Playing Dirty

[@bunjijumper5345]

Glad to see a hardworking man win his case.

[@righttoouropinionthanks4710]

😊👍

[@anaflynn1075]

Spoiler alert

[@al5945]

Can we not with the spoilers 3 hours in? 😞

[@blacknerdygirlsrock]

Y’all give a black man credit for anything lol

[@iamhenriwilliams]

thanks for spoiling the case before we see it! 🙌 🙌

[@margaretkoziel1643]

The defendant is such a LIAR !!! He is gross !🤮 Glad the plaintiff WON !

[@kyoto32001]

plaintiff lied also. the word is HUBCAPS! every car comes with hubcaps.

[@dnryan1]

​@kyoto32001 my truck doesn't have hubcaps, just wheels and tires.

[@mattyb231]

​@@kyoto32001SMH

[@bridgetts4767]

@@kyoto32001every car definitely does not come with hubcaps..😂😂🤦🏽‍♀️ they are called wheels sir. Some have hubcaps yeah but wheels are more common.

[@corporateraider77]

Typical. Wants something for free

[@moosah1027]

The plaintiff likely has ADHD of some sort or possibly a disorder…a lot of people in the comments should honestly cut him a break and be kinder. Glad he won.

[@kimberlyadorno280]

I'm glad someone said it. I have adhd and although I'm not over-the-top fidgety, I do fidget quite a lot.

[@Catloudan]

maybe. He is just a hyper guy. Nothing wrong with it.

[@EnigmaShauna]

I wish I had half the energy he has!

[@albertol9654]

Nah, he is just nervous and agitated. Most people show it differently in the heat of the moment.

[@DorothyCrowell]

I'm all for being kind but that plaintiff is high as a kite* I live in Orlando I c countless addicts that act like that

[@tjneverdefeated4394]

I’m glad the plaintiff stood up for himself and got justice served. I’m glad he didn’t let the judge’s irritation with him affect him. Idc how animated he is he meant no harm. It’s the people with problems that are bothered. Take a chill pill for your nerves lol😂

[@NubianP6]

As someone with ADHD, I think he likely has it too. It manifests in different ways, but my ex-husband used to fidget just like this. Only time he could stand still was in formation. (Military)

[@tjneverdefeated4394]

@@NubianP6 the plaintiff was pretty still when he was seated. But everybody being still didn’t bother him so his moving shouldn’t have bothered anyone 😂. I personally think a lot of people have some form of ADHD 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@bovinityleak2066]

He acknowledged his unyielding bouncy shifty animation and laughed with the judge. He knew the score when later she asked him to sit.

[@elizabetharmstrong4108]

Well said

[@Nayahpooh012]

She was ruder to the plaintiff than the lying sneaky defendant. He got more than what he agreed to pay for and still ended up trying to not pay anything!

[@MM-sz6ku]

Facts!

[@tggt2939]

🎯

[@urszulapanikowski6944]

I don't think she was rude to the plaintiff! The judge only asked him to stop moving constantly and distracted her when she was asking the defender a question!

[@GiftedVisionary]

@@urszulapanikowski6944he probably has adhd.

[@jeremycrandall2899]

@@urszulapanikowski6944 I totally agree. She definitely was not being rude to the plaintiff. She recognized the fact that he needed to be constantly moving and understood that he was not trying to disrespect the court in any way. She just needed him to be still at times when it was too distracting for her. No harm in that.

[@Cedes1424]

Idgaf what anybody says. JM didn’t need to talk to the Plaintiff like she did. People have different issues and as a judge of over 20 years, she should know how to respectfully speak to people.

[@kimr5479]

AGREED!👍

[@ebonyadams8384]

I agree. “Have a seat, you just agitate me to much “ is definitely not the solution.

[@muthaluva]

Boohoo

[@muthaluva]

People who work at McDonald's and abuse the little authority they have now want to whine about a judge. That's why you can't hold a job. Find your backbone betas and stop being weak because you don't like what they say or how they say it . shutup

[@ntrock22]

​@@sirjane7714courtesy? Professionalism?

[@ps5mane]

I had a friend like the plaintiff, very animated can’t calm down if they wanted to 😂😂😂 , but you can tell he is a honest good guy .

