Positive Attitude - The 3 Pillars To Cultivating Positivity

[@astrid1870]

I'm going through a tough time in life and your videos have helped me a lot, keep up the good work Leo. I always learn something new and interesting in your videos

[@prasanthk1728]

Are Yоu Оn The Рath То Ultimaаaаtе Lifeeее Sucсеss? twitter.com/6a36303a801d1fc62/status/804630629388152832 Positivе АAAttitudе Thе 3 PРРillаrs То Cultivating Pоsitivitу

[@ActualizedOrg]

If you liked this video, I highly recommend watching my related videos: 1) Positive Thinking - The Key To Thinking Positive 2) Optimism - How To Become Optimisitic Right Now 3) What Is Happiness? - An Extremely Advanced Definition Of Happiness 4) How To Feel Happy - Scientifically Proven Ways of Creating Lasting Happiness

[@user-ho5dl2ge7g]

Positive thinking is 3 acceptence: accept present moment as it is accept worry is not helpful at all accept cheerfulness is the best life strategy

[@ravyfernandes170]

ur appreciated

[@josie3221]

This is EXACTLY how I overcame depression. I still worry and get down, but I know it would just be better to be happy, so I fake it until it's real.

[@andzzcage4253]

key word "accept"

[@farishameed8747]

Best Sentence is "Heads i win , Tails i win" .I really appreciate of making these types of videos.Keep it up .Excellent

[@gdcddr]

Thanks Leo,Im a burn survivour and not a victim it's all about the mindset.Having to lie in ICU for 6 months gives one time to process all the points you have made. Just a pity some of us have to have a seveer event that improves and upgrades our thinking to become a positive survivor

[@ActualizedOrg]

That's inspiring man! Unfortunately shit happens sometimes. Keep up the good work.

[@ronfoulkes7523]

This video should have at least 10 million views. Such great advice!! Thanks Leo!!

[@buffybrown7752]

Probably the best video I have ever watched...and I have watched millions. Thanks so much for sharing your personal depth and knowledge!!!

[@Emile-philia]

In positive thinking, I love the expression "iron into gold" - when a painful scenario presents itself to me, I take the position of a student of life. I then do my best to regard it as a lesson about my own emotional reactions and I also look at it like an opportunity to cultivate mastery of the situation. I'm grateful for my challenges.

[@ActualizedOrg]

Very good!

[@tamaracretu9346]

Recently I have actually been cheerful when my dog died and he was family thanks to a video similar to this from you watched by me one or two years ago and you taught me that no matter what I should stay positive. Thanks you

[@anthonyhurtado7358]

true positive thinking, acceptance, and working on being cheerful is so much better than being in the Ego and pessimistic. Worrying does not work, it is useless. Thank you Leo for sharing this info.

[@kathybriseno9152]

The ironic thing is that I actually felt major anxiety just contemplating the idea of not worrying. What a crutch worry has become that I fear not fearing. Something to work on and meditate on for sure.

[@kimsnyder92]

He is absolutely correct in the way he approaches this one... We need to let go of expectations. I can say that because that is how I am able to stay so happy and positive all the time. I am enjoying the everyday, the mundane, the ordinary and making it all extraordinary in the process.

[@OverflowURS]

So true. Thanks, Leo. Nobel prizes are given to people like you, that change the world for the better.

[@alb673]

This way of thinking can take months, even years to develop in the mind. They should start to teach this stuff to children in schools, instead then religious lessons

[@pintsizedlife]

I've just started watching your videos this week when I was searching for affirmation videos, and now I'm hooked! This information is so powerful, thank you so much for sharing this with the world, we need more of this! Personally, I lost touch with this practise and am willing to put the work into creating a happy universe for myself and those around me. I will be watching all your videos. I have started with listening to one every morning while doing my morning routines.

