Powerful Ways to Succeed When Aging Alone

[@FreeSpirit47]

I'm not an elder, definitely an orphan. I work from home, online, 60 - 80 hours per week. I made the decision to remain single & celibate in 2012. It became no longer worth it to date. Frustrating, too many manbabies. My life became happier, easier almost overnight. I allowed myself to adjust to being alone 90% of the time. Hearing from my female friends who are single, getting their hearts broken or just the general frustrations with men. Then there are my female married friends who tell me of the things their husbands do that irritate the bejezus out of them. So happy to be single, living alone. It works for me. Life is good!

[@bashahbakar4154]

yap agree with brenda..m a divorcee married for 22 years n at last divorce ..n m going through miserable life bfore..m happy with my life now.. m free like a bird..theres no infedelity..no heart sick..n enjoying my everyday life alone.. by doing exercise..gardening..n etc..m 60 years old..its not good by this age to have all those heartbreak with the creature called men..(´⊙ω⊙`)(´⊙ω⊙`)(´⊙ω⊙`)

[@opelyndene5229]

I Overstand what you guys are saying. But I do get lonely a times. Case the human side take over a times. I am use to having male around me. I am just a lover.

[@kathyharmon2093]

I am also single I will be 64 next month I also choose to no longer date I am too old to put up any longer with men who are controlling , cheaters etc I have coworkers and acquaintances who are married or in relationships that are horrendous … just so they won’t be alone…I’m done with sticking in a relationship just to not be alone I still have my career, my church and 2 sons at least I have peace in my home😊

[@MarilynJacobs]

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[@carolweaver3269]

It depends on the age. The older one gets the harder it gets to be alone and handle things. Our bodies and minds do change * our finances change and the prices of life can rise heavily* over the years. We never know when we wake up what state we will find ourselves.

[@annettep.1605]

I'm an elder orphan. I'd treasure a friend who's kind & honest. 🙂🌻🐦🍄🌸🌺

[@tumwesigyemoses-tu8wk]

Are you serious

[@doyoulovehimloretta1607]

I'm 63 and have been alone almost 30 years now. It gets harder honestly. All the things that are needed to be done never gets easier.

[@carolweaver3269]

So true Patty. This sounds like a group that could be helpful for support anyway?

[@Isadorka1]

As you, I've been alone for40 years and enjoying every minute of it. As I age I could not see it anyother way. We develop our own way and nobody bothers you or gets in your way or you in anyone's way. I'm having a difficult time walking and adopted 8 cats and a dog - so I need to be extra careful as they can trip me up otherwise. They are honest company - my furry family is all I need. My children.......Oh, well.

[@DKH1004]

I’m 63 as well and most days living alone is great. Lately, I’m feeling intensely lonely. I’m learning a new phase of life that requires a different set of emotional skill. Cheers to all of us.

[@FreeSpirit47]

It's all about attitude. I have known many people who live on their own, without help, not in a care home or a need for assistance. When people fight the adjustment to living alone is becomes difficult for them. It's a choice.

[@teresaj.5550]

I think there are alot of women around that have no social network. There is no one they can call. You certainly wouldn't of thought life would be that way... ❤️ ❤️

[@hippiechicksmomma2727]

YES LIFE IS THHAT WAY

[@hippiechicksmomma2727]

When I got sick my kids just turned awaym than I moved to WV and don't know anyone it's horrible

[@51colibri]

@@hippiechicksmomma2727 I’m sorry, same happened to me when I got sick, n I walk away when was posible for me to do it.

[@vickiladu6755]

My daughter or son would NEVER TURN ME AWAY, no way. Especially my daughter. She works for a non profit housing the homeless, she has a very big heart!

[@FreeSpirit47]

I live alone, in a small town. I only know 1 or 2 people, no support system. My children are out there in the world. My youngest daughter calls me every Sunday. I have 4 children. I rarely, if ever hear from the others. No Christmas card or phone call, nothing on Mothers Day. I have learned to treat the days I used to celebrate as a day when the gym is empty all day, ha ha! I could be sad about it or I can do things differently. I choose to take care of myself, being happy.

[@JanetEsq]

I'll be happy as long as I'm not homeless.

[@girlfriday1299]

That's my biggest concern. Blessings to you!

[@tamararutland-mills9530]

Praying for both of you 🙏

[@girlfriday1299]

@@tamararutland-mills9530 Thank you. 💖

[@tamararutland-mills9530]

@@girlfriday1299 …May God in his goodness grant that you will never, ever be homeless and watch over you in love! May you have good food, clean clothes and kindly company. Be well~

[@girlfriday1299]

@@tamararutland-mills9530 Thanks so much. Wishing the best for you, too. Blessings! 🌺🌹💗

[@judilutz-woods3825]

I am 70, just lost my husband 4 months ago, this is the Very first time I have ever lived alone. So far I miss my husband but love living alone...

[@sixtyandme]

Thanks for sharing!! Take care please x

[@lynndavid1066]

May G-D's Spirit comfort you and anoint you with His Love. Calmness and peace in being alone. ♥️🇺🇸

[@maryharrington3404]

4 months ago! My own situation. I have never been alone before either. I miss my husband so much. My kids want to help out and move me near or with them. Not ready to change yet. Tonight I meet the other widows; maybe that will help.

[@judilutz-woods3825]

@@maryharrington3404 you will make it..unspeakable pain, but we learn to live with it hugs to you

[@willgaukler8979]

... remember so many never make it as far as you have ... learn to stay indent one day at a time .. after a while you'll be able to do it all ... if you have your health you have it all ...

[@nancyschaefer9748]

I am a 72 year old woman whose husband of 33 years just died. I live in a community near many widows, attend a church that is a great help. Right now my home is the right size for me to manage and it is paid for. Thanks for this video.

