Why Self-Esteem Is Self-Defeating | 5 Minute Video

[@missmorbid1439]

"If everyone's special, then nobody is".

[@masha22092000r]

Golden words, huh?

[@teamcybr8375]

Miss Morbid Thank you Syndrome.

[@kevinsanchez02]

Incredibles huh?

[@D_Marrenalv]

It is the result of "The 1990s Barney Syndrome" plus "1990s liberal political correctness". Barney said "I love you, and you're special no matter what" + society said "you cannot spank that child or else go to jail, so give little Amanda or Brandon a time-out instead....And, no, they don't have to smile if they don't want to" = today's spoiled, self-entitled, foul-mouthed, narcissistic, whiny, butthurt Millennial snowflake.

[@blacknblue7935]

Yeah

[@Dodo-td1pg]

Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else.

[@Fluli]

XDDD

[@comradewolfdog8171]

If no one else has the same combination of ambitions, skillsets, thought process and interests as me then by definition I am unique.

[@comradewolfdog8171]

@@RailwayPenguin tell me something about yourself

[@thecourtjester2610]

_your a special snowflake_

[@comradewolfdog8171]

@@thecourtjester2610 interesting to know that 'a special snowflake' is mine

[@thomahperin7953]

"Confidence comes from preparation" - Kobe Bryant

[@nusdrapoel897]

F

[@TheChosennn]

Thomah Perin RIP GOAT 💜💛

[@whisperingwind2]

Didn’t that guy die in a plane crash or something?

[@MsAkbar14]

well now he dies being a TRUE special person, it is earned and he earns it well.

[@basesixty6739]

This was made before he died

[@pauldickinson3961]

Is it ironic that this video is about twenty times more motivational than every self esteem video that my schools have made me watch?

[@alexermon6985]

Some potatoes know where you live so they won't ask for your location

[@avarie6890]

this is true for me aswell

[@RoseNoho]

In your opinion.

[@alexermon6985]

@@RoseNoho they know where you live too

[@jorandax9059]

@@RoseNoho And mine too.

[@82dorrin]

Teach kids the skills that will help them succeed, and let self-esteem come from that. Don't buy into the "teach kids that they're special snowflakes who can do no wrong" trap.

[@Capcoor]

That’s not self-esteem-that’s stupidity.

[@Billllyubbda]

I'd rather be a Narcissists running things then working hard at Walmart waiting for someone to notice me.

[@tmuto5119]

Self esteem is one of the things that help u succeed tho Nobody with high self esteem thinks of themselves highly or narcissistically thirds guy took it's meaning too literal. All it means is that they have the confidence in themselves to do something like participating in that race or getting on stage to sing

[@ChrisLemonis]

Yeah! Skills come through trial and error, to be developed.

[@ChrisLemonis]

Actually self estimation cannot be defined, because I as a personality, am not quantifiable so as to be estimated. I can only acknowledge my efforts and results and take them into account so as to improve.

[@flamerunner1296]

Teachers: you're all winners Me: sounds like communist propaganda but ok.

[@angelaquino3730]

'ANIMAL FARM'

[@Columbus1152]

Flame runner- I'm sorry, but I disagree, communism would say, "there are no winners and no losers, we all contribute to the community with equal importance", communism rejects the idea of individualism.

[@taaaaaaaazzzzzz]

@@Columbus1152 there is already no individualism if everyone is a winner, as everybody gets the same. But I get what you mean.

[@blainevolesky9653]

Someone understands this

[@angelaquino3730]

@@blainevolesky9653 lol nice

[@RookieN08]

If everyone is special, then nobody is special.

[@tombkings6279]

RookieN08 no body is

[@the_adhd_fiend]

Such a paradox! lmao

[@trippysnow3791]

100th like

[@jeffsnow7749]

RookieN08. Perfectly logical! Unlike current education.

[@peepeeman2986]

Stolen comment

[@hoangkimviet8545]

The words I learnt from this video: - Nouns: Fabrication, admiration, reflection, saner, notion, dogma, ambition, toll - Verbs: Esteem, regard, whisper, taint, equip, wreak, havoc, stifle, acknowledge - Adjectives: Precocious, Alcoholics, scandalous, benign

[@onbekendetelefoon2045]

Hoàng Kim Việt underrated comment.

[@MisterDillPickle]

Just a small correction if you don't mind, alcoholics (with an s) is a noun

[@giansantiago9136]

Hoàng Kim Việt wow you sort of are like a Justin Y 2.0 I just keep seeing you

[@dharshinimagesh9591]

super I revisited the video to know n learn the words

[@Todsor]

Is this comment a joke or serious? I don't understand why it got so many thumbs-ups as if the video was about English language.

[@demosthenes1743]

shoutout to Syndrome from the Incredibles for teaching us this lesson "if everyone's super then no one will be"

[@nadvic1797]

That's actually a highly philosophical question though. If everyone is super, that indeed means that noone would be any better than the other. But doesn't that also mean that everyone is perfect that way? Not really perfect, but if you'd see it on a scale, everyone would be the best. Sadly, this would also include that everyone had to be just as super as the other, which would mean that everyone would need to come to the same accumulated worthyness everyone else also has. So if you still look at different aspects of life, you'd still get a high difference on a scale regarding only that aspect, which would make them less comparable again. So everyone would have to be exactly the same. Btw, this is basically the quintessence if the video. You shouldn't come up with any other ideas, and only blindly follow the guidance of the guy in the video, who basically told you: self esteem is nothing else than working hard towards your goal and then reaching it. And if you live in any other way, you shouldn't have self esteem and should hate yourself. And as i'd like to put it: that's total bs ...

[@seankaiyoung]

Bruh I was thinking exactly that after this video ended

[@joshuaespinoza8325]

syndrome did nothing wrong. also im the 69th like

[@drapas7467]

This cartoon will be banned in California soon

[@alexpatrick3333]

Also a shoutout to Mr Incredible himself, “They keep creating new ways to celebrate mediocrity”

[@TinyDancer250]

Narcissism is not extreme confidence; it is pathological insecurity. That is why they are fragile and break completely even under gentle constructive criticism. They become enraged when everyone does not fawn over them. Confidant people don't have these instincts.

[@whatIGO405]

Who said it is?

[@prodigalson6166]

Laughing Lark exactly the point of this video; self-esteem propagates narcissism and failure.

[@lottiekarottie7547]

True, narcissism means that you define your self image over the opinion of others

[@JolinHard]

Interesting. I admit I’m a narcissist and I realized why. I don’t do anything. Which results in no confidence. If I want to be confident, I need to do things. My feelings about it don’t matter. God why haven’t I learned this sooner.

[@silvanabaralha8665]

Narcissists are NOT insecure, quite the opposite.

[@noisemarine561]

"No one is special, unless they apply themselves and improve." -Something my Father told me the day I started school.

[@svenskgangmiljo2168]

Some guys get all the chicks because they think they are special and the women believe them.

[@JohnWick-ob2cp]

@@svenskgangmiljo2168 Dude you're being bitter and resentful by your experiences with a few narcissistic chicks who're attracted to narcissistic guys. Do you really think their relationship's gonna work out?