[@ActualizedOrg]

Awesome! That's what I like to hear :)

[@FavBlaDe]

I am trying to improve myself as positive thinker. I have been doing it around 2 weeks now, it really works. I accept things as it is, I am trying to stop imagining, classifying, comparing, overthinking, trying to impress and please others and it really works, I am much more confident and I really like it. It is quite a challenge and I felt it, it will take months get this ability. Now, when you said still be cheerful when somebody dies in your family, at my subconscious level a little war started. Should I be %100 cheerful when somebody dies very close to me ? or Should I just cry and accept it is a loss but do not overthink or worry about ? Curious about your way of thinking about this ? Thanks

[@ronwilliams1656]

Well Leo... I experienced this the day before yesterday .My phone was compromised. I told myself in a positive way that it was nothing could'nt be fixed and went with that positive thought , and not to my surprise , everything turned out just hunky-dory . I got help fixing the phone and all is well. You are right!!! My stress level was next to zero and I was able to give answers to questions about the phone in detail. To all who watch this video... practice what Leo says... I didn't see this video until 48 hours after The Happening... but I positively will back him up on it and practice this more. Thank you Leo !!!!!!!!!! × 10

[@isabellerezazadeh1185]

I've been putting this into so much practice lately. Especially the realization that worry is useless.

[@kennynguyen7003]

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[@trcs3079]

@@kennynguyen7003 shut up

[@edmenting8271]

these videos are really helping me to get through a lot and know myself better. Thank you!

[@donkallenbach7282]

Completely true, the times in my life I've truly allowed myself to let go and just let it be, have no pretence that I can control the outcome, have no investment in the outcome of anything... this is true enlightenment, it removes all fears and allows you to be completely alive. It can be forced if you build up to it with a strong mind, but practise is needed for remembering to be mindful about letting go.

[@newns8910]

you are great Leo, very down to earth, simple and easy to understand. What motivated you to come up with these videos?

[@running4fun863]

I watch your videos to help me. Thanks for making it available for free. I cried after .

[@emfag100]

Hi Leo, I love your videos as there is so much balanced wisdom in them! I think the above is great...cultivating positivity. I am from Ireland and we have slightly different attitudes to Americans. Now I try to think positively all the time, I am quite an optimistic person. People here worry all the time and I think that I come across as being a little naïve at times. I know that I am not however. People here just worry and there's no need for it but why do I feel silly for being lucky enough to not take on other peoples worry and stress. Really though I suppose I feel blank because I don't worry and at times I feel empty.... Please help!!!!!

[@sukd2669]

whoah, i am learning deeply into Sikhism and so find alot of videos on the internet as immature but your videos leo are advanced!

[@Cameo221]

This was absolutely my outlook on life before seeing this as well. Complete acceptance of bad things before they happen if it's inevitable or in the realm of happening. Picturing myself in a situation and how I would react to that well in advance. It really nullifies any negativity with such events. For example, people may disapprove of me for not being upset at the loss of a loved one, but reality is just what it is, and there's no reason to compel myself to actually be upset about it because it's inevitable and already set into reality.

[@ravyfernandes170]

Leo just wanted to let u know that u r extremely appreciated ur content changed my life! 1) But What if I find myself in a life or death situation, isn't worrying there useful? -as it will push me to take a certain action that may potentially save my life. 2) also, are you implying that worrying is The Reason why we procrastinate, experience resistance and don't take action? -Feels like worry pushes people to take action. otherwise why even take action at all? And I know that everything is awareness and I hope to have an advance direct experience of it one day. however, I also understand that life is a gift and I am still attached to my egoic self. 3) Isn't it ok to want to live and experience life? 4) what's wrong with being attached to the egoic positive part of myself? - The ones driven by my heart. if there is such a thing?

[@Ladybug025]

Thank you for this! I definitely have work to do in order to be stronger in my positive thinking.

[@puffdaddy7291]

I've watched this video before but my grandmother just passed away now I'm watching it again. I've cried and have been very sad. But I agree. Do I live the rest of my life in sadness or do I carry on and really try to dig deep and be cheerful. I have to accept what's happens and there's no point being sad .