[@sjordan7085]

As an introvert I find myself perfectly happy without women friends, Senior Centers seem like 'take off lounges'. I often meet fellow dog walkers at various parks or thrift stores: other than that I am more than occupied with projects and hobbies. I always feel energized after spending quality time with my little grand-daughter and pets. Enjoying nature is a bit part of my life. Feeling lonely is never an issue, who has time to be lonely when surrounded by beauty?

[@denisesevera9490]

What is a "take off lounge"? I'm not interested in dating or singles clubs however I have considered senior centers just to be around people my own age but not if it's just a geriatric bar/ club scene

[@sjordan7085]

@@denisesevera9490 'A take -off lounge' at the airport, is where we go to wait for our flights. A 'take off lounge' at the Senior Center, is a euphemism for waiting to die, lol, because for the most part I find Senior Centers full of people participating in activities that are less than purposeful, such as Bingo or eating their nasty meals. They are like 'Activity Rooms' at Memory Care Homes. Albeit I used to enjoy a Writing Group until Covid happened. I stopped going even to a Sumi-e Art Class, because so many people, even those who have been vaccinated against Covid, are walking around with it, as well as 'flue and RSV. Because the pandemic is officially over many people are far more relaxed about it. For a while the Center failed to be transparent about the high number of Covid cases, because they did not want people to stop attending, which would impact the center's cash flow if membership decreased. Several people spoke up, and now masks are recommended again, a bit late in the day, when so many people have become ill.

[@patriciagss2024]

I fear aging alone...I'm 49. My only daughter passed away 12 years ago and I think I'm only surviving. Your videos help me. I'm from Brazil.

[@sjordan7085]

Wow, you are such a young person compared to some of us on this channel. I am sorry to learn you are alone now without your daughter. But, you are certainly young enough to meet a life partner or make new friends. I am in my seventies and alone, but have come to realize that in some ways, there are far worse things in life than being alone. For one, we can always do as we choose, and we do not have to cater to the demands of another person. For instance, I like to cook occasionally, but never because I am expected to, same goes for cleaning house, I don't want to feel as though I have to do it, because that is my job. I have a modest RV and intend to use it to explore local beauty spots, State Parks, etc, an inexpensive way to go on overnight trips, because it is a Toyota Mini Cruiser and takes no more petrol than a car, only 22ft long though, big enough for one person and a small dog. So we can have our adventures and make a few memories. I think it is important to having activities that bring us pleasure, especially as we get older. Something to keep us going.

[@christinemeyer7163]

if i knew what i knew now 40 years ago, my life would we quite different.BUT here I am now.Ive decided to live in the now and make the best of what I have now.I just pray to NOT become reliant on children or anybody

[@lindamcdermott5475]

Thank you Margaret, for these words. I am not a elder orphan, I do have children. One of the things I hear other seniors talk about is that their children either live away, or are busy working and raising their own families. It is easy to feel like an orphan, or perhaps neglected, when you are older, living alone. There are introvert personalities, like myself, who love solitude and have hobbies, take online classes, etc. and still maintain friendships. Then I have observed those who are extrovert personalities, who crave attention, complain about boredom, and are dependent on others to entertain them, either by long phone calls, overly long daily visits, etc. I live in a senior apartment complex on a beautiful campus, with bus transportation to the door to shopping areas, etc. yet so many do not take advantage of these opportunities, instead they complain about neglect and boredom. There are activities here as well. I wish there was a way to reach out to these people, they often do not have internet, nor do they want it. When I worked, I taught classes to computer-phobics. I would volunteer to do that again. I am happy in my solitude and don’t feel I want to give that up by adopting an “orphan”. I should feel guilty, but I will not allow myself. I do transport one woman to her appointments and errands, and spend some time with her, but I have had to create limitations. These are very real issues for some. As I write this, I feel like I should solve all these problems single handedly. But I can’t, I can’t adopt a second orphan, nor can I put them together….. they complain at each other then want to share all that with me….. tried it, didn’t work, won’t do it again. It’s very hard to extract yourself from that situation. I prefer to be friendly with everyone, complement them on something every time I see them in the hall….but not bring them home.

[@malindaallen718]

My relative in senior housing also has to set firm limits due to people who would gladly monopolize her time, and spread gossip and negativity.

[@lindamcdermott5475]

@@malindaallen718 that is one of the things I discovered when I moved here. I am amazed at the gossip and negativity. I guess I was too busy living my life to have noticed it before. One of my neighbors complained to me that her expectations when she moved here was an active social life, like what you might see on tv. I told her, my expectations were solitude and time to pursue my hobbies and read. I’m currently taking an online course, keeps my mind active.

[@sabinadonofrio8863]

Please, don't feel guilty. If you are so inclined, just pay a minute visit on your way out the door. This way these lonely people would at least see another person in their day. And you have no obligation to stay. As you are already heading out. It worked for me just investing that one or two minutes of my day. There is a difference between wanting attention and needing just a little. A young neighbor did that for me once when my children left the nest. It was a bright moment of my day. Once in a while she would visit But she knew how to keep boundaries, I was needier than I thought I was. Sometimes we just don't see ourselves as others do. But, that one moment at the door or on the phone was just what I "needed."

[@sandrachank6982]

​@@lindamcdermott5475I've lived in a senior community fir 16 years. When I first moved here I would go out and walk and sit and talk with others. That soon turned into gossip sessions about the neighborhood. I realized quickly how unhealthy that was...and now hang out in the garden by myself at my place. A neighbor complained about that recently when I walked down to my mailbox and zI answered her honestly. " I've decide that gossiping was not doing me any good". That was the end of the conversation. I seek socializing in an Art club I belong to and A weekly Bible study. I lunch with a dear friend I trust. That's enough....Im content.