[@goodluckokereke]

Remember the keyword here: 'Confidence is earned'

[@robertoorrego4374]

Well that's *Three* words but ok

[@joaoduarte7782]

I completely agree with you!

[@enteryournamehere1]

Is it "earned"?

[@svenskgangmiljo2168]

And if you fail more than you succeed you will never earn it. It might be that you are too weak, untalented and unsuited to succeed in a particular field so trying harder will not change anything.

[@exchequerguy4037]

Reminds me of an old Navy recruiting commercial, telling prospects that "you'll earn respect".

[@gebkasxpx]

One of the Best lessons I've ever heard. Self-esteem bull shit must stop. It corrupts society and individuals.

[@jaidenlittle770]

김동규 yes but so does feminism and flat-earth believers

[@jackfrost8636]

Don't forget socialism, Marxism and liberalism.

[@yobeatlifestyle]

김동규 I think no self esteem is the need of an utopian society.

[@MrLhxD]

Here in Mongolia. Our populace has too much Self-esteem as well. Probably worse since we don't have any industry and drowning ourselves with debt...

[@vanivanov9571]

You know, I've only heard from a flat-earther once. All other times, it was people complaining about them, or insulting them ,or using them as an insult. Feminism and Tumblr however are part of this same cult of self-worship, and they will sometimes take away your jobs or your freedom of speech.

[@shanicemarisa]

PragerU advice = my dad's advice.

[@andrewpenn1145]

PragerU's advice

[@Iliadic]

@@andrewpenn1145 Not my dad. He doesn't quite understand a lot of things when it comes to learning disabilities or processing things different than he does. That doesn't mean he's not a good parent, it just means he needs to work on trying to understand people. Although that's a very difficult thing to do.

[@YouKnowMeDuh]

Thanks dad.

[@YouKnowMeDuh]

@@Iliadic I can somewhat agree, but even people with learning disabilities shouldn't be praised for no reason. You can always compliment someone's ability, we even congratulate small children that learn how to do something as simple as speak a first word, or walk, or go to the potty themselves. Even though those are such simple actions, it's the fact that they did something rather than just being congratulated for being alive and "special". It's ok as a parent for you to tell your kid that you like them because they are smart, funny, etc. but in an environment like school, where teachers have much less time to get to know each student, it doesn't fill any gaps to do something as superficial as telling a kid "you're special" or "you're so smart" when you can instead talk about the good work that they have done which will build up their confidence constructively. And I say constructively, because if you develop a skill, you have that tangible skill. If someone compliments you on something that isn't quite so stable, like personality, what will you think about yourself if you're bullied and you act differently from what people expect or experience trauma that affects your mental ability?

[@Iliadic]

@@YouKnowMeDuh that's not what I was saying, I was saying that he needs to learn that there are different styles of learning than his, which I'm not sure he quite understands yet.

[@kiranadammahadev5842]

We need to replace self-esteem with self-determination.

[@amosp9411]

PREACH

[@methuselahhoneysuckass]

amen

[@andrewdavid9589]

🙏🙏🙏

[@exchequerguy4037]

And the entitlement of happiness with the pursuit of happiness.

[@ARRRGH480]

That's the same thing....

[@noemimariazaica8245]

Respecting yourself/values and be at peace and owning who you are is not the same with self admiration or infatuation. Loathing your self and feeling good only when you accomplish something will only drive you to frustration which will manifest in many ways: antisocial behavior, substance abuse etc.. In order to accomplish anything you need to be grounded and in peace with your-self, therefore you need an amount of confidence/self-esteem or call it whatever you like it. HUMILITY and CONFIDENCE don't exclude eachother.

[@pokemongurlz]

I agree

[@fanofgodjimindiva2497]

You say that because you're one of those snowflake losers who were convinced that "you're speshul" by teachers and media, despite not achieving anything. You cant just admit the harsh truth of this video because it'll break your fragile based-on-nothing self steem. You dont deserve an award for breathing.

[@kewi1]

@@fanofgodjimindiva2497 Neomi is right. Look up the true meaning of spelling. Everything you say has a affect on you and your soul. Cause and effect... Good and bad karma. What you do and say determines how you choose what your day is going to be like; simply transferring energy from one to another. Being a eye witness of this myself I can testify saying this is true. No other way than staying grounded and evenly balanced without disruption. You don't have to agree but it's true. Law of attraction.

[@jaronmarles941]

@@kewi1 Tell that to the North Korean dictator.

[@jaronmarles941]

The issue is that "good and bad" are subjective. Even if you look at your laws, different laws in different societies or parts of the same one would have laws saying otherwise. There are also laws that are, or have been unjust. Which is why new ones change them. Even national laws are not always absolute in that nation either.

[@LaisCordiolli]

That was mind-blowing. I've never thought about self esteem in that fashion.

[@jeremymatelo7222]

I mean, it's probably because that's not the idea self-esteem is made from. Since self-esteem is not a defined term, we have leeway with how it can be interpreted. He brings up how too high of confidence causes people to not feel as if they need to train to get better and that's true but that's why we don't consider self-esteem confidence. Self-esteem normally is talking about a state of mind that's more complicated than just a feeling. Normally when someone is considered to have low self-esteem, they don't have the will to try while people with high self-esteem are willing to try and fail and keep going until they see results. Self esteem is a mixture of emotions: confidence, resilience, and positive thoughts on ones self (or I guess what could be considered "self admiration"). Since Self-esteem does not have a text book definition, it can be interpreted differently. This is just my interpretation

[@moelopez270]

@@jeremymatelo7222 lol

[@randomplayer2204]

@@jeremymatelo7222 It's called *confidence*

[@tone618]

self esteem is not a matter of having an inflated view of yourself but rather a normal view of yourself. this video is misinformation. if I feel like a worthless piece of garbage despite not indeed being a worthless piece of garbage, that is low self esteem. a normal level of self esteem is to see oneself in both the long and short term and determine how that effects reflects on you as a person. normal self esteem is to realize you are not a failure for not graduating high school on time as you will be able to get your ged next month. normal self esteem is knowing despite this video that I am not a narcissist. diverse

[@ivanpuklavec6494]

@@tone618 fax, prageru made a whole video with the wrong definition of self-esteem plus the video isnt backed up by any scientific research. Classic prageru

[@terrencemoldern2756]

I remember being treated like this... I remember plenty of points in my school life where this had occurred and honestly it just weirded me out. I remember back in Elementary we had a pole casting contest, you know for fishing? With targets and all... and it came down to me and a girl who I knew in my own class. We both were doing the longest cast but also had to make sure we hit the targets right in the middle. I was given an easier time myself since I was and am autistic. So I got to go up closer to the targets and of course I won. Which made me happy. After all I got a little medal and as a kid. Getting some sweet metal that looks nice is of course gonna make you excited. But then I saw that the girl next to me also scored. Pretty much just right behind me. Which was cool. But she also got a little medal. In fact. I saw the whole class get medals. It made me feel weird. Looking back on it. I wish I didn’t have an easier time for one. Simply because I personally have autism. Especially since I don’t have it nearly as bad as others... and two the person rewarded should have been the girl. Maybe I could have gotten 2nd if we had the classic 1, 2, 3.... but of course we didn’t and if we did. We all would of course have also had “participation” rewards. It’s fine and especially fun when schools and teachers give out positive reinforcement. But it’s just demeaning and stupid to reward things not deserving of it. It always made me feel weird and stupid. Especially STUPID! Nothing makes me feel more like I’m the dumbest person alive then when people go easy on me and treat me and others like that. It feels like one of those classic Lab Rat tests. Go to the end of the maze and you get Cheese! Which funnily enough is even more better then how we are treated. At least the said Rat actually did something to earn it. Meanwhile we’re sitting here with this bs.