[@yungReparations]

Clearly the plaintiff knows how to clean! He is full of pure energy!

[@michelleharper2940]

Lol I’d hire him to help me deep clean my house! He would probably make it fun 🤩

[@righttoouropinionthanks4710]

Well then he better get on over here to my house!! lol!! A man that knows how to clean well is PRICELESS in my book!! 👍

[@ashley4598]

She was nasty to the plaintiff. People have done worst in that courtroom smh like girl how do you know if he has adhd or something

[@poppedtart-ic7ot]

Right! She annoyed the hell out of me

[@stumack9755]

she's racist. notice how she treats Douglas.

[@686JM]

@@stumack9755 Your comment is extremely racist and juvenile, time you checked yourself into a psychiatric ward. Douglas and Judge Milian are Friends as well as co-workers for multiple years, check your attitude.

[@jesnrbrt4evr11]

So happy that the plaintiff won! The defendant is nothing but a sneaky snake who tried to get out of paying what he owed! Let's say for argument's sake that he thought the plaintiff did a bad job okay then why didn't you at least pay him half, something, he literally paid him zero! Not only that but like the judge said why is he in the text saying he's going to send a check a week later if he doesn't think that he deserved anything? People like this absolutely disgust me! I've detailed cars it's not fun and it's a lot of work!

[@s.jackson8069]

Absolutely 💯

[@sheriwilliams5027]

🇺🇸❤️🙏🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽🙏🏽❤️🇺🇸

[@DPhasely]

Exactly. Defendant is a scammer.

[@kimr5479]

AGREED!👍

[@carolharris5455]

Big liar

[@LanaKnight-z3u]

LET'S TAKE A MOMENT TO APPLAUD THE PLAINTIFF'S SELF CONTROL KNOWING THAT HE HAS A HYPER ISSUE. ALSO, LETS APPLAUD HIM FOR STANDING UP FOR HIMSELF!

[@YoungLadyInRed]

👏👏👏

[@zamyawilson2479]

I agree. Judge was agitated, at his condition. Maybe she’s not traveled enough in that area

[@AlbertoThecheater]

And the judge being her CUBAN ( SINCE SHE LOVES POINTING OUT) how RUDE her asss was

[@grandam]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Danieltoshsplumber]

Hyper issue or meth issue…..

[@TribeofJudah111]

This man just don’t want to pay this detailer. Period!!!

[@angiela3439]

The defendant has some nerve...He could have at least tried to negotiate a discount not just rob the guy of the whole thing...he did do a job🤷🏾‍♀️

[@JulissaDesigns]

Glad he won, how are people so evil , making people work and then deny payment, if you don’t like the result just review it and don’t use his services again but you Have to pay for the work done.

[@FloChee]

That's how they are... you know that.

[@wvrjl]

Well, if he didn't do the job properly, I wouldn't necessarily pay the full amount (I'm not referring to minor things). HOWEVER, he never mentioned a thing! So, I don't believe him about what was SUPPOSED to be done.

[@sumame47]

Sounds like a certain someone who wouldn't pay those he had contracts for and told them that his name was worth more than what they were owed. Including three young ladies who performed at one of his campaign rallies! smh

[@Endsomniac]

He could’ve won the court case off of his texts alone. He typed all the right things 😂

[@app1mxh]

Well said

[@charmainetivis-watts2273]

My husband is a mobile detailer and its crazy the amount of customers that try to get my husband to provide extra services for free or claim he did a bad job so they dont have to pay. They expect him to make their car look brand new when they completely destroy their car. There is a difference between dirt and damage. As a wife of a detailer, I'm glad the plantiff won🎉

[@ryukiravenwing8530]

That sucks people are so sneaky. I'm just curious, does he take before and after photos now in case he has to take them to court? I would.

[@charmainetivis-watts2273]

@ryukiravenwing8530 yes, he does, for this very reason.

[@cyberexposure]

Yes, there are times when a stain is permanent. Detailing is not miracle work, as some clients expect it to be.

[@nachowifi2181]

Happy you won, Jason! Keep your head up, Brother!

[@kimr5479]

YES!👍

[@chilltheheckoutwithava1454]

I would have charged $650 for the boat ALONE

[@pamelahaze3211]

Right!

