Its been a tough day...feeling like a failure (mental health chat) | Vlogmas day 3

[@clare-melanie8413]

Hi Bryony, I just wanted to let you know that you've been incredibly influential for me. You introduced me to using cloth pads and a menstrual cup and gave me the ability to talk about periods with no shame. I too think it's important to honour your mental health and exercise self care on days when you're feeling low. I have suffered with long term depression and anxiety and have recently made a decision to change my job and in doing so, take quite a large pay cut. I just couldn't cope with the pressure anymore. I'd rather honour my mental health capacities than have lots of money. Thank you for being you, and I love watching your videos xxx

[@Chelle8847]

Absolutely!! I feel proud of you for doing that lol. That's not easy at all. But good for you!!

[@lolipopPrincess]

I was assaulted a few days ago and your video and encouragement has helped me so much .. it’s hard feeling so angry and depressed and unheard but also not having the energy to care about anyone or anything. Thank you for sharing your light to us!

[@Brightsunnydaze]

Last year my New Years resolution was to wake every morning and say to myself, “Be Kind to Yourself” those 4 words have made a difference. We accomplish so much more when we allow ourselves grace.

[@RulersxRocksx3]

You’re just a breath of fresh air!! I’ve been loving the regular uploads over the past few days. Even just listening to you talk is super inspiring and makes me feel better about stuff I’m going through. I appreciate you!! I also (finally) purchased some of the budget precious stars pads and just used them for my first cycle. Was so surprised at the ease and comfort of them. So thank you for introducing me to that world!! You’re amazing!! Everyone has down days but I love that you ended it with how you were able to talk yourself out of it a bit at the end of the day. You’re so well spoken and just a wonderful intelligent woman. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@teresajoannou1200]

Please don't worry just take it easy and talk about it to your mum or your friends you need your friends and family around you and can't wait to see you doing your Christmas desks

[@Beanjast]

As a 26 year old this is something i can really relate to. I've achieved a lot of the successes i was aiming for in life, with the last ones incoming in the next couple of years. I now find myself thinking 'what's next?' i think that transition between what i wanted as a young person which i now have, and finding new dreams and goals to take me into the next 60 years is something i'm struggling with.

[@Chelle8847]

I really think, that, nobody should do the same thing, the same job or whatever, for decades. I think its awesome if people try different jobs, different hobbies, change it up. Yes a career is great and is secure etc. But i really feel like iit makes people happier to have different jobs and careers! My dad worked for 30 ish years as a postman, then he just decided actually, i wanna be a driving instructor! Which he now is and has been for 5 or so years and he absolutely loves it. Its never too late to change careers. I was always made to feel like a failure for having done loads of different jobs. I think people think along the lines of how i couldn't hold one job down... But truth is i get so easily bored and unhappy. And why can't we try different jobs. I suppose its a bit different if you went to university to study say as a nurse, i guess it would probably be a bit of a waste if you only stayed as a nurse for 5-10 years. But again, if you only want to stay in a job for 5 or so years, who are we to judge?! Haha anyway ill stop rambling on now, just my thoughts! I just feel we should all be given the privilege, opportunity, etc, to follow our hearts and just make choices that make us happy, not what is expected of us

[@saratakkoush6109]

Bryony you are one of my favorite content creators and İ consume a lot of youtube content! You've personally inspired me to switch to menstrual cups and largely influenced my first purchase of the lena cup.. The fact that everytime you mention your age, my jaw drops and i'm reminded of just how much you've accomplished in such little time and with all things given in your life... İs just amazing! You truly are an inspiration. İ'm so thankful for everything you share with us .. especially in normalizing and verbalizing even the way we sometimes feel. Thank you a million times

[@said9088]

thank you so much for this conversation, your sincerity and reasonableness. very good feeling after the video

[@EmmaRosenBooks]

I totally get that. I too am living the dream I always had, and it's not what I thought. Still happy, but readjusting

[@nectarina3891]

My family adopted my younger brother out of the foster system here in the US and it is so tough Bryony, no one could fault you for not being able to do it long term. Not only the kids have so many struggles, but dealing with the system, paperwork, etc is so difficult. my brother had been through at least five different home before he came to us at age 7, that is so hard on children.