[@marylandu.s.391]

I'm 74, and retired at 70, which was my goal. So glad I did. I signed up at several senior centers to line dance...contrary to popular belief it isn't all nursing home types who go there, or is even run like one, and boy can those people dance.. I eventually met a host of nice friends, we travel, meet for lunch, etc. I signed up with a breakfast meetup, and a travel group. I'm busy 5 or 6 out 7 days of the week. Or was til covid hit, but they are now starting back up in July, and we all can't wait to get our feet moving, attending the parties and get togethers at the centers. I've declined getting married on two occasions, and love my lifestyle. But......I am somewhat lazy about getting started with my will, etc. That's something that will have to be done. I live in a condo where two of my neighbor's husband's died last year of non-covid illness, so my building is pretty much of a sorority now! It can be fun, you just have to open your horizon's, there's a lot out there. Thanks Margaret, you did a great job in pointing things out.

[@denisesevera9490]

Now that's good to hear ( senior centers) I've been thinking about it but I'm getting mixed reviews

[@marylandu.s.391]

@@denisesevera9490 I find things are what you make of it. Sure there are grumpy old codgers, but there are also some nice people that you can meet. It’s like a domino effect, you meet one person which leads you to another, and before you know it, you’ve met a lot of people. They might not wind up as your best friends, but you’ll have people you know, places to see and things to do. Gosh, I sound like a commercial for Grayhound! All you can do is try it, remember if at first you don’t succeed…..! There’s a lot out there.

[@claudiaaguilar6845]

Margaret, you're doing a fabulous thing here - never stop :)

[@livingdoll3445]

Hi there thank you for this video will google carol it is sad but a reality so many out there so alone and in need of company etc. Even if you have a child but if that child pushes you away and won't help you does not care about you then you are just as alone as the rest who may not have had children or families. My daughter has pushed me away and won't let me contact her or my three grand children whom I have not seen in over 6-7yrs now and they are now in mid teens oldest turned 18 couple wks ago. I don't have their photos don't even know what they look like these days and they have had their mobiles changed she has blocked me from facebooks and she has moved so I do not know addresses it is very sad and heart breaking yet all my friends have children and good family members to take care of them. I can't even find a good friend anymore to talk to even some I have known over 60yrs thought they were my friends but see that they do not care and are self absorbed often they like to brag about seeing their families etc knowing it causes upset when they tell me they are so un sensitive non caring. So it really has upset me so much. It is a very lonely world out there at times you feel like you are on the outside looking in.

[@sallyclay1974]

I'm living alone, in Danbury, CT. Im, on Social Security, and my stock money, was gone in about 8 yrs. I do having a housing voucher. I live in a studio condo. My older sister is in Austin, TX.She works for the government. My brother is in Wash State. My daughter is in LA. My sister passed away, in an assisted living facility, The Residence, in Darien, CT.She had Lewy Body Dementia. The Pandemic seems to be winding down now. Hopefully, things will improve. It's difficult being alone all the time. U have to adjust to it. It isn't fun and games.

[@evelynhedman]

Sally how are you doing? My husband died with LBD and I’m soooo lonely, I can’t seem to adjust. I pray you’re doing well. May God bless you.❤️🙏🏼

[@sallyclay1974]

@@evelynhedman I'm so sorry! Lewy Bodys is terrible. We do get lonely, as we get older!

[@constellations9258]

my pets add so much to my life............my mother recently passed away, on hospice at the end, with the diagnosis of vascular dementia..........I took her out of the nursing home and cared for her at home, with help from hospice..............hospice was good, but these SNF's and AL places are outrageously expensive...........it's tough getting old and thinking about all the "what ifs"............I say, don't waste my precious time dwelling on it..............live life to the fullest possible........now............sending prayers

[@rachaelbromley3980]

My concern is dementia and having my savings stolen by a carer or the person who has power of attorney leaving me destitute and unable to finance my last years.

[@yellowrose7736]

Excellent information! I am newly divorced , 65, and no children.

[@barbaram5214]

Great topic. I’m completely alone, no kids, no siblings but I have a close group of friends. I joined the Elder Orphans Facebook group awhile ago and it is good but for me it got too big with too many comments. Lots of strong people there, however. One thing I’m doing now in my mid-60s is a big decluttering. I want to do it while I can and simplify my life.

[@mariefromutah]

I’m 70. I live alone. These questions are on my mind. I need to start building relationships I’m thinking about moving. I’m afraid to start over

[@tumwesigyemoses-tu8wk]

Are you serious girl

[@drew4021]

Things are getting a little easier as the population ages but people alone need to continue advocating for themselves to make even more rapid improvements. For example, we now have access to online shopping and delivery of grocery items in addition to other things but we as a group need to use these services more and let them know what we need -because we speak with our dollars. Another point is to plan ahead now if we can for the time when using certain services becomes a necessity. A person living alone may be able to cook for her or him self now but may want to look into meal kits delivered to your door in the future or making the proper housing or financial arrangements now while we can

[@sabinadonofrio8863]

Yes, but don't forget to go out for a walk or casual shopping just to not be so isolated. A fruit stand or a nearby safe park. Take a neighbor's dog for a short walk. A working dog parent would love that. Gardening is my passion. Starting things from seed is inspirational. Yes,we speak with our dollars, but bezos is extremely not earth 🌎 friendly. I'm insulted by the logo. I mean REALY?!!! A dildo? That's just too weird.

[@Cactusflower2000]

I am 59 years old, have no family, have 4 debilitating illnesses, do not have enough money to pay my bills or rent, I don't have a car and the covid has cause me to lose half my hair and had to cut it really short. If you don't have youth or beauty or money this world will leave you in a very bad place. I'm struggling at this very moment trying to stay out of the nursing home or assisted living. Doctors have already advised me that I need to go into assisted living. That means I have to give up everything I own except two suitcases full of what I can stuff in them and then pray that nobody steals my belongings where I'm going. What is worse than that since I've become disabled the men who have tried to transgress against my body and even in the hospital strikes fear in my very soul. God help me.