[@daniellecorley6425]

That was a great price. I pay 350 for my truck and 250 for my car. He got a great deal for 2 trucks and a boat

[@avianartis-fleary7660]

Yes! When he said the price I was like what??! Very low

[@vitalee2585]

That's what I said I paid almost 400 for my car inside and out he doesn't understand the deal he got

[@rachexl]

we just paid $350 for each of our cars to get detailed. $700 total for 2 cars. if we just did one car its $400 for one. plaintiff needs to charge more!

[@_BarbeeWorld]

"You agitate me" is absolutely disgusting language for a judge to use. He obviously can't help it

[@v.a.993]

I agree. Judge Judy would have been irritated too but I think she would have at least asked if he had a condition of some kind before expressing her irritation.

[@SamuelGBerman]

He can help it. Humans are humans. Even if he has adhd. He controlled it the moment he sat down. Act like adult in court

[@SamuelGBerman]

@@v.a.993tf? Judy would have yelled at him 😂

[@annmagati8681]

I would have said the same thing . His a nice guy but does not mean that what’s going with him can’t make you also start feeling anxious .

[@beautifulllb9493]

Aww I like the plaintiff. Glad he won! You can tell he’s serious about his company and work ❤

[@bernief9820]

The judge was ruder to the plaintiff than the liar defendant. It’s funny how she selectively gets an attitude or a accent when it’s convenient lol

[@delilahlchavez]

This!! 👏🏽

[@JayJay-me8zk]

I'm watching the plaintiff and how animated he is, thinking I like this guy and his expressiveness. JM then asks, "are you always this animated". Lol. His energy probably helps his business. I'm one of the biggest skeptics on the planet, but I would hire this guy.

[@Justice4ALL1961]

The guy in the green shirt is extremely dishonest as for the scratches in the door handle those cannot be buffed out.

[@stumack9755]

& extremely fat.

[@ralexandra1058]

For real! And he claimed to get regular detailing… if that were the case those old scratches wouldn’t be there.. or at the very least, wouldn’t be as notable.

[@stigeyrose4395]

I don’t understand how him being animated & fidgety annoyed her so much 🙄 it’s not like he was talking out of turn & being rude. The defendant is such a liar it’s really sad how he tried to cheat the plaintiff! I’m glad he stood up for himself & won.

[@Bennygymm]

Sometimes people moving around or fidgeting can over stimulate someone. I'm guessing having to listen to both the stories and looking at the evidence is what she's trying to focus on. I don't know if that's the case just my guess from my personal experience.

[@tjneverdefeated4394]

She is easily distracted and probably has bad nerves/anxiety. Do you notice how the audience is always perfectly still in there? Very little facial expressions… in comparison to other courtrooms where the audience is a little more free? 🤔 Idk but she was rude to tell him he was getting on her nerves. He was patient.

[@jojobunny02]

I personally get irritated by overly fidgety people. Can’t exactly explain why but it’s almost overwhelming to me, my husband paces constantly when he’s talking on the phone and he has an animated personality too, I let him be him but I wish he would just sit down 😂

[@Tahiha]

@@Bennygymmthis. If I’m around anyone who speaks excessively or moves around too much I start feeling like I’m about to. Tall out of my skin. I get anxious and I have to move away from them.

[@Tahiha]

She only said ONCE that he was agitating her. I don’t see what the issue is. Some people get overstimulated by excessive movement, not just excessive talking.

[@apoliticallevi]

Everyone’s talking about the plaintiff, like chill, so what if he’s animated. Still seems like a good businessman…so far lol.

[@DGrant86]

Exactly

[@eisbeinGermany]

i just wonder how does he work,or it could be when he works he is not so animated

[@taniwha3706]

@@eisbeinGermany bc he's concentrating on a job, he channels that energy into doing his job

[@eloahnon4952]

That's cheap for all 3 of those to be detailed 😮

[@dnryan1]

I'd be around that price just for the boat for a full detail, polish and wax. Crazy cheap for all 3. The defendant is a snake but sadly there is no shortage of them in this world.

[@chilltheheckoutwithava1454]

Seriously cheap!

[@pamelahaze3211]

It is my son runs the detail department at a dealership..