[@CJohnson79]

Thank you for this. I do hope that you feel better or find some relief soon. I really appreciate your content and honesty. I admire you so much!

[@lydiadimock8783]

Hiya Bryony, I rarely comment on youtube but this video spoke to me. I have been feeling a similar way recently as I got made redundant and have been struggling especially as it is the Christmas season. This has negatively affected my mental health but recently I've turned my attention to school and friends, and I've been felt an improvement, which is better than nothing. I love your videos and you introduced me to the world of menstrual cups, as well as fostering! I'm currently 16, and I've never wanted children on my own but I love the idea of fostering, and you've been such a role model for me. We all love you videos and will support you endlessly no matter what, and I hope you find the time to focus on yourself, and that you begin to feel better soon. Thank you for everything you've done and inspiring so many

[@bethanypetersen7005]

Don't feel bad if you need to stop fostering. My husband and I have fostered for 7 years now and adopted 3. Once our current kiddo is adopted we're closing our home. The system is so broken and we're in the US so yes it's broken everywhere. Our placements have been in care for years and it's just so very broken. You have helped kiddos and that's what matters. You are young, see what adventures await you next!

[@zed3063]

☹️ this is genuinely heartbreaking - the bit about your feelings on fostering.

[@piddlydiddly]

I totally agree with her, I started the process years ago and everything took SO long and it's very difficult to work in a 'normal' job simultaneously (I never started fostering, it was just the start up process!), there's no income at all until a child is in your home and there is a huge amount of uncertainty, and if you're not working and rely on benefits you have to prove you're spending 35+ hours a week looking for work, it got so much I gave up, and that was well before covid, can't imagine what it's like now.

[@jordilatu856]

You are so inspiring Bryony, you have achieved and done so much already. Thank you for always being so open and honest about how you're feeling and what you're going through, I hope you feel better tomorrow. Love your videos 😊

[@jeaninevanzantvoort4042]

The world is crazy and especially with all the new things in it like covid. Many businesses or plans have gone different. Dreams are shattered. But the only way to keep going is to stand up. Even if you fall a thousand times, never ever stay down. Always get up. Good to see that you're human Bryony. Life is one gift, lets make it as pleasant as possible.

[@tazminzara]

Oh hun, sorry you've been feeling this way. I can definitely relate - I'm not sure I'm good at what I've spent my life trying to achieve and unsure what direction to go. I know that's not really the same as how you're feeling but yeah, it's a weird one. You've helped me so much in terms of destigmatising periods, showing me how to use cloth pads, and talking about fostering too because it's something I'm interesting in doing in the future (good luck to me, I guess..!). Genuinely will always be interested in watching and supporting your content because you are so real and honest, articulate, informative. You're right, you do know more than you realise - I guess with fostering taking over a bit you just haven't been flexing those other skills that much but they are 100% still there! And if you ever choose to do ads I'll support you as well. Hope you take the holidays to rest a bit and reflect, that's what I'll be doing anyway. Lots of love. xx

[@beckinevison-smith1025]

I have bipolar type 2, which is predominantly low mood with periods of hyper mania. When I am stable I'm pretty good. I work really hard at staying well, being mindful of sleep patterns, triggers and recognising when things are starting to go weird. However, it doesn't matter how much I monitor my mood, or ensure I get enough sleep..... sometimes, you just have a bad day. It can be difficult to see it for what it is, as your natural reaction is to panic and think you're always going to feel like this. It's brilliant that you can see it for what it is, accept it, adjust your plans and ride it out. That could make the difference between a bad day, and full blown episode. I'm incredibly lucky that I have an amazing wife and a great support network. Although sometimes, my biggest obstacle....is me. I love your idea of just having 2 tasks and you only have to do 1 of them. I might pinch that idea! Please try to remember, you haven't failed your plans, just adjusted/modified them....