[@aureofernandes8241]

All comments say I'm alone. But we aren't alone. You'll never feel lonely if you realise that God is with you. I personally think that realising that God is with us makes a lot of difference to the life we lead. God actually helps us enormously inspiring us all the time, telling us what to do and how we should make our world a happy one. It is God who keeps us healthy, who helps us face problems and makes our life here on earth worth living. Of course we ought to cooperate with God keeping busy all the time, taking physical exercise, eating a balanced diet, sleeping sufficiently, taking care of our mental health, engaging in hobbies and pastimes, avoiding negative thoughts, making new friends, helping poor people etc. Being cheerful goes a long way to keep healthy and happy. Don't think of death even for a moment but plan each day to make each day a masterpiece.

[@areyoukidding1693]

I do not go to church regularly anymore. I found the people did not do what they preach. My church is sitting in my yard alone, early in morn, when only birds singing and the wind lightly blowing thru the near by maple. I feel more with God sitting here than in a church with screaming children and grumpy unfriendly old woman. It is here I find my peace! I also have two mourning doves who visit me yearly (maybe 15 years now) and I believe that they are my guardian angels. I have had to endure a lot because of some very evil relatives but I am still alive! So someone is looking after me.

[@aureofernandes8241]

@@areyoukidding1693 Don't think about your age. Be young in spirit. Keep in touch with the few friends you have. Sleep a lot maybe 12 hours. Exercise as much s you can. Don't think negatively. God will deal with those who hurt you. You can learn something new every day. May be a few words in a foreign language. Or a new recipe etc Talk to God. He's always there by your side. And smile. Laugh when you abscentmindedly make a mistake.

[@Sandra-bx6yy]

@@aureofernandes8241 Fantastic advice! I agree with you, whole heartedly! God is the ultimate answer,I believe... because even though we can take care of ourselves physically, emotionally and spiritually, join groups, connect with others and do everything possible to overcome our loneliness, often the deep feeling of emptiness remains...we are conflicted, because we are happy that our grown children are living successful, independent lives, but feel neglected and lost,at the same time, after years of pouring out love and energy into them! We enjoyed being of service, it gave us a strong sense of purpose, and now we are not needed.. it can come as a shock and take some adjustment. And often we don't want to "replace" our family with groups, etc.. We want them to reach out to us! But it seems like it could become an obsession.. counting the times they call, and turning everything into "what others are doing for me"... which never works, ultimately... because it's never enough! So to have a constant "friend" that you can confide all your worries in,a place of refuge, someone who cares about you like no other can... Yes, please, that's what I want! And that's who God is, and what He , and only He,does for all of us!😊

[@413smr]

@@Sandra-bx6yy God isn't the ultimate answer for everyone. You all have a self-congratulatory aura that's offputtijng. What works foro you won't necessarily be the solution for everyone.

[@Sandra-bx6yy]

@@413smr if you read my comment carefully, you'll notice I said "I BELIEVE". That is why I am extremely careful about the wording I use,as it seems to get people like yourself riled up. Perhaps YOUR 'E the one with the self righteous attitude. That's all have to say to you on the matter. Go and find someone else to annoy and leave this community alone. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@inacohen4448]

I am moving from Toronto to Florida. COVID has shown me how necessary it is to have a social support system and to live where people are open to expanding their non-family networks.

[@irefi64]

The church has been a literal Godsend for this lifelong spinster. I highly recommend it. Even if one does not believe (yet), it is an incredible support system. My relationship with Jesus gives the deepest meaning to life of all.

[@gardenroom65]

Thanks, I’m 62 and alone!

[@carolweaver3269]

I appreciate this . Am 71 yrs old as of Sept, my husband close to 74 yrs old July 3rd. We have a home but could not afford to keep a whole house up if anything went wrong, and family live four hours from us and some of the nice apartments are way too expensive. Very scary but try to not think of it. No daughter and it is harder as sons mean well but I was there for my dad and mom. But was a daughter and in the medical field. Now see I will be alone more as love my own area, and family did live here and we helped with the little ones and they grew up and our youngest son moved for a new and better job. They love here they are. We travel there once a year, but it is hard as we are not much on traveling. This is very needed and TY and carol as well!

[@richardgrant2948]

Hello Carol, how are you doing today; how’s everything going over there 👉 I hope it was a blessed day for you Carol?

[@freeyoga]

I am a morning person, who likes sleeping alone and living with people was always a challenge. But having a friend very important as well as interspersed with thoughts and interesting subjects as well as goals and interests. Meeting interesting people as l travel threw life is such a gift. Being married for 30 years just kept me smaller and smaller till nothing left to be. Alone? Well l get to explore the world and not ever have TV on again if l am there. Lol

[@patteegee9506]

Thanks for the reminder to set up the Trust, Power of Attorney and Advanced Directive!

[@GlendaHayward]

I live on my own and have not family close to me. My son in South Africa is not very worried about me. But my other son, who cares, lives in China. My son in China is in communication with me nearly everyday, I have transfered copies to him of my finance and I keep him updated all the time. Also written instructions on what must be done when I pass. Which I have given to a close friend who will instute my wishes until my son can come from China.

[@moraeller5416]

Being alone is not bad at all. You have solitude and the freedom to do as you please!!!

[@susanmarie2231]

I was married for 10 years in my youth. Divorced for 34 years. Have not dated in 10 years. My son lives a few miles away. I love living alone and recently downsized to a studio apartment. Thank you for this informative video because we should have our affairs in order. Here in the US, if we live to the age of 85, we have a 33% chance of having some form of dementia. An alarming but true statistic. Make lifestyle decisions now or they may be made for you.

[@richardgrant2948]

Hello Susan, how are you doing today; how’s everything going over there 👉 I hope your day went well & hope it was a blessed day for you Susan?

[@margaretbatten3930]

After 24 years of being married, I am now an orphan due to a long illness. I vow to stay single. I am getting things done. Very hard to make friends in a pandemic. Thanks for your insight.

