Podcast 320: The one mindset that can help you through any problem!

SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk about how hope is a thought “insurance policy” that can help you move through any challenge and deal with hard times.
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PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS:
1:15 The importance of hope
1:50 Hope & identity
2:25 You can always change & heal
8:00 What to do when the past, present & future looks bleak
9:30 You are wired for love
10:40 How to build hope into the mind & brain
13:00, 22:00 The key characteristics of hopeful people
24:00 The power of living a self-examined life
28:30 The relationship between embracing pain & developing hope
33:00 Why we need to create communities of hope
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PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS:
1:15 The importance of hope
1:50 Hope & identity
2:25 You can always change & heal
8:00 What to do when the past, present & future looks bleak
9:30 You are wired for love
10:40 How to build hope into the mind & brain
13:00, 22:00 The key characteristics of hopeful people
24:00 The power of living a self-examined life
28:30 The relationship between embracing pain & developing hope
33:00 Why we need to create communities of hope

[@lennyfitzgerald4190]

Your an asset to the kingdom of God Doc! Thank you so much for always sharing the great wisdom given to you by our God! Living testimony here, of someone who used to suffer from many seizures, & alcohol abuse. I'm so grateful to know I am who I think I am, not dependent on any circumstances: emotional/mental/physical etc, my identity lies peacefully in Christ. Thank you & God bless you all!

[@estellaarocha1514]

Thank you. I’m helping women who experienced sexual abuse and your wisdom has be of great value to us. Carolyn May God continue to use you greatly in Jesus name

[@denisefrench8229]

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[@mizlexi5]

Now these 3 remain forever; faith, hope and love. The greatest one is love.. unselfish love for others will take the mind off myself... and hope of eternal life is very important. There's a hope that only a relationship with God can give you... that you trust He will come through cause you know He def can... since you know Him (God) and there's a love that ONLY God can give you. I couldn't love others until God's Love was poured in my heart through His Holy Spirit....

[@buchonabeauty7323]

Hey Doc i just started reading you’re book think, learn and succeed. I’ve always struggled with my thinking process and there was always some situations that made it difficult for me to have hope and always dragging myself down with my drug abuse and love was also a big factor that also brought me down while incarcerated and releasing from prison my mindset changed from doing good in life to a complete 180 doing bad. Trying to fill the void that I have. And also since releasing I’ve noticed that I was tomb when it would come down to expressing my feelings with others even with family, those relationships that presented its self we’re good opportunities for me to expand in all aspects in my life but something changed even more I fell into depression,loneliness basically cutting myself off from the world until recently I was tired of always doing the same thing drug abuse alcohol spending time with the wrong environment, toxic people I wanted to make a change in me for the best, I first picked up your book 2 months ago and only read like half of the introduction and stopped reading it until 2 days ago that i decided to stop all the bs and excuses. I started reading more about your book and how the 5 step rule works, I started applying that yesterday giving my self to day dream about positivity like my future and if any toxic words or frases that I’m using to immediately recognize it and replace it with something positive…… so dr. Caroline I’m a glad that I took the first steps to reading your book again, I’m excited for this journey because in all my life, I have never felt so inspired motivated to learning new skills on how everything works inside of us, but also inspired to learn a hobby because since I can remember, I was never goal orientated nothing ever sparked my interest in a hobby but I’m glad that your also on KZbin because I only have that 1 book but thank you Caroline for everything, you might not see it the way I do but you totally saved a life because I know that I’m meant for something good in this world ❤️

[@aoifeaylyamayze6109]

This podcast is exactly true about the vital need for community. For someone coming out of a long-term abusive marriage, that isolated me, and before that enduring an extremely dysfunctional family of origin, it is not helpful to say that we need someone else to acknowledge some value in us in order to create hope. Those people, that community, is non-existant for some people. What is needed is a way that an isolated person who has had their uselessness, unloveability, unacceptability as a human being constantly reinforced and every accomplishment constantly undermined by everyone around them, to be able to build themselves up completely on their own, against this constant opposition, without any community support.