[@DayDreamerbyDhang]

I'm sorry for your loss. Leo's videos are great and I hope you can get help from them.

[@puffdaddy7291]

@@DayDreamerbyDhang thank you very much :)

[@satansynn6863]

Leo you are truely and amazing person your disire to help will change the world for the better, I wish I could write to you

[@inconnue8358]

This is not cringe at all ♡ Thanks for keeping the old videos on your chanel Leo !

[@running4fun863]

Dear Leo, I hope you see this text from me. I sat in a meeting yesterday for 1:30 hour , just being criticised about my work, behaviours, the way I speak, just about everything . I sat thought it only because I stayed positive and gave up on worrying about what was going to happen. Yes I need this job at the moment. All because I stood up to my manager as her behaviour was very demoralizing and patronising. Yes it did not go down well and since than she has taken every opportunity to make me feel bad. Yes, I have made mistakes at work and this has not helped me.

[@montgomery1231000]

How do you know it hasn't helped you. It could be a blessing in disguise. It could be happening because a better opportunity awaits and you cannot have them both. Maybe it is ordained, Providence. Your saying thinking positive hasn't helped you and yet you gave up on it. It could turn out better than you could ever imagine.

[@Hanselito]

Thanks Leo for these great and inspiring videos!!

[@pranavjotani8658]

Leo, ur doing good job. Helps a lot to improve my life

[@rogermarx7158]

This is brilliant, great stern talk with no bullshit tips and advice. Subscribing now. Thank you Actualized.org

[@juliebega7611]

I get what you're saying about having an unshakeable centredness in positive thinking, I would like to challenge you on the idea that the usual process of grieving indicates there's much growth to take place. Emotions are what makes us human, our ego is what makes us human. When a person dies, there is no way one cannot feel heartache,(this is not a negative emotion for me, but part of an experience of losing someone forever in this life). I know I could have a cheerful centerdness but still experience that profound emotion, and by getting through that pain I would grow. The Tibetan monks devote their lives to living behind the walls of a monestary, they let go of ego, they don't experience life as we do, they're one purpose is to reach a Nirvana state, to do this they don't engage with the systems of the world, they don't experience anything that's sensual, no indulging in the flavours of food, the physical rewards of sex, they don't have a job, they are not exposed to the stresses of life. they live in a Zen state flatline! and avoid anything that is of ego. They have to do this in order to reach that state of Nirvana. As long as we are in the world as we know it, experiencing all the beautiful challenges and great moments there's going to be a rollercoaster of emotions, full detachment of these emotions just aint possible! Perhaps another way to explain this concept would be, if in one's daily living where there is nothing happening "out of the ordinary" and one finds themselves crying that's an indication that there's some major work that needs to be done. If nothing has changed in that person's life but they are able to be cheerful in every moment - that would be a true indication of great work being done. Am I clear? would love you feedback thanks Leo

[@ActualizedOrg]

Your understanding of enlightened people is flawed. I have been mentored by an enlightened person. He used to be lawyer. Now he's retired. He still lives an active life. He has business duties, he's not against sex. A Zen monk is capable of interacting with the world in all it's fullness. They are not running away from indulgence. You can have sex and eat whatever you want and still be enlightened. Just because monks don't do it doesn't mean you can't. Monks just observer certain cultural etiquette. If a Zen monk did engage in sex, it would be a much more amazing experience for him because he is able to be fully present throughout.

[@juliebega7611]

Oh cool thanks so much for replying, I do believe we can all be enlightened and be in the world. Reaching a state of nirvana is something very different, that can only be achieved when there is no ego, being in a state of nirvana frees one from all worldly bonds. There's a very big difference between the two concepts. So yes association with "Those tibetans" immediately got me thinking Nirvana. Enlightenment sure we're all working towards that, it's not just something that happens for the few in foriegn countries, and that makes a lot more sense now we're on the same page lol.