[@francinewilliams1703]

Plantiff handle himself professionally. Wish him much success in his business

[@fashionforwardmom]

So happy to see that the detailer won. If the man gets his car detailed every month why were those scratches so deep and noticeable. Dude lied.

[@paperbackk]

I have adhd and I feel for the plaintiff, the struggle to sit still is real😂! So glad he wasn’t treated like he’s ‘out of control’ even if JM said he got on her nerves lmao

[@urszulapanikowski6944]

The judge is nobody's babysitter and she's also not judging people of diseases or disability you show up to court present your case and this is what it is about. It's not about your race not your gender. He presented his case and he won. He's not the victim he's a victor.

[@they-live1]

Defendant is a crook, plain and simple

[@MOAB-UT]

True IT LIVES. Great flick and it came true!

[@tarinforeman]

I have three kids and I will say cleaning my suv takes a lot. I think the plaintiff did a good job! I detail mine myself because I like everything done a certain way. The defendant needs to understand not everything is going to be spotless because as the judge mentioned not all stains will come out.

[@shelberz1]

Right on

[@nae1470]

I doubt very seriously that a 10 year old car is going to look brand new unless you have taken great care of it.

[@chynacash3138]

Yeah especially a 10 year old car that carries kids in it all the time.

[@nae1470]

@chynacash3138 is exactly 💯 correct. Scratches on a door handle, and e en his own pictures showed that the stains couldn't be extracted out all the way. And then the plaintiff gets in the hallway and says," I have a service that cleans it monthly, 😆 🤣

[@unhingedmommy]

I miss the people's court. Judge Marilyn's new show is bunk!!!

[@MrAlienmagnet]

I like her new show except for two things. The whole new set and graphics are all browns and tans and hardly any other colors. It looks blah. Its filmed in LA, but I miss the craziness of the New York City litigants. On her new shopw. everyone seems calm compared to this guy.

[@DonziGT230]

Yea, I had high hopes for it and was let down. Unfortunately many people enjoy BS and drama much more than real life so the new show took that path.

[@tanyawins]

Yes the new show is not real, they are all actors and it shows. Google it. Disappointing. I don’t watch it anymore. 🥲

[@dfa3366]

i AGREE..her new show uses real cases but it's staged with actors to re-enact them.

[@Web19814]

I can't stand the new show. It's so fake! Maybe legally you can't do these types of shows any more because of privacy, but can't they just sign a waiver and pay the plaintiff and defendant a little more?

[@almathomas8325]

WOW SO THE DEFENDANT THINKS HE SHOULD GET A FREE DETAIL?!

[@kristineo2926]

Unbelievable! He was deep cleaning interior and exterior on THREE cars AND a boat for how many hours?? And don't get paid one single dime?? The D is an actual a*hole for sure!!!

[@mikeaddison5697]

These kids today, that’s a grown ass man 😂😂

[@papalegbasson2447]

This started off as a mistake for plaintiff. With all the preconceived judgment and disrespect. Bruh I feel ya.

[@Asmrrelaxingvibes]

I swear she is so unnecessarily rude to ppl it makes it hard to watch her sometimes. First, she makes a joke about him being animated then she snaps at him and tells him to sit down. and you could see in his face how much it bothered him. Im gald he won in the end smh

[@lifewithsunice4055]

Especially when their black people

[@jomariedishmon4342]

Exactly

[@momoboolman8820]

I don't know if the plaintiff has ADHD. But some people just don't know how to keep their emotions together in court and maybe he doesn't know about court etiquette. I'm glad the plaintiff won. In all, the defendant was on BS.

[@nellyhernandez388]

I would totally hire the plaintiff! Sucks JM got annoyed with him, he was great

[@michelleharper2940]

What a fantastic plantiff! And that defendant is a freaking entitled DB 🙄

[@you3ee]

Anytime you are dealing with someone local who INSISTS on mailing you a check instead of you picking it up or having someone pick it its ALWAYS a red flag. What he wants to do not mail any check then tell you check got lost in the mail and use that tactic to delay and delay

[@Zeropainter420]

Props to the brother for taking this weasel to court. He does this every day do you think he picked just your stuff to do wrong ?