[@Nocturn3]

Better title would be. "Don't be a narcissist"

[@kaizenchaosprimordial8945]

John Daniels, buddy we don't need the know what all the syllables in that word are.

[@HiddenWen]

I think it should be don’t be delusional.

[@LocoSyndrom]

This point of view keeps me motivated, actually.

[@geico105]

Jordan Peterson keeps me motivated.

[@jasonthompson1359]

I feel better about myself having watched this video. :-D

[@Raamen123]

@FAYMprod so far all I've seen in atleast 95% of Prager University videos is pure logic. things i've known by myself without anyone to tell me or teach me because it already made logic sense in my brain. I'm surprised how people needs to be taught many of these things or told.. how it doesn't come naturally. Same as it should become natural to think that it is bad to assault others or rob people because you wouldn't want that to happen to yourself.

[@matt25675]

LocoSyndrom exactly

[@bensonchen3915]

same

[@mystomachhurt9312]

THis video and the comments made me remember a lesson from Shiddarta, a novel by Hermann Hesse. Do not care about words or thoughts, care about things and actions. Actions is what matters. You might debate semantics and meanings of words. But words create contradictions and contradictions are prone to deceptions, most dangerously self-deception. Just prove yourself, leave this asinine words debate and do good in the world.

[@lpflowrider8619]

Exactly bro

[@robertilles100]

Spot on.

[@goodluckokereke]

thanks.

[@penneyburgess5431]

I have thought along these lines. but never so clearly.

[@svenskgangmiljo2168]

If your words or thoughts are wrong you should care about them. Shakyamuni: Hold fast to Truth as a lamp; hold fast to the truth as a refuge. Look not for a refuge in anyone beside yourselves. And those, who shall be a lamp unto themselves, shall betake themselves to no external refuge, but holding fast to the Truth as their lamp, and holding fast to the Truth as their refuge, they shall reach the topmost height. Jewish sages: Say little and do much. By your actions you will be judged. Fools talk and their talk often fools.

[@Melissa0774]

I think the baby boom generation started this whole self esteem movement as a legitimate backlash against at least some actual, (and some perceived too,) abuse that they did experience growing up. I think a lot of older people felt like their lives turned out crappy (the ones whose lives did turn out crappy for whatever reason) because their parents and teachers were to hard on them, made them feel worthless, or didn't tell them they loved them enough, or something. Even if that may not be the real reason, they felt it was. So they vowed to not do that to their kids. The problem is, they took it to far in the opposite direction.

[@lazydaze3134]

Melissa0774 The generation after WW2. Technology really started to take off in the 50's and that was one of the first generations who kinda had life "easy" compared to any generation before. When life becomes easier it tends to breed softer/lazier people. Things have only gotten easier in the past 60 years and now you have a generation who doesn't want to do physical labor, or really work for anything because everything has been handed to them their entire lives. Even poor people nowadays have it easy compared to generations past. They get money for being poor, food etc. "Poor people are fat nowadays, think about that shit." Joe Rogan. I'm not here to argue about why someone is poor but I guarantee you live like a king being poor today compared to in the 30's and 40's. Anyways rant getting off point but I definitively agree with you. Kids grew up not wanting things to be like when they were kids. Their kids continued what they were taught and somewhere along the way it went too far the other direction.

[@jeffdo9195]

Melissa0774 started with the KIDS of the baby boomers

[@LancGuy13]

Jeff Daugherty and who's fault is that? Five year olds don't ask for participation trophies.

[@jeffdo9195]

LancGuy13 the kids of the Baby Boomers are the ones handing out the trophies

[@LancGuy13]

Jeff Daugherty yep, Gen Xers have been handing them out since the 90's. Which is long enough to make them a must have in the school system. But people are finally starting to wake up

[@Hardrian_Hardrada_Cicero]

Pretty much California should take note of this video (as there are many narcissists here)

[@rachelplows3001]

California IS home to Hollywood, after all

[@HorizonFlansEntertainment]

Quadroline narcism and self-esteem is definitely not a same thing. This guy literally just took a definition of ”esteem” instead ”self-esteem” and fighted against that word xD

[@elmerovero7528]

@@HorizonFlansEntertainment no

[@mrjollyguy25]

What a narcissistic comment.

[@sukanyasarma]

You get points for breathing... 😂😂

[@andrewpenn1145]

Yes, they are in the form of oxygen molecules.

[@Billllyubbda]

So you're against people breathing? Now that's Narcissism.

[@wandamaximoff5157]

@Allie X why anything wrong most indians r conservative

[@jeremymatelo7222]

Listen: life is definitely on a point scale. Breathing is like a 1 point per year sort of thing. Daily/weekly things tend to be cleaning yourself, feeding yourself, being able to sustain life, etc. Some people just can't handle the struggle so they stop doing those things and then they stop breathing. Some people just have too many points and so they stop breathing too. And sometimes people get negative affects that take away points. They sometimes also stop breathing

[@jeremymatelo7222]

@Allie X I like how Americans treat the U.S. like some Utopia but then they have tons of problems that other countries don't. The United States is definitely unique but they need to stop treating it like it's some sort of paradise that everyone else is missing out on

[@dmhmanners]

Self-Esteem definition: confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect.

[@matthewesser9525]

Prager U: Horrible advice for everyone; its new tagline.

[@zm4522]

You no one has abilities for anything you should only be confident about the things that you can realistically do

[@thetetons744]

Love yourself. But be sure its tough love. Learn discipline and hard work, then you will have something to be proud about.

[@mosseeizze5708]

Oh life in Africa was so simple and truths like these were common sense. Now my head is filled with rubbish that I don't know what 2+2 is anymore. I miss home

[@PK-bp2my]

Pls go back to africa asap

[@robertilles100]

Don't worry, they are not intelligent enough to understand that all these idiocy comes from "education". When people live a simple life, such 'self esteem' confusion doesn't even arise. People are just occupied with real tasks in real life. I'm not African, but I have travelled the world and I saw that people who live away from cities and live a traditional life, they maybe not educated but they are life-wise.

[@robertilles100]

@@Evruu I didn't say education is bad. I said 'education', as an irony, pointing to the confusing dead-end ideologies that so far from reality. Of course real education is equals evolution. But this sick liberal education that have nothing real value, only fills people's head with ideologies is more harmful than a simple wisdom passed on by traditions. Unfortunately todays education is not about teaching people to think themselves. For example, my education helped me to understand that knowing a lot of things have no real value. Knowing is just information. It's how you implement it in your life and what you use it for that matters. Peolle live a simple life naturally have peace of mind. But for me, it was a long and hard work to reach peace of mind.

