hard agree. Pete can do alot better.
@zanybhr76962 жыл бұрын
Just because you don't want to admit that Kardashian is a big deal, doesn't make her any less attractive. 😊
@wzg88042 жыл бұрын
@@zanybhr7696 doesnt make her a high value woman either ....
@Sweetpinkpeace2 жыл бұрын
these are really great tips! i‘m tired of seeing guys trying to humble women out of their league to make them insecure enough to date them
@Sweetpinkpeace2 жыл бұрын
@Josh Skipka lmfao thank you
@Sweetpinkpeace2 жыл бұрын
@Josh Skipka its ok
@kayyp30532 жыл бұрын
It's worth mentioning that 2 out of the relationships shown here did not end up well. Ariana went on to call Pete a "distraction" and olivia wilde left Jason for Harry styles, possibly even cheating on him. Wonder if that somehow holds a significance 😭
@green_eye_gossip2 жыл бұрын
Also Kevin and Britney and Katy and russel
@NavyBlooo2 жыл бұрын
I think it’s more so focused on meeting people or successfully starting up a relationship rather than any issues later on. You’re definitely not wrong to note that since interest can fizzle out overtime once the intrigue is gone, or simply if you change as a person. Idk I guess you always have to be yourself to some degree, cuz starting any relationship you start trying to be someone else is destined to fail.
@egusisoup18262 жыл бұрын
To be fair, MOST relationships don’t “end up well”. Celebrities are just a good example because they are recognizable examples, but the vast majority of people who date will not end up together, and most people don’t view their exes in a very positive light
@kayyp30532 жыл бұрын
@@egusisoup1826 What I found interesting was the REASON those relationships ended tho-- because of one party losing interest or realising they did not have any interest all along. I was merely wondering whether it had anything to do with them punching above their weight lol
@egusisoup18262 жыл бұрын
@@kayyp3053 definitely possible. I heard psychologists say people who date someone they view as similar in status to themselves (social status including looks) have healthier relationships because they view each other as equals. When one person is noticeably higher in social status humans have a tendency to act in ways that show they pedestalize or fear losing them. This is also why people tend to be friends with people of similar social status. It takes someone with exceptionally high self esteem and confidence in themselves to not treat those perceived as high status differently (why celebrities are rarely going to kick it with civilians; why attractive people tend to move in groups; etc)
@lurklingX2 жыл бұрын
on this topic, i found that i can't say im attracted to someone UNTIL i learn about who they are as a person. or have them open their mouth and speak. they could be gorgeous and kill it in a heartbeat. i never really understood people thirsting after people based only on looks. (but, this makes dating hard for me since many people operate on only looks)
@Hk-ox4bb Жыл бұрын
Number 1: be RICH
@andrewusa143 ай бұрын
Or funny
@MahlaMetsaMari2 ай бұрын
Or beautiful and skinny
@Joshccastillo7 Жыл бұрын
Whoever made this video definitely deserves a promotion. The content in this video and facts are incredible
@artistevivien2 жыл бұрын
I watched Inventing Anna not too long ago and this is exactly how she got herself into those circles. Psychology is fascinating.
@Rashaadthegr82 жыл бұрын
You got to have something going on for yourself. The taller you are the more you don't have to have anything going on and still get the same girl. If you have a great job or $ you might not have to be tall. But the more you have the better your chances. If you tall, handsome, rich, and a nice person then you will increase your chances. Then add a nice body on top of that then you increase your chances higher. Have no kids? That increases your chances. But the truth is sometimes no matter how good of a man you're some women will never see it. It's just life. But you got to level up no matter what. Level up for yourself and if a woman comes with it its a bonus not the goal.
@McCrapweasel2 жыл бұрын
Hell yeah - well said
@edennis85782 жыл бұрын
Then there's intelligence and charisma. Intelligent men have a better chance with quality women. Charisma is a nebulous quality; some people say that you can learn to be charismatic, but it's iffy. It's a je ne sais quoi sort of thing. In any case, a quality woman will appreciate a quality man. Take it from a 66 year old woman.
@Rashaadthegr82 жыл бұрын
@@edennis8578 intelligence s not appreciated as it used to be taken it from a millennial on his second degree.
@sigmaboi29462 жыл бұрын
@@edennis8578 I see many intelligent but physically unattractive guys who are single, virgin and no woman wants them. I also see lots of good looking bum dudes who has had many partners and sexual encounters. I do not know which world you live in. Fantasy world maybe.
@purplespark82 жыл бұрын
Agree on this. There's no argument that these things: tall, $$$, handsome etc. make things easier. It will at least make it easier to start things off, but might not be able to carry the relationship. With people who don't have these, it is a much steeper challenge just to start
@psyclotronxx30832 жыл бұрын
Deciding what attribute you look for outside the obvious stuff is THE best advice. If she isn't sweet I'm not interested. If she doesn't smile, I'm not interested. If she's not a good listener, I'm not interested.