[@jeremyrose3412]

Good for the plaintiff... he worked hard, and the defendant just wanted to get it for free. Too many people like that out there... he literally paid him nothing for 6 to 8 hours of work and tried to get away with it...nice to see a small business owner get his money

[@mamamckinney7409]

I love this case so much! Justice prevails!!!👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 this defendant was a total snake! So glad this plaintiff won! The truth should ALWAYS WIN!

[@wvrjl]

If the defendant noticed it right away, why wouldn't he ever say anything? Over & over he had the opportunity.

[@hadley407]

@thepeoplescourt reach back into the archives to the early 2000s and I’ll watch any and ALL Judge Milian episode you post for us!

[@DiamondLife7711]

I understand how frustrating it can be as a judge when someone is moving around it may also cause intimidation for the defendant which judges do not allow. HOWEVER, the judge should be able to perceive when a person clearly may have a disability and is UNABLE to control his movements. He is obviously very respectful so he wasn’t doing it in purpose she could have been a bit more kind but I’m so glad he didn’t let it bother him and she made the RIGHT DECISION I’m so glad he won and I wish I could get my car serviced by his company!

[@rodboijones7390]

sir you handled that very professionally!!! Glad the plaintiff won!!

[@mkayauna]

she doesn’t know if that man has ADD, ADHD, or some other disorder telling him to stop fidgeting is unacceptable

[@lexislove639]

Plaintiff seems like a good guy

[@TheeMichellesMind]

So what if the plaintiff is “animated”. 🙄 She is sooo crabby sometimes! Focus on the case lady. Clearly he’s nervous and doing the best he can. He may have ADHD as well. They act like he was just super over the top. 🤦🏽‍♀️ But he seems honest, respectful and fair. I’m so glad he won his case.

[@Rose-lq4kj]

LOL the plaintiff looks like he’s in the principals office as she reads those texts 🤣🤣🤣

[@bigplanner]

So did the defendant.

[@Tinrs80]

This dude trying to do the right thing running a business in the world we live in. Least he well dressed and dont look like a bum. I could care less if he is Fidgety. Seems like a smart man too.

[@vivianhamilton616]

Exactly, and the defendant underestimated him...I'm elated he won!

[@sheilal5852]

The judge using a magnifying glass instead of glasses to read text messages 😅

[@albertol9654]

No matter the job.. you always got to pay something, perfect or not. As long as nothing gets damaged.

[@louloumagoo2512]

The defendant is an arse who doesn't want to pay his bills.

[@vegetaroronoa2660]

Glad the plaintiff won people like the defendant get that way because they assume no one’s gonna call their bluff

[@siyanasithole7362]

I love the plaintiff's character , we should see more of him on our screens

[@saronmalloy6074]

Judge Malian should educate herself if not already about ppl that are fidgety and hyper like that-he wasn’t doing it on purpose. Not everyone is so well composed. Some ppl have ADHD and anxiety--they can’t keep still!

[@alexanpho4531]

I’ve never felt more rage towards JM for her attitude towards the plaintiff! I actually wanted to slap the crap out of her! She was so aggressive with him!!!

[@Aerospace_Education]

Really appreciate hard working people trying to do the best with what they have. Glad he won.

[@ShredworthyDave]

These are the types of cases i like. The blue collar guys winning what they deserve. The defendant is like many customers ive dealt with. Everything is nice til its time to write the check

[@sosobeautiful7]

Some people are naturally fidgety, he wasn't trying to be rude

[@kelslskfnvksle]

This is one of the first times I've seen a litigant visibly react to Curt's comments at the beginning of the case. The plaintiff was PISSED lololol.

[@nitaburton2684]

Plaintiff reminds me of the Legendary, DMX❤❤❤❤

[@NellieKAdaba]

RIP DMX.

[@Catloudan]

Defendant is AWFUL. Plaintiff was more than kind and patient too.

[@deefleming6271]

S/O to the plaintiff keep it up young king !!!

[@bridgetteh.1701]

The defendant thinks it’s the year 1776 when payment wasn’t required 😂 but those days are gone. Pay the man!!

[@kristineo2926]

Why does it always have to come down to race?? An a*hole is an a*hole regardless of race!

[@kristinkinzel9438]

Plaintiff is so genuine!! ❤️🙏

[@sandrarice4197]

The plaintiff did two vehicles and a huge boat full detail for only $650.00? That's cheap. The plaintiff and his crew spent many hours there on 2 vehicles and a huge boat!!! Shame on the defendent for not paying the plaintiff for all his hard work. How would the defendent feel if he didn't get paid for his job? Not very well I imagine. Pay the man!!! He did the work!!!