[@robertilles100]

@@Evruu I wouldn't complicate a simple comment so much, after all we don't know. But I didn't take it as winging. Anyway

[@robertilles100]

@@Evruu yes I know, it was a waste of time.

[@yair1010]

So correct me if I'm wrong but the lesson that I've gathered from this video is that you are what you achieve in life. Goals, family, friends, job, etc. Am I correct?

[@TheVelcro18]

that is correct. that's the way should be.

[@blackkohi]

yair1010 In my opinion it's a little more subjective but yes, you should be proud of yourself if you are good at something and achieve great things. Just considering yourself special for no reason is nonsense to me.

[@snivy8776]

Vittorio Bosello Doesn't everyone achieve something in there life?

[@blackkohi]

Snivy 87 As I said, it's pretty subjective, but still, why should someone consider himself special even if he did nothing special? Example: I learn how to write as millions before me did and I go out there saying I'm a special boy. Now isn't this a little bit sad?

[@konoko1002k]

Wrong... That would mean you have a self esteem. The video clearly said you should be hard working brainless drone. You have no right to be proud of any of your achievements. At least that BS is what I got from this video...

[@gumerzambrano]

Im an 18 year old dude and am so glad to have been introduced to this channel! I have learned the value of hard work due to the fact my parents were illegal immigrants and i am surprised tp see how weak people are emotionally

[@rammerjammer4583]

Gumer Zambrano Dude. People go through shit. Depression is hard man.

[@ts_mythicality1048]

Yeah but this channel probably thinks you should "go back to your country" so I wouldn't like it if I were you.

[@michaelgroesbeck8850]

@ts_mythicality No no no no....it's the other way around. He wouldn't vote for conservatives in the first place, which is why he should go back to his shit country. I don't believe Gumer Zambrano for a second.

[@JesusPerez-po3fq]

Hey stop bashing the guy. I have illegal parents but was born here too. And I am a conservative because I believe In conservative ideals. We all have a choice. If he wants to vote democrat then let him.

[@alessandropertuz7444]

Gumer Zambrano and if you travel through this channel enough you'll also learn that without god, murder is good

[@140lecomte]

this video is kinda true honestly

[@sahilvig22]

It is totally true honestly

[@sedrickcarmine2021]

Honest but has its own point of view If self esteem is being narcissistic Then everyone should be a narcissist Self esteem doesn’t just mean to admire something or someone It also means to be proud of who you are If you have no self esteem you basically saying your not proud of who you are or what you have done in your life making the final message of this video meaningless

[@zorian]

@@sedrickcarmine2021 that is litterally what he didnt say

[@Buttertubsmarsh]

@@sedrickcarmine2021 Do good MORE. Think about yourself LESS.

[@josh18230]

It's 100 percent true.

[@LinucNerd]

Man let me tell you, you have NO IDEA how accurate this is in Norway. Teens these days are insanely self-centered and walk around with no accomplishments and dream all day about things they will do and get famous for... No really, teens here are "dreamwalkers" - which describes how they act and think, "self-esteem" does play a role into this issue, but it's not the sole cause of the problem. ... No idea about America though :/ edit: 3 Years later I get reminded of my comment here, which is funny, because about 1-2 years after I posted this comment, I changed my mind. I'll leave my bad take of a comment up, if anyone wishes to keep their replies to me. But note that what I said originally isn't something I stand by anymore. Teenagers today aren't any different to how we were as teenagers back in the day. They honestly have enough crap to deal with in their lives, only to then get unfairly stereotyped by *some* older people (who think they were better).

[@fiervainqueur7818]

and parents to blame for this situation

[@Zephyrs009]

LinucNerd America is not that Much better. Many people of this generation have a level of narcissism and Entitlement

[@Carlis040]

LinucNerd True.... (Sweden)

[@sagemeister2590]

Det der er faen meg helt jævla korrekt .... endelig noen som nevner det !

[@collinhennessy1521]

+LinucNerd Just check out some videos of Antifa, college snowflakes, Hillary Clinton, and/or Black Lives Matter, if you want to see the havoc the self-esteem movement is wreaking on America.

[@luciaeliade2224]

It's the middle of the night right now, I have work in the morning, and I don't regret a thing Thank you Prager U, for challenging my everyday views of the world, even if it's at three in the morning.

[@heavyrain5949]

Lucia Eliade Same... Sidenote, where's your profile picture from?

[@luciaeliade2224]

Liam Divine It's fanart from the anime Hetalia. The person is a female version of the Character Finland. Thank you :-)

[@jackfrost8636]

It's 10 AM in my country lol so I'm good.

[@everydayamerican7398]

Jack Frost.... should you be at work or school?

[@D_Marrenalv]

Jonas: It therefore proves the axiom: Ignorance is bliss.

[@ikewilliams8521]

I feel like you’re describing an extreme case of self-esteem. When I think of self-esteem personally I think that it gives people confidence to be themselves. People being themselves could be someone who’s super nice and hardworking. I’ve never really seen people define self-esteem as acting narcissistic. There could be people who take it like that. That’s just my opinion of this.

[@systemid12]

Then just call it confidence.

[@supermiraclemom5793]

I think this video is describing those people with "very high self-esteem". For me self-esteem is about how you "esteem" yourself or how you see yourself. If you have a low self-esteem you see yourself so poorly or in a negative way which can sometimes be not also true (like in cases of people with depression when they "see" themselves as totally helpless or not capable of doing something better when more often it is not true). On the other hand those with "high self-esteem" are the ones who see themselves as almost perfect & love themselves too much. Therefore we need to have just a healthy kind of self-esteem where you don't think of yourself too highly that you are beyond reproach, but at the same time don't think of yourself too lowly than who you truly are otherwise you might end up hating yourself, always depressed or even suicidal

[@boris001000]

@@supermiraclemom5793 This is actually what is in my mind!

[@ComedyLoverGirl]

Self-esteem should be about telling youth that they are CAPABLE and that they can achieve anything that they WORK HARD in, and that they should be confident in their decisions in life, that they are not fundamentally worse than anyone else and have the ability to achieve. It should be about encouraging young people to pursue their goals. It is not, however, teaching kids to think they are "special" like the SJWs do, that just fosters narcissism.

[@Gil2727]

It's the "Pursuit of Happiness" vs. the "Department of Happiness" Confidence in your Ability vs Confidence in your Self-Esteem When your ability is low, "Pursue" a higher capability. When your self-admiration is low, the "Department" will declare " You're special, just like everyone else"

[@rockinshoes1]

No, what you describe is called encouragement.

[@squidlytv]

There is encouragement and then confidence self esteem is neither

[@NACtheMC]

Ive always got taught to do what I gotta do. A lot of people in my state always got taught that same way of thinking, trying hard, working hard, and believing in yourself. If the "you are special" thing is going around then that's kinda another government idea to brainwash children. It's horrible. Now everyone's gonna walk around thinking they're the best. I joke around and say I'm the best all the time, but I know deep down that I won't be the best at anything if I don't work and strive to be the best. LOL

[@TheUnchosenOne]

I think the video makes it pretty clear that when you break down the linguistics its hard not to interpret it in the way that teachers are and ultimately creating a giant hugbox.