@chrisbarry93452 жыл бұрын
I went from being the one "out of someone league" to everyone being out of my league...
@dennisrobinson80082 жыл бұрын
They turned the tables
@stxrlegacyent53512 жыл бұрын
I like that last point you made. DATE SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU HAPPY
@Rashaadthegr82 жыл бұрын
Overly complimentary is true..I had two different women tell me guys they went on date with overly compliment them and they were turned off.
@jaycobdelacruz37892 жыл бұрын
Pete is the Dennis Rodman of relationships. He’s always there for any fu*ked up relationship to rebound.
@masked87452 жыл бұрын
My best advice is, Just be a human, provide, improve, grow, inspire and do something you love :)
@i_am_thebatman2 жыл бұрын
You need to Eliminate the idea of being in a League . It just downplays your own worth.
@brentbandrews2 жыл бұрын
The old adage rings true, "If you treat her like a celebrity, she'll treat you like a fan"
@nochillbill012 жыл бұрын
Lol I waited a whole year and seeing her for a whole year at work before I made a move on my now girlfriend. Literally all I had to do was care about myself and my own goals as much as I could potentially care about this girl. She’s now the love of my life and we grow together. Remember just because you get the girl doesn’t mean that’s as good as it gets.
@IsakAidee2 жыл бұрын
12:20 - This is good but only for social warm-up. If you're lucky, you're talking to someone and something happens or you end up hearing something interesting that might be of interest to bring up when conversing with your date. Extra subjects or information to develop whatever you're talking about never hurts :)
@JohnCBrown-xt3vm5 ай бұрын
The motto I live by is to believe no one is 'out of your league' and they are just people. You go by this belief for a while it permeates when you come up on someone more attractrive than usual.
@JohnLloydScharf2 жыл бұрын
I am still trying to figure out why you would deliberately seek someone out based on the assumption they are "out of your league." I can only think of one time I did that deliberately and cost 20 years of my life with the wrong person.
@egusisoup18262 жыл бұрын
It’s more about who you’re attracted to. Most people are often attracted to people they view as more physically attractive to them and cower away because of it. The whole video is literally just about treating all dating partners like equals
@MrEvldreamr2 жыл бұрын
theyre not "Seeking them out" they fall for them and want to woo them
@pygopygo77512 жыл бұрын
Stop caring. The moment you do, you instantly become more attractive.
@fullmetta27642 жыл бұрын
I do like the insight that choosing someone based on their perceived looks or value or wealth instead of how right they are for you is a losing approach. Another thing, beware anyone who claims they went from being a "lonely introvert" to an "outgoing extrovert", unless they're just throwing terms around.
@KyleOHalloran Жыл бұрын
Treat her like you would a friend, the fact you are attracted to someone shouldn't change what you usually do to get someone to talk to you.
@fsands692 жыл бұрын
moral: instead of trying to date someone 'out of your league', be the person you really aim to be in life, and bring that version of yourself 'into your league'.
@cronosrenovations Жыл бұрын
cant im 50
@fsands69 Жыл бұрын
@@cronosrenovations just flow with who you wanna be
@cronosrenovations Жыл бұрын
@@fsands69 I wish i could...flowing with my own element is not appreciated however...i am 49 and even sb and p tell me no...
@abboed.40762 жыл бұрын
I fortunately had the experience of dating someone who I thought was way out of my league (at first). But if you're attending a concert, seeing/hearing other men adoring her, with the knowledge you'll be the one she's sharing her bed with afterwards, you do feel like a king. 👑 All the 'out of your league' stuff dissappears, just like snow in the sun. It's (partly, there's still realism) in your head. Perception plays a big part in how you feel, hence, where you'll put yourself on the dating 'hierarchy'. (PS: A tip, just pick something you're really good at and make it an important part of your standards. Hence, feeling 'out of you're league' becomes less likely if you try that.)
@bro918 Жыл бұрын
Highly likelihood of the partner cheating if leagues are mismatched
@NathalieLazo2 жыл бұрын
Extraordinary person reading this, you are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life! You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you) and gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever! Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly ✨❤️ - Nat
@kissvera63862 жыл бұрын
No one's out of Pete's league, he's funny, smart, unic, adorable and attractive. People who say he doesn't deserve pretty girls truly don't understand women.
@gandheeznuts48932 жыл бұрын
I didn’t know he was a unic.
@Mblmsl2 жыл бұрын
@@gandheeznuts4893 😂😂
@everlyeverly30902 жыл бұрын
Pete is attractive? Oh well...
@MrEvldreamr2 жыл бұрын
@@everlyeverly3090 thats what i said
@samanson20012 жыл бұрын
@@everlyeverly3090 😂😂😂
@Purrrception2 жыл бұрын
"Don't treat someone you've just met like they're the only good thing in your life." Dam son....guilty af for this. My life is amazing. But I put these women in front of that thinking I'm being their rock.. Wow what a fool I am. Just goes to show we learn something new everyday. This is a huge one for me.