[@malindaallen718]

I'm an"orphan elder". I have a sister but we live 600+ miles apart and it has been impossible for her to obtain low income housing near me. We have no parents, aunt's, uncle's, children, grandchildren, nieces, or nephews. For a variety of reasons, alienation being one, we have few friends. Even churches assume that everybody has family. People expect one person to bring the same amount to the potluck as a couple. The "seniors" group is all couples. In the womens' group, everybody shares photos and stories about their grandchildren. The singles' group is full of young people looking for mates. I am adjusted to being alone, but it is harder for my sister. Thanks for letting me know there are plenty more people in the the circumstances.

[@bashahbakar4154]

hai Melinda ur not alone me too staying alone for past od 18 years.. children having their own family..moving out...m happy to b alone..just plan everyday to full fill our time...malaysia.. bye

[@kathyharmon2093]

Yes we all have extenuating circumstances I still work full time(64 next month )yes I do fully understand that the world usually seems to be almost exclusively “ couples “ although I have come to “ fit in” at my church 😊

[@MaryWatson-p8b]

Hi Margaret! Apparently, no Patreon group on Monday, December 30. Oh well. It is still good to be able to interact with you and other commenters this way. I have been doing 10 minutes of yoga in the morning.

[@reneewaltman988]

Margaret you are so wonderful. Thank you for this topic. I have a husband and we have been together for 25 years. His family has never really accepted me. I never had children. My husband has 8 brothers and sisters. He has two adult children from a previous marriage. He also has grandchildren. We live in Ontario and his children and grandchildren live in Quebec. Since COVID, he has never met the grandchildren. I have never been accepted by my husband’s family. I actually feel quite alone. I manage okay because of my hobbies, interests, meditation and exercise. My friends are mostly gone, moved or passed away. I do have a couple of very close friends but I haven’t seen them since COVID. I do get quite worried sometimes. Thank you so much for Sixty and Me.💐

[@reneewaltman988]

@JoAnne Cromp Thank you. It is something to think about. I don’t know how well I would manage alone. I’m 68 and my husband is 65. I hope we still have a long time together. Still, I worry, because I am alone. Best wishes.

[@berniecolling3697]

I love your channel, very positive and uplifting! Always excellent advice.

[@opelyndene5229]

I am living in senior building. And everyone is just so selfish. It is hard. Blessed love.

[@malindaallen718]

I've heard that there is a lot of gossip and cliques in senior housing.

[@opelyndene5229]

For that reason hon. I just stick to myself. Case I really don't like problem. I am a peaceful woman.

[@cherylmitchell6611]

Thank you ever so much, Margaret. God bless you for helping us!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️✝️

[@jacoboliver1892]

Hello how are tou doing

[@charlenebrownlow4677]

PTL Margaret…thank you for sharing. This was interesting; thought provoking in a forward thinking way.

[@jeankelly368]

Margaret you are awesome. Thank you for encouraging all of us to remain social and network. Have a wonderful weekend.

[@kellykersten8828]

All these people on here who are afraid to be alone... Turn to God, start spending time in prayer, go to church.,

[@Christine-j7b]

yes He cares for orphans and widows very much xx

[@karenw11503]

Hi, I’m 62 in a couple days and recently found you. I’m definitely alone and have been for years. Thank you for this site.

[@chandrakowlessar5790]

great work Margaret. You create that awareness of what is possible

[@chandrakowlessar5790]

@@danielwetmore7019 Thanks for reaching out all is well in my neck of the woods in spite of a country wide lockdown. Hope all is well with your loved ones and keep safe.

[@chandrakowlessar5790]

@@markrichard1528 great thanks.Hope all is well with you at your end.

[@debconnelly1642]

Being an only child, the ‘Elder Orphans’ is an awesome concept. I do have children with families, sons almost ready to fly the coop. But the bottom line, I need to be the instigator of Swedish Death cleaning, any legal paperwork, and what to do with me when my mental faculties fail. Not wanting to get too into it, my finances need evaluated with a budget. Planning for my final chapter is my legacy. Thank you so much.

[@dianesmith5809]

Great advice. Thanks.

[@bluej6800]

I have all that taken care of, at least I don’t have that to worry with anymore. When the pandemic is under control I plan to find a way to volunteer and help children I know there are so many people that could use my help I just am not sure as to how to connect with them right now.

[@markpeter2950]

Hello Deb I'm Mark from Houston Texas how are you and your family doing with the pandemic issues?

[@debconnelly1642]

@Matt Hendrix I am a Minnesota, Transfer from NE Iowa. Little bit country, little bit rock and roll, a little bit gospel

[@jacoboliver1892]

Hi how are you doing

[@kimbattles2399]

Thank You, Margaret. I am a little afraid to get out and do things, it has nothing to do with the Virus. Am a little shy and can feel overwhelmed around to many people. Often time people don't understand that. I appreciate your video's. You are very encouraging.

[@sabinadonofrio8863]

Drive to a safe park and get out to walk. Mood changer. Then get a coffee. Smile

[@areyoukidding1693]

I am 68 and live alone. I love the independence however now as I am getting older, I find I need that extra support! Unfortunately for me I am being targeted by some very greedy family. It is not hard to do with everything now on computers. They hack in and try to control your life! If you complain to someone, then it is the crazy old lady! Seniors have to become aware the damage that can be caused and how important to guard your privacy on the computer!

[@alevan1]

I think all the woman living alone should get together with other in their area, and maybe move in together so they share a home and they are not alone.....things like that should be available for older orphans......

[@polnan1]

But so many don’t want to

[@sarabuschepflorent1532]

I definitely don't want to and I have no living relatives nearby me or even at a distance. I don't want a replay of Golden Girls in my life!

[@alevan1]

@@sarabuschepflorent1532 Well that's your prerogative.......that idea is for people who enjoy company and having someone there with them.....

[@bluej6800]

I think that would be great.

[@vickiladu6755]

If you don’t want a roommate at least get a dog. They love you unconditionally even though you can’t talk back n forth, you can talk to them, hug them, etc. very fulfilling!