[@Virtueman1]

"Stop caring about whether you're a good or bad person" - Prager University Seriously though, this video is taking the postmodernist-inspired concept of self-esteem, as a self-judgement not based on any objective facts about oneself, as a substitute for the actual phenomenom of self-judgement. Which is a real thing, and should be. You Should judge yourself as fundamentally good or bad so as to know if you are moral and ethical or not - otherwise, how would you know? Besides, it's kind of an inescapable judgement that is being passed emotionally wether anyone wants to or not. Denying those feelings wont help anyone. Real self-esteem (in the word's original meaning) is based on reason, as in knowing reasons for ones self worth. Read "the psychology of self esteem" by nathaniel branden. This phenomenon of fake self esteem is mentioned in the book as "pseudo self esteem" because it's not based on objective facts or objective value judgements.

[@Icynova]

Virtueman1 great insight.

[@AntiFaGoat]

Virtueman1 Thanks for the tip. The ability to accurately judge one's character is a pretty important thing.

[@lilyxciv5637]

Virtueman1 Bam. And there it is. The feeling that kept nagging at me while watching this whole thing (it came up as an ad for me). Like, he just isn't even talking about the same thing! It is important to acknowledge what you're made of, and your worth essentially. Just like you said, otherwise, how would you know?

[@damoclesecoe7184]

That makes a lot of sense, but I feel that Matt Walsh is trying to explain that (in the United States at least) the pseudo self esteem has taken over from the original meaning, similar to how "racist" has supplanted "bigot." At the very least, that's the conclusion I'm drawing from the video and this comment. Feel free to critique me.

[@سحابوغيوم]

I felt sth was missing during the whole video. One should esteem himself based on what he is doing. Not on the basis of nothing.

[@clarafbc9836]

Love this. One might be skeptical and deceived by the title, but it actually says : Focus on action instead of feeelings and words, and your self-esteem will naturally improve.

[@RyzoidGaming]

Ive always had los self esteem for as long as i remember. I was bullied as a kid and a few parents and teachers called me a useless troublemaker, but i had bad self esteem even before that, i remember when i was just in kindergarten my brothers and mums friends called me cute in like a baby way, obviously they were all girls that said this. But i hated people complimenting me, hated people calling me cute. Its carried on till now a 15 year old who his parents kicked him out for bad behaiviour, failing school, no girlfriend, and all friends are stoners, junkies, vandilists etc. I hate myself, I always have. I think we need to be taught to be at least slightly confident, not by our school or anything but confidence is key in everything. Los self esteem holds you back much more than high self esteem trust me. When your insecure you feel you cant do anything right anyway so you never take the opertunity. At leasr when your cocky you try things harder and learn more easily.

[@collinhennessy1521]

+the daedric prince of dank memes I was like that when I was 15. Don't worry, being a minor sucks for everyone. When you get out into the real world, and seeing how people are, things will improve for you. Cockiness is a terrible quality, it prevents learning by making people blind to their mistakes, and adult women hate it. Nobody can teach you to have confidence in yourself, you build it by facing your fears, and pushing yourself to do things you don't feel like you can. Never surrender to your fears or insecurities, feelings are temporary, overcoming a fear is liberating.

[@knightlauncher]

Guybrush Threepwood "why not just call it confidence?" PragerU

[@joelt2002]

The video makes it clear that the fact that you and others focus on "self-esteem" instead of actions is what holds you back. Focus on the actions you need to perform to suceed; and you will. That will generate confidence.

[@RyzoidGaming]

They do get the mistake of words with self esteem with ego but no one teaching you in schools means your ego they mean your confedince in yourself, and they are trying to get you to respect yourself more. Which makes this video fall on its ass because the narcists have always been thay way, most narcisists comd from dirty rich families that have made them spoilt or that they have just been born narcisists. People need to be taught to respect themselves because for other people its preventable. My low self esteem is different it comes from mental illness not a lack of people telling me im good enough.

[@NobleS1236]

the daedric prince of dank memes i finally found someone I can relate to.

[@phatpigeonii]

But, but, bbut... I'm SPECIAL! I have a participation trophy to prove it! And by implying that the universe doesn't revolve around me, you're calling my mom a liar! This is aggression, this is violence! I'm so triggered, I need a safe space! REEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@stuffmorestuff6647]

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE...

[@aliyahmaidenname9255]

phatpigeonii You are not truly special until you get an award for first place when you were the only person competing.

[@ihavealifeyaknow6827]

Participation trophies= rewarding you for showing up. Doesn't sound as good that way does it?

[@kiroakimada2775]

phatpigeonii Okay liberal get outta here.

[@minhdouble9380]

Reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!

[@CaptiveReefSystems]

"... what a scandalous notion. I probably should have called Social Services! " 😄 👍

[@vilin8760]

Though I agree with the overarching message of bettering yourself, the whole basis of the argument is off. Self esteem is not the sort of baseless arrogance he is describing; it is literally defined as "confidence in one's own worth of abilities; self respect." Self esteem isn't about ego and thinking you deserve a prize for breathing. It is about respecting yourself, treating yourself with dignity, and having faith in the abilities you have.

[@fastcarsaremylife]

Yes, this is one of the worst videos I've seen from PragerU. The product of this sort of thinking, is shutting of a lot of your emotional life. That's not good, and does not lead to a happy life. It leads you perhaps to a stable, productive life, but you'll feel hollow. Some people, like the one speaking, perhaps think of that as an ultimate goal and and even smaller part of those people might even enjoy it, but for the general population, this is not a good idea. Self-doubt is real, and self-esteem is indeed a good thing. Narcissism is of course not, but self-esteem does not equal narcissism. Narcissism is when you think your faultless. Having self-esteem does not mean you're faultless. You can think "hey, I'm doing pretty good [even just for breathing]" and still thinking "I want to improve this". It's about being able to receive criticism in a positive manner where it gives you positive energy to go on, instead of ignoring the input. "Hey, this guy said I should do better at this. Huh, that's true, I should."

[@lapaula_fj_]

@@fastcarsaremylife "Shutting a lot of your emotional life" Oh, so I should not restrain myself, and I should behave like society thinks I should: a brat who demands privileges. Stable life gives pleasures you can't afford with a reckless, crumbling-down life. And this whole "self-esteem weeee luv urself on the basis of nothin hun" is destructing to all minds, but especially young ones.

[@DanthonPlays]

I know I'm late but i feel I should debate on this. Well, I believe his arguments about the difference of self-esteem and confidence leads to the interpretation of the fact that faith in your abilities, respect for yourself and treating yourself with dignity are not rights you aquire from breathing but by exercising virtues in a constantly basis. In another words, you should earn it, deserve it, through your actions, and not because you esteem yourself but because you're confident in who you are because of what you do.

[@Codiliabra]

Ego =/= Self Esteem.