@synolution1765 Жыл бұрын
Guys, never forget.. NO ONE IS OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE!!
@destinyhntr2 жыл бұрын
The "flirting with everyone" won't always work though. Some women, like myself, don't like men who flirt constantly because it sends the signal that they will probably cheat on you while dating you. It can be a major turn off.
@pingu39842 жыл бұрын
Agreed. Major turnoff.
@jukeldups Жыл бұрын
One guy I was dating would put me on a pedestal, because he somehow thought I was out of his league. I was flattered for maybe 5 minutes, but anxious and horrified for the time after, as he didn't see me as a human with worries, weaknesses and dislikable quirks. I was feeling like I had to live up to an unattainable ideal persona, and that wasn't a very comforting feeling at all. I'd much rather be seen as an equal, or just a regular human, this allows for a more genuine connection. I'm average like most of us are, and I don't like being idolised very often. Treating your longterm partner like that from time to time can be enticing and fun, but never do this with strangers. You don't even know them and most of the time, they have some nasty sides that will underwhelm, irritate and annoy - and that's perfect: It leaves some room for you to be equally as imperfect and human as them :)
@WarGhoulKharas2 жыл бұрын
Considering that she's dated the rest of the league, that shouldn't be hard.
@piturongchansuwan81875 ай бұрын
I met retired Japanese Idol, and you definitely standout by not talking about her background 24/7 and make a compliment based on her effort her special not a reputation
@ieorlich2 жыл бұрын
ok! I'm motivated! Let's do this!! First step: Access Oh crap!
@LyadinDima Жыл бұрын
remember bois, the friend zone is for meeting girls friends bro. its a good thing
@smartguy3602 жыл бұрын
Nobody is out of your league
@xomvoid_akaluchiru_9872 жыл бұрын
Some of these can be a little misleading, but near the end it is closer to reality, and his final point is great.
@pranavagrawal93822 жыл бұрын
One thing I've realized is that thinking they are out of your league will actually make them out of your league
@jamjam04092 жыл бұрын
After all you decide who is in your league
@abeldsa2 жыл бұрын
Accepting she's out of your league is biggest thumbs down!
@ajamico2 жыл бұрын
if you're looking for someone like a kardashian... you're looking to be with someone shallow and high maintenance. good luck being ultimately happy with that.
@subh_8208 Жыл бұрын
13:37 is sooo true. I never had a good self esteem, and was always insecure of the way I look, talk, walk, and what not. Thank you for the video.Shall learn one thing at a time, and be better in conversation. :)
@mac28072 жыл бұрын
I find it interesting that the positive examples of dating out of their league have all been failed relationships in the end.
@SpaztasticSheep2 жыл бұрын
Tbf, most relationships fail
@TheEuantf2 жыл бұрын
'Failure' in relationships depends on your goals. Many would say that if they were happy while it lasted, it wasn't a failed relationship at all. Depends if you're really going for a 'forever' relationship or just enjoying your time on this ball of rock and salty water 😄
@mac28072 жыл бұрын
@@TheEuantf I think it's more fun with someone you're secure with and have no drama and you can go into the sunset together. It's worked for me so that has been my experience.
@TheEuantf2 жыл бұрын
@@mac2807 I'll be honest. No drama sounds like goals right now. Great to hear you've got something that's really working for you ❤
@mac28072 жыл бұрын
@@TheEuantf I wish for you the same and a healthy, happy and drama-free New Year! 💖
@hebihebi68182 жыл бұрын
I know my ex watched this. Poor guy
@Caine612 жыл бұрын
I think the league mindset is harmful and goes against what this channel is aiming to teach. If you are successful, confident, and happy then you will know what you deserve.
@revanamell17912 жыл бұрын
If you get to 7, they literally say exactly this.
@Caine612 жыл бұрын
@@revanamell1791 You're right, I jumped the gun and commented before finishing the whole video.
@danparish13442 жыл бұрын
He’s out of her league. She’s a single mom who’s older and already divorced twice. He has much better options.
@MrDrumStikz2 жыл бұрын
As someone who married out of his league and got the girl to move across the country, I'm intrigued.
@bigchooch44346 ай бұрын
note: this only works if you're also attractive/high status, otherwise the other person will wonder who tf you think you are talking to them like that
@Electronica272 жыл бұрын
My only issue with charisma on command is since he's so amazingly detailed with how he explains a certain trick that I'm worried I'll overthink AF about it. I usually combat this by locking away these starts in the back of my mind. It'll definitely be hard without practice.
@augustmosco Жыл бұрын
I married a woman WAY out of my league. The number 1 reason for our success after 36 years is that she never realized it (and I never told her). 🤐