[@susiehollams3218]

Love to see your smiling face. Such an important topic and thank you for all you do. This is your passion, helping others isn’t it. Take care. Regards Susie Perth Australia

[@FemmiGirlz]

I love that you are addressing this. I’m gay. I’m partnered for 11 years. I am turning 59 and she is 60 but I’m physically dependent on her since my legs no longer work. We are both female and both suffer with chronic pain and many ailments. Our conversation lately has been if downsizing to make it easier for the one left after the death of another. Once one of us dies the other will be completely alone. No family. No friends except online. We are getting our legal matters together. We don’t have much. I’m researching crematoriums as I don’t want that burden left on my significant other. I have already started the binder idea for my spouse to look through with step by step instructions and helpful contacts for her because as you know she will be distraught and unable to concentrate. Thank You for this very important video. We all need to hear this. ❤. Edited: I’ve saved the orphan group for my binder and the patrion group.

[@WendyT17]

Sixy and me i think you are right on about ageing and keeping active and thankyou i will keep watching wendy

[@judymanning2538]

Wow. We must be so careful 🍀

[@joancarucci8290]

I. Have been living alone for over 30 years.I have 3 children and 4 grandchildren. Yes they visit regularly and are good to me.but they live a hour and and a half away..plus they all work and have their own life..sadly my closest friends have passed on.I have no close friends now and its lonely especially since I don't drive.

[@jeanvasconcellos7775]

Lana and Michele, you are my kinda Gals!! I too, have lived alone and have had no time to be lonely. Yes travelling alone sucks for me too so I have been going to destinations where I'd meet up with family and/or friends and together we'll do fun stuff. It's hardly a bother to put aside the things that wouldn't bring me joy unless they are shared. I'd be uncomfortable eating out alone but I'd enjoy a good meal with myself at home.

[@roseyc.5846]

Margaret, I'm doing all I can to take care of myself. I would never want to be a burden to my kids..not that I'd expect them to be my caretakers, if I were in any incapacitated. COVID isn't the only thing we face. I have some things in order; however, I must follow your lead with the binder, etc., and finish it. You're so well organized! This is reality, and, we have no choice but to face it. As we age, we must get it together. Thank you so much, as always; your channel is an absolute blessing. Take good care, and stay well. Rosemarie 💖

[@meachelawalt9253]

Thank you. You ate helping so many people.

[@marianconde4507]

What a great idea! I’m 62 & still working, but thinking carefully about many of the topics you covered.

[@marymccormack2317]

Ah that was lovely advice and u are helping alot of people. God bless you. 🙏

[@bashahbakar4154]

Living alone we have to plan day by day..what are going to do next.. so that we can fullfill our time..exercise ia a must..

[@sojournerhouse]

You are an inspiration!

[@PeachesSkinCare]

Margaret 🧡 This was lovely and I think you helped so many men and women here. 🙌🏻🍑🧡Lisa

[@juligrlee556]

I'm pretty much abandoned by my family and isolated where I live. I get to talk to my oldest daughter once a month or once a week depending on her schedule. She's let me know that she is my daughter not someone to listen to my inner fears, loneliness etc. I've lived alone for 40 years now. I pay someone, if I can fine someone, to be with me if I have an out-patient procedure that requires anesthesia and does not allow me to drive home alone. My sister died a year ago. She had completely lost her mind and was cruel to me. Basically, I have no family with whom I can depend for any assistance. I wish there were legal ways to end my life when I can no longer take care of my day to day living. My hobbies are reading, cooking, gardening. I have a 10 year old neighbor boy who wants to make money cutting my grass. It is nice when he shows up because I often don't get to talk to anyone for days on end. When I think about my situation, I stay so busy I don't have time for any needy older people who just want to chat. I wish there were dependable services I could call for my care if I need help. Life can be fearful and lonely from my point of view.

[@VikiV2011]

Hi Juli, Im so happy you have found this KZbin channel. Perhaps this is the start of a brand new chapter of life. I get a lot of companionship from my favorite channels . One you might like is just ambient noise of a coffeeshop and nice music in the backgry. The scene is inside the ciffee shop and often it is raining outside. Its a super cozy feeling and its subtle. There are thousands out there. Some are a scene from inside a cabin and there is a roaring fireplace, and light music and you can see outside the windows and it might be snowing. They are all created scenes and quite clever. They keep me company as they often play for hours and hours on a loop. Do some searching on youtube :) I hope you have a great day :)

[@juligrlee556]

@@VikiV2011 Live in peace and hope. Thank you for your outreach.

[@roseyc.5846]

Juli Grlee I feel pretty alone, too. The suggestion from Viki (below) is a good one. I turn on those soothing KZbin channels for background ambience. Getting old ain't for sissies. Thank goodness for Margaret; she helps so much, especially when I feel lonely and like no one cares or understands. Stay blessed..we're all here together. Rosemarie 💖

[@juligrlee556]

@@roseyc.5846 For sure getting old isn't for the faint of heart. As we get into the true old age, we get weaker, we get more vulnerable to exploitation by family, friends and cyber criminals. As we get older, we have fewer places to turn for information that is more and more complex and often speaks in a language that I don't understand. My 50 year old daughter operates in a cyber world that is complex and relies on bought cyber security professionals. My dollar went from buying 3 loaves of bread when I was younger to buying a slice for the same dollar. Our government loans the large corporate criminals socialist bail outs that traps me in extreme inflation of products, extreme deflation of the value of my money and allows my pension to get more and more worthless. This is reality. I used to love Walt Disney when I was a little girl after we got our first television back in the 50's. Prior to that I loved to listen to the stories on the radio during the 40's. I was stunned by Sputnik beating our Vanguard rocket to outer Space. The AARP doesn't represent me it is a sales technique. I recently received a 1% increase in my pension. That's roughly 10 dollars per month. Gosh I wonder if I started smoking again if that 10 bucks would buy a pack of cigarettes now. Remember when cigarettes were $20 a carton. I'm thankful I quit smoking 50 years ago. Bottom line, we do take action against those who rob us, those who fail to give us decent pensions when we are to weak, tired or sick to hold down a job or even get around. My brother lost his drivers license 4 years ago and with that he also lost his church, his girlfriend and his own confidence in himself.