[@ActualizedOrg]

***** No. Enlightenment is Nirvana. There's no difference. You're not really free of worldly bonds, you are just free of yourself and this allows you to be in the world more fully. Enlightened people aren't who you think they are. You're going by stereotypes, myths, and caricatures.

[@juliebega7611]

Leo, we should just agree to disagree on this subject. I really do go by the proper term of what the state of Nirvana is, it's not an opinion(look it up in an encyclopaedia of eastern philsophy that'll help you get some clarity) one of the comments someone posted did the steroetyping not myself, as I believe we are all on the path to becoming enlightened, please read my comment again.. " those Tibetans" was an exert from a comment from someone else. I hope to never be that short sighted that I would go by steroetypes, myths, and caricatures. I really make it my life's work to get to the real stuff and ask questions, so having someone say such a thing couldn't be further from the truth, but all good, can't think you can know someone after a cpl comments. Yeah so I'll be loving your personal development material, but after 10 years studying the different philosophies I'll stick to the facts in that area. X

[@ActualizedOrg]

***** Well, go study some more, cause you are factually wrong.

[@supermanswife29-11]

I struggle everyday staying positive because I'm dealing with chronic hives (a painful autoimmune problem) and unable to work. But I'm still working on me and my health :-) Thanks Ryan

[@MegaTaylorSFan]

This is really eye opening. Thanks for this positive attitude series. It is helping me to accept where I am in life with a positive outlook on what I can do from here.

[@loriarthur2484]

Love it! Acceptance in all situations is key ❤️❤️❤️

[@hersheyscham5556]

Thank you for this video Leo.. this helps me a lot. You are right, worry is useless.. worry is on a negative side.

[@kirsteng321]

Love it ! Subscibed and really excited to watch more. It's hard for me to find psychology videos that dig to the root of actual causes. Thank you for what you are doing for viewers!

[@ActualizedOrg]

Then you have come to the right place. Just make sure you keep an extremely open mind, because the truths you seek are not always pleasant.

[@accavanos]

its working. i need to listen to all your videos. keep up the good work. thanks

[@paulbrazil1738]

Love your videos Leo and I follow you and have watched many. I wanted to say something about remaining cheerful even if when someone we love dies ... I think when someone like that dies it does affect us and we (each one differently) has to go to a mourning process and deal with their feelings but I agree, keep in mind that it will pass and you will go back to living your life and having a positive attitude and be happy again and not stuck on the sadness or mourning period for too long. Just though I would comment on that.

[@muhammadalimoriyani9872]

Really enjoyed this video ! Thank you so much for such a great work !

[@MikeJackson690]

Your videos help me sleep. Without them I am stuck with my depressive thoughts that go in circles. Thank you.

[@supermanswife29-11]

Love your positive, very knowledgeable videos!

[@agleeson8695]

Leo you are a great mentor

[@kentvinson6862]

Very good strategy. Than you for sharing your journey and wisdom. Priceless

[@sambrownell7024]

You are bang on with everything I'm thinking, you articulate it so well. Something I'm working on!! I hope we cross paths. Thank you :)

[@BlackCatBCB]

Thank you so much for making these videos. They are a great help for me. You're video are making a difference in my life. Thank you.

[@ActualizedOrg]

Thanks, Black Cat. Good to hear :)

[@rosemaryg2236]

Awesome video Leo! This topic is exactly along the alley I am looking for in my self-development. Thank you for talking about it and making so much sense out of it.

[@gjuldzemalmilenko70]

Excellent! Most worthy principles are difficult to comply to.

[@CarolynEllisQtEllis]

Leo this was invaluable. Thank you ❤ 19:19

[@lunaperez2626]

Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us

[@tamaracretu9346]

Pollyanna made me think that way. Thank you Leo, again, for the inspiring message

[@jesur8888]

Man I love you stuff, thank you for serving 🙏

[@janjensen8832]

These pillars make very much sense and should be mental habits of everyone, but I think why most people fail is because unconsciousness fades in quickly after listening to this and we retrace to the old negative mental habits, this is why we should make the effort to practice these ideas until they replace the old.