[@thinkindependent6018]

Agreed! I made a video response to this to hopefully help people understand that Matt is misrepresenting what self-esteem is all about. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eqKlfJyep7SZgNk

[@MsZsc]

so? Self Esteem - Brains = Ego

[@a_c35]

when I google the definition of ego I get: a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance so how are they not the same thing?

[@merrynchristian7404]

Ego is literally defined as ones own sense of self esteem. So yeah. Ego = Self Esteem. But go off I guess.

[@danschmitmeyer9270]

Ego in Latin is I btw.

[@K-xor]

This is one of the best advice somebody will ever give you.

[@victorantonio6131]

Incorrect statements is good advice? Huh

[@jaronmarles941]

Explain how it is false, and show absolute proof of such.

[@kayleewinters8721]

Something I always thought! In school we do so many worksheets on our self confidence, but really, I think if we talked about humility- or even better nothing at all becuase it's not the schools job to raise kids- our country would grow in a very different and better-off direction.

[@jackfrost8636]

Can't agree more with you... Hard work and humility builds a better personality/character. Unfortunately what we see being built is a society filled with narcissism, undeserved pride and a warped sense of commonality (socialism/cultural Marxism) instead of personal responsibility/accomplishments.

[@teamrabbitalec]

Or at school where you need service hours and you have to do all sorts of stuff to make it count and what. Defeated the purpose of service. Made service forced.

[@Iiuoypline]

Kaylee Winters I think the media is humility enough. Self esteem quizzes are just lie detectors. No one actually gains confidence because that lady in the office thats paid to be nice to them was, in fact, nice to them. Maybe nuturing kids in areas theyre interested in would be more beneficial to reduce self esteem issues?

[@JayPfo]

as an educator i would disagree

[@Observant_Observer_Observing]

"Doesn't matter how you feel, do your homework." That's a BOSS statement if I ever heard one! LOLOLOLOLOLOL

[@arthurius_3022]

- Who do you admire? - NO! ( emphatically)

[@teddyturnt]

Many people aren't comfortable being themselves. Many people follow idols because they find themselves unworthy. When someone is acting like themselves - by not being scared of being judged based on their unique behavior - I find that special. That's a huge accomplishment in a western society imo.

[@nou174]

The problem with that is that some people think that if they be themselves they don't need to improve as people. We should all improve as people.

[@Ken-ur8kt]

PragerU needs to have Jordan Peterson host one of these.

[@brucewang6458]

FireSnipe that's a great idea

[@Ken-ur8kt]

+Bruce Wang he is a liberal but that doesn't mean he can't say some amazing stuff

[@brucewang6458]

Yes I agree. Do you think I am being sarcastic?

[@Ken-ur8kt]

Bruce Wang no i was just expanding on my point :)

[@brucewang6458]

FireSnipe oh I see, haha it's hard to tell sometimes. I like jordan Peterson and I would be really interested to see what topic he would choose. Unfortunately this great idea will probably just get lost in the comments.

[@jeremyevans8374]

I always viewed self-esteem as that thing that stops you from demeaning yourself by doing things that make you appear desperate, fragile, or needy. So if you try to make plans with a woman, and she doesn't get back to you, self esteem would be that thing that stops you from contacting her again when she's clearly not interested. Or when she breaks up with you, self-esteem, is that thing that stops you from begging her to take you back. Or if you get yelled at by your boss, self esteem is that thing that stops you from sitting in a corner and crying about it.

[@quietperson3886]

My self esteem is lower than my math grade :')

[@livinghistory9701]

Same. Ive got a 32 for final grade. Still passed somehow.

[@somegirl4631]

than don't sit here, go study! :) I used to be really bad at math and hated the subject, than I started working REALLY HARD and understood that if you really work yourself to the bone, you can get 80+ in math even at the university.

[@seankaiyoung]

Good!!!

[@thatinternetshipperyouknow632]

Teacher: heres a self esteem page, 1 to 10! Me: oh ok i dont need to answer. Teacher: whys that? Me: because it has to be earned, not writin down!

[@TheBcoolGuy]

I first watched this video before I knew who Matt Walsh is. Looking back at it now, I wanna say that he's yet another example of how men always look our best in our thirties and beyond, so long as we take care of ourselves. In our younger years, no matter how well-kept, muscular, well-postured, or confident we are, we just look inexperienced and lower in rank. However, as we age and appear more masculine, we have more authority in society, making us more attractive on that front too. Basically, when we're too young, it shows.

[@ExplodingViper777]

"Insecurity and self-doubt might drive you to be better." Funny, all my insecurity and self doubt did was shut myself off from the rest of the world and put a gun under my chin. But I guess I shouldn't think about it.

[@canceraids2005]

well, he did say 'might'. In my experience, my insecurity and self-doubt about my academics in middle school took me up from 25 percent on maths tests to 95 percent in the same year, as i had recognised that i wasnt good and something had to be done.

[@hanzoshimada1612]

Do not hate things about you that you cannot change, but do not think everything about you is fine and just settle.

[@NACtheMC]

Billy Russom Right. People who hate themselves dont have enough drive to be something because they believe they always will be nothing. So I don't know what he's getting at. I used to not like myself. I didn't try hard enough because I didn't care for trying hard enough. I didnt care at all. I just went with the flow of everything. Not thinking twice about anything...not thinking for myself, just caring what other people thought. If anything, high self confidence and high self esteem means you believe and can achieve if you put your mind to it. "If at first you don't succeed, try. Try again"

[@TheBritishSquad]

Hope you're doing better now :)

[@mmtittle]

1. Hope you're doing better ❤️ I come from that (in fact I left a very long comment meant to educate from a different perspective than most people who agreed with EVERYTHING in this video) 2. YEAH for me my incredibly low self esteem and insecurity and doubt combined with my anxiety have driven me to a point where not only do I still hate myself but I'm in a (partial) hospitalization program because I couldn't function stemming from both depression and from pushing myself too much to be better

[@EmmyJoy]

What if I just stared to learn, I don't know, the guitar? I'm not great at playing the guitar but I've started. Not confident because I'm not confident in my skills but I'm proud of me for starting. Is that having self esteem? Isn't it justified? Why else would I continue to learn the guitar if I don't have that since of pride from time to time? Sometimes learning is lame, so I might not enjoy it the whole time. Really interested in peoples responses if your bored enough to chime in.

[@ShadowXIII13]

@@joshlexcelius2573 Let me give you my two cents as a piano teacher in China, where LOTS of parents force their children to learn musical instruments from a young age (as young as 3). Some children are simply good (talented), easy to pick up, have better musical sense (inherent) while others aren't. And get this, children are more likely to like playing the piano if they're good (talented) at it, since they could actually enjoy the music rather than treating it as a chore. So to sum up, just because u're interested in something doesn't mean you're talented in it, but having talent in something can definitely boost your interest to it.

[@zd_5907]

I tried drawing. I have anxiety. Everytime i try to draw i seem to progressively get WORSE. I never was proud of myself because every time i try something i fail. Never was, never will.

[@fanofgodjimindiva2497]

You must be an arrogant, self centered asshole if you feel "proud" just because your started learning something, guitar in this case. Save your "pride" for that time when you actually achieve something in that field, like playing your first song, even if it's a very easy to play one, heck, even playing the "circle of C " correctly..This is like me being proud for paying for a gym membership and still cant lift more or look any better than when I started

[@fanofgodjimindiva2497]

@@zd_5907 Try something else then, maybe drawing isn't for you. Plenty of other activities out there.