[@Tranquility32]

I think the Plaintiff undercharges. And, okay, not court related, but he is very handsome. Gorgeous smile.

[@manuelsoares9698]

How can you justify not even paying him $1? If he believes that he should pay half, then pay half. Maybe they will accept it or sue for the other half but paying nothing is unacceptable. Then he throws his wife under the bus and says that he didn't approve it... sleazy piece of sh/t...

[@ammietitmore9326]

I work with a kid that is very animated like the plaintiff he's a great kid and he has ADHD and does a lot of fidgeting and can't be still.

[@harryschneider1760]

He has a monthly service that cleans his car...yea ok....proved to me he lies

[@williamg8269]

Plaintiff should consider a side gig as an emcee or comedian. He's very animated and would be great at entertaining people.

[@missa1goins]

He likes detailing

[@ashleyhenry8380]

I feel for this plaintiff. It looks like he has ADHD and obviously not taking meds. (Fidgeting and not being able to get to the point, using arms while talking) I applaud him for working and coming to court without that help.

[@Dein104]

I have a student like the plaintiff, he can barely sit stiil but he's the friendliest most respectful and a very smart person 😊

[@The2Coolest2]

Headliners especially on older cars are extremely difficult to clean because they are very thin and rip easily. Theres only so much you can do at a certain price point. The scratches at the door handle were crazy but if he didnt pay for the exterior detail then its understandable

[@ayanaresellerqueen1685]

Judge wasn't respectful. He may have a nervous disorder.

[@sevinsweets5140]

Defendant looks mighty shifty

[@meicolar1724]

I'm sure Judge Milan has been around or seen or has an understanding of children with ADHD.....well damn they do become adults with ADHD....her behavior towards the plaintiff PISSED me off. Obviously something is off....

[@stelladurrette2215]

Great job Jason for standing your ground.

[@MH-hw4uh]

Yep, he just wanted to weasel himself out of it Judge. Smart decision.

[@michaelcrandle1068]

My dad used to detail and washed cars years ago.

[@ZionDaLion05]

I'm actually surprised JM didn't tell him he had committed fraud by giving a check and stopping paynent on it.

[@Sunbeam645]

The plaintiff is such a good man. So happy he got his money.

[@lionelluva]

The plaintiff was really cool guy. I know he's long winded but give him a break, Judge. Glad he won.

[@tozieasmr7375]

The plaintiff got to everything but the point but I’m glad he got his money.

[@nunya8010]

This case wasted everyone's time and he should have to pay more for it not just what he owes!

[@patriciaesqueda8933]

The defendant is a liar!

[@melodyhigh7245]

He almost said he didn’t say he was gonna pay him on the next Thursday 🤣

[@waveriderz2687]

They charge $450 to do one vehicle here in Hawaii. Wish I could get a detail job that cheap!

[@dominatrix1668]

Defendant got caught in a lie. hahahaa

[@aiming4peace254]

The defendant's case, really doesn't make any sense at all. And before he put on his glasses, what a stink eye he seemed to have!

[@tjpaison]

Glad to see the Plaintiff won his court case! Loved his pure energy!! 💯🙌 And as for the Dirty Defendant he did exactly what the title of this case states.

[@kimr5479]

That's right JASON get your Justice. I bet that Defendant didn't think he would go this far!

[@donna-mayfeatherstone8742]

Plaintiffs just animated. He wasn't rude AT ALL. He won fair and square. Some people talk with their hands and some fidget...so what. CONGRATS GREAT JOB. YOUNG MAN🎉

[@jessetaylor7951]

I wish the judge was a little more patient with the plaintiff. You can tell he's an honest, hardworking guy. Chastising him for something so harmless and that he was most likely not doing purposely isn't cool...

[@Ellie80681]

Why even write a check ? Ridiculous. But note to all businesses, do not accept checks.

[@amandabrown6565]

Sometimes Judge M is too damn much. This man could have Adhd and shes telling him to basically sit down because he's agitating her!! I think he done wonderful because as a person who has a son with adhd I know how it can be.