[@ianmcbride8585]

Thank you Leo!

[@jackietaylor3188]

Hey Leo Loved it I like that ypu are intellectual and a chill guy at the same time.

[@sunsunbubbles5272]

Thank you for your videos!

[@coreycheng9926]

very eye opening. thank you

[@epoyworld]

Is there any other exercises to be positive everyday, like affirmation or visualization,?

[@ActualizedOrg]

Nothing beats meditation for that.

[@gerrylee4907]

good video leo, you refer to it being a must to believe the present moment is inevitable, could the word "inevitable" be exchanged for the words "meant to be"

[@amalmat007]

wow..Kudos to Leo!! These are words of wisdom..

[@marymazzei1863]

Leo, yes d3ont drown in the emotions, after someone dies. But there is a necessity to feel your feelings, cry, be sad and then move on. We are human beings NOT robots.

[@ethanyj86]

Thank you brother! This is awesome and so sure it will help many! i sure benefited!

[@dancerSPHiNX]

Hi Leo Great video! I've been really focusing lately on how many times I have a negative thought throughout the day and it's really sobering. What's really crazy is noticing how often the people around me are just plain negative. I find it kinda hard to even listen to them. Can u relate Leo? Later man

[@sukhtatla]

July 2020...great content, thanks!

[@adrianaforex]

AMAZING VIDEO LEO , thank you ❤

[@anilreddy7191]

Awesome...Greatly explained leo.

[@charlotterose1557]

i prefer watching your channel a million times more than netflix

[@revolution5101]

Hey man, I was subscriber number 35 and now it's up to 7000! Well done. Your vibe will catch on if others are keen for this type of support as I am. If you ever choose to visit Australia Let me know and I'll be glad to show you around. Cheers

[@ActualizedOrg]

Hey, Revo! Yeah, I remember you. Thanks mate :) It's been my dream to visit Australia since I was a kid. I will def go one day and do the outback.

[@kylebarnett9234]

Hey leo if i work very hard at this topic can it improve my social skills tremendously?

[@ActualizedOrg]

Social skills are not directly related to positive attitude, so if you want that, you should focus on socializing.

[@andreidunca3557]

Nice job,Leo!

[@divinedefiance7069]

Always flawless. Genius level!

[@pixystix0629]

Do you have a meditation you perform posted I've been meditating for years and years but I'd like to try your method change it up a bit you know

[@rocco2181]

Its much easier to cultivate more positive mind by being generous and helping those in needs, and ofcourse inner work.

[@morganlilly4795]

Leo I need your help. All my life I've been a worrier. Worried about this thing or that thing, this person or that person, this ache, this pain. When I was little my mom sheltered me a lot and every time I had the tiniest ache or pain she kept me home from school, put me on medicine, all of that. So I kind of understand why I am how I am now, but I don't want to be this way anymore. I want to be positive and I feel like I am, but worry has been with me for so long that I literally can't imagine being free of it. But it's taking over my whole life. How do I get myself to understand wholly & completely that worry is useless when I've been doing it for so long?

[@maxinesophia864]

I got cheerfulness covered!

[@meinungabundance7696]

Every good psychologist will tell you that after the death of the people you loved, there is a "mourning period" - a time to mourn. Some people mourn one months, some a year or two. This is individually different. This period should not be interrupted by only pragmatic reflexions like "what does it bring me?".

[@rammoudgalya5745]

Literally helped a lot leo

[@brechtethereal2159]

One question about the logic, when you say that cheerfulness is the best response to a situation where someone dies. How do you align that with the need for a human being to process loss. Crying and talking about a loss is something that most humans need to recover from such an event and process/externalize the emotions. I think everyone has felt the benefit of catharsis. How can you ever do that while you remain cheerful?

[@MacAlanBrown]

I love this, best video and excellent inspiration, thank you so much for Your channel bro!!!