[@sketchesinsand8593]

The farmer and cow story is all very nice, but due to my very moderate stances on covid and politics I no longer have a community. I consider this the ultimate blessing, for we enter this world alone and we leave it alone, and if you have never faced these facts you never really know what it means to be alive. My community is the trees that put oxygen in the air and the clouds that bring me water, and the farmers who grow the food that I eat.

[@jimenaffpp]

So, what to do when there is no community. Amazingly, it happened to me. I was Ms community. And then one day became ill with a chronic disease, everybody disappeared in my life, slowly but surely. I can't do social life anymore, so tired and exhausted always. I need to work, which requires almost all my energy. Not only that, but I have no family. So many days hope is so far away, away in a different world with the company of emptiness and solitude. It must be more people like me with my circumstances in the world, I presume. Examples are always for people with supposedly "normal life", but there is nothing like normal because life is something organic, not robotic. Finding answers for people in different circumstances is such a quest, though. I hope you can answer, mainly because that would give some hope. Thank you so much.

[@oliviachipperfield6029]

I have MS, have found myself in a similar situation to yourself, where the disease makes doing anything outside of work impossible; I simply have no energy left to enjoy life.

[@Jesus_Resurrection_and_Life]

Yes there are other people like you. Since I was diagnosed with an auto-immune condition, in 2009, life has been a challenge that I’ve never really bounced back properly. Takes a lot of my energy to do the basics that it’s so tiring to do enjoyable things. I do like walking though, but need regular sustenance. It’s tiring to get all that in day by day, week by week, when I need a full day in bed to recover if I’ve been busy, busy with just the basics too! Ugh. But I have found that looking into functional Medicine, things like Dr Leaf mentions to handle my brain body connection, getting fresh air, sunshine, vitamin D, adaptogens (for stress fatigue, adrenal fatigue), making sure I’m getting trace minerals regularly in my diet, water, keeping hydrated, it does help, adequate rest too, doing things that are pleasant, restoring I’ve found incorporating all these aspects into my lifestyle gradually gave me energy, but I’m in a slump now cos of life’s curveballs and now I have to recover all over again. Ugh. But yeah, those things helped me gain more strength, endurance, resilience, over time though. But I’m still not able to function like ‘normal’ people. You’re not alone. I’ve heard that here in UK, churches are bracing themselves for a loneliness pandemic after the lockdowns. Lots of people report feeling very lonely and how the lockdowns have affected them. I’m sure there are more people that feel,like you do, not many people seem to talk about it. Hope things get better for you, lots of blessings 🌸

[@hn308]

We are all good fighting the good fight of faith. God bless

[@user-cx2hq8og6i]

I am chronically ill. Just doing the basics of self-care takes ALL my energy. It is depressing. My friends have abandoned me also. There needs to be a chronic illness group to socialize in and lift each other up. I'm going thru heavy metal detox, which is supposed to help my energy levels. Functional and preventive medicine have helped a lot.

[@nurtured-channel2953]

Yes I relate to it....and ask the same question.

[@anningram9311]

Ive listened to this twice and I may just be about to have a breakthrough....with your and the Lords help!

[@rcz2023]

Thank you, I was involved in an ATV accident and have been struggling lately, thank you so much for sharing your teachings, your hard work is truly appreciated. Thank you!

[@somebodybecauseoftheking]

Our church has started a recovery group for hurts, habits and hang ups. I have had my own struggle with depression and anxiety but with Gods help, your teachings, and our recovery group I have been feee form anxiety attacks for over a year! I am now teaching the “inventory” step to our recovery group and I have been implementing the Nero cycle and Metacog in my lessons! It’s been amazing! I have truly found my passion. I also organize homes for a living it’s funny how I like to organize the messy mind and homes lol. Several of us in the group are using your app thank you for affordable resources!

