Pressure to be “masculine” in modern society

[@fredwalker1664]

Being judged for being feminine or masculine isn't the only judging the gay community does. As an amputee I've been judged by a few. Before they even get to know me. Just physical judging. I might have a disability but I'm still human. I am just like anyone else.

[@gregman1715]

You are💯 right amen To that

[@bb3ca201]

What a beautiful soul you are, Dylan.

[@digbycrankshaft7572]

Just keep doing what you're doing man. You're awesome. ❤

[@davemTX2023]

You do a great job on these videos. Ignore the negative comments. Some people are just negative and unhappy.

[@MTheChequeGuy]

I can’t tell you how many people that are surprised that I’m gay from having a thick Wisconsin accent with a deep voice… “You’re gay? You can’t be! You have a low voice!” Me: “What does THAT have to do with anything?”

[@selispeks]

As a fem gay man who is CONSTANTLY spoken down to by straight people, and gay men alike, I 100% stand by this. People don't realize how crushing the weight of societal standards can be on men who don't fit the mold, and people of all walks of life are guilty of perpetuating the stereotype of masculinity we're expected to align with.

[@samuelworley7300]

Yes, I agree. Sending love.

[@thomasboetto6229]

Hi Dylan, I am so glad you are talking about this. I have never heard anyone talk about this. Thank you so much. It is very good advice. You are so right. I just started watching you and I will keep watching.

[@neilschipper3741]

I sure hope more people find your Channel❤

[@multijanni100]

sometimes just being nice and kind already raises eyebrows with some, that it doesn't fit the norm or the expected way of interaction (might as well then talk to an AI bot !), or somehow suspecting there were something behind that or someone wanting something in exchange

[@richardb7495]

Youre a breath of common sense and fresh air ❤

[@woz_in_oz]

Love your accent! You’re so right on how we all judge each other

[@allancuseo7431]

Great video…totally agree…ps love your hair

[@rog7399]

This was an excellent video, filled with truth- and there are many people in the gay and straight community that need to hear and learn this lesson!

[@alankovacs7636]

Thank you so much dear Dylan! You are such a beautiful person. I love to hear You talk about anything. You are a model to so many guys on how to live a better life. YOU are AWESOME

[@Jen999]

Dylan .. you are an incredible inspiration to anyone watching this channel .. thank you for your courage in being yourself .. and sharing the exoerience that you have learned in your life.. So good it is you have found someone who loves you for the amazing person you are .. When you have children.. they will be raised by an incredible, kind and loving parent .. You are a good person and very lovable .. every word you say helps someone who really needs to hear what you are saying ,.. So .. please keep saying it ⚘ Jen999💙

[@darrenjames4315]

So agree mate love from AUSTRALIA

[@courtneychupp8427]

My family I think knows they are just in denial It was, how was born I was born gay thanx for sharing Dylan!!

[@Buyford28]

Thanks Dylan, i love your videos and you arnt hard to look at either lol. Too bad there isnt more ppl like you, keep up the good work, wishing you and your partner all the best.

[@TheAverycross]

Dylan, thanks again for a great and informative video! I'm enjoying this very much. And you're absolutely right. All too often, we, as men, face undue pressure to be "masculine" when we need to stay sensitive, joyful, and compassionate to be *human* . For our own growth and mental health.

[@rangecow]

Testify! I'm with you in everything.

[@rjcarter2904]

that's a great message, Dylan.

[@peterk6072]

Well said Dylan! Thank you!!! 😊🤌👍👏🙏💞🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧🌈

[@mauriceclayton9861]

I’m about to iron my clothes for tomorrow, and just finished watching this video. Of your videos I have had the honor viewing, you have shared traumatic and otherwise hurtful events with us, your audience. From your former work situation, where you were, “let go”, because of the bigoted behavior of others, to when you shared about your marriage and how it came to an end. You have been open, honest and real with us. I found this video to be very encouraging, as well as very inspiring. If I may encourage you to continue to be real and thank you for both, encouraging and challenging us, to the same. Thank You!

[@affecttheeffect]

If I were being born into this world right now, I would very much want you to be my father, your acceptance of each and every phase of your personality makes you the kind person that any son would want to have in his dad.

[@gregkoch9922]

I found you by accident. What a treasure you are... I can relate to all of your videos.. I'm from Australia so I love ur Texan twang accent...LOL.. I am gay aswell but also a Christian....it's hard... I've started my KZbin channel only two months ago about being a gay in the church hopefully to help others... Keep the videos coming..❤

[@adamj3566]

I'm a relatively masc gay man into masculine men. Around the part of SC where I am A LOT of the guys are into trans and fem only.

[@daniellevinson6975]

Are you saying they rejected and VILLIFIED you for not being "feminine"??