[@ZandoFox]

Hey, Leo! (lol) The second pillar, or letting go of worry. I have a question about that. I define worry as "fear" or "anxiety." Is it really possible for any human not to be afraid or anxious about *anything?* I understand that fear is often maladaptive in day-to-day life. But here's a situation where some anxiety might be useful. If you are walking along a cliff, isn't it useful to have some worry/fear/anxiety about falling? If you have no fear at all, you will get closer and closer to the edge. But this worry would cause you to take a useful action -- that is, staying away from the edge. We obviously evolved worry/anxiety because of its usefulness when things were more dangerous for humans. But even now, it has its uses. In other words, if there is a good chance that something will go wrong, it's better to let the worry motivate you to prevent the bad thing from happening, than simply ignoring the worry and allowing it to happen.

[@ActualizedOrg]

Interestingly enough, no. With the cliff example, just because you don't feel anxiety or fear doesn't mean you will jump off a cliff. You'd have to be stupid and/or suicidal to do that. Are some fears natural? Sure. And you will not get rid of all fears. That is not the goal. The goal is to stop being a slave to your fears and to take the suffering compontent out of the fear. Most modern-day fears are groundless and neurotically driven. Real fear -- like when you are being chased by a hungry lion -- is rare and not really a problem because it naturally disapates quickly.

[@ZandoFox]

+Actualized.org That's quite interesting. Thanks for the reply, your videos are great.

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[@jadenkai5948]

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[@milosmarinkovic05]

Can I use affirmations to drill those pillars in my subconscious? Please answer!

[@mohaimankhan]

awesome vedio...that means we dont need to worry

[@DonovanRobinson420]

Don't worry, be Happy!!!

[@ActualizedOrg]

Indeed. The trick is actually doing it! Wouldn't it be cool to actually live happy all the time?

[@noshamey1495]

I wanna know how to master muscle memory. As I can always choose to uplift myself and intern that uplifts most others. It's a choice. Not what happens to you but how you redirect that inward or outwardly. Hurt people hurt people. Muscle memory is different. I've forgiven and forgotten but my subconscious knows. If I could breath I'd just nonchalantly breathe work it out. Conscious would. It's instinctually triggered by something I don't always know what. All I know is that it will pass. I'm not embarrassed or avoid. I don't give in to muscle memory it still consumes me and its not hypervigilant. I'm not anticipating it . It just comes upon me without warning. Could you actualize this happening?

[@jopiorsolic8233]

Great video,thanks.

[@emilykaulitz1989]

Thanks for sharing!

[@jonnyhalo1041]

I have signed up but can't find my news letter...

[@panandscan4941]

I agree that radical positivity is an excellent way to go about life, though I will say that I personally believe the ‘cheerful through mourning, what does sadness do for you?’ statement doesn’t ring true for me. I think grief is valid and emotions need to be processed, even stoics shed tears. It’s all about reinforcing the positivity through those tough times.

[@franke1243]

I love you Leo!!!

[@rubyt5119]

Leo is the BEST

[@uneune5123]

Awesome video!

[@majidakbari2690]

Hello! leo I have a question Do you know any books about hardships in life?

[@ActualizedOrg]

See my book list, especially the Emotional Mastery category has some good ones for that.

[@sraddas]

How to differentiate between acceptance for the present moment and never giving up for what we want Leo? For example if i didn't like something i have to change it not to accept it as it is right? Thank you :))

[@ActualizedOrg]

That requires wise judgment on a case by case basis. Not always should you change it.

[@jennifersinghcorral319]

Love, love, love this!!!!!

[@livondiramerian6999]

Any situation has many aspects so we better focus on the positive side.

[@Hasta-pasta]

Does anybody have any practical tips for cultivating this mindset?

[@summerisonthursday5239]

Exercise, get outdoors, avoid alcohol and other addictions, continue or set goals.

[@changinghandsmovers]

Great video.