[@donnahooks4124]

In our area, there are elder/senior companion care companies that offer many services that would be beneficial to you! They will set you up with someone you approve of, and then they run errands for you, take you on appts & other places of your choosing, give med reminders, do light housework, etc. I was actually a companion-caregiver for 5 years, and it truly was a very rewarding experience! Best wishes to you!! Remember, you do not have to live like that. Call, or visit a website, of one of these companies. "Senior Helpers" is one that I know to be very good.

[@marydietterich5968]

You have tremendous grace!❤️

[@jodeepace]

Thank you for providing us with information that helps us get through each day whether it be a good or not so good day ❤️

[@sixtyandme]

Any time!

[@jodeepace]

@@sixtyandme 😊

[@lynnjohnson3669]

Although I do not live in USA, I have found your advice very helpful. thank you.

[@barbarabarr9195]

My daughter's neighbor is in her early 70's, she gets lonely. She lives alone. She says she's going to miss all of us and Hope's we come back to see her. Because. My daughter is moving out of the apartment complex, into a house they just bought. I don't mind being alone. But I will go visit her. We all need interaction, socializing.

[@gloriaa3652]

Does anybody else dream of moving from a nice condo to a place where one can garden and have chickens? 🤪

[@melissas7589]

I sold my home a year ago and moved into a RV full time, but it's not the right fit for me full time. Now Im in the mid south (U.S.) looking for a home and will put in raised garden beds to make it easier as I age. Have had chickens and miss having them but if you dont have a big support network they can tie you down. There is no hopping off to another state or country for a few months when you have a hen house.

[@funnymemos3056]

I did!!! Love it!!

[@andreaarias2085]

Yes!

[@areyoukidding1693]

I also am hoping to grow herbs and veggies. Jut a nice yard where there is room for one of those fire pits (to have glass of wine in evening). Also I have cat but once I get yard, I would love to get a small medium sized dog! Would love to travel more but not for really long period of time. I love hydrangeas..pink and blue…See you are not the only one..there are lots of us dreaming. Though I really do not want chickens!

[@KMRehl]

Thanks, Margaret.

[@jacoboliver1892]

Hello how are you doing today

[@tiger8linny788]

My info book says “I’m Dead, Now What?”. 🤣😂🤣. Thank you, from an elder orphan❣️

[@barbarak2836]

Love that title!

[@Goldfootcrane]

Thanks!

[@sixtyandme]

Thank you very much Jan for your kindness ❤️🌺

[@cherrycato1940]

Thank you...this is also very good info for elderly couples. 💕

[@jenniferwells9032]

I’m so rapt you began this❤️ I’m 70 plus now, but do have my adult kids and 6 grandkids. What would be great, to learn Bridge and play with others👍

[@uwsgrrl2308]

70 yo & living alone without any family or friends nearby. I'm OK now, but I am concerned about the future. I do have a social network. Good friends for life. I am grateful for their support. They all live in different states.

[@pfranks75]

Don’t age alone if possible. If you weren’t a networker while young, you ain’t going to do it when old. I try to emphasize to my husband money equals freedom!

[@jacoboliver1892]

Hello how are you doing over there hope your having a good time

[@lynnebailey8808]

Love your hair! Looks terrific. You look younger and beautiful.💕

[@SuzanneU]

I live with my husband and mother in law. My mother in law is 101, and in the nature of things is bound to pass on soon. My husband is 7 years older than I am. I have no family of my own blood kin in this country. I expect to be an elder orphan, so I'm preparing. I think it likely that my sister, my daughter, and I will end up living together and taking care of each other.

[@ageeibc6029]

U are wonderful beyond description. I m alone but never feel lonely or search for a partner in life. I prefer to enjoy my own skin & not to pick after someone at this age. I m so use 2 it. Thank God 🙏, the Malaysian government & those in authorities give seniors their dues. Even my neighbours are of other race & religion, yet I know them all by their names. We look after each other & look out 4 each other as most of them are in my age group too. It so cool, we will remain friends always. God bless us all.

[@judy5747]

Sounds cool. Which part of Malaysia is this?

[@farah6258]

🇲🇾🇲🇾nice! Are you Malaysian, or an expat? I'm local and 45, and single. Can you share what else to expect ageing without family support? That is my current circumstances and by choice too as I chose to break away from generational trauma and cycle

[@traceytrotter9934]

I have been completely alone for many years. I am 60 with health issues. I live off of disability and am in a trade for housing situation. It is rough but I somehow do it. I didn't plan for the future or to be alone in it. My family has abandoned me as well, being ill is unattractive. Should I be crazy because I seem to be ok. Not happy but ok.

[@thandosdance1504]

So sorry to hear that Tracy. I am glad u r not driving yourself crazy about people that don't have time for u. All the best Queen! You have inspired me.

[@traceytrotter9934]

@@thandosdance1504 I love you for saying this. Thank You! 🧡

[@thandosdance1504]

@@traceytrotter9934 Thanks to u Tracey, u have no idea what a positive impact u have made on me. Love u lots!

[@houndmother2398]

Thank you this describes me.

[@jogosh7849]

Why don't we have a big get together /with classes/get togethers etc.

[@charlenebrownlow4677]

PTL Margaret…excellent segment; thank you for sharing 💯💌!

[@annjones9635]

I don't have kids or close family and have always known that I have to be proactive in building a life for myself as I age. The biggest issue for me is creating and maintaining a social network, especially since the pandemic hit. I'm slowly getting back to volunteer work, hopefully that will help.