[@stevejones5303]

Wow, thanks for sharing Dylan, I can relate to your childhood so so much!

[@yazz2jazz313]

Thanks for your message Dylan and appreciate you putting your face and voice out there. I have often felt that I want to talk and reach out to people but dunno if I could do it. But from what u said I could imagine the positive comments and reactions would far outweigh the negative and hateful comments. Thanks for being authentic and being so honest about your own personal struggles. Oh and BTW..... Mermaids are awesome! 😃

[@TheCynedd]

The more videos you post the more I like you (BTW, I reside in Springfield😊)

[@dylangabriel13]

I miss it there so much! It will always be home.

[@ericfreshcorn3590]

Ohio?

[@Herman-in-SEA]

Dylan, stumbled across ur channel this week and now have looked at several videos. Am so impressed with your humanity, compassion, and your survival of the hatred all of us have suffered. I am a different generation, 82, the first generation to embrace gay pride and the truth that we are just as good as any other group. Our community is guilty of being unkind to those who did not fit some preordained stereotype of what a man or woman is ‘supposed’ to be. When I was in my 20s, any gay who had reached 30 was already undesirable. Think that is a little better today, but not for us seniors. But that is a problem also for the society as a whole not just us LGBTQs. Also, something that was very common in the latter 60s and before is every gay guy would be saddled with a female name by his own subculture- the ‘Mary’ or Ruby or Thelma or some other moniker. Sort of confirming certain hetero’s beliefs that a gay was a woman in the body of a man. Of course, all of us are both part masculine and part feminine. In fact, at conception we all start out as female before the X chromosome donated by the male asserts itself, when it does. Anyway, I always thought taking on the name of a woman was playing into the hands of the enemy, so to speak. My greatest respect goes out to the drag queens who have been on the frontlines in the war for our recognition. In 1969 at the Stonewall Bar in NYC, it was the drag queens who did the fighting against the police during the raid. They were and still are the bravest of the brave, risking their lives at times. My thanks to you for your talks. They belong in college courses. Take care of yourself, my friend. Herman in Seattle

[@pablodejesus1373]

Hi Dylan👍❤✋🙏🏻💯

[@bradbowlamma3039]

i remembered in my previous firehouse alot of them suspected me to be gay cuz i used to move different from them and my obsession with female music artists (especially Lady Gaga) but i never confirmed it with them to their closed minded homophobic ways one day when I was in the dormitory one of them was like "i think i know what to get you for Christmas" me- really? what is it? "a book... How to Act like a F*cking Man!" me- 🖕😒🖕

[@the5000show]

I love your videos and you have such a genuine heart ❤️ I relate so much with this video and I'm finally accepting myself as well as a gay man now!

[@AlexanderWaylon]

I lost a good relationship to be masculine and follow some level of politics and so on and it was a huge mistake honestly I know who I am and trying to be a man’s man didn’t do me any favors

[@WrenChastain]

Hello from Blue Ridge mountains in western North Carolina and Georgia. Merry Christmas

[@courtneychupp8427]

Hey man I am gay as well I'm out of the Closet for some people But other people i'm quiet about

[@chriscarter7946]

Dylan your Awesome, Me and my husband celebrate 31 years January 11 we live by the Rule Treat Thy Neighbor as Thy Self

[@JaneiroRoad-mm5zv]

Yeah,people need to realize that there is really no such thing as masculine or feminine, it's just a victorian social construct to keep control of people and assign them roles. Everyone is a mix of qualities,that's what makes you a unique individual.

[@selispeks]

I made a video about the hatefulness in the gay community a few years ago and it randomly started poppin' off this year. I'm workin' on editing a sequel to it that hopefully offers some solutions and advice for how to be empathetic. Although I imagine the people who need it most probably won't watch it 😵‍💫

[@daniellevinson6975]

Now that you've addressed the toxicity of straight-acting gays, how about a video on the toxicity of "camp" gays?

[@darrenjames4315]

You are such a great guy ❤❤❤❤

[@darrenjames4315]

Marry me

[@ThePoobears]

you're so right keep up the great work Dylan

[@ericfreshcorn3590]

Hello

[@ThePoobears]

@@ericfreshcorn3590hello there..

[@travisalmouth2745]

When I go out to the bar, I am only looking for sex. I can't get off if the guy doesn't appeal to me. Does that make me a terrible person?

[@HamiltonRb]

It makes you a very shallow person but it doesn’t make you a terrible one

[@ericfreshcorn3590]

I,m Looking For Sex Too In Gay Men

[@travisalmouth2745]

@@HamiltonRb So, I'm shallow for having sexual standards. OK. I am curious, do you ever go out with the intention of getting laid and if so, do you have standards?