Practicing AND Not Or // Actioning Abundance Part 4

[@samcatstorko]

Love this!! This concept is really helpful and relevant to me right now because I've been finding one of the most frustrating things my ED is causing is severe decision paralysis. Can't get frozen trying to decide if I just choose both options, I love it haha! Now just have to actually practice it.

[@emilyspence2961]

It really was such a useful tool for me in my recovery for exactly this reason. I'm super pleased that you've found me sharing it helpful and I encourage you to be bold in your DOing. Sending love and beans xx

[@therumowa]

The last point is great. I notice that if I get used to former Fear Foods, they become new Save Foods, and I would routinely now have this new save food reasoning that I have to repeat eating my fear foods after all. Stacking something I am actually afraid of on top is a great idea to get out of that loop ( and I have got a huge amount of noise in my head now already 😁 ) Thank you! :)

[@emilyspence2961]

@@therumowa No problem at all :) It was a tactic I found really helpful in my recovery and I’m pleased that it resonates with you as something supportive xx

[@mummytrolls]

i went to my favorite salad spot today because i genuinely love vegetables. last time i went, i refused to get dressing because of the calories. my friend told me that’s dumb and my salad would be dry but i didn’t listen. it was dry. so this time around, i challenged myself to add dressing to the salad. it was difficult and i ended up choosing a safer option that was tasty because dressing was challenging enough. it was tastier. so much tastier. i told my friend she was right. i wanted one of the sides too. i was conflicted which to get and decided to get both. not the salad bowl or the side, BOTH, which is a huge step for me. i didn’t end up finishing either, but facing the challenge was difficult enough. one day i will be able to finish it all. i’ve been doing this lately and feeling super guilty so this video came at the perfect time. like recently a few times i’ve gotten a sandwich (which specific sandwiches are a safe food) AND the extra i was craving so bad. in this case, i’ve been dying to eat this delicious freaking pastry my ed HATES. i’m usually able to finish the safe sandwich and fear add on which is huge for me considering i usually just eat the safe sandwich nothing else no fear foods added. i’m still pretty deep in my ed but can’t stop thinking about teeny tiny steps in recovery cus of how miserable my ed makes me. i’m at that point where i try to make my diet 80% safe foods and 20% fear foods every day just to challenge my ed cus that’s what i can reasonably handle at the moment. i find it most manageable to combine the safe food with the fear food or having a fear snack instead of a fear meal. at the end of the day, eating one freaking pastry or one sugary snack or adding dressing to my salad will not kill me. it will not make me fat. i have to remind myself of that constantly. ‘this chocolate won’t kill me, it’s literally freaking chocolate.’

[@mummytrolls]

side note i know i love vegetables not only cus they taste delicious but even in periods of recovery i LOVE vegetables. it just looked different in recovery vs now. like adding veggies to my dinner instead of veggies being my dinner.

[@emilyspence2961]

Really pleased this video came at a good time for you :) Thank you for sharing and here's to you moving onwards and upwards in your recovery journey one step at a time. Sending love x

[@Naphinel]

Snow... same in Switzerland right now :)

[@emilyspence2961]

@@Naphinel Ah snow snap! ❄️ xx

[@RomyVandermeulen]

Hi Emily, Hi Emily, I started all-in recovery from anorexia for 4 weeks because eating lists are no longer possible. my problem is that I have already eaten a whole cake or pie every day this week, plus 10 croissants, cookies and chocolate. Loafs of bread every day I feel like I'm not doing it right and that I'm developing other eating disorders. I'm also afraid that I'm eating for food's sake and not listening to my body. I already feel my body changing and I gained a lot like a lot. When I eat I can’t just eat 1 cookie I want every cookie or the whole cake. I’m afraid I’m developing a divergent disorder. I think I’m mentally so hunger and I don’t know if I’m binging really need your advice.🥲

[@Naphinel]

Not Emily, just another ED-fighter here. This isn't bingeing, this is mental hunger (or a stage of this). Fact: your starved body NEEDS all of this cake etc stuff, so go and eat. I know, It's super scary, but don't be afraid, and don't restrict again! Just eat, your body knows, what it does.

[@emilyspence2961]

@@Naphinel Thank you for sharing and supporting xx

[@emilyspence2961]

@@RomyVandermeulen Hey Romy, I have answered this on a previous video where you commented similarly 🧡