[@Srman1999]

This video is so relevant it hurts

[@gabysilverio9828]

What about having a sense of self esteem that no matter what other people say or do to you, you'll never break. Because you are confident that one day, you'll surpass them and that it wasn't enough to take you down.

[@gabysilverio9828]

and how will you do good things in life if you dont have the courage to do so without having the power of esteem?

[@ArcadiyIvanov]

Quiters never win. Winners never quit. But those who never win and never quit are idiots. (C) Not Me. There are levels at which it's better to break and admit defeat.

[@missmorbid1439]

What if you're dead wrong, and your actions might hurt others? A truly wise person would put the well-being of others above his own stubbornness.

[@Artechiza]

Arcadiy Ivanov I think he didn't mean to break as to loose or cede to other or to the situation... I think he's talking about breaking, emotionally, to be completely torn down.

[@bunnyqueen5334]

I have straight As and am on my high school's JV softball team (freshman year), however unlike what this video says my self-esteem is low. I do not feel good about myself because I have accomplished good things. I feel awful, I find excuses that say "No, that grade doesn't count because that class is easy" or "The way he curves tests mean I get a 100 because the rest of my class is stupid". Achievements do not make self esteem. I am confident in my ability to do well in school but, my self esteem says that my ability is nothing. Confidence does not equal self esteem.

[@samuelkrobertson]

I like who I am, I have self-esteem because I am good at recognizing what I do wrong and changing it. I like when I do good things and feel bad when I do something wrong. Self-esteem is something I have myself. No one can give me that, I can blow off complements, and think of myself poorly, but I don't, because I have self-esteem, not that I am better than others, or that I need an award or be praised for being me, I just accept who I am and I am happy with what I do good, and am constantly trying to understand what I do wrong or badly, and try to change or improve upon it.

[@thile6742]

Quality Shark Yup! That is what the video want to spread

[@tinyflyingdragons9432]

I had to eventually come to the conclusion I'm not as smart as others and thats ok as long as i try harder 💃

[@AlejandroBelloRD]

Excellent advise. Self-esteem = Ego = Pride = Lucifer falling from Heavens into Hell.

[@lottiekarottie7547]

Lol what?

[@aeircrown7994]

Alejandro Bello slippery slope much?

[@francisca4478]

Lottekamp same reaction

[@ArchVolt]

I agree, makes perfect sense

[@XYZ-sq7ki]

Who read Anthem?

[@penlordnt]

So this is equating self-esteem with arrogance when self-esteem is used more when saying to be proud of what you've been able to do, the successes you've had. It's linked to confidence yes, but it has more to do with being able to be happy with what you've been able to do already. It's about being happy with your good parts while still knowing you can be better in the future. What it is not is narcissism as a lot of things people say are aren't really. It is also not arrogance as that is an extreme pride which would only link it to extremely high self-esteem.

[@josephbattaglia3690]

The conservatives are trying to point out that you aren't based on what you "feel" The lefties have commercials that Have children saying I am confidence I am help I am hope i am good. We are New york and were for all" crap like that .

[@VixxiRaven]

Giving the definition of "Esteem" is different than giving the definition of "Self-Esteem". It's deliberately misconstruing words. Believe it or not, words do not have literal interpretations. "Self-Esteem" is to be confident in your own abilities, not to admire yourself. To have high self-esteem is not a cocky sense of self, it's a quiet acknowledgement that you can do great things if you try hard enough. You can push yourself higher and higher if you have higher self-esteem. To not have high self-esteem is to be unconfident in your abilities, to be critical of yourself in a most unhelpful way. To focus on your failings, to go limp at the first sign of struggle. Once again, believe it or not, analyzing your abilities based on a negative light is severely detrimental to your mental health. You don't improve better by being negative. You improve by acknowledging it's hard, and smiling widely because you could improve. THAT'S self-esteem. THAT'S what EVERYONE is in favor of. Everyone agrees that self-esteem is important. Some people are dipshits that will try to mutilate words into what they don't mean. Have high self-esteem.

[@voxeldeo505]

*When everyone is special, no one is.*

[@superextremelaser]

i like how you immediately change the definition. good work. self-es·teem noun confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect.

[@vmj255]

superextremelaser the point being that there should be no confidence in one’s own abilities, if there are no abilities to be confident in. For the past generation, teachers have been indoctrinating kids with the notion that they should feel good about themselves, whether or not they have any skills or accomplishments. Just because they’re breathing.

[@summerwilkins1284]

Jacket Considering his "definition" was central to most of his argument, the answer is yes. It is important.

[@adambanks8469]

Most guys I know can't take an insult without breaking down and crying.

[@zippac]

Doing good is all good. Just know when to draw the line on your generousity.

[@jaidenlittle770]

This was one of the best lessons i learned PragerU dosent care about your bedtime there up ALL night

[@kevinverehrergottes6306]

"Confidence MUST BE earned" and it's earned by preparation.

[@tobak952]

I admire myself. And I need no other reason than being me. I'm not a narcissist, I'm not obsessed with myself or incapable of putting others before myself, I just casually admire myself. My relationships, educational pursuits, and really everything else is going pretty great. My high self-esteem has yet to get in my way, or anyone else's for that matter.

[@Srman1999]

I would argue there is always something to be grateful for

[@Zhaturianvisionz]

I admire myself, and i earned it

[@combinationIs12345]

Confidence is knowing your abilities AND you're weaknesses (and accepting what those are), without feeling the need to apologize or compensate. Recognizing you can and should improve, just like everyone else. That leads to being comfortable with yourself. It's the opposite of "self-esteem". In fact, knowing in what ways you're flawed and accepting that, ironically, leads to higher confidence. I don't beat myself up over skills i don't have or i'll never have. I know what i suck at, i know what i'm good at. I focus on the skills i *do* have and compete with those. Knowing the difference = confidence.

[@CaveFreediving]

It's possible to have self-esteem and self-awareness of your flaws at the same time. You understand that you do some things right and some things wrong.

[@RailfanSrikrishna]

What about people living in extreme depression come on self esteem is necessary to certain extent

[@thenixvinci]

Thank you!! Self-esteem is only bad if you have too much of it--which is called "ego".

[@metalgrinch]

sri krishna depression is clinical. It has absolutely nothing to do with self esteem. Or even confidence.

[@seyfun1452]

Confidence has to be earned. Self esteem on the other hand can be defined as unearned self esteem.A great video!

[@MrHumpah12]

This has been my opinion my whole life. I thought I was pessimistic because of it. Especially about the cocky kids in school now being alcoholics

[@archivedaccount2000]

the opening line just made me laugh so hard

[@JiraiyaSama86]

I remember the first time I realized the concept that confidence is earned. It totally helped me reinforce the moment when I decided that I'm not simply going to just tell kids to be confident or to just believe in yourself. Like, it makes zero sense to tell a child to be confident in something that they're not good at. Nor to just believe in themself without something of substance to support them. It's better to tell them to work towards that belief and confidence. I know that I learned that when I started game playing with nerves. But as I went along, the nerves didn't hold me back anymore. I started to loosen up and was tuned in. I worked towards it without realizing it. That's how I can certainly agree that confidence is earned.