[@kayramsey3687]

I definitely know what it feels like to struggle with your mental health on a daily basis. I have battled with depression since I was 18 years old (Im 24 now) and to this day, I have days where I just struggle to pull myself out of a dark place mentally. Currently, Im trying my hardest to pull myself out of this dark place and trust me when I say, it is not easy. It is the most exhausting thing in the world to be at war with your own mind. In the past, I have done a not good thing in order to "escape." (I wont say what it is because I dont want to trigger anyone) and I have had thoughts of ending my own life and to this day, I still have those thoughts. However, I always tell myself to just take it one day at a time and I try to immerse myself in positive distractions such as cleaning, my art, playing with my cat, sitting outside catching some fresh air, etc just so I wont be sitting around in my room drowning in my own mind. It definitely can help for sure. Mental health is definitely something that needs to be discussed a lot more in society and it needs to be something that everyone takes seriously. It doesnt matter who you are, everyone has bad days and I always say that its okay to not be okay. Allow yourself to feel those emotions and just find things that you can do on those rough days that bring you some happiness. It can be watching Netflix, playing with your furbabies if you have one or a couple, journaling, music, art, whatever it is, find that one positive thing that you can immerse yourself in. ❤️ If you need a good cry, let it out. It is okay. ❤️ Always remember that storms dont last forever and it doesnt stay dark forever. 💞 Thank you Bryony for sharing this with us because it definitely needs to be talked about and to anyone whos battling any kind of mental health struggle, know that you are beautiful and the world is beautiful, bright and better with you in it.❤️ Life isnt about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain.🌈🌧️

[@nikishazechiel6848]

Oh, darlin....I'm 43 and your low day is my every day. I do have good days, and even lower days.....but, yeah. Your methods do deal with your down days are my everyday also. I'm on meds. I've had therapy in loads. But, premenopause isn't helping and I just struggling to even breath most days. I do sincerely appreciate your realism on your vlogs. I have never felt that you were faking life and I have ALWAYS loved that about you!!! Thank you!! And, just an FYI, I don't even know what I want to be when I grow up.....a grandma for sure, but that is out of my hands.🤷😁♥️

[@livig6601]

Love this vlog very relatable, very interesting what you have said about fostering I've seen a least two other you tubers who foster say exactly the same recently. My partner & I were previously strongly considering applying though I feel we share some of your 'naive' thoughts about how it would be compared to what is actually like so like you we are having a re-think. Hope your feeling brighter soon your clearly a lovely person. Xx

[@MinimumViablePicnic]

Hi, I've been watching for a long time and this vlog is SO helpful and interesting. I'm 36 and have been going through something really similar and I completely understand how emotionally exhausting it is. I total agree that you know a lot and are really capable. Maybe look into doing things like training, consulting work, policy writing or paid campaign work. You have the knowledge and experience and also excellent communication skills. Sometimes it's difficult to see, if you're a self employed "jack of all trades"! Regarding fostering, I real relate.P part of my issues is feeling like I should be doing more with my abilities and passions and like the world grinds me down till I can't give as much as I should be able to. Sometimes it's fixable with small changes and sometimes it takes a bigger change. Definitely don't let it get to the point where you're scarred by the process is all I can say x

[@gracenolan2671]

Love this video Bryony

[@Chelle8847]

Thank you Bryony, for sharing this. I woke up today feeling awful, but its mostly cos my dreams, were so so vivid and involved, so many awful things, my ex was there, ugh, so i woke up feeling very very unsettled, and those dreams are gonna stay with me all day at least. I feel sick and like i could cry. I dont think peiple can relate unless you know what im talking about, Incredibly vivid dreams and nightmares that just really affect my mind like it was all real. Anyway. Im trying to be kind to myself today as well. I love your videos, you do manage to make me feel comforted! We should hang out haha. Hope you're doing a bit better lovely

[@StaringCompetition]

Only 24?! A lot of experience to be proud of.

[@lunarrose9290]

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[@FogartyAvenue]

Egg-c-lent update. Chin up. Doing great. 👍

[@jojochinn2240]

Mental health sucks people should take it more seriously lose so many people to Mental health becouse they felt so alone and unable to talk about it