[@oliviachipperfield6029]

Thank you! Tears while listening to you!

[@Hopeful999]

I’m am ambassador of #HOPE ⚓️

[@TheFreshSoundsFlorida]

This is right on time.

[@terrikennedy3088]

I second that. Praise the Lord and sending blessings your way @Fresh Sounds

[@suzannahjames526]

Thank you so much for this amazing, helpful podcast. Today I start working on your advice and jotting stuff down to help me on the journey. The power of hope is really speaking to me and I am sure other listeners, no matter what the mess is. Bless you. 🌈

[@veronicabruce2078]

We are all so perfectly imperfect. What a Blessing to know that we are all valued with potential to affect, love & support not only the suffering of ourselves but that of others. Self-Compassion, Hope & Love are great messages. Thank You for placing a stone in our path during a war, potential recession, impoverished children, adults without food, without dental care & a virus that won't relent. Now let's all go out be a living testimony of Hope. Our thoughts, our words, our actions, our habits, our character & our destiny all begin with Thinking, Feeling & Choosing. I pray the whole world knows that everyone is equal & loved. Loves, Veronica Bruce MSN RN.

[@JoesCamera]

Man you are a Proudly SouthAfrican. Preach it

[@sives_journal]

Gratitude helps Doc.

[@inspire3652]

I remember when my brother suffered from symptoms of depression by 19 years old. His way of thinking would basically we are all going to die one day, so there is just no point to life. His hope was lost, (your wise words have hit the nail on the head regarding "hope") I would try to speak to him and help him through it but nothing seemed to help. He was someone that did not believe in God, and then one day my parents heard him crying from the top of his lungs, they ran into his room, and found him in tears with a bible open. From that day forward he was restored, no more symptoms of depression. He is now a follower of Jesus and says that he was touched by the holy spirit. I've recently had anxiety symptoms (hence why I listen to your videos) I must say, you have completely changed my life these last few weeks. I've always believe in the power of thoughts and feelings. I've lived a very positive and happy life over the years, by being aware of my thoughts. However, once I had my first child, I became very scared of life etc... my thoughts began to spiral out of control and my health started declining, I started listening to your videos and something just clicked. I needed to hear words of wisdom, I listen to you on repeat each day, I must say, my chronic neck pain that has been there for 2 years is 80% gone. All because of the positive change in my thoughts. I also have recorded my voice and listen to positive affirmations about myself whilst I sleep. I need my sub conscious mind to start believing every word again.

[@sillysel11]

Thank you Dr. Leaf, so much great information you put out. Everyone should watch your videos.❤️

[@denisethornton5982]

I had a dream , I saw your face and podcast God said in dream This is how you will heal from all your abuse and trauma

[@nalayini1504]

What an amazing video....have struggled with building resilience after multiple deaths in my family this video is information no one ever explained, so valuable, what a great lady 💕

[@user-jz7sj2cg1s]

This is exciting for me in starting a business, I need to do brain building now to help me go forward smartly!

[@CathySharp]

8:45 63 days is the minimum amount of time that we need to spend to start seeing communication and behavioral changes in our lives and the impact of those like feeling hope again for example.

[@edbalko3082]

SO BEAUTIFUL…AMEN….SINCERELY MRS CARMEN BALKO

[@ashleymoon633]

i honestly believe if people became an expert on the brain...would help with so much

[@lorriepriddle8604]

I have made a mess of my life but luckily Jesus righteousness saves me not my own! Amen!