[@judymanning2538]

Hi. I have social anxiety and find joining activities difficult but rewarding. The charity sounds like a wonderful place to start 🍀

[@beekinder6953]

Thank you! From Cornwall UK. Xx

[@isobeldunn9152]

Oh you're so lucky living in Cornwall 😍 my brother retired from London to there....havnt got to visit yet though !!!! But l intend to one day soon...lol....l live in N Ireland X

[@anniehamilton2524]

Another wonderful way to create community, thanks so much

[@gardenroom65]

Been alone since 46, I’m 63 now. Working is my distraction and I’m exhausted in the evenings and weekends.

[@honey23b2]

This is good information! Bless you. I really love your site.

[@richardgrant2948]

Hello 👋, how’s everything going over there 👉 I hope your day went well & hope it was a blessed day for you?

[@kangarookids7497]

Thank you dear lady, greetings from FL. Best wishes , Linda

[@sabinadonofrio8863]

Hi. Just found this site. Great info. I'm reaching out to ladies in fla. I'm in vero beach. Please give me a shout out and do a meet n greet.

[@robinschrock7328]

Thank You❤️💕 I am a single divorced woman and happily alone, altho I would be pleased to have an elderly woman to care for who doesn't have daughters or sons. I'm 52 and used to be a caregiver and CNA. love gardening and cooking organic.

[@carolynnewyork6919]

Thank u here in the us we need u!

[@carolynnewyork6919]

@Matt Hendrix thanks,matt 4 thinking of me I'm ok u take care

[@communitysolutionspro1520]

I was thinking of doing a residential care business which I have people who live with me and I take care of. That would serve a couple purposes. I would have people around and also supplement my income. It would also form a social group in a sense. Im 48 so I am preparing for this.

[@thandosdance1504]

Excellent idea. U will bring a smile to many people n u will also be doing what u love. U can never go wrong with passion.

[@BobF510]

This is a spectacular essay. A book I read on the same theme was a revelation. "Adapting with Aging" by James Crescent

[@deborahbain9915]

Great Video Margaret

[@ellengo9510]

Your insights and opinions are eye openers

[@fauziakhanam7319]

Beautiful sharing thank you

[@sixtyandme]

Thank you too

[@bluej6800]

You are describing me, I’m now 73, my husband died years ago, my wonderful son died 6 years ago, he never married or had children, I have no siblings, not even any cousins, my only daughter lives out of state, so I am truly alone. I feel isolated, I have no real friends, even though I’ve tried. It seems they do have family and so they don’t really have time to spend with me either. I get depressed, I don’t enjoy trips by myself.

[@galemartin3277]

Have you tried church? There are usually women's groups and other things within the church that women are involved in. Also prayer. Are you a Christian? I hope so. There is always hope and companionship with Jesus. God bless. I will pray for you. 🙏

[@bluej6800]

@@galemartin3277 I have tried church I was going to church until Covid came, it was helpful and it was nice to have lady friends and I hope you understand this but even though I had friends at church I was still very lonely because what I would truly love and need is one real friend. Thank you for your response .

[@hissyfitz7890]

Me too; have acquaintances; one to rely on. A senior center helps if one is near you; ours provides transportation. I try to remember ‘familiarity breeds contempt’ & keep to myself.

[@clippylady9837]

@Barbara Weaver Hello Barbara, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband and son. Loss is such a challenging road to travel. I lost my beloved husband of 42 yrs on 6/24/18, our dog wanted to be with daddy, and was euthanized 6/27/19. We had no children. I can identify with feeling isolated….sigh. I lost many relationships after my husband died. I miss having someone to share with, like just going out to ear, or going shopping. When out, I am still alone, the only difference is outside there are strangers around. I was touched by your message. Not sure where you live, but I’d be happy to exchange emails, and chat if your interested. Take good care, Victoria

[@markpeter2950]

Hello Barbara I'm Mark from Houston Texas how are you and your family doing with the pandemic issues?

[@r53824]

Your a very sweet person. You do great work yourself.

[@GREENxTARA]

i just wonder how we can do this without needing to have relationships. relationships are really challenging and stressful for some of us and we just want to be left alone but have help if we need it.

[@peacedove9513]

This is great Thanks

[@mariannchampion3366]

Good to hear abs see you

[@mariannchampion3366]

Good to see and hear you 😊🇨🇦

[@gabrielamontenegro8090]

I am 40 my dad is in his 80s seeing him age has really made me think how am I going to do it when I get get his age, especially since I don’t have kids and husband.

[@cynthiabercaw3462]

Where is the Elder Orphan FB group please? There are dozens of them when I search. Thank you.

[@sixtyandme]

You can go to carol marack’s website

[@marisayoung8670]

I dread the day when I am alone. My partner is 72 and I am 65 so it seems inevitable that this will happen. Sadly, I don’t really fit in well with the company of women. Yikes. What a dilemma.

[@sabinadonofrio8863]

Yes, single adult women are a scary pariah for a married woman. Well,it's either him or you. And most men don't stay single long. Sad, but so true. We lead a lifetime of white slavery, then no one looks back and asks how we are.

[@kibblenbits]

@@sabinadonofrio8863 Speak for yourself, if you were a slave, it was your choice. I've been divorced for over 40 years, because I refused to play the victim and stay in a dysfunctional marriage. I will be 70 my next birthday. I raised a son, worked for over 50 yrs and retired from a Fortune 500 company. I have purchased properties over the years, by myself and was never anybody's slave. I retired last year, own my property, no debt, with a pension/IRA/SS. I have family, friends and don't expect any of them to make me their priority, then whine about it, when they don't. It's called the hand of life and you can either deal with it, or it will be dealt for you. Looks like you chose the latter.

[@judymanning2538]

@@sabinadonofrio8863 Hi. Since you are on this site you are finding your way! You are finally free and are stronger than you thought. Best wishes 🍀

[@barbaraconnett5057]

Thank you, it was helpful!🦊🥰