[@bldlightpainting]

"Self-Esteem" is derived from self-centeredness, egotistical, and narcissistic thoughts.

[@borgertime7279]

Bold of you to assume i have self-esteem

[@s4cr3dw3st9]

He touches on the difference between pride and honor. Pride being based on vanity, and Honor being based on actions.

[@conradsmith9441]

This is great. I’m so glad I found this. I’m sick of this high self-esteem crap. Self esteem doesn’t exist. I blame some of my breakups on my partners having strong “self-esteems”. This stuff is making all of American society borderline narcissistic.

[@svenskgangmiljo2168]

Jordan Peterson: Self-esteem doesn't exist. Jordan Peterson: Schoolbullies have high selfesteem.

[@farzz9418]

im really interested in what he answered on that self esteem question in school lol

[@reharl4953]

He drew a middle finger.

[@svenskgangmiljo2168]

Kids are born in sin but if they pray really hard and repent their sins they might escape the hellfire. God is allmighty and man is a despicable little worm who can't do anything if God doesn't will it.

[@christianpaulmusica]

I agree that confidence should be earned and that we are not all special. But it's extremely important to establish that a high self-esteem (or narcissism, according to you) is proven to greatly lower anxiety and depression.

[@Zichqec]

This is a fair point, but as a person who has struggled with low self esteem for a long time... well. It's not exactly easy or really enough to just 'stop thinking about it'. When you hate yourself so much and you can't get away from your own mind screaming at you that you're worthless no matter how much you do for other people and how much you push yourself, you cant just stop thinking about it. It's taken me so long to just... be ok with me. Not say that, I think I'm great, and amazing and special, no... Just... I'm ok. I don't need to hate myself. I can be happy with my achievements. But that isn't achieved through not thinking about it. That's achieved through a lot of pushing by myself and my friends to interrupt my thoughts of hatred towards myself, and turn them positive or neutral. This is a good video and a good point, I just don't think telling people to just 'not think about it' is the right answer to low self esteem.

[@flamen529]

It all depends on upbringing

[@andreivaldez6713]

Quit crying and go do something.

[@gravelroad1228]

+Andrei Valdez Listen up, jerk. The video was about the fact that participation trophies, everyone is special crap doesn't help anybody. The video was not questioning the importance of self-respect.

[@lwstruyk]

Stop caring so much....period Stop making any comparisons on any thing or person...period.

[@nabbit5574]

LANE and that's where the problem starts

[@GreenMorningDragonProductions]

Thank you for telling me not to have self-esteem, but my ma and pa were way ahead of you on that score. Thanks for checking though.

[@personontheinternet304]

Pretty much the reason why I hate myself too much is because I've always been showered with praises and I really though I was special or had extraordinary talent. That's what they told me but whenever I encounter someone who is far better at me at something, I lose interest in truly pursuing and doing that "thing" and also feel very inferior. I hate it when I can't be at the top of things or can't be at control. The endless praises made me so confident that I grew complacent at almost everything. I blamed my parents for raising me like this but now I realised that I can't change the way my parents raised me.

[@eve4685]

Self-esteem is the belief that you have the ability to learn and get better. Somebody with low self-esteem isn't going to strive to be better because they see themselves as a total failure incapable of improvement or success; it goes hand-in-hand with depression. If you have high self-esteem, you believe that you can be successful if you put in the HARD WORK and PRACTICE and that you are capable of growth. It's not about being awarded for breathing, it's about realizing you as a person have the power to become who you want to be if you put in the effort.

[@danerook]

It is about being awarded for breathing.

[@pauldaviddulz501]

To many young people today consider themselves whole. No need for God to fill that gaping hole in their soul. Mark 2:17 KJV When Jesus heard it , he saith unto them, They that are whole have no need of the physician, but they that are sick: I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.

[@JonathanGarza16]

I have hated myself since I was like 12, telling me I was special never helped, what helped me was finding out why i hated myself, I was a mess, still am in fact, but working on myself gave me a purpuse and less time to be depressed

[@PiyushBhakat]

Esteem: Respect or admiration, typically for a person. Self-Esteem: Confidence in one's own worth or abilities. Hmm.

[@newswithdcruz4277]

So why not just call it self confidence?

[@LeanneH]

Thank you for this. I've struggled with confidence for so long. I've been arguing with myself that I feel proud of myself, that I need to love myself, while at the same time I'm good at not a lot of things, and that last part made me feel so bad. I kept denying it. What you've said in this video is legitimately motivating, and motivation is something I haven't felt in a while. I can feel proud of myself if I actually practice to build my confidence... I think I may be dumb for not realizing this sooner, but I'm glad I learned it somehow

[@billbloomer813]

This guy nailed it on the head. Pushing yourself towards your goal is all you need to feel good about yourself, win or lose.

[@maestrulgamer9695]

I earned B on a test while most of the other classmates earned C and D.Now i feel more confidence!

[@hellogoodbye4061]

A few years back, my child's school held a science fair where, you guessed it, EVERYONE received a ribbon...the lesson in the end was "You don't have to work harder than everyone else to succeed, everyone will come out on top regardless of effort." Sad, but true.

[@gregorybelden3545]

Excellent explanation and guidance. Feelings don't produce anything.

[@jasperconner6790]

This is not how words work. Self-esteem does not equal self + esteem. For instance, a Banana-hammock is not a hammock for bananas.

[@Zidana123]

But what if I put bananas into my hammock? Does that make it a banana-hammock? :O :O :O :O :O :O :O :O :O :O :O

[@ekpurdy]

Actually a banana hammock kinda is a hammock for a banana.

[@eeshaneeborbora8051]

@@ekpurdy best comment

[@mabus4910]

I get your point, but there can still be and often is a mismatch in confidence level and skill.

[@Fernball21]

Meanwhile, there's a growing movement in parts of China to make their education system more like ours in the US, so their children will feel better about themselves (self-esteem, anyone?) and won't feel so much pressure from a system that works them hours each day with no thought to their emotional or psychological well-being. I don't love either education system (US vs China), but I think it's interesting how each wants to be more like the other.

[@Fernball21]

@jetpotionable all I got from your comment is that you think gender fluidity and homosexuality are "degenerate". Kindly check yourself.

[@shanewhitefeather6298]

I admire Donald Trump. He and I have that in common.

[@cowboy4378]

Well if you cant admire yourself after becoming a billionaire and the most powerful man on earth then when can you?

[@svenskgangmiljo2168]

He will never realize that being a public figure in a high office will lead to his every letter being taken literally and weighed on gold scales. Oblivious or unconcerned as to how it might be received/interpreted. If your knowledge of a subject or facts is lacking going public about it won't lead to you improving your standing and reputation. Better be quiet than to remove all doubts to you being perceived as a fool by opening your mouth on issues you don't understand.

[@c-bass413]

Hard not to admire a man whos done so many good things like Trump.....don't blame you.