[@MissDetox]

If I could give this video a treble thumbs up and then some…I would. This topic resonated with me so much…thank you

[@fitrunner1317]

What do you do when you don’t have the deep meaning community? Haven’t had that in a long time. Now that I’m coming out of chronic health issues rendering my mind retraining my brain, learning to set boundaries I still don’t have that community. I mean, close knit with a few people. That’s lacked in my life for so many years. And moving to Arizona 3 years ago, I thought I had made a few close friends but post pandemic, nope! It’s so hard to make new meaningful relationships. I turn 60 in 2 days and have no close friend nor family (my children and grandchildren) to celebrate it with. My family back in NC. It’s so hard! I’m celebrating a milestone, yet facing financial hardships. Jesus is my hope for sure, it’s hard! I’m fighting that old negative way of thinking 🙏🏻 and came across this video 😊

[@christinepiwowarczyk4270]

Love this "wired for love" and deep meaningful connections... beautiful.

[@hannavanderberg1673]

I can so relate to you, Sandra.

[@yantiwisudha6773]

Thank so much sharing about HOPE...👍

[@klipkerklichtenburg2574]

Christ in us our hope to glory Col 1 27

[@ibraheemjallad809]

Thank you for this inspiring and encouraging information.

[@bruceb.klassen9552]

You are amazing. I wished I had found you years….ago. Your podcasts would have saved me a great deal of Mental Misery and from a Nervous Mental Breakdown. I rejoice in listening to you going forward to keep my Mental baggage in check. My emotion is run over when listening to you. :)

[@stevenscott5836]

Beautiful message Dr.Leaf

[@CathySharp]

15:12 acceptance for who you are. The people who had hope felt value for who they are as a person. Identity.

[@olgadalekorey3822]

Thank you very much Dr. Leaf for all the good work that you do. You are making a big difference for a lot of people including myself. God bless you.

[@patriciavaldez2237]

Thank you for teaching me how to heal my brain.💜

[@nc4181]

Wow you are amazing, I just listened to you on the Mikayla Peterson podcast and so grateful I did ❤️

[@rstremcha]

I agree hope is incredibly important

[@CathySharp]

10:53 people who have hope have had a deep sense of community. You flourish because of deep meaningful connections with people.

[@dee0731]

This video is a Godsend, thank You Jesus for this video 🙌🏻☀️

[@CathySharp]

12:25 these people in difficult situations but who had hope were surrounded by families and friends who cared enough to notice, listen, and help them find solutions to the problems that they faced.

[@sharonkachel]

Thank you 🙏🏼 I appreciate you

[@ironclad452]

You speak of hope... that's the very thing I don't have. How can we in this world? This world is falling apart and i fear the coming next wave of evil to come down from the elites regarding this covid deception. (yes it's a real virus, but the panic and totalitarian mandates are evil). It's not going to end. Ever. This was their plan all along, and anyone who doesn't see that, sadly, is deluded. But that is giving me the most severe anxiety and hopelessness for our future.

[@CathySharp]

12:05 a sense of community builds hope. And hope builds health into the whole brain and the body. Because as you hope you are influencing every cell in your body. So as you hope you are building health into your brain and your body.

[@markslivka3806]

Awesome. Thanks for giving hope

[@Jesus_Resurrection_and_Life]

😮 This is Amazing! 🪴 So Helpful ! 🌸 Thankyou so much for sharing this and for not believing the status quo about new learning brain pathways! 🌱 🌿 🪴 🌳 I’m so grateful for people who don’t write people off as a hopeless case 😞 Looking forward to getting the book, and working on the 63 day journey. I’ve promised myself to gift it myself 🤲🏼

[@christinebrimson7732]

Thank you very helpful as I am married to a 69 yr old man with asperges/ narcissists. As a Christian I have done my best to stay, in the marriage. And has been hard to find Christian books that talk about asperges/ narcissism

[@Dianne-soldierofChrist]

Thank you Dr Caroline Leaf. ❤️

[@dee0731]

Great information thank you Dr. Leaf 🙌🏻☀️

[@tracymorgan9662]

amazing video. Im so thankful for Dr. Leaf and her Podcast. God bless you Caroline

[@Noban2u]

It is amazing how your South African accent remains over all these years. Thanks for these podcasts Dr. Leaf. South Africa will grow and develop within time- hope just needs to be cultivated in people's minds again.

[@lisaduggar971]

Thank you Caroline

[@lucindawilson5510]

thank you

[@kathleenphillips4893]

Thank you so much for your podcasts it is changing my thinking hope is so important.

[@nurtured-channel2953]

This message is so timely 👌🌺🌸🌺 Thank you

[@rcz2023]

Thank you

[@zamacele6646]

Thanks Dr Leaf this message came at a point when I really needed it🙌🙌❤❤God bless you and your team🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@WHR0306]

This episode was so encouraging

[@melindapotgieter8993]

I absolutely HATE religion and the spiritual bullshit of religion especially christian churches that had me nearly crazy but thank goodness for you. Your work makes the bible practical.

[@CathySharp]

15:24 People who feel a lack of Hope, the core of it is always their identity.

[@nancycordero-severance7661]

Dr. LEAF. Thank you!🧡 Any suggestions as to what format to follow if one wanted to start a mind management support group? Required book reading would be 'Cleaning up your mental mess'

[@karenduey9675]

So helpful. Side note... someone works out! Nice muscles... 😊

[@jafaralijaffery636]

I'm under trauma I'm having issues emptying my bladder and plus I'm having pain in the left testicular

[@siobhanmcgregor2557]

I need hope atm I feel completely stuck and yes suicidal recently. Never had community just had my life hijacked by a narcissistic

[@chris1638]

Amen

[@user-jz7sj2cg1s]

Which book would e good for me in a new business?

[@LG-KETO]

Dr. Leaf: are you familiar with the work of Dr. John Sarno: “Healing Back Pain - the mind-body connection” ?

[@winniecash1654]

I have an honest question, which is, why hope when hopes are dashed? Isn't it better to be cautiously optimistic and lower expectations so that I'm not crushed, yet again?

[@jafaralijaffery636]

hey!hi there

[@robertlionshield9016]

I like your advice in this video, how does one get the true help from family and friends & church when everything revolves around the use of MONEY !!! It Order to get ones need met. Do you know why people indulge in " Pleasurable Sin" , it's simple ! They have a unmet need in their life.

[@jafaralijaffery636]

how r u Dr Caroline

[@leeyost9917]

Detoxing traumas

[@hannavanderberg1673]

If we are wired for love only, then why is there a lake of fire for the wicked. And the wrath of God. And why do i pray like David for my enemies and the wicked to be destroyed.

[@JermaineThomas4050]

🙌👑🙌

[@janameznar4691]

What should we do if we live in abusing marriage and have nowhere else to go

[@hansandrebecca]

Try and find a group that can support you. A group for women in abusive relationships. Call them! And eventually get out as soon as you can- safely🙏❤️

[@rainygorges3403]

😍

[@brmm48]

I could maybe Google this but I have a neurological issue where I shouldn't look at the screen too long even with my special glasses but if anyone could tell me how covid brain operates what that really is it was my understanding it was an actual physical damage but is she saying it's a psychological trauma damage that causes brain fog?

[@maryfarag1665]

Your language is so hard for me DR 😊

[@maryfarag1665]

I understand your language but it’s Australia?!

[@toriwright8306]

South African I think

[@rubentavares9416]

South African

[@melissabrown8691]

@mentalhealness

[@janedoe2596]

I have followed you since the beginning. You're truly an inspiration. Due to the censorship and demonic actions of KZbin I am deciding to leave. You're losing a subscriber to no fault of your own but I had to voice this. I hope one day you and other honest truly good KZbinrs will leave this evil platform too. I'm hoping to one day to see you on Brighteon a free platform that isn't ran by genocidal communists. Please don't fall in their trap. This is where they want you. God Bless.

[@CathySharp]

12:50 are you actually noticing that someone is hurting around you? Are you actually stopping see why or ask? I see you're hurting I see you're struggling let me work with you to help find solutions.

[@bobbyconway1965]

You lost me when you mention white privilege. 😡

[@tulettebitner221]

Thank you